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05/13/2010
IconThis is a "huzzah" to a bunch of Democrats for doing the right thing, and we have to join them.'A group of Congressmen has asked the Department of Veterans' Affairs to reconsider its obnoxious, disgusting, and horrible ban on the flag-folding ceremony at military funerals, after the agency decided last month to "streamline" burials at Federal cemeteries.' It gets worse.However, the attempt to jerk their heads around in the right direction is being led by Representative Heath Shuler (D-NC).' He wrote a letter to the head of the Department of Veterans' Affairs which said: Dear Acting Secretary Mansfield: We are writing to express our concern regarding recently announced policies banning the traditional flag-folding recitations by Memorial Honor Detail volunteers. The flag-folding recitation is a long-standing tradition which brings comfort to the living and honor to the deceased.' The recitations accompanying each fold pay tribute to the service and sacrifice of our veterans and their families, the nation they proudly serve, and the belief that they hold dear. As our nation loses 1,500 World War II veterans every day, we feel that it is vital to insure that the final rites for these American heroes will be permitted to include the freedoms of speech and religious expression enshrined in our Constitution, and defended by their service. We ask that you please reconsider the policy and allow the Memorial Honor Detail volunteers to perform the traditional flag-folding recitation if requested by the family of the deceased... Now this letter was co-signed, and I want to give kudos to the representatives who co-signed it, and they're all Democrats.' Ask me where the Republicans are on this.' I don't know - maybe nobody called them up.' But it's co-signed by Representative Chris Carney (D-PA), Brad Ellsworth (D-IN)...and these are all great guys for doing this...Baron Hill (D-IN), Tim Holden (D-PA), Nick Lampson (D-TX), Jim Marshall (D-GA), Jim Matheson (D-UT), Mick McIntyre (D-NC), Mike Ross (D-AR), Gene Taylor (D-MS), and John Tanner (D-TN).Now I want to give you the second part of the problem, and it's so obnoxious, that it's hard for me to even write.' By the way, there's nothing in the Constitution that bans religion.' Our Constitution disallows the state to have a religion that we all have to follow, but it doesn't ban religion.' That is so abused by the atheists trying to take God out of everything, that I'm tired of it, and we have to fight back.' This is the moment to fight back, and I'll give you the address on how to do it.A complaint - one, lousy complaint....one! - made this happen.' The complaint about the recitation for the 11th fold, which says "in the eyes of a Hebrew citizen, represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon, and glorifies, in their eyes, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob" garnered a complaint at the California cemetery and prompted the ban.' One lousy comment!By the way, the 12th fold recitation is geared to Christians, saying "the fold represents an emblem of eternity and glorifies in their eyes God the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost." It's just terrible...just terrible, as one World War II Navy veteran, Bobby Castillo, 85, said:'' "It's a slap in the face to every veteran.' When we got back from the war, we didn't ask for a whole lot.' We just want to give our veterans the respect they deserve.' No one has ever complained about us.' I just don't understand."'' He is part of a 16-member detail that has performed military honors at more than 1,400 services.' They were preparing to read the flag-folding remarks at the Riverside (CA) cemetery when graveyard staff stopped them.'Charlie Waters, parliamentarian for the American Legion of California said he's advising Memorial Honor Details to ignore the edict.' "This is nuts," Walter said.' "There are 26 million veterans in this country and they're not going to take us all to prison."So, I'm very grateful to Representative Heath Shuler (D-NC), and I think we have to join in turning this around.' This is disgusting.' You take a tradition that's been going on for so long, and because one person doesn't want to hear "God," it stops?' No.' Let's turn this around.' Turn this completely around, and this is how you're going to do it.'You have to be polite, so send your letters to:The Honorable Gordon H. MansfieldActing Secretary of Veterans Affairs810 Vermont Avenue, N.W.Washington, DC' 20420Phone: 202-273-4817Email: Gordon.Mansfield@va.gov Send a letter, make a phone call, and send an email.' I want this man inundated.' I want millions of you to do this, to counteract one person who thinks they can rip God out of the universe, when our Constitution does not demand that.All of this information is on my website www.drlaura.com//action/index.html?mode=view&tile=1&id=14918 .' I am unbelievably grateful to these dozen Democrats who stood up to the plate immediately.' "Hoo-ah" to all of them!UPDATEWe spoke to Congressman Shuler's office and they're still going forward with legislation to rescind this order.' While the "clarification" from the Department of Veterans Affairs only covers volunteer honor guards, many of the cemeteries have Federal employees performing the flag-folding.'In addition, we heard from a soldier currently serving on a state Honor Guard, who told us that they often work in co-operation with local Veterans Service Organizations' honor guards.' The Veterans Service Organizations not only donate their time, but they have to maintain their uniforms, pay for gas to get to the funerals, pay for blank ammunition and weapon servicing.' They're supposed to be paid a small amount for their services, but while Congress has authorized the program to do this, they haven't actually funded it.' We need to do a lot more to honor our veterans, both living and deceased. More >>

