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Breaking News! Mom Gives Up Designer Clothes To Mommy Her Kids! |
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2009-10-23
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Breaking News! Mom Gives Up Designer Clothes To Mommy Her Kids!
Dr. Laura,
Over the course of our marriage it has always been understood that once the kids come along I no longer work full time. I deliberately chose a career that would allow me to work part time around my husband's work schedule if it was necessary, either financially or just for me to get out of the house.
Three months ago, I gave birth to our wonderful, magical, miraculous twins. It was the most wonderful, and most scary time of our life and still is. Never have I felt more exhilarated; these kids are miracles and we both cherish every moment with them, even if it's 3 am, or we are changing a dirty diaper.
Well meaning people in our lives have been telling me "Well I guess it's time to go back to work and contribute!" Contribute what I thought? We are certainly not rich, we can't afford new cars, I buy most of our clothes at consignment stores and I make food from scratch in large amounts instead of buying ready-made (lets face it, the taste is better!) I don't get my nails done, I get my hair cut once every 3 months for practically nothing, and my purse is a hand-me down from my grandma. What my husband makes covers our mortgage, bills, food and a few extras. I suppose if I went back to work full time we could afford lavish dinners out, designer jeans, and expensive furniture (but then again maybe not after the costs of working) but I don't see these things as necessary.
What is necessary is that my kids have a mom, not a hired parent. That is my contribution. The lifestyle we have chosen allows for this and neither me, nor my husband regrets this decision for one moment of one day. We have been the ones to witness the first smile and the wonderful sound of their first giggles. We will be the ones to witness first steps , and we will capture it on film ourselves, instead of a daycare worker capturing it on a disposable camera.
I will most likely return to work eventually, but it will be part time, and Daddy will be the one caring for our kids, not a big box daycare. For now, my wonderful husband works his fingers to the bone to provide our necessities and to keep me at home with our kids. To thank him I have a hot meal for him when he gets home, I try not to foist the kids on him when he gets home, and even if I am totally exhausted from a long day, I still give the loving he needs:)
Thank you Dr Laura for continuing to champion kid's mom's and husband's girlfriends:)
L.
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