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The 4 Essentials for Foundational Wellness
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2020-03-06T20:57:00Z
2020-03-06T20:57:00Z
<div><br /><strong><em>By <span>Alana Kessler</span><strong> </strong><em> </em></em></strong></div>
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<div>There is so much information out there around what and how to eat it can be overwhelming. The truth is, there is no one way to eat or magic pill to take. There are a few basic foundational pieces essential to consider when thinking about your diet and how to eat for optimal wellbeing and vibrancy.</div>
<div><br />1. <strong>Digestion - </strong>Ensuring that the bowels are functioning properly, and food is absorbed properly is key. Fiber, fermented and enzyme rich foods provide the necessary materials to keep this system running smoothly. Symptoms like gas, bloating, constipation, diarrhea and reflux are signs that something is awry and perhaps the foods you are eating may be negatively impacting your health.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Some of my favorite digestion friendly foods include sauerkraut, kimchi, mung dahl, root vegetables, warm leafy greens, berries, ancient grains.<br /><br /> <br />2.<strong> Detoxification - </strong>Now, I'm not talking about a drastic diet here. I'm talking about supporting the body's natural detox organs like the liver, kidneys, skin, and lymphatic system along with the digestive system to work effectively. When these organs are healthy, there is less inflammation, chronic fatigue, auto-immune disorders, and food sensitivities. Supporting the body's inherent and intelligent detox mechanism with real food is the best for most generally healthy individuals. Ideally, eating these foods daily will keep your body humming.</div>
<div><br />Foods to include: Cruciferous vegetables and leafy greens, lemon, beetroot, avocado, garlic, turmeric, ginger, cilantro, parsley, cauliflower, cabbage, bok choy, broccoli</div>
<div><br /><br />3. <strong>Sleep -</strong> Often overlooked, sleep is the "<em>sleeper</em>" when it comes to health. When we sleep, the body cleanses all the organ systems essentially cleansing the palate for the next day. If sleep is disturbed, it can be one of the underlying causes of health issues like hormone imbalances, weight gain and skin issues. Sleep can be hard to come by for many reasons. Stress can be a factor as well as lifestyle and schedule. It is important to create a daily routine where 7 hours of undisturbed sleep can be had. <br /> <br />Foods to include for better sleep include: Almond milk with saffron, barley grass powder, valerian root, holy-basil, passionfruit tea and cherry juice</div>
<div><br /><br />4. <strong>Energy - </strong>Eating for energy is one of the biggest requests I receive in my coaching practice. Fatigue, exhaustion, general malaise and lack of interest in day to day activities is becoming more and more common. The nature of our society encourages constantly doing and consuming more which activates our systems in ways previous generations did not.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Social media and the internet have created an environment where our brains are constantly receiving new information that activates the nervous system. When this happens, our bodies assume we must "<em>act</em>" and begin to utilize materials that may not be necessary. When this happens chronically, immunity decreases, and energy becomes diminished as the body tries to repair. Eating foods for energy are important as is creating healthy lifestyle boundaries.</div>
<div><br />A food that is good for energy provides steady nutrition ensuring there are no spikes and crashes throughout the day. It is also important to keep blood sugar steady by eating small frequent meals every 3 hours.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Foods to include: Edamame, Quinoa, Goji Berries, sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds, eggs, brown rice, beans</div>
<div><br />Balanced health and wellness is derived from understanding how and what to eat in combination with supportive lifestyle habits. To be healthy is a creative art that requires constant interest, refinement and reflection.<br /><br /><br /></div>
<div><br /><em><strong>Alana Kessler, MS, RDN E-RYT</strong></em>, is a registered dietitian, functional nutritionist, yoga and meditation teacher, speaker and author. Alana's intuitive and creative approach to health and wellness has impacted thousands through her private practice and international yoga and mindfulness trainings and retreats. A graduate of NYU with a BA and MS in clinical nutrition. Her health, fitness, and lifestyle expertise has been featured in <a href="http://www.Aaptiv.com" target="_blank">Aaptiv.com</a>, <a href="https://www.droz.com/" target="_blank">Droz.com</a>, <a href="http://www.EatThis.com" target="_blank">EatThis.com</a>, <a href="http://www.RD.com" target="_blank">RD.com</a>, Redbook, WomensHealthmag.com, and Vogue. For more information, visit her website at <a href="http://www.bewellbyak.com" target="_blank">www.bewellbyak.com</a><strong></strong><em></em><em><strong></strong></em><strong></strong><em></em>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span><strong></strong><em></em></div>
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2020-03-06T20:57:00Z
The Gift of Embracing Our Daily Losses
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Gift-of-Embracing-Our-Daily-Losses/300291210292009189.html
2020-02-12T22:57:00Z
2020-02-12T22:57:00Z
<div><br /><strong><em>By <span>Alexandra Kennedy MA MFT</span><strong> </strong><em> </em></em></strong></div>
<div><em><span><a href="http://www.alexandrakennedy.com" target="_blank">www.alexandrakennedy.com</a></span><strong> </strong><em></em><strong></strong></em><br /><br /><br />
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<div><em>The Way is gained by daily loss. Chuang Tzu</em><br /><br /></div>
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<div>Over a lifetime we will experience many losses. In every stage of life, losing, leaving and letting go are essential parts of our ever-changing world. We cannot save ourselves, nor those we love, from the sorrow that is part of life. Family members die, friends drop away, cherished possessions are lost. <br /><br /></div>
<div>Our children grow up and leave home. We lose spouses and partners to divorce or death; sometimes we lose them emotionally long before. As we age, we will be faced with the grief of unfulfilled dreams. Daily we experience disappointments, rejections, failures, mistakes, setbacks, mishaps- all the little losses that are a part of our every day living.</div>
<div><br /><strong>When we are fully alive we embrace both our joys and our sorrows.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>We are tempted to think we can avoid the pain of loss if we keep busy, that we can close our hearts a little to protect ourselves. However, it is the ungrieved losses that take their toll on our hearts and deaden us. We forget that even these, as difficult as they may be, are connected to our vitality and growth.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Every year nature in her cycle of seasons shows us the vital connection between the contraction of fall, the empty quiet of winter, the expansion of spring and the fertility of summer. In the fall, the life force withdraws into the roots; over winter the growth in the deep, dark underground is what supports the new growth in the spring, followed by the bursting out of fruit, flowers and vegetables in the summer. Likewise, loss invites us into our depths so that in time new possibilities can break forth.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Loss makes room for something new. When embraced through our grieving, loss can expand, empower, enrich, transform, and inspire us.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>When we open to the daily losses, we make room in our hearts. We gain strength to grieve when a major loss shakes our world. If we pay attention to small losses, we may find that they tap into that well of grief we hold inside-that well of grief connects us to our Source. Periodically take time to review your daily losses and then grieve them. Pay attention when a current loss brings up one from the past that is unresolved. Grieve that loss. Don't talk yourself out of feeling your grief. Then explore the new perspectives and choices that these losses have brought into our lives. Embracing this grief will keep your heart spacious and open to life.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Grief is wise. It knows what you need to feel whole again.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>In opening to grief over our daily losses, big and small, we experience both the exquisite beauty and sorrow of being fully alive. We savor the ordinary, simple moments. What a joy to simply watch the trees explode into brazen reds and coppery oranges just before their leaves drop away and expose in winter their skeletons of silvery limbs. With spring and summer we are inspired by the arrival of fresh green buds that transform into luscious fruits --what a brilliant testimony nature offers us to the transformational power of loss!<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Some suggestions for grieving the daily losses:<br /></strong></div>
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<li>Make a list of the losses (big and small) you have experienced in the past year.</li>
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<li>Review this list and circle the losses that you never took the time to grieve. Notice if any of these current losses have brought up unresolved grief from previous losses that need your attention now.</li>
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<li>Create a safe place in your home for your grieving and each day focus for 10-20 minutes on your grief, taking the time to turn toward each loss (only one at a time) and embrace whatever feelings may surface. You'll find suggestions for creating and using the sanctuary for grieving in my book Honoring Grief: Creating a Space to Let Yourself Heal.</li>
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<li>Explore whatever new perspectives or changes these losses have brought into your life. To help with this, ask yourself questions, such as: What brings me joy? How can I embrace life more fully? What is calling to me now in my life? What changes do I need to make in order for my life to truly sustain me?</li>
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<div><br /><strong><em>Alexandra Kennedy MA MFT </em></strong>is a psychotherapist in private practice and author of Honoring Grief, Losing a Parent, The Infinite Thread: Healing Relationships Beyond Loss, and How Did I Miss All This Before? Waking Up to the Magic of Our Ordinary Lives. Alexandra has been featured in national media and is a highly sought-after speaker. She has been on the faculty of John F Kennedy University, the University of California Santa Cruz Extension and the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. For more information on her work visit <a href="http://www.alexandrakennedy.com">www.alexandrakennedy.com</a>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span><strong></strong><em></em></div>
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2020-02-12T22:57:00Z
Seven Signs You Need a Soul Vacation
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Seven-Signs-You-Need-a-Soul-Vacation/-520397908323460538.html
2020-01-06T23:47:00Z
2020-01-06T23:47:00Z
<div><br /><strong><em>By Tami Green</em></strong></div>
<div><em><a href="http://www.tamigreen.com" target="_blank">www.tamigreen.com</a><strong></strong></em><br /><br /><br />From the cells in your calf muscles to your brain neurons, the same holds true: you use up energy, and then you need to refuel. How? You stop, rest, and nourish yourself.<br />We don't push ourselves to work out after running a marathon, and yet we often overlook our need for soul recovery.<br /><br />Just like the heart, the brain gets fatigued from too much time-on-task. "<em>If you overtax your heart, the next thing you need to do is relax, or you'll die</em>," says Jeff Stibel, CEO of Dun & Bradstreet Credibility Corp. and author of Wired for Thought, among other books. "<em>The same thing is true of the brain. Do too much, and you'll burn it out. You'll make bad choices.</em>"<br /><br />But what about your soul? The place that connects you more profoundly to Truth than your brain or body? The plane where you join up with the real reason you exist at all.<br /><br />Your soul calls you back to your purpose in life and your vision to get there. It sustains you well past projects and tasks and gives you guidance in decision making. The soul is different from the brain or body in that it doesn't actually get exhausted-it's there always and consistently routing for you. But we have to use periods of rest to unite with it again. Time to clear the mind, rest the body, and just sit.<br /><br />The first time I took a soul vacation, I was so exhausted from life that I had to drop off the earth for three years.<br /><br />It took me a long time to realize that I could accomplish a lot, have big goals and dreams, but not DO as much.<br /><br />I needed to practice staying connected to my true self so that I could focus on what was really important to me (not to everyone else around me, asking for things and things and things.) It's the place of refreshment, so everything makes sense again.<br /><br />Now, taking care of my soul is my priority. My life keeps getting better and better, and I plan to keep it that way.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Here are seven signs you may need a soul vacation:<br /></strong><br /><strong>1. You cuss more than usual.</strong><br /><br /><strong>2. When your to-do list is running your life rather than creating the life you love.</strong><br /><br /><strong>3. Your body feels off. </strong>You can wait to get sick, or you can act on the subtle signs that your body is not putting up with the sh*+ and needs rest.<br /><br /><strong>4. When problems start to become hard to deal with rather than fun to solve.</strong><br /><br /><strong>5. You miss the love and crucial moments in life and need to slow down so you can see it. </strong>My daughter told me yesterday, "<em>Mommy, I follow you around because I love you</em>." Thank you for pointing that out to me, little one.<br /><br /><strong>6. You don't feel inspired to create.</strong> For me, as a writer, this is the place where the words won't come, which feels like a sad little death.<br /><br /><strong>7. You fight more with your partner, friends, or family.</strong><br /><br /><br />What are the signs you need a soul vacation, my friend?<br /><br />Stress tends to be a vicious circle: you have a lot going on, so you don't make time for yourself. You don't make time for yourself, so you can't problem-solve or run your relationships effectively. This leads to more stress, more messes to clean up. So before you get there, take time to refresh in the small moments each day. Close your eyes, and put your headphones on, call your mom, look at a picture of those you love.<br /><br />Learn to listen to your soul's calling to take even more time off, to sit in the sunshine, and center yourself.<br /><br />Your soul is the place where you connect with your unique brilliance, power, and purpose. Stay there.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Tami Green</strong></em>, America's most respected life coach, has received magical endorsements by experts from Harvard and Baylor University and the past president of the American Psychiatric Association. She received her coaching certification from Oprah's enchanting life coach, Dr. Martha Beck. She is a brilliant coach who has helped thousands achieve an exhilarated life through her coaching, classes, and conferences. To see more tips like these, visit her website: <a href="https://www.tamigreen.com/" target="_blank">https://www.tamigreen.com/</a> and join her self-help community at <a href="https://tami-green.mn.co/" target="_blank">https://tami-green.mn.co/</a>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span><strong></strong><em></em></div>
Staff
2020-01-06T23:47:00Z
The Gift of Embracing Our Daily Losses
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Gift-of-Embracing-Our-Daily-Losses/-224115182380004940.html
2019-12-11T09:23:00Z
2019-12-11T09:23:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By A<span>lexandra Kennedy MA MFT</span><strong> </strong><em> </em></strong><br /><span><a href="http://www.alexandrakennedy.com">www.alexandrakennedy.com</a></span><strong> </strong><em> </em><br /><br /><br /><em>The Way is gained by daily loss. Chuang Tzu</em></p>
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<div>Over a lifetime we will experience many losses. In every stage of life, losing, leaving and letting go are essential parts of our ever-changing world. We cannot save ourselves, nor those we love, from the sorrow that is part of life. Family members die, friends drop away, cherished possessions are lost. <br /><br /></div>
<div>Our children grow up and leave home. We lose spouses and partners to divorce or death; sometimes we lose them emotionally long before. As we age, we will be faced with the grief of unfulfilled dreams. Daily we experience disappointments, rejections, failures, mistakes, setbacks, mishaps- all the little losses that are a part of our every day living.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>When we are fully alive we embrace both our joys and our sorrows.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>We are tempted to think we can avoid the pain of loss if we keep busy, that we can close our hearts a little to protect ourselves. However, it is the ungrieved losses that take their toll on our hearts and deaden us. We forget that even these, as difficult as they may be, are connected to our vitality and growth.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Every year nature in her cycle of seasons shows us the vital connection between the contraction of fall, the empty quiet of winter, the expansion of spring and the fertility of summer. In the fall, the life force withdraws into the roots; over winter the growth in the deep, dark underground is what supports the new growth in the spring, followed by the bursting out of fruit, flowers and vegetables in the summer. Likewise, loss invites us into our depths so that in time new possibilities can break forth.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Loss makes room for something new. When embraced through our grieving, loss can expand, empower, enrich, transform, and inspire us.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>When we open to the daily losses, we make room in our hearts. We gain strength to grieve when a major loss shakes our world. If we pay attention to small losses, we may find that they tap into that well of grief we hold inside-that well of grief connects us to our Source. Periodically take time to review your daily losses and then grieve them. Pay attention when a current loss brings up one from the past that is unresolved. Grieve that loss. Don't talk yourself out of feeling your grief. Then explore the new perspectives and choices that these losses have brought into our lives. Embracing this grief will keep your heart spacious and open to life.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Grief is wise. It knows what you need to feel whole again.</strong><br /><br /></div>
<div>In opening to grief over our daily losses, big and small, we experience both the exquisite beauty and sorrow of being fully alive. We savor the ordinary, simple moments. What a joy to simply watch the trees explode into brazen reds and coppery oranges just before their leaves drop away and expose in winter their skeletons of silvery limbs. With spring and summer we are inspired by the arrival of fresh green buds that transform into luscious fruits --what a brilliant testimony nature offers us to the transformational power of loss!<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Some suggestions for grieving the daily losses:</strong></div>
<ul>
<li>Make a list of the losses (big and small) you have experienced in the past year.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Review this list and circle the losses that you never took the time to grieve. Notice if any of these current losses have brought up unresolved grief from previous losses that need your attention now.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Create a safe place in your home for your grieving and each day focus for 10-20 minutes on your grief, taking the time to turn toward each loss (only one at a time) and embrace whatever feelings may surface. You'll find suggestions for creating and using the sanctuary for grieving in my book Honoring Grief: Creating a Space to Let Yourself Heal.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Explore whatever new perspectives or changes these losses have brought into your life. To help with this, ask yourself questions, such as: What brings me joy? How can I embrace life more fully? What is calling to me now in my life? What changes do I need to make in order for my life to truly sustain me?</li>
</ul>
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<div><em><strong>Alexandra Kennedy MA MFT </strong></em>is a psychotherapist in private practice and author of Honoring Grief, Losing a Parent, The Infinite Thread: Healing Relationships Beyond Loss, and How Did I Miss All This Before? Waking Up to the Magic of Our Ordinary Lives. Alexandra has been featured in national media and is a highly sought-after speaker. She has been on the faculty of John F Kennedy University, the University of California Santa Cruz Extension and the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. For more information on her work visit <a href="http://www.alexandrakennedy.com" target="_blank">www.alexandrakennedy.com</a>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </span></div>
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Staff
2019-12-11T09:23:00Z
4 Ways to Say No to Difficult People
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/4-Ways-to-Say-No-to-Difficult-People/471977434583707582.html
2019-10-18T17:18:00Z
2019-10-18T17:18:00Z
<div><br /><strong><em>By Tami Green</em></strong></div>
<div><em><a href="http://www.tamigreen.com" target="_blank">www.tamigreen.com</a><strong></strong></em><br /><br /><br />Just when I'm feeling Zen, confident I'm manifesting a beautiful life à la Law of Attraction, some-one in a bad mood or who is clearly not concerned about me enters my personal space and gets me completely off-kilter.<br /><br /></div>
<div>You know who I'm talking about-those who don't listen to you, push their way on you. They are so skilled that they make you question your desires, values, or goals as they charmingly persuade you to do their will.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Oh man. Really?<br /><br /></div>
<div>Ya, well, yes. Difficult people are everywhere and try as we may we can't avoid them. I know. I tried. Tried staying at home, attempted the single life, and purged my life of all the bad nuts.<br /><br /></div>
<div>And still, they found me.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Well, that didn't work.<br /><br /></div>
<div>I'm in no way trying to convince you to settle for problematic relationships. I am so much happier with more agreeable people in my life. Still, the world is full of challenging people we work with, share a house with, or have to call on the phone.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Here is your opportunity to practice radical acceptance, folks.</div>
<div><br />Once I accepted that I couldn't always stop them from making their way into my existence, I decided I would learn how to deal better with them. So I set out on a multi-year study of relationship and communication skills. I got quite good at both of them, and also got good at achieving what I want in this diverse world, pushy people and all.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Now I teach these skills to my clients.</div>
<div><br />I'm going to condense the best things I've learned about saying "<em>no</em>" to troublesome people into the four most useful things I've learned:</div>
<div><br /><br /><strong><em>1. Don't apologize.</em></strong></div>
<div><br />You have a right to say "<em>no</em>," and it isn't your responsibility to sacrifice your happiness for someone else. Be your enchanting, honest self, and say what you mean.</div>
<div><br /><br /><em><strong>2. Be confident.</strong></em><br /><br /></div>
<div>No back-pedaling. Just. Say. No. Okay, you can say "<em>no thank you</em>" to make it a little softer. But remain firm.</div>
<div><br /><br /><em><strong>3. Repeat it.</strong></em><br /><br /></div>
<div>Primarily when others have been taught to run over us, you'll need to do this often. They will try to distract you, make you feel guilty, charm you, whatever it takes to get their way. Keep repeating your "<em>no, thank you</em>" over and over again. You can add things like, "<em>we can talk about that other thing you are bringing up later, but right now I just want to focus on this one thing...my answer is no.</em>"<br /><br /><br /></div>
<div><em><strong>4. Keep a confident physical posture.</strong></em><br /><br /></div>
<div>I had a client come down for a week-long retreat with me-she was a doctor. She had grown up in backwoods in a trailer with no community or family support and managed to make her way through med school. I thought she was terrific-I was in awe of her.</div>
<div><br />But her body language still reflected that small disregarded child. And her colleagues were running over her because of it.<br /><br /></div>
<div>I sat on the couch next to her and showed her, exactly, how to have a confident posture. Sit up straight, shoulders back, and as my daughters and I say, "<em>Boobies Up</em>." Then I coached her how to look people in the eye and lean forward a little bit as she spoke with them. These small changes in posture gave her an air of confidence even when she didn't feel it inside.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Standing up for yourself is a practice, and you may not get it perfect the first time. That's okay. Start incorporating these ideas into your daily practice and notice what happens. You mostly will be amazed at the results. Other times it won't go well--view it a learning experience. Either way, you are about to unleash your most illuminating self.</div>
<div><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Tami Green</strong></em> has received powerful endorsements by experts from Harvard and Baylor University and the past president of the American Psychiatric Association. She received her coaching certification from life coach, Dr. Martha Beck. She is a brilliant coach who has helped thousands achieve an exhilarated life through her coaching, classes, and conferences. To see more tips like these, visit her website: <a href="https://www.tamigreen.com/" target="_blank">https://www.tamigreen.com/</a><span style="background-color: #ffffff;"> </span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</div>
Staff
2019-10-18T17:18:00Z
Four Keys to Starting Over on the Path to Inner Success
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Four-Keys-to-Starting-Over-on-the-Path-to-Inner-Success/-279121928447726146.html
2019-09-24T17:57:00Z
2019-09-24T17:57:00Z
<em><strong><br />By <strong><em>Guy Finley</em></strong></strong></em><br /><a href="http://www.guyfinley.org" target="_blank">www.guyfinley.org</a><a href="http://www.susanducharmehoben.com" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /><br />
<div>When we first set off on the road to self-discovery, we're optimistic and excited about this inner adventure. We're confident that we'll plant our flag atop the inner mountain, and that whatever presently limits us will soon be a relic of the past.<br /><br /></div>
<div>But then we get a dose of reality. Talk about tough sledding! Rather than becoming noticeably better, it can feel as if we're actually getting worse...like one step up the mountain, two steps sliding back. The bad habit we would break looms larger; frustration mounts; despair sets in; and soon we're thinking about throwing in the towel.<br /><br /></div>
<div>But things are not what they seem, which is why those of us who aspire to reach and realize our own highest possibilities must gain new self-knowledge, beginning with the following: we have not gotten worse! To the contrary: what's actually happened is that our effort to be free has made us more aware of our captive condition.<br /><br /></div>
<div>This is why we must have new and higher self-knowledge to avoid falling for the trick of negative inner voices that want us to see our self-exploration as useless. These deceptive thoughts and feelings arise from a conditioned level of consciousness that knows our growing discoveries spell its dismissal from our life. And so to knock us down, and off the path of self-discovery, it uses its last card: discouragement.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Of course we fall down many times along the upper path; to rise above ourselves takes reaching for what may be temporarily beyond our grasp. But the key word to remember here is "<em>temporarily.</em>" Nothing in the universe can keep a mind that wants to awaken from doing so! If we will stay the course, and persist with our inner work, we will learn that the only power those dark inner "<em>voices</em>" have is what we give them by listening to and believing in them.<br /><br /></div>
<div>The more we keep studying and moving forward, no matter what we see about ourselves, the more sure we can be of ultimately attaining the inner success we long for, with greater understanding, greater compassion, and greater alignment with higher transforming powers.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Above all, we must be willing to start over and over again with our self-study. And here we encounter a beautiful law that ensures our ultimate success:</div>
<div style="text-align: center;"><br /><em>Starting over is always possible because Now is always new.</em><br /><br /></div>
<div>In the present moment, life is continuously new, and so are we when we make the right choice. The inner negative voices that say we will never change come from habit and past experience, and not from reality in its perpetual newness. Seeing this gives us the strength to walk past feelings of failure and keep starting over on the path to self-discovery and true transformation.<br /><br /></div>
<div>To help you on this beautiful journey, here are four special insights on the power of starting over, no matter what the discouraging inner voices may be telling you about your potential to finally become your best self.<br /><br /><br /></div>
<div>1. <strong>The power to start over is built into reality itself.</strong></div>
<div>Life is constantly changing, bringing a new convergence of events. So work to see every unhappy ending or defeat as nothing more than a condition that is passing even as it appears. That's why there's no such thing as permanent defeat. The voice telling you that you are defeated is itself only an echo of a time that was - a time that is already gone. No unwanted event is the end of the story. Don't let the dark voices convince you that an echo in time has any power.<br /><br /></div>
<div>2. <strong>There's always more to know about yourself.<strong> </strong></strong></div>
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<div>Any feeling of failure brings with it the unconscious assumption that you know all there is to know about what has you bottled up. Pull the plug on this self-limitation by meeting every moment of self-defeat with the realization that there's no end to your ability to learn about yourself. Your ability to learn new things, see life more clearly, feel new love - is without limit. Keep yourself open.<strong><strong><br /><br /></strong></strong></div>
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<div>3. <strong><strong><strong>Question the source.</strong></strong></strong></div>
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<div>Just as the physical eye that sees can't see itself other than through a reflection, you cannot see your psychological self other than by gazing at mental images of your own creation. So, when you see yourself as a failure in your mind's eye, stop and remember where that image came from. The painful feelings will lose their force when you can see their root as arising from within your own conditioned self. Realizing that you unconsciously put that picture on the screen begins the inner healing that only real self-knowledge can provide. Now you can begin to see through, and dismiss, the lie of discouragement.<strong><strong><strong><br /><br /></strong></strong></strong></div>
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<div>4. <strong><strong><strong>Use revelations to start over - not get discouraged.</strong></strong></strong></div>
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<div>When some moment of self-study reveals to you how spiritually asleep you are, don't let that convince you all is lost. Instead, use that same moment to wake up and remember that you can always start your whole life over. You'll soon realize you don't have to listen to the inner voice calling you a loser. Make any shocking revelation the focus of deeper self-study, and not the filter through which you look at yourself.</div>
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<div><br />If we want to change we have to see where we are now. Can we sometimes be petty? A little jealous? Self-serving instead of compassionate of others? That's just the way humans are in our fallen estate. Don't identify with what you see and then think that's all that's possible for you. Instead, see these revelations as a needed step to self-perfection, like chipping away at the rough stone to reveal a perfectly cut diamond.<br /><br /></div>
<div>A basic truth underlying all such transformation is that life itself is constantly new and changing. Remember this and don't ever give in to the voices that tell you to give up. Instead, be open to life's newness. Keep starting over so it can polish you to perfection.</div>
<strong><strong> <br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Guy Finley</strong></em></strong></strong> is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and bestselling self-help author. He is the Founder and Director of <strong><em><a href="https://www.guyfinley.org/" target="_blank">Life of Learning Foundation</a></em></strong>, a nonprofit center for transcendent self-study located in Merlin, Oregon. He also hosts the Foundation's <em><strong><a href="https://www.guyfinley.org/wisdom-school.html" target="_blank">Wisdom School</a> </strong></em>- an on-line self-discovery program for seekers of higher self-knowledge. He is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go and 45 other books and audio programs that have sold over 2 million copies, in 26 languages, worldwide. Guy's latest book <strong><em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Magic-Waking-Up-Together/dp/0738754099" target="_blank">Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together</a></em></strong> applies decades of spiritual wisdom to practical relationship challenges, transforming any relationship from mundane to magical! <a href="http://www.guyfinley.org" target="_blank">www.guyfinley.org</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<strong><strong><br /></strong></strong>
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2019-09-24T17:57:00Z
7 Ways to Move from Grief to Gratitude When Death Comes Calling
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/7-Ways-to-Move-from-Grief-to-Gratitude-When-Death-Comes-Calling/-36107916829996121.html
2019-09-06T18:23:00Z
2019-09-06T18:23:00Z
<p><br /><strong><em>By Susan Ducharme Hoben</em><br /><a href="http://www.susanducharmehoben.com" target="_blank">www.susanducharmehoben.com</a></strong></p>
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<div>We may intellectually accept that death is normal and inevitable, but it doesn't feel that way when it comes knocking on your door. My family was forced to come to grips with mortality when my husband Bruce was diagnosed with an aggressive stage 4 cancer.<br /><br /></div>
<div>While we may think of bereavement as happening after someone's death, for us it started when we accepted that Bruce was dying. That acceptance allowed us to focus our energies on achieving the peaceful end-of-life experience that he wanted. On Bruce's journey I learned many powerful life-affirming lessons about finding gratitude in the face of death.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Here are 7 lessons that can bring peace and even a sense of joy to what appears to be the most heart wrenching experience we can ever face.<br /><br /></div>
<div><em><strong>1. Know what a peaceful end-of-life experience means</strong></em> <br />At the end of life most of us want to have closure. We want to share our stories and wisdom, say meaningful goodbyes, know that our life had meaning, that we will be remembered, and that our loved ones will be ok. It's important to describe what that looks like in your personal situation and what matters most to you at the end. Having goals and working towards them will provide an important feeling of purpose and achievement for everyone involved.</div>
<div><br /><strong><em>2. Manage the fear of the unknown</em></strong><br />If you have not thought about death, fear of the unknown can lead to anxiety and distress. Bruce's fear of not being able to breathe was calmed when he learned that morphine would control shortness of breath. We didn't know that the body has an orderly shutdown process that makes it predictable what will happen and when. Knowing what to expect and what can ease the end-of-life journey will help everyone feel more confident and prepared.</div>
<div><br /><strong><em>3. Remove barriers to getting the desired care </em></strong><br />Our healthcare system can result in end-of-life care that is aggressive, expensive and not aligned with patient preferences. Avoiding painful and unwanted treatments requires constant championing. Having an advocate working on your behalf to ensure your decisions are honored will provide a much-needed feeling of control.</div>
<div><br /><strong><em>4. Take a real walk down memory lane </em></strong><br />Bruce and I visited his hometown where he retold the stories of his childhood standing in the places where they actually happened. Reminiscing about these fond memories brought the joy of those past moments into the present. Encouraging loved ones to share stories will also help affirm that their life mattered and will always be present in the hearts of the ones still here.<br /><br /></div>
<div><strong><em>5. Gather family and friends to celebrate a life well-lived </em></strong><br />Bruce was the guest of honor at his own "Irish Wake" where family members shared laughter and tears as they told stories of their time together. His colleagues roasted him with funny anecdotes and heartwarming tributes of what he meant to them. Gathering with family, friends and colleagues demonstrated to Bruce that his life had profound meaning, and that he would be remembered. Their outpouring of love and respect stayed with him until the end and will stay with me for the rest of my life.<br /><br /></div>
<div><em><strong>6. Recreate treasured times together </strong></em> <br />We took our children and grandchildren to a beach house for a week, allowing Bruce (and us) to do the things he loved to do. Every afternoon we reflected on joyous moments of the day, recalling memories and emotions from many happy times spent near the ocean. The memories themselves, as well as the sharing of them, brought all of us joy and comfort.<br /><br /></div>
<div><em><strong>7. Leave nothing left unsaid</strong></em><br />We all want to die without regrets. Ideally we would do that by living without regrets. But if there is a need to make amends or acknowledge what someone has done for you, it's vital to do that before you run out of time. Our minister told Bruce and I to use these words liberally: I forgive you. Please forgive me for any ways we may have hurt each other. Thank you for your presence in my life. I love you. You can use any words that feel right for you, as long as they impart a sense of love, compassion and resolution.</div>
<div><br />Grief is a normal and important part of coping with death. However, there are ways we can soften its sting, and even welcome and embrace joy and celebration. The most powerful antidote to grief is being grateful for a life well-lived and for the people who supported and affirmed us.</div>
<div><br />With Bruce setting the tone, we helped him live fully to the very end. His last two-an-a-half months were some of the most celebratory, peaceful, and intimate we had shared during our forty-six years together. The feeling of gratitude, years later, has not abated for me, his family or his friends, and has provided a powerful and healing path for future generations to come.<br /><br /><br /></div>
<div><br /><em><strong>Susan Ducharme Hoben</strong></em> is an award-winning author of <em><a href="https://susanducharmehoben.com/product/dying-well---our-journey-of-love-and-loss" target="_blank">Dying Well: Our Journey of Love and Loss</a></em> and renowned advocate for choosing the path of a peaceful end-of-life. Her insights challenge and inspire us to fundamentally shift our perspective on death. She is a sought-after media expert and has appeared on national media outlets, including NBC and ABC, and Sirius XM/Doctor Radio. Connect with Susan on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/SusanDucharmeHobenAuthor/" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. To review additional articles and for more information on her work visit <a href="http://www.susanducharmehoben.com" target="_blank">www.susanducharmehoben.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </div>
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2019-09-06T18:23:00Z
The Unusual 3-Step Method for Making a Difference While Grieving
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Unusual-3-Step-Method-for-Making-a-Difference-While-Grieving/-168507064323563210.html
2019-08-23T18:23:00Z
2019-08-23T18:23:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Gary Roe</strong><br /><a href="https://www.garyroe.com/" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a></p>
<div><br />Loss hurts. Grief is challenging. How we handle life's changes and hardships matters - both to us and to those around us.<br /><br />As a grief specialist, I believe that there are four main keys to healing from loss: </div>
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<li>Taking good care of ourselves</li>
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<div>Most people have heard of the first three. When I mention, "<em>Grief breaks,</em>" however, I tend to get furrowed brows and tilted heads.<br /><br />If you are grieving, you need breaks. You need time away from the constant emotional heaviness and mental exhaustion. No heart can handle the full onslaught of grief all the time.<br /><br /></div>
<div>The best grief breaks I've found involve invisible people.</div>
<div><br />Invisible people are all around us in daily life. They fly under the radar. They're everywhere, but they usually escape our notice.</div>
<div><br />Cashiers, food service workers, and janitorial staff. Landscapers, construction workers, and sanitation truck drivers. Supermarket shoppers, grocery stockers, and deli workers. Bus drivers, mass transit employees, and customer service personnel. Most of us blow past these people and hardly even know they're there.</div>
<div><br />These often-invisible people have names. They have families and people they love and care about. They have talents, interests, and passions. They have hearts. They have heartaches. Chances are they tussle with worry, fear, emotional pain, and guilt. Many of them are dealing with a loss of some kind.</div>
<div><br />If you're hurting, you can make a real difference in the lives of often-invisible people while providing some grief relief for yourself.</div>
<div><br />Here's how: <br /><br /><strong>1. See the invisible people around you. <br /></strong><br />Make the choice to take a break. Breathe deeply. Get out. Set your mind to deliberately notice the people you encounter.<br /><br />Observe them. Faces. Eyes. Body postures. Notice what they're wearing and what they're doing (without judging either). This forces you out of your own head and eases you into the present moment. At that instant, you are living life in the here and now.<br /><br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>2. Engage with the invisible people around you.</strong><br /><br />Now, take the next step. Engage. Let them know you've seen them. <br /> <br />Greet them. Many have name tags. Notice their name and use it.<br /><br /> There is power in a person's name. When we call someone by name, we're saying, "<em>I not only see you, but I care enough to learn your name.</em>"<br /><br />By using their name, we're sending another message: "<em>You matter.</em>"<br /><br /> Each person is one of a kind in human history. There has never been another individual exactly like them, and there never will be again. Unique. Valuable. Significant. Priceless.<br /><br /> See them. Take an interest. Engage. Find out their name - and use it.</div>
<div><strong><br /><br />3. Affirm the invisible people around you.<br /></strong><br />See them. Engage. Then find a way to affirm and encourage them.</div>
<div><br />Our world tends to be negative. Most people feel judged, evaluated, and picked apart on a daily basis. Life is hard. Challenges are everywhere. Obstacles abound.<br /><br /></div>
<div>A kind word can cut through the heaviness of life like a hot knife through butter. A thoughtful affirmation can have stunning, life-altering impact.<br /><br /></div>
<div>In my work with hospice, I frequently visit assisted living and skilled nursing facilities. After seeing my patients, I always look for the cleaning staff.<br /><br /></div>
<div>"<em>Thank you for all you do. You're more important than you know.</em>"<br /><br /></div>
<div>"<em>You're the reason this place smells so good.</em>"<br /><br /></div>
<div>"<em>Keep up the great work. We can't do this without you.</em>"<br /><br /></div>
<div>Their responses are priceless. Stunned looks. Open-mouthed stares. Embarrassed but delighted grins. I've even gotten tears and emotional hugs.<br /><br /></div>
<div>What did I do? Not much. I simply decided to see them. I used their name. I found a way to affirm them.<br /><br /></div>
<div>You can make someone's day, week, or month in less than 10 seconds. Set your mind to enter their world for just a moment. Find a way to say, "<em>I see you. You matter.</em>"</div>
<div>The results can be extraordinary, not only for them, but for you.</div>
<div><br /><br /><strong>A new resolve. </strong></div>
<div><br />As we begin to see the often-invisible people around us, something happens inside us. Our hearts expand. A new resolve develops.<br /><br /></div>
<div>We don't have to live as victims of what happens to us.<br /><br /></div>
<div>We can choose to live as people who see, engage, and affirm.<br /><br /></div>
<div>We can be people who care and love, no matter what.<br /><br /></div>
<div>We can turn our pain into purpose. We can use our grief for good.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Most grieving hearts feel misunderstood. Perhaps you feel judged, rejected, and abandoned. Maybe you feel like a shadow of our former self. You might even feel invisible.<br /><br /></div>
<div>What's the antidote?</div>
<div><br />Give away what you need. Make the choice to see, engage, and affirm the often-invisible people out there.<br /><br /></div>
<div>As you do, you'll often be seen in return.<br /><br /></div>
<div>The world needs you, even when you're hurting.</div>
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<p><br /><strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Gary Roe</a></strong>, an award-winning author, speaker, and grief specialist is a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/comfort-for-grieving-hearts/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get a free excerpt of his new book, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Grieving-Hearts-Encouragement-Times-ebook/dp/B07CPY9ZS1" target="_blank">Comfort for Grieving Hearts</a></em>. For more information visit <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2019-08-23T18:23:00Z
Challenge the New Family Gaps in Your Community Seven Strategies for Comfort, Encouragement, Guidance and Support
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Challenge-the-New-Family-Gaps-in-Your-Community-Seven-Strategies-for-Comfort,-Encouragement,-Guidance-and-Support/987103773795209644.html
2019-08-12T17:59:00Z
2019-08-12T17:59:00Z
<p><strong><br />By Jane I. Honikman, MS</strong><br /><a href="http://www.janehonikman.com" target="_blank">www.janehonikman.com</a> <br /><br /><br />I initiated a radical social concept in the 1970s with my friends to support new families in our community. We believed men and women shared equally in the conception, birthing and raising of our children. There was a community gap, however, in our transition from couple-hood to parenthood. We wanted change.<br /><br />Our existing community where we lived, worked, learned, prayed, and played was disrupted when our babies were born. We were struggling young parents, away from our families, and inundated with professional advice. What we lacked was a supportive environment where we could share our highs and lows, and not be judged or criticized when we admitted to feeling overwhelmed, scared, or inadequate. <br /><br />It was about making friends, learning about community resources, and gaining confidence as new parents. We founded Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP). This volunteer organization has been sustained since 1977 by trained volunteers. Its success is based on a simple approach. Parents need and deserve nonjudgmental emotional support. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Identify your honesty GAP:</strong> The truth about your pre-pregnancy past matters. At conception each partner brings a personal history to the womb through DNA and life experiences. It is important to speak openly about your past and future expectations. While this may feel scary it is a conversation worth having. </li>
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<li><strong>Identify GAPS in your transition to parenthood: </strong>The first step is to connect with those who are having similar experiences. During pregnancy there are midwives or doctors caring for you. Do you have opportunities to make new couple friends who are also pregnant? </li>
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<li><strong>Identify GAPS in your conversations:</strong> Ask yourselves if you are talking about any challenges, decisions and fears you might have about becoming new parents. Both men and women have hormonal shifts during pregnancy. Has your midwife or doctor mentioned how these changes affect your moods? </li>
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<li><strong>Identify the pregnancy disconnect GAP:</strong> Pregnancy is a window of opportunity. Community agencies exist to provide a sense of belonging and security. Isolation and struggling alone are not healthy for the relationship with your unborn child and for you as a couple. Parents-to-be should be referred to local support resources before difficulties develop. </li>
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<li><strong>Identify your peer support network GAP: </strong>Social interactions are essential for optimum physical and mental health. When offered the chance new parents will build lasting friendships and strong personal relationships through peer connections. Every community should offer social support opportunities.</li>
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<li><strong>Identify your postpartum professional help GAP: </strong>During pregnancy, the medical system gives the mother and your unborn baby routine care. Is the father involved? What happens after the baby arrives? The focus shifts to the newborn. If either parent requires mental health intervention, what happens? </li>
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<li><strong>Identify the shared parenting GAP:</strong> Nurturing yourselves and your children takes time, patience and commitment. A healthy family means sharing the work and pleasures of family life with others. Good parental mental health leads to a beautiful community. Is this happening for your new families?</li>
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<p><br />For over forty years I have witnessed the development, dynamics and growth of family support networks. Their emphasis is a non-medical approach to ease the adjustment to parenthood through social support. Through actively listening to parents' concerns and frustrations appropriate referrals to professionals and resources can take place. The continuity of care for new parents is the key towards prevention, early intervention and optimum treatment of stress and illness. <br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Jane Honikman, M.S.</strong></em> co-founded <a href="https://www.sbpep.org/" target="_blank">Postpartum Education for Parents(PEP)</a>, co-founded the <a href="http://www.postpartumaction.org/" target="_blank">Postpartum Action Institute</a>, and founded <a href="https://www.postpartum.net/" target="_blank">Postpartum Support International (PSI)</a>. Jane wrote the <a href="http://praeclaruspress.com/" target="_blank">Community Support for New Families</a>, I'm Listening: A Guide to Supporting Postpartum Families; My Diary: A Postpartum Journey from Pain to Purpose; Postpartum Action Manual: How to Provide Comfort, Encouragement, and Guidance to New Families. For more information visit <a href="http://janehonikman.com/" target="_blank">www.janehonikman.com</a>. You can also follow Jane on Facebook. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2019-08-12T17:59:00Z
3 Ways to Change Your Life Right Now
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/3-Ways-to-Change-Your-Life-Right-Now/472316205427020526.html
2019-07-30T17:48:00Z
2019-07-30T17:48:00Z
<p><strong><br />By: Whitney Freya</strong><br /><a href="https://WhitneyFreya.com" target="_blank">WhitneyFreya.com</a><strong><a href="https://WhitneyFreya.com" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /></strong><br />We all have an area of our life where we want to experience change? Whether you want to find new love, get physically fit, change careers, move to a new home or learn a new skill, there are three simple steps you can follow that will absolutely guarantee new results! <br /> <br /><br /><strong>#1 Way to Change Your Life: Shift Your Perspective</strong><br /><br /><br />At any given moment we are either looking at life through the lens of fear or love. Wherever you are not experiencing life the way you want is being viewed through fear. Want more money? You are afraid of not having enough? What to find true love? You are afraid of being alone. Want to lose weight? You are afraid you won't. <br /><br />That's ok. Right now, shift your perspective. <br /><br />What are you excited to do with more money? What are all the ways you love YOU? What are all the fun things you are going to do with your new love? Do those now. Focus on all the fun things you are going to do with your new energy and strength when you lose the weight. Fall in love with getting to change your diet or to meet new people at the gym, the beach, etc. <br /><br />On another note, has life been super challenging in certain areas where you desire change? Maybe you have experienced depression, abuse, addiction or poverty. Because of your past, you (understandably) do not believe what you desire is available to you. You are afraid life can't change, that you are not worthy or don't have what <em>"it"</em> takes. Again, shift your perspective from fear to love. <br /><br />This isn't necessarily easy, AND it is available to you. How do you appreciate the happy moments now because you know what it is like to feel so low? How are you more compassionate with others because you know the feeling of helplessness. How are you stronger for overcoming your addictions? What have you learned about yourself as a result of enduring and surviving your past experiences? <br /><br />We learn best through contrast. You have gotten to experience one <em>"side of the coin"</em> so that you can now experience the other. <br /><br />Shift your perspective from fear to love and change has to begin. <br /><br /><br /><strong>#2 Way to Change Your Life: Stay Open to Possibility </strong><br /><br /><br />It is very common to take our experiences up until now and decide change is not available to us.<br /><br />We label. We seal up our stories in a box and nail the lid shut. This is how I am. This is how my brain works. I am not good at this. I can't do that. Done. Finished. We leave no opening for change. Again, it's your choice and you can do whatever you want. Is that what you want? <br /><br />Here are three magical words that can open any "<em>box</em>," no matter how completely the lid has been nailed shut.<br /><br /><em>"Up until now...." </em><br /><em>"Up until now... I have not felt this change is available to me."</em><br /><em>"Up until now...I have not experienced success in this area." </em><br /><br />Imagine if your 2 year old self decided that you could not ever learn to walk. You had stood up and fallen down so many times. What did you do? Your little self had yet to learn labels or limitation. You kept trying. All you knew was that you wanted to walk. The desire was there and that was enough for you. Ultimately, you walked. <br /><br />What changed? You started believing what you observed, heard...what you were told. You got into your head. Things became logical. You needed proof. Logic took over your heart. <br /><br />If the desire for change is there, it is possible. Get curious. <br /><br /><em>"I don't know how this is going to change AND I am super curious about how this will happen." </em><br /><br /><em>"I wonder how I am going to... find the money, get the courage, meet the person, find the new job, lose the weight...?" </em><br /><br />No matter what your experience has been up until now, there is always the possibility for change. <br /><br /><br /><strong>#3 Way to Change Your Life: Take Steps Towards What You Want NOW<br /></strong><br /><br />Now that you are looking at the change you desire from a place of love and are open to all the ways this change can happen, it is time to simply take one step towards this future vision now. <br /><br />What is one itty bitty thing you can do now that is in alignment with the change you want to experience? Stay in the moment. Often we project ahead to our desired destination from where and judge the distance to be too far away. We get overwhelmed and decide it is not available to us. <br /><br />It would be like wanting to hike a mountain peak to see the view and, while we are still in the foothills, try to understand what every part of the path will look like, if we will be tired, get a blister, etc. So we stop because the length of the journey contains too many unknowns. All we really need to do in that moment is take one step forward. <br /><br />Right now, what action can you take that is pointed in the direction of the change you want to experience? <br /><br />In my work with clients I use the canvas as the self-awareness modality. We want to paint a "<em>masterpiece</em>" and since we have never painted a masterpiece we never even start painting. We believe we don't know how to draw, paint shadows, paint faces, etc. instead of just taking the easiest action in the moment. The first step is always just to paint. Make a mark, then another and another. Allow yourself to stay present and keep making your mark. One brush stroke at a time, you will find yourself standing back to witness your masterpiece. <br /><br />We all get stuck. That's ok. The only question for you now is, "<em>What do you want?</em>" Follow these three steps and you will get there. Enjoy the journey! <br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Whitney Freya</strong></em> is an expert in Inspired Living, providing practical tools & practices that free your mind from limitations and scarcity to create more in your life that lights you up from the inside out. Learn more at <a href="https://WhitneyFreya.com" target="_blank">www.WhitneyFreya.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2019-07-30T17:48:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: 'The Secret Life of Pets 2'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Kid-Focused-Movie-Review:-The-Secret-Life-of-Pets-2/-362926988826595232.html
2019-07-08T17:58:00Z
2019-07-08T17:58:00Z
<p><strong><br />By: Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /><br /></strong><strong><br />Overall Kid Focused grade: C+<br /></strong><strong>Rated PG<br /></strong><strong>Running time: 1 hour, 26 minutes <br /><br /></strong></p>
<p>Canine Max (voiced by Patton Oswalt) has settled into his new family life since the 2016 hit '<em><a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2709768/" target="_blank">The Secret Life of Pets</a></em>.' Max has taken the role of protector of his human parents' young child seriously, so much so that it has anxiety ruling his life. <br /><br />Set in present-day New York City, the story begins with Max concluding, "<em>Once humans bring a kid home, life is not the same.</em>" Max, who already struggles with anxiety, grows so protective of his little brother that he becomes unhinged. <br /><br />While the first '<em>Secret Life of Pets</em>' focused on what pets do while their human parents are away, there are three plots simultaneously going on in the sequel. Max travels with his family on vacation, where he must confront his fears. One of his friends back home must work to retrieve a favorite toy that Max has left to her safekeeping. Yet more friends work to free an abused circus animal, a tiger named Hu. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>The positives: </strong>As in the original, the film shines when showing the different animals' unique quirks and personalities. It's fun to see what pets really think when they visit the vet, ride in cars, or are in unfamiliar territory. Unlike many recent kids' movies, the crude and rude humor is at a minimum in this film as well. </li>
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<li><strong>The negatives:</strong> There are some scary sounds and images for young children- loud music and aggressive animals; scenes showing circus animal cruelty; and in one scene a cat is high on catnip. While the beginning of the movie is good, the second half lags, as in checking the time to see when the already short film might end. </li>
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<li><strong>Themes to discuss with children:</strong> It is good to get out of our comfort zones and meet new people. It's also a good opportunity to underscore the value of teamwork. </li>
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<p><br />My 11-year-old attended the movie with me and her first thoughts once it ended were: "I<em> liked the comedy, but I think (the name of her 4-year-old cousin) would be scared.</em>" '<em>The Secret Life of Pets</em>' is recommended for kids age 8 and older, but if you don't make it to the big screen, it can wait for you to watch it on video.</p>
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<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> Julie Samrick is the founder of Kid Focused and a published author. Connect with her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/KidFocusedcom-209494072409111/?ref=bookmarks" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/JulieSamrick?s=17" target="_blank">Twitter</a>. You may write to her at <a href="mailto:julieswrites@gmail.com" target="_blank">julieswrites@gmail.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2019-07-08T17:58:00Z
5 Tips For Having More Impact Than You Thought Possible
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2019-05-30T18:15:00Z
2019-05-30T18:15:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Gary Roe</strong><br /><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a><br /><br /></p>
<p>We're frustrated. <br /><br />We smile and say, "<em>I'm fine.</em>" Inside, however, we're churning. Our minds are spinning. We sense we're going in circles. We're tired.<br /><br />Life is busy. Our world is noisy and demanding. We carry a mental to-do list a mile long. Relational, vocational, financial, emotional, and physical issues come knocking frequently. Guilt from past failures and missed opportunities weighs on us. Seething underneath it all is the fear of what might happen based on what has happened. <br /><br />All this produces a frantic routine of distracted, fragmented living.<br /><br />Deep down we know something is amiss. We need to be continually reminded that we're here for a purpose. We're designed to be impact people. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Tip #1: Decide what kind of impact you want to have.</strong><br /><br />If we don't know where we're going, we might end up somewhere we don't want to be.<br /><br />Extrapolate forward and look at the end of your life. When all is said and done, what kind of impact do you want to have made?<br /><br />Don't complicate this. Keep it simple. Limit it to one phrase or short sentence. Don't make it something to do but rather more about what kind of person you want to be. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Tip #2: Become an avid listener. </strong><br /><br />Difference makers listen. They're interested in other people. They intentionally get out of their own heads and enter the world of the person in front of them. <br /><br />Sadly, listening has become a lost art. Most of us fake it well. We smile and nod while we wait for a chance to say what we're thinking. <br /><br />Positive impact people, however, refuse to make life about themselves. Difference makers' thoughts and routines are consistently about other people and the greater good. <br /><br />Developing a difference-making heart begins with practicing the discipline of listening.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Tip #3: Become a person of greater integrity.</strong><br /><br />I say "become" because none of us has arrived at the magical place of 100% integrity. We're all in process. We're learning. <br /><br />What does it mean to have integrity? <br /><br />Integrity flows from being an integrated person - whole and undivided. What you see is what you get. No hidden agendas. No nefarious intent. No manipulative motivations. Consistent honesty, authenticity, and trustworthiness. <br /><br />People of integrity are truthful, sincere, honorable, humble, and safe. Their words and actions match. They know why they're here and what they're about. <br /><br />It's not about being perfect. We all stumble in many ways. Difference makers get up quickly and continue on the road to becoming whole, undivided people who consistently resist the current of self-focused, distracted living. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Tip #4: Make life about serving others.</strong><br /><br />Life is about relationships. Getting out of our own heads and entering another's world brings perspective and cultivates wisdom. <br /><br />When we walk with others in their stuff (even for a few moments), life looks different. We see more of the big picture. Our souls rise from the sideline and become more fully engaged. <br /><br />Genuine service also promotes healing of our own wounds. It's hard to be involved in soul-engaged service and still live in the past. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Tip #5: Be patient with yourself (and others).</strong><br /><br />We're going to fail - often. The key is learning to fail forward. It's not what we did that matters most now, but what we do next. <br /><br />We can't afford to let the glitches, mistakes, and past pain derail us. Life is too precious, and the stakes are too high. <br /><br />Hold things loosely. Release things quickly. Travel lighter than ever before. Be patient with yourself. <br /><br />Breathe deeply. Keep your eye on the goal. Don't make things about you. Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Let the burdens go. Extend to others the patience and kindness you would want them to extend to you. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Have the impact you were designed for.</strong><br /><br />Do you want to have the impact you were designed for? Decide what kind of impact you want to have. Whatever that is, it will involve listening well, pursuing greater integrity, and serving others for the greater good. Your life isn't about you. It's about us. <br /><br />Take heart. Life is a one-small-step-at-a-time affair. Take the next step.<br /><br />And then the next.<br /><br />And the next...<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Gary Roe</a></em></strong> is an award-winning author, speaker, and grief specialist. His compassionate and trusted voice who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/comfort-for-grieving-hearts/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get a free excerpt of his new book, <em>Comfort for Grieving Hearts</em>. For more information visit <a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2019-05-30T18:15:00Z
3 Steps to Inspired Living
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2019-05-12T20:55:00Z
2019-05-12T20:55:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Whitney Freya</strong><br /><a href="https://WhitneyFreya.com" target="_blank">WhitneyFreya.com</a><br /><br /><br /></p>
<p>The word inspire means "<em>spirit within.</em>" <br /><br />Does your spirit shine through on a day to day basis? <br /><br />Do you feel lit up from the inside out? You've had moments, right? <br /><br />Is it possible to live each day centered in this state of flow, optimism, and fearlessness? I believe it is.<br /><br />Our super hectic, over-scheduled, high-stress modern world has created the perfect tipping point for us right now. We can see more clearly than ever that life's demands can bury your light or provide the optimal springboard to choose a life lived with your heart light shining brightly!<br /><br />Without making a conscious choice about how you live, life can clearly feel super overwhelming. <br /><br />OR...<br /><br />You can choose to take back your right to live inspired, liberated from others' expectations, the roles you play, and your past.<br /><br />I have made it my life's purpose to guide as many people to this inspired state as possible! Here are your first three steps to Living Inspired! <br /><br />Each of these three steps builds upon the other. Once you accept and integrate step #1, you can go on to step #2 and the shifts you made in step #1 will inspire your second step, and so on.<br /><br /><strong>#1 Remember that life is an inside-out job. </strong><br />Have you ever found that one thing, that one number, or title that made everything "<em>all better?</em>" No. There can never be anything OUTSIDE of you that brings you deep satisfaction. Cultivating a rich, liberated and free inner life is possible when you remember that your life's experience originates within your thoughts, expectations, beliefs and stories. <br /><br />Next time something happens in your day that triggers you, take a moment, breathe deeply, choose how you want to feel RIGHT NOW, and then illuminate the situation you are currently facing with this feeling. Do you choose compassion, understanding, wisdom, gratitude...? Feel yourself centered in this energy, free from reacting negatively to external circumstances, and in a state of allowance.<br /><br /><br /><strong>#2 Act on the truth that everything is energy. </strong><br />You have probably heard different people or activities as "<em>high vibration</em>" or "<em>low vibration.</em>" High vibration is light and expansive, happy, joyful, compassionate, free, liberated, centered and fearless. Low vibration is heavy, stressful, worrisome, anxious, sad, lonesome or hopeless. There is an infinite spectrum of feelings between the two. <br /><br />When life is bringing you down next, ask yourself "<em>What can I do to raise my vibration?</em>" Resist analyzing the situation, searching for ways it should be different, or succumbing to feelings of futility. Instead, simply focus on what you can do right now to make you feel better. Instead of calling up a friend to re-hash the injustice done to you, get outside, meditate, make cookies, take a bubble bath, play music, paint, dance, take a walk...whatever will GIVE you energy, rather than deplete it. <br /><br /><br /><strong>#3 Ask who is steering your "ship," your mind or your heart.</strong> <br />"<em>The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.</em>" ~Robin Sharma<br /><br />Now that you remember that life proceeds in alignment with your inner light and that your life's creative medium is ENERGY, you are able to choose to live life guided by your heart. <br /><br />You remember a choice you made that FELT wrong, but it seemed right from a logical perspective? It was the practical, safe, accepted route to take, right?<br /><br />Now, remember a choice you made that just FELT so, so right-even though it "<em>made no sense.</em>" Any regrets?<br /><br />Positive feelings are being felt to encourage you to continue in that direction and negative feelings are to encourage you to look in another direction.<br /><br />The heart is the emotional center. The mind is the thinking center. <br /><br />You are not meant to feel inspired, lit up, free, liberated...and then turn to your mind and ask, "<em>Can I have this, do this, be this...?</em>" That is where most of us get stuck. <br /><br />Inspired Living is created one choice at a time. It is the reward of getting to know yourself better and centering yourself in thoughts, experiences and relationships that are in alignment with what lights you up from the inside out! Ask yourself in this moment, "<em>What can I do now that will INSPIRE me?</em>"<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Whitney Freya</strong></em> is an expert in Inspired Living, providing practical tools & practices that free your mind from limitations and scarcity to create more in your life that lights you up from the inside out. Learn more at <a href="https://WhitneyFreya.com" target="_blank">WhitneyFreya.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2019-05-12T20:55:00Z
5 Common Myths about Grief
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2019-04-18T16:55:00Z
2019-04-18T16:55:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Gary Roe</strong><br /><a href="https://www.garyroe.com/" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a><br /><br /><br />I was four years old. I had just experienced bullying for the first time. I was shocked, confused, sad, and angry.<br /><br />I was grieving. <br /><br />I had other disappointments before that, and I've had many since. More bullying, conflicts, failures, break-ups, rejections, estrangements, losses, and deaths. Each time, I experienced that heavy assault of shock, sadness, confusion, and anger. <br /><br />In some cases, the hurt went deeper, and bored its way into my heart. These deeper wounds came with added upset, anxiety, fear, and even depression. <br /><br />When we hear the word "<em>grief</em>," most of us think of death. Grief, however, is the response of our hearts to any loss. Though everywhere, grief it's one of those things we would rather not talk about. <br /><br />When something isn't talked about, a stigma often becomes attached to it. When it comes to grief, myths abound. <br /><br />Here are five common myths about grief.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Myth #1: Grief is something to be conquered and overcome. </strong><br />When we view grief as something to be conquered, we've labeled it an enemy. Like some unwelcome villain, it lurks in the shadows to attack us and steal our happiness.<br /><br />In reality, grief is a natural response to any real or perceived loss of any kind. Our expectations are shattered. Life has surprised us. We're hurt and wounded.<br /><br />Rather than something to be overcome, grief is to be experienced and processed. We don't conquer it, but move through it to heal and grow.</li>
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<li><strong>Myth #2: Grief is negative, and we should get rid of it as soon as possible. </strong><br />We associate grief with pain. No one wants it. Everyone flees from it. If we're in it, we want out of it as quickly as possible. <br /><br />Painful things happen in life. If we don't feel that pain, we become callous, bitter, and depressed. Avoiding grief sets us up for a world of frustration and dysfunction. <br /><br />Grief is actually positive. It declares that we have hearts. </li>
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<li><strong>Myth #3: Grief should be quick and easy.</strong><br />We have this idea that grief should be brief. A few days. Perhaps a few weeks if the loss is especially close or painful.<br /><br /> The truth is that grief has no timetable. Grieving isn't a task to check off a to-do list. It's a dynamic, somewhat unpredictable process.<br /><br />Intense feelings surface. We're thrust onto an emotional roller-coaster full of startling twists, climbs, and falls. This ride isn't over in 90 seconds either. It can go on, and on.<br /><br />Most of us are grieving on some level. We're constantly dealing with the results of what has happened to us. Grief is far from quick, and it's never easy. </li>
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<li><strong>Myth #4: There are right ways to grieve. </strong><br />If we must grieve, we naturally want to standardize the process. We want a recipe - a checklist for what to do in what order. We want to measure our progress so that when the last box is checked we can breathe a sigh of relief and say, "<em>Done with that!</em>"<br /><br />We're not robots. Each loss is unique. Circumstances, relationships, and hearts are all one-of-a-kind. Every grief process is an individual adventure.<br /><br />Though there is no right way to grieve, there are healthy ways. We learn, heal, adjust, and grow when we take our hearts seriously, practice good self-care, and stay connected to people who are helpful to us. If we instead choose to ignore and stuff our grief, it will leak out in ways we'll most likely regret.<br /><br />Grief will be expressed, one way or another. </li>
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<li><strong>Myth #5: Strong people don't grieve. </strong><br />We tend to confuse strong with stoic. Strength has become synonymous with hard and impenetrable. <br /><br />We're not made of steel. Our hearts are not bulletproof. Strength doesn't come from evading reality and ignoring emotions. We grow stronger as we face obstacles with the courageous resolve to do the grief work necessary to heal and grow.<br /><br />Strong people are authentic. They pursue integrity. They choose relational honesty over hiding. They grieve from the heart in healthy ways. </li>
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<p><br /><strong>We love, and so we grieve.<br /></strong><br />Grief is natural and universal. Far from being negative, grieving is the way we heal. It takes time and effort. Grieving in healthy ways takes courage and internal strength.<br /><br />Life is full of loss because it is also full of love. We love, and so we grieve. <br /><br />If you're grieving, please take your heart seriously. <br /><br />Look inside and process the losses well. <br /><br />Get around people who are helpful to you. <br /><br />Limit your exposure to critics and fixers. <br /><br />Be patient with yourself. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Gary Roe</a></strong>, an award-winning author, speaker, and grief specialist is a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/comfort-for-grieving-hearts/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get a free excerpt of his new book, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Grieving-Hearts-Encouragement-Times-ebook/dp/B07CPY9ZS1" target="_blank">Comfort for Grieving Hearts</a></em>. For more information visit <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2019-04-18T16:55:00Z
10 Steps to Revive Your Life
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/10-Steps-to-Revive-Your-Life/356164206225114096.html
2019-03-20T18:14:00Z
2019-03-20T18:14:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Kristine Galli Hankins</strong><br /><a href="http://www.kristinealetha.com" target="_blank">www.kristinealetha.com</a><br /><br /><br />At some point, you might find yourself dreading the start of each day, feeling as though your life lacks meaning, purpose, and fulfillment. You lose touch with your passions and yourself, get caught up in the day-to-day, and forget what makes you come alive.<br /><br />It might not seem like that big of a deal - is waking up excited to greet a new day all that important? But study after study has shown that <strong>leading a happier, more fulfilled life matters</strong> not just for your own emotional well-being but also for your physical health, relationships, career, creativity, and impact on society as a whole.<br /><br />If you're feeling unhappy - if you're stuck, lost, or just plain tired of the same ol,' same ol' - it's time to revive your life. These 10 steps are a great place to start.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Do one thing to take better care of your body</strong><br />Whether it's drinking half your body weight in ounces of water, moving your body for 30 minutes, cutting out a bad-for-you item from your diet, or going to bed earlier, commit to ONE thing and do it every day. Do it until it becomes a habit (an average of 66 days, not 30!). Then pick another and start again.</li>
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<li><strong>Get quiet for 10 minutes each day </strong><br />Your brain works really hard processing the billions of pieces of data coming at you every day. Getting quiet for just 10 minutes, whether it's through meditation, yoga, mindfulness, or even progressive relaxation, has been shown to have remarkable effects on your well-being.</li>
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<li><strong>Make more time for joy </strong><br />Take a moment and write out all the things that bring you joy. Big and small. Simple and not-so-simple. Make a big, long list. Note: These are things that bring YOU joy. Just you. Not your kids, not your whole family, not the people you follow on social media. YOU. Now, pick up your calendar and schedule a time to do one of those things every week.</li>
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<li><strong>Practice gratitude </strong><br />Whether you keep a journal, download an app, or just make it a point to think the thoughts, set aside time each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for. Not big, abstract things like "<em>my health</em>" or "the ability to use all my appendages" but small, day-to-day things like "<em>a cup of warm coffee in the morning</em>" or "<em>the sunset I caught on my way home.</em>"</li>
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<li><strong>Get connected </strong><br />If you're already a part of a community or have a solid group of friends, make sure you're participating in activities and conversations, scheduling time together, and reaching out for support when you need it. If you don't have a community, join one or create your own.</li>
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<li><strong>Become your own best cheerleader </strong><br />What's that running dialogue in your head saying to you? Is it positive and encouraging? Or is it mean, degrading, and critical? Does it make you feel hopeful or anxious and afraid? Your thoughts affect how you feel and how you feel affects how you behave. So, essentially, your thoughts control the decisions you make, the actions you take, and the way you interact with the world. Try this: Pick 3-5 positive self-statements or affirmations and set alerts on your phone to remind you of them throughout your day. Read them over and over until they come naturally to you.</li>
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<li><strong>Let your heart guide you </strong><br />Living a revived life starts with your heart. It starts with trusting yourself and listening to the stirrings of your soul. Those stirrings are what make you come alive because they're what make you YOU. Practice tuning in through writing. Ask yourself what it is you really want. Make a list of all the things that matter to you. Then use those answers to guide your decisions.</li>
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<li><strong>Don't be afraid to dream big </strong><br />Take a moment and ask yourself this question: What's the biggest, most audacious, amazing life I can imagine for myself? Now picture it in vivid detail. Where do you live? Who are you with? What do you do for fun, work, creativity? What have you accomplished? How do you feel?<br /><br />Create an image in your mind and write it down. Then post visual reminders where you'll see them every day. Having something to work towards has been shown to increase not just your energy, purpose, and sense of fulfillment but your overall happiness too. Don't be afraid to want more for your life. Don't be afraid to dream BIG.</li>
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<li><strong>Be honest about what's getting in the way </strong><br />I'm guessing a whole slew of negative, limiting beliefs came up for you as you challenged yourself to dream big. Now's the time to look at those beliefs and where they came from. Are you doubting your abilities? Do you question your worth? Are you burdened by shame, fear, or your past? Or bound by rules and limitations that no longer serve you? Shine a light on what's getting in the way so you can work on overcoming them.</li>
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<li><strong>Get to work </strong><br />Reviving your life takes work, both internally and externally. Use that image of your dream to motivate you to keep going, no matter what. Set goals and take action on them every day. Turn those obstacles into problems to be solved. Don't give up until you wake up in awe of the life you get to live.</li>
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<p><br />As you start taking better care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, you'll find it easier to get out of your head (that place full of doubt and fear) and into your heart. You'll feel more energized and empowered to follow your dreams and your health, relationships, and the world around you will be better off because of it.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><em>Kristine Galli Hankins</em></strong> is a Certified Life Coach, licensed therapist, writer, and speaker. She helps women get out of their heads and into their hearts so they can revive their lives and take action on their dreams. She believes in dreaming big, trusting yourself, and living with more joy, meaning, and purpose. Learn more at <a href="http://www.kristinealetha.com" target="_blank">www.kristinealetha.com</a> and follow her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kristinealetha" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/kristinealetha/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2019-03-20T18:14:00Z
Why Whole Body Self-Care is Key to Long-Term Health
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2019-03-06T18:20:00Z
2019-03-06T18:20:00Z