Tags: Feminism, Military, Social Issues, Values, Veterans
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05/13/2010
IconLike most people in this country, I have been glued to the television coverage of the fires raging through San Diego, Orange County, Los Angeles, etc.' Unlike many of you, I just need to look out my kitchen window to see and smell the eerie smoky brown sky that hangs over my neighborhood.' From this vantage point I can understand the fear and shock that is consuming the millions who are experiencing up close and very personally the ravages of Mother Nature.''''''' Much of the California coastline is burning.' Almost one million people have been evacuated and over one thousand homes and some communities have been burned to the ground.' An unknown number of people have died and scores have been injured; mostly firefighters.''''''People are living out of their cars, in the homes of friends, relatives or gracious strangers; hotels are crammed, and thousands are in stadiums.' What is remarkable about this disaster is how well San Diego has handled this.' The local government got right into gear with evacuations, physical support and fire-fighting; the people, although devastated, have been cooperative, positive, virtually non-complaining, non-violent, and mutually supportive.' Charitable and supportive donations from people far and wide have been administered successfully.' No hysteria, blaming, or violence.' Listening to the stories of gratitude in the midst of hardship has been inspiring.'''' 'Nonetheless, it is important to consider the longer term emotional and psychological issues resulting from this disaster, the largest in California's history.' My family survived a house-fire in the early '90's.' A faulty electrical connection in a socket sent a spark across the room onto a bed and in mere seconds the entire room was ablaze.' I tried to put the fire out and realized that the fumes and smoke were even more dangerous.' I called the Fire Department immediately, grabbed my wallet and my son and left the house.' Between the flames and the efforts of the Fire Department, our house was totaled but without damage to our neighbors.'''' 'We lost just about everything.' Our first reaction was shock.' It was difficult to absorb being in a home one moment, and standing in front of a burning building in the next.'''' 'For the most part, the people involved in the California fires have whole neighborhoods that are gone and don't seem to have the option of "continuing with life."' Their stresses, grief, and fears will need to be addressed.' Most people are ultimately quite resilient, and after months of reasonable, normal hyper-emotional reactions, get back into life without long-lasting impact.'''' 'Children are more vulnerable to these disasters and special attention needs to be paid to their well-being.' The more up-front and personal the exposure to the disaster, the greater the post-disaster impact will be.' The loss of a home and destruction of a community are obviously high-distress events leading to grief and trauma.'''' 'Children under the age of 2 have little real understanding of what has happened and don't have life experiences to tap into to give them a sense of immediate or future safety.' They pretty much are experiencing sensory overload as the sights, sounds, smells stay imprinted in their young minds and may be activated in the future.' Also, children of this age are not equipped to discuss their fears.' It is very important that small children not be separated from their parents during these disasters.' The parents are the ultimate security and measure by which they will react; if parents stay calm, children feel more reassured.'''' 'Children up to age five may start regressing in their behavior because of their confusion and fear.' They may have nightmares, stop eating and sleeping, and report stomach aches which are really a sign of distress.'''' 'To assist young children:1.' Give verbal reassurance and physical comfort2.' Try to keep eating and sleeping routines intact3.' Avoid being separated from them because of the comfort they need from' you and because they fear abandonment.4.' Let them talk and talk and talk and talk about what they feel, especially'about losing pets, their toys, etc.5. Try to minimize their exposure to images of fires on television and any other' disturbing input.6. Get them playing -- this will be good for them and for you!''' 'School age children can become obsessed with their fears over these events.' This would be a good time for you not to be so concerned with your expectations of proper behavior and performance in school (if they have access) and with you.' However, while it is important for you to let them talk again and again about the disaster and their opinions and feelings, you should also set some gentle limits on "acting-out" behaviors of anger, and so forth.' It might be good to say something like, "You know, it is quite reasonable for all of us to be angry or feeling kind of crazy over what's happened.' Let's keep 'showing it' to five minutes each hour or so, then the rest of the time we can make plans, take a walk, figure out meals, play a game, sing a song, help somebody else..."'''' 