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Is Your Relationship Built on Insecurity?
Is Your Relationship Built on Insecurity?

People align themselves with other people based on their emotional needs. So a very weak, insecure person who is afraid to make decisions will tend to hook up with someone who is very strong and dominating and makes all the decisions. The irony is, they both are totally insecure individuals. One demonstrates insecurity by turning over responsibility to someone else, and the other demonstrates insecurity by needing control.

If you’re constantly rescuing someone who is intentionally self-destructing and counting on you to bail them out, you’re not being a good person. Helping someone who is helping themselves is being a good person. Otherwise, you’re simply helping out of insecurity.

The main problem is, human beings tend to function out of emotion rather than intellect. That’s why I recommend saying the facts of the situation out loud. Why? When you say things out loud, you make them concrete, and you can no longer avoid them. It’s the only way to realize what’s really going on.

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Tags: Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Dating, Mental Health, Relationships, Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships, Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives, Tips, Values
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