I pretended that you were on my shoulder this morning as I mulled over my frustration, worry, and concern for my 32-year-old single mom stepdaughter, and how I was disappointed in her decisions (such as living with a new stud and his kids), and I was afraid of the long-term effects on her three-year-old daughter). I have argued with my husband too, trying to convince him that he needs to knock some sense into his daughter. Then I heard you say to me: "STAY OUT OF IT! Your stepdaughter is an adult and anything you or your husband say is not going to change or influence a thing." I could keep arguing and be miserable, I could leave my husband, or I could just bite my tongue.
I chose the third option and what a relief it has been. I can now sleep at night, and our home is peaceful. When I catch wind of my stepdaughter's next stupid decision, I just go about my business.
It took me a while, but I finally got it. Thank you for your wisdom (even though we never actually had a real conversation)!
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