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Raised to Never Depend on a Man |
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2009-10-26
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Raised to Never Depend on a Man
Dear Dr. Laura,
I was raised to be an independent woman who would never have to depend on a man. As a young girl, I did plan to get married and have babies, but only if I could continue to work full time and keep my independence. As a young adult, I was ambitious and successful. I had a great salary, great benefits, and was climbing quickly up the corporate ladder. I kept men around for fun, but didn't really see the value of them. I spent time as a "shack up honey", spoke down to men, and would withhold sex to get my way.
Then I started listening to your show. Mother Laura taught me lessons that I could not learn from my own family. Four years ago I married a man who would jump into shark infested waters to bring me a cup of coffee. 2½ years ago we had our first child. The minute I looked into her eyes I knew I needed to be a stay at home mom. Your words were ringing in my ears. To the complete shock of my family, friends, and co-workers, I quit my corporate job to stay at home with my daughter, which also meant I had to "give up my independence" and put full trust in my husband. I decided to work for Baby Boot Camp, which is an outdoor exercise program for moms who would like to get back in shape after having a baby. This allows me to "work" one hour a day, meet other stay at home moms, introduce my kids to a healthy lifestyle, and to spend every minute of the day being their mom.
For my husband, I am at home taking excellent care of our kids, I have dinner on the table every night so we can sit down and eat together as a family, I prepare food for his lunches, and have sex with him regularly. I have never withheld sex from my husband. I can attest to your statement that everyone is happier after a good orgasm! My husband has a stressful job, yet he is willing to work overtime so our family can function on one income. I tell him every day that I love him and I thank him for working so hard for our family. In return he thanks me for the work I do. Some women make fun of me because I rub my husband's tired feet after a long day, always cook dinner, and I do all of my own house cleaning. For me, it makes me feel good knowing that after the long day is complete, I am my husband's girlfriend and my kid's mom.
I still consider myself to be ambitious and successful. My energy has just been redirected. I focus on my husband and kids rather than on myself and have never been happier. I now have a 2½ year old daughter and a 7 month old son. I look at them and cherish every minute because they truly do grow up too fast. I owe this success to you, Dr. Laura. Without your words ringing in my ears, I would not have made the decision to put my family first.
Thank you for being my mentor in life.
Sincerely,
S.
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