Dr. Laura:
Thank you for your recent insightful
Facebook post which said 'Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had'. This has been such a help to me in dealing with a grown daughter with Asperger's.
She's smart, sweet and well educated, with a degree in music from a top conservatory. However, she has very few social skills and can be difficult when a lot of people are around and she wants my undivided attention. This is stressful for me when we have family and friends over and she's included. She can be difficult at other times as well.
I find I repeat your post in my head many times, and this enables me to deal with our daughter with patience and love, even when I feel at wit's end. It gets me through the moment and I can smile and look at this lovely young woman and unconditionally love her as she IS, not as I wish she was. I sincerely thank you.
Jodi
