Putting His Needs and Wants Ahead of My Own
September 24, 2014
Putting His Needs and Wants Ahead of My Own


Dear Dr. Laura, 

Last year, you and I had a discussion about where my sweetie and I would have our marriage nuptials. While I preferred the intimate setting of a beach wedding, he said he could not imagine getting married anywhere without his family and friends present. Your response was 'He's telling you what he wants! Please don't be a bitch before he even carries you over the threshold.' So I played your podcast for him that night and he sort of chuckled and gave me a smile. 

I just had my 30th birthday, and I cannot tell you how thrilled I am I put so much emphasis on looking for a MAN with character and integrity who I can count on to "do the right thing." And I have to give credit to your program for setting the bar so high. I've been listening to your program since I was a kid and it always struck a chord with me when you would talk about choosing wisely. 

Last month, on a beautiful Saturday afternoon, I took a moment to look out my friend's bedroom window onto a backyard filled with about 150 smiling faces of our closest family and friends... and one very happy groom. That day I married a strong, caring, and loving man who surely would swim through shark infested waters to bring me a lemonade. We said our vows to each other and I can't help but realize how many of the things I promised had echoed in my ears from your radio show. Things like, to always be his girlfriend, to support him in the big decisions and to let go of the little things. How I would communicate promptly with him, to speak kindly to him, and to be patient and forgiving. I promised to make our family's love and happiness my priority and to be his biggest fan. 

Dr. Laura, I'm not writing to you to tell you how happy I am that you talked some sense into me last year (although I am) or about how I never realized how meaningful it was to have everyone we cared about the most there to support us (although I do)... I'm writing because I want to thank you for leading me to the decision which ended up being my first gift to my husband as man and wife. That was the gift of compromise. To put his needs and wants ahead of my own. And on that day, as we promised to spend our lives together, I got a gift as well. On that day, as I looked in his eyes, and I knew I made him happy. What a great feeling, and even better, what a great first marriage lesson. 

Lots of hugs, 

Amber

 



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