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These Days, Most Women Are Pigs |
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2009-08-04
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These Days, Most Women Are Pigs
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger, welcome again to our YouTube channel, in which we answer your questions and show you my dog, and the people I work with, and we have all kinds of things happening here, so always check...always check it.
"I was raised by my grandma, listening to you. I remember growing up hearing that all too often women strive for 'short-term gratification' instead of 'long-term satisfaction'. Now I'm ready to turn 30 years old and could really use a refresher in that course. Is there any way I can receive an update or something to refresh my own memory on these talks? It would be the utmost in helpful as to where I am in life, trying to remember what was said about 'long-term satisfaction'."
Wow, this is so timely because, these days, most women out there are pigs. Are you shocked that I said that? Do you think I'm talking about you? I might be. Is it one, two, three minutes? Three hours? Three days? Three dates and you're already having sex with somebody you don't know? That's the short-term gratification. That's the pretending there's a relationship. That's the pretending that somebody gives a darn about you. That's the pretending that somebody respects you, cares about you.
You know what? Here's the deal: you know he's in love with you when he wants to protect you more than he wants to "do it" to you. (Not that he'll stop wanting to "do it" to you, but you're getting my drift.)
So the short-term, imaginary satisfaction that "I have a boyfriend and he's in love with me because he's doing it with me all the time" uh, might make your ego feel good. But, then again, after a while, he gets bored (and I get the call going, "I don't know what happened. I thought we were so close. I loved him...I loved him"), because he hasn't taken the time to actually get to know you.
I went to an Orthodox...super, super duper Orthodox...Jewish wedding one time. This couple had known each other for a year, had not even touched fingers...not even handing someone an ice cream cone where fingers can accidentally touch...nothing; no touching. They spent a year talking, doing things together with chaperones...really getting to know one another, developing awe and admiration, and respect and a whole lot of excitement. [Chuckles] The wedding is the first time they touch each other. And she has a veil, and he can't see her, and then they reveal the veil (and we do some of that in generalized weddings), and she walks around him three times, glasses are broken...I mean, it is beautiful. And for the first time, the relationship becomes physical. But it becomes physical in a context, and that's what so many of you don't understand when you're going for the immediate gratification. And you guys too, because girls are making it so easy, you're just doing one girl after another and wondering why it doesn't mean anything. Because sex, without a foundation of love and admiration, gets boring. And that's why you move on to the next girl or the next guy.
So really try to get to know someone, because ultimately, if you're going to be with them for 50 or 60 years "till death do you part", a very small percentage of the time in each day goes to "getting it on". The rest of it goes to being two little old people in a park, hunched over a little from arthritis, holding hands and walking together. That's the long run.
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger, see you on the next YouTube.
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