<p><br /><strong>by John Arden, PhD, ABPP<br /><a href="http://www.drjohnarden.com" target="_blank">www.drjohnarden.com</a></strong><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /><br />Anna and Michael had been married for seventeen years when both began to complain that the other no longer focused on the rest of the family. They spent an inordinate amount of time ruminating resentments about each other. Meanwhile, their two children were entering the first few years of high school and presenting new challenges for their parents. Both Anna and Michael felt they didn't have the energy to keep up with the constant attention needed to maintain clear limits and expectations for the kids. <br /><br />Though they did not want to admit it, they felt relieved when their kids began to spend more time on their computers, playing video games and on social media. This meant less monitoring was necessary because the kids left the house less often, and didn't need to be shepherded to as many activities. As a result, they began to match their parents in obesity, fatigue, and dysphoric moods.<br /><br />Perplexed by everyone's loss of energy, Anna asked their physician whether the entire family had contracted Lyme disease. They felt ill and did not know why. He ordered blood tests for each of the family members. Though there was no evidence of Lyme disease, he expressed concern that they all had become significantly overweight. He also reported that both Anna and Michael had high levels of C-reactive protein (a measure of inflammation), blood glucose, and LDL (bad) cholesterol. <br /><br />Anna had developed type 2 diabetes, and Michael had metabolic syndrome (a cluster of conditions-increased blood pressure, high blood sugar, excess body fat around the waist, and abnormal cholesterol or triglyceride levels that includes that occur together, increasing the risk of heart disease, stroke, and diabetes). Anna responded by saying, "<em>We were already very depressed! Now you are telling us we have bad genes? That makes me even feel worse.</em>" Michael agreed. <br /><br />In response, their physician prescribed Prozac for both of them. With this medication Band-Aid, their physician missed the opportunity to offer comprehensive health care and refer them to therapists to avert disastrous long-term mental and physical health. Though he started the consultation constructively by warning the entire family about their weight and both parents of their looming illnesses, the integrative approach they needed was compromised by the quick fix of "<em>mismanaged</em>" care.<br /><br />What role should psychotherapy have played in helping this family? Psychotherapy in the twenty-first century could be renamed "<em>behavioral health</em>," because self-care behaviors have major effects on the immune system, the brain, and the body in general. These interactions have a profound effect on mental health.<br /><br />Anna and Michael's family has become the new norm. There are now overwhelming numbers of people like them throughout the developed world. Plagued with health problems brought on by poor physical and emotional self-care, they suffer bidirectional causal pathways between acquired physical and psychological impairments.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.cdc.gov/" target="_blank">The Centers for Disease Control</a> estimates that health behaviors account for 50 percent of adverse health outcomes in the United States as much as genetics (20 percent), the environment (20 percent), and access to health care (10 percent) combined. These statistics suggest that half of all health conditions are preventable by changes in self-care behavior (Amara et al., 2003). <br /><br />Research has also found that 40 percent of medical patients have a comorbid psychological disorder, while 75 percent of patients with a psychological disorder also suffer from a comorbid physical disorder (Kessler, Ormel, Demler, & Stang, 2003). Essentially, health behaviors represent the interwoven natures of physical and mental health.<br /><br />According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 133 million Americans suffered from at least one chronic illness in 2005. That number is predicted to increase to 157 million by the year 2020. Because of the inextricable interactions between physical and mental wellbeing, these numbers represent a mental health crisis that can no longer be overlooked. <br /><br />Though these statistics are ominous, integrated health care providers, including psychotherapists, can work to avert disaster to the health of millions of people through a better understanding of the bidirectional causal interactions among the mind, brain, and the immune system found in the field of psychoneuroimmunology and providing approaches consistent with it. <br /><br />Since its emergence as a rigorous field of research, psychoneuroimmunology has identified many interrelated mental and physical health dysregulations. Not so coincidentally, this field of inquiry has emerged with the surge in numbers of people, like Anna and Michael, with chronic and acquired illnesses that dysregulate the immune system who also suffer from psychological disorders.<br /><br />Through psychoneuroimmunology, we've learned that chronic stress combined with poor self-care such as inadequate sleep, impoverished diet, no exercise, and extra weight inappropriately activates the immune system with damaging effects. Anna and Michael, like millions of other people, acquired chronic conditions that turned their dysregulated immune systems into threats. <br /><br />Their immune systems switched from protectors to overactive enemies triggering autoimmune disorders and a downward spiral of significantly compromised physical and emotional health. Whether in response to adverse childhood experiences, chronic stress, or simply because of poor self-care, autoimmune disorders result in a variety of psychological disorders, which then further exacerbate existing autoimmune disorders. <br />One such disorder is chronic inflammation. While short-term inflammation that responds to injury or illness represents a healthy process, chronic inflammation is not. Chronic inflammation represents a common factor between many psychological disorders and poor health. <br /><br />Through their poor self-care practices, Anna and Michael, along with their kids, were unknowingly stoking up chronic inflammation and offering themselves few opportunities to do otherwise. As a result, they were all suffering from its associated fatigue, cognitive deficits, and depression.<br /><br />Because over half the population of the United States unknowingly suffers from self-inflicted immune system dysregulation, psychotherapy in the twenty-first century must promote lifestyle and behavioral health changes. This means that self-maintenance factors such as diet, exercise, and sleep need to be addressed as foundational factors to mental health. To conduct therapy without addressing these underlying factors is like building a house on a sandbar by a hurricane-swept beach. <br /><br /><br /><strong>John Arden, PhD, ABPP</strong> is the Author of 15 books (translated into 20 languages) including <em>Brain2Brain</em>, <em>The Brain Bible</em>, <em>Rewire Your Brain</em>, and <em>Brain-Based Therapy with Adults</em>. His new book is entitled <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Brain-Gene-John-Arden/dp/0393711846/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1530541384&sr=1-1&keywords=mind-bra" target="_blank">Mind-Brain-Gene: Toward the Integration of Psychotherapy</a></em>. He recently retired from Kaiser Permanente where he served as the Northern California Regional Director of Training where he developed one of the largest mental health training programs in the United States. In this capacity, he oversaw more than 150 interns and postdoctoral psychology residents in 24 medical centers. He has presented in all US States and 27 countries. You can connect with John on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/john.arden.986/?__tn__=K-R&eid=ARDOFYtMTmxWeAn_GyOn_1m1JtXxuKJN55KK6-w3DUtyOuQ5a0Ofrm3TBrrZ3REx0fOS_DRKgW-_cIGO&fref=mentions&__xts__[0]=68.ARA-aL4qpAs0NmmOQvPyjYf1SGYFG3K4NG1_4YLq_b75w6Dvl-lgXXPrx6TOpvPT5UwAijtfOdJxfMwt3_XOQNAQ1TDQ7mauWduNdVKKdKqJAF7hBzRe4I5TNB19yj9L-TDVZzhVW6WmfMk_NB6CTAWIdbz52GzklLt8RmxFZctBLEepvG77kTUjMqEdPgQYbbAUFnn2hz1Wb8NQFsIz8TTIRmV2PV9PqqCtY6-dB_OZNfkUC5paMwEHMKZSIDEwsfYI14OmZ0AoGGNiYXN3NXN01mPp23WvdPTc8k97oGUP3Oz509PkMD6R9oxHQCnxKE1SPD-OhV7a10xETHsOTmSKjtcB" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. For more information visit <a href="http://www.drjohnarden.com" target="_blank">www.drjohnarden.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2019-03-06T18:20:00Z
7 Life Lessons My Son's Cancer Taught Me
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2019-02-24T18:20:00Z
2019-02-24T18:20:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Gary Roe<br /><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a></strong><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /><br />I never liked cancer. I like it even less now. <br /><br />In my work as a hospice chaplain and grief counselor, I interact with cancer in some way almost every day. Perhaps I'm a bit jaded. All my cases are terminal. Sooner or later, cancer is a killer.<br /><br />Then, the c-word became extremely personal. <br /><br />During a routine dental cleaning, our hygienist noticed an abnormality in our 15-year-old son's palate. The dentist got involved, and then a periodontist. Less than a week after the discovery of this lesion, we were in our oral surgeon's office having multiple biopsies. <br /><br />A week later, we got the results. I don't remember much of what the surgeon said because the last word obliterated everything else that came before it. <br /><br />"<em>Carcinoma.</em>"<br /><br />We were immediately referred to a surgical practice two hours away, because "<em>they deal with tumors like this every day.</em>"<br /><br />"<em>Tumor.</em>"<br /><br />Suddenly, we were thrust into an adventure none of us wanted. Add to this the fact that our son's biological father died of Pancreatic cancer, and the fear factor was way up there. <br /><br />Doctors considered our son's case urgent, and the flurry of activity was breathtaking. Tests, blood work, and scans. Appointments, consultations, phone calls, and emails. And then there was the travel. Back and forth, over and over, finally culminating in a more-extensive-than-expected surgery that left our son with a hole in the roof of his mouth slightly larger than a golf ball. <br /><br />Then came the recovery, food and drink adjustments, infection concerns, post-op appointments, and so forth. Thankfully, in our case, we got the best possible outcome. Tumor gone. No evidence of cancer anywhere else. No chemo. No radiation. The treatment plan was simple. Be observant, be vigilant, and see the dentist or surgeon every three months for the next five years. <br /><br />We were lucky. Massively fortunate. And the life lessons we learned were priceless. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Expect surprises.</strong><br />Stuff happens. Things will not go the way any of us expect. The road before us isn't smooth or predictable. There will be hiccups. We can make decisions and have some influence, but none of us is in control.</li>
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<li><strong>Listen well.</strong><br />When emotions are high, our hearing becomes even more selective than usual. Breathe deeply. Hear the meaning behind the words. Parrot back what we thought we heard. It's essential that get what's being said in important situations (and that would be every conversation!).</li>
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<li><strong>Stay detached enough to be loving.</strong><br />Another way to say this might be, "<em>Don't make it all about you.</em>" We need to remain separate enough from those we care about in order to listen well, hear their hearts, and love them. We can't afford to get our hearts confused with theirs. We're in this together, but we are separate individuals. </li>
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<li><strong>Release worry and fear.</strong><br />This dynamic duo is not your friend. In the words of one of my hospice patients, "<em>Worry will eat your mind.</em>" Fear can throttle your heart.<br /><br />Express your thoughts and terrors, and then release them. And keep releasing them. </li>
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<li><strong>Instead of focusing on what happened, decide what you're going to do next.</strong> <br />Life is always about the next step. Yes, the past is important and informs the present. The choice is yours what to do with it. Like worry and fear, guilt is not your friend. Don't entertain it. Put your wisdom (and that of others) to work, and make the next best choice you can. </li>
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<li><strong>Learn to trust.</strong><br />We're relational creatures. In order to heal and grow in life, you're going to have to be real with someone - hopefully several people - about what's going on inside you. That demands trust.<br /><br />How do you know who to trust? Look at their track record. Are they trustworthy in this area?</li>
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<li><strong>Be kind, no matter what. </strong><br />From the beginning, we coached ourselves to treat everyone we met on our cancer journey the way we ourselves wanted to be treated. Consideration. Kindness. Respect. The results were extraordinary. And even if we hadn't been treated in stellar fashion, at least we could sleep at night knowing that we gave away what we ourselves wanted to receive. </li>
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<p>I hope cancer isn't the surprise that you're dealing with at present. But whatever that unexpected curveball might be, I believe these seven things will help you navigate it well. Much of life is about overcoming difficulties and hurdling obstacles. Almost everything seems to present us with opportunities to get outside of ourselves, heal, and grow. <br /><br />It's not what you did, but what you do next that matters most now. Life is lived one moment, one step at a time.<br /><br /><br /><strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1551162492&sr=8-1" target="_blank">Gary Roe</a> </strong>is an Award-winning author, speaker, grief specialist, and a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/comfort-for-grieving-hearts/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get a free excerpt of his latest award-winning book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts. For more information visit <a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2019-02-24T18:20:00Z
Finding Happiness Following a Diagnosis of Dementia
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Finding-Happiness-Following-a-Diagnosis-of-Dementia/-182178814399203779.html
2019-02-15T18:10:00Z
2019-02-15T18:10:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Lisa B Capp<br /></strong><a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com" target="_blank">www.lisabcapp.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.facilityresourcegroup.org" target="_blank"><br /></a><br />Today 5.7 million Americans are living with Alzheimer's and related dementias. By 2050 the number is projected to grow to nearly 14 million. Bracing against the disease while standing alongside those diagnosed are family and friends wrapped in an intricate web of perplexing emotion.<br /><br />Dementia plays out in stages. I think about <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/blog/embodiment/" target="_blank">the arc of my mother's life</a> as a college sorority sister, to wife, mother, and career, through my father's passing, followed by her 18-year dementia journey and, ultimately, her death. <br /><br />My life played out in stages, too. I had a career that took me to clients around the globe and my husband had a demanding job. We enjoyed friends, were engaged in our community and, although we had no children, had settled into a fulfilling <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/blog/detection/" target="_blank">life-after infertility</a>. It was in the midst of my so-called life that my mom came to live with us and I learned about being a care partner.<br /><br />In situations like ours, we're encouraged to stay healthy, to focus on our well-being in addition to the well-being of those around us. What we may never fully appreciate is that well-being isn't just the absence of physical disease. Well-being is a complex combination of physical, mental, emotional and social factors. <br /><br />Question those who partner with or live with dementia and you may be met with the silence or venting that comes from either witnessing or experiencing the decline of the disease. What's fundamental to our health is the link each of us has to happiness and satisfaction within our lives. This is critically important given Alzheimer's and dementia encompasses several stages and can span many years. <br /><br />By accepting well-being as a state of mind, we could feel in a bit more control to take small steps after diagnosis. Three considerations for those living with or partnering with dementia when trying to answer the question "<em>what's possible after this diagnosis?</em>"<br /><br /><strong><em>Don't judge what you are feeling: </em></strong><br />From initial denial and detection through diagnosis and the various stages of decline, what you feel will vacillate wildly. A care partner will take a distinctly different emotional path than someone diagnosed with dementia. Whether directed at yourself, your family, your friends, your job, the medical community, fate or the world, what you feel can lead to a sense of shame or embarrassment. Remind yourself often that you are facing one of the most difficult challenges the universe can hand you. Move on without judgment.<br /><br /><strong><em>Live life in small measure and find inspiration in the moments: </em></strong><br />There's no denying your world turns upside down following a dementia diagnosis. The early stage might require little change or simple accommodation while the later stages of the disease can be devastating. Jot down what you see and feel, those moments in which you're proud and those you would like to do-over. With calm reflection, patterns may emerge putting your world into a bit of perspective. You might see ways to manage difficult situations together and reset your state of mind to a more constructive path.<br /><br /><strong><em>Unite together against the disease to live your best lives: </em></strong><br />Partnering in dementia takes extraordinary commitment as someone you care deeply about declines through age or illness. Living with dementia requires incomprehensible determination to move forward through an illness that today has no cure. Whether it's physical, emotional or spiritual, surviving a dementia diagnosis is damned difficult for all. Honor yourself as you honor your partner in what can be an ultimately unrelenting dance. <br /><br />Clarifying your goals together in the wake of a dementia diagnosis is necessary to live as fully as possible, for as long as possible. Thinking in small measure allows you to redefine those goals as your situation evolves.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Lisa B Capp</strong></em> is a writer, activist and a dementia caregiving survivor. She serves on the Alzheimer's Association Leadership Board Desert Southwest, is a member of the Alzheimer's Impact Movement and AlzAuthors.As a High Tech Change Consultant, Lisa worked with leaders of global business, governments and non-profits around the globe. Her passion for building strength through transition in her professional work is now focused on helping others find their power through the caregiving journey. For more information visit her website at <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com" target="_blank">www.lisabcapp.com</a>. Connect on Twitter @lisabcapp and LinkedIn at LisaBCapp. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><br /></p>
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2019-02-15T18:10:00Z
Stop Being Busy and Start Being Happy
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Stop-Being-Busy-and-Start-Being-Happy/226587210875296069.html
2019-01-11T19:10:00Z
2019-01-11T19:10:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Traci Clarida <br /></strong><a href="http://www.letsgetstuffdone.com" target="_blank">www.letsgetstuffdone.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.facilityresourcegroup.org" target="_blank"><br /></a><br />Somewhere along the way, society stopped defining fulfillment and success by the simple things that make us happy, such as family time at the dinner table or watching cloud shapes in the sky. Instead, success has become measured by our busyness. <br /><br />We brag to our friends about our 50-hour work weeks, our side gig we do at night, and how many extracurricular activities our children do. We think we're successful because we do what society tells us equates happiness, but are we really happy? <br /><br />Or are we simply stressing ourselves out? Validating ourselves by our busyness becomes a habit very easily. This is especially true when we are concerned with measuring up against the busyness of our super-hero women friends who are doing the same thing. Eventually, even super-heroes reach a breaking point when the realization dawns that there is no contentment or happiness to be found in ultra-busyness. <br /><br />There comes a moment of clarity when we recognize that we cannot keep on doing what we are doing. We know we need to change but we wonder what we could possibly do different because everything still needs to get done. <br /><br />The key comes in acknowledging that we are not our busyness, but that we simply Are. <br /><br />Eckhart Tolle (2016) counsels, "<em>The ultimate truth of who you are is not I am this or I am that, but I Am</em>" (p. 57). His wisdom impels us to accept the simplicity of our existence and forego the egoic need for external validation - the need to be busy to feel worthy.<br /><br />When we say to ourselves "<em>I Am</em>" without adding any qualifiers to it, we become aware of the stillness of our undefined selves. We are not busy or bored, we are not happy or sad, we simply are. We are experiencing our Beingness in its simplest form (Tolle, 2016).<br /><br />To find our authentic selves, we must discover that which truly validates us, that which gives us happiness, content, and peace. We must stop defining our worth by how busy we are and instead recognize and impart value to our Beingness as that which truly makes us happy. <br /><br />How do we do that, especially when there are not enough hours in the day to get everything done? <br /><br /><strong>Here's how: Instead of resting your brain by popping open social media and getting lost for 10 minutes, take 30 seconds to do this simple practice. </strong><br /><br />Close your eyes (or not) and for 5 breaths repeat aloud or in your mind, "I Am", then fight the impulse to add qualifiers (i.e., successful, worn out, a mom, etc.). By focusing on your breathing, you take away the urge to think and instead create space where you can feel the essence of your Being (Tolle, 2016). <br /><br />Thirty seconds of breathing and Being will provide monumental moments of clarity. The true importance of your activities will become apparent and ways to reduce your busyness will appear. The courage comes in being willing to let go of the things you know are not essential, the things that validate you because they keep you busy. <br /><br />The philosopher Nietzsche wrote (as cited in Tolle, 2016), "<em>For happiness, how little suffices for happiness! ... the least thing precisely, the gentlest thing, the lightest thing, a lizard's rustling, a breath, a </em>wisk<em>, an eye glance - little maketh up the best happiness. Be still</em>" (p. 235). <br /><br />In the simple state of stillness, there is happiness. Take 30 seconds right now to feel it. Take 30 seconds tomorrow to feel it. Take 30 seconds every day to make Beingness, not busyness, your habit. <br /><br />ReferencesTolle, E. (2016).<em> A new earth: Awakening to your life's purpose. New York, NY: </em>Penguin Books<em>.</em><br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Traci Clarida</strong></em> is an author, speaker, and coach whose vibrant energy spreads positivity, love, and compassion to the world. She inspires women to get "<em>stuff</em>" done through authentic living and embracing "<em>perfect imperfection</em>". She teaches clients how to find freedom from self-judgment and provides proven strategies to guide them to overcome obstacles, complete goals and execute solid plans for success. Follow Traci on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/successwithcoachtraci/" target="_blank">FB</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/letsgetstuffdone/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. For more information visit <a href="http://www.letsgetstuffdone.com" target="_blank">www.letsgetstuffdone.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2019-01-11T19:10:00Z
3 Tips for Overcoming Grief at Holiday Time
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2018-12-22T19:35:00Z
2018-12-22T19:35:00Z
<p><br /><strong>by Gary Roe <br /></strong><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.facilityresourcegroup.org" target="_blank"><br /></a> <br />Ah, the holidays.<br /><br />Halls, houses, and lawns are decked with festive decorations. Kitchens are filled with delightful, savory aromas. The air is laced with laughter, familiar music, and the tinkling of Salvation Army bells.<br /><br />The holiday spirit is everywhere.<br /><br />But underneath the bright lights, smiles, and cheerful greetings lurks the unseen warehouse of holiday expectations. Somehow, we must top last year, and the year before that. This season must be bigger, better, more colorful, and more delicious. We must somehow make this holiday the best ever.<br /><br />We have expectations. We have ideas of how this should go, what should happen, and when. <br /><br />We have expectations of others. Others have an expectation of us. We have expectations of ourselves based on what we think others' expectations are.<br /><br />Even our culture has expectations. Have the appropriate holiday spirit. Engage in holiday cheer. Fa-la-la-la-la, and all that. Be happy! And above all, buy, buy, buy.<br /><br />The pressure mounts.<br /><br />What if we're not in the mood? What if we're sad? What if we've lost a loved one (or several)? What if we're depressed?<br /><br />Holidays are times for reminiscing. Memories of what we once had swim before our eyes. We become hyper-aware of who and what we've lost.<br /><br />Amid the smiling faces, there are wounded hearts.<br /><br />Grief is a lonely thing. Surrounded by gaiety, a broken heart can feel more alone and isolated than ever. No one wants to hurt for the holidays, but some of us do. <br /><br />If you're hurting these holidays, what can you do?<br /><br />Here are three tips for navigating this stressful and emotionally confusing time. <br /><br /><strong>1. Manage those expectations.</strong><br />One question to ask yourself might be, "<em>Exactly whose game am I playing here?</em>" <br />Instead of plowing ahead, as usual, pause and take a good look at your expectations and plans. What do you want this holiday to be like? What's honestly possible and realistic? What do you want to do, how, when, and with whom?<br /><br />This is the season of overwhelm. Take a deep breath and choose to focus on a few things. What's most important? In your mind, what's non-negotiable? <br /><br />Along the way, it might be good to let those close to you know you're doing things differently this year. This will help manage their expectations too.<br /><br /><br /><strong>2. Make a simple plan to remember loved ones who've passed on.</strong><br />Acknowledge the elephant in the room. Speak their name. Talk about them. Share their story. Invite others to share a special memory or what they miss most. <br /><br />Holidays are a wonderful time to honor the special people who now reside in our hearts rather than next to us.<br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Be kind to yourself.</strong><br />You can do more than merely survive. Take your heart and health seriously. Pace yourself. Exercise. Get good nutrition. Hydrate. Rest. Pursue wellness.<br /><br />If you love yourself well through this time, that love will spill over onto family and friends as well. The best gift you can give them is a healthy you. <br /><br />Watch those expectations. Decide what's most important and focus there. Simplify. Honor loved ones who are no longer here. Be kind to yourself along the way.<br /><br />These holidays might be tough and stressful, but they can still be good. Take your heart seriously and make it so. <br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Gary Roe </strong></em>is an <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Award-winning author</a>, speaker, and grief specialist. He is also a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. Grab his free eBook, <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/i-miss-you/" target="_blank">I Miss You: A Holiday Survival Kit</a>, or download a free excerpt of <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/surviving-the-holidays/" target="_blank">Surviving the Holidays Without You</a>. For more information, visit <a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-12-22T19:35:00Z
3 Tips for Enjoying the Holidays, Even While Grieving
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/3-Tips-for-Enjoying-the-Holidays,-Even-While-Grieving/-46221051081018527.html
2018-12-16T19:03:00Z
2018-12-16T19:03:00Z
<p><br /><strong>by Gary Roe <br /></strong><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.facilityresourcegroup.org" target="_blank"><br /></a> <br />The holidays are here. It's a season of joy and celebration. It can also be a little crazy. <br /><br />Black Friday has invaded Thanksgiving. The frantic hunt for perfect deals is underway. Holiday shopping has become a contact sport.<br /><br />You can feel the tension amid bright lights and the tinkling bells. We're impatient, hurried, even frantic. As the traffic increases, so does our blood pressure. <br /><br />Holidays are also stressful for another reason. They surface our losses like nothing else can. We're keenly aware of who's missing. <br /><br />We have loved ones who can't be with us this year. Some have died. Others are still here but no longer remember. Some are chronically ill. Some are alone in ways they've never have been before.<br /><br />As a hospice chaplain and grief counselor, I see a lot of holiday grief. Many are hurting and wondering how they are going to navigate this time emotionally. If that's you, here are three tips to help you stay sane this holiday season. <br /><br /><br /><strong>1. Believe that this holiday can be good, even amid the pain.<br /></strong><br />When someone you love departs, they leave a hole in your heart. Life will forever be different. Your world has changed. Holidays will never be the same. <br /><br />You could hunker down, isolate, and wait for this season to pass. You might choose to stuff your emotions, plaster a smile on your face, and go through the motions. Neither of these options takes your heart seriously. <br /><br />You matter. Your losses count. You can make this season work for you, even if you're hurting. Rather than letting these holidays use you, you can use them to heal and grow. <br /><br />These holidays will be different, but they can still be good. You can make them so. Believe it. <br /><br /><br /><strong>2. Identify and manage your holiday expectations.<br /></strong><br />Unmet expectations are at the root of most disappointments in life. Many expectations are hidden. They slink under the surface and silently dominate our hearts. When it comes to holidays, unspoken expectations can be killers.<br /><br />We have expectations of others - what they will and won't do, how, and when.<br /><br />We have expectations of how things will go - who, what, when, and where.<br /><br />We have expectations of ourselves - how we should feel, how much we should do, our ability to please others, etc.<br /><br />Hidden expectations set us up for frustration, confusion, and a whole lot of physical and emotional stress. The sheer weight of them can be crushing. <br /><br />What are your holiday expectations? What do you expect of others, yourself, and the holidays? Write them down. Be specific. <br /><br />Now, evaluate them. Are these expectations reasonable and realistic? If you had to pare this list down to just one or two, which ones would you choose? <br /><br />Stay sane. Identify and manage those unruly expectations. <br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Make a sane and simple plan.<br /></strong><br />When it comes to the holidays, having a plan for emotional, physical, and spiritual health is non-negotiable. <br /><br />Now that you've identified your expectations and hopefully pared them down, you can decide how to fulfill them. <br /><br />You get to choose what to do, how, when, and with whom. As you decide, make sure you're being kind to yourself. If you choose what's good for you, chances are it's also loving to those around you. <br /><br />If what you decide doesn't fit with someone else's expectations about what you should be doing, that's okay. People's reactions are more about them than about you. Pleasing everyone is impossible. Some people won't be pleased no matter what.<br /><br />If you've lost a loved one, find ways to honor them. Continue a holiday tradition that reminds you of them. Set up an empty chair in their memory. Give a charitable gift in their name. Write them a letter. Have a special time of remembrance and sharing at a family gathering. Be creative. Do what fits you and your relationship with them. <br /><br />Be proactive. Don't let the holidays use you. Use them for your benefit and for the good of those around you. Believe that these holidays can still be good. Identify and manage those sneaky, swirling expectations. Make a sane and simple plan about what to do, how, when, and with whom. <br /><br />These holidays will be different, but they can still be good. <br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Gary Roe </strong></em>is an <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Award-winning author</a>, speaker, and grief specialist. He is also a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting, wounded hearts for more than 30 years. Grab his free eBook, <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/i-miss-you/" target="_blank">I Miss You: A Holiday Survival Kit</a>, or download a free excerpt of <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/surviving-the-holidays/" target="_blank">Surviving the Holidays Without You</a>. For more information, visit <a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-12-16T19:03:00Z
4 Ways Your Core Values Are Your Greatest Assets
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/4-Ways-Your-Core-Values-Are-Your-Greatest-Assets/-262544534515813937.html
2018-12-08T19:31:00Z
2018-12-08T19:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>Provided By Pamela Gold <br /></strong><a href="http://www.goldevolution.com/" target="_blank">www.goldevolution.com</a><a href="http://www.facilityresourcegroup.org" target="_blank"><br /><br /></a> <br />One of the first questions I always ask someone I am coaching is, "<em>what are your core values?</em>" Another way of asking that same question: "<em>what are the human qualities that you find inherently worthy, no matter what else may play out?</em>" It lays at the heart of our self-respect, which in turn is fundamental to how much we trust ourselves and our self-esteem.<br /><br />How do your values affect every area of your life? And how does determining what they have such a powerful impact on your relationship with yourself?<br /><br /><br /><strong>1. Knowing your core values allows you to trust yourself more.</strong><br /><br />Often life is confusing, and we are stuck with a decision that seems to be choosing between bad or maybe worse... both choices seem undesirable enough that we really feel stuck not knowing what exactly is the "<em>right</em>" thing to do. If we are clear on our core values, this is our north star or our compass. Even when we cannot clearly see the best path, if we use our core values to drive our decision making, we can feel good that no matter what the outcome is, we can look at ourselves in the mirror and feel like we did our best. That is clarity, and that builds trust.<br /><br /><br /><strong>2. Your core values build your self-esteem.</strong><br /><br />Feeling worthy of love or "<em>good enough</em>" is one of the pillars of self esteem, and I haven't ever met someone who doesn't struggle with this on some level. We are wired from birth to be seeking everything that we need from the outside in: food, love, validation. Did I do well enough on the test? Did I get a good enough time in the race? Did I get into the school? Did I get the promotion? As we all know, any given outcome can go either way, which means at any given moment we can be falling short. If instead we look from the inside out, and use our core values as the litmus test for "<em>good enough</em>", and the process of living those core values with the highest amount of integrity, we have the power to insulate ourselves from outcomes that fall on the "<em>I learned something today</em>" side of the coin instead of the "<em>woo hoo I knocked it out of the park</em>" side. Even when the outcome falls short, if we did our best, we were brave, we were kind, we can look in the mirror and feel proud. We always have control over our integrity with our core values, and that is where we can hold ourselves to high standards, focusing on the process instead of the outcomes.<br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Core values are bridges, not walls.<br /><br /></strong>If we go deep enough, we share core values with all healthy humans - they are powerful bridges to connect us, not meant to be used as walls to keep us apart or defend ourselves with. Relationships are one of our core needs in life, and studies show that social interaction is the number one activity tied to longevity. Focusing on our core values and the core values of others and seeing how we can find the commonality even when there are different hierarchies or perceptions is a powerful tool in our quest for connection. The next time you are in an interpersonal conflict, pause and ask yourself which of your core values are driving your perspective on the situation and try and figure out the other person's core value perspectives... and see how you might find a way to meet both in a potential solution.<br /><br /><br /><strong>4. You can rest in your core values.<br /><br /></strong>Life is a seemingly constant source of stress. Our core values can give us the peace and quiet and rest that we desperately are seeking. When we are in moments of pain and struggle, we can focus on those core values and practice being that, and it will ground us and empower us. Think about gratitude, humility, compassion, courage, and think about practicing those qualities in the really stressful moments, and you will see what I mean. It takes practice, which is why I always say practice when it is easy so it will come easier when it is hard. As soon as you realize you are out of alignment with this practice, just come back to it, and that returning to your core values in and of itself will make it easier next time.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Pamela Gold</strong></em> is a <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Find-More-Strength-Unlimited-Happiness-ebook/dp/B06XZKTNMN" target="_blank">best-selling author</a>, speaker, mind/body/spirit strength expert and entrepreneur. Founder of <a href="http://goldevolution.com/peacepowerparenting/" target="_blank">Peace Power Parenting</a> and <a href="https://hackdfitness.com/" target="_blank">HACKD Fitness</a>, Pamela grew up on her family's <a href="https://www.applegreens.com/" target="_blank">apple farm in upstate New York</a>, graduated from Yale University, and was the point person on an <a href="http://www.fundinguniverse.com/company-histories/cosi-inc-history/" target="_blank">IPO at the age of 24</a>. After becoming a mom, holistic wellness became her passion and <a href="http://goldevolution.com/" target="_blank">all of her work</a> stems from that calling. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-12-08T19:31:00Z
3 Financial Mistakes to Avoid and How to Address Them
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2018-11-28T19:31:00Z
2018-11-28T19:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Susie Carder <br /></strong><a href="http://www.susiecarder.com" target="_blank">www.susiecarder.com</a><br /><br /><br />If you commit these following financing mistakes too often, you will largely lessen the chances of long-term business success. To become successful in your venture you need to think long term. Reputation and long-term success in business are earned in due course. <br /><br />A consistent business track record is hugely judged on financial success and this business financial success is assessed largely by means of examination of the accounts. A good business account shows to financiers, banks, colleagues and more that you are a bankable business owner and will encourage them to put their money and trust to you as well as your future business ventures.<br /><br />Through not committing any finance mistakes, at the very least you will have good financial pointers and be capable of responding to the company's financial position in time. So, the key here is to know both the causes and importance of each.<br /><br /><strong>Finance Mistake #1: No Monthly Bookkeeping </strong><br />It doesn't matter if your business is small or big, imprecise record keeping makes all types of problems relating to planning, cash flow as well as decision making. Your trade is doomed when you aren't doing monthly bookkeeping.<br /><br />A bookkeeping service is dirt cheap in comparison to other costs a company will incur. Keep you accounts balanced regularly so you can see the financial status of your company like profit, loss, balance sheet, and many others in real time.<br /><br /><strong>Finance Mistakes #2: No Estimated Budget and Cash Flow</strong> <br />Having no significant bookkeeping makes a lack of know-how on where you are. Also, without an estimated budget and cash flow, the direction to where your company is headed is unknown. Without keeping score, a company is likely to stray more and veer away from its target. This invites an issue which eventually pressures the business to change its spending and cash management routine. An estimated cash flow should be realistic. You must project a worst-case and best-case scenario based on estimated business sales and expenditures. However, it is a smart idea to aim for the best case but also you must know how to respond in a worst-case scenario.<br /><strong><br /></strong><strong>Finance Mistakes #3: Insufficient Credit Control </strong><br />There's nothing like making sales, carrying out the work, sending a client an invoice and not getting paid on time, or worse not getting paid at all. A well-established reality that the longer the credit is not collected the less possibility it will be collected. Usual credit terms in an established company are one month or 30 days, but because of a culture among some clients of paying later and small companies not imposing strict credit control, a company can often not get paid on time and run out of cash fast.<br /><br /><strong>These financial mistakes can be avoided if you follow these 3 steps:</strong></p>
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<li>Appoint a staff to be in charge of credit control.</li>
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<li>Submit your invoices promptly and take in a statement of the account with each invoice.</li>
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<li>Reinforce the payment terms and condition on contracts. </li>
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In the world of tightening credit from bank organizations, strict finance practices of business are needed even more. You cannot look forward to the bank to extend the overdraft or ease a term loan when you are following the three points above to avoid financing mistakes.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><em>Susie Carder</em></strong> is a dynamic speaker, best-selling author, and successful profit coach who helps top business leaders to create businesses that allow them to live their dreams and achieve financial abundance. Using her trademarked Predictable Success Method, Susie helps entrepreneurs to develop the business systems that lead them to substantial revenue, profit growth, and investment opportunities. Strategize with Susie at <a href="http://www.susiecarder.com/" target="_blank">SusieCarder.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2018-11-28T19:31:00Z
Replacing Judgment with Acceptance
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Replacing-Judgment-with-Acceptance/964400858573734467.html
2018-11-13T19:31:00Z
2018-11-13T19:31:00Z
<p><strong><br />By Traci Clarida <br /></strong><a href="http://www.letsgetstuffdone.com" target="_blank">www.letsgetstuffdone.com<br /><br /></a><br />When you're starting to feel a little bit enlightened and beginning to see what it's like to live an authentic existence yet are wise enough to realize that it's a continual process. When you have enough peace in your soul to exist in a happy plane most of the time, you may wonder: "<em>What can I do to give back to the Universe? How can I continue my mission for an authentic life? What actions will make a difference?</em>" <br /><br />As you become more self-forgiving and accepting of yourself, affording the same respect to others, especially those with differing viewpoints, becomes your gift to the Universe. When you ask yourself, "<em>What can I do? I'm only me, in my little world.</em>" THIS: self-forgiveness and self-acceptance - given to others. THIS is what you can give. <br /><br />Your journey is the gift you can share with others. Your experiences, your heartaches, your victories, your unfettered honesty about your struggles is what will give strength to others. Not everyone will relate to you, and that's okay! Your energy released into the Universe will flow to those who are searching for what you are offering. It will require vulnerability and vulnerability is hard and scary! <br /><br />In her incredibly insightful book, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419" target="_blank">Daring Greatly</a></em>, Brené Brown (2015) instructs that "<em>Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path</em>" (p. 34). <br /><br />Vulnerability is to smile at the woman who you think is judging you. Perhaps she is really admiring you. Be fearless: smile at her, give her a compliment, be the one good thing in her life today. You have kindness and love - you can share. You have an inkling of a clue - you can share. You're learning not to care so much about stuff that doesn't matter- you can share. <br /><br />It's the glance, the comment, the positive energy that says, "<em>I acknowledge you. I see you. I see that your struggles and insecurities are also </em>mine<em>. I give to you what I need - acceptance - acceptance of imperfection.</em>" THIS is what you can give to others.Acceptance of imperfection is <a href="https://www.letsgetstuffdone.com/single-post/2017/09/20/Judgment-Judging-Ourselves-and-Others-It-Stops-Here" target="_blank">freedom from judgment</a> of yourself and others. It is the reward of wisdom learned at a cost. The cost of lost relationships and opportunities because of selfishness, immaturity, or insecurities. Acceptance comes through the efforts of striving for authenticity. <br /><br />When you are living authentically, when you avoid judgment and instead share acceptance, you are practicing respect. In the words of the familiar refrain, "<em>R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me...take care...TCB</em>". Taking Care of Business (TCB) is affording yourself and others the respect you and they deserve. THIS how you give back to the Universe.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Traci Clarida</strong></em> is a best-selling author, highly-sought after speaker, and renowned coach whose vibrant energy spreads positivity, love, and compassion to the world. She inspires women to get "<em>stuff</em>" done through authentic living and embracing "<em>perfect imperfection</em>". She teaches clients how to find freedom from self-judgment and provides proven strategies to guide them to overcome obstacles, complete goals and execute solid plans for success. Follow Traci on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/successwithcoachtraci/" target="_blank">FB</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/letsgetstuffdone/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. For more information visit <a href="http://www.letsgetstuffdone.com" target="_blank">www.letsgetstuffdone.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br />References: Brown, B. (2015). <em>Daring Greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead</em>. London: Penguin Life.</p>
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2018-11-13T19:31:00Z
The Forgotten Importance of Real Facetime: How to Determine When a Text or an Email Won't Do
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Forgotten-Importance-of-Real-Facetime:-How-to-Determine-When-a-Text-or-an-Email-Wont-Do/284306355352967529.html
2018-11-07T19:31:00Z
2018-11-07T19:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Maryanne Comaroto<br /></strong><a href="http://www.maryannecomaroto.com" target="_blank">www.maryannecomaroto.com</a><br /><br /><br />One of today's challenges is deciding how to communicate matters of consequence, whether in business affairs or personal matters. The question here is which situations deserve real face-to-face communication. Although we live in a culture where messages with the potential to instigate nuclear disaster are "<em>tweeted</em>", as an eternal optimist I invite us to take the need for more enlightened communication into our own hands. <br /><br />As Ghandi said, "<em>Be the change</em>"... starting with revisiting how, in matters of consequence, we can have the courage to speak our truth, in person, with heart. Here I offer a practice that I have found helpful for determining when and how to have a face-to-face discussion of a MOC (Matter of Consequence) that supports the most optimal outcome.<br /><br /><strong>First Inquiry: What is the level of consequence? <br /></strong><br />When you find yourself avoiding face-to-face communication, it helps to assess the possible consequences. Situations with serious consequences and the people involved in them (including you) may merit more complex and sensitive communication than a text, email or tweet. We can likely sort serious consequences into 3 categories:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Grave:</strong> The failure to communicate may end in the cessation of life (not telling your partner you have AIDS or an STD).</li>
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<li><strong>Acute: </strong>Your communication may affect someone's professional, financial, psychological, social or physical well being (wanting to end a relationship).</li>
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<li><strong>Chronic: </strong>Consequences involve situations that have history or are repetitive and your communication may result in unwanted consequences. This might be leaving a job you're unhappy in but need the money so you've continued to put up with circumstances rather than discuss needed change. </li>
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<p><br />Categorizing the consequences of your communication will help you assess what is involved, face your fear and plot your course of action.<br /><br /><strong>Second Inquiry: How can you organize an approach that will set you up for an optimal outcome?</strong><br /><br />Using my Pause, Prepare, Practice and Center approach offers a reliable way to reduce a sense of urgency and create conditions for an optimal outcome. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Pause:</strong> Take a few deep breaths. Pausing interrupts, the momentum of thoughts racing into the future. It helps you get some space from the situation, gain a different perspective, reduce reactivity, and separate out what's true for you. It is difficult to settle on what is needed without first distilling your feelings and needs. Pausing allows time to consider any history involved, especially any issues related to your safety, including having been abused. </li>
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<li><strong>Prepare:</strong> Decide based on your truth and integrity, what needs to be communicated; then the exact words to use; and when and where you want to say them. Preparation takes into consideration others' needs and our own. Having a script in advance helps prevent you from being overcome by your emotions or getting swept up in confusion or drama (theirs and yours). Then decide where you would like to be and what time of day. The whole thing. Have an OUT CLAUSE, a way to excuse yourself if someone becomes rude or inappropriate.</li>
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<li><strong>Practice</strong> builds courage. Running through my script several times, practicing my delivery and various possible responses, increases my comfort and confidence. Though my message may be hard, even painful, to say, I remind myself that if I express myself with heart, having taken care to think it through, I am being true to myself and offering another human being the dignity and respect they deserve.</li>
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<li><strong>Center: </strong>What practices help you get to a calm, centered place from which to know and communicate your truth? This involves letting go of the results, trusting that you have given this situation your best consideration. As Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj said, "<em>There is what we do, and what we don't do. That is all.</em>" We cannot control the outcome; we can only hope that this interaction will lead to the highest good for all concerned whether or not that is immediately apparent. As another wise person said, "<em>Just because you are uncomfortable doesn't mean anything is wrong!</em>" </li>
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<p><br />Speaking your truth face to face in our culture is a courageous and soulful act. Thank you in advance for helping make the world a better place!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Maryanne Comaroto, Ph.D.</strong> is a relationship specialist with a private practice in Marin County. One of her core beliefs is that great relationships begin within. She's a researcher, author and teaches throughout the United States. She hosts an internationally syndicated radio program about new approaches to relationships. For more information visit <a href="http://www.maryannecomaroto.com" target="_blank">www.maryannecomaroto.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-11-07T19:31:00Z
What To Do With The Fake Apology
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/What-To-Do-With-The-Fake-Apology/-757137792900088432.html
2018-09-29T18:30:00Z
2018-09-29T18:30:00Z
<p><br /><strong><em>By Dr. Tomi W. Bryan</em><br /></strong><a href="http://www.Championshipdynamics.com" target="_blank">www.Championshipdynamics.com</a><br /><br /><br />We all have those people in our lives, the ones who apologize for the same thing over and over but never change their behavior. They say they are sorry, but after the 183rd time, we all know the apology isn't sincere. If they were truly sorry and wanted to change, then they would have done so by now. What can you do when someone keeps saying "<em>sorry</em>" for the same old thing? And, if you decide to say something, when is the right time to do it?<br /><br />There are two courses of action to handle the fake apology: accept the behavior or hold the person accountable. The first course of action, accept the behavior, is the path of least resistance. You know what you are going to get, and it's up to you to decide whether you will tolerate it. <br /><br />If someone keeps offering the apology and you accept it, then you are only going to get more of it. It is also important to recognize that if you accept the behavior then you don't get to complain about it. Essentially, once we accept the behavior, we have signed up to see it again and again so complaining is a waste or your time and energy.<br /><br />Accepting the behavior isn't always a bad thing. But make it a conscious choice. My husband has apologized for getting home late from work just about every day since the day we got married. At one point I decided I could either keep getting frustrated about it or manage to it, and once I decided to manage to it things became much better. <br /><br />That leads to the second option, which is to hold the other person accountable. Through observing the behavior of others, I discovered the best time to hold someone accountable is when the third apology for the same thing happens. It is usually around this time that I know the apology is "<em>fake</em>," because that is evidence they might have no serious intention of changing. <br /><br />The way to hold others accountable is by explaining the behavior's effect on you. Maybe it violates a deeply held value you have, or maybe the person's behavior is inconsistent with a value he or she holds dear. Help the person see the message their behavior is sending. Many times, we don't entirely understand the ways our behavior is perceived by others. <br /><br />While I did end up accepting my husband's being late, I still had the accountability conversation with him. Often, he was late because he was working hard to provide a good life for us. He didn't understand why I would get frustrated that he was coming home late when he was his working hard was a sacrifice for the family. <br /><br />It clicked for him when I explained the behaviors from our perspective. I told him, "<em>You always being late makes me and the children feel like we don't matter. If you want us to believe your work is more important than we are, you are succeeding.</em>"<br /><br />These conversations are valuable for helping the other person understand the effects their behaviors have on others. These conversations are most effective when they focus on the effects of the behavior, and not about you being angry or mad. When we speak from anger, it tends to make the other person defensive. For some reason, defensiveness seems to be connected to the ears so people stop listening when they find themselves in that space.<br /><br />Finally, the fake apology can be something small, or it can be a signal of disrespect or of bigger behavioral issues to come. If you have a conversation with the person offering you the apologies and they choose not to change, then you have a decision to make. You can either choose to accept the behavior or decide that it's time to let that person have a smaller role in your life.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><em>Dr. Tomi Bryan</em></strong>, a sought-after System Dynamics Expert, helps high achievers find their next gear. Discover the champion within! Learn more at <a href="http://championshipdynamics.com/" target="_blank">Championship Dynamics</a>, connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Championship-Dynamics-470777406460091/" target="_blank">Facebook</a> or schedule an <a href="http://championshipdynamics.com/appointments/" target="_blank">appointment</a> with Dr. Bryan. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-09-29T18:30:00Z
How to Move Out of Victimhood
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/How-to-Move-Out-of-Victimhood/-815138621473921293.html
2018-09-20T18:33:00Z
2018-09-20T18:33:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Brenda Knowles<br /></strong><a href="http://www.brendaknowles.com" target="_blank">www.brendaknowles.com</a><a href="http://www.brendaknowles.com" target="_blank"><br /><br /></a><br />I am always looking for ways to create resilience, especially for highly sensitive people. I want us to thrive in the world both as individuals and in relationships. I've seen significant research that shows how we interpret our lives makes us less or more resilient. If we take advantage of what happened to us rather than bemoan it, we lead healthier, more secure and content lives.<br /><br />Have you known or read about a family that suffered from a traumatic experience but produced one child who suffered as the forever victim and one child who thrived? I'm really curious about the child who thrived. Did you know that twelve of our U.S. presidents lost their fathers while very young?<br /><br /></p>
<blockquote>"There <em>is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.</em>"<br /><br />-Ryan Holiday, <em>The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage</em></blockquote>
<br />For some it seems, the obstacle is truly the way.<br /><br /><strong>Perception changes everything</strong><br /><br />I've heard it said we only have control over our perceptions, decisions and actions. Perceptions are the foundation to all three. By creating a narrative that makes sense of everything that has happened to us and how it has strengthened us, we boost and change our perspective.<br /><br />Personal coaches and therapists help clients change their perspective so they can move forward in their lives.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Sensitive and suffering<br /></strong><br />I often ask clients how a past misfortune changed them in a positive way. Perhaps their negligent parent caused them to be self-reliant and independent (sound familiar avoidant attachment types?). Perhaps their overly dependent parent taught them how to read people well and anticipate other's needs.<br /><br />Inborn sensitivity to threats matched with negligent parents makes it tough to establish security but there is hope for resilience.<br /><br />Building a narrative helps.<br /><br />We can view our sensitivity as a gift that gives us superior insight into other's feelings, allowing for close connections through empathy. We can use our parent's unavailability as a spur to develop personal grit and an independent nature.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Parenting guilt not necessary?</strong><br /><br />For a long time, I've carried a sense of guilt about needing time to myself to write and recover energy. This guilt rears its head the most in the parenting realm. <br /><br />When my marriage was ending and my writing began, I withdrew mentally and physically from the family sometimes to gather myself and create. I also was raised with a fair amount of autonomy, so naturally my parenting style resembles my parents.<br /><br />A few comments my oldest son made recently, make me think perhaps I did not scar him as much as I think I did. He said he is glad I did not 'baby' him too much. He thinks it is OK to say no to your children once in a while. He said he is more independent than kids whose parents did everything for them.<br /><br />He may not have felt my absence as deeply as I believe or he has built a positive narrative of his own.<br /><br /><br /><strong>You don't have to write a book...</strong><br /><br />You don't have to write a book to get the full benefits of establishing a narrative -just think it through, share your story with a friend, or jot down thoughts in a notebook. <br /><br />Putting your full-circle story together gives you a sense of peace and understanding that fortifies you against future ups and downs. New bumps in the road do not seem as intimidating. You've made lemonade out of lemons. <br /><br />Your big picture perspective helps you make confident decisions and take action even when the action is uncomfortable. <br /><br />You are the narrator of your story. You are no longer a victim. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brenda Knowles </strong>is the creator of <a href="http://www.brendaknowles.com" target="_blank">brendaknowles.com</a>, the website where sensitive people go to build emotional and relationship resilience. She is also the author of <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Rise-Introverts-Practices-Living-ebook/dp/B06ZYZP3T8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1537488448&sr=8-1&keywords=The+Quiet+Rise+of+Introverts%3A+8+Practices+for+Living+and+Loving+in+a+Noisy+World" target="_blank">The Quiet Rise of Introverts: 8 Practices for Living and Loving in a Noisy World</a></em>. Check out the first chapter of <em>The Quiet Rise</em> for free by clicking <a href="http://brendaknowles.com/free-chapter-from-the-quiet-rise-of-introverts-principles-of-love-and-relationship/" target="_blank">here</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br /><br />
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2018-09-20T18:33:00Z
When Perfectionism Stops You from Thriving
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/When-Perfectionism-Stops-You-from-Thriving/-624785051137545958.html
2018-09-12T18:31:00Z
2018-09-12T18:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Stephanie Lewis<br /></strong><a href="http://www.livewellflow.com" target="_blank">www.livewellflow.com</a><br /><br /><br />Do you set impractical standards for the way you handle situations at home, in social settings, or at work? Do you beat yourself up when you don't get it totally right - deep down fearing the judgment of others? Do you doubt if you're good enough if you make an honest mistake? If yes, then you are likely a perfectionist. The thing is being a perfectionist doesn't guarantee that you will always get things done better than anyone else. Instead, it can sink you into endless self-doubt, disappointment, and inevitable stress each time you fail to meet up. <br /><br />If perfectionism is something you grapple with, what might you do to be kinder to yourself in the moment? <br /><br /><strong>Here are six tips for shaking the perfectionist in you.</strong><br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Focus on those things you did (or do) right.</strong> I can remember in my 20s, beating myself up for days over even the tiniest of flaws. Talk about unnecessary suffering (and taking myself way too seriously). Even in my 40s, the self-criticism continued. Something clicked though when I was telling my then-boss about an error I made. He suggested that I start focusing on what I did right instead. </li>
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<li><strong>Reinforce the positive. </strong> Identify and talk through with your partner or a friend three things you did that you were most proud of that day. Build it into your day if you can. Doing this every day will highlight to you the positive in each day and offset the tendency to focus mostly on negative events or interactions. Focus on the positive in the ordinary. In many cases we overlook the routine in the day. But the ongoing daily interactions and tasks often reflect the most meaning and speak the most to our overall experience. </li>
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<li><strong>Pull out the nuggets of learning from the experience.</strong> What is the take away you can keep in mind, turning your experience into a teachable moment? Knowing that your experience has served a broader purpose, you can let go of your misgivings more easily.</li>
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<li><strong>Seek perspective from an older you.</strong> Ask yourself how important your mistake or misunderstanding will seem to the older, thoroughly seasoned, and wiser you. How does that change your perspective? From that vantage point, we can also better see when we are holding ourselves back personally or professionally out of a fear that we are not ready, worthy, or good enough. </li>
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<li><strong>Add a loving-kindness meditation to your day.</strong> Meditations of loving-kindness can help you meet not only others but yourself with more kindness and compassion. There are real costs to the mind, body, and spirit when you lack self-compassion and continually beat yourself up. Forgiving yourself for not being perfect can help you overcome fears and move forward to achieve your dreams.</li>
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<li><strong>Connect with loved ones and supportive colleagues. </strong> Engage with others who can remind you that you are not alone and who accept you as you are. We all make mistakes. Being imperfect is one thing all of humanity has in common. Caring friends, family, and colleagues can reinforce that you are loved and accepted despite being an imperfect human being. </li>
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<p><br />Quiet the endless stream of self-criticism that causes you real suffering and keeps you from bringing out the best you for yourself and your loved ones. You can be kind to yourself and still thrive.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Stephanie Lewis </strong></em>is a certified health & wellness coach and meditation instructor. She is also certified as a Tai Chi Easy Practice Leader through the Institute of Integral Qigong and Tai Chi. She helps people <a href="https://livewellflow.com/work-with-me/" target="_blank">suffering from overwhelming reduce stress and burnout</a> and create their own unique pathway to balance, peace, and well-being. To take Stephanie's quiz to discover how to create more balance and manage stress visit: <a href="https://livewellflow.com/" target="_blank">http://www.livewellflow.com/</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-09-12T18:31:00Z
Balancing Caregiving and a Career
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2018-08-24T17:19:00Z
2018-08-24T17:19:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Lisa B. Capp<br /></strong><a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/" target="_blank">www.lisabcapp.com</a><br /><br /><br />Studies, articles, and blogs today give caregivers advice on balancing responsibility and managing stress. Whether you can hold a demanding job(s) or advance a career as a primary caregiver remains the dilemma. Nearly 44 million Americans (most working part or full time) provide regular, unpaid care for an older adult. And 10 million <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/caregiving/love-loss-and-relationship-reality/" target="_blank">millennials</a> (that's 1 in 4!) have already joined the ranks of elder caregiving. Remember elder doesn't necessarily mean old, early onset Alzheimer's can be diagnosed as early as forty. <br /><br />The real question might now be: Is it up to family caregivers alone or should employers share in some of this responsibility?<br /><br />In the late 1990's as a high tech consultant with global responsibility, dad passed away from complications of dementia and mom moved in to live with my husband and me. Mom was beginning to demonstrate early stage dementia symptoms, but my husband and I were initially clueless and later in complete denial <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/caregiving/contemplation/" target="_blank">as our lives flipped upside down</a>.<br /><br />My husband called from the emergency room after another of mom's falls. I stepped out of the executive meeting to speak softly so others wouldn't hear. The exchange began: "<em>I'll get a flight back tonight. No, there's nothing you can do tonight. I feel awful you have to deal with this alone. You'll be home soon enough to take over...</em>" And so it went, it was like a familiar tune someone carelessly hums that's now stuck in your head. I returned to the meeting feeling helpless and hopelessly distracted.<br /><br />During our 18-year dementia journey, no one at work spoke out loud about the challenge of elder care. In the high tech world, women only whispered about the impact pregnancy might have on their career growth. The thought of walking into my boss's office to discuss the true time required to take my mom to doctor's appointments was inconceivable.<br /><br />Can we manage the role of caregiver with a career? Or are we destined to exit the workforce in droves taking up caregiving while shortchanging our own future physically, emotionally and financially?<br /><br />The good news is the workplace stigma of caring for an aging loved one is changing. The bad news is it isn't changing fast enough.<br /><br />In a newly released whitepaper, "<em>Taking Care of Caregivers,</em>" Facebook highlights a cultural shift for employees with elder care responsibility by incorporating existing community resources with emerging business platforms. The big benefits are resources available in the workplace and protected under the company's HR offerings. Although unproven, the hope is you'll focus on work, openly support your caregiving responsibilities and grow your career. The motivation for this change is it's good for you and for your employer.<br /><br />ReACT (Respect A Caregiver's Time) and AARP teamed up to produce "<em>Supporting Working Caregivers: Case Studies in Promising Practices,</em>" which identifies companies trying out traditional and innovative business practices to specifically support employees with elder care responsibilities.<br /><br />What if you don't work for one of these enlightened companies? What can you do while waiting for the culture to change where you work?<br /><br /><strong>Four Things to Remember:<br /></strong></p>
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<li><strong>Accept that you cannot do it all: </strong>Identify what you need to be successful in caregiving and make sure you get it. Don't devolve into the pity party beginning with, "no one else will help". Accept that your immediate or extended family may not be your primary support network. And if that's the case, move on.</li>
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<li><strong>Find your tribe:</strong> Identify resources who support your caregiving responsibility. If your company doesn't offer eldercare consulting, find a service that does. There are many free services for information and support like the <a href="https://alz.org/" target="_blank">Alzheimer's Association</a> 24-hour helpline (800-272-3900).</li>
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<li><strong>Push aside feelings of guilt:</strong> You didn't cause this. Even on the days that your loved one's behavior suggests you are wholly and totally responsible. Understand it's the illness and not your loved one talking.</li>
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<li><strong>Know you will lose patience during caregiving: </strong>Whether it's at yourself, your loved one, your job, the medical community, fate or the world you will lose patience while caring for a loved one, especially one with a brain disease. Walking a tightrope between your work, caregiving, family and your own health won't allow time to take a walk or go to the gym. Instead develop strategies that aren't time bound: tune out "<em>in place</em>", step away, smile and nod or excuse yourself and scream into a towel. Do what quickly disconnects you from the emotion of your most stressful situations. </li>
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<p><br /><br /><em><strong>Lisa B Capp</strong></em> is a writer, activist, and dementia caregiving survivor. She serves on the Alzheimer's Association Leadership Board Desert Southwest, is a member of the Alzheimer's Impact Movement and AlzAuthors. As a High Tech Change Consultant, Lisa worked with leaders of global business, governments, and non-profits around the globe. Her passion for building strength through the transition in her professional work is now focused on helping others find their power through the caregiving journey. For more information visit her website at <a href="http://www.lisabcapp.com/" target="_blank">www.lisabcapp.com</a>. Connect on Twitter @lisabcapp and LinkedIn at LisaBCapp. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-08-24T17:19:00Z
3 Steps to Better Life Decisions
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2018-08-14T18:20:00Z
2018-08-14T18:20:00Z
<p><strong><br /><em>By Dr. Tomi W. Bryan</em><br /></strong><a href="http://www.Championshipdynamics.com" target="_blank">www.Championshipdynamics.com</a><br /><br /><br />We make a lot of decisions every day. Some are small, like, "<em>do I want fruit for breakfast?</em>", and others are quite a bit bigger, like, "<em>should I quit my job,</em>" or, "<em>should I buy a house.</em>" It would be nice if all our decisions were easy, but there is no universal blueprint for how to make the right decision. <br /><br />The good news is that, while there is no universal blueprint for making decisions, you can make the tough decisions easier. Here are three steps you can take to make better life decisions.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Know Your Top 5 Values.</strong><br /><br />Knowing your top 5 values is essential for better decision-making. Finding your top 5 values is a discovery process and there are 2 meaningful ways of discovery. The first option is finding a list of values on the internet or getting a deck of values cards and starting to narrow your list down. If you find yourself having trouble in the process you can also check out CEO Sage Scott Jeffrey's <a href="https://scottjeffrey.com/personal-core-values/" target="_self">7 Steps to Discover Your Personal Core Values</a>.<br /><br />The second option is taking time to observe yourself in your everyday life. Figure out what the values are that drive your everyday decisions. Is it family? Independence? Integrity? Loyalty? Become aware of what you hold dear and how that interacts with how you structure your life.</li>
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<li><strong>Make Decisions Using Your Values</strong>.<br /><br />The best model for making values-based decisions can be found in Suzy Welch's book "<em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">10-10-10: A Fast and Powerful Way to Get Unstuck in Love, at Work, and at Home</span></em>". Prior to discovering the 10-10-10 method, I discussed strategy and decisions based on the short-term, mid-term and long-term. People's eyes glazed over. There was nothing "sexy" about evaluating decisions in those time frames. But Welch changed that with 10-10-10.<br /><br />With your top five values in hand, the starting point for 10-10-10 is a clearly defined question - what are you trying to answer? The second step for 10-10-10 is to use your values to answer what are the positive and negative outcomes from your decision in 10 minutes (short-term), in 10 months (mid-term), and in 10 years (long-term).<br /><br />The final step is to analyze the information you have gathered. Welch wrote that this part of the 10-10-10 process requires you to ask yourself: "<em>Knowing what I now know about all of my options and their consequences, which decision will best help me create a life of my own making?"<br /><br /></em>On her book cover, as an endorsement, Glamour called 10-10-10 <em>"the best decision-making tool ever." Because of 10-10-10, Welch said her "<em>life is renewed; my decisions deliberate, purposeful and confident.</em>"</em></li>
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<li><strong>Timing matters</strong>.<br /><br />Decision fatigue is real. After a long day of making decisions, research shows willpower is depleted and the ability to make smart decisions drops drastically. It is best to make big decisions earlier in the day.</li>
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<p><br />By incorporating these three steps into your daily routine and practicing them over and over, you will find that your ability to make decisions that are purposeful and powerful increases. You will also find that tough decisions aren't so tough anymore. As you begin to understand who you are, what you like, what you don't like and use that information to make choices, it becomes easy to see the choice that best suits you.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Dr. Tomi Bryan</strong></em>, a sought-after System Dynamics Expert, helps high achievers find their next gear. Discover the champion within! Learn more at <a href="http://championshipdynamics.com/" target="_blank">Championship Dynamics</a>, connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Championship-Dynamics-470777406460091/" target="_blank">Facebook</a> or <a href="http://championshipdynamics.com/appointments/" target="_blank">schedule an appointment</a></p>
<p>with Dr. Bryan. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-08-14T18:20:00Z
5 Steps to Grieving Well So You Can Live Well
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2018-08-01T18:01:00Z
2018-08-01T18:01:00Z
<p><br /><strong><em>By Gary Roe</em><br /></strong><a href="http://www.garyroe.com" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a><br /><br /><br />We're all missing someone, and it hurts. <br /><br />Loss is painful. Grief is challenging. We never get over people. We're not designed to.<br />Life is about relationships. We're wired for connection. No wonder we don't do separation well. When someone we love departs, they leave a hole in our hearts. <br /><br />As a hospice chaplain and grief counselor, I'm in daily contact with loss and death. Grief is part of the atmosphere I breathe. Every interaction reminds me of how crucial it is to live now and live well.<br /><br />Recently, I had the honor of speaking at a Hospice Celebration of Life service. Several hundred people came, some with pictures in hand, to pay tribute to and honor loved ones who died over the last year. As I looked out at that sea of faces, I could see the grief in their eyes. Emotional pain mixed with a quiet reverence permeated the room.<br /><br />As one attendee put it, "<em>I'm alive, but heartbroken. I'll never be the same</em>."<br /><br />No, we will never be the same. How could we be? Someone we love is missing. <br /><br />I began my talk with, "<em>I'm so glad you're here. Tonight, we're here to remember, to honor those we've lost, and to express our love for them. You're here because you loved them, and you love them still.</em>"<br /><br />I went on to share five practical ways they could remember, honor, and celebrate their loved one. I would like to share these with you today because how you grieve matters, both for you and the world around you. <br /><br />If you're hurting from a loss, is it possible to grieve well, honor the one you've lost, and still engage in life? <br /><br />Absolutely. Here are five action steps you can begin to take immediately.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Speak their name.</strong><br /><br />Names are powerful. Just a few letters can mean so much.<br /><br />Say their name out loud and often. See their face. Picture their smile. They matter, and so do you. Speak their name.</li>
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<li><strong>Tell their story.</strong><br /><br />Tell your stories of them to whoever will listen. Share those memories that nothing and no one can take from you. Telling their story - which in many ways is also your story - will help you process your grief and begin to heal.<br /><br />And as you share, you'll see them in your mind's eye. You will remember. Telling their story is part of loving them. It's also part of taking your own broken heart seriously.<br /><br />Tell their story. </li>
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<li><strong>Live their legacy.</strong><br /><br />What really mattered to them? What was their life about? Let something that was important to them be important to you. Continue the cause. Serve in their stead. Give. Live their legacy.<br /><br />In many ways, they are not gone. They are a part of you. They deeply impacted you and contributed to who you have become. Let them inspire you to serve for the greater good.<br /><br />Live their legacy.</li>
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<li><strong>Honor them on special days.</strong><br /><br />Our calendars are littered with special times - birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and many more. These are wonderful opportunities to intentionally remember them and express your love for them.<br /><br />Light a candle. Gather with others and share memories. Write them a letter or card. Set up an empty chair. Be creative. Be proactive. Make a plan. Keep it simple.<br /><br />Don't dread these times and let them hijack you. Take action. Honor them on special days.</li>
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<li><strong>Love them by taking care of yourself</strong>.<br /><br />A wonderful way to honor your loved one is to take the best care of yourself possible. Make this number one on your priority list. You owe it to yourself and those who love you to be the best, healthiest version of yourself possible.<br /><br />As a bonus, you'll feel better overall and everyone who encounters you will experience the trickle-down effect of your conscientious self-care.<br /><br />Grief is draining, demanding, and exhausting. Honor them by taking care of you. You'll be serving those around you as well, perhaps without even knowing it. </li>
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<p><br />Speak their name. Tell their story. Live their legacy. Honor them on special days. Love them (and others) by taking care of yourself.<br /><br />Imagine if we all did this. The growth and healing we would experience would be stunning. We would reap gains from our losses. And we might just live more meaningful, passionate lives than ever before. <br /><br /><br /><br />Award-winning author, speaker, and grief specialist <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gary-Roe/e/B00JD4XH0O" target="_blank">Gary Roe</a> is a compassionate and trusted voice in grief-recovery who has been bringing comfort, hope, encouragement, and healing to hurting and wounded hearts for more than 30 years. <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/comfort-for-grieving-hearts/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get a free excerpt of his new book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts. <em>For more information visit <a href="https://www.garyroe.com/" target="_blank">www.garyroe.com</a></em>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-08-01T18:01:00Z
Why We're Wired to Resist Change and How to Open Yourself to New Possibilities
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Why-Were-Wired-to-Resist-Change-and-How-to-Open-Yourself-to-New-Possibilities/292863279812146435.html
2018-07-23T17:31:00Z
2018-07-23T17:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Rebecca Johnson Osei, PsyD <br /></strong><a href="http://www.ConciergePsychology.com" target="_blank">www.conciergepsychology.com</a><br /><br /><br />Have you ever known that a situation wasn't good for you, or that a change in a situation would result in something better, but still found yourself hesitant to make the change? If so, congratulations: you're totally normal! <br /><br />Humans are hardwired against change. According to evolutionary psychology, human beings are wired to act in ways that keep us safe and increase our chances of survival. This served us very well while we were living in caves and running from mountain lions, and it probably still comes in handy when we find ourselves out in an alley at 4:00 in the morning. <br /><br />But on a day-to-day basis, it may actually serve to discourage us from taking risks that could be beneficial. To put it another way, we work from the perspective of the devil we know is better than the devil we don't. If we can predict what will happen next, we can prepare for it. The unknown poses inherent risk and danger. By keeping things as static as possible we minimize the risk to ourselves. In life or death situations this is great. <br /><br />If it is a matter of deciding to move to an apartment closer to your job, to leave a relationship that is not very healthy, or to apply to a job that would allow you more upward mobility, this natural instinct may hold you back. All of these situations come with their own risks, but most likely death is not one of them and the possible benefits may outweigh the risks. <br /><br />Unfortunately, your subconscious brain can't differentiate between a life-and-death risk and one that is perhaps just emotionally or financially risky. Fortunately, there is a rational side to your brain that you can control! Here is one way to help make sure that you're thinking with your rational brain and not your evolutionary instinct to keep things the same:<br /><br />Make a pros and cons list. Actually, make two! <br /><br /></p>
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<li>What are the benefits and costs of staying in the situation you are in now, versus the benefits and potential risks of changing the situation? </li>
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<li>Do the benefits of your current situation outweigh the negatives of the current situation? </li>
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<li>Do the potential benefits of the new situation outweigh the risks? </li>
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<p><br />If your answer was "<em>yes</em>" to the first but not the latter then perhaps you don't want to take that specific risk, but it sounds like you are still ready for a change. If your answer was "<em>no</em>" to both, then why were you even thinking about changing? Sounds like you have it made in the shade! And of course, if the answer was "<em>yes</em>" to the second then you should probably go for it. <br /><br />It never hurts to get advice from a career counselor, financial advisor, relationship coach, or another expert. But, at the end of the day, you probably know what you want. You just have to figure out if it's fear holding you back or something else.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong><a href="http://www.conciergepsychology.com/" target="_blank">Dr. Rebecca Johnson Osei</a></strong></em> is the owner of Concierge Psychology, one of the first true concierge psychotherapy practices. By accepting only a limited number of clients, Dr. Osei is able to offer a flexible schedule with remarkable accessibility. Clients can expect discreet and individualized services to address a variety of concerns, including anxiety, stress, depression, relationship issues, work-life balance, and improving work performance and life satisfaction. <a href="http://www.conciergepsychology.com/" target="_blank">http://www.conciergepsychology.com/</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-07-23T17:31:00Z
Four Rules to Achieve Sustainable Habit Change
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Four-Rules-to-Achieve-Sustainable-Habit-Change/-186323144821446298.html
2018-07-17T18:20:00Z
2018-07-17T18:20:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Jill Sodini<br /></strong><a href="http://www.habitualhealthbyjill.com" target="_blank">www.habitualhealthbyjill.com</a><br /><br /><br />If you google "<em>habit change</em>", you will find articles that provide anywhere from 7 to 29 ways to implement new behavior. There is even a pretty intense flow chart on How to Change a Habit by Charles Duhigg. It's overwhelming to think about making any life changes, especially when there are 29 ways to do it. It doesn't have to be that complicated, in fact, it's not. By following only four specific rules for habit change it's possible to achieve your goals.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Don't set a time limit on habit change.</strong><br />Have you heard that it takes 21 days to change a habit? Many wellness programs will even use "<em>21 Days</em>" in the title. While it may take 21 days, this is not a hard and fast rule as once thought. The idea came from Dr. Maxwell Maltz in 1960, a plastic surgeon who found that it took 21 days for patients to get used to seeing their new face after surgery. Somehow this principle was applied to all habit change, which still boggles my mind. More recent studies, such as one published in the European Journal of Psychology in 2009, suggests that the time frame for sustainable habit change is dependent on the individual. The minimum is roughly 21 days, however, it can take longer. The key is not throwing in the towel too soon. Releasing a possible unrealistic expectation removes stress from the process.</li>
