I'm a second-generation listener. My siblings and I used to tell our Mom you were "old school" and didn't "get" real life. Still, my Mom gave me your books for my bridal shower. They helped at first, but then money, first-time home buying, two kids, and health issues intervened. I continued to listen to you, but then realized I was a fake and a fraud Dr. Laura listener! I was not my husband's girlfriend; I was not the best Mom I could be. My husband would come home smiling, and I would have a pissy look on my face. I yelled at my kids....often.
One day, I complained to my husband that he didn't shave enough or grab me and kiss me or have sex with me. He looked at me and said, "I don't because I'm not attracted to you!" That was a gut punch because I still put on lipstick and didn't wear sweatpants. But my lousy attitude and my constant complaining made me ugly. At first, I retreated, but then re-read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. I started touching him, giving him compliments, and thanking him for all the small things he did. I wasn't getting the reaction I wanted. He was overall my shenanigans AND me. Then I upped my game. I was more positive and understanding, and I started wearing cute outfits for him in the bedroom. This was very uncomfortable for me, but I kept doing it. Slowly, he started to respond positively to my changes. I'm thrilled to say we have now reconnected emotionally and physically. We have fallen in love again. Our home is now warm, loving and fun. Thank you, Dr. Laura!