'Allow school-aged children to participate in actions geared to "take care of immediate business."' That way they have a sense of power in a seemingly powerless situation and feel useful - which is a positive and rewarding experience.'''' 'Some children may be slow to show distress, taking weeks or months for signs or symptoms of their distress to appear.' Don't push for "feelings" to be expressed; instead, be watchful of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) depression: persistent sad or irritable mood, loss of interest in activities once enjoyed,' a significant change in appetite or body weight, difficulty sleeping or oversleeping, loss of energy, feelings of worthlessness or inappropriate guilt, difficulty concentration and/or recurrent thoughts of death or suicide.'''' 'Five or more of these symptoms over several weeks may indicate a need for professional intervention.'''' 'Remember, supportive parents, friends, family members, teachers, and other adults make all the difference in the ability of children to cope with disaster.'''' 'For more information, click on: " Helping Children Handle Disaster-Related Anxiety - National Mental Health Association "To hear Dr. Laura in an on-air interview with KFI-AM regarding this issue, click here More >>

Tags: Children, Family/Relationships - Children, Military, Parenting, Social Issues, Values
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05/13/2010
IconI was thrilled when the good folks at WTAR AM in Norfolk, Virginia invited me to join their annual Talkfest and chose my favorite charity, Operation Family Fund, to be the recipient of all the fundraising events.' Well, I am reminded of that expression, "Be careful what you ask for because you might get it!"''''' I spent the better part of the last week flying to Norfolk, flying around Norfolk and flying back from Norfolk.' This weekend I felt I was a whirling dervish, swept up in a crush of activities to raise awareness and funds for Operation Family Fund.' For those of you who haven't listened to my radio show in the last 4 years, OFF ( OperationFamilyFund.org )is a non-profit which gives 100% of every dollar donated to the families of our fallen or severely injured military heroes who served in the War Against Terror.''''''And in the midst of the packed schedule, I broadcast my radio program from WTAR Radio studios (owned by Sinclair Communications ).' I can't say enough about how professional and cuddly everyone was.' It is tough to do three intense and intimate hours of radio outside of my "nest," so it is very important that the environment be cozy.'''' 'Friday morning I was on a tour of the USS Dwight D. Eisenhower and enjoyed lunch with Commanding Officer, Capt. Dan Cloyd and' Rear Admiral Phil Cullom.'' When we were on the bridge, everyone expected me to make a bee-line for the Captain's chair - but NO - I went straight for the steering wheel!' Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the steering wheel on a huge aircraft carrier is about the same size as the one in my SUV!' It goes to show you that small things can steer large objects.''''' That evening, several hundred people came to the "Help, Hope & Heroes" dinner at La Galleria Ristorante (120 College Place) in Norfolk.' Fabulous,' fabulous,' fabulous food. Clark Howard , George Noory , and Glenn Beck were there to support the silent auction for Operation Family Fund.' I even bid on a glass putter (to be a gift for one of my colleagues) but got outbid at the last second.''''''Saturday morning, WTAR held its annual TALKFEST, and while Sean Hannity was on stage giving a talk, I rode in on the back of WNIS Radio's morning co-host Dave Parker's hot motorcycle.' Sean was his usual adorable and generous self and offered $20,000.to Operation Family Fund if I took off my pink Harley Davidson jacket, signed it and then made it available to one of his audience members via a drawing.'''' 'At noon on Saturday, I went to Hampton Roads Harley-Davidson , hooked up with several hundred (mostly Harley) bikers, and off we went for a "Bikers for the Brave" ride. Staying in the spirit of wanting to give the shirt off my back for our brave warriors, I auctioned off my white and pink Harley helmet.' The biker folks were wonderful -- I want to tell you - if you want to be around a group of kind, fun, warm, generous and patriotic folks - get yourself a motorcycle and join just about any club in the USA.''' 'After the ride, I was off to the Convocation Center for my talk and a live auction - with brilliant auctioneer Ed Zedd raising more than $8,000; this included one of my custom necklaces (designed and constructed solely by me).'''' 'We had a color guard from the USS Eisenhower and a lovely solo performance of the Star Spangled Banner. Trane Dealers worked with all their people and raised almost $20,000.''''' The only sour note was when some sub-human lowlife broke into Tony and Robin Alexander's Natural Hair Image Salon and robbed them of almost $3,000 they had collected from customers for weeks to give to OFF.' When the local ABC TV affiliate WVEC ran their story on the Friday evening news, hundreds of local Virginians rushed to help and have since given more than what was stolen.' And I'm sending them a check to cover the loss as well.''''' All told, the weekend raised more than $80,000 for our wounded warriors.''''' 'After my hour Q & A with the TALKFEST audience, I signed some programs and books, then slept my way 3000 miles back to my bed by 3 AM.'''' 'So I'm tired, but I'm happy that so many people took time out of their busy, busy, busy lives to help a worthy cause.' God bless our military and their families - without them we wouldn't be the land of the free. More >>

