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Let's Talk About the No Contact Rule. Does It Work?
Let's Talk About the No Contact Rule. Does It Work?
10/18/2018

By Gregg Michaelsen
WhoHoldsTheCardsNow.com


Find yourself wanting to get your ex-boyfriend or husband back? Will no contact make him move on or reconsider? The conventional no contact rule to get him back has been tossed around a lot and its time to toss it out!

I have your answer, it's a combination of both. If you go totally no contact, he could go out of sight out of mind on you.

I have a better no contact rule to get him back. I call it "slip in, slip out".

After writing my powerful breakup letter, which I template inside my book, you contact him about getting your stuff back, for example, or ask where you stayed in Aruba when you were together.

You are telling him that you are ready to move on and it's not just him.  He can't believe you want your stuff back so soon and wonders who you're going to Aruba with.

You see, he thinks because he dumped you that you should be grieving and still be at his beck and call.

You're not. At least you are not letting him know.


Will my Ex-boyfriend forget about Me if I don't contact Him?



To answer this we go back to understanding the male mind after a breakup. Guys don't like to lose their stuff and you are part of his stuff.

When you send my goodbye letter and then slip in, slip out with statements confirming that it's over, you turn the break up on its head and confuse your ex.

Are you bluffing? Yes. Because you having nothing to lose. This is a good thing!

His mind shifts. He realizes that you are NOT there as a secondary option. Guys break up to test the waters. The "waters" aren't always better - in fact the waters usually suck!

Now, because he knows that you are growing stronger and potentially moving on, he can't treat his new single's life with the same vigor.

Door #2 is closing fast and that door is YOU. Suddenly, your ex starts to question the break and think about the great memories you had. And memories can burn!

I call them "pennies in the jar" and if you put enough pennies into the relationship he is going to have a weak moment. So you need to be ready.

We are toying with the male psyche and giving you your best odds of stirring his emotions and getting him to capitulate.

You are doing the exact opposite of what you want to do and what he thinks you will do.

Couple more points. You do this with confidence. Stay upbeat with your messages and don't act at all angry. Be happy! If you can't, then you delay until you can.

Now, communication is left open for him so he can reconsider and, because you sent the powerful letter with the one powerful memory, he's thinking about you.

This version of the no contact rule to get him back works because you are only going radio silent temporarily. Then, you reach out but in a way that surprises him.


Will No Contact Make Him Move On?



Absolutely, so don't! If he goes weeks or months without hearing from you he could put you out of his thoughts. Instead, follow my version of the no contact rule and increase your odds exponentially.

I give you the best of both worlds. Contact but the right kind of contact.



Gregg Michaelsen is an author and dating/life coach and has sold over 250,000 books with multiple #1 best-sellers. Being both a dating and life coach gives him an incredible advantage with the people he touches. He helps women gain confidence and understand men and encourages his readers to contact him for free in his books. Gregg's motto is Build Yourself and He Will Come. Visit Gregg at WhoHoldsTheCardsNow.com and join thousands of believers! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Tags: Attitude, Behavior, Marriage, Relationships, Values
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