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Daughter-In-Law Disclaimer
Daughter-In-Law Disclaimer

Dear Dr. Laura:

I learned early on that my mother-in-law was great if you always agreed with her.  If she had a personal issue with me, she always let me know, but any honesty from me to her was met with hostility and anger.  I learned so much from this woman about what NOT to do to a daughter-in-law.

When my son married, I gave my new daughter-in-law the best disclaimer I could come up with:  

I've never been a mother-in-law before, so I'm sure at some point, I might unintentionally say or do something that might upset you.  PLEASE come to me right away so I can hear you out and make healthy adjustments for the sake of our new relationship.  I am teachable and open!

My daughter-in-law LOVED that.  When she was pregnant with our first grandchild, I gave her a similar disclaimer:

I've never been a Grandma before.  At some point, I might unintentionally say or do something regarding this child that might upset you because of your parenting style.  Please, come to be right away and talk to me.  I am open, teachable, and I will make any adjustments toward a healthy relationship between us.

So far, I haven't had to have the conversation with her, and she and my son have been married for six years!  

Remember, all of you can send me "letters" too - by email!  Just sign into (or sign up for) the Dr. Laura Family - it's free - and tell us of your experiences. 

Tags: Attitude, Behavior, In-Laws, Relationships, Values
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