Hello Dr. Laura,
I was “shacking up” with my boyfriend for over 2 years. I always felt it was not right, but did it anyway. Then I saw a book called "Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives" and learned that I fell into a few of the categories. Even worse, I have a son. I couldn't live with myself any longer in my shack-up situation. I finally put my big girl panties on and moved out!!!! I ended up living in a home with several other people. It was tough being in a roommate situation, but I did sleep a lot better.
I continued dating my boyfriend, but soon after felt used since he did not take steps to make our relationship legitimate. So, I decided to break up with him and let him go.
Shortly after that, my ex-husband asked me to marry him again. After being divorced for 8 years, he wanted to start fresh for our son and ourselves. We did not live together before we were married and did things the right way. Dr. Laura, I have never felt happier. We were married on November 16, 2012. It takes work, but the inner satisfaction I feel for doing things the right way has been a great cure for my insomnia. Nothing is softer than sleeping with a clean conscience.
I am now a very happy homemaker and want everyone to know that yes, you can get out of being "stuck" in a shack-up arrangement, but only if you WANT to. Thank you for your words of wisdom Dr. Laura, you are my HERO!!!!