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<li><strong>C</strong><strong>hange in small manageable steps.</strong><br />We set ourselves up for failure when we try to do too much at one time, causing stress which triggers the brain to find a reason to abort the mission. This part of the brain has been referred to as the Critter Brain, because of its nuisance like qualities. Its sole job is to keep you alive, so it will pop up and nag at you when it senses change. Ultimately it determines that you haven't died yet from doing what you have been doing, so sticking with that is a safer plan. It can't see past the current moment to understand what is best for you moving forward. To keep the Critter Brain at bay, make the change in small amounts. </li>
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<li><strong>Stop the "<em>all or nothing</em>" mentality.</strong><br />Life is not black and white and neither is habit change. The grey area is progress. The mentality that something isn't worth trying because it seems so unattainable gets you nowhere fast. Congratulations, you have officially accomplished nothing other than feeling bad about yourself for giving up, again. It doesn't have to end like this.<br /><br />Let's look at the example of giving up sugar. Refined sugar is a major source of inflammation which impacts mood, pain, auto immune disease, weight, etc. It would be great if we could all give it up completely, but that isn't realistic so we need to come up with something that is. A better approach is to see where you are consuming the most sugars, say it's breakfast. Make one small change to cut back on the amount of sugar intake just at breakfast. When that goes smoothly, make a second change and repeat.<br /><br />It's not about being perfect; it's about being better. Better than we currently are, even by the slightest bit. Small changes can yield big results and they don't trigger the panic button for the Critter Brain that ultimately causes us to talk ourselves out of creating new habits.</li>
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<li><strong>Forget the superficial reason for wanting to make habit change and dig deep for your ultimate motivating factor.</strong><br />Without truly understanding what we want to achieve with these changes, they will never be sustainable. A digging deeper dialog would go something like this:<br /><br />Q: Why do you want to lose 30lbs?<br /><br />A: I want to fit into my favorite jeans again.<br /><br />Q: Why?<br /><br />A: I will feel more confident in how I look.<br /><br />Q: What will having that do for you?<br /><br />A: I'll live life without the worry of my weight and truly experience each moment.</li>
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<p><strong><br />BINGO!</strong> That is a goal worth making a change for.</p>
<p>When approaching habit change from a realistic perspective, working with the mind instead of against it, we can achieve and sustain our goals.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Jill Sodini<em>,</em></strong> Founder of <a href="https://www.habitualhealthbyjill.com/" target="_blank">Habitual Health By Jill</a>, is a Certified Health Coach, author and speaker. She provides realistic strategies for sustainable <a href="https://www.habitualhealthbyjill.com/health-coaching" target="_blank">habit change</a> regardless of the topic. With over 20 years of work experience and education in the field of health and wellness, Jill is an expert in providing the right system, support and accountability to obtain desired health. <a href="https://www.habitualhealthbyjill.com/contact" target="_blank">Contact</a> Jill to take control of your life. <a href="http://www.habitualhealthbyjill.com" target="_blank">www.habitualhealthbyjill.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-07-17T18:20:00Z
The 5 Secrets of a Happy Life
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-5-Secrets-of-a-Happy-Life/936906596333540193.html
2018-07-09T17:05:00Z
2018-07-09T17:05:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By: Dr. Tomi W. Bryan</strong><br /><a href="http://www.Championshipdynamics.com" target="_blank">Championshipdynamics.com</a><br /><br /><br />Gallup research shows that 70% of employees in America are unhappy. Thus, I paid attention one recent morning when my husband was in a good mood as he prepared to go to work. I asked what was up (since 7 out of 10 people aren't happy at work in the U.S.). He said he had just listened to Faith Hill's song <em>The Secret of Life</em>. He proudly repeated a few lines of the song and then announced, "<em>There is no secret</em>." I said, "<em>Oh, but there is hombre. And there is more than one.</em>" In fact, there are 5 secrets to a happy life. Using them can make work and lifeless frustrating and stressful:<br /><br /><em><strong>1. Embrace the mystery of life.</strong></em><br /><br />Life is a mystery. Our lives are treks up the mountain, and somebody keeps moving the summit. We can be disappointed that we never get where we want to go, or we can embrace the twists and turns life presents us and enjoy the ride. When we embrace that life is a mystery, not a problem to be solved, we allow ourselves to enjoy an adventure that lasts a lifetime. So, sit back, relax, and enjoy. <br /><br /><br /><em><strong>2. Clear away interference.</strong></em><br /><br />Tim Gallwey, an author and former professional tennis player, developed a formula for simplifying tennis performance:<br /><br /><em>Performance = potential - interference</em><br /><br />This formula represents Gallwey's believe that your performance on the tennis court is equal to your potential, less the interference that limits or detracts from your ability to tap into your tennis potential. This formula applies to happiness in life also.<br /><br />Life is more fun and people are happier when they are living as their best and most successful selves. When we resolve the personal and structural interferences that face us every day, it allows us to tap into more of our potential and live as our best selves. <br /><br /><em><strong>3. Leave the past in the past. </strong></em><br /><br />The <em>past</em> calls the shots until you make peace with it. Dr. James Hollis, a Jungian psychologist and author, observed: "<em>the past calls the shots, at least until it is flushed out into the full light of consciousness.</em>"<br /><br />I call this past the energetic karmic scrap heap. It contains childhood wounds and traumas, family stories and past life contracts and vows. To be free of this scrap heap, we are required to shine a light on it, inquire into it and love it regardless of what we see. <br /><br /><em><strong>4. A happy life demands emotional maturity. </strong></em><br /><br />I cringe every time I see the movie Jerry McGuire and watch Tom Cruise say, "<em>You complete me</em>" to his girlfriend. Why? Because no one can complete you but you. When we want the people in our lives to be responsible for our happiness, we abdicate responsibility for our own lives and for our own happiness.<br /><br />Emotional maturity demands we enter any relationship as a whole and unique person. Relationships are so much better when we step into them whole than when we step into them looking for someone to be those things we aren't, can't be, or won't be. <br /><br /><strong><em>5. Follow the 24-hour rule. </em></strong><br /><br />This 24-hour rule is about feeling what you feel when you feel it. Many of us try not to feel our emotions; we stuff them back down and deny them. When we avoid our feelings in the moment, they tend to surface at inopportune times and create unnecessary drama. <br />Allow yourself 24 hours to wallow, cry, drink champagne, yell, beat your fists on your chest, or dance by the light of the moon. Do whatever you have to do to feel the emotion. Then, when the 24 hours are up, you leave the hurt or pride in that moment and take the lessons learned forward with you.<br /><br />Author, marketer, and entrepreneur Ryan Holliday wrote, "<em>Remember that this moment is not your life, it's just a moment in your life.</em>" <br /><br />Use these 5 things and take your happiness - and success - to the next level. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Tomi Bryan</strong>, a System Dynamics Expert, helps high achievers find their next gear. Discover the champion within! Schedule a coaching session with Dr. Bryan at <a href="http://championshipdynamics.com/appointments/" target="_blank">http://championshipdynamics.com/appointments/</a> or connect with Dr. Bryan via <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomi-white-bryan-2139903/" target="_blank">Linkedin</a>, twitter (@champdyn) or facebook (Championship Dynamics). Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-07-09T17:05:00Z
3 Surprising Behavior Changes from Mealtime Mindfulness
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2018-06-29T18:31:00Z
2018-06-29T18:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Heather Sears</strong><br /><a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/" target="_blank">heather-sears.com</a><br /><br /><br />Scientists have found we make 225+ daily mealtime decisions and are unconscious of around 200. <br /><br />After going through a stressful period of life and literally choking through multi-tasking, unhealthy meals, I began applying a personal mindfulness approach around all areas of food - meal planning, shopping, cooking and eating. The result was more time, ease, enjoyment, more wholesome choice and I lost weight. <br /><br />Being mindful helped me make better decisions.<br /><br />Through shifting my approach to my food my well-being and productivity also improved in other areas of my life. Just like our unconscious food decisions, many of our thoughts are running in the background repeating a narrative that may be influencing our lives in ways differently than we would prefer.<br /><br />Here are a few of the ways mindfulness shifted my behavior beyond the kitchen table, and how it may help you too.<br /><br /><strong>Engage wholly: </strong>Yes, I post #food pics on social media. But through going analog around food I expanded my ability to connect with life. The difference between looking at great Instagram posts and taking the raw salad fixings and using my hands to wash, chop and arrange on a plate is the multisensory connection between the food and myself. I've learned to lean into these moments through my senses - without critique, judgment or a need to "<em>like</em>" it. <br /><br />Consciously working with raw ingredients feels rich and authentic, simple and perfect. Getting cookie dough under my fingernails seems to quiet my mind and connect me to the food in a straight-forward way. It helps me get real with myself and I now purposefully take this approach to being with people. <br /><br />I like to listen with my eyes and ears and sense the whole situation, not just wait for a gap to speak. Rather than take more time, I've found these conversations are more productive and I think it's because I'm "getting" the whole person and they don't need to spend time repeating things they thought I did not hear or defending themselves.<br /><br /><strong>Move through resistance:</strong> Thanks to a lot of practice noticing and dissolving my resistance to meal planning, cooking new foods and chopping onions, I am now able to recognize my resistance in other situations - like starting various projects, making certain decisions, having uncomfortable conversations, and turning off my screens. I now know how to move through them successfully. <br /><br />I am also more comfortable being uncomfortable and can use my breath to get through '<em>fight or flight</em>' reflexes. This has saved time by dislodging procrastination and has led to many opportunities that would not have existed if I let my resistance hinder me. For example, I was nervous to make a public statement at a large conference the other week. But I did it. Afterward, several people found me to discuss working together and one person insisted on giving me cash on the spot for some material I was discussing.<br /><br /><strong>Nourish creativity: </strong>Practicing real-time mindful observation around food has illuminated countless insights and shifted my dining habits. I like to try innovative approaches to suit my newfound understanding. Not only are meals more flavorful, textured and nourishing, so is life. <br /><br />By carrying the practice of observing with fresh senses and dropping stale assumptions beyond the kitchen I've applied insights to creatively increase productivity and insert fun into otherwise dreary activities. Now I optimize activity timing to suit energy levels and insert playfulness into personal goals. I've found novel ways to reach deadlines with less effort. <br /><br />Mindfulness helps me see more clearly what is around me, create mental space for new ideas to show up and get out of my own way to execute them.<br /><br /><em><strong>Why does this shift of being around food impact other parts of life?</strong></em> <br /><br />I believe it's because how we do one thing is how we do everything. We bring our identities, habits, preferences, and life approach to all we do. Shifting ourselves in one area changes us and will flow to other areas as well. Learning to engage with your food in real ways along the entire path to consumption is a great place to start to deeply and authentically engage with ourselves.<br /><br /><br /><br /><em><strong>Heather Sears</strong></em> is the author of the award-winning book, '<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Mindful-Mealtime-Moments/dp/0999304305/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1516125865&sr=8-1&keywords=mind+to+mouth+sears" target="_blank">Mind to Mouth: A Busy Chick's Guide to Mindful Mealtime Moments</a></em>'. (Download a <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/freeexcerpt/" target="_blank">free book excerpt</a>.) She is an accomplished marketing executive and founder of <a href="http://www.kinshokitchen.com/" target="_blank">Kensho Kitchen</a>. Heather has a BA with high honors from the University of Michigan and an MBA from the Kellogg Graduate School of Management at Northwestern University. She volunteers to teach <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/tips/the-busy-chick-secret-to-more-time/" target="_blank">mindfulness</a> and meditation in Boston where she lives with her husband and son. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-06-29T18:31:00Z
Why Multitasking is a Myth
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2018-06-22T17:20:00Z
2018-06-22T17:20:00Z
<p><br /><strong>by Julie Rosenberg, MD <br /></strong><a href="http://www.julierosenbergmd.com/">www.julierosenbergmd.com</a><br /><br /><br />Do you multitask in order to achieve more, faster? I did too before I realized that multitasking is actually a myth.<br /><br />Not too long ago, my team was waiting for some key information from the US Food and Drug Administration that would influence the design of a pivotal clinical trial. We'd waited a long time for their assessment, and when it finally came through, I called a meeting to discuss the information. Most team members were scattered throughout the United States and Europe, so I set up a teleconference. As we discussed these critical materials from our locations in various places throughout the world, I heard a cacophony of sounds in the background: someone tapping on a keyboard, a baby crying, a doorbell ringing, cars honking, the shuffling of papers, and more.<br /><br />Was anyone listening? How much of this important information was anyone hearing, much less absorbing and understanding? <br /><br />Doing one thing at a time is no longer enough. Most of us practice multitasking, and it is ingrained in our daily lives-constantly texting, writing emails, checking Facebook, talking on the phone, listening to podcasts, catching up on the news. We think we are being efficient, but the reality is that the constant interruption and distraction that comes from multitasking disrupts our ability to stay focused and present. Over time, it puts you at a disadvantage when working on important projects, juggling your job and family, or simply staying engaged with whatever you are doing in the present.<br /><br />Web surfing has been termed “<em>the new secondhand smoke.</em>” Even sitting next to someone multitasking on a laptop could affect your learning and performance, according to a 2012 Canadian study. Not only did students who multitasked during class have reduced comprehension of lecture material, those in view of multitaskers also had reduced comprehension.<br /><br />Multitasking was extolled for years as a key trait of high achievers, and it was practiced by many-if, not most-in corporate settings. However, in recent years, researchers have proven that the belief that engaging in several tasks at once means we are more productive is a myth. Medical research reveals that the brain does not really do tasks simultaneously. Further, if we do too many things at once, our brains lose the capacity for deep thinking altogether. When we divide our attention among tasks, what we're really doing is "<em>task switching</em>"-that is, focusing for a brief period on one task, then another, then another. In each moment, we only focus long enough to feel (and look) busy but never enough to truly engage with the problem and develop a novel and effective solution to it. Our attention is expended by switching tasks instead of on becoming fully engaged with any single activity.<br /><br />Rather than saving time, multitasking actually costs us time, and it also makes mistakes more likely. As we rapidly switch contexts, we actually lose focus, and it may take longer to become re-engaged in a single task and achieve a deep level of thought. This is not a recipe for success.<br /><br />You can expand your attentive capacity through regular practices, including:</p>
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<li>Alternate nostril breathing</li>
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<li>Meditation</li>
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<li>Journaling</li>
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<li>Spending time outdoors</li>
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<li>Getting plenty of sleep. </li>
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<div><br />Our most precious resource is time. But even in an endless timeframe, without the ability to focus, it's tough to get the job done. We'd all like to be more focused, self-motivated, and capable of achieving high levels of productivity without getting mired in the myth of multitasking. Minimizing distractions and directing our attention to specific tasks or interactions can greatly improve our impact at work and in life.</div>
<p><br /><br /><br /><strong><em>Julie Rosenberg, MD</em></strong> is a physician executive and experienced healthcare leader who oversees global drug development programs in the pharmaceutical industry. In addition, Julie has devoted the last 15 years to the in-depth study and practice of yoga. She received her advanced teaching certification from Down Under Yoga in Boston in 2015. She teaches yoga primarily "<em>beyond the mat</em>," helping individuals and groups to apply the principles and practice of yoga to their daily lives. In 2017, she was selected by Number 1 executive coach and leadership thinker Marshall Goldsmith from among 16,000 applicants as one of the MG 100 coaches. Her first book-<em><a href="http://www.julierosenbergmd.com/books/beyond-the-mat/" target="_blank">Beyond the Mat: Achieve Focus, Presence, and Enlightened Leadership Through the Principles and Practice of Yoga</a></em>-is published by Da Capo/Hachette Books. For more information, find her on <a href="https://twitter.com/J_RosenbergMD" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/JulieRosenbergMD/" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/julierosenbergmd/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or visit her at <a href="http://www.julierosenbergmd.com" target="_blank">www.julierosenbergmd.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-06-22T17:20:00Z
Three Ideas to Create A Healthy New Normal After the Empty Nest
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2018-06-14T17:21:00Z
2018-06-14T17:21:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Dr. Margaret Rutherford</strong><br /><a href="https://drmargaretrutherford.com/" target="_blank">www.drmargaretrutherford.com</a><br /><br /><br />When empty nest hit, I mentally counted every day the same way I did when my child was born.<br /><br />"<em>He's been gone two months and three days.</em>" Then it became, "<em>Five months and 17 days.</em>" After several months, I lost count. The new normal had hit. He was creating new relationships and new spaces to call home.<br /><br />His dorm room. An apartment. The fraternity house. Even the entire college campus.I wrote about it in a post called "<em><a href="https://drmargaretrutherford.com/separate-houses/" target="_blank">Separate Houses</a></em>". When I read it now, I sound a little pitiful. But that's how it felt for a time. Not long, thank goodness.<br /><br />I saw a fairly new empty nester this week in my office. She was trying to figure out her own new normal. Her college-age daughter would breeze in for the weekend but spend all her time catching up with friends. Yes. She was home. Yes, mom knew it was her job to step aside. But darn it. She didn't get the time she wanted with her daughter. After all, she no longer got to greet that bedhead kid groping her way down the stairs to get a cup of coffee first thing every morning. She didn't hear the back door slamming after basketball practice: "What's for dinner?" She's not getting to enjoy the small glimpses of the child that's still within the almost grownup she sees before her.<br /><br />And she missed those moments. A lot of parents miss those moments.<br /><br />How do you talk to your now emptied child about this new normal? How do you express the kind of time you'd like with her without coming across as needy? What are healthy boundaries? <br /><br />As I searched my own experience, I discovered three helpful changes in my thinking and behavior. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Avoid making assumptions about what time together will be like.</strong><br /><br />You might have all kinds of ideas about how you'd like a weekend or a holiday to be spent. But your returning child will probably have her own ideas. If you make assumptions, you're more than likely going to be surprised, and maybe even get hurt. The late teenage years and early twenties aren't the most empathic of times, and your child may be focused on her independence. She's not living at home anymore and has had the experience of going and doing whenever she wanted. Coming home for her - maybe even coordinating activities with you - isn't something she's used to. </li>
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<li><strong>Communicate before your time together about your own expectations or desires and theirs. </strong><br /><br />"<em>We know you've got lots of people you want to see. How about we plan to have Saturday brunch, just us? Then the rest of the weekend is up for grabs.</em>" Or, "<em>I'd like to ask that we go as a family to visit Grandma. When could we work that out?</em>" It's not that those plans are wedged in concrete. You can remain flexible. But you've asked for something reasonable. They can as well. These agreements honor the parents, who want a little "<em>alone time</em>" with a child, as well as your child who has others to consider.<br /><br />Sometimes the shoe is on the other foot, and parents may be busy as well. If you're communicating and compromising, things will go much more smoothly.</li>
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<li><strong>Realize you're practicing a skill you'll need for the rest of your life - sharing your child with the world and letting go.</strong><br /><br />If all goes well, and parents want good things for kids, then life will become more complicated. There'll be a wife or husband, in-laws and babies. How they spend their time will no longer be completely in their control. Just like high school assignments could make or break a weekend, more adult responsibilities will take time - just as they did in your own life.<br /><br />Letting go is an ongoing journey. But these three ideas can help clear that path and avoid miscommunication and conflict.<br /><br /><strong>Dr. Margaret Rutherford</strong>, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-five years in Fayetteville, Arkansas., Her work can be found at <a href="http://www.drmargaretrutherford.com/">http://www.drmargaretrutherford.com</a>,as well as HuffPost, Psych Central, Psychology Today, the Gottman Blog and others. She's the author of "<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Not-Chickens-Margaret-Rutherford/dp/0692843256/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1494956175&sr=8-1&keywords=dr+margaret+rutherford">Marriage Is Not For Chickens"</a>, a perfect gift book on marriage, and hosts a weekly podcast, <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/selfwork-dr.-margaret-rutherford/id1166015598">SelfWork</a> with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Her new book, <em>Perfectly Hidden Depression</em>, will be published by New Harbinger in 2019. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></li>
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2018-06-14T17:21:00Z
The Dos & Don'ts with Separation Anxiety in Family Pets
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2018-05-02T18:31:00Z
2018-05-02T18:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By Malena DeMartini<br /></strong><a href="http://www.malenademartini.com" target="_blank">www.malenademartini.com</a></p>
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<div><br />Why does my dog have separation anxiety? This is always a difficult question for me to answer when I am asked this by a dog guardian. The short answer is that we don't have a good answer for that question, but there may be some explanation of this disorder.<br /><br />The most important thing to know when pondering the question of "<em>Why?</em>" is that it is not your fault. It is not because you have over-coddled your dog. It is not because you aren't a strong enough leader. It is not because your dog was abused or because she came from a poor breeder or shelter. Separation anxiety can develop in most any dog and is incredibly prevalent in the species. It is not breed specific and can happen to perfectly sound bred puppies. <br /><br />There are several potential situations that can cause separation anxiety to pop up, however my personal belief is that the dog has a genetic predisposition for this disorder. So you may not ever see separation anxiety signs until you move to a new location, but then suddenly the dog is anxious about being left alone. <br /><br />This is a common occurrence, yet I don't think that it was exclusively the move itself, but rather that the dog had a predisposition for alone time anxiety and the move from a familiar location was the precipitating event that brought it out. Any major change in a dog's life can be such a triggering event. A traumatic experience to the dog could be a divorce, a terrible scary storm, a large change in schedules or loss of a loved one. There are many things that can happen that the dog perceives as scary that can lead to separation anxiety. <br /><br />So, what can be done to prevent separation anxiety if we don't know the cause really or if it is potentially genetic? The answer to that question is that we can do everything perfectly by socializing our puppies well, introducing them to crates and/or alone time gradually and leaving them with amazing food toys, but some will still get separation anxiety and will have to go through training to overcome it.<br /><br />I think it is wise to consider that we can optimize the dog's chances for alone-time success by doing a few important things and not doing other things.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Your List of Do's</strong><br />
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<li>Do - Start with short absences and build up the dog gradually as long as he is not stressed.</li>
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<li>Do - Exercise your dog regularly and provide lots of enrichment in the form or training, treat dispensing toys and fun things to chew on. </li>
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<li>Do - use a reliable daycare, pet sitter or dog walker when you need to be away for any amount of time longer than your dog is comfortable.</li>
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<li>Do - speak to your veterinarian and contact a professional trainer if your dog is experiencing signs of stress when left alone.</li>
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<li>Don't - Scold or punish your dog for doing something you don't approve of while you are out. He is not misbehaving, he is having a panic attack.</li>
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<li>Don't - Use equipment that might be painful or scary for your dog. Equipment such as shock or citronella collars will only mask symptoms of anxiety and can actually increase your dog's fear. </li>
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<li>Don't - Leave your dog in a crate alone if he hasn't been thoroughly conditioned to love his crate.</li>
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<li>Don't - leave your dog alone for any longer than he is comfortable. He will not just "<em>get over it</em>" Your dog is scared and needs help.</li>
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<br />As a dog guardian, it is your job (a privileged one at that), to help your dog be safe, happy and comfortable. Make sure you follow these guidelines to ensure that.<br /><br /><br /><em><strong><a href="https://malenademartini.com/about/meet-malena/" target="_blank">Malena DeMartini</a></strong></em> is renowned in the dog training world for her expertise in canine separation anxiety. She is the author of the book, <em>Treating Separation Anxiety in Dogs</em>, and has contributed articles on separation anxiety to publications around the world. She is a sought-after speaker internationally and is training worldwide dog professionals to work within this specialty through her <a href="https://malenademartini.com/for-trainers/separation-anxiety-certification-program/" target="_blank">Separation Anxiety Certification Program</a>. Malena is passionate about furthering education in this field through science-based research. Whether a dog professional or guardian, feel free to reach out to Malena at for a free phone 30-minute phone call. <a href="http://www.malenademartini.com" target="_blank">www.malenademartini.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </div>
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2018-05-02T18:31:00Z
More Taste, Less Waist: The Mindful Eating Observation Game
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2018-04-10T17:31:00Z
2018-04-10T17:31:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By<span> <span>Heather Sears</span><strong></strong><em></em></span><br /></strong><a href="http://www.heather-sears.com" target="_blank">www.heather-sears.com</a></p>
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<div><a href="http://www.heather-sears.com" target="_blank"></a><br />We can have a lot of mindless habits around food. Mindlessness can come from lack of interest, assumptions that we fully understand something, or not being conscious of an action. Mindfulness is the antidote to such auto drive behavior. Mindful eating is paying moment-by-moment attention to our eating experience and observing hunger and satisfaction cues before and during consumption. It's becoming aware of mental and sensory inputs and letting go of judgment.<br /><br />Play this Mindful Eating Observation game and experience a fun way to increase your ability to engage fully with your food and yourself. This can help intentionally evolve your eating habits (researchers find eating mindfully supports weight loss) or simply create more enjoyable experiences. Ready, set, eat!<br /><br /><strong>Get Present: Take 2 breaths</strong><br /><br />Feel your breath going in and out of your nose and lungs. Relax into the exhales. Breathing consciously is a simple way to calm the nervous system and bring the mind out of any distraction to the present moment.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Hunger Check: Name it</strong><br /><br />Put your mind in your belly and rate your physical hunger. How hungry are you on a scale of 1-10? Ravenous? A bit hungry? Or are you experiencing a different hunger - perhaps you're bored, sad or stressed? We experience nine hungers such as emotional, mindless, and visual hunger. Identify which hunger you have and name it.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Food's Journey: Identify 5</strong><br /><br />Have you thought about all the many hands that helped get your food get to you? Before the first bite, think about at least 5 people who were part of bringing your food to your plate, such as the farmers, cooks, truckers, or maybe whoever taught you the recipe. Have you thought about the miles the food has traveled or the length of time it takes to grow, mature, ship to get to you? The more cognizant we are of the journey of food to plate the more we can make conscious choices about what we put in our body.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Taste Prep: Create a Pause</strong><br /><br />Researchers find that pausing before eating - such as dunking a donut in coffee, saying a word of thanks to all those people involved in bringing your meal to the plate, or even taking a picture to post on social media - helps the meal taste better because of the slight delay in gratification! So before you take a bite, create an extra moment.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Sensory Hunt: Notice 5</strong><br /><br />With the first bite, notice 5 things. Use all your senses as well as your own inner awareness to observe your eating experience. For example, look at the color and details of what you are eating, listen to the crunch, feel the texture, notice how flavors merge and dissolve, feel your urge for another bite, note when you desire to finish chewing and swallow, etc. You are building your power of observation which is shown to increase meal satisfaction.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Speed Bump: Take 2 breaths</strong><br /><br />Sometimes we feel too busy to taste. Ever wolf down a meal in 30 seconds? Often this is an automatic, practiced behavior. Rather than speed eating, focus on putting your utensils down between each bite. Take a breath or two and notice how this feels. If you feel resistance, simply note it. It is not good or bad, just take it in as a reference point. Pausing between bites helps us slow down a bit to support digestion and be intentional about taking, and enjoying, the next bite.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Savoring Inquiry: Identify 3</strong><br /><br />Savoring is deliberately focusing on what you're eating or drinking. Appreciating every flavor nuance. Noting each sensory detail. Slowing down to extend the pleasure of each morsel. As you take your next few bites purposefully savor them. Afterwards observe three ways that you feel.<br /><br /><br /><strong>What did you notice?<br /></strong><br />Tell someone what you observed during this game to reinforce your experience. It may start a fun conversation or inspire them to join you next time!<br /><br /><br /><br /></div>
<div><strong>Heather Sears</strong> is the author of the award-winning book, '<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Mindful-Mealtime-Moments/dp/0999304305/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1516125865&sr=8-1&keywords=mind+to+mouth+sears" target="_blank">Mind to Mouth: A Busy Chick's Guide to Mindful Mealtime Moments</a></em>'. (Download a <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/freeexcerpt/" target="_blank">free book excerpt</a>.) She is an accomplished marketing executive and founder of <a href="http://www.kenshokitchen.com/" target="_blank">Kensho Kitchen</a>. Heather has a BA with high honors from University of Michigan and a MBA from the Kellogg Graduate School of Management at Northwestern University. She volunteers teaching <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/uncategorized/the-busy-chick-secret-to-more-time/" target="_blank">mindfulness</a> and meditation in Boston where she lives with her husband and son. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </div>
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2018-04-10T17:31:00Z
Take The Initiative To Care for Your Overall Well Being
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Take-The-Initiative-To-Care-for-Your-Overall-Well-Being/-695987361230073764.html
2018-04-01T17:24:00Z
2018-04-01T17:24:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By<span> Barbara Bruno</span><br /></strong><a href="http://www.barbaraannbruno.com" target="_blank">BarbaraannBruno.com</a><br /><br /></p>
<div>Over the past few years, my main focus has shifted from nutritional wellbeing to emotional wellbeing. Both are extremely important to live a balanced life. Although well versed in both areas, I chose to focus on relationship work; healthy relationship's affect physical health. We often do not think of the impact our emotions and relationships play on our physical health. It is only when our physical health begins to fail that we begin making positive lifestyle changes.<br /><br /></div>
<div>What is the first thing your doctor tells you when you're diagnosed with any kind of chronic illness? Less stress. Start lessening the stress in your life. What are a few common life stressors we deal with on a daily basis? Relationships, money issues, career.</div>
<div><br />The relationships we choose to have with our significant others, in our career or with money, will determine the amount of stress we allow into our lives. Relationships are not limited to those three categories. There are many other relationships that will benefit from changing the way we see things. Things happen for us, not to us, and we have absolute choice in what we let in to our lives and what we keep out. That includes negative thought.<br /><br /></div>
<div>What if we decided to lessen the stress in our lives before chronic illness set in? Mind over matter. What we tell ourselves has a direct impact on our physical health. Negative self-talk is very common in our society, I'm not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, I can't, I should. We believe what we perceive, both positive and negative. What does this mean for us? Self-defeating thoughts will keep us down whereas believing in ourselves will keep us moving forward even through adversity.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Years of negative self-talk takes time to overcome. With patience and practice it can be done. If we turn those negative self-defeating phrases around what would life look like for us? What would it feel like to live in a world of positive thought? I am good enough, I am smart enough, money will be there when I need it, I love the way I look, I can and I am going to do this on my terms.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Releasing years of negative thought and pent up aggression will have a direct impact on your physical health in a positive way. If you find this challenging or need more direction, seek counsel. Seeking counsel is very common. It means you are taking the initiative to care for your overall well-being. This will impact not only you but those around you. Taking time to care for your emotional and physical health also takes care of those you love. They too will reap the benefits of your healthy lifestyle changes.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Take time to identify what may be causing you the most stress in your life. These very stressors compromise your overall well-being. Use positive self-reinforcement to combat these negative stressors. Meditation will help calm down and focus the mind. Guided meditation is always a good place to begin if your mind is over crowded with thoughts. Listening to a soothing voice helps relieve stress and grants you focus.<br /><br /></div>
<div>Practice positive self-care on a daily basis and you'll notice your emotional and physical health begin to improve. Try this for three weeks and see how you feel on both an emotional and physical level. Take care of you and see the world around you change.</div>
<div><br /> <br /><br /><strong>Barbara Bruno</strong> is an expert on romantic relationships. You can find more ways to rekindle your romance in her book Take back Your Life One Relationship at a Time. Contact her Barbara for a complimentary session to learn more about her speaking engagements, topics, and private coaching sessions. Visit <a href="http://www.barbaraannbruno.com" target="_blank">www.barbaraannbruno.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </div>
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2018-04-01T17:24:00Z
The Keys to Being Present
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Keys-to-Being-Present/737895329961964811.html
2018-03-26T17:58:00Z
2018-03-26T17:58:00Z
<p><br /><strong>By James Gray Robinson<br /></strong><a href="http://www.jamesgrayrobinson.com" target="_blank">www.jamesgrayrobinson.com</a> <br /><br /><br /><strong>Perception is Projection<br /></strong><br />The simplest definition of "<em>being present</em>" is the awareness of who we are and what we experience without judgment or emotion. Eastern philosophy advises that to find peace and serenity we must observe what happens in life in a detached state without layering emotion over what we observe. Modern psychology teaches that what we observe often is changed through our perception and judgment of it. In other words, perception is the projection of our thoughts and prejudices on what we experience. Thus, concepts such as good and bad and right and wrong are purely subjective and different for everyone. When we are "<em>present</em>", we can be aware that our understanding of the world is simply our perception of our experiences influenced by our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs. "<em>Being present</em>" detaches our awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs so we can see the world for what it is, simply what we are experiencing in the present moment. By doing so, we eliminate emotional stress, fear, and anxiety.<span> </span><br /><br /><strong><br />Be grateful 5 times a day<br /></strong><br />Routine remembrance of things that make us happy helps us to focus on the blessings of life and stop complaining. After all, people who constantly complain have a hard time being present, primarily because they don't want to be present. They want to be a victim and manipulate their family and friends with their suffering. Some people are quite good at it. By being grateful, we empower ourselves to see life as it is and be present. A "<em>present</em>" is a "<em>gift</em>" and if you don't appreciate all the gifts you have then you aren't going to appreciate being present. By thinking about being grateful 5 times a day, we reinforce this feeling of gratitude and keep reminding ourselves what is important. Pick the times you will practice this and stick to it. You will be amazed how your stress and anxiety goes away.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Remember the past, don't resent it</strong><br /><br />I hear over and over on the Internet and in workshops that we "<em>have to let go of the past</em>" to achieve something (fill in the blank...happiness, goals, abundance, relationships, etc.). I must say that this totally misses the point and probably does more harm than good for people who are struggling and suffering with their life. In my practice and in my life, I have found that it is far more productive to embrace my past and enjoy it than to "<em>let go</em>". This also includes the notions that we must forgive and forget our past and the people who we have experienced in it. When we can detach from the emotions of the experience, we can look at the experience for what it was, just an experience. If we can let go of the emotional attachment to getting what we want, we can eliminate suffering. Perhaps they also mean "<em>don't be a victim</em>", again not the same thing as "<em>letting it go</em>". If we believe that we are not victims and the creator of our reality, why would we want to let it go? Each experience is our creation, our baby. Why would we want to let that go?<br /><br />We don't need to let our past go. We need to appreciate our past, embrace our past and understand that we are who we are because of our past. Now if we do not love ourselves, and fill ourselves with self-hatred, then we will resort to denying our past and letting it go. If, on the other hand, we love ourselves, we do not have to let go of our past. To love ourselves is to be present.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Life happens for us, not to us</strong><br /><br />We are here to experience life. Every experience we encounter is meant to teach us something about ourselves. There are five levels of consciousness:</p>
<ol>
<li>Survival </li>
<li>Self-awareness </li>
<li>Detachment </li>
<li>The release of the idea of self </li>
<li>Enlightenment </li>
</ol>
<p>To be present we must get to level 3, if not higher. When we are constantly in survival mode and going from one disaster to the next, we are not able to be present. So, become "<em>self-aware</em>" and then "<em>detach</em>" from your judgment about life. "<em>Being present</em>" is the ability to see life as it is, not what you judge or believe it to be. In this way, you can fully appreciate what is happening, and that is to make you a better person.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Observe, don't judge</strong><br /><br />What do you spend your day thinking about? If you are not thinking about what is happening at any moment, you are distracting yourself and not being present. We were designed to fully focus on every given moment but through culture and programming, we have learned how to distract ourselves from that designated purpose. We think about the past, we think about the future, we think about our finances, we think about our relationships but we rarely, if ever totally focus on what is happening in any given moment. We focus on getting what we want, or how to keep what we have, but don't have the power to observe our experience objectively and rationally. We wear colored glasses (goggles?) to change our experience. These glasses can be glasses, judgments, beliefs, prejudices, drugs or alcohol. We must take off these glasses to be present and accept the world for what it is, a gigantic playground.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Don't gossip</strong><br /><br />People love to get in each other's business and then share the contents of everyone's life with someone else. We chew over every little morsel with our friends and digest everyone else's life in intimate detail. The juiciest bits are the parts that may be embarrassing or destructive. By doing this, we distract ourselves from our lives so that we don't have to deal with our experiences. This gossip includes politics, religion and scandals. To be present, we must focus on our own experiences and be self-aware of our own existence. Someone else's business is none of our business.<br /><br />Being present is a moment to moment thing. Very few people can be present all the time. The best most of us can do is try to be present often. These tips can help us do that.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>James Gray Robinson</strong>, An award-winning trial attorney, and writer is recognized as a sought-after relationship expert. A frequent speaker and guest on radio shows across the globe, Gray brings his rare blend of wisdom, humor, experience, and consciousness to heal and enhance any relationship. For information visit <a href="http://www.jamesgrayrobinson.com" target="_blank">www.jamesgrayrobinson.com</a>, <a href="http://www.soulspark.global" target="_blank">www.soulspark.global</a>, listen to Gray on Soulspark Radio on <a href="http://www.W4WN.com" target="_blank">W4WN.com</a> and <a href="http://www.Iheart.com" target="_blank">Iheart.com</a>, connect with him on Twitter @divinelightmstr or Instagram at soul_spark. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /></p>
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2018-03-26T17:58:00Z
Choose Joy: How Choosing More Joy in Your Life Will Change the World
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Choose-Joy:-How-Choosing-More-Joy-in-Your-Life-Will-Change-the-World/-578585710064872554.html
2018-03-19T18:01:00Z
2018-03-19T18:01:00Z
<p><br /><em><strong>By Michelle Nelson-Schmidt </strong></em><br /><a href="http://www.whatifmonster.com" target="_blank">www.whatifmonster.com</a> <br /><br /><br />I read the news and it's bleak. It's sad. It's heartbreaking, anxiety-filled and rage-inducing at times. It's a fine-line between wanting to stay informed and wanting to hide in a corner rocking myself under a blanket because what's the point, right? But I found the answer. It will work for you too, promise! The best part? Is that it actually will change the world! <br /><br />CHOOSE JOY. <br /><br />Change the world by choosing joy today. Do something today, anything, that brings you joy and makes you smile. Do something that makes your heart feel as if it's all lit up inside and could might burst from the pleasure. Now, I know what you're thinking. I do. But, I give you permission. Forget about what you have to do, forget about why you don't think you deserve it, forget about every excuse you have ready and waiting to squash this idea and just...go make some joy! <br /><br />You might think that choosing to do something joyful for yourself is selfish. But that could not be further from the truth. Seriously, choosing joy is not selfish, it's a public service! Joy is literally one of the highest frequencies of energy that exists in the world. That means that when you create joy for yourself, you are elevating the energy on the whole planet. Think about that for a moment! A simple act that makes your heart happy, fills up your soul, something that makes you smile from ear to ear actually will make the earth a better place! It's science! For real, look it up! <br /><br />I've been choosing joy for a while now, so I go big when I choose joy. I once rented a cargo van and drove 19 hours round trip to go get an 11-foot blue whale sculpture that I wanted to hang in my living room - and had no idea how I'd hang it. My joyful blue whale now greets me every morning - but that's another story for another time. <br /><br />Can't go drive cross country to pick up an 11-foot whale? Need to go a bit smaller? Maybe you're out of the practice for creating joy. That's okay! Creating joy right now is easy! Here's some easy-peasy ideas guaranteed to bring joy into your life immediately! <br /><br /></p>
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<li>Find your favorite song - you know the the one, you're already humming it - you know every single word to it - go sing it as loudly and exuberantly as you can! I dare you not to feel the joy! If you're in an office? Make it a sing-a-long! </li>
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<li>Watch your favorite funny movie and laugh out loud at all your favorite parts - loudly and unapologetically! Snort-laugh if you want to! </li>
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<li>Go to your local bookstore, sit down on the floor in the children's section and read a stack of picture books. The joy factor will be off the charts, promise! </li>
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<li>Go to that doughnut shop and get that dang doughnut you love so much and eat it with no guilt. Eat it with the joy of a 5-year-old! Better yet, eat it with a 5-year-old - double the joy! </li>
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<p><br />When you choose to bring joy into your life, your joy will elevate the world and make it a better place. You will literally elevate the joy in the world for ALL OF US.Now go create some joy and help me change the world with one joyful act of enthusiasm and exuberance at a time. <br /><br />Also: Don't forget to say thank you and be grateful for the joy in the world that you are a part of. <br /><br /><br /><br />Michelle Nelson-Schmidt is an author, illustrator, public speaker, mother, sister, daughter, and wife. She loves dogs, the beach, and a really great Boston cream doughnut from time to time. But most of all she loves living life enthusiastically and exuberantly while making a whole lot of mistakes along the way. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><a href="http://www.whatifmonsters.com" target="_blank">www.whatifmonsters.com</a> - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/michelle.nelsonschmidt" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/michelle.nelsonschmidt</a> - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MNScreative/" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/MNScreative/</a> - <a href="https://twitter.com/MNScreative">https://twitter.com/MNScreative</a> - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mnscreative/">https://www.instagram.com/mnscreative/</a><a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="http://gundrymd.com/" target="_blank"><br /><br /></a></p>
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2018-03-19T18:01:00Z
5 Reasons Why You've Stopped Losing Weight (And They're Not Exercise-Related)
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/5-Reasons-Why-Youve-Stopped-Losing-Weight-And-Theyre-Not-Exercise-Related/-811036302828448928.html
2018-03-12T20:01:00Z
2018-03-12T20:01:00Z
<p><strong><br /></strong><strong>By Dr. Steven Gundry</strong><br /><a href="http://gundrymd.com/" target="_blank">Gundry.md.com</a><br /><br /><br />Losing weight is not easy for most. Anyone who has tried to lose weight before will tell you, it's no day at the beach. In fact, when you put on weight, you might not even realize it. Then you realize, with a start, that your body just doesn't feel like it's yours anymore. <br /><br />Instead, your body starts to feel like it belongs to sugar and fat. That's because processed sugars and the wrong kinds of fat can get you hooked on the wrong kinds of food. And once that happens, losing weight is a whole new kind of challenge ... a seemingly impossible one.<br /><br />But, what if you take good care of yourself - counting calories and exercising - and you're still not losing weight<br /><br /><strong>Could something be sabotaging your weight loss efforts?</strong><br /><br />The answer is ... yes. In fact, there are a number of enemies of weight loss - five of them, to be exact.<br /><br /><br /><strong>1. Life in the Fast Lane</strong><br /><br />The fight against obesity is real, and one of the biggest culprits in that fight is moving too fast. Life's gotten pretty darn busy, right? People don't seem to take the time they need to cook the right foods. Even worse, people don't slow down long enough to eat their food slowly.<br /> <br />It's just become customary to opt for the fastest, easiest fix - every single time you eat.<br /><br />And it's not your fault. You've got a meeting, or your son's recital, or your daughter's birthday party. There's just too much to do. So, you try to one-stop-shop, or you eat on-the-go.<br /><br />The issue is, that kind of eating offers up some <a href="https://www.livescience.com/7932-eating-fast-fat.html" target="_blank">detrimental consequences</a>. Fast-food from chain restaurants is causing a real problem in this country. Turns out, some of the latest research proves that shoving large portions of food down your throat, quickly, can repress the release of the hormones that tell your brain you're full.<br /><br />That means your brain never knows when it's time to stop eating. What happens then? You overeat.<br /><br />You've got to learn to slow down in order to lose weight. Make the time to cook a healthy dinner. Put it on your calendar, and make it as important as your kids' activities.<br /><br />Your health is as important as your to-do list.<br /><br /><br /><strong>2. Thyroid Hormones</strong><br /><br />Do you know what your thyroid's main job is? It's pretty simple - it makes hormones. Then, it pumps them into your bloodstream and sends them to every tissue in your body.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.thyroid.org/wp-content/uploads/patients/brochures/Thyroid_and_Weight.pdf" target="_blank">These hormones help your body</a> stay warm, monitor the consumption of calories, and decide how much energy to use when it comes to keeping your organs and muscles working correctly.<br /><br />Not only that, but your metabolism is tracked by regulating the oxygen used by your body over a certain amount of time. And your thyroid helps with that, too. In fact, when you measure your metabolic rate (BMR), you can assess your thyroid health too.<br /><br />If your BMR is low, it might mean your thyroid is malfunctioning and maybe even causing you to gain weight.<br /><br />If you think you're thyroid is getting in the way of your weight loss, talk to your healthcare professional about testing your BMR.<br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Imbalance in Your Gut</strong><br /><br />Now, trillions of microbes live in your digestive tract. <a href="https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/leaky-gut-syndrome/" target="_blank">And while most of them are good, dangerous bacteria live in your gut, too.</a><br /><br />The bad bacteria in your gut change the way you process fat. Those bad bugs also mess with the system that lets you know when you're hungry or full. So, if you've got more bad bugs in your gut than good bugs, you could have a tougher time getting rid of excess weight.<br /><br />When it comes to balancing out your gut microbes, the food you eat is really important. When you binge on processed foods, you're essentially telling the bad bacteria to take over. In fact, you're actually encouraging obesity.<br /><br />But probiotic foods or supplements can actually help you out here. Probiotics will help you fill your gut with good bacteria and even help you decrease your bad bacteria and lose weight.<br /><br /><br /><strong>4. Getting Stressed Out</strong><br /><br />It happens to everyone. Stress is never fun, and <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2727271/" target="_blank">it can wreak havoc on your body</a>. Sure, there are all kinds of stress - the stress of your personal relationships, work-induced stress, or worry over finances. Any number of these stressors can actually cause weight gain.<br /><br />Perhaps it's because stress is a major factor when it comes to addiction - or maybe it contributes to metabolic issues. <br /><br />Whatever the reason, stress can often cause changes in your eating habits, so beware. If you're stressed, look for healthy ways to alleviate your stress - exercise, massage, and getting the right amount of sleep can really help.<br /><br /><br /><strong>5. Is The Right diet Wrong For You?</strong><br /><br />Too many people think there's one kind of diet for their personality type or their body type. <br /><br />The thing is, <a href="https://www.annualreviews.org/doi/full/10.1146/annurev-publhealth-032013-182351" target="_blank">the right diet might be wrong for you</a>. And how do you even choose between a low fat, low glycemic, Paleo, vegan, or low carb diet?<br /><br />The common thread in each of these plans is a natural diet, free of processed foods. It's even better if those natural foods are lectin-free plant foods. Nutritionally-dense plant foods can support a lot of beneficial health outcomes - including lowering the possibility of serious illnesses in several cases.<br /><br />Work on filling your plate with lectin-free whole foods, resistant starches, probiotic foods, and prebiotic foods. <br /><br />Cut out the following:</p>
<ul>
<li>Dairy products? </li>
<li>Sugar </li>
<li>Processed foods</li>
<li>Whole grains</li>
</ul>
<p>You'll be on the right path in no time. <br /><br />In The End ...The more you know about weight loss saboteurs, the more you can recognize your bad habits and change them. <br /><br />And listen carefully to your body. It will tell you when something's wrong. <br /><br />You can lose the weight you want to lose. When you know what's in your way, you can get on the path to optimum health.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Steven Gundry</strong> is a renowned heart surgeon, New York Times best-selling author and medical researcher. He is the author of <em><a href="http://drgundry.com/books/" target="_blank">Dr. Gundry's Diet Evolution; The Plant Paradox</a></em>; and out in April 2018, <em><a href="http://drgundry.com/books/" target="_blank">The Plant Paradox Cookbook</a></em>. As the leading expert on the lectin-free diet as the key to longevity and vitality, Dr. Gundry believes we have the ability to heal ourselves through nutrition if certain dietary obstacles are removed. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="http://gundrymd.com/" target="_blank">http://gundrymd.com/</a></p>
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2018-03-12T20:01:00Z
Meaningful Traditions: Two Ways to Take Back the Sacred in Your Life
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Meaningful-Traditions:-Two-Ways-to-Take-Back-the-Sacred-in-Your-Life/903009284283329259.html
2018-03-05T19:38:00Z
2018-03-05T19:38:00Z
<p><strong><br /></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>By Laura Bonarrigo</strong><br /><a href="http://www.laurabonarrigo.com" target="_blank">laurabonarrigo.com</a><br /><br /><br />There was a time when what we did as parents and lovers was sacred. Private. Our own meaningful traditions that helped create the new family we were forming together. It was the way we made our family separate from our parents or the neighbors. It meant something and it holds a special place in my heart. It was filled with the dreams we had for our parental responsibilities and our role as lovers, and friends. When that relationship broke apart, I not only lost the other part of my marriage, I also lost those traditions and meanings too. <br /><br />What was, and for quite some time, remained confusing though, is that we still had the same children. Even though we were no longer living under the same roof, they remembered what was special and important, be it the brownie who left them seasonal gifts outside their bedroom door or the half-Birthday celebrations complete with family and friends. They understood that holidays were now filled with different people even though I had the same food on the table. They reported back when ordering in food was done at their other home, instead of home cooked meals, making me wonder why that part seemed so easily let go? They also suffered the loss of what was magical for us as a family.<br /><br />My first few holidays alone were painful. I found myself on the kitchen floor in tears, surrounded by sterling silver trays and soup on the stove. Learning how to cope with losing the comfort of the union while making new traditions for me and my children has not only been an eye-opening experience, it has taught me the value of starting over without holding on. It's caused me to breathe in at the moment and relinquish control over to others. It's helped me become in touch with what matters to me, my children, and given me the confidence to create anew. <br /><br />Here are two ways to recreate meaning and traditions even when it's hard.<br /><br /><strong>1. Practice gratitude. </strong>You've been given the gift of starting over and no matter how difficult it may feel in the moment, you have an opportunity to make your days your own. I get it if you're angry and in fear! In those moments, gratitude will seem like meaningless platitudes. I'm the first to self-righteously declare nothing is good. But when I stop and really breathe in, at the moment, I've been given a big change in my life experience and that's all that's going on. I'm not a bad mom or a bad woman. I'm not hanging on to what was and pretending reality doesn't exist. <br /><br />The meanings I bring to the moment color everything. If I say the holiday stinks because I can't entertain the way I used to, well, then it'll stink and I'll be in a horribly negative mood. But if I declare my kids and I can now have chocolate fondue for New Year's Eve or any holiday we want to, then I'm a kick-ass mom who's made her children delighted for the night! So decide what works for you and your life today. Consider the meaning you're making stuff mean and lift your own spirits and those you're with.<br /><br /><strong>2. Who cares? Really. </strong>At times, my anger gets the better of me. I've had to learn to stop trying to control other people and every time I do, I get a lesson from God. How vain of me to think that what we did together would transfer into his single life? He was rejecting my behavior the same way I rejected his. What made me think he would continue our sacred traditions when we were no longer together and why bother to make him? <br /><br />Going from being married to being single isn't for the faint of heart. It takes guidance and stamina to stay on your side of the street. The better I got at managing my own suffering and focusing on healing, the easier it's gotten for my kids. They're a lot wiser than I sometimes give them credit so because of them and their need for me to show up, I let go.<br /><br /><br /><br />Laura Bonarrigo is a Certified Life Coach and a Certified Divorce Coach at <a href="http://www.laurabonarrigo.com/" target="_blank">laurabonarrigo.com</a>. Laura's a writer, public speaker and the founder of doingDivorce School, an online coaching program for those ready to shed the pain of divorce. For empowering and practical ways to lose the identity of your past, visit <a href="http://www.doingdivorceschool.com/" target="_blank">www.doingDivorceSchool.com</a> and <a href="http://www.laurabonarrigo.com/" target="_blank">laurabonarrigo.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2018-03-05T19:38:00Z
Take The Initiative To Care for Your Overall Well Being
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Take-The-Initiative-To-Care-for-Your-Overall-Well-Being/-63610936673255369.html
2018-02-11T17:13:00Z
2018-02-11T17:13:00Z
<p><strong><br />By Barbara Bruno<br /></strong><a href="http://www.barbaraannbruno.com" target="_blank">barbaraannbruno.com</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank"><br /></a><span style="color: #000000;"><br />Over the past few years, my main focus has shifted from nutritional wellbeing to emotional wellbeing. Both are extremely important to live a balanced life. Although well versed in both areas, I chose to focus on relationship work; healthy relationships affect physical health. We often do not think of the impact our emotions and relationships play on our physical health. It is only when our physical health begins to fail that we begin making positive lifestyle changes. <br /><br />What is the first thing your doctor tells you when you're diagnosed with any kind of chronic illness? Less stress. Start lessening the stress in your life. What are a few common life stressors we deal with on a daily basis? Relationships, money issues, career.<br /><br />The relationships we choose to have with our significant others, in our career or with money, will determine the amount of stress we allow into our lives. Relationships are not limited to those three categories. There are many other relationships that will benefit from changing the way we see things. Things happen for us, not to us, and we have absolute choice in what we let in to our lives and what we keep out. That includes negative thought.<br /><br />What if we decided to lessen the stress in our lives before chronic illness set in? Mind over matter. What we tell ourselves has a direct impact on our physical health. Negative self-talk is very common in our society, I'm not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, I can't, I should. We believe what we perceive, both positive and negative. What does this mean for us? Self-defeating thoughts will keep us down whereas believing in ourselves will keep us moving forward even through adversity.<br /><br />Years of negative self-talk takes time to overcome. With patience and practice it can be done. If we turn those negative self-defeating phrases around what would life look like for us? What would it feel like to live in a world of positive thought? I am good enough, I am smart enough, money will be there when I need it, I love the way I look, I can and I am going to do this on my terms.<br /><br />Releasing years of negative thought and pent up aggression will have a direct impact on your physical health in a positive way. If you find this challenging or need more direction, seek counsel. Seeking counsel is very common. It means you are taking the initiative to care for your overall well-being. This will impact not only you but those around you. Taking time to care for your emotional and physical health also takes care of those you love. They too will reap the benefits of your healthy lifestyle changes.<br /><br />Take time to identify what may be causing you the most stress in your life. These very stressors compromise your overall well-being. Use positive self-reinforcement to combat these negative stressors. Meditation will help calm down and focus the mind. Guided meditation is always a good place to begin if your mind is overcrowded with thoughts. Listening to a soothing voice helps relieve stress and grants you focus.<br /><br />Practice positive self-care on a daily basis and you'll notice your emotional and physical health begin to improve. Try this for three weeks and see how you feel on both an emotional and physical level. Take care of you and see the world around you change.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Barbara Bruno</strong> is an expert on romantic relationships. You can find more ways to rekindle your romance in her book <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Take-Back-Your-Life-Relationship/dp/151881896X" target="_blank">Take back Your Life One Relationship at a Time</a></em>. Contact her Barbara for a complimentary session to learn more about her speaking engagements, topics, and private coaching sessions. Visit <a href="https://www.barbaraannbruno.com/" target="_blank">www.barbaraannbruno.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2018-02-11T17:13:00Z
Disrupt Your Nine Hungers with One Simple Mindfulness Tip
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2018-02-05T19:58:00Z
2018-02-05T19:58:00Z
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<p><strong>By Heather Sears<br /></strong><a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/" target="_blank">www.heather-sears.com</a><strong><br /></strong><a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank"><br /></a><span style="color: #000000;"><br />Mindfulness is the #1 food trend that will shape 2018 according to <a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/phillempert/2017/12/13/10-food-trends-that-will-shape-2018/#2a9547eb410" target="_blank">Forbes</a>. Being mindful at mealtimes and throughout the day is more than paying attention to the food we choose, prepare, and eat. It's learning to recognize hunger in its various forms. It is being able to eat without being impacted by external influences and noticing-and respecting-fullness. It's eating for enjoyment while nourishing our bodies.<br /><br />Many of us have forgotten what true hunger feels like. Experts across the fields of mindfulness and behavioral sciences talk about several types of hunger. See if you recognize these in yourself:<br /><br /></span></p>
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<li><strong>Visual Hunger. </strong>We all have a natural desire or urge to look at food. Seeing crave-worthy food, physical or virtual (e.g., food porn) can make us want to eat, now!</li>
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<li><strong>Nose Hunger. </strong>Our sense of smell is linked with taste. Smelling the cookies in the oven, or rotisserie chicken in the store can trigger this hunger.</li>
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<li><strong>Ear Hunger.</strong> The sounds of meal preparation can kick-start salivary glands - like the sound of bacon sizzling in the frying pan.</li>
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<li><strong>Mouth Hunger.</strong> Food can taste good! And as one craving for flavor is satisfied, our mouth hunger can perk back up if we switch to new tastes. </li>
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<li><strong>Stomach Hunger.</strong> When our tummies rumble, it could mean there's an absence of food there, but a growl can occur at any time on an empty or full stomach. The rumbling is from the muscular activity in the stomach and intestines and from gas moving around.</li>
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<li><strong>Cellular Hunger. </strong>When our bodies need particular nutrients, there may be physical manifestations like a headache, fatigue, or irritability. Understanding this takes sensitivity and inner wisdom. </li>
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<li><strong>Mind Hunger. </strong>Our minds are busy (and maybe stressed) thinking 60,000 thoughts per day! Learning to calm our minds helps quiet the mental chatter and allows us to tune into what our bodies need and want.</li>
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<li><strong>Mindless Hunger.</strong> This is when we eat out of habit or are distracted and eat on autopilot: in front of a computer or phone screen, in front of the big screen at a movie, or maybe even outside at a ballpark. </li>
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<li><strong>Emotional Hunger. </strong>Often, eating is linked to emotions. We may associate foods with treats from our past, or think of them as offering a sense of relief from unpleasantness. We may have unmet emotional needs. At these times, we may turn to food for comfort and even develop habit loops around the cycle of discomfort and eating.</li>
<br /> </ol><br />Mindfulness can help us identify these and choose the best way to satisfy them. When I want to ground myself in mindful presence, in the here and now, I do what I call an ABC check-in. It is a simple, effective method for identifying your hunger type. This is how you do it: <br />
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<li><strong>Attention:</strong> Focus your awareness on the present moment. </li>
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<li><strong>Breathe:</strong> Take a few deep, conscious breaths to center the mind and move from your mental narrative to calmly and directly experience life as it is. </li>
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<li><strong>Curiosity:</strong> Become actively curious about what is happening in your body, heart, and surroundings. Being an engaged, nonjudgmental observer of what you are experiencing, like a scientist gathering data, will increase your perceptiveness. </li>
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<br />ABC check-ins are a powerful way to become aware of your hunger and intentionally decide how to satisfy it. <br />
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For example, noticing which emotion you're experiencing can help identify alternate activities if what's hungry is your heart, not your body. True hunger builds slowly and can be satisfied by healthy choices like apples and carrots. If your desire for food comes on quickly and only a pint of ice cream will do, you are likely not experiencing physiological hunger. <br /><br />Personally, much of my hunger used to be mindless, before <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/uncategorized/what-i-learned-from-tony-fadell-ipod-iphone-nest-mindfulness-technology/" target="_blank">becoming mindful of consumption of tech, media and food</a>.<br /><br />Try an ABC check-in next time you feel like eating to connect your mind and body become conscious of what is driving your hunger. You may be surprised at what you discover!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Heather Sears</strong> is the author of the award-winning book <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Mindful-Mealtime-Moments/dp/0999304305/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1516125865&sr=8-1&keywords=mind+to+mouth+sears" target="_blank">Mind to Mouth: A Busy Chick's Guide to Mindful Mealtime Moments</a></em>. (Download a free book excerpt <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/freeexcerpt/" target="_blank">here</a>.) She is an accomplished marketing executive and founder of <a href="http://www.kenshokitchen.com/" target="_blank">Kensho Kitchen</a>. Heather has a BA with high honors from University of Michigan and a MBA from the Kellogg Graduate School of Management at Northwestern University. She volunteers teaching <a href="http://www.heather-sears.com/uncategorized/the-busy-chick-secret-to-more-time/" target="_blank">mindfulness</a> and meditation in Boston where she lives with her husband and son. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2018-02-05T19:58:00Z
Stolen Nutrients: Drugs, Side Effects, and Your Health
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2018-01-26T18:43:00Z
2018-01-26T18:43:00Z
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<p><strong>By </strong><strong>Linda Mac Dougall, M.A., HHP, CMT<br /></strong><a href="https://www.loveyourlongevity.com/" target="_blank">www.loveyourlongevity.com</a><a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank"><br /><br /><br /></a>Your body is like your car. It is a machine that requires regular maintenance, quality fuel, repairs, and sometimes, spare parts. Many of us rely on medications to keep the body running, but for how long and at what price? </p>
<p>Who actually reads the possible side effects of the medications they take? How many of that small number understand that often the side effects are caused by the drugs stealing nutrients from the body? If you understand this much, then you know that drugs often take from one area of your health to bolster another area. How sustainable is that? How much time before other health problems surface due to that nutrient depletion?<br /><br />Aspirin, a drug in most American medicine cabinets, interferes with folic acid use. This is one part of a multi-part B vitamin called folate that helps make healthy new cells. Some of us have variants in the MTHFR gene that also interfere with our ability to use folate well to begin with. Adding drugs that impede usage to a body that isn't fully capable of properly utilizing folate magnifies the problems already existing.<br /><br />Low levels of folic acid can lower immunity, interfere with the gut flora, drain your energy, bring on abnormal brain function and depression, as well as cause blood cell production problems. Add to this that much of the folic acid in packaged foods is a synthetic form that many people can't absorb well or make use of well.<br /><br />Aspirin also depletes potassium, vitamin C, and causes iron loss through blood loss with the damage done to the stomach and intestines over time with consistent use. No one is deficient in aspirin, but being deficient in vitamin C can be damaging to every cell in your body. We don't make this vitamin or store it. We need to take it in every day.<br />So what can you do?<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Be your own advocate.</strong> Ask questions of your doctor about the medications you take or are considering taking. What are the side effects? What are the alternatives? What can you do to avoid taking the drug? Know your options.</li>
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<li><strong>Be proactive.</strong> Doctors know their field, but often not the more natural alternatives or the nutrients taken by the drugs. You will have to do your own research or find an alternative medicine practitioner. Bring your research to your doctor so you both understand your concerns.</li>
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<li><strong>Don't be intimidated.</strong> If you have done your part. asked your questions, gotten your answers, and done your research, you could easily know what you want to do and why. It is your health, your body, and your decision. <br /><br />When I was forced to change doctors years ago, I took my chart with me and kept it by my side. I interviewed the doctor. I let her know that I was not her usual patient. I wasn't going to automatically do what she wanted me to. We came to an understanding, and I gave her my chart. Had she not been open to being challenged, I would not have stayed with her.</li>
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<li><strong>Learn the best forms of the vitamins to take.</strong> When you decide to replace a nutrient, learn the better-absorbed forms so that you don't waste your money. Not all forms are created equally absorbent. For example, B12 vitamin formulas are often cyanocobalamin or methylcobalamin. Methylcobalamin is the better form for reasons best left alone here. Cheaper vitamins will have the other form. Those of us with the variant MTHFR gene may need a methyl folate, too.</li>
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<p><br />Yes, health can be a deep subject, and it is changing every day. What we now know about gene variants could have helped my mother. She worked with what was known in her time just as I am working on my health with what is available information today. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Linda Mac Dougall</strong> has a wide, varied background in disability and senior issues. From caregiver to an administrator, to Federal advocate, she has seen the field through a wide lens. Now as a specialized senior massage therapist, a holistic health practitioner, a speaker/trainer, an author, and a coach, she has added to her perspective. To gain from her decades of experience, <a href="https://www.loveyourlongevity.com/pages/about-linda" target="_blank">contact Linda</a> or follow her on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-mac-dougall-984820" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a> or on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/loveyourlongevity/" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2018-01-26T18:43:00Z
Gluten Free Tips for Beginners
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2018-01-14T18:02:00Z
2018-01-14T18:02:00Z
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<p><strong>By Daphne Goh</strong><br /><a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank">www.healthygfasian.com</a><a href="http://www.PrairieWifeInHeels.com" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /><br />Whether you have celiac disease, gluten sensitivities, gluten intolerance or wheat allergy, the only lifelong treatment is eliminating gluten altogether from your diet. Initially, going on a strict gluten-free diet may seem disheartening as gluten is present everywhere. Quite the contrary, it is much easier than you think as many foods are naturally gluten-free and also gives you the chance to prove your culinary creativeness. The following are a few simple guidelines to help you begin a gluten-free diet.<br /><strong><br /></strong></p>
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<li><strong>Obtain a Diagnosis</strong> <br />It is crucial to get a diagnosis from your doctor before following a strict gluten-free diet. Tests for celiac disease need you to eat gluten consistently for at least 6 weeks beforehand to get correct results. If you have celiac disease, urge your family members to get tested as well since it is a genetic disorder; especially if they have other autoimmune conditions. Additional gluten-related disorders are gluten sensitivity, gluten/wheat intolerance, and wheat allergy.</li>
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<li><strong>Elimination Diet</strong> <br />As there are currently no tests available for gluten sensitivity, an elimination diet can help you determine if you need a gluten-free diet and also if you have other food intolerance or food allergy. Work with your dietitian and/or doctor to exclude one food at a time to establish whether you have other food intolerance/allergy to eggs, dairy/casein, yeast, nuts, soy, corn, sesame, sugar, seafood, Fodmap, refined and oily food. Keep a food diary of food that you eat in order to help identify what you can consume and food makes you unwell. </li>
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<li><strong>Grocery Shopping</strong> <br />When shopping for gluten-free food, be a food detective and always read the food label carefully as gluten can be found in many processed and packaged food. Look for "<em>Gluten Free</em>" accreditation and the "<em>May Contain</em>" declaration. Refer to your local celiac support groups for full lists of gluten-free food. Emphasize on a healthy balanced diet with naturally gluten-free food like lean meat, poultry, seafood, eggs, dairy or substitutes like rice milk, soya milk, coconut milk and almond milk, fresh fruits and vegetables, legumes, lentils and nuts, and seeds. Make your food from scratch and do not over-rely on readymade gluten-free foods. They can often be costly and have more sugar and fats than gluten foods.</li>
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<li><strong>Gluten-Free Kitchen</strong><br />It is extremely vital to keep your kitchen, including your pantry, refrigerator, and freezer, free from any cross contamination from gluten. Stock and mark all your gluten-free foods in airtight containers and keep them in the designated zone, away from gluten foods. Equally important is to have kitchenware reserved only for gluten-free cooking. This will include pots, pans, utensils, toasters, breadboards, strainers, flour sifters, butter dishes and cutting boards. Separate sponge and scrubber should be used for dishwashing. Additionally, gluten and gluten-free foods should not be prepared on common surfaces. When dining out, cross-contamination is a common problem. </li>
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<li><strong>Alternative Grains and Flours</strong> <br />Gluten is a protein found in wheat, barley, and rye plus their by-products like triticale, spelt, durum, semolina, and einkorn plus oats. Conventional wheat products like bread, pasta, cakes, biscuits and other baked pastries are not gluten-free. Experiment in your kitchen using naturally gluten-free cereals and grains like all types of rice including glutinous, potato, soya, corn/maize, sago, tapioca/cassava, arrowroot, buckwheat, amaranth, sorghum, lupin, teff, polenta, quinoa, chia seeds, Indian ricegrass (montina), rice bran, millet and certified gluten-free oats. Do your own baking with gluten-free flours made from all kinds of rice, corn/maize, coconut, soya, potato, sorghum, arrowroot, tapioca, chickpea (channa), flaxseed, besa/gram, lupin, amaranth, almond, and hazelnut. Likewise, gluten-free flour mixes are readily available for purchase. </li>
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<li><strong>Hidden Gluten</strong> <br />There are other less obvious sources of gluten hidden in your everyday prescription medicines, over the counter drugs, supplements, toiletries like shampoos, conditioners and toothpaste, similarly in cosmetics like makeup, lipsticks, sunscreen, lotions, and soaps. </li>
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<br /><br /><strong>Daphne Goh</strong> is the founder and owner of <a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank">Healthy gf Asian</a>, a healthy, gluten-free, Asian recipe, food, and lifestyle blog. My blog focusses on easy gluten-free and delicious authentic Asian recipes based on lean meat, seafood, fresh fruits, and vegetables. I believe that gluten-free and allergy friendly recipes can be really tasty and yummy and no matter what food allergy, food intolerance or food sensitivity you have, you can still enjoy nutritious and scrumptious good food. For more information visit <a href="https://www.healthygfasian.com/?doing_wp_cron=1516080061.0536251068115234375000" target="_blank">www.healthygfasian.com</a>. <br />Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2018-01-14T18:02:00Z
Grit and Grace: How I Lost 200 Pounds of Baby Weight
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2018-01-07T18:02:00Z
2018-01-07T18:02:00Z
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<p><strong>By Cathy Holman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.PrairieWifeInHeels.com" target="_blank">www.PrairieWifeInHeels.com<br /></a><br /><br /><br />As a mother of 5 children, I've gained and lost around 200 pounds in the last decade. As a Prairie Wife living in the middle of nowhere Wyoming, I had to rely on more than a little grit and grace to find ways to lose all that weight! The closest gym is 30 minutes away and sadly, our single income budget doesn't allow for a private chef or nanny. Over the years I've learned what truly works and I'm here to offer you a few tips and tricks I've learned through the years.<br /><br />I'm going to start by being honest, this mom gig is hard enough without putting pressure on yourself to lose weight. So, make sure you're ready mentally and physically to start working to get the weight off...and don't be too hard on yourself (this is where the grace comes in) if you need to skip an exercise session for a nap or shower.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Walk the Weight Off: </strong>This is how I lost the weight with my first baby. I simply put him in the stroller and walked. I never set distance or time, I just hit the road. Walking the weight off is free (other than a cost of a stroller and tennis shoes) and can be done in just about any kind of weather as long as your child is dressed appropriately. Make it a date with your husband, find a few mom friends to join you, or ask your mom or sister in law to come along.</li>
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<li><strong>Become a DVD Devotee:</strong> This might show my age a bit but, when I was trying to lose weight from baby two it was before the age of live streaming. I went out and bought Jillian Michaels' DVD's as well as a few Yoga workouts and forced myself to use them at least twice a week. Naptime worked best but, I found the kids could amuse themselves pretty easily for at least 20 minutes if not 30 if I remembered to feed them first. Now with YouTube, it's WAY easier (and free) to find a workout that will challenge you and keep you interested.</li>
