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The 3 Rules for a Good Marriage
07/20/2016

Dr. Laura:

As a feminist, I'm an unlikely huge fan of yours.  I did not marry until I was 47 (I'm 61 now).  When I married, I had not yet started listening to you, but I did have the sense not to "shack up" with him before marriage and we dated for 2 years.  We also went to pre-marital counseling, so I guess I was a supporter of yours without knowing it!

After several years of marriage, I started feeling like a "nag," and felt like I wasn't being appreciated.  That really scared me, because I could feel the resentment building between us.  

Then I stumbled on your program, and after listening for several months, picked up on three rules for a good marriage:  

  1. Watch and compliment

  2. Tell him what a good husband and decent man he is

  3. Remember that sex makes him feel loved.  

None of these were in my repertory at the time, but I decided to do them anyway.  Once I did, I was blown away with his appreciation and love.  I don't think I was a terrible wife, but I WAS a mediocre one, with much to lose if I did not wake up.

Since doing those three things, our relationship has greatly deepened, and we're having much more fun.  Like you predicted, the nicer and more appreciative I was, the better everything else became.  Your advice was truly invaluable.

Deb
Tags: Attitude, Behavior, Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Marriage, Stress, Women's Point of View
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