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Divorced, But We Get Along |
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2009-07-07
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Divorced, But We Get Along
Hi, I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger and welcome to my YouTube channel. And thank you for sending your queries. This one is from Janice about divorced parents and getting together. (I love this one for reasons you probably have not guessed.)
"Would you please address your thoughts on whether it's a good idea or not for divorced parents (divorced 3 years now) with a 4 year old daughter... (I always wonder: the passion that goes into having sex and making a child, then all of a sudden "I can't stand you, I have to leave"? Ay.) Anyway - would you please address your thoughts...to get together at one another's home periodically to have a family dinner? Just trying to do the best thing for the child, to see mom and dad get along."
Well, honey, if mom and dad can get along, mom and dad ought to be back together. You know, when I say "parents should stay together for the sake of the child" it doesn't mean that they should sit there, on either side of the room, and throw darts at each other, and be resentful and angry. It means they should take that opportunity to mellow out, to remember the things that made their hearts go "pitter-pat" when they first met, and to work to build the family together.
I think you should do more than just having periodic dinners at each other's houses. I think every weekend, you should spend time together and I think you could probably reinvent and rediscover what you kind of threw away.
You know -- for better or for worse, until death do us part. That's supposed to get us over -- like a bridge over troubled water (I like Simon & Garfunkel) because we don't always like each other. We don't always get along, we don't always think the decisions we made were great. And we get bored with things in life. We get annoyed. We imagine that there's something better in the universe and the reality is you put your effort into what you have. And 50 years later, you're two little old people holding hands, walking through a park together (a little stooped over, but happy).
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Looking forward to having you back for the next YouTube channel presentation. Take care.
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