Hi, Dr. Laura, I had just started dating my now husband.  He met all the qualifications on my "list". He was friends with his family members. He had a master's degree in a technical field. He had never been married and didn't have kids already. He even drove a manual transmission car. That last qualification seems unnecessary, but to me it showed he wasn't a poser.  So, he looked good "on paper", but was he really the one who would lay his life down for me? Early one Saturday morning, he came to my apartment to start the day with me. We decided we wanted cinnamon rolls to eat while we read the paper. This was in 1986 when the big, gooey cinnamon roll shops were just created and the only place to get one was across town. It would have been easy for him to tell me to go, or settle for going to the close by supermarket for pastry, especially since it was raining. Instead, he went cross town in the rain to get cinnamon rolls for me. That showed me he wanted ME to be happy and safe. It has been like that since then. We've been married 25 years and have three sons, two in college and one still in high school. He's been the best father for the boys, showing them how to be good men who will work hard and honor the women in their lives. I chose wisely. Sincerely, Lisa And if you have a story about when you knew your now spouse was the one for you...


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