Dr. Laura,

I have been married to the same woman for 24 years and am an avid listener of over 15 years. We have raised two amazing boys who are now 23 and 19 and I'm just finishing up with raising my daughter who is 17. I grew up with an absent step-father and no bio-dad. When my wife can't listen in to your program I often share your thoughts and advice with her. After discussing the need for a "bull elephant" father in raising our boys, I received this note from my wife:

"I didn't fully understand the need for a 'bull elephant' until our own boys needed one. I guess mainly because in my house growing up my mom did it ALL and my dad was just around for vacations. I have seen this need to be so true in the life of our boys and never more so than when our boys were serving their two-year missions for the LDS church. How blest they are, as am I, to have you as such a great influence, example, guide, and mentor. You're honestly the best. I'm sorry you didn't really have a "bull elephant" father - we both got a little gypped in that area, but how happy it makes me that our kids have been blest abundantly by having the best dad in the world. If dads everywhere would step up even just a little, our world would be a totally different place. How sad that men are so invisible and not a dominant figure in their families anymore. Hugs and Kisses! Love, ME"

Thanks, Dr. Laura for helping me become the "bull elephant" I am and helping my wife and me raise two amazing new "bull elephant" sons who know how to treat women, and a daughter who knows her worth and will never become an "unpaid whore".

With admiration,

Brendan