I'm 55 years old, and I've been married for 21 years. One day two years ago, my husband accidentally left his cell phone at home. I called him from a different phone, and when he called me back on his cell, I saw the caller ID for me which read "Mimi"- and then the word "ICE" right after it." I was angry, hurt, and then sad that every time I called him, he was reminding himself that things were icy in our marriage.
I never discussed it with him, but instead, got into action to save our marriage. I re-read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
," and implemented girlfriend behavior immediately. It's now two years later, and we've been much happier, and much closer in our marriage. At least that's what I thought until we recently got NEW phones, and while he was helping me with mine, he showed me his phone and there in big letters after my name was the word "ICE" again. This time, I did say something, and told him I thought we were doing much better in our marriage, so why would he still feel that I was cold toward him?
He looked at me with a puzzled look, and then smiled as he informed me that "ICE" after my name stood for "In Case of Emergency" to alert police, EMTs and others that I am his emergency contact! We now laugh at the initial mix-up that made our marriage better and thought you might get a kick out of it. Thank you for all your advice. I know my husband thanks you!