Your level of sexual attraction to your spouse will never be the same as it was when you were first married. Things were new and exciting, and you were both young, fit and energetic. To some people, getting older can be a big downer and lead to affairs or divorce. However, that doesn’t have to be the case.
Here are some simple ways to stay attracted to your spouse:
- Treasure hunt. When you start to get mad or annoyed with your spouse, focus on something cute, sweet or adorable about him or her. It could be the way they smile or kiss you in the morning. Where you put your thoughts sets the tone for how you feel. If you think mean thoughts, you are going to be angry. If you think sweet thoughts, you will feel uplifted.
- Compliment instead of complain. People tend to be willing to do more when they are complimented, not criticized.
- Get away from work and the kids. Go out to dinner or take mini vacations.
- Try new things together.
- Honor the sacrifices you make for each other and the family. Going to work and sitting in traffic aren’t fun. Neither are screaming kids, taking care of the house and making dinner. You need to honor the sacrifices you each make instead of whining and complaining.