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<li><strong>Form a Mama Bootcamp: </strong><a href="http://prairiewifeinheels.com/mama-boot-camp/" target="_blank">This is one of my favorite ways to get fit</a>. Find a few like-minded friends and meet at a park or someone's house once a week. One group watches the kids while the others workout and then switch. Technically, all you need is two people to show up for this to work. Use a local park and do sprints and use benches and bleachers to up your game. In cooler weather meet at someone's house and use some of those DVD's! </li>
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<li><strong>Family Style Yoga:</strong> As my kids grew older and I had more of them I found that it was a bit harder to find time to fit in my beloved DVD's and, if I'm being honest, there was more than one instance of a child being knocked over by my bum. My kids were always trying to copy my Yoga practice so I decided to stop trying to keep them away and just let them join in. I hit Pinterest to gather up poses and I formed my own routine and told them they could join BUT had to keep off my mat...and family style yoga was born!</li>
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<li><strong>Run Away:</strong> As part of my mama boot camp I began to get interested in running...and eventually it became one of my favorite things to do. This is one workout that DOES take some planning and commitment from your partner or other family members/friends. For me, <a href="http://prairiewifeinheels.com/running-away/" target="_blank">the best part of running is the time alone, away from the kids, away from all the must-dos</a>. So, take a look at your schedule and your budget (to pay a sitter) and get some time set aside for a run. </li>
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<li><strong>A Few Food Facts:</strong> It's just a cold hard truth that it doesn't matter how often you work out, if you aren't eating healthfully, you won't lose weight. There are a few things that I've found have helped me to keep weight falling off instead of staying on. Limit eating out and sugary drinks. Eat from a variety of food groups and be attentive to portion size. Remember, the palm of your hand is about the size of one serving. Lastly, if you want to eat the ice cream...eat the ice cream and enjoy the heck out of it. You can always do an extra DVD tomorrow.</li>
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<p>Trust me when I say you CAN lose weight without a gym membership, nanny or private chef! It will take a bit of motivation and at times, planning and support from your friends and family. Give yourself time and try and get moving three days a week and I just KNOW you'll see that weight starting to come off!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Cathy Holman</strong> is a 30 something mother of 5. Originally born in Milwaukee, this city girl went country all for the love of a Cowboy. Her blog, <a href="http://prairiewifeinheels.com/" target="_blank">PrairieWifeInHeels.com</a> is the place to go for heartfelt humorous posts about parenting, health, and wellness (including her <a href="http://prairiewifeinheels.com/i-want-to-live/" target="_blank">preventive mastectomy)</a>, fashion and beauty tips, product reviews and <a href="http://prairiewifeinheels.com/category/gotta-have-it/giveaways/" target="_blank">giveaways</a>. Read more about her adventures in Wyoming and learn how you can live a life of grit and grace at <a href="http://www.PrairieWifeInHeels.com" target="_blank">PrairieWifeInHeels.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2018-01-07T18:02:00Z
Coping with Loss: How Meditation Soothes Emotional Scars
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2017-11-14T19:45:00Z
2017-11-14T19:45:00Z
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<p><strong>By Lisa A. Romano</strong><br /><a href="http://www.lisaaromano.com" target="_blank">www.lisaaromano.com</a><br /><br /><br />Loss is a part of life, yet few of us are ready for it when it comes. Whether it's the end of a long-term relationship or the death of a loved one, the chaotic and often conflicting emotions that accompany the event can make it difficult to function. <br /><br />So what answer is there for someone lost in the throes of grief and anger, searching desperately for a lifebuoy in the maelstrom? Of course there are traditional support structures -- your friends, family, mental health professionals and support groups -- but what about the burden you have to bear in time spent alone without any aid? After all the harshest voice we hear, the ugliest words, are often our own. <br /><br />It's time for some compassion, time to quiet the raging whirlwind of doubts and anxieties that govern you in the aftermath of a loss, time to be present with your pain. Meditation and mindfulness can provide the key to regaining your balance and reopening your life to joy and growth again.<br /><br /><br /><strong>How Does Meditation Work?<br /></strong><br />For someone who's never attempted it before, the idea of sitting alone with just your thoughts and emotions for company can seem faintly ridiculous. But whether it's Judaism's "<em>Shiva</em>" or the keening of Gaelic folklore, different cultures have advocated solitary rituals placing an emphasis on emotional transcendence for thousands of years. The process of meditation is no different.Starting off with meditation is very simple. <br /><br />All you need is a quiet place where you can sit and remain undisturbed. Sit straight, and comfortably - set a timer on your phone or an alarm clock to countdown from 20 minutes. Focus on your breathing, making sure it's slow and even, once you're into this rhythm you can close your mouth and focus on inhaling and exhaling through just your nose. Now, you can let in your emotions. Try not to analyze them, just let them be, acknowledge them, sit with them and let them flow through you. Treat each one with the kindness they deserve. <br /><br />This is known as mindfulness meditation, and initially, it won't be easy. We spend lifetimes running away from unpleasant emotions, and emotions linked to heartbreak or grief, are especially potent. If your mind does try to stray, just steer yourself gently back on course. <br /><br />With consistent practice, this form of meditation will teach you how to separate the source of your pain and sadness from the feelings themselves. While you have no control over the actions of another person, you can gain control over the emotions their actions inspire, and now you have a powerful tool to do it with.<br /><br /><br /><strong>The Effects of Meditation</strong><br /><br />Mindfulness and meditation have long been fields ripe for psychological research. In 1982 Olaf G Deatherage produced a clinical study detailing the effects of mindfulness in patients stricken with anxiety, depression and even schizophrenia. In several different circumstances, he detailed specific tools that he was able to provide to his patients, to help them recognize their emotions and identify them. <br /><br />In one case a woman who had been committed to a psychiatric institute, facing the effect of an awful divorce was tasked with spending a set amount of time each day following the second hand of a clock (meditation). When she would find her thoughts wandering from her task, she was asked to note the source of the distraction (mindfulness). <br /><br />When examining these distractions, she began to trace a pattern of past incidents that invariably interrupted her present state. She was given the label "remembering, remembering" to apply whenever she noticed herself having these thoughts in the future. As she began to gain distance and perspective from her emotions, she was able to understand their source and gain insight into the triggers for her behavior. The woman was released from care a short while afterward.<br /><br />Neurologically the effects of meditation have been well proven as well, University of Montreal studies show how meditation triggers the production of serotonin and norepinephrine in the brain, powerful chemicals which act as a bulwark against depression and stress. <br /><br />Meanwhile, Harvard scientists using MRI scanning were able to trace a marked reduction in electric activity in the amygdalae (stress center of the brain) of pupils who attended an 8-week mindfulness class. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Meditation and You</strong><br /><br />Meditation will give you many benefits. It will help free your body from physical tension, allow you to sleep better. It will reduce the anxiety and stress you bear on a daily basis due to the loss you carry with you. It will help you gain control of your emotions in the present, rather than trying to extract closure from a past event that never comes. <br /><br />This will improve the relationships you nurture today, and the ones you will find in the future. By understanding your feelings, you can start to reshape your life and trace your own path through the pain towards a brighter future.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa A. Romano </strong>is a sought-after Life Coach and Author who specializes in helping people become conscious of what is unconscious and preventing them from aligning with their authentic, higher-self. She is also the creator of <em>The12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program</em>, which has helped hundreds awaken to their true self and heal the childhood programming that has been keeping them stuck. For information on Lisa's coaching programs visit <a href="https://www.lisaaromano.com/" target="_blank">www.lisaaromano.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-11-14T19:45:00Z
Family Dynamics in Training Separation Anxiety
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2017-10-12T18:45:00Z
2017-10-12T18:45:00Z
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<p><strong>By Malena DeMartini</strong><br /><a href="http://www.malenademartini.com" target="_blank">www.malenademartini.com</a> <br /><br /><br />It is a lovely thing when we get to have relationships with loved ones and that includes the dog! I find it fascinating that the majority of our separation anxiety clients are either single or just two people in the family. Is this some sort of self-selecting process? Maybe, or maybe families with kids have a different level of at-home time so the separation anxiety is not as prevalent. It is worthy of research in my opinion.<br /><br />The thing to know about separation anxiety is that despite whether you are single, in a relationship or have a full family, it still takes a village to work on the disorder. In order to help a dog overcome their separation anxiety, we have to safeguard against any absences that are scary, which means any absence that is of a duration that will cause the dog to panic. Yes, that is a tall order, but please trust me when I say that it is doable and completely worth it in the end.<br /><br />Working with a separation anxiety dog is difficult in many ways. The process itself is simple, it just isn't always easy to execute properly. For any guardian working on separation anxiety there are challenges, but in some ways even more so for a couple or family; lots of coordination has to be put into place.<br /><br />In order to work on a dog's separation anxiety, we have to schedule absence rehearsals in very small increments. We start with something very easy for the dog and as he gets used to the easy absence, we can start to increase the duration in a gradual and succinct fashion. As a single person working through this, one can schedule the absences into their day and rehearse by themselves. When we have a couple working on the problem, we have to schedule times where one or the other person leaves and then other times when both leave together...as you can see, this takes a little more coordination. Finally, when we are working with a family that has children, having the children involved in some of the absence rehearsals will be necessary. This can be a lot to coordinate and I empathize with those going through the process.<br /><br />Each couple or family that is working through their dog's separation anxiety has different dynamics. Take for example Dan and Bethany with their dog Starbuck. Starbuck has been suffering from separation anxiety since she was adopted and it has been a source of great stress for the couple. When they began working on training they had to coordinate times where one or the other would leave Starbuck alone in addition to when they could leave at the same time. <br /><br />Dan works from home so his alone-time exercises were more simple to coordinate, however, Bethany works long hours as an emergency room nurse. Her schedule is such that scheduling time to do alone-time training on her own or with Dan is challenging. Fortunately, this is a committed couple and they make it work on the off hours, Starbuck is showing great progress now that they have committed to a training plan.<br /><br />For the Rollins family training looked different. They had lots of time to devote to the training, but with the kids being ages 3 and 5 it was not easy to coordinate lots of rehearsals involving them. It took time to work their dog Oliver up to being alone when Mom and Dad left, but they are still working on having the whole family leave together at one time.<br /><br />For any person/s working through separation anxiety, organization is key. Having a spreadsheet or other document to track daily rehearsals will allow for better tracking of the day to day improvements and even regressions.<br /><br />Finally, a second set of eyes on the training process is always recommended. It is hard to write daily exercises for oneself and having a trainer or other professional reviewing the protocol will help immeasurably. <br /><br />Separation anxiety is resolvable, but it does take time and commitment on many fronts.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><a href="https://malenademartini.com/about/meet-malena/" target="_blank">Malena DeMartini</a></strong> is renowned in the dog training world for her expertise in canine separation anxiety. She is the author of the book, <em>Treating Separation Anxiety in Dogs</em>, and has contributed articles on separation anxiety to publications around the world. She is a sought-after speaker internationally and is training worldwide dog professionals to work within this specialty through her <a href="https://malenademartini.com/for-trainers/separation-anxiety-certification-program/" target="_blank">Separation Anxiety Certification Program</a>. Malena is passionate about furthering education in this field through science-based research. Whether a dog professional or guardian, feel free to reach out to Malena at for a free phone 30-minute phone call. <a href="http://www.malenademartini.com" target="_blank">www.malenademartini.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-10-12T18:45:00Z
Self-Management Tips: Learn Your Trigger
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2017-10-06T18:45:00Z
2017-10-06T18:45:00Z
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<p><strong>By John Baldoni</strong><br /><a href="http://www.johnbaldoni.com/" target="_blank">www.johnbaldoni.com</a> <br /><br /><br />Everyone says self-awareness is essential to effective leadership. It is, but there is another aspect to awareness that may be equally compelling and sadly overlooked. It's self-management.<br /><br />It's one thing to know yourself. We know what we do well. Yay! That's why we are so good at what we do. We may even know what we are not so good at it so we ignore it. Boo! That can hurt us.<br /><br />Enter self-management. Self-management is a form of self-control. We do not control events; we merely control how we respond to them. For instance, I know I have a tendency to become short with customer service agents who, let's face it, have the thankless job of dealing with people like me who think we have better things to do with our time than waste it with people like them.<br /><br />So after much trial and error, I have taught myself to be more polite. Not just polite but overly polite. I engage the agents in conversation. I act grateful. And I thank them for "making time for me." Overkill? Perhaps! but it keeps me from flying off the handle.<br /><br />The trigger itself is neutral; our reaction to it can be positive or negative. How we manage that reaction is critical to our ability to function as well as to excel. When it comes to working with others, reactions to triggers can be career-defining. More than one executive I know has derailed a career because he failed self-management. He could manage a balance sheet, a resource allocation and even a team, but he failed to manage the one asset he needed to control and could not: Himself.<br /><br />Failure to control oneself manifests itself in multiple ways: temper, impatience, ingratitude, hubris, and self-absorption. None of these is fatal and most of us exhibit them in some form or another occasionally. What is fatal is failure to manage it.<br /><br />Self-awareness teaches us what the trigger is - some act, some word, or some person. Self-management teaches how to respond.<br /><br />My colleague, Kevin Butler, former chief human resource officer and senior vice president, global business services, at Delphi, advises a two-step process. <br /><br />One is to recognize that you are beginning to react to a trigger. When that occurs, doing one or all of the following: take a deep breath, count to 10, get up and stretch or go for a coffee. What you do does not matter. What matters is to arrest the process of reaction. Remove yourself from the situation -- if only for a moment -- to collect your thoughts.<br /><br />A second strategy is to enlist the help of a spotter, someone who knows you well. When that person sees the beginning of your reaction -- lips tighten, eyebrows furled, narrowed eyes -- they flash you a look, or drop a code word. That is a signal that you need to rein yourself in.<br /><br />Of course, neither of these strategies work unless you recognize the issue. Knowing that you are becoming derailed and reacting positively rather than rashly. Easy to say, difficult to practice.<br /><br />And practice it will require. You may succeed for a while and then face a trigger or a situation that sends you off on a tangent. You may feel as if you are back to square one. That thought is self-defeating.<br /><br />The key to self-management is <em>management</em>. If the numbers don't add up, the shipment is late, the balance sheet is askew or deadlines are missed, it doesn't help to yell and scream. You must manage the situation. Same for managing self. <br /><br />Take a deep breath and keep on trying. The one you are managing most is you.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>John Baldoni </strong>is an executive coach who helps men and women learn to live and lead with greater purpose. John is the author of more than a dozen books, including his newest MOXIE: The Secret to Bold and Gutsy Leadership. John is listed as a top 50 Inc. leadership expert and Top 100 leadership speaker. Visit <a href="http://www.johnbaldoni.com/" target="_blank">www.johnbaldoni.com</a> to see John's articles books and videos. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-10-06T18:45:00Z
Short on Time? 5 Strategies for Healthy Family Dinners
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2017-09-22T18:45:00Z
2017-09-22T18:45:00Z
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<p><strong>By Mia Moran</strong><br /><a href="http://plansimplemeals.com/" target="_blank">www.plansimplemeals.com </a><br /><br /><br />Studies have shown that kids who share family dinners three or more times per week are more likely to eat healthy food, perform better academically, and have better relationships with their parents. <br /><br />So why is it that we moms spend hours, weeks, months researching the best schools and summer camps, finding the best Christmas presents and birthday gifts, scoping out the best flat screen TVs, but we never feel there is enough time to cook a healthy dinner and sit down to eat it. <br /><br />Our calendars are filled with work meetings, school activities, and family commitments. We fit in the little things like errands, laundry, and soccer practice. If we are lucky, a little Facebook, a TV show, and a workout fit in the nooks and crannies. <br /><br />Food is something we know needs to happen, and we have a hunch that healthy choices will make us feel our best. But very often we actually don't have the time in our day to make it happen. <br /><br />Here are 5 tools to fit healthy eating into your busy days.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Make health a family value. </strong>Cooking can often feel like one more to-do on a very long list. If we can shift cooking from our to-do list to an important practice that supports our family values, it feels like a much more meaningful task. As you cook, you can say to yourself, "<em>I am preparing a dinner that will lead to less sick days,</em>" which feels so much better than, "<em>I have to make dinner, then help with homework, then deal with bedtime</em>."</li>
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<li><strong>Meal plan in advance. </strong>When you open the fridge at 6 pm and don't know what you will make, you will more likely make something less healthy, get stressed out while cooking, and have a child who wants something else. Instead, sit down on a Friday and think through the whole week ahead, so you always know what's for dinner before the day starts. If that feels like too big of a step, simply write what's for dinner each morning on a sticky note.</li>
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<li><strong>Make time for all the parts.</strong> Cooking meals from scratch does take time, and this is an important lesson to teach our kids. Make sure grocery shopping, cooking and sitting to eat have time in your calendar, just like a doctor appointment or meeting with a colleague. See what happens when these things go on your calendar first. We often start with all the little details that make up our work and parenting life but forget to make time for the things that really matter. If food matters to you, it needs time.</li>
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<li><strong>Simplify your schedule. </strong>It is really hard to make space for healthy eating if your life is one long string of events - work, soccer, piano, Lego club. Think about your life today: What do you use more frequently - food or a soccer ball? Analyze your schedule, and let go of something that is not really serving you or your kids. The goal is to gain a few hours in the week when you can happily be at home as a family enjoying time together in the kitchen.</li>
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<li><strong>Batch to make cooking more efficient. </strong>Think about how many times a week you just "run" to the store. When you have your meal plan, it makes it really easy to shop once or maybe twice a week. When you schedule it in, you can make it happen at a time that is convenient, when you are not hungry and maybe someone else is with the kids. Wash and chop what you can right when you get home. Set aside a few hours once a week to do some of the heavy lifting - make a dish or two, roast some veggies, wash and chop some lettuce, make a grain, like rice or quinoa.</li>
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<p><br />If family dinner can have such a big impact on our kids' futures, why wouldn't we make the time to make it happen? Try making time in your calendar this week, and see how that changes your dinnertime experience. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Mia Moran</strong> is a gluten-free mom of three, bestselling author, and speaker, who makes time to eat right-and shows time-strapped families how they can too. She is creating a movement of moms who bypass busy and embrace healthy through small, <a href="https://staybasic.clickfunnels.com/optin11425518" target="_blank">doable changes</a>. Visit <a href="http://plansimplemeals.com/" target="_blank">plansimplemeals.com</a> for up-to-date offerings and FREE resources to move forward on your healthy journey. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-09-22T18:45:00Z
Have the 10 Minutes Before Bed Be the Best 10 Minutes of Your Day
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2017-09-07T17:00:00Z
2017-09-07T17:00:00Z
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<p>By <span>Allison Task</span><br /><span><a href="http://www.allisontask.com" target="_blank">allisontask.com</a></span><br /><br /><br />Did you know that the time before bed is notorious for piquing people's anxiety? That's when you think about things you should have said during the day when you start wondering about logistics, a big presentation for tomorrow, or if your kid is coming down with the flu. <br /><br />Therapists know it's a notorious time for anxiety. Plus, if you're sleeping with your smartphone, or watching media at the end of the night, let's hope there are lots of positive images or else all that negativity stresses your conscious and subconscious and can sent you straight to nightmares (literally). <br /><br />So, let's flip that switch. Instead of stressing about life, or watching media, try this practice. It's called "<em>Three Good Things</em>". <br /><br />Take a look at your day, from the moment you woke up until now, and think of something good that happened. Did you have lunch with an old friend? Did you stick to your new diet? Did someone give you their seat on the subway? Did you buy a meal for a homeless person? Did someone get a coffee for you, just because? <br /><br />Now, take a few minutes to really think about one of those good things. Let's say it was a coworker that bought you a coffee. When they gave you the coffee, what did they say? What did you say? How did you feel? Did you give them a hug? What was the reason? <br /><br />How did the coffee taste? Were you hoping for one? How did you feel for the next 10-15 minutes as you sipped the coffee? Did this lead to a conversation with a coworker? Did you think about paying it forward to someone else tomorrow? <br /><br />By taking 3 to 5 minutes to sit in the moment, to relive it, your brain is able to experience the same happiness you felt at that moment. If you imagine yourself back in the situation (the more details the better), you literally re-live it in your brain. <br /><br />Ah. Feeling good? I hope so. Now repeat. You'll find that thinking of a second good thing is even easier than the first - you've primed the pump. Continue to flesh out your memory, asking yourself detailed questions about how you felt and putting yourself back in the moment. <br /><br />Repeat one last time, for a total of 3 memories. Try to spend at least 5 minutes on each memory to maximize your brain's ability to return to the scene of the sublime. <br /><br />Aside from the straight-up joy you'll be feeling, the good news is that this exercise, if completed every day for a week, has been proven to increase happiness immediately, as well as one week, one month, three months and six months later, according to a 2005 study by Martin Seligman, founder of the <a href="https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/" target="_blank">Positive Psychology Center</a> at the University of Pennsylvania. <br /><br />Sometimes, in my practice, I'll find myself dozing off to sleep as I relive these memories, dozing with a smile on my face. It sure beats making lists, planning the commute or some other stressful activity. And I sleep much better. <br /><br />I've had clients who enjoy practicing this with their partner, as a way to recall and share the very best moments of their day. It can help bring couples closer together, especially after they start families and so much of their lives are focused on logistics. This simple act of focusing on what's good makes life better.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Allison Task</strong> is a career and life coach who helps clients move from insight to action. She has been practicing coaching for more than 10 years and sees local clients in her Montclair, NJ office and global clients virtually. She is a speaker, best-selling author, and on-camera host. For more, please visit <a href="http://www.allisontask.com" target="_blank">www.allisontask.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-09-07T17:00:00Z
Mom Style: 5 Style Hacks for the Busy Mom
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2017-08-24T17:00:00Z
2017-08-24T17:00:00Z
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<p>By Catherine Brock  <br /><a href="https://www.thebudgetfashionista.com/" target="_blank">thebudgetfashionista.com</a><br /><br /><br />Every weekday, you grab your keys and tote, usher the kids out and hop in the car. Some days, a glance in the rearview mirror reveals a piece of Pop-Tart stuck in your kid's hair or an orange juice stain on her shirt. Focus on yourself and you see that you've failed to put any makeup on your left eye. <br /><br />That's mom life. It's hectic and unorganized and, sometimes, out of control. In that context, your personal sense of style takes a backseat to getting through the day's tasks. The result? You get stuck in the quicksand of a style rut - and the only lifeline nearby is a half-chewed piece of licorice that fell out of a lunchbox. <br /><br />The parenting-induced style rut can only be tackled one way: by making your daily fashion and style routine ultra time-efficient. These five style hacks will help you do just that. <br /><br />1. <strong>Go Wrinkle-Free</strong>  <br /><br />Invest in garments made of wrinkle-resistant fabrics. Blends with at least 65% polyester should be pretty low maintenance. A higher the polyester count means less ironing for you. A blend of 95% polyester and 5% spandex, for example, won't need to see the ironing board ever. <br /><br />Denim, thicker-knit sweaters and some types of rayon are also wrinkle-resistant, particularly if you can take them out of the dryer right away. To test a fabric's wrinkle-resistance in the store, just pinch it and see how it responds. <br /><br /><br />2. <strong>The Right Mix </strong> <br /><br />You do not need lots of clothes to be stylish. The trick is to have the right mix of garments. Most of your pants, capris, shorts and skirts should be classic in style and solid-colored, in neutral or soft tones. Your tops can have more variety in terms of color and pattern, but don't over do it. Ideally, every top you own coordinates with almost every bottom you own. <br /><br />These pieces will be the core of your wardrobe. You can keep on wearing them in different combinations until they fall apart. <br /><br />The difference maker for you will be a few colorful and seasonal statement pieces. Things like a wicker woven handbag, a natural stone pendant necklace or soft blue, peep-toe booties are examples. These pieces will do the work of expressing your style to the world. And, if you refresh that accessories collection a couple times a year, no one will notice you only own three pairs of pants. <br /><br /><br />3. <strong>The Grab-and-Go Closet </strong>  <br /><br />Borrow, beg or steal a few hours on the weekend to organize your closet. Do this once and it should be easy to maintain. I like to have garments organized in two ways: by the type of piece (top or bottom) and by the color category (warm, cool or neutral). That way I can see the colors and I can quickly grab one top and one coordinating bottom. <br /><br />Organization, though, is a very personal thing. Feel free to develop your own scheme that will work for you. The goal is to use organization to minimize the decision-making that goes into dressing every morning. <br /><br /><br />4. <strong>The Go-to Hairdo </strong> <br /><br />It's time to upgrade the loose ponytail and develop a slightly more sophisticated go-to hairstyle. This could be as simple as switching out the tired hairband for a stylish clip. Or, add a few pins to your pony and transform it into a messy bun. <br />Also experiment with dry shampoo. It may help you get two or more days of style out of one blow-dry. <br /><br />If the texture of your hair makes anything but a ponytail problematic, try wearing a cute hat over the ponytail. Bucket hats, boaters, cloche hats and floppy hats are all workable options. Just say no to fedoras and tams - those styles are better suited for teens.  <br /><br /><br />5. <strong>When in Doubt <br /></strong><br />When in doubt, wear a blazer, button-down top and a necklace. This is a classic look that never fails.  <br /><br />At some point, you will either find or reacquaint yourself with your own signature look. But when you don't have time for that, it's A-OK to copy someone else's. Just don't look to the kid with Pop-Tart in her hair for style cues. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Catherine Brock</strong> is a style editor and writer who caters to the budget-minded fashion enthusiast on her website <a href="https://www.thebudgetfashionista.com/" target="_blank">thebudgetfashionista.com</a>. Are you an aspiring budget fashionista? Learn how to stretch your fashion budget today by downloading Catherine's<a href="https://www.thebudgetfashionista.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/UltimateThriftingGuide.pdf" target="_blank"> Ultimate Thrifting Guide</a>. You can also connect with Catherine on Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/budget.fashionista/" target="_blank"> @budget.fashionista</a> and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/catherinejbrock" target="_blank">@CatherineJBrock</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-08-24T17:00:00Z
7 Ways To Rejuvenate When Life Hits You Hard
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2017-08-18T17:00:00Z
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<p>By Joëlle Amouroux-Huttner <br /><a href="http://www.joellespractice.com" target="_blank">www.joellespractice.com</a><br /><br /><br />When life hits hard, it is very tempting to burn the candle at both ends in an attempt to regain control and deflect the hardship. We are continuously trying to tackle whatever obstacle is in our way. Unfortunately, this leaves us overextended, drained and totally exhausted, both physically and mentally. Therefore, it is critical to take care of yourself in order to replenish your batteries. Here are 7 ways to achieve this. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Cultivate the art of self-care.</strong><br /><br />Learn to slow down, to push back. Learn to become a "<em>human being</em>" once again, as opposed to a "<em>human doing</em>". Disconnect from the demands of your life, even if only for an hour a day; read a book, pamper yourself, do whatever as long as you disconnect. </li>
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<li><strong>Learn to breathe deeply.</strong><br /><br />When deep breathing (a.k.a. belly breathing), you are activating your diaphragm which has a relaxation effect on the body. When we are in a rush, we take shallow breaths, not properly filling our lungs. In turn, it prevents us from activating that relaxation mechanism - 5 or 10 deep breaths is all that is required. </li>
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<li><strong>Treat your body to healthy food.</strong><br /><br />When stressed, eating and food consumption becomes either a chore that takes up precious time or a way to quiet our deepest feelings of fear or discomfort. We end up eating a sandwich on the corner of our desk and/or raiding the freezer for any comfort junk food we can put our hands on. Our body is craving "<em>real</em>" nutrition, full of vitamins and minerals. Taking the time to cook a decent meal can be a way to nurture yourself (see point 1) and to feed your body what it really craves and providing it with all the energy it needs</li>
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<li><strong>Move your body.</strong><br /><br />Exercise is key to reducing your stress level. While some will benefit from a hard training in order to "sweat it out", if you feel you are burning out, you may want to investigate a softer exercise method. Yoga, stretching, tai-chi... Even just walking would be good. The idea is to get the benefits of exercise without exhausting yourself further. </li>
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<li><strong>Be outside in the sun.</strong><br /><br />Increasing your level of vitamin D will leave you feeling more upbeat and ready to take on the day. We are not suggesting being out till you burn, but 15 minutes of unprotected sun exposure will provide you with your daily dose of vitamin D and replenish any depletion. </li>
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<li><strong>Incorporate things that make you happy into your life.</strong><br /><br />Many people forgot long ago to consider what makes them happy. For some, it is almost unseemly to make themselves happy. And so we forgot. Take a minute and remember. If you persist you will realize that there are simple things that make you happy, the smile of your child, a flower from your local flower shop, the smell of a cup of coffee... You will realize that those little things are not complicated to achieve but you are not paying attention to them. Do. Work at incorporating those little moments into your life on a daily basis. Enjoy them...</li>
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<li><strong>Rest.</strong><br /><br />If you are burning out, chances are you are not sleeping well or enough. While many consider sleeping a luxury, regularly cutting their nights short, it is very important to consistently achieve a good night sleep. Accept that you are tired and that you need to rest. If you are sick, rest. If you are tired, sit down and close your eyes. Take care of yourself. Rest. </li>
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<p><br />If you have burned out, or feel you might be on the way to doing so, taking care of yourself is paramount and does not need to be complicated nor taxing. Implementing all, or even just a couple of these points should help you to get back on track and quickly rejuvenate your life. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Joelle Amouroux-Huttner</strong> is a life coach specializing in burnout. She helps people to consistently flourish and become stronger, more assured in their choices. They go from strength to strength and they take on bigger challenges confidently. If you need a boost in confidence, then Joelle is the coach for you. Joelle holds an MBA, she is an accredited Life Coach and accredited advanced EFT practitioner. For more info: visit Joelle's website<a href="http://www.joellespractice.com" target="_blank"> www.joellespractice.com</a> or her Facebook page <a href="http://www.facebook.com/joellespractice" target="_blank">www.facebook.com/joellespractice</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-08-18T17:00:00Z
Do You Say Thanks Enough Online?
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2017-08-11T17:08:00Z
2017-08-11T17:08:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br />Lots of people think texting keeps them connected. What if, like millions of others, though, you are overlooking the two-second, one-word addition that is the true connection, and that could also lose your jobs, respect, and friends?<br /><br />That word is "Thanks!"<br /><br /><strong>Do you believe niceties like that aren't necessary in the compressed, shorthand social media world? As you increase your virtual "likes" or friend counts, however, you might really be shortchanging yourself and the feelings of those close to you.</strong><br /><br />I know a college sophomore who missed out on a recommendation for an internship at one of the world's largest media organizations because she didn't say thanks or, for that matter, even acknowledge a text and an email that contained information she requested about the company and the summer position from a close friend of her mother's.<br /><br />"We're extremely professional here," the management-level sender said. "Even though I've known this person since she was born, I was shocked she didn't take even one second to write 'thanks' - especially when I just had seen her texting nonstop to friends at the party where she had first asked me about my company. How could I feel comfortable recommending her if she didn't even display the most basic courtesy and would very likely do the same to a personal contact of mine in the company? In addition, I began to wonder, what does this say about how responsible or conscientious she might be regarding actual work tasks?"<br /><br />Similarly, I sent a 16-year-old relative a text about a professional website he created for his writing that the family was buzzing about. I mentioned after my years of writing and supervising writing how I thought it was clear he could be working professionally now and how his arresting work showed a critical eye for detail that would probably help him in every aspect of life. Response: none, as also had been the case when a few months earlier I emailed him about a little-known, respected, exclusive journalism summer camp.<br /><br />Could this just be a generational faux pas from kids who have grown up 24/7 in the digital age? Scans of chatrooms and other social media hangouts for senior citizens prove otherwise, but I don't have to look that far. I see it every day in texts from friends. I wished a friend a good week with her visiting college daughter, I told another friend I really admired her courage after she told me a very painful personal story, to another, after live texting back and forth, I said that I hoped she would have a good flight and a successful make-or-break sales meeting presentation, about which she texted she was stressed.<br /><br /><strong>Like me, online are you a "thankless" friend because you get thanked less, or, instead, is it because you thank people less? If either scenario makes your days a little less bright, you might want to think about online etiquette.</strong><br /><br />Since the origins of cyberspace there have been a few big rules that have gotten repeated, like, for instance, not to write big, e.g., in all uppercase letters, because it has been agreed that means one is "yelling." That, though, is a special circumstance regarding the internet. What seems often to have been stripped away in the meantime is a transfer of offline common courtesy to the online arena. This is as basic as what we teach our toddlers, such as saying "please" or "thank you," but has sometimes gotten lost as texts, Tweets and other means of communication have gotten briefer.<br /><br /><strong>Remember, you may have someone on the other end of your social media conversations who is surprised and hurt when they see it as missing.</strong> Colleges, especially due to the increase in online interaction, have especially embraced what is often called "netiquette" and point out the difference between the human side of it, as opposed to the technical.<br /><br />Echoing many other schools, the first words written on the "Netiquette" page of Howard Community College in Columbia, Maryland, are: "Most, if not all, of the communication in this course will occur online. It is sometimes difficult to remember that there are real people reading our messages. Words can mean many things, and what we intend to say is not always what others hear.... Users of the internet have come up with guidelines for net communication aimed at lessening the chances of miscommunication and perceived disrespect.<br /><br />"Well before Twitter and texts, when longer emails were the way of the day, Virginia Shea in her book Netiquette, that is referred to by many universities, like Rutgers, as a guidebook for their online communications, was trying to keep us grounded. Rule No. 1 of her Core Rules of Netiquette is "Remember the Human" and begins, "The golden rule that your parents and your kindergarten teacher taught you was pretty simple: Do unto others as you'd have others do onto you. Imagine how you'd feel if you were in the other person's shoes.... Try not to hurt people's feelings. In cyberspace, we state this in an even more basic manner: Remember the human."<br /><br />The good news about that is you don't even have to remember how to spell. Social media has done away with much of that, which is another reason I am often amazed that people so rarely say "thanks" online, even in this every-second-counts world. How long, after all, does it take to type "Thx"? That is slang virtually all of us know at this point and that PC.net has classified as "common" and notes has morphed into usage both online and off.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger </strong>has a Master of Science degree in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University, for which she was also a contracted strategic communications blogger, and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Southern California. Lisa has been a Lead Operations Specialist for the RAND Corporation think tank. She is a longtime columnist at Creators Syndicate and before that Copley News Service. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming/dp/0757002595" target="_blank">My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</a></em> with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-08-11T17:08:00Z
Stress and Anxiety in the Workplace
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Stress-and-Anxiety-in-the-Workplace/-432518870828125759.html
2017-08-03T18:49:00Z
2017-08-03T18:49:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By Joni Jones</strong><br /><a href="http://www.koalacares.com/" target="_blank">koalacares.com </a><br /><br /><br />There can be an observable direct relationship seen between productivity and motivation. Therefore if an employee's productivity declines it is likely that a lack of motivation will present. Many employees can revert to automatic responses and find themselves just going through motions. This affects "mindfulness" or their awareness of what is presently happening in the moment. The employee can also appear to be in a fog and show disorganization. Customer service suddenly can become compromised.<br /><br />A rise in workplace demands can influence the risk of the development of more severe challenges if left unaddressed. Everybody has their own day to day personal stressors and it is hard to leave those stressors behind if effective coping skills are not in place. Simply walking through a door does not remove the demands we return to at the end of the work day. <br /><br />Answering affirmatively to having such challenges in the workplace can be easily resolved and prevented in the future by simply investing in finding a resolution. Having the proper education to develop an effective plan of action can help both employees and their bosses in creating a more positive work environment.<br /><br />Creating a healthier environment can be achieved by learning the seven factors that are known to affect adrenal gland responses. These are the physical responses in our body that impact our overall sense of well-being. Underlying anxiety can produce somatic responses such as pain and illness leading to an increase in the amount of call-outs in the workplace. Ineffective coping skills can lead to early retirements and disability claims. Neuropsychiatric disorders are the leading cause of disability in the U.S as reported by The National Institute of Health. The World Health Organization adds about 23% of all years lost because of disability worldwide is caused by mental and substance use disorders.<br /><br />There is an increased number of individuals in the workplace with substance use disorders which can also lead to undesirable responses and acute hospitalizations. These disorders can lead to a crisis situation in the workplace and because of the epidemic we are now facing in our community, I personally feel that everyone in and out of the workplace should become aware and educated on how to manage a potential crisis in themselves as well as their peers. There has been increased reporting of crisis experiences in the workplace and we all can take part in minimizing such occurrences. One life lost is always one life too many.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Joni Jones</strong> is a board certified psychiatric nurse, published author and motivational educator who developed a curriculum and educational experience that keeps audiences engaged. Joni is a national speaker and has helped many people with tips on managing stress and anxiety and balancing both their personal and work life experiences. Start your path toward success today. For more resources and information visit<a href="http://www.koalacares.com/" target="_blank"> www.KoalaCares.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2017-08-03T18:49:00Z
Why You Should Consider a WorkWell Initiative
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2017-07-26T21:10:00Z
2017-07-26T21:10:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/">brigittecutshall.com</a> <br /><br /><br />The workplace is always changing. According to a Gallup report, in 2016 only 33% of employees were engaged at work. They are more involved, enthusiastic, and committed to their work and the work environment. Then there are the employees that are indifferent and just don't care. This is a risk for any organization because of the constant change in the business world. <br /><br />Increasing engagement at work is a good business strategy that will yield positive results. Engaged employees "get up, dress up, and show up" for work consistently. They're more likely to stay; they care about the service or products delivered to the customers; they care about the success of the organization, and they are more mindful of their surroundings. <br /><br />We need to remember that employees are the most valuable assets to any organization. Providing them with supportive services that affect their well-being positively will improve job satisfaction. You also need their input as well to be successful in the long-run. How do you create a culture of engagement?<br /><br />A simple way is to implement a WorkWell Initiative. Here are 7 strong benefits in favor of it:<br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Improved Productivity. </strong><br />Engaging in wellness activities such as exercising and eating healthier, increases productivity and overall performance. This helps your brain be more focused on tasks, you'll have more energy, and be motivated to accomplish something. No more feeling sleepy or burned out. </li>
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<li><strong>Builds Community. </strong><br />Being involved with group activities that include health and fitness connects you more with others, particularly your co-workers. Relationships will be formed that weren't available before because a wellness initiative encourages all members of the organization to be involved. Everyone will benefit from the shared experience. </li>
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<li><strong>Happier.</strong> <br />According to an AFLAC 2013 Workforce report, employees that participated in a workplace wellness program were more satisfied at work than those that don't participate. The people who committed to the organization program(s) were generally more content overall with work related factors. Healthy living doesn't just make you look good but nourishes the way you feel too. </li>
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<li><strong>Less Stress. </strong><br />Learning stress management is one of the key factors in overall health and wellness. When we are stressed, we're more likely to engage in unhealthy behaviors and that can affect our mental health in a negative way. Activities that encourage walking meetings, mindfulness, social engagement, etc., can help an employee relieve any built up stress. Just 30 minutes of low-intensity exercise will help you feel relaxed in no time. </li>
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<li><strong>Healthier Habits. </strong><br />It would be beneficial to indulge yourself in a work wellness program as a way to learn new healthy habits. By doing this, you'll learn to shift to a health conscious mindset that benefits your best self. Food choices and workout schedules will be affected positively because of the environment. When you surround yourself with like-minded people, that makes it simpler to ease away from bad habits that can hurt your health.</li>
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<li><strong>Lower Healthcare Costs. </strong><br />If your workplace promotes exercise and focusing on your health, your overall well-being will benefit. This is, in turn, will make you less likely to get sick and/or injured, saving money in the long run. Many studies confirm that a workplace wellness program reduces health care costs (meaning fewer doctor visits).</li>
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<li><strong>Improved Physical Fitness. </strong><br />Taking part in the different physical activities that are available to you can improve your physical fitness and overall well-being. Hitting the gym during lunch break or participating in a yoga class at least twice a week has many noticeable benefits. Whatever it is, open yourself up to the different physical activities available. </li>
<br /> </ol>Hope this convinced you! Healthier employees tend to be happier and more productive. If you want to have a culture of engagement (more team fellowship, more productivity, and less absenteeism), a wellness initiative can help you get there. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong> is a Wellness Consultant, Speaker, and a Health Advocate (Certified Health Coach). She is a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a primary brain tumor (benign). Brigitte strongly believes the values applied from her health coach training enabled her to overcome her own health issues. Brigitte's goal is to influence others to be a part of the solution - choose empowerment - and embrace a healthier lifestyle by focusing on the Real Things. Sign up for her newsletter at <a href="https://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a> and follow her on Instagram @brigittecutshall. The author of "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438613064&sr=8-1&keywords=brigitte+cutshall" target="_blank">RealThings: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em>" published April 2015. <a href="https://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">BrigitteCutshall</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/RealThings.guru" target="_blank"> Facebook</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438613064&sr=8-1&keywords=brigitte+cutshall" target="_blank">Amazon</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2017-07-26T21:10:00Z
5 Steps to Nourish Your Body and Soul While Still Satisfying Your Taste Buds
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/5-Steps-to-Nourish-Your-Body-and-Soul-While-Still-Satisfying-Your-Taste-Buds/-688402937822678571.html
2017-07-19T22:25:00Z
2017-07-19T22:25:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By Maureen Wielansky</strong><br /><a href="http://savoryou.com/" target="_blank">www.savoryou.com</a> <br /><br /><br />Society views weight gain as the enemy yet waging a war on your weight guarantees more weight gain. Your body senses the stress you feel and turns on cortisol to keep you fit for this war. What if your body used weight gain to get your attention? Weight gain clues you to something being out of alignment. Luckily, getting back into alignment can be fast when you follow these 5 steps for eating that nourish your body and soul while satisfying your taste buds.<br /><br />
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<li><strong>Step 1: <em>Visit Diets Past: </em></strong>Although diets are dishonoring, they also provide insights into what works and does not. Pull out a sheet of paper and make 3 columns. Label the first column "Diet," the second column "What I liked," and the third "What I didn't like." Next, brainstorm all the diets that you have tried and evaluate what worked and didn't. You have just listed powerful data that you can use to create an individualized plan that honors you.</li>
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<li><strong>Step 2: <em>Master Your Hunger and Satisfaction: </em></strong>Eating quickly, not chewing, and multitasking while eating has disconnected you from hunger. This frenzied way of eating gives your taste buds little time to taste the food and tricks your brain into believing that it never ate. Stop this insanity by reuniting with hunger and satisfaction. All you need is to put the phone away, hide the remote, and sit at a table. Place your hand on your gut and ask: "Am I hungry?" If so, then ask: "What do I want to eat?" Plate that meal, sit down, eat per the 5-4-3 ask. Take 5 mindful bites. After the 5th bite, place you hand on your gut and ask: "Am I still hungry?" If so, repeat the process, with 4 bites. When you are no longer hungry, the meal is over. By chewing, listening, and tasting your body will be satisfied with less food.</li>
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<li><strong>Step 3: <em>Cut Out Gluten, Dairy, and Sugar:</em></strong> These foods are not "bad," however they are powerful. Unless you have an addictive or allergic reaction to these foods, they are ok in moderation. Unfortunately, our food supply is full of these and they are cluttering communication between your gut and your brain. Let them go for a specified amount of time.</li>
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<li><strong>Step 4: <em>Bring Back Gluten, Dairy, and Sugar Methodically while Tracking Symptoms: </em></strong>After 21 days, you will feel great! Your energy will be high and your brain fog will be gone. You may choose not to add these back, however, if you do, you must follow a specific protocol. For example, during the first week, you will add back a tiny amount of sugar and pay attention to how your body responds. It is important to add one substance at a time because it could take your body up to 72 hours to react. If you are adding back multiple substances, you won't be able to track which is the culprit.</li>
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<li><strong>Step 5: <em>Create New Way of Eating:</em></strong> You now know what works and does not work... Instead of focusing on what you cannot have, let's focus on the foods you CAN eat with a plate! Eating with a plate takes all the guesswork out of portion control because you don't need to weigh and measure your food. You can eat with a plate at your favorite restaurants, while traveling, and at home. The next time you have a meal: fill half of your plate with vegetables, then split the other half into two more sections for your lean protein and grains. </li>
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<br />You can use this plate to create a meal that honors your body and your taste buds. For example, if you are practicing low carb eating, simply double your protein. Practicing eating with the plate allows you to eat anywhere without needing to measure or weigh food. As a busy professional, you can use this technique while traveling and eating out. It is a simple and powerful way to eat what you want without eating too much. <br /><br />Creating a diet that honors you requires no heavy equipment, pricey programs or weird potions. You already hold the power to heal you!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Maureen Wielansky</strong> is the leader of the Dancing with the Divine Sisterhood where women lock arms as they jump off the Diet bandwagon and rebel against restrictions and rules so they can create their own unique recipe for healing and health. To start your healing journey, Download Dancing with the Divine: How to Co-Create your Divine Plan for Healing your Relationship with Food by going to<a href="http://savoryou.com/dancingwiththedivine/" target="_blank"> www.savoryou.com/dancingwiththedivine</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2017-07-19T22:25:00Z
5 Surprising Ways Caregiving Can Make You Healthier
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/5-Surprising-Ways-Caregiving-Can-Make-You-Healthier/128380346455565102.html
2017-07-13T22:49:00Z
2017-07-13T22:49:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Liz O'Donnell<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.workingdaughter.com/" target="_blank">www.workingdaughter.com</a><strong><strong><br /></strong></strong><br /><br />We all know that caregiving can be stressful and full of challenges. There are thousands of articles, plenty of books, plus support groups in communities across the country that discuss the challenges of taking care of a sick or aging family member or friend. But what isn't discussed often enough is the fact that caregiving can actually be good for you - emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. Researchers have identified something they call the caregiver's gain - the very real health benefits that come from caring for someone else. <br /><br />Lucky for busy caregivers, it is relatively simple to access this gain. For starters, simply being aware that there is an upside to caregiving can put you in a better position to realize the benefits. That's because when we know that caregiving can actually benefit us, we're more likely to accept our role and responsibilities as a caregiver and take charge of the situation. Research from the Department of Health and Human Services suggests people who take an active, problem-solving approach to caregiving are less likely to feel stressed than those who worry or feel helpless. Second, having the right support and resources can also help you achieve the gain. Asking for and receiving help from friends, siblings, and medical professionals greatly affect how we feel about our caregiver experience. And finally, and simplest of all, merely performing the day-to-day tasks of caring for another person, helps you reap the health benefits. <br /><br />Here are 5 surprising ways caregiving can actually make you healthier.<br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Better cognitive functioning.</strong> Researchers compared the cognitive ability of caregivers versus noncaregivers and found those who had cared for someone else had better memory performance and processing speed, which is the time it takes to complete mental tasks. In fact, the caregivers scored at a level 10 years younger than their own age. While no one is exactly sure why caregivers realize a boost to their cognitive function, some speculate it could be the result of the many details caregivers have to manage, like sorting medications, managing finances, and scheduling appointments.</li>
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<li><strong>Enhanced self-esteem.</strong> Many caregivers report they feel enhanced self-esteem due to the gratitude they receive from their care recipients. In turn, these positive feelings help them deal with stress and bounce back quickly from setbacks.</li>
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<li><strong>Greater physical strength.</strong> As emotional as caregiving can be, it can also be quite physical. And apparently, all of that physical exertion - from helping family members transfer from beds to wheelchairs, or assisting them with dressing and bathing - pays off. Caregivers tend to perform better on physical exams that measure walking pace and grip strength, and the ease at which they can go from a seated to standing position. This in turns helps caregivers stay both physically and mentally healthy as they grow older.</li>
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<li><strong>Strong connections. </strong>One of the greatest benefits of caregiving is developing deep, meaningful relationships with a care recipient - relationships that, it turns out, are good for your health. There is a whole host of research that shows the correlation between healthy relationships and physical well-being. Many scientists believe the benefits of having a positive, personal connection with another person are as valuable as getting plenty of sleep and eating a healthy, balanced diet.</li>
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<li><strong>Longer lives.</strong> And finally, caregivers have been shown to have reduced mortality rates as compared to noncaregivers, proving just how powerful the benefits of caregiving can be.</li>
</ol><br />So often, we think of caregiving as something that takes things away from us - it takes our free time, our sleep, our peace of mind, our ability to concentrate at work. It takes away time we could spend with our children or partners or time we could go to the gym - but caregiving gives back to us too. Yes, we feel stressed. Yes, we feel tired. Sometimes we fall into bed at the end of the day feeling mentally drained and physically exhausted. But know this: the caring you are doing today will only make you stronger in the future.<br /><br /><br />Liz O'Donnell is an author, speaker and award-wining blogger who helps women balance and blend their personal and professional lives. Liz's book <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mogul-Mom-Maid-Balancing-Modern/dp/1937134733" target="_blank">Mogul, Mom & Maid: The Balancing Act of the Modern Woman</a></em>, and her website <a href="http://www.workingdaughter.com/" target="_blank">Working Daughter</a>, are lifelines for women balancing family and career. Join <a href="http://www.workingdaughter.com/" target="_blank">Working Daughter's mailing list</a> for exclusive tips and inspiration and receive a copy of the e-book <em>55 Life Hacks for Working Daughters</em>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2017-07-13T22:49:00Z
Improve Your Breathing Improve your Health
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Improve-Your-Breathing-Improve-your-Health/174060527462654540.html
2017-06-08T19:02:00Z
2017-06-08T19:02:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dan Brulé</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://www.breathmastery.com/" target="_blank">www.breathmastery.com</a><br /><br /><br />Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to breathing. Your breathing habits have a direct effect on your health and well-being, on your athletic and creative abilities, your performance at work, and in everyday life. What you don't know could be hurting you or holding you back on many levels, both in the short term and in the long run. <br /><br />
<blockquote><em>"Statistics suggest that many millions of people worldwide suffer with the profound and misunderstood symptoms and deficits of learned dysfunctional breathing habits. Unfortunately, these habits are rarely identified by practitioners, their effects mistakenly attributed to other causes, and their resolutions prescriptive in nature focus is on symptoms rather than causes." <br /><br />-Dr. Peter Litchfield, President of the Graduate School of Behavioral Health Sciences</em></blockquote>
<br />Dysfunctional breathing habits not only compromise physical wellbeing, but they can have direct, immediate, and profound effects on your emotional and psychological health as well. <br /><br />Here are some things that you can do on your own to improve your breathing and along with it, your health:<br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Learn Diaphragmatic breathing</strong> (also called "belly breathing"). Practice until it becomes an unconscious habit-until you literally do it in your sleep! </li>
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<li><strong>The natural breathing pattern is inhale, exhale pause.</strong> Inhale, exhale, pause. Make that pause after your exhale a comfort zone. Let your exhale be complete and don't rush into the next inhale. Take your time and consciously enjoy that pause after your exhale.</li>
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<li><strong>Apply the "two to one" pattern:</strong> Make your exhales twice as long as your inhales. For example: Exhale 4 and inhale 2. Or, exhale 6 and inhale 3. Exhale 8 and inhale </li>
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<li><strong>Mix it up </strong>and vary your rhythms. (You can count using seconds, heartbeats, or your footsteps.)4. Get out and get some good old-fashioned aerobic exercises. Get someone to kick your butt to get you moving and breathing! Make sure to choose your activities to match your abilities and your level of health.</li>
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<li><strong>Practice breathing</strong> at a rate of 6 breaths per minute for 5 minutes, 3 times per day. This practice helps to reduce stress and anxiety, as well as high blood pressure and asthma. </li>
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<li><strong>Take a hike! </strong>And breathe to the rhythm of your footsteps. Start with a 2-2 pattern: breathe in for two steps and breathe out for two steps. Then gradually increase your pace and the count to 3-3 and 4-4. Then experiment to find own favorite rhythm and pattern.</li>
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<li><strong>Do Tai chi, Yoga, Chi Kung,</strong> or any other practice that involves slow graceful movements coordinated with breathing. Pilates is an excellent way to improve breathing by developing more flexibility and core strength.</li>
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<li><strong>Learn "Bellows Breathing" </strong>to energize yourself. This ancient yogic technique stimulates the natural production of epinephrine. It involves breathing quickly and actively: 2 to 3 breaths per second (120 to 180 breaths per minute). You should sound like a busy bicycle pump! Do it for a minute or two, then rest for an equal amount of time. Several cycles of this will give you a healthy burst of energy.</li>
</ol><br />Remember, we all have the ability to improve our own health and wellbeing, as well as our breathing, but the fact is, a good breathing coach can shorten your learning curve and accelerate your progress. For more information about breathing training, visit <a href="http://www.breathmastery.com/" target="_blank">www.breathmastery.com</a>.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dan Brulé</strong>, author of '<em><a href="http://justbreathebook.com/" target="_blank">Just Breathe: Master Breathwork for Success in Life, Love, Business and Beyond</a></em>'. He the foremost expert and authority in the field of Breathwork, and more than 100,000 people in over 50 countries now practice Dan's Breathing Exercises and Techniques, including elite warriors, leading psychotherapists professional athletes and high performers like Tony Robbins. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2017-06-08T19:02:00Z
5 Reasons You Should Consider Adding the Alternative to Healthcare
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/5-Reasons-You-Should-Consider-Adding-the-Alternative-to-Healthcare/914739372945498238.html
2017-05-18T20:08:00Z
2017-05-18T20:08:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/">brigittecutshall.com</a> <br /><br /><br />There's an alternative for everything. <br /><br />Alternative healthcare has gained in popularity over the past couple of decades. Why is this happening? I believe it's for two main reasons: people don't want to be passive about their health anymore and they can't afford the high healthcare costs in the U.S. <br /><br />There are several terms out there that can be a little confusing ... alternative, complementary, integrative. Here's the difference: <br /><br />
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<li><strong>Alternative healthcare</strong> is used instead of mainstream medical care. It's usually for pain and stress relief. The most common forms are chiropractic adjustments and massages.</li>
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<li><strong>Complementary healthcare</strong> is using alternative together with mainstream medical care. An example of this is using acupuncture to help with the side effects of traditional cancer treatment.</li>
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<li><strong>Integrative healthcare</strong> is when healthcare providers offer both - traditional and alternative - care in their facilities. You can see an acupuncturist in the same building as the oncologist.</li>
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<br />Seeing a chiropractor is one of the more popular forms of alternative medicine that is paid for by many insurance policies. I have received regular chiropractic adjustments for the past 16 years. It all started after falling on ice that injured my shoulder. The standard treatment - prescription drugs and physical therapy for 6 weeks didn't help. My pain finally went away after getting adjusted for 3 weeks. <br /><br />The thought of seeing a chiropractor seemed a little crazy at first only because I didn't know any better. I'm glad it was recommended to me. My experience has been positive and weekly adjustments still makes me feel better overall.<br /><br />Intrigued yet? Here are 5 reasons why you should consider and engage in alternative healthcare: <br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Be more involved with your health.</strong> Doing so will actually take some burden off the doctors and healthcare system. This is in turn reduces healthcare costs and encourages you to focus more on prevention. Why do so many people worry which brand of TV to buy but not so much about what they eat? It's because we have a tendency to take our health for granted and results aren't immediate.</li>
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<li><strong>Don't accept being passive as normal. </strong>In conventional medicine, the patient is passive and waits for someone else to give them a solution. Everyone is different, our "<em>normals</em>" are even different. It's important that as patients, we are active participants in our health. It also gives you a sense of empowerment. </li>
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<li><strong>It can improve your performance.</strong> Professional athletes use chiropractors to help with their performance. Okay, most of us aren't professional athletes, but we should treat our bodies with the same respect. Life is a marathon, right? How you take care of your body affects your overall daily performance, stamina and thinking ability. And that's just one simple example. </li>
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<li><strong>You get a different perspective.</strong> I've always wondered why different cultures and countries have such drastic approaches to staying healthy and treating ailments compared to the West. This intrigues many people and is what actually got me interested in learning more about health. Many cultures focus more on prevention and mind-body approach based on thousands of years of practice. In the U.S. we don't. At the same time we shouldn't discount the benefits that society has received through recent medical research and medical advancements. </li>
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<li><strong>Focus on prevention.</strong> The current medical system in the West seems to be based on puzzle pieces and trying to make things fit. We should remember to look at the whole body as a system and not just as "<em>pieces</em>." Incorporating a prevention mindset allows you to take a step back and look at the whole picture. A prevention approach is known to reduce chronic diseases and disease death rates. This is a very realistic goal. It's not as easy as it sounds but should be a priority.</li>
</ol><br />We need to invest in our health. A common sense approach is prevention through alternative and integrative healthcare. This is where my passion lies.<br /><br />I'm interested to hear about your experiences with alternative healthcare.<br /><br />Be Well!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong> is a Wellness Consultant, Speaker, and a Health Advocate (Certified Health Coach). She is a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a primary brain tumor (benign). Brigitte strongly believes the values applied from her health coach training enabled her to overcome her own health issues. Brigitte's goal is to influence others to be a part of the solution - choose empowerment - and embrace a healthier lifestyle by focusing on the Real Things. Sign up for her newsletter at <a href="https://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a> and follow her on Instagram @brigittecutshall. Author of "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438613064&sr=8-1&keywords=brigitte+cutshall" target="_blank">RealThings: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em>" published April 2015. <a href="https://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">BrigitteCutshall</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/RealThings.guru" target="_blank"> Facebook</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438613064&sr=8-1&keywords=brigitte+cutshall" target="_blank">Amazon</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2017-05-18T20:08:00Z
How to Change Your Perspective in 60 Seconds or Less
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2017-05-12T20:45:00Z
2017-05-12T20:45:00Z
<p><span><br />By Ramona Zabriskie</span><br /><a href="http://ramonazabriskie.com/" target="_blank">ramonazabriskie.com</a><a href="https://www.janedunnewold.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><br /><br />I don't believe in cutting down trees because I believe in trees! Something mysteriously ancient in me resonates with trees -- especially the grand old evergreens of my native Pacific Northwest. At the risk of sounding a little loopy... I have felt since childhood that I can sense the spirit of a tree. Each one is alive after all. I recently explained this to my grandson who looked at me in wonder when I told him how I saved the trees on our Florida property from the ravages of a hurricane.<br /><br /></p>
<blockquote>"How did you do that, Gram?"<br /><br />"When I heard the hurricane was coming, I hugged each tree and told it to stand strong."<br /><br />"Did it work?"<br /><br />"It sure did! None of them fell, even though all the trees next door were blown down." </blockquote>
<br />(In truth, one of ours actually did uproot. My husband had disliked that Jerusalem Thorne at the end of the driveway for years. I think he actually notched the trunk before the first gale.)<br /><br />From my point of view looking up then, trees are good, and cutting one down is not to be taken lightly. Even so, one of the 200-foot firs over lording our Washington woodland is no longer standing among his stand of brothers. We hired professional arborists to put him out of his dying misery last week, along with a few sickly cedars, a dead deciduous, and last but not least, a gigantic maple. That one killed me, because I knew we were killing it. The poor thing wasn't nearing the end of its life like the others; it was in its prime, rotating through the seasons with aplomb. But Honey had gradually convinced me that the gigantic maple was mostly a nuisance, so down he came.<br /><br />And I cried.<br /><br />For about ten seconds.<br /><br />The maple memorial was brief because it only took me that long to feel the sun on my face! And when I looked up, I saw sky! Sky! Blue, shimmering sky! It electrified all of us, including the dozens of remaining trees in the greenbelt: the feeling, the change, was gloriously instantaneous and celebratory.<br /><br />I've experienced that same exhilaration and liberation many times in my life, but it's never had to do with a tree before. It has, however, always had to do with removing something I overvalued that was blocking my view: my intellectual or spiritual view, that is. The process can be complicated, lengthy, and painful--like the hours it took to saw down that tree-but the moment of clarified, rarified vision usually happens all at once. And in a burst-in a proverbial "light bulb moment"-the world turns upside down and you suddenly realize that you like it better that way!<br /><br />Though dramatic, life-altering events (illness, accident, near-death, divorce, loss) can change a person's perspective in a flash, why wait for the traumatic to inevitably force your hand? If a relationship or situation is causing you unhappiness or frustration, and you've tried everything you can think of to fix it without success, there is at least one thing you can "fix" in a "heartbeat"; one hopeful avenue to increased love, peace, and happiness.<br /><br />The solution might require emotional and intellectual prep work; it will probably mean seeking out education specific to your situation and opening your heart to the inspiration of others who have successfully passed through a similar predicament-but-if information, humility and desire are all genuine, things can click into place in one glorious minute, and the life that has been so complicated and consternated, can suddenly appear so much simpler, so clear, so ready to receive the new you-with-a-new-vision.<br />Timber!<br /><br />Here are some ideas for how to nurture, or prepare yourself for a change of perspective. Remember, how much time the prep work takes will vary according to how much of yourself you are able and willing to invest in the process, but the following, in any combination and in any order, will help bring on your "<em>moment</em>" of truth:<br /><br /><strong>Education:</strong>
<blockquote>1. Take time for self-reflection, including pondering the past and journaling your insights.<br /><br />2. Begin a personal study on the topic of your frustration.<br /><br />3. Take a class on the topic you are wrestling with, optimally a live class that involves the stories and support of others.<br /><br />4. Spend quality time with wise, mature people who have been through your situation (finding a mentor you trust is ideal). Professional counseling may also be a helpful, even necessary option.</blockquote>
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<blockquote>5. Be alone in nature.<br /><br />6. Listen to beautiful music.<br /><br />7. Immerse yourself in a great book(s), as in literature and scripture.<br /><br />8. Do something physical. A one-time hike/stroll, or a new regular exercise routine clears the mind and strengthens the spirit. Making genuine love with your spouse counts too.<br /><br />9. Experience something completely new and foreign to you.<br /><br />10. Find an outlet for your creativity; something that feeds your soul in a way that's uniquely you.<br /><br />11. Give to others: do something helpful for someone(s) in difficulty. Better yet, commit to continuous, dedicated service. Invest yourself in a worthy cause.<br /><br />12. Say a long prayer. Say many prayers. Tap into your faith.</blockquote>
Finally, dare to hope, dare to dream. You will find the answers. I can promise that-not only because I have experienced transformation over and over myself in many areas of my life, but also because I work with women everyday who are in the process of transformation. Contributing to their "prep" work-their education and inspiration -- is a joy, but I'll tell you what: there is NOTHING more thrilling than being present at the moment when the tree (that's been keeping them in shadows for so long) crashes to the ground. Sun and the sky stream into the soul.<br /><br />A mood doesn't change your life. But an altered perspective changes everything.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Ramona Zabriskie</strong>, a wife of 38 years, is the multi-award winning author of "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Wife-Life-Power-Succeed-Marriage-ebook/dp/B00D494NUW" target="_blank">Wife for Life: The Power to Succeed in Marriage</a>"</em> and founder of the highly acclaimed <em>Wife for Life University</em>, a one-of-a-kind virtual school for wives that transforms marriages through a step-by-step, principle based approach via live mentoring, classes, and community. Watch Ramona's free information-packed webinar, "<em>Your Power to Succeed in Marriage</em>" on demand at <a href="http://ramonazabriskie.com/" target="_blank">ramonazabriskie.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2017-05-12T20:45:00Z
Five Steps to Engage Creatively with Stress
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2017-05-02T18:45:00Z
2017-05-02T18:45:00Z
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<p><span>By Jane Dunnewold</span><br /><a href="https://www.janedunnewold.com/" target="_blank"><span class="yiv3223331812">www.janedunneworld.com</span><br /></a><br /><br />There is no question that life is stressful. The world events of 2016 escalated stress levels across the great divide of personal opinion and viewpoint. It's easy to be overwhelmed by the big picture. How do we confront conflicting ideas and problematic personalities? How can we manage stress levels hitting new highs on your internal stress-o-meter?<br /><br />Consider the strategies of creative strength training. The stamina built by implementing five simple principles soothes stress levels, encourages you to have fun, and leads to a happier state of mind.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Play with paint or bright-colored markers.</strong><br />Even people who reject the idea of being artistic have an inherent ability to create. If your mind resists - "<em>Who me? No way!</em>" - Trick it. Grant yourself permission to play, but only for an hour. (You'll want to keep going!)<br /><br />Still hitting resistance? Close your eyes. Imagine the happiest times of childhood. Most often it's a memory of playing - in the dirt, on a bike, with coloring books, or games. Need further convincing? Suspend judgment. Just try it. And BTW, adult coloring books are all the rage for a reason. Coloring is meditative. Flash alert! No books are needed. Just start slapping paint on paper. See what happens. If that's too scary, try finger-painting. It's a blast. Buy a set any place that sells toys.</li>
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<li><strong>Cross Train.</strong><br />You know what it means at the gym. Apply it to trying something new. If you started with painting, switch to writing a poem. Look up Haiku online. It's easy and there are thousands of examples! Main thing? Reject self-consciousness! For once it IS all about you.</li>
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<li><strong>Engage the Inner Rebel. </strong><br />Everyone has one. It's the hard-wired part of human beings that takes charge, given permission. Rebelliousness is usually a teenage attribute. As adults, we sublimate the Rebel, to be perceived as agreeable adults. But Rebel energy enthusiastically tries on new things for size. It also helps keep us from being guilted into doing things we don't want to do. You have preferences. Perhaps if you were honoring them, you wouldn't feel so stressed. Think about it.</li>
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<li><strong>Dismantle Your Committee.</strong><br />Do you see faces or hear voices when you're stressed or criticized? Those are the people who keep you from succeeding, or block your enjoyment of success. Psychologists call the Committee "<em>The Critic</em>." But it's bigger than that. You might be your own worst critic, but you didn't arrive on the planet with that mindset. A few people around you - past or present - helped. Sometimes someone WAS mean. But just as often, someone's on your Committee because you want to impress them. Face it. Dismantling the Committee is freeing. So who's on your committee? Figure it out and dump them.</li>
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<li><strong>Write Your History. </strong><br />I teach a class called "Everyone is Fascinating." Not a new idea, just a reminder. Your life is a timeline of stories. Write a few down. Lists are ok. Or short paragraphs, or even a timeline. We're not going for the Pulitzer here. Can't think of anything to write? Make a list of the crazy, sweet, odd parts of yourself. Writing reminds you who you are. You can feel good about it and maybe even accept yourself. There's an old saying: "<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Know_thyself" target="_blank">Know Thyself</a>." When you know yourself you feel centered. When you're centered, you can deal better with stress. It can't knock you off without a fight. </li>
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<p><br />Bottom line? You can't change the world around you, but you can change how you react to it. And in order to do that, you've got to be present. Make time to play, be centered in who you are, and enlist your inner Rebel. Dismantle the Committee. All small changes that can make a big difference. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Jane Dunnewold</strong> teaches and lectures internationally, and has mounted numerous one-person exhibitions, including Inspired by the Masters (Visions Quilt Museum 2016). Her work won Best of Show in the exhibition Timeless Meditations (Tubac Art Center/2013). She is a recipient of the Quilt Japan Prize, and Gold Prize at the Taegu (Korea) International Textile Exhibition. Dunnewold has authored numerous books, including the classic, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Complex-Cloth-Comprehensive-Surface-Design/dp/1564771490/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1493797689&sr=1-1&keywords=Complex+Cloth" target="_blank">Complex Cloth</a></em> (1996). <em>Interweave Press published Art Cloth: A Guide to Surface Design on Fabric</em> (2010). While her most recent book, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Creative-Strength-Training-Exercises-Encouraging/dp/1440344957" target="_blank">Creative Strength Training: Prompts, Exercises and Personal Stories for Encouraging Artistic Genius</a></em> was written to help artists find deeper joy in creating, her strategies apply to anyone seeking a more creative and boldly authentic life. Jane lectures and leads workshops that honor the human desire to create. She is the former President of the Surface Design Association and has a B.A. in Psychology and Religion from Baldwin-Wallace University. Jane is currently booking workshops and lectures for 2018. Contact her to schedule an event. <a href="http://www.janedunnewold.com/" target="_blank">http://www.janedunnewold.com/</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-05-02T18:45:00Z
A Number Doesn't Define You ...You Do!
