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04/13/2016
Dr. Laura:
My best friend of several years had an extremely "off-kilter" personality. Things that would typically bother someone didn't bother her (and that contributed to her rudeness), and things that typically didn't bother others drove her nuts. I became the "referee" for others, since I seemed to be the only one who could tell when she was about to "blow."
She was nice and generous, but sharing a friendship with her always came on HER terms. She called the shots and made the rules. One "girls' night out," we couldn't agree on a movie to see, and I had an overwhelming sense of "I've had it." I just said goodbye, got in my car and drove away. She emailed me saying she knew I'd get over it, but I never looked back.
My husband commented a few weeks later that he was glad she and I were no longer friends, as I wasn't stressed out anymore. I didn't realize how toxic that friendship was until I was no longer in it. I had allowed her selfishness to dictate our friendship. I'm now more careful about who I let into my life, and I'm a lot calmer since making that decision.
Caroline
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