March 2, 2016
Breaking Up Was Hard, But Worth It
Hi Dr. Laura!

I finally "broke up" with my sister, her third husband, and their 27 (going on 47) year old daughter.  I simply said "I'm sorry, but until you, your husband, and your daughter demonstrate value and respect for my home, my hospitality, and me, I won't be participating in any family activities with you.  Please don't invite me to anything until or unless you apologize and can consistently demonstrate value and respect for your relationship with me." 

What maddens me is when well-intentioned friends say that I should find a way to reconcile, because I'm "the bigger person."  Dr. Laura, I was the "bigger person" for decades, and it never mattered.  Even my housekeeper told my sister that she should be ashamed of how she treated me!  Bottom line is that toxic family members often seek to have their perspective validated by other toxic family members. 

Align yourself with those who bring love, peace and joy into your life, and you'll be happier, healthier, and more productive, like I am now.

Paul


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