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2017-04-12T23:19:00Z
2017-04-12T23:19:00Z
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<p><span>By Diane Danvers Simmons</span> <br /><a class="yiv3223331812" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.ownitfeelitliveit.com/" target="_blank"><span class="yiv3223331812">www.ownitfeelitliveit.com</span></a><br /><br /><br />What is it with age ladies? I feel the same as I did in my 20's, younger than my 30's and just catching up to my 40's, as I stride through life happy in my yoga toned body and a fine pair stilettos. I don't feel the need to admit my age or even "act" my age ...whatever that means. With all of my confidence intact, I even celebrated 50 as the big 0, hoping people would presume I meant 40, or even 30 in perfect light. It wasn't until I was on celebration number 4 in England that I discovered everyone thought I meant the big Orgasm ... no wonder everyone wanted to join in the celebration!<br /><br />''<em>Aging is out of your control, How you handle it though, is in your hands</em>" Quoted by; <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diane_von_F%C3%BCrstenberg" target="_blank">Diane Von Furstenberg</a> ...at 69, she's gorgeous, smart, stylish, strong and creator of one of my favorites and perfect at any age ... the Wrap dress! <br /><br />Thank god for 2016, as more gorgeous women inside and out such as Halle Berry turn 50, Susan Sarandon 70, Julianne Moore 56, to name a few. All are example's of women whose spirits and energy seem to shine brighter with each year as they take on new roles and expand their horizons.In our age obsessed world it's so refreshing to see these beautiful accomplished women adorning our screens, stages, magazines, social media and most importantly making a difference.<br /><br />What do all of these women have in common, besides admirers galore, a great pair of shoes and their own undeniable style? <br /><br />First off, we all know the physical guidelines for a healthy life: eat healthy natural food, drink lots of water, exercise, get a good nights sleep and don't smoke ...<br /><br />What I'm referring to however is a much deeper resource that we all have at our finger-tips and total control over. The secret ingredient which keeps us luminous and youthful, is from within. Spiritual bliss is timeless, ageless and priceless ... just like you.<br /><br />The celebs I referred to do not let age define them. They know who they are and aren't ashamed to OWN IT.<br /><br />None of them have tried to fit into a box. They each have and continue to live in their own truth and style ...whether it's Halle Berry feeling blessed turning 50 and honoring her stunning body clothed in sheer white lace, or Susan Sarandon's fierce independence and activism, or Julianne Moore's silky red locks, luminous green eyes, grace, and humor.<br /><br />They're not only attractive because of how they've nourished their skin and bodies, they are conscious women who draw upon their god given talent and energy to be all they can be. They've embraced the phases of modern womanhood, nurturing their careers, relationships and immersing themselves in the gift of motherhood, while becoming activists for issues and causes bigger than themselves. <br /><br />Here are three of the pillars to a vibrant youthful existence at any age: <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Perception is Reality.</strong><br />The true essence of youth and beauty: is mind,and spirit working in unity, enabling you to approach life as whole being rather than a fragmented, frustrated one. Because you are what you think, feel and do... if you think your old- you are, if you feel old- you are and If you act old -you are.<br /><br />Don't limit yourself because of a number or because you have this preconceived idea that you can't do or learn something new as you age, I learned to surf at 55!</li>
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<li><strong>Playfulness; Why should kids have all the fun?</strong><br />A fresh outlook, a new perspective, is how a child views the world. A youthful point of view isn't stuck in what should be, but open to what can be. Youthful is playful, what's more endearing than someone who's playful, with infinite wisdom and is flexible not just because they do yoga, but because they are willing to take a few risks and be spontaneous. A curious, enthusiastic spirit and mind that's open to new possibilities with child like wonder IS BETTER THAN ANY YOUTH PILL!</li>
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<li><strong>Purpose is Connection; Connection to your true sprit and what you came here to do, through the people you love and to something bigger than yourself.</strong><br />Doing things for good feels good, and is good for you because each of us wants to feel relevant, useful and needed in this world. Share your unique talents, your wealth of knowledge and life experience to make a difference in the world. Having real meaning in your life is what really makes us happy.<br /><br />Stay connected to life long friends and family but also be open to new relationships of every age, race, and color. And no, Facebook is not a substitute for human contact, a touch or a smile.<br /><br />Ultimately, Shift your mindset to one of gratitude for this blessing called life at every age. With an open heart and mind, a little give and take, love and compassion for self and others, an undeniable faith in who you are and what you came here to do, you pretty much have the keys to a vibrant, sassy life worth living!</li>
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<p><strong><br /></strong><strong id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1492122834424_13541" class="yiv3223331812"><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1492122834424_13540" class="yiv3223331812"><br />Diane Danvers-Simmons</span></strong><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1492122834424_13538" class="yiv3223331812"> is a passionate, visionary global citizen who wakes up each day crafting programs and solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. With this motivation, she founded and continues to drive her own company, <a href="http://www.ownitfeelitliveit.com/home.php" target="_blank">Own it, Feel it, Live it</a>. Through inspired <em class="yiv3223331812">Spirituality in Stilettos</em> programming, uplifting <em class="yiv3223331812">Made by Survivors</em> jewelry production of her own design, impactful documentaries, and purposeful speaking engagements, Diane works each day to create experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit </span><a class="yiv3223331812" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.ownitfeelitliveit.com/" target="_blank"><span class="yiv3223331812">www.ownitfeelitliveit.com</span></a><span class="yiv3223331812">.</span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-04-12T23:19:00Z
Never Enough Time!
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2017-04-06T23:19:00Z
2017-04-06T23:19:00Z
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<p>By Michael Bianco-Splann <br /><a href="http://www.illuminateambitions.com" target="_blank">www.illuminateambitions.com</a> <br /><br /><br />Time to rise, time to act, time to get going, Bud time, bad time, best time ever, time to leave, time to move, Miller time, time to decide; time to realize that this thing we call time is not real. Can you touch it? Does it have structure? Oh, yes, our world operates from a time clock, minutes, seconds, hours, work time, rest time, time for dinner, time to make love, time to fight, time to apologize, time to plant, time to harvest, time, time and more time, yet not enough time. <br /><br />So why are we so caught up in time? Does it exist? Or are we simply operating from a point of contextual organization and structure, a construct that gives meaning and texture to living as a human being. Did the ancients understand this concept differently, whereby the human condition was in sync and cooperative with nature and the greater universe? And how have we devolved so harshly to live our lives caught in the paradox of time and its limitations. <br /><br />Perhaps the grandest paradox in contemplating the impact of time is to witness the collective psychosis of continually wanting more as consumers, yet operating in a world limited by twenty-four hours in a day, 7-days a week and 365 days in a year. We purchase hundreds of channels from our cable provider only to have enough time to view a handful, yet we feel compelled to have more. People go on a week's vacation to visit four European countries, six cities, multiple side tours and end up needing another vacation just to recover from the overwhelming travel. How much can we cram into an hour, a day or a week? Our incessant need to keep up with the newest Apple product creates an individual and collective malaise of never being satisfied, never feeling calm and always needing something else. <br /><br />We order our reality based on limitations attached to the clock. 6:00am, the alarm buzzes to start your engines. Ready, set and go-- off to the races once again. Teachers teach according to the bell. Workers work forty-hours a week, Monday through Friday. Trains, planes, rush hour traffic, buses all run according to schedules. Tuesdays are spaghetti nights, while Fridays are for pizza. We even have to schedule time for lovemaking. Weekends are for sports viewing, beer drinking and Sunday hangovers. And then-- it's right back into the circle of life, the tick-tock of our ordered chaos with its perpetual disharmony of never having or being enough. <br /><br />Certainly, order is necessary to survive. But are we now living in a world that demands something more relevant than the limitations of time? If so, what would this new reality be? Here are some suggestions for expanding our perception of limited time:</p>
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<li><strong>Stop, Look, Listen and Feel:</strong><br />We are missing the splendid variety of the show. By cramming the most we can into our limited time-driven construct, we miss the beauty of a whole world in front of us. Imagine for a moment what aliens from another planet might see if they were to visit any town, USA. Would they witness human beings operating on autopilot, heads magnetically attached to smart phones, texting, talking and doing everything but paying attention to the world in front of them. </li>
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<li><strong>The Small Things Matter:</strong><br />How often do we spend the seconds of our precious life to smell the aroma of a beautiful rose, or fresh coffee beans being ground or the natural smell of a spring rain? Do you give yourself the gift of being aware, noticing the infinite bounty and hidden elegance of what is directly in front of you? The sunrise, the sunset, the shimmer of leaves blowing in the wind, the unconditional love of your dog as you enter from a long day's work, or even those loving acts of kindness shown by people asking nothing in return; all these and so much more are available at any moment in your life. </li>
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<li><strong>Being 'Present' elongates time:</strong><br />The limitations of time are an illusion. Quantum physics theory tells us that the nature of time is not confined to the present, but is simultaneous to allow for us to be in multiple locations across the past, present and future. The power of conscious awareness provides us with an opportunity of a much broader realty, one of realizing that we are not separate and apart but rather coexisting in the universe. Jean Houston, in the Quantum Powers coursework, states, "Consciousness is the basic reality of the universal mind." We are not separate from the infinite universe but rather an integral part of this reality. Being present means being aware. When you are <em>aware</em> of being aware, you have stepped into consciousness. </li>
</ol><span><br /></span>Now is the time to stop the train of unconsciousness by turning off the autopilot and being present for there is ample time for everything we need and want. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Michael Bianco-Splann </strong>is the author of <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Leadership-Principles-Change-Business/dp/0996229604/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1435791560&sr=8-1&keywords=michael+bianco+splann" target="_blank">Conscious Leadership: 7 Principles that WILL Change Your Business and Change Your Life,</a> </em>a wake-up call for leaders and organizations ready to gain consciousness. Michael has frontline executive leadership experience from across several industries, with the past sixteen years working within the Financial Services industry. Michael's ability to accurately assess an organization's strength of leadership and performance, coupled with his dynamic talent to deliver high-impact leader development training tailored to the needs of the organization provides unique and differentiated value. For more information visit <a href="http://www.illuminateambitions.com" target="_blank">www.illuminateambitions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2017-04-06T23:19:00Z
8 Secret Hiding Spots of a Cold Or Flu Virus
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2017-03-31T06:12:00Z
2017-03-31T06:12:00Z
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<p>By Leslie Reichert<br /><a href="http://greencleaningcoach.com/" target="_blank">www.greencleaningcoach.com </a><br /><br /><br />Did you know that a cold or flu virus can live on a surface for up to 48 hours? And a healthy adult can infect their friends 24 hours prior to recognizing they are sick. During cold and flu season you need to know where those germs are hiding. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Door handles</strong><br />Everyone entering and leaving a home has to touch a door handle. If they have a cold or flu virus, they are going to contaminate the door handles. You can clean them by washing the door knobs with warm soapy water and then rinse. The soap will lift the germs off the knobs and carry them away to the washing machine. A microfiber cloth will work the same way without using soap. Just wet a high quality microfiber cloth with warm water and wipe the door knobs. To work efficiently, fold the cloth into eighths. Once one surface of the microfiber cloth is dirty, fold it to a clean area to prevent cross contamination. Rinse the microfiber in hot water. The microfiber does not absorb germs; it just holds onto them so they go down the drain.</li>
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<li><strong>Keyboards</strong><br />Cleaning keyboards should become a regular habit whether it's flu season or not. Keyboards are magnets for germs and viruses. You can remove germs quickly by using a tissue sprayed with rubbing alcohol. Wipe the sprayed tissue over the keys to remove germs and prevent others from spreading. You can get in between the keys by dipping a Q-tip into rubbing alcohol and working it around the keys. Make sure the Q-tip is just damp and not dripping alcohol.</li>
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<li><strong>Light switches</strong><br />If you have a flu virus floating around your home, the chances are great those germs are lingering on some of your light switches. Wipe them down with a microfiber cloth or an alcohol-treated cloth every day. Since the virus can live for 48 hours, this routine will keep you on a schedule from getting a virus from a contaminated light switch.</li>
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<li><strong>Toilet Tank Lever</strong><br />Everyone knows that the toilet is an extremely germy place in your home. But it also is hiding cold and flu germs. The toilet tank lever is touched by everyone when you flush. People who are infected with the flu are touching the handle before washing their hands. Make it a habit to wash your hands before flushing and then use a paper towel to protect your hands when you flush. If you are in a commercial bathroom you may be able to use your foot to flush.</li>
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<li><strong>Elevator buttons</strong><br />Have you ever considered how many sick people may have touched those elevator buttons before you? Carry a tissue in your coat pocket and use it to protect your hands. Through it away when you get to your office.</li>
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<li><strong>Grocery Store cards</strong><br />Do you have that special card on your keychain that gets you great values at your local grocery store? You may be getting more than just great discounts on your food bill. You are also being exposed to viruses. Offer to swipe your card yourself to prevent spreading germs. </li>
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<li><strong>Cell phones</strong><br />When was the last time you cleaned and disinfected your cell phone? We come in contact with germs all day and even if we wash our hands, our phones are still holding onto those germs. Make it a daily ritual to wipe your cell phone in the morning and evening with a damp microfiber cloth. The cloth will disinfect all those germs by lifting them of without chemicals.</li>
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<li><strong>Water fountains</strong><br />I learned never to use a water fountain from my daughter's preschool teacher. Instead she recommended the children bring water bottles. In theory a water fountain should be fairly germ free if used correctly, but people tend cough, sneeze and spit into the fountains. Bacteria flourishes in the warm, wet environment. If you absolutely have to use a water fountain, let the water run for 30 seconds prior to drinking so you flush bacteria out of the water supply area. I also recommend using a tissue on the control knob. </li>
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<p><br /><br /><strong>Leslie Reichert </strong>is a cleaning expert that encourages people to think differently about their cleaning products. Leslie is known as the <a href="http://greencleaningcoach.com/category/media/radio-podcast" target="_blank">Green Cleaning Coach</a> is changing the world - "one spray bottle at a time". She is a national speaker, a frequent home keeping expert on Martha Stewart Living Radio, Maid Brigade's DIY Cleaning Expert and the author of the book: <strong><em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Green-Cleaning-Leslie-Reichert/dp/1507779372/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1490993073&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Joy+Of+Green+Cleaning" target="_blank">The Joy Of Green Cleaning</a></em></strong>. For tips and simple, but effective strategies visit her at <a href="http://greencleaningcoach.com/" target="_blank">www.greencleaningcoach.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
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2017-03-31T06:12:00Z
Are You Envious of Your Online Namesake?
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2017-03-22T23:12:00Z
2017-03-22T23:12:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger, M.S.<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br /> Lisa Messenger recently tweeted: "Let go. Surrender. Detach from outcome. Live in the now." This was a vivid reminder of when I hung on every word uttered by Lisa Messenger and wished I could hang off every high cliff that she was often scaling.<br /><br />I'm Lisa Messinger. She's Lisa Messenger. I'm in smoggy Los Angeles, sometimes daydreaming about my next column or book while lying on my shabby-chic, soft-as-a-feather sofa. She's all over Australia scaling real-life mountains while conducting high-level publishing industry mergers via smartphone, or surfing Australia's famed waves while strategizing the surf guides to her homeland that she published.<br /><br />Have you ever become envious of your online alter ego? In the Age of Google, how many of us haven't Googled our own name and not only possibly spied ourselves but others with the same name? Facebook envy is already becoming well-known. Studies show that others believe that there is true happiness behind every friend's "<em>perfect family</em>" smiling portraits. National Public Radio wrote last year of one of the studies that social media "<em>may make you depressed and jealous, but we still love it.</em>" Googling your namesakes may strike even closer to the heart.<br /><br />In fact, in my case, I know of Lisa Messinger, M.D., Lisa Messinger, a major museum curator, and then there's the aforementioned Lisa Messenger, the Australian publishing mogul. I came across her through my typo on Google of my own last name, since her name is the same pronunciation, but just one letter different. <br /><br /> In many Australian magazine cover stories, she resembles Nicole Kidman or Celine Dion and is shown frolicking in fields in tulle skirts, like on the cover of her newer book, <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Life-Love-Creating-Lisa-Messenger-ebook/dp/B00UZGFWVG" target="_blank">Life & Love: Creating the Dream</a></em>. In one of many such profiles, she is chronicled as, "<em>Lisa has never settled for anything second-rate. It is not part of her makeup or ethos. Lisa makes people's dreams come alive on a daily basis...She oozes passion and drive at every corner and readily admits she never wants to 'settle' or be 'ordinary.</em>'" Virgin Group founder <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Branson" target="_blank">Sir Richard Branson</a> raves on the book cover, "<em>In the short time I have known Lisa, she's had an infectious spark, and a crazy, fun, anything's possible entrepreneurial attitude. She's a woman to watch.</em>" <br /><br />I got to watch her up close as we once brunched in Beverly Hills on one of her overseas trips. I had initiated an email correspondence with Lisa, who is nine years my junior, after being floored by reading about all of her exploits. Since I thought she might not only be able to co-author it, but publish it as well, we began the early stages of a possible book I suggested,<em> Lisa Messinger, Lisa Messenger: Coaching Yourself to Live the Life You Have Always Dreamed of Through Outrageous Lessons Learned Down Under</em>. I was going to climb mountains, surf and trek the Outback with Lisa as my life/work coach. <br /><br />However, soon I realized that --- as much as visiting Australia surely would have been "<em>Coolah</em>," the cool name of Lisa's hometown --- envisioning shadowing my in-name-only double made me as blue as the social media studies that would be done a few years later eventually would report. I wasn't Lisa Messenger. Even if I did attempt to mount a surfboard alongside Lisa, if Sir Richard Branson met me, he probably would not note my "<em>crazy, fun, anything's possible...attitude</em>." What's gotten me ahead and been noticed on any review, from kindergarten, to my work at the country's largest media company or world's top think tank, is a dead-serious attention to detail that can't be ignored. <br /><br />Why was I trying to ignore it and morph into a free spirit? In the spirit of staying true to oneself even with the pressure of those smiling mugs during the approximate 40 minutes a day that Facebook's own studies have shown many of us to gaze, I since got even more serious earning, while working, a master of science degree, replicating the perfect grades of my earlier education. The book I am instead working on is a solo-authored compilation of intense strategic communication management theory essays I penned daily during those 20 months. <br /><br />If you find yourself measuring yourself against your online namesakes or friends, as that 2016 University of Pittsburgh study noted many of us do often leaving us feeling down, "<em>fasting</em>" from social media one day a week, as a Dutch study found, might leave you feeling more upbeat. A German study showed that most people share online exclusively positive information about themselves, leaving out essential bits of real life. Remember, therefore, that the online versions of your internet namesakes or friends may be as fictional as the characters in your favorite novels --- but you are not.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger</strong> has a Master of Science degree in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University, for which she was also a contracted strategic communications blogger, and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Southern California. Lisa has been a Lead Operations Specialist for the RAND Corporation think tank. She is a longtime columnist at Creators Syndicate and before that Copley News Service. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming-ebook/dp/B00HSKZ8YI/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1490245308&sr=1-1&keywords=My+Thin+Excuse%3A+Understanding%2C+Recognizing%2C+and+Overcoming+Eating+Disorders" target="_blank"><em>My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</em> </a>with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
Staff
2017-03-22T23:12:00Z
Give Yourself the Gift of Yoga This Year: 6 Steps to Make It Your Practice
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Give-Yourself-the-Gift-of-Yoga-This-Year:-6-Steps-to-Make-It-Your-Practice/-948226758107217220.html
2017-03-16T20:13:00Z
2017-03-16T20:13:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Sharkie Zartman</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://sharkiezartman.com/" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com<br /></a><br /><br />I hate to admit this, but I used to think that yoga was just for the super-calm flexible people who floated on clouds and hummed. Being an athlete, a hard core coach, and a person with a double-A personality type, it was not something I wanted to try. My only exposure was my husband's old yoga book that featured an anorexic looking young man with a pointed shaggy beard wearing a loin cloth sitting with his legs crossed behind his head. Whenever anyone asked me if I wanted to try yoga, I visualized that picture and said "No Way! I have better things to do than contort my body into strange shapes."<br /><br />But one day I decided to give it a try when a yoga studio opened up down the street from my house and my friend asked me to try it with her. When I started to resist she reminded me that the first class was free and she heard it was a great workout, so what did I have to lose? <br /><br />I reluctantly agreed and met her at the studio wearing my baggy, volleyball sweats. Not smart. We started the class with deep breathing exercises and I looked at my friend and almost started laughing. What did I get myself into? As we started moving slowing in and out of poses that resembled strange lunges and squats and a dog-like pose, people started to move together as if they were linked energetically in a choreographed performance. I was totally out of sync. And then came the balancing poses. Everyone was performing perfect trees and eagles while I was hopping around on one foot. After an hour of movement, I realized that my sweats were dripping wet and I felt like a deer in the headlights. How could I be so bad at something that looked so easy? At the end of the class we rested in corpse pose (how fitting). <br /><br />Then, it happened! I felt an unusual wave of calmness flow through my body and my mind was in totally new place. Even though I had done a terrible practice, for some odd reason, I didn't care. My competitive ego had just gotten a well- deserved time-out. I was hooked after the class and bought a package and went on to get over 500 hours of training and added the class to our college curriculum where I teach health and fitness and now, also yoga. I knew that there were probably a lot of students like me who didn't think yoga was for them because it was either too weird or they feared that they were not flexible enough to do yoga. However, I wanted them to have a great introduction and hopefully after finding a class and a style that they enjoyed, would continue to make yoga an essential part of their lives. It is truly a practice that integrates mind, body and spirit and is also a great way to manage stress. <br /><br />So if you haven't tried yoga yet, or have and never went back, here are some tips to find a practice that works for you. <br /><ol>
<li>Get some information about the class before you go. What level is it? What style? Who is the teacher? Make sure you know what to expect so you don't end up like I did the first time-a deer in the headlights.</li>
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<li>Tell your instructor if you have any injuries or limitations. If you don't tell them, they don't know. </li>
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<li>Remember that there is no competition in yoga. No one cares whether or not you can do the poses perfectly. The instructor is the one who will monitor his or her students and give modifications as needed. </li>
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<li>Don't eat right before doing yoga. Trust me on this one! The abdominal compressions along with the inversions common in yoga practices will not feel comfortable with a full stomach. </li>
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<li>Your body talks to you when you do yoga. Make sure you listen and never push into the pain area. And always rest as needed.</li>
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<li>Make sure your instructor is certified and has at least 200 hours of training and is registered with the Yoga Alliance. That should assure that your teacher knows what to do and more importantly, what not to do while teaching yoga.</li>
</ol> <br />Remember, if you don't like your first yoga class, that's fine. I've gone to some classes that were so bad that I walked out. Keep searching until you find one that fits you and your needs. Ask your friends, search online and be willing to try something new and be a beginner. Yoga practices can be easy, restorative, creative, spiritual, and also very challenging. That's the beauty of yoga. There is so much variety that there is a style out there for everyone. <br /><br />So get out there a find a practice you like. Give yourself the gift of yoga this year! Isn't it time to do something just for you? <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Sharkie Zartman, MA</strong>, is a college professor, a former All-American athlete, and award winning volleyball coach. She hosts Sharkie's Pep Talk on <a href="http://healthylife.net/" target="_blank">HealthyLife.net</a> Radio Network and is a certified health coach, speaker, and the author of five books including <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Take-Aging-Sport-Athletic-Approach/dp/1628652993" target="_blank">Take on Aging as a Sport; The Athletic Approach to Aging</a>. She is passionate about helping people take an empowered approach to life so they can have optimal health, happiness, and success at any age. For more information visit <a href="http://sharkiezartman.com/" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2017-03-16T20:13:00Z
5 Ways to Kick Start Your Weight Loss Motivation and Rev Up Your Health
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2017-03-08T21:13:00Z
2017-03-08T21:13:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Sloane Davis</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://pancakesandpush-ups.com/" target="_blank">www.pancakesandpush-ups.com</a> <br /><br /><br />It's impossible for even the most successful people to be motivated all the time. After all, we are only human. To stay motivated you need to be interested, on track and engaged.<br /> <br />Everyone needs a little push now and then, including myself. There are days I am super charged to eat healthy and get to the gym and work hard, and other days I feel like throwing in the towel and simply want to sleep all day. Most days I get up and put in the work because I know it yields results. When you see results from the work you put in, it's much easier to stay motivated. <br /><br />Here are 5 powerful ways to kick start your weight loss motivation in order to rev up your health:<br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Get physical! </strong>According to the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Institutes_of_Health" target="_blank">National Institute of Health</a>, "<em>Physical activity is a great way for adults to gain substantial health benefits and maintain independence</em>". Instead of trying to <em>find</em> time to exercise, make time to exercise part of your day. The sooner it becomes part of your daily routine the faster you will benefit from the physical exercise. The longer you can stick with it the more you will be able to make it a regular habit and part of your lifestyle. </li>
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<li><strong>Find a plan that works for you. </strong>When you go in with a plan, you are more likely to adhere to it. After years and years of exercising, I still always make sure I have a plan to go into the gym with and follow. I feel more accomplished to know that I met my goal and accomplished what I set out to do. When you reach your daily goal, you are more motivated to keep going. </li>
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<li><strong>Get your nutrition in order.</strong> Eating healthy and losing weight does NOT have to be complicated. The more educated you become in knowing how to properly fuel your body the more results you will see over time. </li>
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<li><strong>Establish a healthy relationship with food. </strong>Understand that there are no "<em>good</em>" and "<em>bad</em>" foods. Yes, there are foods that are healthier for you that you should incorporate on a daily basis, but your diet shouldn't be restrictive and work against you. When you are able to eat all types of foods you take out the need to binge, hence adhering to a plan which you can sustain for a long period of time. The longer you can maintain your plan, the healthier you become, the more results you will see. You do not need to cut carbs in order to lose weight. Fat does not make you fat. "<em>Natural</em>" doesn't necessarily mean "<em>healthy</em>." This is having a healthy relationship with food. To be able to eat AND lose weight. The more educated you become, the more you can hold on to a plan that works. The more results you see, the better you will feel to keep going and stay motivated. </li>
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<li><strong>Involve yourself in a support group.</strong> Your motivation will jumpstart if you are able to connect with other people going through the same process. You will feel good about your progress, know you are not alone, have hundreds of others who are following the same journey as yours and are there for support. You will also get great tips and ideas that will help with your plan. One of the many benefits of an effective plan is a private online community with hundreds of others following the same path. Studies show that working with others, having a partner, and knowing you are not alone in your journey is a very important role in success. </li>
</ol>Weight loss, constantly being motivated and taking charge of your health can be a daunting experience. But there is no reason it can't be done. Just because something isn't easy doesn't mean you cannot do it. Follow these tips to help you stay motivated and ultimately reach your goals. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Sloane Davis </strong>is a Certified Nutritionist and Personal Trainer, helping hundreds globally get into top shape. Sloane has a B.A. from Syracuse University and is accredited through ISSA with her degree in Nutrition and Personal Training. Sloane developed Pancakes and Push-ups to teach others to have a healthy relationship with food. For our high acclaimed Kickstarter Plan <a href="http://pancakesandpush-ups.com/nutrition-plans/" target="_blank">click here</a>. Sign up for our <a href="http://pancakesandpush-ups.com/training-programs/" target="_blank">training programs</a> and visit <a href="http://pancakesandpush-ups.com/blog/" target="_blank">www.pancakesandpush-ups.com</a> for new articles. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/15037287_1202511623128714_7573622613756916660_n.png" alt="" /><br />
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2017-03-08T21:13:00Z
An Effective Way to Move from Negativity to a Positive Future in 5 Steps
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/An-Effective-Way-to-Move-from-Negativity-to-a-Positive-Future-in-5-Steps/377273672458498080.html
2017-03-01T21:08:00Z
2017-03-01T21:08:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/">brigittecutshall.com</a> <a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/"> </a>
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<p><em><br />And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. ~Matthew 21:22</em></p>
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There is a lot more negativity today than ever before. Is there truth in that statement? Your answer is really the narrative or perspective you choose to view life. It's in your way of thinking, your state of mind. <br /><br />A negative view can add unnecessary stress and hold you back from reaching your intended goals or ignore what's really important. You can learn to turn negative thinking into positive thinking. The process is simple, but it does take time and practice because you're actually creating a new habit after all.<br /><br />Don't expect to become an optimist overnight if you tend to have a negative outlook. But with practice, eventually, your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. You will also become less critical of your environment and the world around you.<br /><br />When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you're better able to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way. That ability may contribute to the widely observed health benefits of positive thinking.<br /><br />The following points are an effective way to help you focus on what's important, and move from negative thoughts to more positivity in 5 simple steps:<br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Actions speak louder than words. </strong><br />What you do is more significant than what you say. People can say just about anything and they do. Sometimes it's hard to get your thoughts out there or they can be misinterpreted. Actions are rarely misinterpreted, though. People are looking for leaders. If you want others to listen to you, you need to follow through and do what you say. This builds trust with others and provides a more positive environment. </li>
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<li><strong>Be the example you want to see.</strong><br />Energy flows from your passion and can set a positive example. Don't just talk about how important it is to help our fellow man, go out there and do something about it. Volunteer for a cause that's important to you. As parents, make sure you hug your spouse in front of your children regularly and hug your children on a daily basis. These actions of being lovingly toward others show that type of positive interaction is normal. Your children will see that they are truly loved through example and will pass it on to others.</li>
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<li><strong>Make time for self-care. </strong><br />If you aren't taking care of yourself, you can't take care of others. It's important to focus on a healthier lifestyle. Exercising at least three times a week has a positive effect on your mood and that reduces stress. Follow a healthy diet to fuel your mind and body. And definitely, learn techniques to manage stress. Examples include daily meditation through breathing exercises, yoga stretches, and prayer. </li>
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<li><strong>Embrace a creative outlet and share. </strong><br />Express yourself. Whether it's through art, technology, music, writing, sports, whatever. Values and ideas can be expressed differently and that's what creativity is about. It's about inspiring others, helping others, offering compassion to others, learning from others, and teaching others. Sharing stories, values, experiences and ideas are beautiful. Don't limit yourself. You can make a positive impact.</li>
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<li><strong>Prayer on a regular basis.</strong><br />Why is this important? Because the act of prayer allows for self-reflection and a way to fulfill emotional needs. Prayer is powerful and is our way of communicating with God. It is humbling and always available to you. You will realize that a sincere prayer is the best and simplest way to accomplish something. Lastly, praying is very powerful because it fills our hearts with peace.</li>
<br /> </ol>I encourage you to focus on what's important and make it a habit of viewing the world with a positive perspective. Have faith.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall </strong>is a Media Solutions Consultant, Motivational Speaker, and a Health Advocate (Certified Health Coach). She is a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a primary brain tumor. Brigitte strongly believes the values applied from her holistic health coach training enabled her to overcome her own health issues. Brigitte's goal is to influence others to be a part of the solution - choose empowerment - and embrace a healthier lifestyle by focusing on the Real Things. Connect with her on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/brigittecutshall/" target="_blank">Instagram</a> @brigittecutshall. Sign up for her newsletter at <a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a>. Author of <em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518">RealThings: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em> published April 2015. <a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">Brigitte Cutshall</a> <a href="http://www.realthings.guru/" target="_blank">RealThings</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/RealThings.guru" target="_blank"> Facebook</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438613064&sr=8-1&keywords=brigitte+cutshall" target="_blank">Amazon</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2017-03-01T21:08:00Z
Nine Perks Of Aging
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Nine-Perks-Of-Aging/-261599874259710558.html
2017-02-02T18:02:00Z
2017-02-02T18:02:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Sharkie Zartmam<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sharkiezartman.com" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a>
<p>Okay, I get it. We are a society that idolizes youth. What could possibly be good about getting older? The terms anti-aging, ageless and fountain of youth have led many to believe that aging is something to be feared and somehow avoided. But the truth is, when we put another candle on our birthday cake, there is a lot to be thankful for. As we know, every living being ages and no one lives forever. But the cool thing is that we can control HOW we age with our lifestyles and attitudes. Instead of viewing the second half of life as a negative period of decline and disability, instead we can shift our view and see it as a challenge and also a privilege. Just look at all the people we know who didn't make it to 2017. <br /><br />Along with actively participating in keeping our health and vitality by being accountable for our lifestyle choices, it really helps to realize that there are some great perks to getting older. Seniors definitely have an edge on their younger counterparts in some areas. Here are the Top Nine Perks of Aging.<br /><br /></p>
<ol>
<li><strong>People over 50 tend to be happier than the younger generation.</strong><br />In a survey conducted in San Diego, California of people aged 21 to 99, the results indicated that there was a clear relationship between age and mental health. The older the people were, the happier they felt. People in their 20's were stressed out and depressed and the happiest people were in their 90's. The results were published in the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Journal_of_Clinical_Psychology" target="_blank">Journal of Clinical Psychology</a>. The phenomenon is referred to as "<em>the paradox of aging</em>." How cool is this?</li>
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<li><strong>Mindfulness becomes easier.</strong><br />With all the research about how staying in the present moment benefits our health, this actually becomes easier as we age. We no longer care to think about where we will be in 20 or 30 years. We're happy to just be in the present! </li>
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<li><strong>We no longer care what people think of us.</strong><br />We can have more fun and not be concerned about looking immature or conforming to stereotypes. We already grew up and now we can be like a kid again! If we want to paint our nails all different colors or wear clothes that don't match, so what? </li>
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<li><strong>We finally have time to follow our passion.</strong><br />Going to school, getting a job, having a career, nurturing relationships, and paying the bills sometimes takes up most of our energy and time when we are younger. As things start to slow down, we can finally ask, "<em>What do I want?</em>" Getting excited about waking up in the morning to do what you want instead of what you have to do is fun!</li>
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<li><strong>We appreciate life and enjoy things we never even noticed before.</strong><br />My Dad always told me to "<em>Slow down and smell the bees...</em>" I think he meant roses, but now I know what he meant. I was always too busy to notice the simple amazing things in life, like a beautiful sunset, the sound of the waves, or how food actually tastes when you eat it slow. </li>
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<li><strong>We have life experience that is invaluable.</strong><br />Most of us have been there and done that. We can become great resources for the younger generation. So what if we don't know everything about computers and technology? We know how to communicate face to face and didn't have Google at our fingertips. We had to learn the hard way and apply what we learned to life.</li>
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<li><strong>We no longer have to raise our children.</strong><br />In fact, they better be nice to us if they want any money when we move on. And if grandkids come along, we can love them play with them, spoil them, and give them back.</li>
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<li><strong>Seniors get great discounts!</strong><br />At first I was embarrassed to ask for a senior discount, but now it is fun, especially when they ask to see my ID first. Take advantage of cheaper prices for movies, entertainment, food and travel. It all adds up.</li>
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<li><strong>Self-Care is now a necessity instead of a guilty pleasure.</strong><br />Yes, we now need those massages, facials, manicures, body treatments, and entertainment. We need to laugh and dance and have fun. It is important for our overall health now more than ever! </li>
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<p><br />So the next time someone asks you your age, don't lie or be embarrassed. If you take good care of yourself, have good nutritional habits and a consistent exercise program, you won't look your age, and you will inspire others who are afraid of aging. Be a great role model and wear your age well. My Dad is 92, and he looks and acts like a vibrant man in his sixties. His motto is: "<em>Everyday above the ground can be a great day. Don't waste it!</em>" </p>
<p><br /><strong>Sharkie Zartman, MA</strong> is a college professor, a former All-American volleyball athlete and award winning volleyball coach. She hosts "<em><a href="https://www.facebook.com/SharkiesPepTalk" target="_blank">Sharkie's PEP Talk</a></em>" on <a href="http://healthylife.net/" target="_blank">Healthy Life radio</a>, is a certified health coach and is the author of five books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Take-Aging-Sport-Athletic-Approach/dp/1628652993/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476466938&sr=8-1&keywords=Take+on+Aging+as+a+Sport" target="_blank">Take on Aging as a Sport</a>.</em>" She is passionate about helping people take an empowered approach to life and aging so they can have optimal health, happiness, and success at any age. <a href="http://sharkiezartman.com/" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
Staff
2017-02-02T18:02:00Z
Are You Living on Purpose Or by Accident?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Are-You-Living-on-Purpose-Or-by-Accident/116116291602562984.html
2017-01-26T19:15:00Z
2017-01-26T19:15:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by Derek Rydall</strong><br /><a href="http://derekrydall.com/" target="_blank">www.derekrydall.com</a><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />Within you, there is a destiny waiting to be born -- a life of such purpose, creativity and contribution that its light would blind you if apprehended it in its fullness. But to actualize it, you must dive beneath the surface tension of the mind's need to control the present. You must project into the future, tap into a vision for your life bigger than your TV screen (or at least your computer screen) and bring your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions into integrity with it. It sounds difficult to do. <br /><br />But we're all doing it on some level, although often with less-than-inspired visions. For example, people who walk around fearing economic collapse, nuclear fallout, or any number of impending disasters, are regularly running worst-case scenarios in their mind and commiserating with others about how bad things are. In other words, they're in integrity with a vision of lack and limitation. And what we're in integrity with becomes our experience. <br /><br />If this describes you, the good news is it's not even your vision, it's the collective consciousness -- or collective nightmare. It's a thought virus you caught. And there's a vaccination against it, or antidote to it: cultivating a vision rooted in your core values that makes you come alive -- then committing to it as if your life depends on it.It's not for the faint of heart. <br /><br />As <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/702807-god-will-not-have-his-work-made-manifest-by-cowards" target="_blank">Emerson</a> said, "<em>God will not have His work made manifest by cowards</em>." But the alternative is a life of quiet desperation. Your destiny won't let you rest until you let it express. The pain pushes until the vision pulls. Until you answer the calling of your soul with a resounding "<em>Yes</em>," you'll feel like a puppet in this divine production.<br /><br />But what does it mean to have a vision? We often think of a vision as something that foretells the future. But that's prediction, based on the cause-and-effect of your dominant thought trend, and can always be changed. In some self-help teachings, a vision is something we create based on what we believe will fulfill us. But that's imagination and is limited, since imagination, at best, is just a rearrangement of what's already known -- or worse, a reaction to a limited self-image. <br /><br />True vision can't be created or changed; it's part of the changeless fabric of "<em>Ultimate Reality</em>," the realm of perfect prototypes or "<em>ideal forms</em>" as Plato put it. True vision can never be imagined; it comes from a place beyond the mind, revealing something unprecedented. And true vision is never in the future; it's a realization of what is in the timeless dimension of our being. <br /><br />It may be temporarily obscured like the sun on a cloudy day. But like the sun, our vision is always shining, waiting for us to pierce the weather of our mind and let its warmth and vitalizing power into our life. <br /><br />Finally, a life of true vision isn't about adding anything to us, but about seeing our "<em>Real Self</em>," releasing everything it isn't, and allowing our life to unfold according to Its perfect pattern. Michelangelo knew this when he created the David. He saw the completed masterpiece in the block of marble then chipped away everything that wasn't it. That is what we are called to do as artists of our life -- discover the masterpiece hiding in this block of mortal stone and set it free.<br /><br /><strong>Tapping Into Your Vision</strong></p>
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<li>Take a moment to become still and watch your breath. Don't control it, just let it breathe itself. With each exhalation, release everything that has come before and all concern for the future. </li>
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<li>Bring to your mind and heart a relationship where you've felt unconditional love -- whether it's for you or by you, whether human or animal. Feel into that love. Let it expand. </li>
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<li>From this place ask: "<em>What is God's idea of Itself as me? What did God create when God created me, and for what purpose?</em>" (If the word God is a problem, use what works for you). </li>
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<li>Next ask "<em>What must I release or embrace -- how must I change -- to allow my highest vision to emerge?</em>" </li>
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<li>Then ask "<em>What action can I take today to live more fully from the vision?</em>" </li>
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<li>Finally, affirm out loud or to yourself: "<em>I know who I really am and why I am alive; I easily release everything that isn't true about me and joyfully live my destiny now!</em>"</li>
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<p><br />Give thanks for this moment of receptivity, regardless of what answers you received. The intention of awakening is enough to start the emergence process. To your emergence.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><a href="http://www.derekrydall.com/" target="_blank">Derek Rydall</a></strong> is part of the new generation of spiritual visionaries and thought leaders, the author of the best-seller "<em><a href="http://www.getemergencebook.com/" target="_blank">EMERGENCE: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change</a>"</em> and the world's #1 expert on the Law of Emergence. He has touched hundreds of thousands with his message on finding your path, living your purpose and making an impact. Learn how to activate the <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/derek-rydalls-best-year-your/id878870353" target="_blank">Law of Emergence</a> in this free 7-part e-course: <a href="http://www.emergencetraining.com" target="_blank">www.emergencetraining.com</a>. <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </p>
Staff
2017-01-26T19:15:00Z
Heart of Gold, Soul of Steel
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Heart-of-Gold,-Soul-of-Steel/-189854942443833076.html
2017-01-18T19:15:00Z
2017-01-18T19:15:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by Derek Rydall</strong><br /><a href="http://derekrydall.com/" target="_blank">www.derekrydall.com</a><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />As a spiritual warrior, you're designed to shine your light and pay your light bill ...as well as having really great lampshades! The Spiritual Warrior is anchored in their heart and rooted in their soul - but isn't soft in the face of challenges. She isn't a doormat, she's a welcome mat. She values and respects others, but never at the expense of herself. Her motto is '<em>Love your neighbor, but don't take their nonsense</em>.' <br /><br />To master this level of being, we must embrace the seeming-dark parts of ourselves, those wounded places we've been trying to heal, hide, or get rid of - because they hold some of our greatest gifts of power and potential. This requires building up our 'soul stamina,' the ability to be so tapped into our deepest truth that we can hold our place in a more expanded space regardless of conditions. We can be loving and strong; we can have a wishbone and a backbone. And no matter what comes our way, our soul remains unshakable, unbreakable, unsinkable and unstoppable.<br /><br />For many of us on a spiritual path, this sounds like a rough road - or worse, it feels unspiritual or downright blasphemous! The reason is that we have shadows around power. Often, our spiritual journey was initiated by being wounded at the hands of someone who was in their shadow. Rather than coming from their authentic power, they lashed out at us, attacking, blaming, shaming, or controlling. This caused our experience of power to become distorted, a source of pain and shame, and as a result we decided to shut those parts of us off and repress our own strength. <br /><br />As we grow, this leads to developing an aversion to these qualities of success, power, and strength. They become shadows, often with highly charged labels like 'selfish, aggressive, mean, etc.' And to compensate we create the opposite masks: we strive to become kind, loving, caring and generous. In themselves, these are beautiful qualities to develop, and are the 'gift of our shadow.' But when they come from a reaction to our shadows, they carry with them a self-destructive energy. We begin to say 'yes' when we really mean 'no.' We deny our needs, our dream, our truth, in fear that to really go for it would make us look too selfish or aggressive - those shadows we've been fighting against. The result: we give away too much of ourselves, grow bitter, angry, resentful, and ultimately burn out.<br /><br />The problem is we've only been growing one side of us. We're lopsided. And it's time to embrace this whole other half, the shadow side. As we integrate the angry, controlling, dominating, selfish parts of us, rather than becoming the destructive version of those, these qualities are transmuted into power, healthy boundaries, and strong structures to build the life we truly want and deserve - and all in a way that still honors and respects those around us (although they may not like it at first!) <br /><br />This is what shadow work allows you to do. It's a powerful and necessary tool of the Spiritual Warrior. It allows you love <em>all of yourself</em>. And then, through that compassionate heart, to embrace and love all of humanity. It allows you to stand in the face of all appearances of lack, limitation, fear, and danger, and see through it to the heart of truth, to the true being. In this way, your very presence becomes a liberating force in the lives of those you touch. You become the light that dissolves the darkness, because you have first embraced it. <br /><br /><strong>To begin this shadow walk, practice these simple steps: </strong> </p>
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<li>Notice the parts of you that you have made wrong - especially the shadows mentioned above - and start inviting them, one at ta time, into your heart </li>
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<li>Begin with the one that has the strongest charge, and ask it what it needs from you to feel loved, honored, and respected, so that it can take it's rightful place in your life again. </li>
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<li>Ask what you and your life will look like once you have allowed this shadow to be fully integrated again. </li>
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<li>As you receive guidance, honor it. And watch your power and influence grow! </li>
</ol>For more training on developing your Soul Stamina, check out the podcast "Heart of Gold, Soul of Steel": <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/derek-rydalls-best-year-your/id878870353" target="_blank">http://tinyurl.com/mkfgsba</a> To your emergence! <br /><ol> </ol>
<p><br /><strong><br /><br /><a href="http://www.derekrydall.com/" target="_blank">Derek Rydall</a></strong> is part of the new generation of spiritual visionaries and thought leaders, the author of the best-seller "<em><a href="http://www.getemergencebook.com/" target="_blank">EMERGENCE: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change</a>"</em> and the world's #1 expert on the Law of Emergence. He has touched hundreds of thousands with his message on finding your path, living your purpose and making an impact. Learn how to activate the <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/derek-rydalls-best-year-your/id878870353" target="_blank">Law of Emergence</a> in this free 7-part e-course: <a href="http://www.emergencetraining.com" target="_blank">www.emergencetraining.com</a>. <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </p>
Staff
2017-01-18T19:15:00Z
Tips for Improving Your Gut Health
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Tips-for-Improving-Your-Gut-Health/269881073331084409.html
2016-12-20T18:56:00Z
2016-12-20T18:56:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dr. Sonali Ruder<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.thefoodiephysician.com/" target="_blank">www.thefoodiephysician.com</a> <br />
<p>Did you know that about 80% of your immune system is located in your digestive tract? Many people would probably be surprised by this fact. This complex community of trillions of microorganisms is called your gut microbiome. Not only do these important bacteria and other microbes help you maintain good gut health, they're also vital in maintaining your overall health and wellness. There are both good and bad microbes and it's the balance of the two that affects your overall immunity, your risk of developing chronic diseases, your mood, and even your weight. <br /><br />So what do all of these microorganisms do exactly? They live in your gut, supporting your GI tract and immune system, helping to protect you from disease, and detoxifying your body. More and more research is even finding that there are many connections between the gut and the brain and that your gut health may influence your cognition, memory and even your mood. These powerful organisms act as a barrier to help prevent the overgrowth of bad bacteria. They also produce several essential nutrients such as Vitamin <a href="https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminB12-Consumer/" target="_blank">B12</a> and <a href="https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-Consumer/" target="_blank">Vitamin K</a>. Unfortunately, there are also some bad guys hanging out in your gut, who make you more susceptible to inflammation, chronic diseases, and even obesity. That's why maintaining a healthy balance in your gut is so important for your overall health. <br /><br />The good news is that we can affect this balance of good and bad in our gut microbiome. Although a person's individual microbe population stays pretty consistent over time, certain factors like your age, lifestyle, and what you eat can change things. Diet is actually one of the best tools that we have for altering the balance of our microbiome. Recent studies even show that we can change the balance of microorganisms in as little as a few weeks! <br /><br />What can you eat to make the good bacteria in your gut happy? First and foremost is fiber. Fiber helps keep things running smoothly through your intestinal tract, prevent constipation, keeps you feeling full, and helps prevent diseases like diabetes, heart disease and colon cancer. What's also interesting is that fiber significantly affects the bacteria in your gut. The good bacteria love fiber- it's like fuel for them, to keep them healthy and running properly. These microbes break down the fiber, extracting all of its energy and nutrients, and produce something called short chain fatty acids. These short-chain fatty acids help keep our intestinal lining strong and healthy and have been linked to decreased inflammation, improved immunity and improved weight management.<br /><br />What happens when you don't eat enough fiber? When the microbes are starved of fiber, they start to feed on other things like the protective lining of your gut. This lining is supposed to be a strong barrier between your intestines and the rest of your body and when it becomes leaky, it can trigger inflammation. This "leaky gut" may play a role in the development of inflammatory bowel diseases such as Crohn's disease and ulcerative colitis. <br /><br />What else can you eat to improve your gut biome and keep you healthy? Here are some tips:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Limit the amount of processed foods and sugar in your diet: </strong>Refined foods get absorbed rapidly in the intestine and leave your gut microbes starved, setting you up for leaky gut and inflammation. Instead, focus on eating fresh, nutrient-dense fruits and vegetables and other fiber-rich foods like whole grains and pulses (dry peas, beans, lentils, and chickpeas). These foods will keep your gut bacteria happy because they're full of fiber and they also boast plenty of antioxidants and essential vitamins and minerals. </li>
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<li><strong>Eat more fermented foods:</strong> Fermented foods are rich in lactic-acid producing bacteria that help acidify your intestinal tract. This creates an environment that healthy bacteria thrive in, which aids in digestion, tames inflammation and boosts your immune system. Sauerkraut, which is made from cabbage, is a fermented food that you're probably familiar with but here are a few more examples that you may not be as familiar with. Kimchi is a spicy Korean dish made with fermented cabbage and spices. Miso is a paste used in Japanese cuisine that's made from fermented soybeans. Kombucha is a fermented drink that's become very popular recently. It's a fizzy drink made by mixing probiotic-rich bacteria and yeast with tea and other flavorings. </li>
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<li><strong>Enjoy Greek yogurt and kefir: </strong>Greek yogurt and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kefir" target="_blank">kefir</a> are packed with probiotics. These live active bacterial cultures help aid with digestion, boost your immunity and keep your gut happy by keeping the bad bacteria at bay. These nutritious foods are also rich in important nutrients like protein and calcium. The FDA requires at least two strains of bacteria in all yogurts. Kefir, which is a liquid yogurt with a tangy flavor, is cultured longer than yogurt and can contain as many as 12 strains of good bacteria. Look for the words "live active cultures" on the container and choose varieties without too much added sugar. </li>
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<p><br /><strong>Sonali Ruder, DO</strong> is a board-certified Emergency Medicine physician, trained chef, mom, and cookbook author. She is a graduate of Brown University, Midwestern University- Chicago College of Osteopathic Medicine, and the Institute of Culinary Education. Dr. Ruder is a contributing writer, recipe developer, and health and wellness expert for several national magazines, cookbooks, and websites. She is the founder of The Foodie Physician website and the author of several cookbooks including the "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Pregnancy-Cookbook-Nutritious-Recipes/dp/157826569X/ref=pd_sim_14_9?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=157826569X&pd_rd_r=RENWPKTPASP0VEBSC69Z&pd_rd_w=3bgdH&pd_rd_wg=WXhM8&psc=1&refRID=RENWPKTPASP0VEBSC69Z" target="_blank">Natural Pregnancy Cookbook</a></em>" and "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Baby-Food-Wholesome-Nutritious/dp/1578266041" target="_blank">Natural Baby Food</a></em>". <a href="http://thefoodiephysician.com/" target="_blank">http://www.thefoodiephysician.com/</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
Staff
2016-12-20T18:56:00Z
Aging as a Sport: A 5 Point Game Plan for Empowered Aging
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Aging-as-a-Sport:-A-5-Point-Game-Plan-for-Empowered-Aging/651802654511750688.html
2016-12-13T18:56:00Z
2016-12-13T18:56:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Sharkie Zartmam<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sharkiezartman.com" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a> <br />
<p>If you ever played a sport you probably came up against many challenges, trained hard, and accepted accountability for your actions. Sports are not easy, especially at the highest levels but they teach us a lot about life, ourselves, and are also rewarding and fun. If you talk to world class competitors, they will probably tell you that the best part of their experience as an athlete was when they had to battle to win. <br /><br />Aging successfully requires the same skills and mindset as an athlete playing his or her sport because as we get older, in order to enjoy our lives and still be productive, we no longer get to cruise on autopilot. Getting older is a challenge! We must step up, or get beaten down. The analogy of taking on aging as a sport motivates us to get off the bench, put on our helmets, get into the game, and maybe for the first time really take charge of our lives. Aging is not something we should fear. It is a privilege that should not be taken lightly. After all, look at all the people we know who didn't make it this far. <br /><br />So how can we take on aging as a sport? Here is a 5-point game plan for empowered aging: <br /><br /></p>
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<li><em><strong>Positivity:</strong></em> Top athletes never goes into a game expecting to lose. Even if the odds are against them, they are ready to compete and go for the win. Having a positive attitude when it comes to aging is also imperative. Looking for the good instead of what is wrong is a quality we can all possess. A "<em>Can Do</em>" attitude is deep inside each and every one of us and needs to be activated as we enter the territory of aging. Stop whining about your age! Be proud to have made it this far along the road of life, and know that there is still more to come! Have a curious, open attitude and enjoy the rest of the ride! </li>
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<li><em><strong>Eat to Live: </strong></em> Athletes know how to eat for performance and as we age, we must take more responsibility for our diets if we want to thrive. Unfortunately, the <a href="http://nutritionfacts.org/topics/standard-american-diet/" target="_blank">Standard American Diet</a> (SAD) is full of chemicals and sugar and sadly lacking in fiber. Now is the time to start crowding out the unhealthy processed foods with whole fruits and vegetables, quality proteins and healthy fats. Making small changes in your diet will make a huge difference in the quality of life. Also, avoid sugar like the plague. Sugar does nothing good for your body and can put you at risk for just about every chronic disease known to man. It is the "devil in disguise." Don't be tempted!</li>
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<li><strong><em>Move Every Day as If Your Life Depends on It. </em></strong> I love the Celebrex slogan, "<em>A body in motion stays in motion</em>." But hopefully, you don't need a drug to stay in motion. You know what happens when you don't move much during the day. You get stiff and sore. Athletes don't just exercise on game days. They probably train each and every day so they are ready to go up against their competition. It's no different in the aging game. Exercise is not only advised as we age, it's no longer optional if you want to have the best chance at a vibrant life and reduce your risk of disease. And it's not just about the positive effects on the muscles and heart. New research has shown that exercise is also imperative for brain health. So if you are not already doing so, make moving for at least 30 minutes a day a priority. It can be any form of exercise even walking. Just DO it. And moving more than 30 minutes a day is even better!</li>
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<li><strong><em>Put Together Your Own Team.</em></strong> Being a part of a team is much more powerful than doing anything alone. As Franklin D. Roosevelt once said: "People acting together as a group can accomplish things which no individual acting alone could ever hope to bring about." Athletes are most often chosen for a team based on their skills and previous success in their sport. But, in the aging game, we get to choose our own teams! As we go through various transitions in life, we tend to lose some people we used to have as friends and end up with others who share our new interests. Perhaps we don't change that much, but our interests sure do. So take a look at who is on your team now. How do they feel about aging? Are they complainers and no fun to be around anymore? Maybe it's time to get some new teammates. Reach out and realize that you need to work at putting together a team that supports you. There are several community centers, senior clubs, recreation departments and also online healthy aging communities. Your medical doctors and practitioners are also a part of your team and you should be able to choose them if possible. If you are looking for a new career or hobby, this can be an exciting time to find new teammates. Also, the people in your life who have always supported you, like special friends and family, need to be appreciated and not taken for granted. Nurture these relationships because they are golden! Remember that having a great support team as we get older not only reduces our risk of depression but also increases vitality and fun. </li>
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<li><strong><em>Never, Ever, Give Up on YOU. </em></strong>The words "<em>I'm too old to _______</em>" should never come out of your mouth. The bottom line is that your never too old to anything that you really want to do. Where there's a will and desire, there's a way. Never make age an excuse NOT to live your life to the fullest. Focus on what you can do, not what you can't. And remember that in the second half of life, we might finally have an opportunity to follow our passion and purpose instead of pleasing other people or meeting the demands of a stressful job. Living our purpose and following our passion is more important now than ever. We finally have a chance to get it right and enjoy and use our talents before we make our final exit. </li>
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<p><br />So taking on aging as a sport, is a fun, challenging way to enjoy our lives all the way to the end. Appreciate life, step up to the challenges and live each and every day as if it could be your last. <br /><br />And when that day does come, hopefully you can look back, smile and say, "Wow, What a Great, Wild Ride! No Regrets!"<br /><br /></p>
<p><br /><strong>Sharkie Zartman, MA</strong> is a college professor, a former All-American volleyball athlete and award winning volleyball coach. She hosts "<em><a href="https://www.facebook.com/SharkiesPepTalk" target="_blank">Sharkie's PEP Talk</a></em>" on <a href="http://healthylife.net/" target="_blank">Healthy Life radio</a>, is a certified health coach and is the author of five books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Take-Aging-Sport-Athletic-Approach/dp/1628652993/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476466938&sr=8-1&keywords=Take+on+Aging+as+a+Sport" target="_blank">Take on Aging as a Sport</a>.</em>" She helps people take an empowered approach to life and aging so they can have optimal health and success at any age. <a href="http://sharkiezartman.com/" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
Staff
2016-12-13T18:56:00Z
Eight Ways to Stay Sane In the City
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Eight-Ways-to-Stay-Sane-In-the-City/-228800379771087482.html
2016-12-06T21:08:00Z
2016-12-06T21:08:00Z
