Hello Dr. Laura, 

I used to feel like I was the perfect one in our marriage and my husband was the one messing everything up. Poor me...I even threatened divorce. Imagine my surprise when it finally dawned on me that I was the one who was messing everything up. I wanted to control my strong and smart hubby. He was polite enough to remain with me and not be rude back, but he pretty much stayed away from me, which I found annoying. 

I took a hard look at myself and started maturing. I began learning about the role of a wife and started to emerge the person I am today. I really have seen a tremendous change in myself and that has transformed my marriage and my life. I feel so fortunate to have a close relationship with my husband and I really appreciate he has opened his heart to me again. We have been married for 18 years and this last one has been the best in of our entire relationship. It is like the beginning all over again. Ladies, we women can't have intimacy if we are trying to control our husbands.  I can now say I am my husband's girlfriend, cheerleader, safe place, etc. 

I have also learned it is more important how you come across to the people living in your home than the public friends, coworkers etc. I want to be someone my family considers fun to live with. My 3 children are so much more relaxed and carefree and I love they can feel the good vibes in our home. 

I feel joy daily, and I am a much more relaxed mommy and a fun wife. 

I adore you Dr. Laura and I will always be listening to your words of wisdom. 

Rebekah