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Dr. Laura's Definition Of Love |
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2009-06-23
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Dr. Laura's Definition Of Love
Hi, I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger and welcome to YouTube - the Dr. Laura channel. I have more of your questions. I love these questions.
"I have listened to you for years and appreciate your candid responses to your callers. (I like the word "candid", as to "mean"...I get that one too.) I was puzzled by what you said to the caller about her alcoholic aunt who was causing problems in the whole family. I did hear the caller say she just wanted to help her aunt because she 'loved' her. You responded that she was using the word 'love' too loosely and that she couldn't 'love' her because she was selfish, etc. and a bitch. (I said that?) I was surprised at your response. I thought that the definition of real love was caring for, being concerned about and seeking to help, encourage and uplift, even if it is undeserved. How else can we 'love our enemies'? Do we stop loving someone because they become unlovable? I would like to hear your definition of love and how it applies to those we share our love with and our lives with."
I really like this question because so many of you dilute your religious understandings to encompass, I think, showing compassion to evil when you're showing a lack of compassion to the innocent. When people are going out of their ways to hurt, to disappoint, to betray, to undermine, to be destructive...to say, "I love them" and "I'm always going to be here for them", is pathetic. And I think it is only for the sake of making you look and feel good.
It's like when, there've been situations, there's been a divorce and one person has done really horrendous things to the other. (And I'm not going to give genders...everybody gets all excited about that.) And we spend our time equally, (with both that is) to insult the innocent. I always tell people, "Spend the time on the people who are going to use it well." And, interestingly enough, it is also a biblical saying. And I don't remember the exact words, because I'm not very good at that, but here's the gist of it: when you keep trying to help the person that is totally disinterested in using that help in any concrete way, you're at fault.
So here's the thing...love is filled with awe, admiration, compassion and respect. And when people haven't earned it, save your efforts for those who use it well. Even God helps those who help themselves.
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger...gave you a lot to think about right there. See you next time on YouTube, the Dr. Laura channel.
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