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<p>By Jan Lauren Greenfield<br /><a href="http://www.yogionlithium.com/" target="_blank">www.yogionlithium.com</a><br /><br /><br />Today we think of yoga as involving lots of poses (asanas) and maybe even some fancy clothes or hot rooms. In truth, yoga is an ancient Science of Movement that comes from India. There are many texts on the subject and some of these books are considered sacred to people around the world. Perhaps the most famous of these books is the "Yoga Sutras" by Pantanjali, a saint from India (150 BC). He defines yoga as the "Cessation of the fluctuations of the mind". In other words Yoga is the stopping of movement (thoughts) in our mind. <br /><br />While this description may sound more like meditation than yoga, the primary goal of yoga is actually to still the mind. Meditation and yoga go hand in hand. For most people, this is a challenge but for anyone like me, who has experienced a manic episode, controlling your thoughts at times is nearly impossible. I've written in depth on the subject of the challenges of yoga and mental health here. This practice helps. <br /><br />I live in New York City and it even at the best of times it can be a challenge to create a mentally healthy state within the frenzy of city life. Here are a few of the things I do to stay sane in the city:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong><em>Practice Yoga.</em></strong><br /><br />With any guide from a yogi's perspective, the first piece of advice will always be to practice yoga. Yoga can significantly improve both your state of mind and your body. As the popularity of yoga has grown so much in recent years, it is also easily accessible. Most gyms offer yoga classes and there are many local studios (which is my personal recommendation). If you prefer the comfort of your home, many great yoga videos can be accessed via the internet. </li>
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<li><strong><em>Get Outside.</em></strong><br /><br />This is the biggest key to my happiness. I need to spend time surrounded by nature. I walk almost everyday in the fresh air. Vitamin D, trees and wildlife makes me feel grounded. This is how I find my peace in the hustle and bustle. </li>
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<li><strong><em>Wear Headphones.</em></strong><br /><br />Living in the city is stimulating. It can be exciting, but when I'm feeling highly sensitive it can also be over-stimulating. One of my tools is a trusty pair of headphones. Music is healing and makes the everyday city life a bit easier. </li>
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<li><em><strong>Take a Break From the Media.</strong></em><br /><br />Shut off the news. Make a conscious effort to limit your intake. Same with social media, these tools were meant to connect us but often have us comparing our lives to others and wishing for something else. I remind myself that I have no idea of the struggles that person has and would not trade my life for anyone else's life. When I get into a negative state of mind, I try to decide whether it is necessary to take a "social media fast." </li>
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<li><strong><em>Surround Yourself with Beauty.</em></strong><br /><br />It doesn't cost a lot to make an impact in your environment. A handwritten affirmation or beautiful quote somewhere you look everyday can do a lot when things get hectic. </li>
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<li><em><strong>Be Grateful.</strong></em><br /><br />A gratitude journal is a great way to start and end your day. It's important to have a journal dedicated just to your gratitude. You can write down a list first thing in the morning and then again at bedtime. If you just need a place to start, just begin with "thank you, I am grateful for waking up." Even on those days when you may not mean it, repeat it and you will begin to believe it. </li>
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<li><em><strong>Be Kind. </strong></em><br /><br />This may be the most challenging piece of advice on this list, but it has the biggest payoff (which obviously isn't the reason to do it). A selfless act of service is known as Seva in Sanskrit. It's doing a good deed. Doing something genuinely kind for someone else, whether it's a friend or a stranger, is the highest act we can do. </li>
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<li><em><strong>Breathe.</strong></em><br /><br />How often to we forget about our breath? This is something that we have complete control over that can make us feel infinitely better. In order to take control of your breath, first, make sure you are breathing like you did when you came into this world. That means, when you inhale your belly gets big, when you exhale all the air come out like a deflated balloon. Take three deep breaths inhaling through your nose and exhaling out through your nose. Anytime, anywhere, you can return to your breath. It's always with you. </li>
</ol><br /><br /><strong>Jan Lauren Greenfield</strong> is an artist, writer and yoga Teacher. Her work explores the crossroads of spirituality, mental health and pop culture. She has worked with the UN, has been featured in Vogue Italia and currently lives in NYC. She is author of "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/My-Beautiful-Bipolar-Mind-Mountain/dp/1598491423" target="_blank">My Beautiful Bipolar Mind: Fire on the Mountain</a></em>", available at Amazon. More of her work can be viewed at <a href="http://www.yogionlithium.com/" target="_blank">www.yogionlithium.com</a> Instagram: @lovejanlauren Twitter: @Jan_Lauren. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br />
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Staff
2016-12-06T21:08:00Z
Are You a Thought Leader in Your Own Home?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Are-You-a-Thought-Leader-in-Your-Own-Home/849003842388428890.html
2016-11-22T21:08:00Z
2016-11-22T21:08:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br />Online, "thought leaders" and "social media influencers" are big deals. They are terms that have been coined and represent rarefied people who yield lots of power on the Internet due to benchmarks they've achieved. Sometimes, they give <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks" target="_blank">TED Talks</a> (described by the <a href="https://www.ted.com/about/our-organization" target="_blank">TED organization</a> as "devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks") that have gone viral and attracted millions of views, such as the ones by Facebook Chief Operating Officer <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheryl_Sandberg" target="_blank">Sheryl Sandberg</a> where she famously challenged women to "lean in."<br /><br /><strong>Man or woman, do you "lean in" in your own home, which Reddit defined from Sandberg's movement as, "to be assertive, to move toward a leading, rather than a following, role?" Are you a social media influencer among your family members, who you can persuade due to your credibility, and a thought leader, who is influential and authoritative? </strong><br /><br />Perhaps, sometimes we're leaning to others to guide us in these roles rather than the deep connections in our own homes that can help make immediate measurable differences. TED Talks, for instance, have led to TEDx Talks, about which the TED organization notes: "In the spirit of TED's mission, 'ideas worth spreading,' the <a href="https://www.ted.com/about/programs-initiatives/tedx-program" target="_blank">TEDx program</a> helps communities, organizations, and individuals produce TED-style events at the local level. TEDx events are planned and coordinated independently, on a community by community basis, under a free license from TED."<br /><br />Like others, those who speak at the TEDx local level (which a map shows has flourished worldwide) usually may want to spread not only their words, but their brands. <strong>All speakers can provide us with great information, but be sure your perch as a thought leader is assured at home as online activity takes up more time for family members. </strong><br /><br />I didn't know the difference between the local TEDx talks from the original TED Talks when I first saw it promoted on the website of an acquaintance and watched a few videos on his website taped of him speaking at the regional TEDx talks in his home state. John's* high school public speaking ability showed as he confidently tried to persuade people in the audience exactly what steps would take their careers to the next level. <br /><br />I recognized the tone. My Facebook account was for work, but John connected with me there and asked to reconnect with me when he would be visiting my state. I thought we might have a connection like we had years before. John, however, spent two hours in the diner where we met forcefully trying to persuade me not to follow the slow-simmer gut instincts I had regarding my next steps at the major cutting-edge media corporation I had been recruited to work for more than five years, including a management promotion, but to follow his commands. <br /><br />Because he was such a persuasive speaker, I was pondering John's advice for days after he left town. Suddenly, I realized, though, that while I had worked every day since winning a television page position over 3,000 candidates a week after getting out of high school, through my journalism, book authoring, and simultaneous management position at a large media company, though John had a good education and had consulted with businesses in the 1980s through part of the 1990s, he had not worked for a business during the entirety of the new century! Why was I considering listening to his quick judgements on nuanced and sensitive moves I might make? I knew my industry (which he had never worked in) much more than he did, especially when many, including me, and a Pulitzer Prize winner like <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Friedman" target="_blank">Thomas L. Friedman</a> in his "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/World-Flat-History-Twenty-first-Century/dp/0374292884" target="_blank">The World Is Flat: A Brief History of the Twenty-First Century</a>" </em>declared the entire landscape of "work" had irrevocably changed.<br /><br />Besides, I also had the real connection of ROBERT Talks, or, I guess since they are regional and local around his kitchen table as my 12-year-old niece also listened, they could be called ROBERTx Talks. <strong>This is really just called talking to your wise brother, just as I hope you give your SARAH or MIKE or JILL or GEORGE or MOM or AUNT or GRANDPA Talks to the lucky loved ones connected to you. </strong>Over the years, Robert discussed with me the same kind of nuances I was pondering as he was flattered by but declined many offers in a successful entertainment management career because he weighed how it would affect the long-term stability of his wife and children.<br /><br />These ROBERTx Talks, from my thought leader brother because of the tough thought I saw him give over weeks and sometimes months concerning his career and effects on his family, impressed me so much that, at one point well before meeting with John, when I briefly saw a career coach and he asked me to focus by thinking who I would most want to emulate due to admiring both their business and personal decisions, I immediately knew it was Robert. <br /><br /><strong>Who would you name if asked that question? No matter how many online viral counts you have added to, the answer, of course, will most likely be a true connection and not a virtual one.</strong><br /><br />*Names and details have been changed. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger </strong>has a graduate certificate in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University and is a contracted blogger for the university's Master of Science in Communication program. She is a longtime columnist at <a href="https://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">Creators Syndicate</a> and before that Copley News Service and a manager of editorial quality assurance within iHeartMedia, Inc. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming/dp/0757002595" target="_blank">My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</a></em>" with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /> </p>
Staff
2016-11-22T21:08:00Z
Consider Skipping Celebrity Selfies
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Consider-Skipping-Celebrity-Selfies/-611826079465626189.html
2016-11-16T21:08:00Z
2016-11-16T21:08:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br />The elevator door opened and, as I walked in, my breath was taken away. Huddled alone in the corner this early morning in an oversized slightly rumpled overcoat with tousled hair and no makeup was a woman who had taught me about style, talent, wit and rugged individualism my whole life: Oscar-winning actress <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diane_Keaton" target="_blank">Diane Keaton</a>.<br /><br />I easily could have thought, "<em>There's Annie Hall</em>" from her Academy Award-winning role in the film of the same name. Or there's Kay Adams Corleone from the three "<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0068646/" target="_blank">Godfather</a></em>" films often called the best of all time. Or there's the woman who famously dated her famous leading men (<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Woody_Allen" target="_blank">Woody Allen</a>, <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warren_Beatty" target="_blank">Warren Beatty</a> and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al_Pacino" target="_blank">Al Pacino</a>) and famously never married them or anyone else.<br /><br />Just before the doors shut, I took a breath. I turned, looked into her eyes, and slowly, dramatically said, "<em>I just have to say: Thirty years, EVERY film, EVERY time, wow! Fantastic!</em>" And she squeezed my shoulder, smiled and said, "<em>Wow. You are so sweet!</em>"<br /><br />Then I asked, "<em>Are you going to Company X?</em>"(the media corporation I worked for where celebrities were sometimes interviewed), thinking I would usher her into the reception area. "<em>Ah, no, I wish,</em>" she said. "<em>Unfortunately, I'm going to visit my business manager. Taxes. Ick! What do you do up there? </em>(At my corporation.)"<br /><br />I briefly told her my journalism duties and she said, "<em>Wow!</em>" The door opened to my floor, I said to have a nice day and thanks again (hoping I was conveying decades of appreciation). She grabbed my hand and squeezed it and said, "<em>Thanks again for being so sweet.</em>"<br /><br /><strong>Are you sweet to celebrities? If given the opportunity, would you treat them as people who have had true meaning in your life? Do you think some people treat stars like objects to photograph for their selfie collections? Would you try to take a selfie with your favorite celebrity-or make a real connection?</strong><br /><br />This wasn't a one-time opportunity to view a celebrity as a human being. The next time I decided to put the person at ease by behaving as though I didn't know who they were. Just weeks ago, I was sitting in my hairdresser's chair wearing a waterproof smock and with my hair straight in the air from the mousse she had just applied. Looking in the wall-size mirror in front of me, again my breath was taken away. Standing behind me was '70s teen two-time Emmy Award-winning actress and movie star <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kristy_McNichol" target="_blank">Kristy McNichol</a>, her short hair purposely spiky.<br /><br />She said to our hairdresser, "<em>I finally had a minute to come and pick up those products.</em>" As the hairdresser turned to get them, I turned to McNichol, who had starred in "<em><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_(1976_TV_series)" target="_blank">Family</a></em>," my favorite TV series, a long-running hour-long drama, for which she had won those Emmys, in the classic teen film "<em><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Darlings" target="_blank">Little Darlings</a></em>" with <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tatum_O%27Neal" target="_blank">Tatum O'Neal</a>, and, as a young adult, in the '80s-'90s network sitcom "<em><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empty_Nest" target="_blank">Empty Nest</a></em>."<br /><br />I swiveled my salon chair slightly in McNichol's direction, looked up at her and decided to keep it to mundane everyday chitchat regarding something we had in common, "<em>Ruby (our hairdresser) has unbelievable products, doesn't she? I love her stuff (which was true)</em>." McNichol smiled widely and said, "<em>Oh, my gosh, yes. Last week my friend told me she wanted to try something real 'neat' on my hair and it turned orange! Ruby fixed it right away. I came back to get some of the stuff she used on my hair. I loved it.</em>"<br /><br />McNichol then exchanged a few words with Ruby and turned to me, smiled and said, "<em>Bye. Have a great day!</em>"<br /><br />I was glad to see McNichol, someone whose talent I had admired and felt such a kinship with as a teen, seeming so relaxed and smiling. Major media reports had relayed that she wasn't always having good days over the years, so much so deciding at times to virtually drop out of show business and keep only to her small circle of family and close friends. That's part of why I didn't want to fawn over her or make her feel self-conscious, but just connect the same way I would with anyone running everyday errands in our joint neighborhood.<br /><br />Even those who know celebrities sometimes treat them as selfie objects instead of people with whom they could have a real, living, breathing connection. One cubicle shelf after another at outlets I visit for work is filled with employee-celebrity boss selfies, often autographed. <strong>Again, my selfie-less self often ends up with what I think is more than that, the kind of real connections I wish for you.</strong> More special to me (and it seemed to him, too) than a selfie: The handwritten card I penned to one of my long-distance celebrity bosses on a milestone occasion for him, giving congratulations and detailing how he had impacted my life. The next time I unexpectedly saw him, he (who receives thousands of pieces of fan mail a day), ran up to me, hugged me tightly and said, "<em>Lisa! That card! Thank you, I loved it! I read it at least a dozen times.</em>" Did he? Yes, he started reciting it.<br /><br />Just recently, there has been more proof that celebrities, too, yearn for real, rather than forced, connections. Pop sensation <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justin_Bieber" target="_blank">Justin Bieber</a> halted a concert and had a deep, concerned, frustrated conversation with fans about how the entire audience's constant screaming disrupts the true connection they could have with him and vice versa. Millions-seller <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justin_Timberlake" target="_blank">Justin Timberlake</a> reached out to fans via selfie to vote early like he flew in to in his home state of Tennessee to do. When he was feeling low, singer <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aaron_Carter" target="_blank">Aaron Carter</a> revealed he tweeted out his cell phone number so fans might become friends and cheer him up-and they did. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger </strong>has a graduate certificate in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University and is a contracted blogger for the university's Master of Science in Communication program. She is a longtime columnist at <a href="https://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">Creators Syndicate</a> and before that Copley News Service and a manager of editorial quality assurance within iHeartMedia, Inc. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming/dp/0757002595" target="_blank">My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</a></em>" with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /> </p>
Staff
2016-11-16T21:08:00Z
6 Easy Tips to Add Healthy, Whole Foods to Your Diet
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/6-Easy-Tips-to-Add-Healthy,-Whole-Foods-to-Your-Diet/-617747653489840327.html
2016-11-09T22:58:00Z
2016-11-09T22:58:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">brigittecutshall.com</a> <a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />Most Americans grew up on processed foods. I know it was around our house! Processed foods are very prevalent today. We buy them in high quantities because of the convenience factor. Extremely processed foods get a bad rap for good reason - many nutrients are removed through a manufacturing process. Whole foods and minimally processed foods retain more nutrients.<br /><br />Technically almost all packaged food is considered processed, in the sense that it is made or grown elsewhere, and is altered before it reaches the consumer. Bagged spinach or frozen peas are two examples. But there's obviously a huge difference between bagged spinach and flavored potato chips that's all the rage now.<br /><br />Many people want to eat "<em>healthier</em>" yet get frustrated when they try and go back to old eating habits. The dietary changes you're trying to implement make shouldn't feel overwhelming, restrictive or hard to live with. You won't stick with it long term if you are feeling that way.<br /><br />Think of healthy eating as a journey. Transitioning to a healthier way of eating may seem daunting but can be attainable with a simple and doable plan.<br /><br />Changes to your diet should be made in a simple manner and in little steps. You can pick one or two changes to start off with, and once those are in place, then choose one or two more. This process is the best way to make it part of your lifestyle and something you can deal with long-term. <br /><br />You're probably thinking how do I start on this journey? Here are six easy tips to add healthy, whole foods to your diet:</p>
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<li><strong>Eat some type of vegetable with every meal. </strong>Eat a rainbow of different colors, to include beans and whole grains. Think salads, side dishes, soups, or even adding vegetables to your sandwich. Sprouts are one of my favorite go-to sandwich additions. My personal goal is to try and fill my plate with plants most of the time.</li>
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<li><strong>Choose to eat fruit if you are craving something sweet.</strong> Opt for organic whenever possible. Going with organic will keep you away from harmful pesticide residue. The rainbow color factor can be applied to your fruit choices as well.</li>
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<li><strong>If you decide to eat meat, its best to choose organic, grass-fed and hormone-free.</strong> You will get the maximum nutrients without being exposed to antibiotics and unnecessary hormones. And eating skinless chicken breast is a better option than fried chicken nuggets.</li>
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<li><strong>Keep your pantry and fridge filled with healthier choices - whole foods or minimally processed.</strong> Pantry staples should include dried beans and lentils, steel cut oats, and whole grain pasta just to name a few. Recommended snacks are nuts, seeds, and fruit. You can also make your own trail mix. Avoid pre-made trail mix as most of them contain hydrogenated oils. </li>
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<li><strong>Don't leave the house without a healthy snack if you'll be gone for several hours.</strong> Eating healthy foods on a regular basis will help you avoid unhealthy choices. I like to travel with an organic apple in my bag. You can also bring a small cooler to hold a healthy leftover meal and keep in your vehicle. </li>
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<li><strong>Don't be too hard on yourself. </strong>There will be some slip-ups and that's okay. Remember that making changes takes time and those small steps will make a big difference over time. This will make the changes you want easier to stick with.</li>
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<p>Eating healthier with whole foods will lead to improving your health and prevent disease. There is no single path to healthy eating because everyone is different. What's your best tip or trick to eat healthier? <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong> is a Media Solutions Consultant and a Certified Health Coach and a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a benign brain tumor. Brigitte obtained her Health Coach Certification from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition based in New York. Brigitte is the author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518" target="_blank">Real Things: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em>" published April 2015. For more information visit <a href="http://www.brigittecutshall.com" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a> and <a href="http://realthings.guru/" target="_blank">http://realthings.guru/</a>. Connect with her on Instagram. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2016-11-09T22:58:00Z
What's a Body For Anyway? Four Ways To Love Your Body For The Love That It Gives
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Whats-a-Body-For-Anyway-Four-Ways-To-Love-Your-Body-For-The-Love-That-It-Gives/286282054705563883.html
2016-10-31T19:08:00Z
2016-10-31T19:08:00Z
<strong><br />by Ramona Zabriskie</strong><br /><a href="http://ramonazabriskie.com/" target="_blank">ramonazabriskie.com<br /><br /><br /></a>
<p>As a repeat offender, my <a href="https://www.weightwatchers.com/us/" target="_blank">Weight Watcher</a> "<em>Lifetime</em>" status has always felt more like a prison sentence than an achievement. Chained forever to this body of mine, staying in shape (or rather, keeping a shape) means constant awareness and self-discipline. For the first 20 years of of my marriage, days began blurry-eyed on the treadmill and ended blurry-eyed at the fridge. I'd stand there petulant, demanding to know (in that bottom-of-the-barrel-last-fraying-knot tone-of-thought): "<em>Who cares what I eat right now or how far I ran today? Why am I killing myself like this? What's a body for anyway?</em>"<br /><br />There is an answer, but I didn't get it until my mother-in-law passed away.<br /><br />She and I were alone that day. Minutes passed to the rhythm of the respirator. Scared and bewildered, I took her hand in mine and began analyzing it in a way that you would never do with a person were they aware. I memorized every wrinkle, every fingernail, and every blood vessel. I wondered about all the things those hands had held, all the people they had touched, all the work they had done. Most of all, I thought on how those fingers had caressed my husband, as an infant, as a little boy, as a man...and how they had been nearly the first to wrap around my babies the moment they entered this life.<br /><br />Two days later, in preparation for her memorial service, my sisters-in-law and I volunteered to dress Mother's body at the funeral home. Arranging her skirt and buttoning her blouse, we were filled with reverence. Tenderly, we painted her nails, styled her hair, and brushed pink on her still cheeks, remembering the way she rocked a baby, wiped a tear, stroked a forehead, tied a shoe, fed a family, kissed a cheek, supported an elbow, packed a bag, waved good-bye. Her loving spirit had cherished us, but it was her physical self that had actually carried out the desires of her heart.<br /><br />Mother's last lesson revolutionized me. It was clear now that I had been trying too hard to "<em>master</em>" my physical appearance. Better to focus on working in <em>harmony</em> with my body, I realized, if its real purpose is to love others. Mother, for instance-though pretty and well groomed-definitely showed wear-and-tear: but her stretch marks and dishpan hands were marks of love. In fact, they made her all the more beautiful to those who really cared and really counted.<br /><br />Because of this singular experience, I began to see and treat my body very differently: the way I would treat a cashmere sweater verses a worn-out sweatshirt. I called my new perspective the "<em>Cashmere Resolution</em>" (because Mother preferred <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cashmere_wool" target="_blank">cashmere</a>), but keeping that resolution through the years since has not been easy. Frequent reminders are a must. Here's how I repeatedly convince myself that my body is-in and of itself, regardless of its present shape-luxuriously wonderful. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Awareness through journaling. </strong><br />Occasionally I write in my journal about an experience where my body was the star. Did I soothe with a touch, lift with a hand, love with my eyes?</li>
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<li><strong>Focus on the physical. </strong></li>
I love setting aside a day, an evening, even a vacation, for pure healthy physicality: letting go of all my mental exertions, zeroing in on (and letting myself really take pleasure in) physical sensations.<br /><br />
<li><strong>Choose to value function over looks.</strong><br /> Instead of critiquing my body in the mirror, I use intentional affirmation to prioritize accomplishment over appearance: "<em>With that strong back, I created a garden</em>." Or "<em>That belly is stretched because it carried a human being four different times!</em>" </li>
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<li><strong>Gain perspective through service.</strong><br /> I've also found that doing something nice for, or with, a person(s) with physical limitations grounds me. Elderly friends, for instance, help me appreciate my relative youth.</li>
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<p><br />Because I try hard to regularly employ one or more of these reminders on a regular basis, I am happy to report that the cashmere resolution is alive and well. In fact, I was thinking about it just the other midnight, when Honey, shivering under a blanket-too-thin, drew me in tight like a skein of soft wool. "<em>You're welcome,</em>" I whispered (though he was already asleep). "<em>What's a body for anyway?</em>"<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Ramona Zabriskie</strong>, is a wife of 38 years, is the multi-award winning author of "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Wife-Life-Power-Succeed-Marriage/dp/0692273883/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=" target="_blank">Wife for Life: The Power to Succeed in Marriage</a></em>" and founder of the highly acclaimed <a href="http://ramonazabriskie.com/wife-for-life-101/" target="_blank">Wife for Life University</a>, a one-of-a-kind virtual school for women that prepares and transforms marriages through a step-by-step, principle based approach via live mentoring, classes, and community. Watch Ramona's free information-packed webinar, "<em>Your Power to Succeed in Marriage</em>" on demand at <a href="http://ramonazabriskie.com/" target="_blank">ramonazabriskie.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/Reality is so far from perfection, that none of us can match it..jpg" alt="" /></p>
Staff
2016-10-31T19:08:00Z
Alzheimer's Disease: What We Can Learn From Those Affected
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Alzheimers-Disease:-What-We-Can-Learn-From-Those-Affected/626757198736550842.html
2016-10-17T19:29:00Z
2016-10-17T19:29:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By J<strong>udith Ingalsbe<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.stonebenchesjourney.com/" target="_blank">StoneBenchesJourney.com </a>
<p><br />Alzheimer's is a deadly disease which attacks and deteriorates the brain. The most common form of dementia, it is the only leading cause of death which currently has no treatment or cure. This mysterious and often misunderstood condition affects over forty-four million people worldwide.<br /><br />Our loved ones seek to be understood as we accompany them on this journey. They have been inexplicably changed forever, resulting in tremendous challenges to be faced. Despite the heartbreaking realities, there is much to learn from those who are forced to live in the moment.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Be present in each day. </strong><br />Those with Alzheimer's cannot live in the past; these memories are being swept away. It is also impossible to worry about the future; skills involved in planning are lost. However, enjoyment can be found in the present as each precious moment is experienced. </li>
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<li><strong>Forgive quickly. </strong><br />There is no denying the frustration of this disease. Often we, as caregivers, are the unfortunate recipients of angry outbursts. Fortunately, with a little redirection, these fleeting moments will soon be forgotten. These are, without question, the most forgiving folks.</li>
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<li><strong>Learn to accept help. </strong><br />Unfortunately, abilities quickly diminish with any form of dementia. Most become blissfully pleased to accept assistance and quickly learn to enjoy attention. Graciously accepting the help of others is a lesson for all caregivers.</li>
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<li><strong>Say what you mean. </strong><br />The filter quickly disappears as this disease causes those affected to speak with shocking honesty. Although we would be ill-advised to abandoned social graces, there is beauty in trading pretenses for truthful transparency.</li>
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<li><strong>Don't sweat the small stuff.</strong><br />Despite the challenges, these folks will seldom be found sorrowfully complaining. Rather than cry over spilt milk, they simply look for another glass. The annoyances of life disappear with these nonchalant attitudes.</li>
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<li><strong>Dance to the music. </strong><br />The most non-expressive will be transformed when listening to music. There seems to be a magical connection which joyfully engages reckless abandonment. A beautiful reminder to step on the dance floor and experience life.</li>
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<li><strong>Live without regret. </strong><br />Those dwelling on past mistakes will not be found in memory care. Transgressions have been swept away and replaced with a clean slate. A lesson to focus on the present moment where feelings of well-being and happiness reside.</li>
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<li><strong>Don't be afraid of silence. </strong><br />Conversation can be difficult when communicating with those affected by dementia. Broken connections often result in empty silence, which can be uncomfortable. We learn these muted moments hold treasures to be embraced.</li>
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<li><strong>Be compassionate. </strong><br />These are some of the most loving souls we will ever meet. They are the first to offer those in need a hug of support. While we wonder what someone might be trying to express, those with dementia seem to instinctively understand the needs of others.</li>
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<li><strong>Share your cookies. </strong><br />Dessert is popular at memory care; those with the longest arms are afforded the greatest select of food. The beautiful reality is no-one seems to care. There is blissful freedom in eating dessert first and contentment found in the willingness to share.</li>
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<p><br />Perhaps the greatest lesson we can learn from those with this disease is to make the most of life, regardless of the challenges we face. These folks have much to teach us about seizing the moment. We simply do not have time to waste on anything less than authentic living.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Judith Ingalsbe</strong> is passionate about bringing understanding to those experiencing the effects of dementia. She recently joined other advocates in Washington D.C. to secure funding for research and HOPE for those affected. Judith has gleaned over a decade of caregiving experience with her parents, who were both diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and shares these insights in "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Stone-Benches-Understanding-Invisible-Footprints/dp/0692646221" target="_blank">Stone Benches: Understanding the Invisible Footprints of Dementia</a></em>". For more information visit <a href="http://www.stonebenchesjourney.com/">StoneBenchesJourney.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/When tough times happen, you don't turn ON each other, you turn TO each other.jpg" alt="" /> </p>
Staff
2016-10-17T19:29:00Z
Putting Together Your Successful Aging Team
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Putting-Together-Your-Successful-Aging-Team/180258432821614836.html
2016-10-10T17:29:00Z
2016-10-10T17:29:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Sharkie Zartmam<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sharkiezartman.com" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a>
<p><br />A while back I went to a restaurant that was known as having the best, fresh lobster in town. I love lobster, and don't order it often because as you know, it's very expensive. But this lobster was over the top fresh. You could see the big pot where the lobsters were being boiled alive. I was horrified as I watched these crustaceans scrambling about in the deep bubbling water, and when one of the brave ones tried to climb out of the pot, the other lobsters would reach up with their claws and pull the poor guy back into the pot. <br /> <br />They had my total attention as I found myself rooting for the lobsters trying to escape. None of them made it. Needless to say, I didn't order lobster that night. Not only did it get me thinking about how cruel we are to some of earth's creatures, but it also reminded my how some people tend to pull others down to their levels. These people don't want others to succeed, especially if they can't or won't even try.<br /><br />The reason I mention the lobster pot is because, unfortunately, Americans tend to have a fatalistic, negative view about aging. Our society tends to view the aging population as not having a productive role in society, is undeserving of respect, and that declining health is a certainty. I don't know about you, but I want OUT OF THE POT! I also need to find others who want out with me.<br /><br />So, it's time to start putting together our teams. If you were an athlete in the past, you most likely were chosen for a team based on your skills and previous success in the sport. But putting together a support team is different as we age. We get to choose our own teams. One of the best insights I ever got when I was frustrated and disappointed with some of the people in my life was from my husband. He told me to "<em>Limit your relationships to what you have in common</em>." I consider this to be great advice!<br /><br />Here are four tips on how to build your own support system for successful aging and get OUT OF THE POT. </p>
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<li><strong>You Must Be "<em>All In</em>."</strong><br />In order to build a team, you must care deeply about your quality of life and make your health a priority. Also, it's time to stop beating yourself up and realize how amazing you really are because if you want to be on a great team, you must be a great teammate.</li>
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<li><strong>Evaluate Your Current Relationships. </strong><br />Your family, friends and colleagues are currently the people on your team. Take an honest look at these people and ask yourself if they are like the lobsters in the pot pulling you back into the boiling water or are they trying to climb out with you? Also cherish your supportive relationships and crowd out the negative ones by finding some new teammates.</li>
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<li><strong>Where to Find New Teammates.</strong><br />This is where we need to get bold. We are not magnets, so we must get out there and recruit, and the first place to start is in our community. There are many organizations, clubs, and centers that have activities for seniors including exercise classes, games, activities, and dances. There are even some that organize excursions and cruises. I remember once on an Alaskan cruise, there was a vivacious group of seniors who literally rocked the boat with energy and fun. They made all the other groups and couples seem old. Also, you can find some cool virtual teammates online by searching out common interests. </li>
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<li><strong>Do You Need To Fire Your Doctor?</strong><br />Your medical doctors and practitioners are also members of your team and you should be able to choose them if possible. Besides being excellent at their jobs, they also need to be someone you can talk to about your concerns and answer your questions. Any doctor who blows you off because of your age should be fired.</li>
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<p><br />Remember that there is strength in numbers and we need to be a part of a supportive group if we want to live an optimal life at any age. Let's be in thriving mode and a member of an awesome team to play the toughest sport we'll ever play, The Aging Game! <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Sharkie Zartman, MA</strong> is a college professor, a former All-American volleyball athlete and award winning volleyball coach. She hosts "<em><a href="https://www.facebook.com/SharkiesPepTalk" target="_blank">Sharkie's PEP Talk</a></em>" on <a href="http://healthylife.net/" target="_blank">Healthy Life radio</a>, is a certified health coach and is the author of five books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Take-Aging-Sport-Athletic-Approach/dp/1628652993/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476466938&sr=8-1&keywords=Take+on+Aging+as+a+Sport" target="_blank">Take on Aging as a Sport</a>.</em>" She helps people take an empowered approach to life and aging so they can have optimal health and success at any age. <a href="http://sharkiezartman.com/" target="_blank">www.sharkiezartman.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. </p>
Staff
2016-10-10T17:29:00Z
Real Connections: Are You As Special As Your Social Media Self?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Real-Connections:-Are-You-As-Special-As-Your-Social-Media-Self/-863214842462290728.html
2016-09-26T20:08:00Z
2016-09-26T20:08:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br />Let me tell you about Mary*. After a few 30-minute eyebrow waxing appointments with aesthetician extraordinaire, Mary in a salon chain in the nearby mall, I was almost sure Mary could have been my long-lost daughter.<br /><br />Twenty-four-year-old Mary was born about two years after my husband and I started dating. She looked exactly like a young <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rachael_Ray" target="_blank">Rachael Ray</a> and inexplicably like a mix of me, my husband and many close members of our Rachael Ray-like family. To boot, she had Ray's and, therefore, my unbelievably warm actor husband's impossibly effervescent and down-to-earth, magnetic personality, the type of kindness which, fortunately, I have been complimented for as well.<br /><br />Though I have met many children and young people through my personal life, as well as during years as a reporter, I have never thought anyone to be my long-lost daughter, or, more accurately, a person who could have been my daughter and, most importantly, who I would have wanted to be my daughter.<br /><br />There is something about Mary.<br /><br />She is not a lawyer. She is not a doctor. She does not have a master's in English literature. She had not written a book as I had by age 24.<br /><br />She is Mary.<br /><br />She is, quite frankly, one of the best people I have ever met.<br /><br />She is sweet beyond belief.<br /><br />She is intelligent in a real way, not a flashy, showy, I-know-it-all way. In a common sense way you barely ever see, but is the most important of all.<br /><br />She is thoughtful.<br /><br />She is conscientious.<br /><br />She is responsible.<br /><br />She is ambitious.<br /><br />She has a smile that could melt the coldest heart.<br /><br />Warmth and kindness ooze from her. And self-deprecating humor, too.<br /><br />She has occasional problems and doubts and those make her even more charming.<br /><br />Never before had I known what it was I would want if I had a daughter.<br /><br />I know what unfortunately I often have observed: Parents pushing, pushing, pushing. Nothing is good enough. How much will you make? Who will you marry? Where will you live? What kind of car do you have and what is it that you'll be leasing next, is it the BMW 335i Sedan, oh, wow, no, right, it is the 550i Gran Turismo!<br /><br />I don't know what Mary drives. But I have come to know what drives her. Being a good person. Suddenly, through knowing her, I knew what I would be thrilled with if a hypothetical child of mine turned out like. It reminded me of what I have always loved about my husband, the husband whose daily acts of kindness still continue to surprise me because, after a few decades, they are still many multiple acts of kindness seven days a week, every week, of every month, of every year.<br /><br />But then there's Mary's Facebook page.<br /><br />She had told me she was on Facebook. Not wanting to bother her on her smartphone, I looked her up to message her to let her know of a salon owner who had wanted to meet her. <br /><br />Mary's Facebook photo didn't do her justice, just as she had mentioned her boyfriend who drove up to Los Angeles almost daily from San Diego to get a glimpse of her recently told her. Besides, instead of Rachael Ray dimply cute and curvy, she looked somehow much more purposely curvy in a leopard print tank top and come hither stare, pushing her bedroom hair half up and half down.<br /><br />The music of <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reel_Big_Fish" target="_blank">Reel Big Fish</a>, the film "T<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Hangover_(film_series)" target="_blank">he Hangover</a>," the TV series "<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jersey_Shore_(TV_series)" target="_blank">Jersey Shore</a>" and her 372 friends, what did this tell me about Mary? Nothing. I would have thought just a run-of-the-mill cute kid, looking for a little fun.<br /><br />After getting to know Mary at that point for only about 90 minutes over three jammed-with-talking occasions, and then reading her stats and seeing her pics on Facebook, I realized what social media accounts often yield: Nothing. Nothing on that page reflected the Mary I knew, who, as of Appointment One, I had been floored by.<br /><br /><strong>Have you ever taken inventory of your online self and determined if he or she is as special as you are? My experience with Mary made me realize that's something we should all do.</strong><br /><br />In cyberspace, not only may we not recognize our long-lost friends because of their much more current wrinkles and hair-dos, but, surprisingly, there's a good chance we also won't recognize even our new friends if we've been lucky enough to get to know them first in the real world.<br /><br />*Names have been changed. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger </strong>has a graduate certificate in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University and is a contracted blogger for the university's Master of Science in Communication program. She is a longtime columnist at <a href="https://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">Creators Syndicate</a> and before that Copley News Service and a manager of editorial quality assurance within iHeartMedia, Inc. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming/dp/0757002595" target="_blank">My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</a></em>" with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/once.jpg" alt="" /> </p>
Staff
2016-09-26T20:08:00Z
Real Connections: Don't Rely on Social Media to Remember Your Loved Ones
Staff
http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Real-Connections:-Dont-Rely-on-Social-Media-to-Remember-Your-Loved-Ones/-833019892853276677.html
2016-09-12T20:08:00Z
2016-09-12T20:08:00Z
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<p>By Lisa Messinger<br /><a href="https://www.creators.com/author/lisa-messinger" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a><br /><br /><br />I didn't see a little icon of a gift-wrapped package on the right-hand side of my Facebook page reminding me it was Rick's* birthday. And then I didn't post on his Facebook wall, "<em>Hey, man, happy, happy, happy birthday and MANY more.</em>"<br /><br /><strong>I took what today is often considered a novel approach. It is one I would definitely recommend for you, too, if your goal is to stay grounded in the world of real connections rather than those relegated to cyberspace: I didn't rely on social media to remember my loved ones.</strong><br /><br />When his birthday hit, so did the memories that it was Rick's birthday, just as they have every year over the last few decades since we celebrated our 18th and 19th birthdays together as valedictorian high school sweethearts, prom dates and dimwitted college freshman. Although he reconnected with me on Facebook a few years ago, it didn't take the existence of Facebook, let alone email, to remember his birthday or that of any of my good old friends: Samantha, January 18; Lois, March 1; Erica, March 6; Don, May 7; Julia, June 24; Hannah, November 11. Or even newer ones, like one of my webmaster bosses and simply spectacular person, David, April 5.<br /><br />I told my mom, who celebrated a big birthday recently, I didn't need to take any photos, let alone pin them on social media. Because, not only would I remember exactly how she looked in her chic pantsuit, antique necklace and perfectly coiffed hairdo strutting to my car to scour the world-renowned <a href="http://www.getty.edu/museum/" target="_blank">California J. Paul Getty Museum</a> and peek at its Van Goghs and Monets, but that I could recite exactly how she appeared emerging from New York's Kennedy Airport more than 20 years before when she joined me to drive back to Los Angeles after I had road-tripped for six weeks cross-country on my first book tour.<br /><br />I had just chatted on TV at length with the now-retired legendary <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regis_Philbin" target="_blank">Regis Philbin</a> and his then-partner <a href="http://www.kathieleegifford.com/" target="_blank">Kathie Lee Gifford</a> and others like them. However, the nicest sight was the top curls only of my 4-foot-11-inch mom's head bobbing up and down just above the dashboard as she drove the entire way back, saying, "<em>I can't believe I'm doing this; I never do things like this without Dad. This is big.</em>"<br /><br />Memories like that usually don't fully translate to social media. Although there is less and less of it these days, there is, of course, something special about keeping the memories to yourself and between just you and the one or ones who have experienced the feelings with you.<br /><br />I thought after emailing back and forth with Rick on his birthday how one little non-posted-on-Facebook act years ago had given us both the exact same exceptional memory frozen in time. It involved grabbing his hand while sequestered in a dainty guest powder room at my parents' house during my 18th birthday party and something about an upcoming semi-formal dance. The longing that had led to that moment started a full two years before when it had been best that, not only Facebook, but cell phones, too, didn't exist yet since it forced him to knock on my front door to use the telephone and then share a glass of juice, some conversation and shy smiles with me.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with progress. Who wouldn't want a smartphone or a Facebook or Instagram account? Like me, though, <strong>I hope you, too, still take time to seek out the experience of the superior jolts of the real thing.</strong><br /><br /><em>*Names have been changed.</em><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Lisa Messinger </strong>has a graduate certificate in Strategic Communication Management from Purdue University and is a contracted blogger for the university's Master of Science in Communication program. She is a longtime columnist at <a href="https://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">Creators Syndicate</a> and before that Copley News Service and a manager of editorial quality assurance within iHeartMedia, Inc. She has won multiple national first-place writing awards and is the author of seven nonfiction books, including "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Thin-Excuse-Understanding-Recognizing-Overcoming/dp/0757002595" target="_blank">My Thin Excuse: Understanding, Recognizing, and Overcoming Eating Disorders</a></em>" with Merle Cantor Goldberg, LCSW. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/respect.jpg" alt="" /> </p>
Staff
2016-09-12T20:08:00Z
A Message to Caregivers Everywhere: What Family Members Want You to Know
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Message-to-Caregivers-Everywhere:-What-Family-Members-Want-You-to-Know/-110523184256437013.html
2016-08-15T23:08:00Z
2016-08-15T23:08:00Z
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<p>By Judith Ingalsbe<br /><a href="http://www.stonebenchesjourney.com/" target="_blank">www.stonebenchesjourney.com<br /></a><br /><br />The moment a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, or any form of dementia, families are met with overwhelming responsibilities. Navigating the cruel and lengthy process requires a tremendous amount of support. Often outside help is required, which means caregivers and family members must work together as a team. <br /><br />This is perhaps one of the greatest challenges. The care families desire for a loved one goes beyond merely completing tasks. These unspoken expectations often result in confused caregivers who perceive requests as unreasonable. What do families really want? The essence is found in these seven simple requests. <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Relate to the person, not the disease.</strong> Our loved ones are much more than the disease you see. Everything they do is a form of communication; they did not choose this condition and are not trying to be difficult. Please make an effort to get to know your patient. Call them by name and speak as if you were conversing with the person they were twenty years ago. They are human beings deserving respect.</li>
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<li><strong>Slow down!</strong> We are not discounting your workload. However, our loved ones do not respond well when rushed. Their life, as well as yours, will actually be easier when taken at a slower pace. Needs are overlooked when the task at hand is the exclusive focus. Please be attentive so you can hear our loved one's requests.</li>
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<li><strong>Provide the tools needed to thrive and survive.</strong> This once independent individual must now rely on others. In the end stages, their very existence is totally dependent on your diligence in meeting basic needs. Do they have the tools required to get food to their mouth? Was time taken to insure they have hearing aides, glasses, dentures, and other necessary medical aides? Are they cold, thirsty, dirty? A compassionate heart is required to see these needs.</li>
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<li><strong>Make grooming a priority. </strong>Not only is good hygiene a matter of health, good smelling, well-groomed individuals receive more positive attention - it is human nature. This consists of more than a quick shower. Attention to details, such as dirty nails, sticky hands, unbrushed teeth, and dry skin is so important to our loved one's well-being. Dignity and self-worth are achieved at any age, in any condition, through thoughtful grooming.</li>
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<li><strong>Look with compassion. </strong>These are not children, but they deserve the care and concern a child would receive. Please insure they are appropriately dressed and not exposed in public. Ask yourself if a child should be locked in a room without supervision or left in a chair indefinitely without interaction. Your compassion will insure our loved ones are never treated in this manner.</li>
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<li><strong>Be respectful of their home. </strong>Your workplace is our loved one's home. The contents within that space is all they have left. Please be respectful: make the bed, put items away, and hang their clothes with care. Above all, make sure plastic gloves and other debris is placed in the wastebasket. Our loved ones worked hard for everything they have; please help them take care of their furnishings and belongings.</li>
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<li><strong>Always be honest. </strong>We know you are not perfect - we are not either. There is no denying your job is tough and we know mistakes will be made. We are asking that when they are, you respond honestly. There is no need to make excuses or blame others. Most of all, we want to know we can trust what you say. Let your actions prove you will do your best and make changes when needed.</li>
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<p><br />An individual providing care accomplishes tasks with their hands, while an exceptional caregiver creates moments with their heart. Despite this tragedy, there is value to be found in our loved ones who continue the process of living. Thank you for caring from the heart to insure they have the best life possible.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Judith Ingalsbe</strong> is passionate about bringing understanding to those experiencing the effects of dementia. She recently joined other advocates in Washington D.C. to secure funding for re-search and HOPE for those affected <a href="https://twitter.com/search?q=%23theyhaveaname" target="_blank">#TheyHaveAName</a>. Judith has gleaned over a decade of caregiving experience with her parents, who were both diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and shares these insights in "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Stone-Benches-Understanding-Invisible-Footprints/dp/0692646221" target="_blank">Stone Benches: Understanding the Invisible Footprints of Dementia</a></em>." For more information visit <a href="http://www.stonebenchesjourney.com/" target="_blank">StoneBenchesJourney.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/family12.jpg" alt="" /> </p>
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2016-08-15T23:08:00Z
Yes I Can!
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2016-08-01T20:14:00Z
2016-08-01T20:14:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dr Jo Anne White<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.drjoannewhite.com/" target="_blank">www.drjoannewhite.com</a><a href="http://www.moneytracker.com" target="_blank"><br /></a>
<p> <br />Instead of viewing someone with learning or neural differences in a demeaning light, now is the time for us to focus on the special gifts and contributions they offer. So many people have made our world better because of the different ways they thought, learned and the different ways their brains were wired. </p>
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<li><strong>Brain Power of Women and Men:</strong><br /><br />It was once assumed that women were innately less intelligent than men because of their smaller brains and thus incapable of sophisticated learning and voting. Now we all know that's not true! Imagine where we'd be today without a more elevated view of women and their contributions. And yet, in some parts of the world, women are still silenced.</li>
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<li><strong>Learn Who They Truly Are:</strong><br /><br />To help and encourage anyone we need to know who they are, their likes and dislikes, their temperament, gifts and talents, weaknesses, communication, etc. This is as important for parents as it is for the professionals who work with their children. The more we understand, the better we can guide, support and teach. Make the effort to find out as much as you can and spend time with the children. Not only does acceptance help the family; research also shows that when people with special needs and autism accepted their challenges and differences, they had more positive self-esteem. </li>
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<li><strong>Parents and Professionals:</strong><br /><br />For parents with children on the spectrum, denial can be a disservice to you and your child. No matter where your child is, or the diagnosis or behavior, it's important to recognize that with the right understanding of your son or daughter's challenges, without exaggerating them or inflating their abilities, you're more able to help and find the appropriate support your child's needs.<br /><br />For educators and professionals, remember and uphold that each child is unique. Often it means finding a way to reach the children, rather than having them conform to a process that doesn't work for them. Let's determine what does. I learned so much from the children I taught. At times the role shifts and they show us who they are and how we can help. </li>
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<li><strong>Neural Variances:</strong><br /><br />Autopsies on the so-called "<em>normal</em>" and dyslexic brains show that the normal brain develops asymmetrically in only one sphere; the dyslexic brain develops evenly on both sides. The dyslexic mind isn't limited to one sphere, instead uses whole brain thinking which comes with special gifts such as unique 3-dimensional spatial awareness.<br /><br />We may still be living in the dark, robbed of film and music if it wasn't for Thomas Edison who invented the phonograph, the motion picture camera and the light bulb. He was considered "<em>difficult</em>" and hyperactive and may have had dyslexia, which didn't stop him. Instead, he developed his own ways of learning, studying and tackling problems. We benefitted from his unique perspective and his desire for learning. <br /><br />Although our methods of communication have expanded, we have Alexander Graham Bell to thank, who reinvented communication with the creation of the telephone. Many people like Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Whoopi Goldberg, Henry Ford, Picasso, Mozart, the Wright Brothers and others, have changed us, enlightened us, informed us and delighted us with their music, art, their inventions and knowledge. All have helped us expand and live with more ease, beauty and understanding.</li>
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<li><strong>Release Judgements: </strong><br /><br />Instead of making people with learning differences or any other difference, feel "<em>not good enough</em>" or lacking, we can let go of our judgments. Why not focus on people's strengths and specialness. When we do, we help mold people who develop their gifts and talents and who are eager to use them in the service of all.. That's what I learned from teaching children with autism and special needs and of their amazing gifts which is what I've written about. Applaud the uniqueness of all children because their specialness can truly transform our world! </li>
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<p><br /><br />Jo Anne's recent book is called "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/More-Heaven-Because-Every-Special/dp/147876547X" target="_blank">More Heaven: Because Every Child is Special</a></em>". For more information, visit <a href="http://www.drjoannewhite.com/">www.drjoannewhite.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/yesIcan.jpg" alt="" /></p>
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2016-08-01T20:14:00Z
Gaining Financial Peace of Mind
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2016-07-25T20:33:00Z
2016-07-25T20:33:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Judy Lawrence M.S. Ed.<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.moneytracker.com" target="_blank">www.moneytracker.com</a><a href="http://www.moneytracker.com" target="_blank"><br /></a>
<p><br />What would you do for more financial peace of mind these days? Follow these tips for more confidence, less stress, and control over your financial life.</p>
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<li><strong>Know Your Core Desires</strong><br /><br />Is it freedom from debt, having security of savings and retirement, staying healthy, or putting your children through college?<br /><br />This clarity, along with your immutable values and priorities, can strengthen your resolve and guide your financial decisions.<br /><br />Strong desire eliminates the mindless spending not in alignment with your priorities. It fuels your ability to change self-sabotaging habits like spending impulsively to satisfy immediate wants, or using credit, knowing money isn't there. <br /><br />Basically, desire helps you answer "<em>What am I willing to do, to change my life and have what I truly desire?</em>"</li>
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<li><strong>Discover Spending Leaks</strong><br /><br />Most diehard trackers will say "<em>Once they started tracking their spending, they started spending less and saving more, yet noticing no loss of quality of life.</em>" <br /><br />With all the convenient apps and software available for tracking and managing personal budgets, it's easier than ever to track expenses.<br /><br />Beware the "<em>It's Only Syndrome</em>"; assuming those daily small amounts of $2 vending machine snacks, $3.50 gas station treats, or the $5 lattes are insignificant.<br /><br />Start tracking those tiny, daily expenses. Suddenly you'll discover where those dollars are leaking away, just like a leaky faucet dripping one drop per second and costing you 180 showers a year. <br /><br />Could that money have been directed towards more satisfying experiences or financial assets?<br /><br />Next time you hear yourself saying "<em>It's Only...</em>" remember those spending leaks. </li>
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<li><strong>Map Out Your Monthly Plan</strong><br /><br />Tracking your spending shows where all your money goes - great rearview mirror information.<br /><br />What you DO with that information is the game changer that transforms your finances.<br /><br />Mapping out a monthly household budget is the windshield view approach. Where is your personal budget headed?<br /><br />Outline all the upcoming anticipated monthly expenses (beyond the normal bills) two weeks before the next month even begins.<br /><br />Compare the income to all the monthly anticipated expenses. Remember those additional unique expenses for that month- birthdays, escalating gas prices, or special concert. <br /><br />If the balance shows up short on this monthly plan, there's time for adjustments before the month actually begins. Avoiding that potential future stress goes a long way towards peace of mind, </li>
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<li><strong>Avoid Emergencies</strong><br /><br />Needing new tires is NOT an emergency. A 12 year old hot water heater breaking down shouldn't be a surprise. Even the shocking vet bill for bloat is not an emergency.<br /><br />These events probably feel like emergencies, create major stress or cause chaos with your budget. Yet all of these events have one thing in common. They could have been anticipated or prevented and even financially covered.<br /><br />How do you really anticipate emergencies? Take preventative measures concerning your health, children, car, home, and pets. Eat well, floss your teeth daily, change your oil regularly, and take your children and pets in for their routine visits and care.<br /><br />Of course, accidents still do happen. This is where the proper insurance coverage and emergency savings come in. Know your coverage well beforehand. Be sure it definitely covers what you think it's going to cover. </li>
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<li><strong>Remember the Rainy Day Fund</strong><br /><br />Pay yourself first. Treat emergency savings as a fixed expense in your monthly budget, not an afterthought for any remaining money.<br /><br />Don't worry about saving enough in the beginning. Start the habit. Save consistently. Put aside whatever amount you can, whether $25 or $250, 5% or 10% per paycheck. The point is to start saving immediately and consistently and let it grow. </li>
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<p><br />These proactive actions are all about choices and control, not deprivation. When you know where you money goes, direct the money where you want it to go, and have the money to cover all the things that you need and want, financial peace of mind, confidence and control in your life will soon follow.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Judy Lawrence, M.S. Ed.</strong>, is a Financial Counselor in Albuquerque, NM, founder of <a href="http://www.moneytracker.com/" target="_blank">MoneyTracker.com</a> and author of the best-selling book "<em><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Budget-Kit-Common-Management-Workbook/dp/1607148609/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=" target="_blank">The Budget Kit: Common 6th Ed</a></em>". Judy shares fundamental money management tools, concepts and behavioral psychology developed and gleaned for years from sitting at thousands of kitchen tables (physically and virtually) and guiding people toward healthy relationships with money. To create and maintain a budget that works for you sign up for her highly sought-after free <a href="http://moneytracker.us6.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=b859d03b49a0cd7d0258481ad&id=19adef96e7" target="_blank">one hour webinar</a> and <a href="http://www.moneytracker.com/free-7-week-ecourse/" target="_blank">online e-course</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br /><img src="/images/blog/choices.jpg" alt="" /> </p>
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2016-07-25T20:33:00Z
The Gifts Within Anxiety And Depression
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2016-07-18T20:33:00Z
2016-07-18T20:33:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dr. Margaret Paul<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.innerbonding.com/" target="_blank">innerbonding.com</a>
<p><br />When you feel anxious or depressed, do you try to get rid of these feelings, or do you learn from them?<br /><br />Getting rid of anxiety and depression is big business - especially for the pharmaceutical companies. Drug sales for anti-anxiety meds and antidepressants are huge. This is very sad to me, because, while there are circumstances where these meds are medically called for, much of the time they are prescribed in an effort to simply get rid of our painful feelings. The problem with this is that it leaves us without the roadmap we need to navigate life in a loving, meaningful and joyful way.<br /><br />Anxiety and depression have major information for us. Let's compare these feelings to the pain you would feel if you grabbed a hot pan with your bare hand or cut your finger slicing your veggies.<br /><br />The physical pain of the hot pan or the knife cut is giving you important information. It's telling you to STOP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING! If you numbed your hand before grabbing the pan or cutting the veggies, you could badly burn your hand or badly injure your finger. We NEED these painful feelings to let us know when we are doing something that is harmful to us.<br /><br />The same is true of anxiety and depression.<br /><br />What might these feelings be telling you?<br /><br />One of the main things they are telling you is that you are abandoning yourself in some way. There are many forms of self-abandonment that result in anxiety or depression:<br /><br /></p>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself emotionally by ignoring your feelings, by judging yourself, by numbing out with addictions, and/or by making someone else responsible for your feelings. When you emotionally abandon yourself, your inner child feels just like an actual child who is consistently ignored, judged, or given to someone else to take care of him or her. The lack of inner love and compassion for yourself may result in stress, anxiety or depression.</li>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself physically by eating too much sugar or by eating processed foods, foods that contain chemicals and pesticides - foods that are depleting you rather than nourishing your body. You may also be creating toxicity in your body with drugs. Toxic foods and drugs create toxic brains and the result can be anxiety or depression. There are numerous causes of depression and many of them can be traced back to food and drugs.</li>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself financially by spending too much money and going into debt, or not having a good work ethic and jeopardizing your job. Living too close to the edge can cause stress, anxiety or depression.</li>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself organizationally by keeping your place a mess, always being late, or not paying bills or taxes on time. This might be causing stress, anxiety or depression.</li>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself relationally by giving yourself up - complying to avoid rejection or conflict. When you give yourself up, you are actually rejecting yourself, which can cause anxiety and/or depression. Or perhaps you are trying to control another with anger or blame due to making the other responsible for you - another form of self-abandonment. This, too, may cause anxiety and/or depression. Perhaps you go into resistance to being controlled by your partner or another person, which is another form of self-abandonment. When you are resisting, you are not doing what you want - you are just reactively resisting what another wants of you, which can also cause anxiety or depression.</li>
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<li>You might be abandoning yourself spiritually by closing your heart to the love, comfort, guidance and wisdom that is always here for each of us. When you shut your heart to love, you may feel empty and very alone inside, which can also cause anxiety or depression.</li>
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<p><br />While this isn't by any means a complete list of what causes anxiety or depression, I hope it is evident to you that anxiety and depression have much to tell us when we are open to learning about how we are treating ourselves and what we are telling ourselves. By opening to learning from your stress, anxiety and depression, you can learn much about your false beliefs and the self-abandonment that these false beliefs may be fueling.<br /><br />When you learn what you are doing, and then open to learning with your higher self about truth and loving action toward yourself, and you take the loving action, you might find that you feel a huge sense of relief. You might find that loving yourself rather than abandoning yourself alleviates your anxiety and depression.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Margaret Paul, Ph.D.</strong> is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful <a href="http://www.innerbonding.com/page2.php" target="_blank">Inner Bonding® process</a> - recommended by actress <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lindsay_Wagner" target="_blank">Lindsay Wagner</a> and singer <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alanis_Morissette" target="_blank">Alanis Morissette</a>. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding course: <a href="http://www.innerbonding.com/" target="_blank">http://www.innerbonding.com/</a> welcome and visit our website at <a href="http://www.innerbonding.com/" target="_blank">http://www.innerbonding.com</a> for more articles and help. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-07-18T20:33:00Z
Should I Consider A Make-Over?
