2) masturbate to porn
3) sleep with prostitutes
4) get girlfriends
5) simply leave
By the time Candice called me for advice on how to repair her marriage, her husband had already chosen option #3 and had sex with a hooker. He didn't want to leave her or get a girlfriend, but he also didn't want to spend the rest of his life without affection and passion
Lots of relationships lose their mojo over time. Especially once babies enter the picture. That's what happened to Candice. She prioritized her child and other responsibilities over her marriage and completely lost interest in sex. After her husband brought it to her attention, she begrudgingly agreed to occasionally let him have his way with her.
Candice learned the hard way that, when you do the bare minimum to maintain your relationship, you can't expect good things in return.
Men need to feel wanted. When you make it clear that you have no interest in being sensual and sexual, you're giving your husband the message that he doesn't really matter. Penises don't like to be treated that way and neither do the men attached to them.
Candice wanted to stay in her marriage. So, how could she remedy the situation? After telling me that her husband had lamented, “When we first met, you were swinging from chandeliers!” I suggested that she print up a picture of a chandelier, take her husband by the hand, lead him into the bedroom, hold up the printed picture and start to reestablish their sensuality.
Someone has to take the first step. What can you do to rekindle the mojo in your relationship? Is it time to start a racy affair... with your spouse?
How do you go above and beyond the minimum to make your man feel wanted? Share your raunchy and fun ideas with me here!