Tags: Charity, humor, Military, Politics, Regarding Dr. Laura, Values
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05/13/2010
IconI had an experience recently I will not soon forget.' I had a conversation with a woman with whom I've become quite friendly who told me a fascinating story.''''She was adopted.' Although she is very close to and loving with her adoptive family, she was quite interested in knowing something about her birth mother and father - for medical history reasons (I never quite believe that, considering the technology available today for diagnoses) and for curiosity's sake.' She realized and accepted that there would probably be "the good, the bad, and the ugly" to learn, and she was right.She found her birth mother to be an unstable sort with a number of children from a number of men.' The turning point of her life was when she had her first conversation with her birth father on the phone.He cried with joy that she had contacted him.' He told her that her birth mother had planned to abort her but he paid money to her and paid for all the adopting costs to spare her life.' Shocked, she told her husband and children about this revelation, and they were all so grateful for one man's commitment to life."In listening to all my friends and family telling me what they would have missed had I never been, I completely changed my position of being so-called 'pro-choice," she told me.Suddenly there is clarity: a human being who impacts the world in some unique and meaningful way is obliterated before they have an opportunity to do their part to perfect the world.When it 's YOU' who could have been aborted, suddenly the issue of cavalierly terminating a human life gets put in a bigger perspective than one woman saying, "I just don't want 'it' - 'it' being a human being.The same day I had this conversation I received this email to my program: "You asked a female caller today if she was pro-abortion.' THANK YOU for using that phrase.' Who do pro-abortionists think they are that they can hijack the word 'choice?'' I LOVE choices, but I'm against abortion.' You and I both know the only valid choice other than adoption comes before conception, not after. Abortion has nothing to do with choices.' American women have all the choices in the world!: the choice to have or not have sex with a man who is not her husband, the choice to use birth control, and a million choices therein.' Why is it they claim that unless they ALSO have the choice to kill their unborn babies that they have no choice?' Huh?' American women have all the choices they need and have a right to have, regardless of whether they are also able to suck the unborn babies out of their bodies and down the drain. I take back the word 'choice.'' I won't let the pro-abortionists have that word anymore.' I'm PRO-CHOICE.' I LOVE choices.' But I'm against abortion.' And I won't let anyone rob me of the word 'choice' so that they can use it to justify killing babies." -- Shannon, St. Louis. More >>

Tags: Adoption, Parenting, Sex
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05/13/2010
IconUnfortunately, bad things happen sometimes.' Some of those bad things are forces of nature: hurricanes, mudslides, tornados, earthquakes, and disease.' While life, death, loss, and injury are horrendous experiences to deal with, psychologically we are somewhat more philosophical about these encounters with horror because they aren't "personal."''''' "Personal" horrors, on the other hand, include intentional harm to the body, soul, property, psychological well-being and reputation of another for political, egotistical, or financial gain - or for the simple pleasure derived from having the power to destroy.' These experiences turn out to be more difficult to cope with, because they are not seen as "the stuff that could and has happened to anyone."''''' In addition, there is great compassion and sympathy for those struck by nature, while a profound fear of helping is the general response to personal attacks on an innocent party, lest one get caught in the sights of the evil-doer.' Therefore, the support necessary is often less in size and strength - which adds ongoing injury to the already damaged person.'''' The evolution of talk radio and television news from information to confrontation, as well as the loss of any ethical foundation of print media (newspapers and magazines) and the unleashing of anonymous venom on the internet and blogs, have served not only to destroy reputations with undocumented vicious gossip, but have lowered the level of discourse and civility to an unbelievably dangerous level.''''' Decent folks who wish to serve their country in the military, politics, social work and other public arenas, become fodder for indecent attacks based upon ideology, with the sole purpose of eliminating their voices and ability to function.''''' Gone is the civility of negotiations, arbitrations, discussions, and