I've listened to you for 25 years, but that didn't stop my first marriage from failing. After 28 years of marriage and children are grown and out, my husband "changed his mind" and looked for love elsewhere. Fast forward to today, and I met a wonderful new man and decided that I was going to get it right this time, no matter what.
We met on December 13th, got engaged four years later on December 13th and married a year after that on, you guessed it, December 13th. He had four children and I had two, but we waited until they were up and out before marrying. The five years we spent dating allowed our children to intermingle periodically at family events, which gave them the opportunity to grow comfortable with each other. We also decided that the only people we wished to have with us at our wedding were our combined six children. It was beautiful. During the ceremony, when I recited my vows, I included "I promise to always keep a special place in my life and in my heart for your children," and named each of them by name. I also said, "I promise to always be your girlfriend and I promise to never stop dating you."
Today, December 13th, we're celebrating our first wedding anniversary. Although we are in our fifties, I wanted to be sure to thank you for letting folks know that it's never too late to learn how to do it right. I am a very fortunate woman, but I didn't "get lucky." I implemented all the principles you describe and prescribe daily, and the rest fell into place. The biggest lesson? Always think of and consider the other person first. Thank you for helping to make my time between "now and dead" wonderful.
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