Dr. Laura:
I have some experience at raising well-behaved kids, so here's what I've learned that I want to pass along:
- Be kind. They need to be loved always. The words we speak to them are so important! They need our time, affection and approval.
- Be an example. If we do it, they're just little "mirrors." If they're yelling and talking back, are YOU yelling or speaking "snarkily" to them?
- Stop the bad behaviors and correct them. Give a firm scolding, an explanation of what they did wrong and what's appropriate, followed by a hug (not a reward, but they must know that you love them despite your having to correct them).
- If there are persistent behavior issues, get to the root of them and adjust your tactics.
- Be the parent! Just because they argue like a lawyer or won't stop, doesn't mean you have to give in to them.
Thanks for the chance to share what's taken me years to figure out.
Brianna