debates.''''' Soon, only the indecent will reign.' Al Qaeda, the Taliban, Hezbollah, etc., have only to wait; we are destroying our own society.'''' Our American society is becoming alarming ugly and dangerous.'''' How does a family and its members survive?' It is difficult - and sometimes barely possible.'''' When bad things happen the first reaction of most family members is a kind of' "shock," in which people seem not to be that upset - it is more a reaction of disbelief or a sense of not really comprehending the situation.' Once the truth and reality become tangible, that's when the pain, grief, hurt, fear and anxiety set in.' If the situation appears hopeless, and the people involved feel helpless to protect themselves or their loved ones, a horrible depression infiltrates every bone of their bodies.'''' This is a critical time for a family.' It is at this time that intervention by meaningful intimates is absolutely crucial.' It is at this terrible time that people often contemplate direct or indirect suicide: driving a car over a cliff or overdosing with some dangerous medication.'''' Family members might turn against each other; imagining that they alone are really feeling the pain and that the other doesn't really understand and can't help.' When the enemy is nature or an evil-doer, it is often difficult or impossible to get revenge or justice.' That concern alone sometimes leaves people lashing out where they can: on family.'''' What most folks truly need at a time like this is three-fold.' Number 1: complete support and expression of understanding for the magnitude of the painful situation.'' That means you don't placate, minimize, patronize with fairy dust, try to distract with cheerful activities, or attempt to whitewash with "perspective," like there is worse happening in India.'''' Instead, you need to hug and acknowledge that this is, indeed s**t and they are justified to be feeling every horrible feeling they're going through.' When, for example, people call my radio program telling me of their horrendous emotional state in reaction to some horrible assault, I tell them, "That is a reasonable response to an unreasonable situation."' In other words, you validate the truthfulness of their perception and response. You must validate the truth of their reality or you run the risk of making them feel "more crazy."'''' Number 2: you must make sure they get some food for strength and sugar in their blood stream to avoid headaches and deeper depression; you must get them to sleep even if it means temporarily using sleep medications (over the counter types if at all possible), and depending on their level of despair, make sure they are watched just in case a temporary despondency might lead to them hurting themselves.'''' Number 3: you must get advice for a "game plan" that deals with the situation.' This gives the family member "hope" and relieves some of the "helplessness."' This stage of reaction is usually associated with anger; that anger has to be controlled and focused in a positive direction - one that will not add to the problem, but will ultimately approach justice.'''' Our society has become, as I said earlier, a meaner, harsher, and more dangerous place than ever before.' I don't know what can turn it back.' I mourn for the America that was the safe haven of the world. More >>

Tags: Morals, Ethics, Values, Social Issues, Values
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05/13/2010
Icon231 years ago, the Declaration of Independence was signed, but it wasn't until seven years later, in 1783, that the war was over and the United States of America was officially free of British rule.' We commemorate a lot of things on July 4th - the signing of that most important document, the birth of a new nation, and the freedom that we've been able to enjoy since Thomas Jefferson wrote of "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness."' For this holiday, I'm turning my blog over to my listeners - below are excerpts from letters and emails I've received reminding us all about what it means to be an American, and how we should value those who defend those rights we hold so dearly. ...there are still plenty of Americans that are thankful and proud of what [our sons and daughters are] willing to do for us.' We are not so stupid and foolish as to think that if this country was without a military, we would be able to lead the lives and have the freedoms and "luxuries" (like running water and electricity) that most Americans take for granted as a "right" instead of realizing that [these are] privileges that most inhabitants of this planet do not enjoy....These are truly times that try men's souls.' Thanks to all military families for their service from a STILL proud American!!! --'Glenda I am a US Marine Corps veteran.' I am a woman, standing 5'3", 110 pounds.' I served my country for four years, prior to getting married and having children, and it is one of my proudest accomplishments (of course, my family ranks #1).' Because of my service, I am a strong, independent, and educated woman.' I am a better wife and mother for having served.' The military is an excellent place to find your inner strength, and having been there, I know that I can accomplish anything. --'Mikayla Today we said goodbye to one of our own, Marine Sergeant Stephen Wilson.' I did not know him, but attended the services to show my support for the men and women serving our country.' When