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5 Social Media Rules for Married Couples
08/27/2015


If you're married and on social media, I have five simple rules for you:

1. No secrets
If something requires an ID and a password, it should be on a sticky note right on the computer. If you're married and your spouse has a secret passcode, I suggest you pack your bags. Nobody hides anything good unless it's a birthday party. We don't hide good things - we hide what we are ashamed of and know we shouldn't be doing.  

2. Make rules together 
Sit down and talk about how much time you expect each other to spend on social media, what kind of material goes up, etc. Then honor the rules. 

3. No exes 
No exes means nobody you've had thrills with or daydreams about.  If you get a message from someone in your past, delete and block them and tell your spouse about it. 

4. No more than an hour a day
My recommendation is spending a maximum of one hour a day on social media. If you want to divide it up and do a little here and there, that's fine as long as you don't exceed the 60 minute limit. If you're spending more than an hour a day on Facebook, get your life back! That's not life; that's Fantasyland. Couple time should always trump FaceTime. 

5. No negativity 
Don't post anything negative about your spouse - ever! Don't discuss your spouse's negative traits or personal problems. Never say anything you wouldn't want skywritten. Don't let your online world take precedence over your real life. Besides, what on Facebook is so important that you would want to hurt the one to whom you made vows?


Tags: Behavior, Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Dating, Internet-Media, Marriage, Relationships, Social Issues, Values
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