Hi Dr. Laura,
I come from a bad childhood to a great life!
The history of my family on my maternal side is that daughters and mothers did not get along for several generations. My mother was horrible!! As a child I knew what type of mother I wanted to be.
I never allowed the doctor to tell me the sex of either of my pregnancies, but I just knew my second child was a girl. While driving after a doctor's appointment to pick up my 4-year-old son, who was been watched by Grandpa, I was stressing that I knew I would have a girl and was worried about having a horrible and painful relationship with my daughter. As I picked up my son, I mentioned this to my dad. He looked thoughtful for a moment and said, "Amy, I think you will be the one to break the bad mother /daughter relationship."
I put my son in the car and we headed home. I turned on the radio and guess what I heard you say… "Well you get two chances at the mother/child relationship. One is the one you are born in to. You have no control over that. The other is the one you give birth to, you have ALL the control over that one." The light bulb went off in my head! Thank you so much for those words. You are exactly correct.
Now my daughter is graduating high school in two weeks and then off to study Organic Agriculture at college. Dr. Laura, my relationship with my daughter is so beautiful it makes me cry. WE love each other dearly and respect each other. She is a lovely, wholesome, kind, caring, generous person without any of the typical teenager stuff. She dresses totally appropriate and wears NO makeup. I have never once had to tell her to re- dress or to clean up her face.
I could not have done it without you! True!
Sometimes you say things so powerful. Your words truly opened my mind and made me look at the situation with hope because I did/do have all the control.
My 21-year-old son is a very nice and wonderful person as well!
I want you to know that over the many years of listening to you, you have helped me, my husband, and my kids with your words. We thank you.