Recently, Dr. Laura asked you, "Do you think men and women are promiscuous for different reasons? Why or why not? ?" Here are a few of the responses:
Pat: In observing both sexes and listening to conversations each has about sex, I believe they are promiscuous for different reasons. Both are looking for something they haven't found I believe. Women tend to chase after men to feel attractive and wanted. She is led by emotions other than sex but that also is part of it but not the main part. She is looking for something missing in her own life. Men seem to be looking for challenges, it is a game such as hunting or fishing, something they can talk about when they converse with other men. The main emotion they seem to feel the most is sexual and the reason for the fun and games. There doesn't seem to be the same amount of guilt men feel as compared to women.
Jim: Perhaps promiscuous people are promiscuous because they like and or need sex and the typical wife makes it as difficult as possible to get any. And if you do get any, they don't want you to like it too much. You know what's great about a good prostitute? Not only are they willing, but they make an honest effort to do a good job.
Marlowe: I think women do it simply because lack of self esteem - and to get attention - some think that the guy actually will LOVE them if they are easy. Others have been damaged since childhood - with sexual abuse. Men are a bit more programmed to just go ahead and get instant pleasure and if there is someone willing then they are not so much apt to consider why or who or consequences. Men too who have been sexually abused sometimes turn to promiscuity.
Andre: I read some writings by Confucius. I know it's a diferrent culture and they had many wives 2000 years ago, however it's an interesting viewpoint:
Woman asks:If I sleep with 3 men, everyone calls me a slut. But when a man sleeps with 8 girls,everyone calls him a real man. How come?Man replies:It's very simple. Confucius says 'When one lock can be opened by 3 different keys, it's a bad lock. But when one key can open 8 different locks, we call it a master key!