I arrived at the church, the streets were lined with flags and supporters.' I was handed a small American flag, and I entered the parking lot.' The motorcycle Vietnam veterans accompanied the hearse and there were veterans there en masse. The service was beautiful, and what stands out in my mind was Stephen's best friend.' They grew up together and joined the Marines together.' In his remarks, he wanted to convey what Stephen would have said.' He said he would have asked what America meant to the soldiers.' He continued that many would say "freedom," but Stephen would have said "you," as he pointed to the audience.' Stephen would have said we do this because of you, the people we love.' It was so incredible and powerful! After the service, I went around and introduced myself to each and every Marine and thanked them for their service.' Several got tears in their eyes.' I was looking into the souls of MEN, not boys.' One Marine told me he had gotten there the previous night and had gotten lost.' He stopped to get directions, and when the woman found out why he was here, she took him home, cooked dinner for him, and invited in friends.' He was overwhelmed with their love and generosity. Dr. Laura, you would not believe how many wonderful, loving, caring people here love our country and our brave men and women that serve.' May God bless them and never forget they are doing it for us. --'Terri;'Discovery Bay, CA More >>

Tags: Military, Social Issues, Values
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05/13/2010
IconThis week, I'm turning over my blog to a guest.' A few weeks ago, after a comment I made on-the-air regarding civility, I got an e-mail from Joe Hanlon, whose message I could not improve upon.' So, with his permission, I've decided to share his words with you.' Welcome, Joe, our first guest blogger: Hi, Dr. Laura! Long-time listener, first time emailer.' Well, I try to listen as much as I can, but as a math teacher, I'm usually a tad busy when you are on the air.' I catch the last ten minutes of your show on XM a lot. I caught those last ten minutes today, and heard your comments on civility.' As usual, my reaction to your commentary was "Right on!"' The Internet IS ruining civility by allowing people to say the rudest things under the cover of anonymity and just because they can.' Programs like "The View" foster incivility because rudeness garners ratings and makes money.' The problem is that incivility is oozing out from television and the Internet into everyday discourse, often resulting in harsher, and sometimes physical, incivility. I tried to stem this tide.' I stuck my finger in this Internet dike by creating a site called, appropriately to this subject, "Civility."' Previously, I had been posting on a sports team site on topics ranging from the team to baseball in general to politics to religion.' Unfortunately, it is impossible to discuss any of these topics on the Internet without being verbally assaulted with rudeness, name-calling, and vulgarity.' Unfortunately, my reaction was often in kind (or should I say in "Unkind?"). I didn't like my Internet persona.' It was very different from my live personality.' In real life, I have very strong opinions and often state them matter-of-factly, but am always careful not to rudely attack the person I am talking to, nor to use profanity.' I naively thought that changing my Internet personality would keep me out of "flame wars" and allow me to participate in heated, but civil, debates.' Wrong. So, I tried to start a message board whose goal was to promote strong debate while remaining civil.' It worked to the extent that we had several debates in which disagreements were profound, but incivility was kept to an unheard-of minimum.' It failed in the sense that I couldn't keep it going.' Over time, I had more members joining trying to sell Viagra and pornography than I had members who wanted to debate the hot topics of the day.' I had to move the site to lose the trolls, but the few remaining members didn't follow.' The site still exists, but has nothing recent posted.' If you'd like to check it out, it's at www.civility.eye95.org . The point is that civility doesn't sell.' Sadly, incivility does. I still post on the sports site.' I liberally use the "ignore" feature (which means that over half the posts are invisible to me), and I try to remain civil at all times.' I have less [of a] problem with people being uncivil to me; they now know that I won't fight back (often referred to as "defending" oneself) and that I will simply ignore them. People who want to be civil have to learn how to live in an uncivil world without becoming infected.' It is hard.' Unfortunately, changing the rest of the world does not seem to be an option.' I keep trying to have some small effect, though.' But, being an idealist is hard, too. Keep changing the world, one listener at a time. Joe More >>

Tags: Morals, Ethics, Values, Social Issues, Values
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05/13/2010
