Dear Dr. Laura,
I met my husband 8 years ago online. I was very leery of the online dating concept but I also knew my "picker" was broken. I knew my "type" had gotten me no where and I was almost 40 years old. I decided to be as honest as I could be in my profile. I did not include public photos as I couldn't be that out there- thinking I will just send them privately. Scott and I did the whole wink thing... and while I was sure he wasn't my type he seemed nice. We ended up emailing for about 4 months before I would speak to him on the phone. Sometimes it was once a week and sometimes it was more. Just getting to know one another. Eventually it blossomed into a marriage!
We lived in different cities before we met so this made it easier. I believe our minds were open and we went at a snails pace. Many that date online don't go through the motions- they just are 0 to 60 and meet right away. I am so glad we went so slow. As we were able to peel back the onion and get to know what makes us each who we were. Dating in general is whatever the person chooses to make it. I do believe you must be very honest about who you are and what you are looking for. Don't have blinders on.
If I would have met him in person as a stranger I probably would have been nice but not given him another thought. Look at all that we would have missed. there are crappy and dishonest people online- but I promise you that by going slow you can weed them out- they will move on.
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