Hi Dr. Laura,
My parents have been married 57 years. I see them now and could only hope that I have a relationship like theirs when I am in my 70s and 80s. However, growing up their relationship was nothing like it is now. My parents lived in separate bedrooms and showed absolutely no affection toward each other - and none toward us kids. I swore I would not be anything like my parents were.
However, once I married and had kids, my parents changed. Being around their grandchildren brought something out in them that I had never seen growing up. They became affectionate toward my kids, toward each other and even started giving me hugs and compliments. It was a bit strange at first, but now I can only hope that as I grow into my senior years, I can have the love and support toward my spouse that my parents now have for each other.