I have not met the other woman, but talked with her at length via phone and text. She is the one who told me about the affair quite by accident. I kept her on the phone because I knew my husband would downplay it. She answered all of my questions even learning it had been going on for 10 years. My husband and I were 55 with two teenagers and she was 46 with a daughter going off to college. And yes, the daughter knew her mother was screwing a married man.
The other woman answered another vital question: Were they together 9 months prior when my husband and I had restored our marriage after a brief separation? It was a wonderful period that lasted 4 months before we had a huge fight. Thankfully, he had broken up with her during this healthy period. Unfortunately, he went back to her after the fight and proceeded to stonewall me for months. We separated again then got back together and I found out about the affair 2 weeks after that.
Over 2 years later, I still have not gotten over the affair, but I have to admit the discovery of the affair strengthened our marriage. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands also helped get my marriage back on track. He told me he had the affair because he didn't think I liked him and she was nice to him. I wish I had not listened to all she said about my husband. But my husband is now crazy about me again and I have never been happier. He said a short while ago, "This is what I always thought marriage should be."
Thank you,
Patricia
