A lot of people think that infatuation is love, or that love is supposed to feel like infatuation, creating two equally disappointed groups.
Let’s distinguish between the two:
Infatuation is intense, but short-lived, passion. It happens fast and has more to do with your fantasies about another person than who they are. It’s the reason people jump from one relationship to another, because they like the intensity.
Love, on the other hand, is a feeling of deep affection. Contrary to all the stupid movies out there where two people meet and are in love by lunchtime, love is a very slow process and happens only when you really know somebody.
With love, you can be 100% yourself. You’re not constantly trying to make someone like you. Instead, you’re focused on their happiness. And if you do it right, love can be forever.
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