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Finally At Peace Knowing There's No Bond |
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2009-09-22
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Finally At Peace Knowing There's No Bond
Hi Dr. Laura,
I just finished reading your book, "Bad Childhood, Good Life," after years of avoiding it for reasons unknown to me. Today, I truly wish that I had picked it up the day it was released.
What you wrote in the book was awesome (of course) but I am writing you to say from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU for sharing your own experiences with your parents at the very end. That meant more to me than words could ever convey.
For the first time in my 41+ years, today I am at total peace with the fact that there is no bond whatsoever between my mother and me. I have been struggling with this issue since my very early teens when she proceeded to give me the cold shoulder/silent treatment many times which I was hard pressed to understand coming from a mother. It only got a whole lot worse with time. Needless to say, the past 20+ YEARS have not been fun but today I am so thrilled to know that my choices and actions over the past 3 years where absolutely the right thing to do!! God used your words to convey YES to me in a powerful way.
Thanks to reading your book I now understand how the good Lord has answered so many of my prayers over these many years and what seemed like a blurred picture, just became very clear. I DO have a good life... actually, a GREAT life. God blesses my socks off each and every day!! I already knew this but reading your book just put some of the pieces of this wonderful puzzle called life into place where they belonged.
I have known for the past 3 years that when my mother dies, there will be no mourning... there will be no feelings because they are not there now so why should they be there when she is gone. I have also had a clean conscious about this because, like you, I too have tried to establish a connection only to be rejected over and over and over and over and... ....
The logical side of my brain just couldn't rest with the notion that when I get the call I will be like ok. That's not the way a daughter is supposed to react to a mother's death. However, what your book helped me logically understand is my mother never behaved towards her daughter (me) the way she was supposed to either. Duh!! In my mind I believed that I was supposed to love her and feel connected just because she gave me birth. NOT!!
Well, Dr. Laura, I have defended you many times to folks around me and it's actually kind of fun, I got to tell you. There is a RESOUNDING truth in what you "preach" and it's so much fun to watch those that hate truth to squirm even at just the sound of your name.
THANK YOU for letting God use you in this world at this time in such a PROFOUND ways. I see the results of your work all around me many different ways and now I'm looking forward to reading more and more of your books.
Next = anything about marriage!! God is preparing me to meet the man of my dreams very soon and I've got some work to do in order to be ready for that assignment next.
Praying for you Dr. Laura!!
R.
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