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2016-07-11T20:33:00Z
2016-07-11T20:33:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Shirl Hooper<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.matchesbydesign.com/" target="_blank">matchesbydesign.com</a>
<p><br />Are you a woman or man who, has thought about changing your appearance? Despite what you may have heard in the past, makeovers aren’t just for large social events, such as weddings. If you wish, you can get a makeover at just about any point in time, even for no reason at all. <br /><br />For many women, thinking is all that they do. Do men really think about this, at all? Many men on various dating sites appear scruffy in appearance. The gender imbalance will not convince any discerning woman, to even consider, a man, who is not clean and personable. If this describes you, perhaps this is why you are still alone? Everyone can improve in their appearance on some level, making them more desirable to the opposite sex. <br /><br />With beauty being an important issue in life, especially to women, many are afraid to make any drastic changes. This is what leads a relatively small number of women to get makeovers each year. Given this, there are a number of reasons as to why you should at least consider undergoing a makeover.<br /><br />One of the reasons a makeover is beneficial is because, it can help to improve your appearance. When it comes to appearance improving techniques, many individuals only think of drastic measures, like weight loss or cosmetic surgery. These methods can help you improve your physical appearance, but they can be costly. A makeover is a simple, yet affordable way to improve your physical appearance. <br /><br />When undergoing a makeover, you can have your hair done, makeup professionally applied, as well as get a manicure. For starters, when undergoing a makeover, the professional in charge is the one doing all the work; all you have to do is, just sit back and relax. An improvement in appearance or even a small appearance change has been known to uplift the spirits of many women and men, giving them the added confidence to feeling more desirable. <br /><br />The greatest reason why you should consider undergoing a makeover is because it is fun. Makeovers are ideal solo or with a group of friends. There is just something exciting about getting a makeover, even if it’s one that won’t last forever. It is also important to mention that many image enhancement specialists or beauticians give you freedom over your choices for the makeover. For instance, what you would like done and how. In addition to giving you freedom over your makeover, your image enhancement professional or beautician brings his or her professional expertise to the table.<br /><br />Speaking of expertise, you will find that many image enhancement professionals and beauticians have years of training and on-the-job experience. The image enhancement professional or beautician performing your makeover will provide you, professional results, and you can also use, your makeover as an educational tool. Should your makeover include a makeup application, you may learn a few neat tips, tricks, and techniques. When you consider it from this angle, a makeover can not only improve your appearance now, but help improve your future through improved self-confidence and self-esteem.<br /><br />The aforementioned are just a few of the many reasons why you should at least consider undergoing a professional makeover. If you would like to use a makeover as a way to have fun and to relieve stress, you may want to contact a local image enhancement professional, beauty salon, spa, or hair salon. If you prefer to undergo your makeover in the comfort of your home, you may want to inquire about an at-home makeover. <br /><br />Most individual image enhancement professionals and beauticians, especially those, who are self-employed, would be more than willing to accommodate you. Perhaps you can arrange to have a professional accompany you while you shop for a wardrobe, and help in the selections that are most suitable for you, specifically. The makeover is an investment in you! And after all, aren’t you worth it?<br /><br /></p>
<p><br /><strong>Shirl Hooper</strong> is a Certified Professional Matchmaker and Certified Professional Life Coach, who possesses previous experience in Consumer Relations in the health care field. Shirl has a passion for relationships, and for helping others find love. For more information on matchmaking and relationships, please visit <a href="http://www.matchesbydesign.com/" target="_blank">www.matchesbydesign.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-07-11T20:33:00Z
7 Simple Reminders When Dealing With the Stress of Death
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2016-06-13T20:33:00Z
2016-06-13T20:33:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">brigittecutshall.com</a> <a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />You know it's probably not a good thing when the phone rings at 1am. My mom called me from the hospital and woke me with terrible news. My stepfather died from a massive heart attack. How can this happen to a "<em>healthy</em>" and vibrant person? He was only 64 years old. She was in shock.<br /><br />Most people aim to have a smooth, steady and orderly life. Stress is an invasion into that "peaceful" environment. The death of a loved one is #1 of the top 5 causes of stress.<br /><br />The grief from a death is intense. It effects your emotions, body and overall life in many ways. A sudden death, like my stepfather's, just feels unnatural and can challenge anyone's confidence. An incident like this can turn your world upside down.<br /><br />There are different stages of grief and it's important to deal with the process. Don't rely on alcohol and drugs; they only numb the pain temporarily and can prolong the recovery process of mourning. Mourning is the psychological process of healing and is different for everyone.<br /><br />Here are 7 simple reminders to help deal with the stress of death and the grieving process:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Emotional support is needed.</strong> Don't isolate yourself. Make sure to accept support from others or reach out if needed. You can do this through family and friends; your religious community (church); get involved with a support group; see a counselor or therapist. You have to acknowledge the pain in order to heal. Trying to avoid the feelings of loss only prolongs the pain and stress. </li>
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<li><strong>Take care of yourself physically. </strong>Dealing with grief can be exhausting. You will feel better emotionally when you physically feel good, and vice versa, because of the strong mind/body connection. Make sure to eat regularly (and the right nutrition), and try to get enough sleep and exercise. Incorporating a yoga and/or a meditation ritual can help tremendously too.</li>
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<li><strong>Express your feelings in a creative or tangible way. </strong>Sharing memories is healing. You can write about your feelings in a journal; make a scrapbook or photo album celebrating that person's life; or get involved with a cause that was important to them. Writing has always been one of my go-to methods when dealing with emotions. A week after my stepfather's death, I wrote a tribute to him that was posted on my blog.</li>
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<li><strong>Dealing with grief is personal.</strong> Don't let others tell you how it "<em>should</em>" be done. And don't worry about judgement or embarrassment. Let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. You can cry or not cry. You can yell and be angry. And it's okay to laugh if you want. Celebrate those moments of joy too.</li>
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<li><strong>Be patient with the process. </strong>As time passes, the emotions and stress you've dealt with will become less intense as you accept the loss. Acceptance of the situation will help you move forward. Remember to continue to seek support from others if needed.</li>
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<li><strong>Encourage independence. </strong>Your confidence can be zapped for a while after losing a loved one. While you need the support of others, in the long-term it's best to have some independence. Thinking independently will allow you (or that someone you are supporting) to start making decisions on your own again and get your confidence back.</li>
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<li><strong>Be prepared for emotional triggers.</strong> Dealing with anniversaries, holidays and other milestones can definitely bring up memories and overwhelming feeling of emotions. It is normal for this to happen. Honor the person you loved in a way that's best for you; and it's important to set the expectations of others if they plan to be with you. </li>
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<p><br />Death is part of life. Death is also a reminder not to take things for granted and live while you can. Peace. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong> is a Media Solutions Consultant and a Certified Health Coach and a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a benign brain tumor. Brigitte obtained her Health Coach Certification from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition based in New York. Brigitte is the author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518" target="_blank">Real Things: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em>" published April 2015. For more information visit <a href="http://www.brigittecutshall.com" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a> and <a href="http://realthings.guru/" target="_blank">http://realthings.guru/</a>. Connect with her on Facebook. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-06-13T20:33:00Z
The 7 Gifts That Give You Everything
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-7-Gifts-That-Give-You-Everything/324206507109715871.html
2016-06-06T18:15:00Z
2016-06-06T18:15:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by Derek Rydall</strong><br /><a href="http://derekrydall.com/" target="_blank">www.derekrydall.com</a><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />Nothing enters into this world except through the process of giving. If we don't give, there can't be more. If you want more to come into your life, you must let more life come out of you! You are a divine power plant, and a power plant doesn't receive energy, it generates it. Even the word human comes from a Sanskrit term for 'man' that means 'The Dispenser of Divine Gifts. 'That's who you are, that's why you came here -- you really are God's gift to this world!<br /><br />But there are many forms of giving. And you must engage all of them to fully activate the Generator in that divine power plant and create unlimited abundance in your experience.<br /><br /><strong>The 7 Gifts of the Divine Dispenser</strong> </p>
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<li><strong>Giving Forth: </strong>Share your time, talent, and treasure</li>
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<li><strong>Giving Away:</strong> Circulate what you no longer need/use</li>
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<li><strong>Giving Up:</strong> Release habits, criticism, complaints, judgment</li>
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<li><strong>Giving In:</strong> Let go of resistance, surrender to what's emerging</li>
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<li><strong>Forgiving: </strong>Free yourself and others from emotional debt</li>
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<li><strong>Giving to Yourself: </strong>Give you what you seek from others</li>
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<li><strong>Giving Thanks: </strong>What you appreciate, appreciates</li>
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<p><br />I invite you to activate this divine power plant like never before -- to tune in, turn it on, and let it shine! To do this, look at each life structure (Health, Wealth, Work, Relationships, Spirituality, Service, Personal Development) and notice where you're still trying to get something. It could be love, approval, respect, validation. Or if it's something material, ask what it symbolizes for you, what it stands for. For example, money might equal 'safety, security, power, worth.' Translate the physical into the spiritual quality. Then actively give these to yourself each day, by asking: What would it look like to totally respect/love/approve myself? etc. -- and follow the guidance!<br /><br />If you're really ready to activate your unlimited wealth and fulfill your destiny, I invite you to join the... <br /><br /><strong>The 40-Day Giving Challenge</strong> <br /><br />To be part of this, every day for the next 40 days, ask where you can give more in one of these life structures and/or in regards to one of the 7 gifts above. You might pick one area to grow each day, or each week. This is just the beginning of a life of awakened wealth and abundance. To your emergence!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Derek Rydall</strong> is the author of the best-seller "<em><a href="http://www.getemergencebook.com/" target="_blank">EMERGENCE: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change</a>"</em> and the world's #1 expert on the Law of Emergence. He has touched hundreds of thousands with his message on finding your path, living your purpose and making an impact. Learn how to activate the <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/derek-rydalls-best-year-your/id878870353" target="_blank">Law of Emergence</a> in this free 7-part e-course: <a href="http://www.emergencetraining.com" target="_blank">www.emergencetraining.com</a>. <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </p>
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2016-06-06T18:15:00Z
Five Secret Stresses That Block Your Success
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Five-Secret-Stresses-That-Block-Your-Success/152571855502405168.html
2016-05-23T21:43:00Z
2016-05-23T21:43:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by Annie Leedom</strong><br /><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank">www.sandylanepr.com<br /></a></strong></strong><a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />We all know people, either in the public eye or personally who just "succeed." They may come from difficult backgrounds and have fought an uphill battle to get to where they are now. Somehow they have this mysterious quality, some intangible way about them that seems to just catapult them into success in unexpected ways. <br /><br />I have studied many successful people through my work over the years and I have found five crucial factors that are consistent in all of the people I define as successful. They have qualities in common that universally seem to help them become successful that go beyond the standard qualification of hard work, determination and focus.<br /><br />Here are the five secret qualities I recommend you make a priority in your life if being successful is your goal. Once you do make these parts of your daily life, I believe you will have all the success you could ever want! Professionally or personally, its up to you how far you reach. Achieving your goals can be as simply as eliminating 5 secret stresses that become obstacles to success.</p>
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<li><strong>Relationships.</strong> Oddly enough, successful people typically struggle less with relationships. They SHOULD struggle more! They are very busy, have extremely demanding lives, often are geographically separated due to travel and may not share all the same interests as their partner. However, they do have the laser-like focus and the daily discipline it takes to have great relationships! These two qualities are important in business and are the foundation of every good relationship. Prioritizing what really matters in a relationship and maintaining the discipline to actively care everyday, no matter how difficult, are traits successful people just inherently understand and utilize daily.</li>
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<li><strong>Beliefs.</strong> Research consistently shows us that the beliefs we hold about ourselves and our life is often the number one factor that determines the quality of our lives. The simple and often subconscious beliefs that make up your day will ultimately create your success. Examine your thoughts throughout the day and see how many times you find your belief making you tired, distracted, bored, less passionate, frustrated or losing focus. Taking a hard look at these hidden beliefs and changing them out for more powerful and effective beliefs will go a long way to creating your success.</li>
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<li><strong>Clutter. </strong>We all have it. It is unavoidable in today's crazy, over-scheduled world. The secret is not to eliminate clutter. That can actually be counter-productive. You may be like me and spend a bit more time de-cluttering, creating a highly organized and pleasing environment and not focusing on the work at hand. On the other hand, too much unproductive clutter that causes ongoing distraction is not helpful. Work toward achieving a sense that your clutter is the result of your productivity and not a way to avoid being productive.</li>
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<li><strong>Vision. </strong>We all have dreams. Some people have great dreams and work their entire lives to achieve them, sadly never to see them fully realized. There is a big difference between a dream and a vision. Vision requires a specific plan, complete strategies and a long-term pathway to success. Sit down and map out your vision. A dream takes a moment to write down. It's a statement of what you want to do or to become. A vision requires a fully detailed and realistic plan based on your dream. Take the time to create and then follow through daily on a vision for success that will help you not only get to the Superbowl, but to WIN!</li>
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<li><strong>Forgiveness.</strong> This is a powerful secret not many people think about on their road to success. Are you motivated for the right reasons? Make sure your efforts are truly based on your dreams and vision you have now crafted and not a misguided reaction to someone or something that happened in your past. Many successful people do very well on that kid of momentum. However, true staying power requires a level of energy, passion and focus that can only come from acting on your heart and your mind. Don't make your success be about anything other than what you want to create. The momentum that comes from being authentic and creating something bigger than yourself will take you farther than you ever dreamed...or envisioned!</li>
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<p><br /><br /><strong>Annie Leedom</strong> is the Founder and CEO of Sandy Lane PR, a premier marketing and publicity agency for experts, celebrities and companies who want to create a global platform. For more proven strategies on expanding your brand and connecting on a worldwide stage visit <a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com" target="_blank">www.sandylanepr.com</a>. To receive industry PR tips used by today's leading experts, <a href="http://www.sandylanepr.com/video_and_new_content.php" target="_blank">sign up here</a>. <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </p>
Staff
2016-05-23T21:43:00Z
What You Hold On To, Holds On To You
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/What-You-Hold-On-To,-Holds-On-To-You/728220210685387693.html
2016-05-17T00:54:00Z
2016-05-17T00:54:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by John Maclean</strong><br /><a href="http://www.johnmaclean.com.au/" target="_blank">www.johnmaclean.com.au</a><a href="https://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank"></a><br /></strong></strong>
<p><br />I became an incomplete paraplegic at the age of 22, because of a road accident. Running was the thing I loved to do most in life and it was taken away from me in a split second without warning or consultation. <br /><br />Meeting the man who put me in a wheelchair was not going to be easy. I didn't feel anger towards him or crave retribution, but I was apprehensive about getting in touch with him, hearing his voice, seeing him in person. My concern was that it might be a negative experience-and that would make things worse for me, not better. But I also knew that if I didn't face up to this I would never be free of it. I wanted to know what happened in the cabin of that truck just before it hit me and what the driver's reaction had been and how his own life had turned out. I wanted to know for sure that it was an accident, that my paraplegia was an unfortunate consequence of a random event. <br /><br />Dialing the number was extremely difficult. It was nothing compared to facing up to the injuries I'd suffered when I woke up in the spinal unit at the local Hospital, but I had no choice but to keep going then. Facing the man who put me in a wheelchair was another issue altogether. I would be putting the ball squarely in his court and that was both risky and confronting.<br /><br />'Hello,' he said. 'Hello, my name is John Maclean,' I replied. 'I have been trying to get in touch with you for a while. I am at a stage of my life where I am moving forward and I was hoping we could meet. I have no intention of malice but it would help me with closure.<br /><br />There, I had said it-blurted it out, more precisely-before he had the chance to hang up. My heart was beating so fast and loud I could hear it thumping through my shirt. 'I am okay with that,' he said. No objection or questions, just five words in a non-committal tone. <br /><br />Two weeks later I wheeled into the lobby of the agreed Hotel, and transferred from my wheelchair into a lounge chair facing the entrance. I knew he would recognize me-the wheelchair parked beside me would make sure of that. I had rehearsed what I would say in an attempt to put him at ease. The first few seconds of any meeting are critical and I wanted to take the edge off any discomfort he might be feeling. This was not about retribution or anger. It was about closure and forgiveness.<br /><br />He looked really nervous and jittery, and suddenly I realized how much courage it had taken for him to come here today. I thanked him again for coming and explained that I had been revisiting parts of my life in an attempt to get closure. 'The last part of the jigsaw was to finally meet you and get your interpretation of how the accident unfolded. What was your recollection of the accident?<br /><br />Tom drew a deep breath and shifted a little on the lounge. I felt he was choosing his words carefully. 'I was driving down the highway and was coming up on the back of another truck and I was indicating and wanting to go out and around,' he said rather nervously. 'I don't remember hearing anything. And I don't remember seeing a cyclist, I was looking in my side-view mirror and didn't realise anything had happened until I saw this guy on the motorbike coming up beside me waving at me with one hand and motioning for me to pull over. I first knew something had happened when I got out and walked around and saw the front of the truck. I didn't walk back to see you on the side of the road. I thought you were dead. I was only 20 and I just didn't know what to do. The police took my statement and my details, and I went back to the warehouse to tell my boss.'<br /><br />I had lain in hospital for several weeks, expecting the truck driver to walk through the door at any moment. I had waited for him, listened for his footsteps even. 'What about the hospital?' I said as evenly as I could. 'Was there a thought of going to the hospital?' 'There was certainly a thought,' he said, a little nervously, as if he understood this was an issue for me. 'When the boss actually found out what had happened he told me to stay away.'<br /><br />"Part of me-a big part of me' I said 'was waiting for you to come in and say, "I'm sorry." Accidents happen every day and that would have been good for me to hear at that time. People have said to me, "What happened with the truck driver?" and I say, "I don't know, I never heard from him." <br /><br />I saw his eyes mist over. He was on the verge of tears and for the first time I realized that he had not escaped the incident unscathed either. His voice faltered, 'When you called a couple of weeks ago, I was shocked, but I thought, "Yes, I want to meet him." I want to go and say "Sorry", and that if I could do anything different I would.'<br /><br />And there it was! He had finally used the word 'sorry'. He hadn't looked me in the eye and said it directly to my face. But he had said it, and I believed he was. All that had transpired between us in terms of the impact we'd had on each other's lives was not going to be erased after one meeting. But the sting had gone out of it, at least for me. I respected the magnitude of what we had achieved today. It was, as I'd hoped, a cathartic experience for me, and I hope for him. <br /><br />It dawned on me why the meeting was so powerful-what you hold onto in life holds onto you. That's what I learnt that day. I had faced my fear. It was not enough to talk about what had happened, I had to have this meeting-I had to go through the process-to get it right in my own mind and be free of it. I no longer felt the need to hold on. I felt a sense of closure.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>John Maclean</strong> is the author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Far-Can-You-Go/dp/0316262854" target="_blank">How Far Can You Go? My 25 Year Quest To Walk Again</a>"</em>. In June 1988, John was hit by an 8-ton truck as he rode his bike. Somehow this near-fatal accident was the making of him. John decided to rebuild his life and became an elite wheelchair athlete and Paralympian. 25 years after his accident John faced his biggest challenge yet - learning to walk again. For more information visit <a href="http://www.johnmaclean.com.au/" target="_blank">www.johnmaclean.com.au</a>. <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </p>
Staff
2016-05-17T00:54:00Z
Holding It Together When Life Becomes Overwhelming
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Holding-It-Together-When-Life-Becomes-Overwhelming/-196768154028770532.html
2016-05-09T21:23:00Z
2016-05-09T21:23:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong><strong><strong>by Annie Leedom</strong><br /><a href="https://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a><br /></strong></strong>
<p><br />When life becomes too overwhelming, it's easy to feel like you're coming apart at the seams. We've all been dealt curve balls - whether that be suffering from an extreme illness or injury, heartbreak, abuse, intense grief, or catastrophe. And when we go through personal crises such as these, it's common to experience symptoms of trauma that include anxiety, anger, depression and grief. According to the <a href="https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml" target="_blank">National Institute for Mental Health</a>, mood disorders affect nearly 21 million adults in the US, and major depressive disorder is the number one cause of disability in Americans aged 15-44. These numbers are staggering, but are likely underestimated as they reflect only cases that have been diagnosed and reported. In addition, these numbers don't include other common issues such as anxiety and panic disorders, or chronic mild depression.When you're suffering from psychological trauma or extreme stress, you may have trouble "holding it all together" and as a result may "come unglued." This can manifest as social withdrawal, angry outbursts, anxiety or panic attacks, depression, drug or alcohol abuse and/or disordered eating. Physically, we have trouble sleeping, experience muscular aches and pains, headaches and fatigue.<br /><br />When this happens, you may feel "stuck;" like your emotions are quicksand and you're caught in a quagmire and can't find a way out. So how do you dig yourself out when the quicksand of your emotions may be pulling you further and further down? It's not an easy process, but here are five ways you can begin:<br /><br /></p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Look at your situation and how you got there. Then breathe. </strong>As with quicksand, be still. Realize that getting out will take courage and mindful determination; that destructive coping behaviors will cause you to sink further. Now BREATHE. When we find ourselves in a stressful or desperate situation, our breath becomes shallow and rapid. One way to counter this is to try to slow your breathing pattern. Count the length of your inhale and exhale: "One, Two, Three," "One, Two, Three, Four..." It is not so much about getting more air in, but about slowing your rate of breathing in and out and allowing the belly to rise and fall naturally.</li>
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<li><strong>Silence your negative inner voice.</strong> Michael Singer, author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245379/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=92640371105&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11810861358161814746&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_29lzwminfl_b" target="_blank">The Untethered Soul</a></em>", refers to it as a "talkative roommate." I once heard it called the "Yama-Yama Man." Whatever you choose to call it, we're referring to the ceaseless chatter going on in your mind - everything from "how do I look?" to "I can never be good enough", to "why is my life such a mess?" Notice how that voice is never quiet? No one wants a roommate like that. Evict him/her, especially when he/she is talking trash about you.</li>
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<li><strong>View your situation as an outsider.</strong> Now that you've found a few quiet moments without your noisy brain chatter, be aware that you've found yourself in a situation. It maybe a terrible one at that, but try to view it as though you're watching an episode on TV. The episode isn't you; you're outside of the TV simply watching. You have the remote control. You have the power to switch stations to a happier alternative.</li>
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<li><strong>Embrace your decision to change your attitude and move forward. </strong>Once you've made the decision to change the channels of your attitudes, life and well-being, try to imagine what channel, movie or situation would bring you utmost joy, lifting of spirit, or delight. What does that feel like inside your body/mind? Do you feel lighter? Uplifted? Robust? Loved and loving? Hold on to these feelings. Store them in your mind and body. Use these feelings of delight like mouthwash for your brain. Bring them in, swish them around in all the dark folds and recesses, and spit out the old, stale, unwelcome thoughts, attitudes and behaviors.</li>
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<li><strong>Savor your positive feelings.</strong> Hold on to these feelings you've just experienced. Practice coming back to them as often as possible. Nurture them. With time and attention, they will grow.These steps are not meant to over-simplify a complex situation. They're intended to offer simple tools that are easily accessible and can be utilized at any time. Happiness and well-being are your birthright. Take ownership.</li>
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<p><br /><em>"Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you."</em>~Maori Proverb<br /><br /><span><strong><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64022" class="yiv4390462159">Anne Leedom</span></strong><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64021" class="yiv4390462159"> is the Founder of </span><a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64020" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">Parentingbookmark.com</a><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64007" class="yiv4390462159">, a website offering tips on raising great kids. She is also the Founder of </span><a class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://netconnectpublicity.com/" target="_blank">NetConnectPublicity.com</a><span class="yiv4390462159">, a premier online PR firm based in Southern California. She is also the Founder of </span><a class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.sandylanepr.com/" target="_blank">SandyLanePR.com</a><span class="yiv4390462159"> and is a guest contributor on many national websites. For more information visit </span><a class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64013" class="yiv4390462159">. Permission granted for use on <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1463421607433_64012" class="yiv4390462159" rel="nofollow" href="http://drlaura.com/" target="_blank">DrLaura.com</a>.</span> </span></p>
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2016-05-09T21:23:00Z
7 Ways to Get Out of A Slump: And One Reason Why Not To
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/7-Ways-to-Get-Out-of-A-Slump:-And-One-Reason-Why-Not-To/-539224351242587844.html
2016-05-02T22:32:00Z
2016-05-02T22:32:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Andrew Bryant<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.selfleadership.com/free" target="_blank">www.selfleadership.com</a><strong><strong><br /></strong></strong>
<p><br />I'm in a slump. I'm sure you've been here, or maybe you are in one to?How do I know I'm in a slump?<br /><br />My batteries feel flat, focus is elusive and I am drawn to my couch like a moth to a flame. Your symptoms may be different, but you know you are not operating at your best.<br /><br />What's really embarrassing about this, and causing me some guilt, is that I am an author on personal development and self-leadership - surely, I shouldn't be in a slump?The surprising fact is, I don't want to get out of my slump, well not yet anyway! I am like the man who is happy at the bottom of a hole, you see I both know the way out and I know the benefit of being in the hole.<br /><br />Mostly I maintain pretty high-energy. Zest is, in fact one of my strengths, but when we are 'go, go, go' we can miss the subtle things. So I am accepting my slump. Why? Because it's my slump. Nobody did this to me. It's my body signaling me something, and in accepting that I can get the message.<br /><br />Often we force ourselves to push through low performance, but if it really is a slump, the best strategy is to call it. By naming and owning your slump, ultimately you put yourself back in control.<br /><br />Everything in life has cycles, the weather, the stock market, and your energy levels. The secret of success is to ride the cycle, and benefit from the down-time.So I'm in a slump and you maybe you are too, so what's the benefit?<br /><br />It's time to reflect, to regroup, and to decide on what's important and what's not. Use your slump to nurture yourself and become aware of what really matters to you. When you have answered this question, and given your body some rest, do the following:</p>
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<li><em><strong>Laugh and have some fun. </strong></em><br />Laughter changes your outlook by releasing 'feel good' chemicals in your brain. My new discovery is a big foam pit at a local trampoline park. I go and jump in this thing, and it cracks me up.</li>
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<li><em><strong>Move!</strong></em><br />This may have been taken care of by #1, but it's essential to get off the couch and stand up straight. In the dictionary slump and slouch have pretty much the same definition. When you change your posture you change your outlook. Stand confidently and you will become confident.</li>
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<li><strong><em>Do something that scares you.</em></strong><br />Another way to kickstart your way out of a slump is to do something that scares you. Bungee jump, hold a snake, ask your boss for a raise, or call that prospect that intimidates you.</li>
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<li><strong><em>Remove distractions and overwhelm.</em></strong><br />Is your inbox out of control? Do you have a to-do list a mile long? To begin to get out of a slump, you need to do just one thing and get it done. What's the one thing you can do today?</li>
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<li><strong><em>Celebrate even the smallest victory.</em></strong><br />Depending how bad your slump is, just getting out of bed and taking a shower could be a victory. Often we got into a slump by overwhelming ourselves with so much to do. If you took step #4. You can now have a little celebration and perhaps give yourself a reward.</li>
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<li><strong><em>Get inspired.</em></strong><br />Everyone has hit a slump at some time, read about others who have faced adversity and come out the other side. Watch a 'feel good' movie, go to a seminar or just hang out with people with a positive attitude.</li>
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<li><strong><em>Do something for someone else.</em></strong><br />Slumps take us into ourselves, properly handled they provide introspection, but they can make us a bit self-centered for a while. To overcome this, do something nice for someone else with little thought of how this will benefit you - the results will be surprising.</li>
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<p>So there you have it, 7 ways - but what about the 1 reason why not to.<br /><br />Well I sort of covered this at the beginning of the article - if you force yourself out of a slump without doing the requisite resting and reflection, the slump will likely return only worse. Funny thing - I feel more focused now!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Andrew Bryant </strong>is a motivational speaker, executive coach and author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Self-Leadership-Become-Successful-Efficient-Effective/dp/0071799095?ie=UTF8&keywords=Self-Leadership%3A%20How%20to%20Become%20a%20More%20Successful%2C%20Efficient%20and%20Effective%20Leader%20from%20the%20Inside%20Out&qid=1462485211&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1" target="_blank">Self-Leadership: How to Become a More Successful, Efficient and Effective Leader from the Inside Out</a>"</em>(McGraw-Hill 2012). Andrew has inspired and informed audiences as large as 12,000, facilitated breakthrough-learning sessions for senior leaders and been the coach for C-level executives of Fortune 500 companies. Sign up for his newsletter and receive a free chapter from his book: <a href="http://www.selfleadership.com/free" target="_blank">http://www.selfleadership.com/free</a>. Connect with Andrew on LinkedIn and Twitter. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2016-05-02T22:32:00Z
Wedding Dress Shopping Do's and Don'ts
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Wedding-Dress-Shopping-Dos-and-Donts/401642416990432108.html
2016-04-18T21:58:00Z
2016-04-18T21:58:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Desiree Hartsock<br /></strong></strong><a href="http://www.desireehartsock.com/" target="_blank">desireehartsock.com</a>
<p>From tulle to sequins and lace to satin, I have seen it all when it comes to wedding dress shopping. I have witnessed the tears, the frustration, the joy, and the overall significance a wedding dress carries for a bride's special day. With that experience I have also walked away with the 'do's' and 'don'ts' of finding the perfect dress.<br /><br />These will prepare you to find your dream dress and keep distractions away while you decide. <br /><br /><br /><strong>DO:</strong> Bring your mom, grandmother, or closest friend with you dress shopping.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Bring your entire bridal party and all the other friends that want to join. A cluster of opinions will leave you lost and empty handed.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO: </strong> Be prepared. Bring a few specific images or tear outs and have a clear idea of what you are looking for.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Bring an entire binder with 50+ styles. This takes up too much time and becomes too confusing.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO: </strong>Call ahead and make an appointment.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Walk-in without calling ahead. Most bridal salons schedule their staff according to appointments. <br /><br /><br /><strong>DO:</strong> Be open minded to suggestions from your bridal stylist. They know their selection and what may look best on you.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Stay away from a certain style or designer. You never know when an unexpected gown could be the right silhouette for you.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO: </strong>Inform the stylist of your budget and check the price of each dress BEFORE trying on.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Try on a dress over your budget. The chances are you will end up loving it and going far over budget.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO:</strong> Allow 1 1/2-2 hours for each appointment.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T: </em></strong> Rush to try on as many dresses as possible.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO: </strong>Order your gown six months prior to your wedding date.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T:</em></strong> Wait till the last minute. Gowns take time to order (varies from designer) and you may not have enough time to get your favorite dress in time for your wedding.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO: </strong>Enjoy every moment as you try on different styles.<br /><br /><em><strong>DON'T:</strong></em> Criticize yourself if a gown isn't flattering. The right dress is sure to be found, only when you are in the right mindset.<br /><br /><br /><strong>DO:</strong> LOVE, love, love the dress you choose.<br /><br /><strong><em>DON'T: </em></strong>Keep shopping once you have already found the dress. Just as we don't start shopping fiances once we have found 'the one'.<br /><br /><br /></p>
<p><strong>Desiree Hartsock</strong> <span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1461215133429_20236" class="yiv2551379751"> is the voice behind <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.desireehartsock.com/" target="_blank"><span class="yiv2551379751">www.DesireeHartsock.com</span></a>, the ultimate wedding planning, inspirational, and lifestyle blog for every aspect of a woman’s life. Her passion for design, weddings and to help others is shown in everything she creates including the dresses she designed for her<a class="yiv2551379751" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.maggiesottero.com/collection.aspx" target="_blank"><span class="yiv2551379751"> ‘Desiree Hartsock for Maggie Sottero’</span></a> collection and the bridal jewelry for her <a id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1461215133429_20240" class="yiv2551379751" rel="nofollow" href="http://www.kvbijou.com/collections/desiree" target="_blank"><span id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1461215133429_20239" class="yiv2551379751">‘Desiree for KV Bijou’ </span></a></span><span> </span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-04-18T21:58:00Z
6 Essential Tips to Develop a Stress Management Strategy
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2016-04-11T21:58:00Z
2016-04-11T21:58:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://brigittecutshall.com/" target="_blank">brigittecutshall.com</a> <a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/" target="_blank"> </a>
<p><br />Were you aware that chronic stress is linked to the six leading causes of health issues? Heart disease, cancer, stroke, lower respiratory disease, and accidents. Chronic stress can affect your brain, raise your blood pressure, and reduces your immunity and ability to heal. <br /><br />At least 75% of doctor office visits are for stress-related complaints stemming from job stress. It's a $1 trillion per year "under the radar" health epidemic according to <a href="http://unhealthywork.org/about-us/team/dr-peter-schnall/" target="_blank">Peter Schnall</a>, author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Unhealthy-Work-Consequences-Critical-Approaches/dp/0895033356" target="_blank">Unhealthy Work</a></em>. <br /><br />The cost to treat those with chronic diseases (from stress) is about 75% of the national health expenditures per the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/" target="_blank">CDC</a>. Chronic diseases cause 7 out of 10 deaths each year -<em> but are preventable and treatable</em>. <br /><br />Chronic stress not only affects the physical aspects of your life such as health or general energy level, but it can affect job performance and personal relationships. For this reason, every person needs a stress management strategy, a way to focus on personal empowerment and feelings of "loss of control" in check. <br /><br />Dealing with cancer twice and a brain tumor diagnosis confirmed that I can't take anything for granted. I want to be there for my family, watch my kids grow up and thrive. This reality made me stop, take a step back and evaluate my life, intentions and overall goals. Developing a stress management strategy was important. My curiosity also led me to become a certified health coach and health advocate.<br /><br />Here are 6 essential tips I recommend to help you develop a stress management strategy:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Remember to Smile.</strong> A smile simply helps you enable the positive aspect of a situation. That optimism helps you cope better with a stressful moment. Smiling can change your emotional response and speeds recovery when a stressful experience is over.</li>
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<li><strong>Get up and move. </strong>When you feel stressed, take a break and go for a walk outside to get some fresh air. Physical exercise helps stabilize stress hormones and restore your body and mind to a calmer, more relaxed state. That movement boosts oxygen levels and your body makes the feel-good chemical, endorphins, as a result. Bonus: regular physical activity will also improve the quality of your sleep. </li>
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<li><strong>Establish a daily relaxation routine.</strong> Deep breathing is the fastest way to help you relax. We tend to have shallow breaths when stressed. Deep breathing adds oxygen to your bloodstream and helps clear the mind. I prefer the 4-7-8 Method. Sit up in your chair with your feet flat on the floor and place hands on top of your knees. Breathe in while counting to 4 slowly, expand your lungs fully; hold for 7 counts; then exhale out slowly while counting to 8. Repeat.</li>
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<li><strong>It's okay to Say No.</strong> When you say yes to everything, it comes with a price. You increase the stress levels by trying to meet the extra demands on your time. Protect and manage the time you have and don't feel guilty about it. Learning to say "no" to unimportant requests is not going to be a deal-breaker.</li>
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<li><strong>Get to Know Real Food. </strong>A healthy diet can help counter the effects of stress by boosting the immune system and lowering blood pressure. Eating the right food can help tame stress in several ways. Eating comfort food - like a bowl of warm oatmeal - can boost serotonin levels, which is a brain chemical that calms you down. Other foods - like fruits and vegetables - help reduce the stress hormone levels of cortisol and adrenaline. </li>
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<li><strong>Embrace your relationship with sleep.</strong> This is probably the most important thing you can do for yourself. Lack of sleep is a key cause of stress and can become a vicious cycle. Aim to go to bed around the same time each day so that your mind and body develops an expected routine. Don't rely on sleep medication and maximize your relaxation right before you go to bed. </li>
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<p><br />Feeling stressed is normal. The key is focusing on what you can do to gain control and keep the responses in check. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Brigitte Cutshall</strong> is a Media Solutions Consultant and a Certified Health Coach and a two-time breast cancer survivor and living with a benign brain tumor. Brigitte obtained her Health Coach Certification from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition based in New York. Brigitte is the author of "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Real-Things-Ways-Embrace-Life/dp/0978747518" target="_blank">Real Things: 6 Ways to Embrace Life</a></em>" published April 2015. For more information visit <a href="http://www.brigittecutshall.com" target="_blank">www.brigittecutshall.com</a> and <a href="http://realthings.guru/" target="_blank">http://realthings.guru/</a>. Connect with her on Facebook. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-04-11T21:58:00Z
The Secret to Long Term Success: Fall Down 7 Times, Stand Up 8
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2016-04-04T22:01:00Z
2016-04-04T22:01:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Robin Benincasa</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/" target="_blank">robynbenincasa.com </a>
<p><br />I was at a big stand up paddling race with my friend Bill, watching the pros battle it out for the big bucks in the sprint race. I was amazed at how deftly they could maneuver at high speed around the 8 cones on the course, zipping through 180-degree turns while simultaneously surfing 4-foot tall waves. <br /><br />I was scared to death of waves and equally afraid of the turns, so I always stayed away from races that had a lot of either. As the race leaders rounded the cone closest to the beach, I asked Bill why the pros were so much better than we were, and without hesitation he said, "They're not afraid to fall in". <br /><br />So much of the time we avoid waves in our lives and stay in a bad relationship or a dead end job, just because it's familiar, and comfortable for us. But the waves are the only thing that can launch you to the next level in your life, and those that learn how to surf the big waves and maneuver around the turns the best, will ultimately reach their goals. <br /><br />Yes, you're going to fall off that board over and over again, yes, you're going to get pulled under, and yes, you're going to get sand in your shorts. But like the pros, you'll fall down 7 times and stand up 8. And you'll be riding your first wave in no time. The confidence that comes from handling the smaller waves will lead you to the bigger ones.<strong> In other words, confidence in dealing with change is something you EARN through practice, not something you're born with. </strong><br /><br />The courageous part lies in getting your feet wet and paddling out every day, falling over and over again, and earning that confidence. So what changes do you need to make, and why are you still standing on the shore? Are you so afraid to fall that you'll never have the joy of riding that surfboard to the next level of success in your life? <br /><br />And if you do fall, what will happen? You'll swim back to shore and start again. A little wet and winded, but having lost nothing and having gained the wisdom and experience to stay on that board a little bit longer the next time. The only real failure is in not paddling out again the next day, or in never leaving the shore at all. <br /><br />So who will you be? The person who tried, failed, tried again and could eventually surf any wave of change in their lives? Or, the person who stood on the shoreline and ventured nothing? <br /><br />The most meaningful things in life are often not simple, and not something we can just "poof" accomplish on the first try. If it were that easy, everyone would do it. But the people who are living their dreams right fell down 7 times and stood up 8. Or 9. Or even 10 times. Or however many times it took. Don't miss catching the next wave of your life because you're going to get a little wet. This is how the pros become Pros.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Robyn Benincasa</strong> is a World Champion Adventure Racer, 3x Guinness World Record Kayaker, San Diego City Firefighter, 10x Ironman Triathlete, sought-after leadership speaker, New York Times Bestselling author of '<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Winning-Works-Essential-Leadership/dp/0373892551" target="_blank">How Winning Works</a></em>', proud owner of 2 bionic metal hips, and the Founder and CEO of The 501c3 Project Athena Foundation, which helps survivors live an adventurous dream as part of their recovery. In her spare time, Robyn's favorite hobby is inspiring people to do insane, life affirming things like run their first triathlon, start their own business, hike the Grand Canyon Rim to Rim, or kayak and ride 100 miles from Key Largo to Key West. For more information visit <a href="http://robynbenincasa.com/" target="_blank">www.robynbenincasa.com</a> and <a href="http://www.projectathena.org/" target="_blank">www.projectathena.org</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-04-04T22:01:00Z
Sleep to Win! Seven Ways to Gain the Competitive Edge
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2016-03-29T22:35:00Z
2016-03-29T22:35:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dr. James B. Maas and Haley A. Davis</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="https://jamesmaas.com/" target="_blank">jamesmaas.com</a><a href="http://www.insightful-coaching.com" target="_blank"></a><br />
<p><br />Whether you're a pro-athlete or haven't run, or hit or touched a ball since your high school days, you have no idea how your abilities can dramatically improve overnight. And the best part is - it'll be the easiest and most enjoyable change to your workout routine. All you need to do is get more sleep! <br /><br />Most people don't realize how significant a role sleep plays in daytime performance. Research regarding sleep and athletics is gaining more attention than ever and many new findings are coming to light. Here are seven ways to get the right quality and quantity of sleep to maintain your competitive advantage. </p>
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<li><strong>Stay focused. </strong> Research at Cornell has found that when athletes get adequate sleep every night they show improved conditioning, an increase in focus and concentration, a decrease in injuries, faster reaction time, a decrease in fatigue and an increase in energy. All of this results in significantly improved athletic performance and victories.</li>
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<li><strong>Maintain corticol levels.</strong> Eve Van Cauter of the University of Chicago has done extensive research in the area of sleep deprivation. She has found that even slight deprivation increases the levels of cortisol in your body. Cortisol is a stress hormone that is associated with reduced memory ability, insulin resistance and impaired recovery. Cortisol is essential for adequate recovery after any physically strenuous exercise. </li>
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<li><strong>Home growth hormone levels.</strong> A study by Richard Budgett of the British Olympic Association showed that more than 90% of overtraining cases in athletes were a result of insufficient recovery. Human growth hormone plays a key role in tissue repair. So, while you may consider it beneficial to cut out a few hours of sleep in the morning to fit in your workout, be mindful that missing this rest will likely set you back much more than you'd expect.</li>
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<li><strong>Superior Calcium Flow. </strong> Studies find that athletes who sleep the fully recommended amount show significantly more improvement afterward. Between the seventh and eight hours of sleep something happens that researchers recently discovered as the key to athletic success. A cascade of calcium rushes into the motor cortex in your brain; this same effect does not happen if calcium is taken in pill form. This calcium consolidates your muscle memory, so any of the techniques you may have practiced during the day are transferred into your permanent memory. The next time you attempt a sequence of athletic moves (like those necessary to make a 3-pointer in basketball or to hit a golf ball squarely), every successive necessary move in the sequence will be fast and automatic.</li>
<br />Think about this the next time you're out on the golf course: if you have to think about all 186 things you've got to do to hit the ball squarely, you'll never make good contact. <br /><br />
<li><strong>What you eat affects your sleep. </strong>Intake of caffeine, alcohol and nicotine should be limited throughout the day. Caffeine after 2 PM, for example, has the potential to keep you awake well into the night. Especially avoid alcohol within three hours of bedtime because it can play havoc with your night's sleep. </li>
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<li><strong>Electronic interference. </strong>An estimated 95% of people use electronics within an hour of bedtime, but may not realize the harm they're causing their sleep at night. The blue daylight spectrum light that these devices emit blocks the release of melatonin in the brain - this is the hormone that helps you fall asleep when you turn off the lights at night. Clearly, working on your iPad in bed is not the best nighttime ritual. In fact, the bedroom should really be used only for sleep; keep any work related materials aside so the stress that they cause can't interrupt your relaxation. </li>
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<li><strong>Environmentally Friendly. </strong>Finally, keep your bedroom quiet, dark and cool to ensure that you're getting the best quality sleep. </li>
</ol>With these helpful tips, you'll be sleeping to win in no time!<br />
<p><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Maas and Haley Davis</strong> are authors of a new book, "<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Sleep-Win-Unlocking-Athletic-Excellence-ebook/dp/B00B4FSGHE" target="_blank">Sleep to Win!</a></em>" available on amazon.com. Dr. Maas gives widely acclaimed presentations to sports teams (from high school and university teams to NBA, NFL, NHL franchises and Olympic athletes. He offers plenty of great tips on how you can become a better athlete-literally, overnight. Many of his audiences go onto undefeated seasons or win gold medals. For more information visit <a href="https://jamesmaas.com/" target="_blank">https://jamesmaas.com/</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-03-29T22:35:00Z
The Perfect Sweet Treats For Your Easter Table
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2016-03-21T20:17:00Z
2016-03-21T20:17:00Z
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<p><strong>By Justine Santaniello</strong><br /><a href="http://www.justhaves.com/" target="_blank">JustHaves.com</a><br /><br /><br />The Easter Bunny will be hopping down the bunny trail to your house before you know it, so I've got some some adorable Easter treats from my friends at Hershey for you and your family to enjoy!<br /><br /><strong>First up, some delicious brownie chickadees made with <em>Reese's</em> Peanut Butter Eggs. </strong><br /><br />Start with your favorite brownie recipe - boxed, or your own original - and bake according to the directions. <br /><br />While the tray is baking, remove your <em>Reese's</em> Peanut Butter Eggs from the refrigerator where they have been chilling. Next, cut off the bottoms of your eggs so they will be able to sit flat on top of the brownies. Now for the fun part, decorate with icing and candy to create the chick.<br /><br />Once the brownies have cooled, cut into squares. Pipe the tops of the brownies with green icing to look like grass. Place the chick into the green icing and add some sprinkles for a finishing touch. Trust me, these brownie chickadees couldn't be any cuter!<br /><br /><strong>Ingredients</strong></p>
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<li>1 box of brownie mix </li>
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<li>Water, vegetable oil and egg(s) called for on brownie mix box</li>
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<li>1 container of green frosting 12 <em>Reese's</em> Peanut Butter Eggs (chilled)</li>
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<li>Assorted pastel colored sprinkles and candies of your preference</li>
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<li>Heat oven to 350°F (325°F for dark or nonstick pan)</li>
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<li>Make brownies as directed on box for 13x9-inch pan-Cool completely, about 30 minutes</li>
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<li>Cut into squares-Pipe the tops of the brownies with green frosting to look like grass</li>
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<li>Decorate the <em>Reese's</em> Peanut Butter Eggs with decorating candies</li>
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<li>Place the decorated chicks into the green frosting </li>
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<li>Add sprinkles for a finishing touch-Store in covered container until ready to serve</li>
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<p><br /><strong>Next is an adorable dipped pretzel centerpiece made with new<em> Cadbury Mini Eggs</em> White Candy</strong><br /><br />Melt chocolate in a glass bowl at 50% power in the microwave in 30-second intervals. Be sure to stir the chocolate till melted. Once melted, add a teaspoon of vegetable oil for a smooth consistency. <br /><br />Dip pretzels and tap off any excess chocolate. Decorate the pretzels using pastel colored sprinkles and place on a parchment-lined pan. <br /><br />Dab some melted chocolate on the spots along the pretzel where you will place you<strong>r </strong><em>Cadbury Mini Eggs </em>White Candy and let set. Once finished, arrange in a vase for a festive and edible centerpiece sure to wow any guests!<br /><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients</strong></p>
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<li>1 x 12 -ounce package of white chocolate chips</li>
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<li>24 large pretzel rods</li>
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<li>Assorted pastel colored sprinkles</li>
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<li>Vegetable oil </li>
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<li>1 bag of <em>Cadbury Mini Eggs </em>White Candy</li>
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<li>Place the white chocolate chips in a microwave-safe bowl</li>
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<li>Microwave the chips on 50% power for 30-second intervals </li>
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<li>Remove and stir with a rubber spatula (The chips should melt while you are stirring, but if they don't, you can continue to microwave for 15 more seconds, then stir again) </li>
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<li>Once melted, add 1 teaspoon of vegetable oil for a smooth consistency.</li>
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<li>Dip one pretzel rod into the white chocolate; use a spoon or butter knife to spread the chocolate about halfway up the rod</li>
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<li>Twist the rod to let the excess chocolate drip off-Hold the rod over a piece of parchment paper and shake sprinkles on all sides </li>
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<li>Dab melted white chocolate on the spot along the pretzel where you will place the Cadbury Mini Eggs White Candy</li>
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<li>Place the pretzel on another piece of parchment paper to set and dry-Repeat until you've coated all the pretzels, and let dry completely, about 24 hours</li>
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<li>Store in covered container until you are ready to display</li>
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<p style="text-align: left;"><br />There you have it! The perfect treats for a very Happy Easter! <br /><br /><br /> <strong><em> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqW6-B7ffcc&feature=youtu.be" target="_blank">Click here to see Justine put these together, step-by-step.</a></em></strong><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Justine Santaniello </strong>is a Multimedia lifestyle contributor, who shares her tips and top product suggestions - otherwise known as her 'Just Haves' - regularly on The Wendy Williams Show, Good Day New York, Fox & Friends, Yahoo!, New York Live, FOX Business, PIX Morning News, OK TV!, and more. As the founder and creative director of <a href="http://www.justhaves.com/" target="_blank">JustHaves.com</a>, Justine has become a go-to media and consumer resource for anything and everything related to style, beauty, gifting, entertaining and beyond. For her latest recommendations visit her <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqW6-B7ffcc&feature=youtu.be" target="_blank">YouTube channel</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-03-21T20:17:00Z
How Far Will Your Arrow Fly??
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2016-03-14T17:11:00Z
2016-03-14T17:11:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Dan Castro</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://hiddensolutions.com/" target="_blank">HiddenSolutions.com<br /> </a>
<p><br />The next time you are tempted to say, "I'm out of options. I'm defeated. There is nothing left that I can do," step outside on a clear, starry night. Look up. Recall that at one point in time, humans believed that all that existed was that which we could see with our own eyes. The earth, the sun, the moon, and a sea of stars. <br /><br />As you look up at the stars, single out one star among all you can see. Focus on it. Zoom in on it with your mind's eye. Now mentally transport yourself to it and stand on it in your very own specially designed space suit. Look deep into space. Deeper. Into the inky black night. Isolate the darkest spot in the night sky. <br /><br />Now let your mind wander through that dark spot to the furthest edge of space you can imagine. Stand there at that edge and reach out your hand. What do you feel? <br /><br />While standing at that edge, pull out an imaginary arrow from your quiver and notch it in your imaginary bow and draw back on the string. Let the arrow fly. How much deeper into space can it fly? Will it hit anything, or will it keep flying forever? <br /><br />If it hits something, go stand on that something and let fly another arrow. <br /><br />Until it hits something.Then go stand on that something and do it again . . . and again . . . <strong>and again</strong>. <br /><br />Then you will know that even with the most powerful telescopes we have sent into outer space, we have seen but a fraction of all that exists.<br /><br />Who knows what exists beyond the reach of our most powerful arrow? Beyond our most powerful telescopes?Who knows what possibilities exist beyond that which we can see or even imagine? You see, every day scientists, anthropologists, oceanographers, and astronomers discovery things that were there all along, but which we simply never saw. <br /><br />Do you really think the options you are considering right now are really the only options that exist? <br /><br />When you contemplate the vastness of the universe, who are YOU to say, "I am out of options?" <br /><br /><br /><strong>Dan Castro</strong> is the award-winning author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Hidden-Solutions-All-Around-You/dp/0991456408" target="_blank">HIDDEN SOLUTIONS ALL AROUND YOU: Why Some People Can See Them and Some Can't</a></em>. He is also an attorney, and a serial entrepreneur who has built a law firm, a real estate brokerage, a property management company, a loan servicing company, a marketing company, a real estate investment company, and a real estate investing boot camp, and a swing trading class. For more information visit <a href="http://hiddensolutions.com/" target="_blank">www.HiddenSolutions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-03-14T17:11:00Z
Goal Setting
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2016-01-25T23:06:00Z
2016-01-25T23:06:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Syndee Hendricks</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://www.insightful-coaching.com" target="_blank">insightful-coaching.com</a><br />
<p><br />Most people want to be successful, wouldn't you agree? Whether it is at home, work, affiliations, social settings, etc. most of us want to feel the rewards of success: achievement, happiness and fulfillment, right? <br />What I have found is that even though most people want all that, a very few are willing to do the work that it takes to create success in most areas, unless you are extremely lucky.<br /><br />As I worked in various positions in my management career, people said to me: "Oh, you have the easy task-job-position-area of responsibility. That is why you are so successful. Over and over again. <br /><br />However, those same people were not willing to put in the time, energy, and passion that I was to earn that success. In some of those positions, it took eighty hours per week most weeks and one week it was one hundred hours!<br /><br />This year I have accomplished over twenty major goals or projects while working my speaking, writing, coaching and consulting business and doing monthly philanthropic work because I am passionate about my work. <br />Some of those projects are three websites for my businesses, one published book, three published workbooks, my next book outline, a tele-class with a business friend co-facilitating, and a recorded mediation on CD. My secret? Read on.<br /><br />Beside passion, goal setting is my big secret that is responsible for my ability to have such a high productivity and ability to accomplish many goals. There are several components for maximizing productivity of which I am happy to share one here. <br /><br />I have developed the "What, How, Why and Who Goal Setting Plan". I believe the most important component to my plan is the "Why". If you are not clear on your "why" of achieving your goal, the passion that is a huge ingredient and driver to accomplishing that goal is diminished.<br /><br />If you don't know how you are going to accomplish your goal or you haven't thought about who can assist you in the areas you need help, your goal may never be met. A Project Worksheet will lay out both of those important areas to give you a road map to goal achievement! The main components are Project Name, Target Completion Date, Support, and Action Items with details. Related items are available free on my website.</p>
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<li><strong>WHAT:</strong> Set realistic goals with specific details. Make sure your goal is something that you really want to achieve. </li>
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<li><strong>HOW:</strong> Plan your work. Set an action plan with dates and create a Project Worksheet for large projects/goals</li>
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<li><strong>WHY:</strong> Be sure you know your reason for wanting to achieve your goals</li>
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<li><strong>WHO:</strong> Find qualified people to assist you in areas needed</li>
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<p>Put this information on your Project Worksheet and voile'...goal achieved! Let success of goal achievement be your friend. And though I still work long hours, I've now been happily married for nearly twenty years!<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Syndee Hendricks</strong> is an award winning entrepreneur, Speaker, Published Author, Intuitive Self-Mastery Coach & Business Consultant who has decades of experience, an extraordinary level of integrity, and insightful gifts that will get and keep your attention. She strategizes to connect passion and purpose with your dreams and goals accelerating your journey to success, happiness, and life fulfillment for powerful results! For more tips visit <a href="http://www.insightful-coaching.com" target="_blank">www.insightful-coaching.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-01-25T23:06:00Z
Making Resolutions A Reality And Keeping Them!
