Recently a friend asked for my advice when she was considering divorcing. My marriage broke up several years ago, and I told her it was one of the biggest regrets of my life. If I had to do it all over again, I would have definitely worked at saving the marriage.
I told her of all the pain I've caused my children because they have to go back-and-forth to separate households. I told her how heartbroken I am to have broken up my children's family. I told her how my future grandchildren will have to go to two different houses to see grandma and grandpa. I told her just the thought of all that breaks my heart.
I also recommended to her your book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.
" Unfortunately, I discovered that book AFTER my own marriage had ended but can report that she said that the things I told her AND reading your book has made all the difference, and she has decided to stay with her husband and work on the marriage. It made me happy to have her say that I had a hand in saving a marriage. I am thrilled to be a part of sparing her family such pain and grief. So even though I found you after I could save my own marriage, your wisdom has helped me have a hand in saving another's marriage. Thank you for helping so many of us every day.
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