IconWhat a conundrum for liberals who support any and all abortions at any time for any reason under the rubric of "pro-choice" freedoms.' Liberals are also supposedly for diversity.' Well, here's the problem:' If a woman is free to abort the human being developing in her body for any whim, shouldn't she be able to abort the baby if it has been genetically tested and the results are not "pleasing?"The New York Times' "Week in Review" "Prenatal Tests + Abortion = ???" (May 13, 2007) dealt with this growing concern about pro-choice abortion morality and ethics: "Abortion rights supporters - who believe that a woman has the right to make decisions about her own body-have had to grapple with the reality that the right to choose may well be used selectively to abort fetuses deemed genetically undesirable.' And many are finding that, while they support a woman's right to have an abortion if she does not want to have a baby, they are less comfortable when abortion is used by women who don't want to have a particular baby." Two "liberal values" are on a collision course.' The first is, of course, the right to terminate fetal life at will.' The second is the freedom to abort children on the basis of gender, sexual orientation, disabilities, intelligence, and future illnesses (certain cancers and arthritis) when the liberal mantra is supposedly "pro diversity." "Kirsten Moore [the article continues], president of the pro-choice Reproductive Health Technologies Project, said that when members of her staff recently discussed whether to recommend that any prenatal tests be banned, they found it impossible to draw a line - even at sex selection, which almost all found morally repugnant.' 'We all had our own zones of discomfort, but still couldn't quite bring ourselves to say 'here's the line, firm and clear' because that is the core of the pro-choice philosophy,' she said.' 'You can never make that decision for someone else." This puts pro-abortion liberals in a quandary.' As more pre-natal genetic testing becomes available, more folks will have the ability to "design" a baby.' They will probably choose against much of the core constituency that political liberals have worked hard on to fortify their ideological base.'Very interesting. More >>

Tags: Military, Values
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05/13/2010
IconOn Friday, May 11th, I was in Salt Lake City doing my radio program at Fort Douglas to honor Military Moms for Mother's Day.' Just before the three-hour live broadcast, I was interviewed by Matthew D. LaPlante for the Salt Lake Tribune; ostensibly about Military Moms.' I don't remember him asking me even one question about that.'''' His article was published the next day with the headline, " Dr. Laura to G.I. wives: No Whining ."' Although this interview went over one-half hour, and I covered a wide range of subjects pertinent to military families and the war, he chose a comment, one that I've made before many times on the air, to make the primary focus of his article - and, he took it out of the entire context of my remarks.'''' I am so deeply sad and disappointed that this out of context comment appears to have caused hurt and pain to military spouses - people that I've spent so much time helping.' I am frustrated that people who haven't heard my program would be misled as to my attitude and intent.'''' I am a military mom.' I whine to my husband every day about how scared I am for my son and how helpless I feel to protect his body and soul.' However, I never whine to my son when he is able to call between missions.'''' That, and only that, is my point.' Of course military spouses endure fear and domestic burdens.' Of course they often need emotional support and practical assistance.' As I said to the reporter, and many times on my program, family services, clergy, family, friends, and the camaraderie of other military spouses are available outlets.' However, burdening one's warrior spouse with your fears, upsets, loneliness, etc., is a huge mistake as it demoralizes the warrior and thereby undermines their concentration while they are in life-death situations.'''' It is also true that when a soldier is in combat, his family must remember that anything they are going through needs to be perceived in the context of the fact that they are not dodging bullets and tip-toeing around IEDs.' I know that when I get upset about things in my life, I think about my son and what he is facing that he can't walk away from, then I have a cup of coffee and go for a relaxing sail.' It puts me back into a less "poor me" perspective.' And that is what I have conveyed to millions of folks on my radio program.'''' Warrior wives, as I refer to them, need to be independent, compassionate, mature, selfless, strong, competent, supportive and well-connected to family, friends, and church - because their men are in daily life-and-death situations and need the reassurance of their woman's loyalty, love, and strength to survive.'''' I have been a major cheerleader for all the members of military families.' That's why I have raised over $500,000. for Operation Family Fund (which provides financial assistance to families of fallen or severely injured military) as well as trips such as this last one to Salt Lake City to support Military Moms before Mother's Day.'''' I have met Blue, Silver and Gold Star Moms.' It is humbling to see them all proud and mutually supportive, even when suffering.' I am inspired by family members who lovingly and patriotically sacrifice to support one of their own who volunteered for service to their country and families.' Military folks and their families are a breed apart as they live with the threat of death, for the promise of freedom for complete strangers.'''' We should all be respectful and very grateful. More >>

Tags: Military, Values
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