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2016-01-18T23:22:00Z
2016-01-18T23:22:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By <strong>Peter Sacco</strong></strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://www.petersacco.com/" target="_blank">petersacco.com</a><br />
<p><br />Why is it so ridiculously difficult to keep your resolutions? Two things occur that derail resolutions-- <em>procrastination</em> and <em>wrong intention setting</em>. <br /><br /><span> </span>Procrastination is very destructive in that it hinders your ability to evolve or move positively. Procrastination keeps people from achieving their goals, dreams and living to higher standards. The subsequent problem is procrastination becomes habitual, even addictive for some. Did you know you can procrastinate about procrastinating? <br /><br />Intentions are the plans or goals for achieving the 'somethings' you set your sights on. Everyone has goals and "intentions" no matter how small/large they are. Intentions can be tangible (materialistic) or intangible (life changes). When it comes to resolutions, the intentions that most people create for themselves are of the intangible nature. Ironically, it is the intangible ones that people usually have the greatest difficulty carrying out and achieving.<br /><br />Procrastination is usually learned from one of three major experiences: from observing parents or primary caregivers who themselves procrastinate, those who allow children to get away with not doing what is asked of them and then not correcting it, or having something traumatic occur that eventually hinders people from attempting things. <br /><br />Some individuals become habituated/addicted to procrastination as this becomes a "lifestyle" for them. They use procrastination to avoid anything that they perceive to be potentially unpleasant, or may result in failure. In the past they might have experienced an unfortunate event where they made a mistake or failed at something only to receive ridicule, and felt bad about it. One or more experiences like these could render a person helpless, as they begin to perceive anything that involves risk or change on their part as having the potential to be emotionally damaging. Procrastination causes your mindset to revert back to the negative memories from your past.<br /><br />When you continually procrastinate, you set negatively charged intentions (your resolutions) that are destined to lead to failure. This is called self-talk. Your unconscious voice tells you how things are and how it's always been, as you have not changed it with new positive scripts. <br /><br />Intentions are usually created and put forward based on what you are telling yourself. Unfortunately, most come with 2 negative under-linings: <br /><br /></p>
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<li>Telling yourself what you 'don't' want anymore.</li>
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<li>Why things 'never' work out. </li>
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<p><br />The unconscious mind only does what it is told. It is your memory storage, much like a computer. When you continually put the same thoughts in, they become like 'cookies' on your web browser whereby you only have to type in the first couple of letters and you are at the memory site. Your unconscious mind cannot discern what you really want versus what you do not want. It goes on autopilot selecting what is often chosen--the bad habits you are currently doing-- and those bad habits that you "don't want to do any longer". <br /><br />The solution to failed resolutions is all in the words you speak, namely to yourself! Focus on what it is that you do want. State what you want, believe you can achieve it, feel the outcome of having it, and know you deserve it. Stop asking negative questions like, "Why not me?", or "What about me?" When you ask these types of questions, you are setting up an internal argument for how unfair life is. You are a victim-- "Woe is me!" <br /><br />The greatest battle most people ever engage in is the war waged between their ears-in their minds. Too many people believe things are as they are and accept it. Wrong! You have a mind and it is up to you to choose your thoughts that create your feelings, the ones that bring about positive change. It is up to you to make the changes that you want in your life, and it is truly easier than you think because after all, you are in charge! <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.</strong> has received the Award of Excellence in Teaching and lectures at universities in the US and Canada. He hosts the weekly hit radio show, "<a href="http://www.tvguide.com/tvshows/matters-of-the-mind/340586/" target="_blank">Matters of the Mind</a>," featuring experts and celebrities with whom he discusses mental health, relationships and addiction issues. An award-winning executive producer, he has hosted many documentaries on relationships, psychological issues and child issues. He is the author of 25 books and over 700 articles. For more information visit <a href="http://www.petersacco.com/" target="_blank">www.petersacco.com</a> and <a href="http://bullyingisforthebirds.com/" target="_blank">www.bullyingisforthebirds.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2016-01-18T23:22:00Z
Don't Regain, Recover: 5 Strategies to Handle a Setback
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2015-12-28T16:15:00Z
2015-12-28T16:15:00Z
<p><strong>By Erin Spitzberg, MS, RDN, CDE</strong><br /><a href="http://www.livingitnutrition.com" target="_blank">www.livingitnutrition.com</a></p>
<p><br />If you've lost weight and gained it back, you're one of the 95% of people who struggle with weight maintenance. Losing weight, although a challenge, is easy compared to weight maintenance. It has been proven so often, this statistic has become fact. What was your trigger for regaining the weight? Was there an injury so exercising became more of a challenge? Did life get so busy you began eating out more and planning less, or did stress allow emotions to take over? Whatever the reason, take comfort in knowing that setbacks are normal and to be expected. Here are 5 strategies to help you navigate your way around a setback.</p>
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<li><strong>Eat every three to four hours. </strong>Although setbacks are normal, some can be prevented by eating every three to four hours. This helps prevent low blood sugar. Making a rational food choice when your blood sugar is plummeting is nearly impossible. No matter your intentions, no reasonable amount of food will satiate you. You will continue to eat until your blood sugar is restored. Then you might give yourself permission to binge. Why? Because the day is already ruined. This cycle of events can set the stage for setbacks and weight regain. Snacking on nuts, veggies and hummus, or cheese and fruit are some easy solutions to preventing setbacks.</li>
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<li><strong>Avoid fad diets.</strong> <a href="http://livingitnutrition.com/age-related-weight-gain/" target="_blank">Fad diets</a> are weight loss plans or aids that promise dramatic results. They are notorious for quick weight loss followed by even quicker weight gain. They usually include limiting calories and/or avoiding large food groups. There will always be some form of a setback because the diet is not a realistic way of eating. It puts you at risk for weight regain. Think rationally before starting a fad diet. Ask yourself if the changes you are making sustainable. Can you see yourself eating like this in one year, five years, or even ten years?</li>
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<li><strong>Be mindful. </strong>Being mindful in terms of food is paying attention and being aware. Weight gain starts when we become less aware of what we are eating, how much we are eating, and the choices we are making. When you are mindful you have the flexibility to eat out of choice rather than restrict. Feeling you need to restrict yourself from eating certain foods is a diet mentality. It is not sustainable. Eating out of choice is a lifestyle. Break free from the "I can't" mentality and start thinking, "I'm making the choice to."</li>
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<li><strong>Plan.</strong> <a href="http://livingitnutrition.com/planning-it-may-not-be-as-hard-as-you-think/" target="_blank">Planning</a> can be overwhelming when your days are filled with responsibilities. Without planning you will experience setbacks. Having a plan in place will help minimize them. Planning can refer to shopping, cooking, prepping, and exercise. Forget about what is recommended for the general population and meet yourself where you are now. Consider online shopping to have groceries delivered to your door. Buy time-saving foods like frozen veggies, fruits (apples and pears), or 100 calorie bags of almonds. Purchase a slow-cooker and create one-pot meals like soups and chilies to freeze. Small steps now will save time and setbacks later.</li>
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<li><strong>Sleep.</strong> Getting eighteen hours of sleep like we did as teens is in the past, but getting enough sleep to prevent setbacks is important. Seven to eight hours of sleep is essential. This amount of sleep is needed to keep the <a href="http://www.webmd.com/diet/your-hunger-hormones" target="_blank">hormones Guerlin and Leptin</a> in check. They regulate our appetite and satiation level. Without adequate sleep, they won't work effectively, causing us to eat more. If you struggle with getting adequate sleep try going to bed and waking up around the same time, sleeping in a dark, cool room, and avoid using phone, tablet or computer right before bed.</li>
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<p>Enjoy long-term sustainable weight loss by mastering these five strategies. Setbacks will happen, learn to prevent or recover, rather than regain. <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Erin Spitzberg, MS, RDN, CDE</strong>, is a VIP nutrition coach, author and speaker specializing in, in-home Concierge Nutrition Counseling to clients nationwide. Based on her own life experiences, Erin published the Amazon Best Seller <em>'<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Eat-Like-Normal-Person-Solutions/dp/1511735562" target="_blank">Eat Like A Normal Person: Your Guide to Real World Solutions for Healthy Living</a>'</em>. Erin holds an MS in Nutrition and Food Studies from New York University. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2015-12-28T16:15:00Z
5 Ways To Actually Achieve Your New Year's Resolutions
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2015-12-22T00:34:00Z
2015-12-22T00:34:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>By Jeff Forte</strong><a href="http://90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a><a href="http://www.90minutemarriagemiracle.com" target="_blank">90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com</a><br />
<p><br />What do you want to change or achieve in the New Year, 2016?<br /><br />1st, here are a few fun facts:</p>
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<li>1 out of every 4 people who has New Year's resolutions quits the first week of January.</li>
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<li>Within the first 30 days, over 40% of those having New Year's resolutions have already given up on them. </li>
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<li>Based on a number of University studies only about 8-10% of people who have New Year's resolutions actually achieve them by year end. </li>
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<p><br /><strong>So what's really going on?</strong><br /><br /><strong>Here are 5 Problems and 5 Solutions so that you get your resolutions checked off</strong>:<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>People make lists that are too long and try to change too many things.</strong> The internal motivation is like cotton candy; it doesn't last. All of the initial excitement about how life is going to change so much has left the room. Stick with only 1-3 things that really matter to you. Simplify and laser focus. Your clarity is your friend. </li>
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<li><strong>People don't have a truly compelling enough reason why they want something. </strong>You must have a darn good reason for wanting a particular resolution. How will you benefit? The more reasons and benefits to you, the better. Your advantages have to tower over the perception of your own will power. Your deep burning desire for the outcome and hunger for the specific benefits will feed the mindset that's needed. </li>
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<li><strong>People aren't outraged enough at their underachievement.</strong> It's easy to tell yourself a story and rationalize why you didn't do something. The soft lies are silent killers of your goals and dreams. Tell yourself the truth. Do you need a hug or a kick in the butt? Now go get one, and get back to working on your resolutions. At this point you realize that excuses won't cut it. Judge yourself on your effort. Is your effort good enough? Good enough for you? You live with yourself 1st ,last and always. Do you need to raise your standards for what's acceptable?</li>
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<li><strong>People are easily distracted by things that keep them in their comfort zone.</strong> It takes real effort and a commitment to change something in your life. It won't happen by hoping or wishing for that thing to change. It requires working at it, and on it, consistently day by day, one day at a time until you have it. That's simply true. Be ready to get to work. How high is your personal commitment to yourself?</li>
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<li><strong>It's lonely at the top. </strong>You will most likely be on your own, since so few people actually achieve their resolutions. And you probably aren't very good at supporting yourself towards your goals and holding yourself accountable. Staying motivated and inspired when obstacles surface isn't always easy. Find someone to hold you accountable. Most people will do more for someone else than they will for themselves.</li>
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<li><strong>Bonus Fact- No Plan or Strategy. </strong> How's your resolution going to get achieved? What specifically are you going to need to do? Will it actually work? People haven't really thought through what they need to do based on a hierarchy of importance. Without an effective plan or strategy very little will happen. </li>
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<p><br />Now you have a much better understanding of how to make sure that you can achieve your New Year's resolutions. You don't have to go it alone. Get some help. You can always hire someone to hold you accountable and give you some solid strategies. Most people at the top of their game are already doing this. Why not you? <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Jeff Forte CSIC CME</strong>, author of <strong><em><a href="http://www.90minutemarriagemiracle.com/the-90-minute-marriage-miracle/" target="_blank">The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle</a></em></strong>, founder of <strong><a href="http://peakresultscoaching.com/" target="_blank">PEAK Results Coaching</a></strong>, is an Executive Coach specializing in marriage resolution and team dynamics. He holds certifications in Strategic Intervention and Marriage Education and is an expert in divorce prevention and urgent conflict resolution. Clients include Fortune 500 Executives, Business Professionals, Attorneys, Surgeons, Professional Athletes, Teams and Couples. He works with clients all over the world via Skype. For more information visit <strong><a href="http://www.90minutemarriagemiracle.com/" target="_blank">90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com</a></strong>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2015-12-22T00:34:00Z
We All Get Angry
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2015-12-14T23:19:00Z
2015-12-14T23:19:00Z
<strong><br />By Dr. Michael Levittan</strong><br /><a href="http://www.michaellevittan.com/" target="_blank">www.michaellevittan.com</a><br /><br /><br />Anger is a universal emotion. Every human being gets angry at one time or another. We all have experienced hurt, disappointment, deceit, rejection, betrayal, and many other slights and mistreatments in our lives. Though all people experience the feeling of anger, there are great differences in how people react to angry feelings. Some of us can respond assertively with thoughtful expressions. <br /><br />Problems arise when people respond by yelling, name-calling, using bad language, throwing things, slamming doors, making threats, hitting others, or abruptly ending the relationship. A less obvious problem occurs when people keep feelings to themselves and "stuff" their anger. We are all capable of erupting one day. <br /><br />The very simple, but difficult first step to manage anger is to acknowledge that you are feeling angry! Most people may admit to feeling frustrated, or annoyed, or irritated, but not angry. It is as if "anger" is such a horrible word that you can't acknowledge it. Others may be angry, but not you!<br /><br />But acknowledging anger is essential to anger management. A bit of brain science is in order: When you acknowledge something, it means that you have knowledge of it, which means that you have connected the thinking part of your brain (the prefrontal cortex - behind the forehead) with the emotional part of your brain (the limbic system - in the center). <br /><br />Without that acknowledgment, we are not involving our thinking, conscious brain and we are literally "run" by our emotions! No wonder so many people lose their temper, "go off" on others, or are out-of-control. On a daily basis, our world is filled with hurtful words, harmful aggression, and destructive violence. <br /><br /><strong>The two keys to managing anger are: </strong><br /><ol>
<li><strong>Slow Down and Breathe:</strong> Anger is part of the fight or flight reaction to danger and it speeds us up so that we can survive threats. We secrete adrenalin so that we can fight the danger or take flight from it. The great majority of time, our anger is NOT based in a life or death situation and so we don't have to have the urgency that speeds up our system. If we take a few slow, deep breaths, then we counter-act the fight or flight reaction, and put a limit to the secretion of adrenalin. </li>
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<li><strong>Ask Questions of Ourselves:</strong> The better able we are to make use of our thinking brain, the better we will keep angry feelings under control. After managing our breathing to calm our bodies, then we need to calm our emotions by bringing order to potential chaos. Ask: "What am I feeling?" This allows us to define and give form to our feeling. This brings a sense of order or control to our own feelings.<br /><br />Then ask: "What is the best way to deal with this feeling?" This allows us to ensure that we don't impulsively resort to action. We use our mind, which will naturally consider options and consequences. </li>
</ol>Anger is often viewed as a negative emotion. Anger is negative when people cannot manage it and act-out with aggression, abuse, or violence. It is startling to contemplate that - excluding war - every year, throughout the world, about 1.43 million people are murdered. This averages out to almost 4,000 human beings are killed by other humans every day!! <br /><br />However, when anger is managed, it can actually be a positive emotion. Anger can function as part of the mourning process and as a force to energize us toward achieving goals. What is crucial is not the feeling of anger, but the action we take when we feel anger! <br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Michael Levittan</strong> is an accomplished and recognized expert on Domestic Violence, Anger Management, and Child Abuse. He is a licensed psychotherapist, director of a state-certified batterers' treatment program, and serves as an Expert Witness in court. Dr. Michael believes in his work to further the cause of establishing safety in the family and peace in the world. His passion comes across in his presentations. For more information visit <a href="http://www.michaellevittan.com/" target="_blank">www.michaellevittan.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2015-12-14T23:19:00Z
5 Ways to Bring About Change In This Crazy World
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2015-11-16T15:26:00Z
2015-11-16T15:26:00Z
<strong><br />By Michael Bianco-Splann</strong><br /><a href="http://illuminateambitions.com/" target="_blank">www.illuminateambitions.com</a><br /><br />Once again the world is infused with a sense of horror and shock by the heinous attacks on innocent Parisians enjoying a Friday night in the City of Lights. And our collective response sensationalized by the media leads us where? The facts leading up to this attack should in no way be received as a surprise, for the endless stream of human barbarism and war has not receded in millennia. Our contemporary world order looks strikingly similar to many civilizations of the past. <br /><br />What is an alternative response to terrorism? Merriam Webster defines terrorism as, "the use of violent acts to frighten the people in an area as a way of trying to achieve a political goal." The heart of terrorism is to get under your skin, churning a sense of dis-ease and fear. <br /><br />Any response powered by fear demonstrates low frequency, low vibration and has an internal destructive nature that ripples across the collective unconscious. Let us find a better solution these horrible acts than more savagery and attending to the lowest human frequency. <br /><br />Here are 5 ways to make a stand and bring about change.<br /><br />
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<li><strong>Quell the Fires Within</strong><br /> Each of us is a composite of unique attributes passed along in our DNA combined with a karmic construct, which predetermines a pathway for this lifetime. Additionally, other facets determine our inner and outer framework, including: environmental, behavioral, geographical, religious and familial elements. These prejudices and biases govern our thoughts, intentions and ultimately the manner in which we operate in the world. The firestorms within our inner life lead us to separateness. <br /><br /> Human beings tend to coagulate with others of like interest, relegating those outside your belief systems as other, different and/or enemy. To build peace requires quelling the fire within. The truth is that all human beings are connected. We are more alike than dissimilar. Take the time to dig into those strongly held beliefs to imagine another point of view. Open yourself up to bridging the chasm of separateness. When we operate from this perspective, we elevate our human potential, leading us away from fear moving toward love and compassion. </li>
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<li><strong>Choose to Love</strong><br /> This means stretching beyond your inner circle of family, friends, and neighbors to include others different than you. Loving is a choice. Your inner vibration transforms when you have the courage to love rather than hate. Do not let political, social, religious and cultural differences separate you from others. A Jewish mother loves her children just as much as a Muslim mother. Change the inner dialogue. </li>
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<li><strong>Be Present and Real</strong><br /> Fear, as the leading edge of terrorism, takes us out of living where life is lived: in the present tense. Remember that fear is generally associated with future events that in all likelihood will not occur. We tend to build a fortress of what-ifs, creating dissonance and anxiety that allows a false ego to dominate our being. Take back your life by remembering to breathe. Look down at your feet. There is where you are. Be present. Be real. </li>
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<li><strong>Send Light and Love</strong><br /> Human beings are divine emissaries that have tremendous power. Realize that you hold the divine seed of grace and light. Your thoughts contribute to the undercurrent of the collective. What are your thoughts? Be aware that thoughts lead to intentions that create choices. The choices you make ultimately determine your reality. Send love and light to Paris and to the human family. </li>
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<li><strong>Be the Change You Want to See<br /> </strong>Action is the cure for despair and fear. Make it your daily practice to engage in the change you want in your life. If you want friendship, be a friend. If love is lost, express yourself in loving ways. </li>
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<strong>You have the power in every moment of your life to be an integral agent of positive change. Do it! The time is now! </strong><br /><br /><br /><strong>Michael Bianco-Splann</strong> is the author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Leadership-Principles-Change-Business/dp/0996229604/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1435791560&sr=8-1&keywords=michael+bianco+splann" target="_blank">Conscious Leadership: 7 Principles that WILL Change Your Business and Change Your Life</a></em>, a wake-up call for leaders and organizations ready to gain consciousness. Michael has frontline executive leadership experience from across several industries, with the past sixteen years working within the Financial Services industry. Michael's ability to accurately assess an organization's strength of leadership and performance, coupled with his dynamic talent to deliver high-impact leader development training tailored to the needs of the organization provides unique and differentiated value. For more information visit <a href="http://illuminateambitions.com/" target="_blank">www.illuminateambitions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2015-11-16T15:26:00Z
Top 7 Culprits for Why You Can't Stay Asleep
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2015-08-31T14:26:00Z
2015-08-31T14:26:00Z
<strong>By Betty Murray</strong><br /><a href="http://bettymurray.com/" target="_blank">www.bettymurray.com</a><br /><br /><br />Poor sleep not only makes us grumpy, hungry and lethargic, it can be deadly. A study by researchers in Australia showed that being awake for 18 hours produced an impairment equal to a blood alcohol concentration of .05, and .10 after 24 hours. In most states, .08 is considered legally drunk. Consider that over 73% of Americans drive to and from work, that is a lot of people on the road potentially impaired from poor sleep. <br /><br />Interrupted sleep - prolonged wakefulness up to 4 times a night over 8 hours is equal if not worse than the damage caused by insomnia - an inability to fall asleep. The impact to the four-stage 60-90 minute sleep cycle may actually be worse than insomnia because when the sleep cycle is interrupted the sleep cycle starts over again potentially inhibiting your most deeper and more restorative sleep phases. <br /><br />What can you do to make sure you get to sleep and stay asleep?<br /><br /><strong>Eat consistent balanced meals throughout the day and especially at dinnertime.</strong><br />Your blood sugar may be dropping in the middle of the night causing your body to wake you up. Nighttime hypoglycemia caused by eating too many carbohydrates such as pasta and bread, skipping meals, eating large meals and eating late at night can lead to a blood sugar surge and plunge that cause you to wake as the blood sugar drops. <br /><br /><strong>Watch alcohol intake at dinner and after. Your wine or alcohol at night may be the culprit. </strong><br />True, alcohol often reduces the time it takes to fall asleep and increased deep slow wave sleep (SWS) in the early part of the night that is restorative but it impairs the later sleep stages and the ability to get into REM sleep where memories and learning occurs. Keeping your alcohol to no more than 1 drink for a woman at dinner and 2 for a man should reduce the likelihood alcohol may affect your sleep.<br /><br /><strong>Check your hormones. </strong> <br />Fluctuations of hormones such as estrogen, progesterone and testosterone during women's cycles, pregnancy and during menopause are likely culprits for interrupted sleep. This points to why women are more than twice as likely to have interrupted sleep and insomnia than men. However, men are not immune to hormone changes that may affect sleep. There is strong evidence that falling testosterone levels increase a man's chances of having sleep apnea - a sleep disorder where the airway is obstructed. <br /><br /><strong>You may have adrenal fatigue.</strong><br />Stress causes a surge in adrenal hormones called adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones are designed to make you alert and ready fight or flee. Normal adrenal activities are highest in the morning and lowest at bedtime. Chronic stress can cause abnormal fluctuations in adrenal function, low blood sugar and an inability to stay asleep as will abnormally high or low cortisol. <br /><br /><strong>You may be low on vitamin co-factors and the proteins required to make your sleep neurotransmitters melatonin and gaba. </strong><br />Sleep is regulated on a circadian rhythm by the brain and adrenal glands. Melatonin, the sleep neurotransmitter is made from serotonin, which is made from the amino acid tryptophan and the vitamin co-factors: vitamins B6, B12, folate, niacin and the minerals iron and magnesium. A shortage of these nutrients will leave you with fewer ingredients to make your sleep chemistry. Additionally gaba, the most abundant calming neurotransmitter in the brain, plays a role in keeping you asleep as well as convert glycogen into glucose in the brain. Gaba also depends on adequate B6 levels. <br /><br /><strong>You may have gastrointestinal reflux (GERD) and your only symptom is interrupted sleep.</strong><br />GERD occurs when acid from the stomach backs up into the esophagus sometimes causing a burning sensation or chest pain. However not everyone gets symptoms. Interrupted sleep or chronic cough might be your only symptoms. Before you run off to take an antacid, a doctor should check your esophagus for damage as this can lead to other health issues. Then you need to look into potential diet and lifestyle triggers such as eating too much and eating late, eating spicy or acidic foods, and checking for undiagnosed food allergies and sensitivities. <br />Your medications and or supplements might be leading to interrupted sleep patterns.Beta-blockers for high blood pressure or asthma medications are well-known culprits for sleep issues. Opioid drugs often prescribed for pain can lead to sleep apnea. Supplements known to be stimulatory like ginseng, gotu kola and licorice can also put the breaks on getting a good night sleep. Vitamins B12 and B6 taken at night can lead to vivid dreams that can wake you up. It is best to take those in the morning.<br /><br /><em>(As with any medical advice, please check with your physician first.) </em><br /><br /><br /><strong><a href="http://bettymurray.com/" target="_blank">Betty Murray, CN, IFMCP, CHC</a></strong> is a Certified Nutritionist & Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner with the <a href="https://www.functionalmedicine.org/" target="_blank">Institute for Functional Medicine</a>, founder of the Dallas-based functional medicine clinic <a href="http://www.livingwelldallas.com" target="_blank">Living Well Dallas</a> and Executive Director of the the Functional Medicine Association of North Texas. A master of the biochemistry of the body, Betty teaches her clients how to utilize nutrition for autoimmune diseases, digestive disorders and weight loss. Connect with Betty on <a href="https://twitter.com/BettyMurray" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/BettyAMurrayCN" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, and <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/bettymurraycn/" target="_blank">Pinterest</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2015-08-31T14:26:00Z
7 Ways to Provide Choice in the Classroom
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2015-08-24T16:09:00Z
2015-08-24T16:09:00Z
<strong>By Jen Larson</strong><br /><a href="http://the-teacher-next-door.com/" target="_blank">The Teacher Next Door</a><br /><br /><em>(Aside: Although this article is written from the perspective of being a teacher, there are good ideas for homeschooling your children. And if you do send your kids to school, these are good things for parents to be aware of happening in your child's classroom.)</em><br /><br /><br />All teachers want to have a classroom full of students who are eager learners, who are engaged in whatever task is put before them, and who are inspired to perform at a very high level. Not all teachers however, are aware of how providing choice in the classroom is one of the most powerful tools we can use to not only empower, but to inspire our kids.<br /><br />Imagine a Burger King where they won't hold the pickles...a movie theater with only one show playing, a library where all the books are about astrophysics... Without being offered a choice, we feel unmotivated, and without any control of our own. Providing a classroom environment that is open to choice, will lead to greater student buy-in, higher motivation, and better behavior. In addition, it has been shown to increase feelings of happiness and to decrease stress levels and anxiety in students. <br /><br />Here are seven simple ways to provide choice for students in the classroom:<br /><br /><strong>1. Research Projects</strong><br />
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<li>Giving kids a choice of topics boosts engagement. Doing a state report? They pick the state. Learning about animals? They choose which one. </li>
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<li>Project extensions are an easy way for kids to incorporate their own interests. After completing the required report, kids can choose from a laundry list of different ways to present what they've learned, whether it is making a PowerPoint, creating a picture book, or making a video. Students are much more engaged when they take ownership in their learning.</li>
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<br /><strong>2. Assignment Completion Order</strong> <br />When students have several things to complete, I write the required jobs on the board and then tell the kids they can complete them in any order. They love being able to have the freedom to choose even something this simple.<br /><br /><strong>3. Choice Boards</strong><br />Anyone who has taught for awhile is familiar with using menus and tic-tac-toe boards. These activity lists provide a number of choices that appeal to a wide range of learning styles. Being able to choose from the menu allows kids to follow their own preferences, creating buy-in.<br /><br /><strong>4. Task Card Completion</strong><br />One of the best way to use task cards is to set them up around the room for kids to complete. While some teachers may have kids complete the cards in a designated order, I think allowing students to complete the task cards in any order is a better idea. It makes it more fun for the kids, eliminating that feeling of being "stuck" behind someone moving more slowly. Ever been in a checkout line? Then you know exactly what I mean.<br /><br /><strong>5. Early Finishers Work</strong><br />In a perfect world, all students would finish every assignment AT THE SAME TIME...but you know that will never happen. By choosing from a list of pre-approved activities, early finishers are engaged and much better behaved.<br /><br /><strong>6. Where to Work</strong><br />Sometimes, we just need all of our students to work at their desks. Other times though, we can allow kids to work in a variety of places, as long as they stay on task. I love to have kids working in small groups at the table, on the floor, on our classroom porch, or at the very coveted meeting area with a sofa and cozy chairs (this is one spot that is assigned on a weekly basis to avoid conflict). <br /><br /><strong>7. Choose Partners or Small Groups</strong><br />I often like to choose kids randomly for day-to-day group work, but occasionally I like kids to work with friends of their choice, with the agreement that the focus is on work and not on socializing. I actually changed the way I do math this year to allow kids to collaborate more and I was happily surprised by the actual math conversations that I heard taking place. Miracles do occur!<br /><br />Finally, changing the way we do things in the classroom can sometimes be a scary thing. It helps to start small and to try one at a time, remembering to go over expectations as you go. Once you see what a difference choice makes in the classroom, I'm betting that you'll embrace this teaching tool and it'll become part of your teaching repertoire.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Jen Larson</strong> has been a teacher for 20 years and has taught every grade (K - 5) at least once! Jenn is a curriculum designer at Teachers Pay Teachers. Jenn has two children and lives in Northern California. In her spare time, she loves to travel. Get ideas from her <a href="http://the-teacher-next-door.com/" target="_blank">website and blog</a>. For the latest in educational resources and curriculum products <a href="https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Store/The-Teacher-Next-Door" target="_blank">click here</a>. Connect with Jenn on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/TheTeacherNextDoor" target="_blank">Facebook</a> , <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/TeacherNextDoor" target="_blank">Pinterest</a>, and <a href="https://instagram.com/theteachernextdoor/" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2015-08-24T16:09:00Z
Creating a Home Reference Book
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2015-08-17T16:34:00Z
2015-08-17T16:34:00Z
<strong>By Mar Jennings</strong><br /><a href="http://www.marjennings.com" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a><br /><br />There is no better way to 'Live sMARt' than by staying organized throughout your home. This is never more important than when houseguests show up. I am all about getting organized by creating a very valuable home reference book to which every home and guest may have access. <br /><br /><ol>
<li><strong>The goal of a Home Reference Book is to provide you, your family, and even visiting guests all the information they need about your home.</strong> Creating a centrally-located and easily-accessible book provides fast access to valuable contacts and resources.</li>
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<li><strong>The key to this book is to collect your information all in one place</strong> so it is easy to understand at a glance. </li>
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<li><strong>Creating this reference book does not need to be expensive and it can be fun.</strong> To start, all you need is a simple binder. Choose one to reflect your own personal style and family attitude. Next, add some clear sheet protectors - they allow you to slip in existing information, booklets, warranties, plus let you add more pages as you go. Your binder will never be "finished" as your house and family are constantly evolving. Now, you're ready to fill it with precious info.</li>
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<li><strong>Start with the essentials.</strong> Make sure to include local municipalities, family doctors, medications, hospitals, walk in clinics, and emergency veterinarians. These important numbers and addresses can save lives in an event of an emergency. I also include my schnauzer's registration, vaccination records and vet info. If you have kids, you'll want the poison control number, doctor and dentist number as well as any favorite babysitters' numbers.</li>
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<li><strong>Build further with crucial home-related details</strong> like home security company details. All your favorite tradesmen: Plumber, roofing specialist, lawn service...and so on. A copy of the property survey has been used more times than I can mention. The map of the sprinkler heads. Appliance warranty information - from fridge to heater to toaster. Up-to-date exterior and interior paint colors and swatches. You get the idea.</li>
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<li>E<strong>nhance the book with guest-friendly reference.</strong> For example, using the TV remote can sometimes be a chore for guests from out of town. My guests can find the step-by-step instructions for watching cable TV, using the DVD player and watching Apple TV. Wi-Fi password, Town maps. Favorite take-out menus.</li>
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<li><strong>Remember to keep it somewhere central </strong>where everyone can find it when needed!</li>
</ol>So 'Live s<strong>MAR</strong>t,' and have fun creating yours.<br /><ol> </ol><br /><br /><strong>Mar Jennings</strong> is a TV Host, Lifestyle Expert and best-selling author of <em>Life On Mar's, A Four Season Garden</em>, an award-winning deluxe oversized coffee table book that chronicles the evolution of his Westport, Connecticut garden and how he planned it to provide visual interest and beauty through all four seasons. Discover more about the home and garden world of Mar Jennings at <a href="http://www.marjennings.com" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2015-08-17T16:34:00Z
Ready...Set...STOP! Six Secrets to Truly Relax During Playtime
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2015-07-28T01:36:00Z
2015-07-28T01:36:00Z
<p><strong>By Anne Leedom<br /></strong><a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">ParentingBookmark.com</a><br /><br />From the time my two daughters were born, I have loved showing them the world, keep thing them busy and engaging them in activities. They didn't sleep until noon, they were helpful around the house and always had friends and many things to do.<br /><br />This was never truer than when we went on vacation. While I would have enjoyed just finding a nice beach to sleep on all day, they wanted to do things. So we traveled to cities, starting our action packed 14-hour days and ending them with a happy state of pure exhaustion.<br /><br />My girls are young adults now. They have come to appreciate the value of just relaxing and enjoying each other's company in places that mean something to us. We have learned some sneaky ways to make incredible memories without the constant sense of being on the go.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Find a beautiful area and walk the town. </strong>It's amazing how much you see that is not on a map. Just enjoying what's in the windows, or a corner café gives me a lot more time to talk with my family and to learn what they like these days.</li>
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<li><strong>Discover a secret destination.</strong> On a recent trip to Monterey, my daughter took us to an incredible waterfall at Julia Pfeiffer State Park. It was a bit of a drive and a short hike that ultimately led us to one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen! We had time to talk, listen to music and take in the view as we drove down Highway 1 and enjoyed on of the most scenic coasts in the U.S. </li>
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<li><strong>Take in a show.</strong> Rather than going for something more ambitious like deep sea diving, we chose the Monterey Bay Aquarium. It is a magnificent way to see and learn about the life in the Bay in a leisurely way together. We could move at our own pace and see what we wanted to see. </li>
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<li><strong>Enjoy the veranda.</strong> We chose a hotel that specifically had amazing balconies, so we could relax, invite friends over in the area and enjoy the view. There is something truly magical about looking at one of the most beautiful places in the world while you're in your pajamas! Find a resort and make it your "home away from home" for the perfect setting to slow down and enjoy my family. </li>
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<li><strong>Create a tradition.</strong> Part of the fun of a great vacation is looking forward to coming back. For us, we found an incredible bakery in nearby Carmel that we adore and it is truly the first stop whenever we return. The Tuscan ambiance and the incredible treats make it a perfect tradition that is just ours.</li>
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<p><br />Life is about making memories we cherish with people we love. Slowing down to truly treasure our time together is the secret to a vacation we will truly enjoy and remember and won't exhaust us in the process!</p>
<p><strong>Anne Leedom</strong> is the Founder of Parentingbookmark<a href="https://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">.</a>com, a website offering tips on raising great kids. She is also the Founder of <a href="http://netconnectpublicity.com/" target="_blank">NetConnectPublicity.com</a>, a premier online PR firm based in Northern California. She frequently writes on family and travel for The Portola Resort and is a guest contributor on many national websites. For more information visit <a href="https://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2015-07-28T01:36:00Z
The Six Questions to Ask Yourself About Your BIG GOAL
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2015-07-06T07:41:00Z
2015-07-06T07:41:00Z
<strong><br /></strong><strong>Tamara Dorris</strong><br /><a href="http://www.tamaradorris.com" target="_blank">www.tamaradorris.com</a><a href="http://www.daisyswan.com/" target="_blank"></a><br /><br />Rocky Marciano—undefeated Heavy Weight Champion of the World; the epitome of laser like focus. Rocky had what I call an “internal obsession.” Three months before a fight he would seclude himself from the outside world, including his wife and kids. His attention was on diet, weight and muscle tone. He lived and breathed the upcoming event. <br /><br />Weeks before the fight he'd take no mail or calls. He was the fight. He saw his opponent's face in the punching bag and in everything he did. Sports writers spent years trying to understand what made Rocky so good in the ring, but they failed to realize it wasn’t just what he did IN the ring, but what he did in his MIND before he ever hit the ring. <br /><br />What an excellent example of discipline, perseverance and mental focus. Imagine what YOU can do with just a fraction of that kind of dedication. The sky really is the limit when you focus with the end in mind.<br /><br />Maybe your dream is to open your own business, meet the perfect mate, or write a bestselling book. While none of these may seem comparable to winning a heavyweight title, this is your life and that makes it pretty important. What areas of your day do you lose your "Marciano focus"<br /><br />For me personally, if I'm ever feeling like not following through with something on my task list, I'll think of Rocky. The man wouldn't even shake hands or drive in a car the few days prior to his big day in the ring…is it really so hard to return one more call or skip another handful of chips? We have to maintain that laser like focus in our own lives and for our own goals. <br /><br />Ultimately, you can do anything you set your mind on because where attention goes, energy flows. Make daily disciplines a do or die and like Rocky, you’ll be waving your arms in the air before long.<br /><br />I’ve come up with a short list of questions to help you recognize if you have “it,” because quite frankly, if you don’t, you may want to re-think the idea of investing too much money or time in something that doesn’t mean enough to you to withstand the test of time. <br /><br />Before you commit to anything big, ask yourself the following:<br />
<blockquote><strong>1. Do I want “it”</strong> so badly that it wakes me up at night?<br /><br /><strong>2. Am I willing to make sacrifices</strong> in nearly every area of my life to make it happen?<br /><br /><strong>3. Do I spend any free time</strong> I have planning, creating or dreaming toward it?<br /><br /><strong>4. Am I willing to take action every day</strong>, no matter how large or small, to take me closer to it?<br /><br /><strong>5. Is it my favorite</strong> topic under the sun to talk and think about?</blockquote>
And finally the big one:<br />
<blockquote><strong>6. Am I willing to step outside of my comfort zones and bust through my subconscious ceiling in order to achieve it? </strong></blockquote>
It's pretty sad, if you ask me, when so many of us put our dreams away for a more "realistic" life. In my estimation, following our heartfelt passions is about as real as it gets. I feel pretty sure that we each are born with gifts and talents that we are meant to take out to the world and share in the name of service…for which of course, we are greatly and abundantly rewarded for our badass-ness.<br /><br />Maybe it’s time you looked at the dream that keeps you up and night and ask yourself if today is the day you’d like to make it happen. What? You think it's too late? It's never too late. If it's in your heart, it's time to start. Your internal obsession is simply your higher self-urging you to get off the fence and take a stand. Make it happen. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Tamara Dorris, </strong>The author of 16 books, is also a certified hypnotherapist, with degrees in psychology and communications, with a special interest in neuroscience and quantum physics. She is also a college professor, workshop leader, and the host of a radio show where she interviews experts and bestselling authors from around the world. Connect with Tamara on her <a href="https://www.facebook.com/tamara.dorris.7" target="_blank">Facebook</a> page and <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/start/join?trk=login_reg_redirect&session_redirect=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.linkedin.com%2Fprofile%2Fview%3Fid%3D8596602%26trk%3Dnav_responsive_tab_profile_pic" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a>. For more information visit <a href="http://www.tamaradorris.com" target="_blank">www.tamaradorris.com</a>. ermission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br />
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2015-07-06T07:41:00Z
In a Rut? Five Steps to Get Unstuck
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2015-06-15T18:57:00Z
2015-06-15T18:57:00Z
<strong><br />by <strong><strong>Beverly Flaxington</strong></strong></strong><br /><a href="http://www.the-collaborative.com" target="_blank">www.the-collaborative.com</a><a href="http://www.daisyswan.com/" target="_blank"></a><br /><br />The days roll by and sometimes you might wonder, "What did I do today? Did I get any closer to my goals and dreams?" Life gets busy and you get focused on what has to be done, not what you want to do. Your goals could be anything from finally losing those last 5 pounds to changing your career or moving to a new location. <br /><br />Maybe every January you make the resolution that "this year will be THE year" but then before you know it, December rolls around and you are making the same resolution for next year. For many people, the rut just gets bigger and the opportunity to escape it seems less and less likely.<br /><br />There are many very legitimate reasons why people get stuck in a rut. Life really is demanding at times. There can be health issues, family issues, and financial concerns, and sometimes the focus has to be on the emergency at hand, not on the dreams to come. But no one wants to feel unfulfilled and as if life is one big unrealized dream. What can you do, even in the midst of your daily life, to get unstuck and start to take those steps forward to the long-held dream?<br /><br />Here are the five key steps to getting unstuck and moving toward where you want to go:<br /><ol>
<li><strong>Identify what success really looks like to you.</strong> Most people have a vague idea of what they want: more money, a bigger home, more time with the kids. But what does success really look like to you? For example, "more money" could also mean longer hours, a job you hate, and cutting back on all of your favorite things in order to save. It could mean feeling like you are missing out, instead of gaining something. Take the time to clearly define what you want - quantitative and qualitative descriptions. Then, once it's defined - write it down.</li>
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<li><strong>Catalog what's in the way. </strong>Why haven't you moved from the rut to this point? What keeps you stuck? Life is filled with obstacles that roll into our path just when things seem to be moving. What obstacles have you faced, or will you face, on the road to success? Write them down and then catalog them - those you can control, those you can influence and those out of your control. Working only on those you can control and you can influence gives you the power to move forward. Put the ones out of your control to the side.</li>
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<li><strong>Identify your strengths and areas for improvement.</strong> Sometimes the obstacle is you. Do you have the skills needed? Do you have the drive? Are you utilizing all of your strengths? Are you summoning your most powerful self? Spend some time in self-orientation, identifying what's working well and what's not, about you. You need to bring all of your best to the table.</li>
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<li><strong>Create a list of options.</strong> Sometimes people are stuck because they get into "one-way thinking." It's as if there is only one small opening in the room, and the person spends their life walking around in the darkness feeling their way to find it. There are probably many routes to get to your final destination. Some may be more circuitous than others, some less defined than others, but all eventually lead to your final successful destination. Brainstorm a number of ways to get there - the more options, the more opportunities.</li>
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<li><strong>Have a plan of action</strong>, even if it is to take one step every day for the next five years. Life is about the journey. If you don't know HOW you will get to where you want to go, you will remain lost. Define the steps and then just start taking them - one at a time.</li>
</ol><strong><br />Beverly D. Flaxington</strong>, The Human Behavior Coach ®, MBA, is a three-time bestselling and Gold-award winning author, international speaker, successful entrepreneur, business consultant, executive coach, Certified Hypnotherapist, college professor, corporate trainer, facilitator, and Certified Behavioral Analyst. She has created trademarked success models, is often interviewed and quoted on her views. She is also a mother of three children and actively involved in animal rescue. Learn more about her at <a href="http://the-collaborative.com/" target="_blank">www.the-collaborative.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br /><br />
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2015-06-15T18:57:00Z
Save Money on Kids' Easter Baskets
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2015-03-30T07:00:00Z
2015-03-30T07:00:00Z
<strong>By Tawra Kellam</strong><br /><a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/" target="_blank">LivingOnADime.com<br /></a><strong><br /><br />Easter Basket Ideas:</strong><br /><br />A reader asks:<br />
<blockquote><em>Got any inexpensive ideas for Easter gifts for the kids? Also, do you have any ideas that would focus on the real meaning of Easter and not just bunnies and eggs?</em></blockquote>
Easter is a great time of the year to celebrate, especially if you have the hope that comes from Jesus Christ and His resurrection. Here are some ideas for Easter gifts. Try some of them and if the creative juices start flowing, make up some of your own! Try our Resurrection Eggs, they are a great idea to help your family remember why we celebrate Easter.<br /><br /><strong>Easter Baskets:</strong><br /><br />You can find inexpensive Easter baskets at garage sales and thrift stores. I never spend more than .25 for one.<br /><br />If you don't have Easter baskets, you can also use:<br />
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<li>Plain wicker baskets </li>
<li>Baskets spray painted an Easter color </li>
<li>A cute straw hat </li>
<li>A pail for the sandbox </li>
<li>A bowl wrapped in tissue paper </li>
<li>Paper sacks that the kids decorate. </li>
<li>Cut out pictures from magazines or use stickers. </li>
<li>Glue or stick them on and then paint or color around them. </li>
<li>Any sort of plastic storage container. </li>
<li>These often can be used later for storage. </li>
<li>For a "family" Easter basket, set a nice plate on the table with Easter grass and goodies arranged on the plate or platter. </li>
<li>This is great when you have older kids.</li>
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<strong>Fillers for Easter Baskets:</strong><br />
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<li>Buy candy after Christmas or Valentine's Day at half price and keep to fill Easter baskets. </li>
<li>Make Easter cookies in the shapes of bunnies, eggs, crosses or any other Easter shape that comes to mind and decorate. </li>
<li>Popcorn Balls or Rice Krispie Treats colored in pastel colors. </li>
<li>String Froot Loops onto yarn and tie to make a necklace. </li>
<li>Don't fill baskets. Instead put jelly beans and candy in plastic eggs so the kids can fill their own baskets. You can also put nickels, dimes, toy soldiers, bugs, stickers, barrettes or hair ribbons in the eggs. Hide them outside or in the house if you live in a climate where it's usually cold on Easter. </li>
<li>Make coupons for getting out of chores, staying up late one night, having a friend over for a sleep over or a special dinner that they like. </li>
<li>Include like new books purchased at garage sales or thrift stores. </li>
<li>Homemade slime, play dough, sidewalk chalk, bubbles or the ingredients for crystal gardens. </li>
<li>Wacky crayons- Crayon pieces melted together in a muffin tin to make a "big" crayon. </li>
<li>Flower seeds that the kids can grow </li>
<li>Mini-stuffed animals purchased at garage sales or on clearance the year before. </li>
<li>Paper dolls or coloring books. There are many available on the Internet that you can print yourself. </li>
<li>For teenagers, put these items in baskets: lotions, soaps, suntan lotions, fingernail polish, movie tickets, tickets for getting out of a chore, ticket for $5 worth of car gas, clothes purchased on clearance and of course lots of candy! </li>
<li>Leave a trail of jelly beans or candy kisses from their rooms to their Easter baskets.</li>
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<strong>Easter Kisses</strong><br /><br />Put some Hershey Kisses or chocolate chips in a plastic bag and attach the following poem:<br /><br /> This cute little bunny has hopped all day<br /> Been delivering baskets for the holiday.<br /> His paws are so tired and his little nose itches.<br /> He left you something special-something to fill all your wishes.<br /> These cute little hugs and Easter kisses.<br /><br /><strong>Jelly Beans Easter Party<br /></strong><br />Put 1 Pound Jelly Beans into a bag and attach this poem:<br /> <br /> RED is for the blood He gave.<br /> GREEN is for the grass He made.<br /> YELLOW is for the sun so bright.<br /> ORANGE is for the edge of night.<br /> BLACK is for the sins we made.<br /> WHITE is for the grace he gave.<br /> PURPLE is for His hour of sorrow.<br /> PINK is for our new tomorrow.<br /> A bag full of jelly beans colorful and sweet,<br /> Is a prayer, is a promise, is a special treat.<br /><strong><br />Easter Carrot Treats</strong><br /><br />Buy disposable plastic decorating bags and fill them with orange jellybeans or cheese balls. Then stick some green Easter grass in the top of the bag (leave some hanging out) and secure the bag with a rubber band and then ribbon so that it resembles a carrot.<br /><br /><strong>Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam</strong> are frugal living experts and the authors of the <em>Dining On A Dime Cookbook</em>. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt, by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes, including gardening tips, visit <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/" target="_blank">LivingOnADime.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2015-03-30T07:00:00Z
Love the Work, Hate the Boss? Transform to Create Opportunities at Work and Home
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2015-03-16T16:39:00Z
2015-03-16T16:39:00Z
<strong><br />by <strong>Daisy Swan</strong></strong><br /><a href="http://www.daisyswan.com/" target="_blank">www.DaisySwan.com</a><br /><br />Working for a boss who you butt heads with is never pleasant. In fact, studies show most people leave their jobs because of a bad relationship with their boss. So it won't surprise you that many of my clients come to me because they want to leave a boss they can't bear to work with anymore even though the work may be just what they want. Below are actions anyone can take to shift their perspective and find new solutions to workplace strife.<br /><br />
<blockquote><strong>1. The grass is greener where you water it. </strong>Start looking for ways to water the dry, barren land of your relationship with your boss. A client of mine, in a frustrating and difficult relationship with her boss, began doing a regular 10 minutes a day mindfulness practice that I taught her. <br /><br />We agreed she would begin cultivating compassion for herself and others through a meditation focused on kindness. She was surprised to notice how quickly her thoughts transformed about who her boss was as a woman, and what triggered their difficulties together. <br /><br />My client's curiosity began to open up...which toes might she be stepping on without awareness? And why wasn't she connecting with her peers? <br /><br /><br /><strong>2. Notice opportunities to connect with others. </strong>As her stillness practice continued, my client found more opportunities for micro changes in how she could contribute positively with her boss and coworkers. She turned her attention towards learning about, and being with, her co-workers instead of looking mostly at what she wanted to develop for herself at work. <br /><br />Paradoxically, as she shifted her attention to include others, she began to get more of what she wanted, too.<br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Invest in your happiness outside of work.</strong> Instead of coming home aggravated and resigned to numbing herself in front of the TV each evening, my client started paying attention to her own creative projects. <br /><br />She learned new techniques and technology to create some of the ideas she'd been mulling. She found she loved making art with new software she found. Remarkably, co-workers began asking what had happened to her, and that she seemed so different at work, happier and easier to be with. Her happiness shifted those relationships at work, and with her own creativity. <br /><br /><br /><strong>4. Continue a regular mindful awareness practice at home</strong>, but also with others. As my client found a way to find more peace in herself, she chose to look for places where she could meet others who also chose to meditate. <br /><br />By spending time at various meditation centers now and again she met more people who in turn became a part of her larger network of friends and associates.</blockquote>
<br /><strong><br />Daisy Swan</strong> is a mindful awareness meditation trainer with 21st Century Attention Meditation Services; <a href="http://www.21stcenturyattention.com/" target="_blank">www.21stCenturyAttention.com</a>, as well as founder of Daisy Swan & Associates, <a href="http://www.daisyswan.com/" target="_blank">www.DaisySwan.com</a>, a career coaching firm that supports clients of all ages across all career paths to find and create the lives they long for. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2015-03-16T16:39:00Z
6 Ways a Hug a Day Keeps Illness Away
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2015-03-02T22:43:00Z
2015-03-02T22:43:00Z
<strong><br />by Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC</strong><br /><a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a><br /><br />New research suggests that prevention of infections and reducing stress-related illness might be as simple as a hug from a trusted person. The findings of this latest research were published in <em>Psychological Science</em>. It found the physical act of hugging is associated with protection from the effects of depression and anxiety, as well as lessening the number of stress-induced infections and severe illness symptoms.<br /><br />The research team studied hugging as an example of social support, because hugs are typically a marker of having a more intimate and close relationship with another person. People who have ongoing conflicts with others are less able to fight off cold viruses and infection. The interesting fact is what hugging represents to the participants. They stated hugging made them feel more connected, more supported, more validated and intimate with the hugger, which had a direct effect on their immune system. The researchers went on to say that those who receive more hugs are somewhat more protected from infection.<br /><br /><strong>If you've decided to become healthier, in addition to watching your diet and exercising, you may want to add hugging to your list of daily activities.</strong><br /><br />Here are six ways to protect your health and relationships with hugs:<br /><br /><ol>
<li>Studies show people who are hugged regularly by their close friends and family have reduced blood pressure, lower heart rates and feel more connected to one another.</li>
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<li>People who are contented in their marriages report frequent hugging and non-sexual touching.</li>
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<li>Couples who report hugging or cuddling frequently also report feeling more emotionally connected to their partner. They also reported feeling more secure than non-hugging/minimal-touch couples.</li>
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<li>Ten minutes of hand-holding or hugging greatly reduced couples' reported stress and the harmful effects of stress on their body.</li>
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<li>The release of oxytocin in the body from hugging helps foster a healthy immune system.</li>
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<li>Children who grow up watching their parents hug feel more secure and perform better in school. </li>
</ol><br />Don't forget the most important gift you can give all year round, the gift of belonging, being valued and being emotionally connected to your loved ones. Something as simple as a hug can provide those feelings and it doesn't cost you a thing.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, </strong>is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman of <em>Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever</em>. Read more about the book at <a href="http://www.StartTalkingBook.com" target="_blank">StartTalkingBook.com</a> and more about Rapini at <a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2015-03-02T22:43:00Z
How Can You Increase Your Exercise Motivation?
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2015-02-17T21:06:00Z
2015-02-17T21:06:00Z
<strong><br />By Dr. Karen Ruskin<br /></strong><a href="http://www.drkarenruskin.com/associates/" target="_blank">DrKkarenRuskin.com </a><a href="http://www.valuepenguin.com/" target="_blank"></a>
<p><br />We all have days when we'd rather sit on the couch and binge watch our favorite shows than head to the gym, but what makes some people get up and go anyway while others stay put?<a href="http://munews.missouri.edu/news-releases/2014/0415-genetic-pre-disposition-toward-exercise-and-mental-development-may-be-linked-mu-study-finds/" target="_blank"> A study out of the University of Missouri</a> may have the answer - at least a preliminary one. Frank Booth, a professor at the MU College of Veterinary Medicine, and his research team found a link between exercise motivation and genetics in rats by selectively breeding ones that exhibited traits of either extreme activity or extreme laziness. They say these rats indicate that genetics could play a role in exercise motivation in humans as well.<br /><br />After observing several hundred rats in exercise and non-exercise scenarios (through 10 generations), Booth found there could be a link between the genes responsible for exercise motivation and early exposure to exercise opportunities. The rats bred for running sought out exercise 10 times more than the group of rats not exposed to the running wheel at a young age. In other words, rats exposed at a young age to exercise options tended to seek out exercise throughout the rest of their lives.<br /><br />"This study illustrates a potentially important link between exercise and the development of these neural pathways," Booth said in a release on the research. "Ultimately, this could show the benefits of exercise for mental development in humans, especially young children with constantly growing brains." It also supports the notion that early exposure to exercise can be influential in raising children who want to be physically active.<br /><br /><strong>Other Reasons You May Avoid Exercising</strong><br /><br />There are many reasons beyond a possible genetic predisposition to laziness that people avoid exercise, according to Michael George, Body Soul Fitness & Lifestyle Transformation Coach and author of Body Express Makeover. "Fear of failure, intimidation, inability to commit to a new routine, underestimating the value of their health and low pain threshold are some of the most common," he says. For some, being less than perfect is also an issue.<br /><br />"Perfectionism haunts them and holds them back," says George. "If they can't do it perfectly, they won't even try."<br /><br />Laziness is on his list, too, but the number one excuse he hears for avoiding exercise is not having "enough time." Sound familiar?<br /><br /><strong>So How Can You Increase Exercise Motivation?</strong><br /><br />Instead of allowing your excuses to steal away the opportunity for better health, George says to find something - anything - that inspires you to be active.<br /><br />"Get moving, do anything that's physical - a walk, yard work, hiking, bike riding - that gets your heart rate up," suggests George. "Find an activity you enjoy and make it a hobby.<br /><br />"As far as the particulars of Booth's study, George says it's too soon to draw too many conclusions where humans are concerned.<br /><br />"More clinical research in humans, with a larger sample size and control groups need to be further researched," says George. "From a genetic and neurological perspective there may be some truth to their finding in rats but more research is needed."<br /><br />In the meantime, put down the remote and find your own fitness motivation.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Karen Ruskin</strong> authored and published the cutting edge parenting book: <em><a href="http://www.drkarenruskin.com/purchase-books/9-techniques-raising-children/" target="_blank">The 9 Key Techniques For Raising Respectful Children Who Make Responsible Choices</a></em> and her newest release; the must read marriage book: <em><a href="http://www.drkarenruskin.com/purchase-books/dr-karens-marriage-manual/" target="_blank">Dr. Karen's Marriage Manual</a></em>. As of February 2010 Dr. Karen became a columnist for <em>Pediatrics for Parents</em>, a pediatric journal. Her column is: "Dr. Karen Explains". She is often interviewed for and quoted in various magazines and newspapers including; <em>FOX Business, Men's Health, USA Today, Care.com, TIME, abcnews.com, The Boston Globe, Boston Herald, Parents Magazine, Baby Talk, Woman's Day</em>, and more . . . <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2015-02-17T21:06:00Z
Should You Put Items On Layaway?
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2015-02-09T20:10:00Z
2015-02-09T20:10:00Z
<strong><br />By Padmini Parthasarathy</strong><br /><a href="http://www.valuepenguin.com/" target="_blank">ValuePenguin.com</a>
<p><br />Valentine's Day shopping can often be overwhelming and expensive. When looking for ways to budget, layaway is an option to consider. Parents might remember it from the '80s when people would put their intended purchases on layaway in case they were sold out before they got the money together to buy it. <br /><br />Many big box stores had payment options, usually involving some sort of down payment and several subsequent payments. Layaway can be a good option for families and households trying to pace their spending. However, there are some pitfalls to watch out for. <br /><br /><strong>If you're planning on spending a small amount, it's probably worth using plastic.</strong> Buying items with credit gets a bad rap sometimes. However, assuming that you pay your bill on time, your interest rate is 0. Most layaway plans have a $5 to $10 service fee, which amounts to 5 - 10 % interest. That's 5 - 10 % more you're paying than you would be had you just paid on your credit card. Also, remember that you don't walk away with the merchandise until you have made the final payment. If you buy with credit, you walk away with your purchases and you can return the items for a full refund if necessary. <br /><br /><strong>Merchandise is flowing and abundant now. </strong>Shoppers used to opt for layaway to snag those hot toys and items before they sold out. The science of merchandising has improved rapidly in the last 15 years, and it is extremely unlikely nowadays that you won't be able to find and purchase the item you want. Online shopping mitigates the risk even more. If your sole reason for putting items away on layaway is to lock in your items before they run out, try online shopping instead. <br /><br /><strong>You might lose out on great sales. </strong>In most layaway contracts, you are locked into the price of the items from when you signed the papers. If you happen to see a great deal on some items you put on layaway, you'll have to pass them up or pay a cancellation fee, which might make the new discount useless. <br /><br /><strong>You have to make sure you can pay in full. </strong>Here's the big kicker with layaway. Unless you can pay the full amount before your contract expires (and in some cases, you are held to very strict payment plans that punish you for not paying the right amounts on time), you forfeit all the money you had put in. If you don't pay on time, you're subject to a cancellation fee in addition to the service fee you had initially put in as well as the payments you had made, and you walk away empty-handed. Your budgeting has to be immaculate, or you might end up finding that you cannot make the final payment when the time comes. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Padmini Parthasarathy</strong> is an analyst at <a href="http://www.valuepenguin.com/" target="_blank">ValuePenguin.com</a>, a personal finance research and analysis website. She covers the story behind the numbers on consumer finance topics ranging from household spending to dating. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2015-02-09T20:10:00Z
Do You Know Your Life's Purpose?
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2015-01-26T18:35:00Z
2015-01-26T18:35:00Z
<strong><br />Tina Anderson</strong><br /><a href="http://www.tinaandersonoc.com/" target="_blank">www.tinaandersonoc.com</a>
<p>One of the greatest gifts you can give someone is your own personal development and enrichment. The utmost gift - the gift that keeps on giving, is discovering your purpose in life, but how many of us truly believe we know our life's purpose? I'm offering up a simplified answer that you've probably never seen before and a way to help you find yours.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Listen to compliments and do not disregard that which comes easy and natural.</strong> If what you do impresses or positively affects others, don't shrug it off. It's a talent. For what do you often receive compliments? (From your smile to your skills as a surgeon.) What aspects of the process are appealing? </li>
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<li><strong>When you have experienced flow? </strong>This is a state of complete absorption usually involving something challenging. Time seems to stop. When, where, what and why? </li>
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<li><strong>Ask the "what would you do if you didn't have to make money" question but dig deeper.</strong> In what situations would rather peel onions than (fill in the blank)? Then, head the opposite direction with your question and see what you discover. </li>
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<li><strong>Stop multi-tasking, start focusing.</strong> What distracts or keeps you focused and why. Where do you naturally gravitate?</li>
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<li><strong>Find the common denominators when you feel fulfilled. </strong>What were you doing? Describe your feelings and what you accomplished. </li>
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<li><strong>Thinkers take note (and, I'm one of them) find your feelings. </strong>Skip the pro/con or the advantage/disadvantage lists and silence your pragmatic side. Use "I feel" instead of "I think" and ask what your heart would say if it could talk. Ban woulda-coulda-shoulda's such as "I should find a way to use my master's degree" and replace it with "what do I want my legacy to be." </li>
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<li><strong>Pray, meditate, journal and trust your intuition</strong> - with all of the above in mind and also for clarity or healing. Weave together your responses and look for patterns. Are you blocked from your true identity, worth and expression? Your life purpose might be hidden. </li>
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<p><br /><strong>The simplified answer.</strong> <br /><br /><em>Your life purpose shape shifts with you no matter where you go or what you do. It is the single, most productive, positive and natural thing you do that emanates from your soul and speaks on your behalf - all the time, when you are your authentic self.</em> You don't even realize you are doing it until you gain awareness. It's like your third arm. You vibrate with it 24/7. When you pour it on, it's a catalyst or a game-changer. It's your brand. It's visceral. You were born with it. We attach it to work because that is where it often manifests. For example, being a police officer is not intrinsically a life purpose. Officer A might be a natural "peacekeeper" in all areas of life. Officer B could have the purpose of bringing calmness. Officer C might have the gift of infusing confidence.<em> Same job. Different life purposes. </em>Those officers would bring their natural gifts to<em> any </em>situation. <br /><br /><strong>How I found mine.</strong> I looked at the common thread in everything that I love to do and everything that comes naturally. I acknowledged significant and consistent compliments. I recognized that which I simply <em>can't not do it (pardon the grammar).</em> So, here it is. My purpose is to be uplifting and joyful and to inject positive vibrations and energy into any situation, and my goal is now focused on the best way to accomplish that. What a fantastic way to look for work or worthiness. Imagine the collective energy if we were all connected with our life's purpose and expressing it for greater good. I truly believe it's what makes "the world go 'round." No purpose is insignificant. </p>
<p><br /><strong>Tina Anderson</strong> is an award-winning fitness and media specialist, blogger, on-air personality and co-host of a music/talk show for radio and cable. Tina enjoys a life filled with levity, inspiration and strong living and shares tips on how to do the same. Tina and her husband are blessed with 26+ years, two teenage boys and three Basset Hounds. For more information visit <a href="http://www.tinaandersonoc.com/" target="_blank">http://tinaandersonOC.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2015-01-26T18:35:00Z
6 Reasons Why You Are Smoking Today
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2015-01-19T22:02:00Z
2015-01-19T22:02:00Z
<strong><br /><br />Brian Keelan</strong><br /><a href="http://www.briankeelan.com/" target="_blank">www.briankeelan.com</a>
<p><br />Every smoker wishes they were an ex-smoker... at least every smoker I've ever met. Sadly for most of them, those wishes will never come true. The reason for that is simple. They don't know how to do it and their other problem is, they probably aren't aware that quitting smoking is a learnable skill. <br /><br />When you think about it, learning how to do something before you try to do it is how we accomplish just about everything we have ever done in this life. Yet when it comes to the issue of quitting smoking, I have never heard that approach taken by anybody... except me.<br /><br />After failing to quit on over 70 different occasions during my 40 years as a smoker, learning how to do it before I tried to do it was the only way that worked for me.The first step a smoker needs to take in learning how to quit smoking is to understand why you do it. Here are 6 major reasons why you are smoking today: <br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... you are addicted to the drug nicotine.</strong> You do not smoke to relieve tension. You do not have a "smoking habit." You were not "born to smoke." The only reason you do it is because lighting and smoking a cigarette makes the urge to do it go away... but only for about 48 minutes. Ask yourself this question: if you didn't get regular, overwhelming urges to smoke a cigarette, would you do it?</li>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... you have rationalized doing it. </strong>You do this so you can come to terms with the fact you are doing something you know full well, makes absolutely no sense whatsoever and is in fact extremely dangerous and very expensive. If you didn't personally deny the real reason you smoke by rationalizing your smoking and coming up with a, "good reason" for smoking... you would be wondering every time you lit a cigarette if this one... was "the one"... the cigarette of no return.; the cigarette that would make an early painful death irreversible. Try rationalizing that.</li>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... the cigarette industry has been successful in 'recruiting' you into its ranks.</strong> They probably got you at a pretty young age since almost 90% of all smokers start before they turn 19. The tobacco industry has done - are still doing - and will continue to do - anything and everything they can get away with in order to get you and our kids addicted to nicotine. </li>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... the government wants you to smoke.</strong> Now they have a good reason for doing that. They want your money. They don't really care what happens to you. If they did, they'd do something about it and stop providing the tobacco industry with new "customers."</li>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... you did not fully understand what would happen to you when you took your first drag. </strong>If you had known that you were going to take 7 to 15 years off your life and there was a 50-50 chance you would die because of it after years of indescribable pain... that you would become addicted to the toughest drug there is to kick and would need to earn hundreds of thousands of dollars to keep your addiction satisfied, you probably never would have taken that first drag. That's why they had to get you when you were young... just as they get most of their victims. Once you learned what happened when you stuck your hand in the fire, you stopped doing it... unless you were addicted to doing it.</li>
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<li><strong>You are smoking today because... you do not know how to quit!</strong> Like I said at the beginning, if you don't approach quitting smoking as a learnable skill, you will probably never learn how to do it and the odds you will be able to quit will remain stacked against you.</li>
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<li><strong>Learning how to quit smoking is not rocket science.</strong> It's a matter of learning what you need to do, doing the work and then making it happen. You may fail - maybe even more than once - but if you learn from failure and adjust your skill set, you not only can do it... you will do it.</li>
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<p>Just picture yourself two months from now: you're not smoking, you've made it through the first two weeks, sure there is still the odd "moment" but they are beginning to fade, they are much less intense, and your plan for dealing with them is working. You are winning. You are getting healthy. You are saving money bigtime! Just thinking about it feels good doesn't it?<br /><br /><br /><strong>Brian Keelan</strong>, quit smoking after smoking over 400,000 cigarettes and failing to quit smoking over 70 times during his 40 year addiction to nicotine. He finally quit smoking forever - over 90,000 cigarettes and $45,000 after-tax dollars ago. He is the author of HOW TO QUIT SMOKING AND SAVE YOUR LIFE. It is available in e-book form at <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Quit-Smoking-Save-Your-Life-ebook/dp/B004V55THY/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1417714295&sr=1-1&keywords=how+to+quit+smoking+and+Save+your+life" target="_blank">Amazon Kindle</a> , <a href="http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/28448" target="_blank">Smashwords</a> and at iTunes. It is also available as an audiobook at <a href="http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/How-to-Quit-Smoking-and-Save-Your-Life-Audiobook/B00LOTR16M/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srTtl?qid=1417714594&sr=1-1" target="_blank">Audible.com</a> and iTunes. For more information please go <a href="http://www.briankeelan.com/" target="_blank">www.thequitsmokingguy.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2015-01-19T22:02:00Z
Instead of Resolution, Consider Evolution
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2014-12-22T08:00:00Z
2014-12-22T08:00:00Z
<strong>By Mary Jayne Rogers</strong><br /><a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">DoctorMaryJayne.com</a><br /><br />
<p>The New Year is the time when millions of Americans contemplate things we would like to change in our lives as we bid farewell to the old and welcome in the new. Most commonly we resolve to lose weight or exercise more. Sometimes we pledge to give up a chronic behavior we know is not healthy such as drinking alcohol, smoking, or over spending. The statistics vary, but no matter which reference you choose, the success rate of resolutions is dismal - ranging from approximately 8-45%. That means over half and probably closer to 90% of those who make a resolution will fail.</p>
<p>I do not like to use the "f-word" (Fail). In this case however, I use it to illustrate how we feel when we try to better ourselves and simply don't accomplish what we set out to do. We feel like failures. We throw in the towel and resume the unhealthy behavior. Sometimes we recommence with enthusiastic fervor, which only causes us to spiral further down the rabbit hole.</p>
<p>There is a lot science behind goal setting that can help foster success. The conventional wisdom includes setting small, specific, attainable goals that have a time reference, can be measured and rewarded. This is good advice.</p>
<p>This year however, I am going to suggest a different approach. Instead of <em>resolution,</em> consider <em>evolution</em>. To stand at the first of the year and resolve to change is a monumental act, which is only rarely productive and most frequently destructive. Instead, I propose that moving forward, every moment is an opportunity to remember, to make conscious decisions, and to evolve toward a more healthful and gratifying life. </p>
<p>In this new paradigm, we are managing our success instead of hurling ourselves toward failure. We offer ourselves ongoing occasions to consider our situation and make mindful choices about our lives - continually as opposed to annually. </p>
<p>Alcoholics Anonymous gives us a broad example of how this can work over a lifetime by making a daily commitment not to drink alcohol. The new <em>evolution</em> paradigm takes this concept and boils it down to living consciously and mindfully as frequently as you can throughout the day.</p>
<p>When you begin this pattern of thoughtfulness, your awareness is likely to expand well beyond the single goal you started out with. You may begin with simply being mindful about making healthier food choices. This may lead to taking a small step, like substituting coconut oil for corn oil. This in turn may cause you to begin to read labels; perhaps give up processed food. You may find a local source for organic produce or begin to grow your own. Perhaps your new gardening skills would be a fun way to contribute to a school or community garden.</p>
<p>In this way, the <em>evolution</em> model helps you not only to achieve the smaller goal of eating more healthfully, but to progress toward cultivating a sense of personal well-being, which in turn generates positive change in your immediate environment. The goodness in the energy you generate pays itself forward and the small change you initiated can be the seed of greater awareness in your community and the world. </p>
<p>Lastly, the beauty of the <em>evolution</em> concept is that while the New Year is a significant time to look back at what has been and to consider what will be, it is not the grand turning point for change. Transformation begins every time we make a conscious choice to be better; in our health, our thoughts, our actions, and our words. It is not harsh or doctrinaire. You can do it now. You can do it any time. Simply resolve to <em>evolve</em>.</p>
<br /><strong>Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers</strong> is an exercise physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness and fitness education and instruction. As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages. Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. For more information visit <a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">DoctorMaryJayne.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2014-12-22T08:00:00Z
'Earth to Echo' is a Mere Echo of 'E.T.'
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2014-11-10T18:00:00Z
2014-11-10T18:00:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Rated PG </strong><br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused grade: B- </strong><br /><strong>Running time: 1 hour, 29 minutes</strong><br /><strong>Available for rent or on DVD </strong><br /><br />Three childhood friends Tuck, Alex, and Munch are on a mission to save their suburban neighborhood from having a freeway built through it. On the last night before demolition begins and their families are set to move, the middle schoolers act on the cryptic maps that have been taking over their phones by embarking on an all-night adventure to find out if they have any merit. They soon discover a lost alien named Echo and find themselves fighting for much more than their homes and personal security, but for Echo's well-being.<br /><br /><em>Earth to Echo</em> has a coming-of-age, band of brothers plot we've seen many times before. The bantering and tight bonds are reminiscent of <em>Stand By Me</em>. The early-teen humor and guffaws are like <em>Goonies</em>. Most viewers old enough will think of<em> E.T.</em> And while the plot has elements of <em>E.T.</em> there's too much technology talk and not as much lighthearted fun with Echo as there was with <em>E.T.</em>, which targets<em> Earth to Echo</em> audiences to kids at least 10 and older.<br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused grades for Earth to Echo </strong><br /><br /><strong>Compelling story line: B<br /></strong>Like <em>Ferris Bueller's Day Off</em>, the trio of friends set off on an adventure together. As the answer to the maps unfolds, they share many experiences. The film being shot like a video diary will appeal to Millennials. Still, too much tech-talk muddies the plot. "It was boring," said my 8 and 6-year-old daughters.<br /><br /><strong>Strong message: B</strong><br />The kids dupe their parents into sneaking out, which is a running joke throughout the movie. The adults are depicted as negligent at best. <br /><br />Families can talk about compromise, the role technology plays in our lives and how it helps/ hinder it, as well as discuss whether life could exist outside Earth. <br /><br /><strong>Leading character is a role model: A</strong><br />Alex lives in foster homes, Tuck's parents don't pay much attention to him and Munch is nerdy, but has a heart of gold. The three friends are all quirky outcasts in their own ways, yet they have strong, loyal bonds with each other. "I'll always have your back; I'll never let you down," Tuck tells Alex at one point, which is reflective of their actions throughout. The boys are just as loyal to their mission and to Echo.<br /><br /><strong>Sexual or adult content: C </strong><br />Tuck lies about kissing a girl throughout. He says spy glasses will get the girls .<br /><br />One character jokes, "I'm sleeping in your Mom's bed."<br /><br />In one scene the youths attend a high school party where kids are drinking out of red cups and some are acting drunk. Tuck's brother is passed out in the bathtub, presumably drunk.<br /><br />A girl joins the group and in an awkward moment lies and says one of the boys is her boyfriend.<br /><br /><strong>Language and Violence: B-</strong><br />The shaky, video diary cinematography and music can be spooky at times. The word "crap" is used several times throughout. The villain isn't overly scary. <br /><br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Earth to Echo: B- <br /> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-11-10T18:00:00Z
8 Ways to Create a Healthier You
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2014-10-13T19:13:00Z
2014-10-13T19:13:00Z
<strong><br /><br />Evelyn Roberts Brooks</strong><br /><a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/" target="_blank">evelynbrooks.com</a><br />
<p><br />Everyone I know wants more vibrant health, a body that is toned and flexible, and an abundance of energy. In fact, five of the top ten New Year's resolutions each year relate to improving one's health.<br /><br /><strong>There are only two reasons you don't have great health (or you fear losing it):</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>You lack the awareness your thoughts create your results</li>
<li>You haven't learned how to keep your mental attention focused on what you do want long enough for it to become your reality. </li>
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<p>Our emotionally charged expectations produce the results we see and experience in our lives. For instance, you may have heard in the news women should get tested for the BRCA gene mutation and then, if testing positive, have their ovaries removed to prevent cancer. Although preventative surgery may help a woman temporarily relieve her emotional stress about getting cancer, unless she also changes her fear-based thinking habits, she remains at risk for additional unwanted results, not only in her health, but other areas of her life.<br /><br />Throughout time, our society has had a dark undercurrent of minimizing the trauma to women's bodies and emotional health from rape, assault, molestation, clitoral circumcision, sexual slavery, pornography, legal ownership of a wife's body, property, and her children, as well as over-prescribed hysterectomies and mastectomies. <br /><br />Let's embrace the concept of the female body as sacred. Believing in the feminine sacred leads us naturally towards taking actions that are respectful and harmonious, rather than destructive. <br /><br />Whatever your mind believes, your body expresses in an exact harmonious match. Fear-based thoughts and a focus on what you do not want result in attracting unwanted medical conditions, as if you'd ordered them from a menu. <br /><br />You have the power to begin attracting the health you desire, no matter what condition your body is expressing today. If you align steadily and consistently with thoughts of wellness, your body will become healthier. That's not a fanciful wish; that is a law of science.<br /><br />Here are eight ways to manifest improved health, starting today:</p>
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<li><strong>Create a positive goal statement.</strong> Read it frequently, to imprint the desire on your subconscious mind. "I am so happy and grateful now that my health is in the process of getting better and better every day. I enjoy vigorous vitality!"</li>
<li><strong>Stop mentally hanging out with illness.</strong> Avoid complaining about your body. That's junk food thinking. Align yourself with how it feels to be happy and healthy. This raises your energy. Trick your mind into believing you already have the optimum results you desire, and your body will respond - it will change to match that imagined state of wellbeing.</li>
<li><strong>Stop comparing yourself.</strong> Notice when you are comparing yourself to others, and worrying you'll get their disease. Instead, model your thoughts and behavior after those who enjoy wellbeing.</li>
<li><strong>Pay attention.</strong> Be aware of when your thinking drifts into old notions about conquering disease. An emotional battle keeps you on the Fear Channel. By focusing on disease, even if you don't get cancer, you'll attract similar low-level conditions, such as job loss, an accident, and other unwanted events.</li>
<li><strong>Raise your joy radar.</strong> Use the power of gratitude to elevate yourself onto the high vibration of the Joy Channel.</li>
<li><strong>Stop and think.</strong> Whenever you're nervous or upset, use the "W.A.I.T." process. My acronym W.A.I.T. is a reminder to notice whether you are nurturing negative or positive thoughts by asking: What Am I Tweaking? </li>
<li><strong>Distract.</strong> Any time you find it difficult to keep your thoughts off what you don't want to attract, distract yourself. Take a nap, go for a walk, play with your kids or pet, or watch a comedy movie. During that time, the relief you feel means you are not attracting the undesired results.</li>
<li><strong>Meditate daily. </strong>My bonus gift at the link below includes meditations to start using now.</li>
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<p>It may seem unfair that thinking about something you don't want brings it to you. But once you grasp your power to create desired outcomes by focusing on what you do want, I think you'll agree it's not only possible, but also definite that you'll enjoy a healthier body from this day forward.</p>
<p><strong>Evelyn Roberts Brooks</strong> is a bestselling author, speaker and transformational life coach. Go to <a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/" target="_blank">evelynbrooks.com</a> to enjoy over 400 free articles, free webinar invitations and to receive your <strong>free</strong> 3-Way Guilt & Stress Busters gift collection. To learn more about W.A.I.T. and other tools for working in harmony with the universal laws, see her book, "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/1452586675/?tag=foyotrgeha-20" target="_blank">You Were Born to Triumph: Create a Five-Star Life in Your Quantum Kitchen</a>." For your free parenting workshop video gift, "The Secret to Family Harmony, " and articles about raising great children and enjoying a happy family life, <a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/parenting-articles/" target="_blank">click here</a>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2014-10-13T19:13:00Z
5 Tips to Release Stress to Live a Happier Life
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2014-10-06T19:42:00Z
2014-10-06T19:42:00Z
<p><strong><br />By Carol Whitaker</strong><br /><a href="http://www.CarolWhitaker.com" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com</a><br /><br /><br />Do you want to be happier? If so, then make it a point to release stress regularly. We often have stress without even realizing it, but your body does. When you feel worried and strained your body is yelling with an 'energy megaphone' that you're off course of living a joyful life, as you were created to do.<br /><br />Stress plays havoc on the body in a myriad of ways: ill health, diseases, contention, mental fatigue, adrenal fatigue, weight gain, sleep disorders, confusion, anxiety, fear, and unhappiness are some of the results. Luckily, when you feel stressed, you can release that stress and get back in synch with your happy self.<br /><br />It is your innate nature to be HAPPY! Let go of the stresses in your life to allow yourself to be free of the burden of worries and concerns. Below are 5 tips to help you to release stress and live a happy, more fulfilling life.<br /><br /></p>
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<li><strong>Have positive self-talk.</strong> Harness the power of your mind by having a positive inner dialog by living in the moment. Creating a new mantra of life-supporting beliefs will enable you to accomplish your goals and dreams, and this will help to ease your stress and bring about fulfillment and peace. </li>
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<li><strong>Let go once and for all.</strong> Practice letting go of what bothers you once and for all. Holding on to resentment or anger does nothing but bring your emotional health and wellness down. It doesn't do you any good to hold onto ill memories. Make it a habit of forgiving and letting go. Focus on life lessons learned and look for the good in all you do and with everyone you associate with. </li>
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<li><strong>Eat clean and exercise often.</strong> Eat a healthy diet that is filled with lean proteins, fruits, veggies, complex carbohydrates and clean fats to keep your body healthy. In addition, make sure you exercise regularly to release those feel-good endorphins, which ease stress and increase your energy levels.</li>
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<li><strong>Be charitable.</strong> Giving brings joy to the heart and releases tension. Make it a habit to give generously. Charity is a high energy vibration of creation which will attract much more to you in return to be grateful for. </li>
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<li><strong>Dance and sing stress away.</strong> Play fun, upbeat music and sing and dance your stress away to improve your mood and increase your energy. The more you are active doing what you love to do, the more relaxed you will be.</li>
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<p><br />By incorporating these stress releasing tips into your life, you will be happier, healthier and more content. Say <em>goodbye</em> to stress and welcome bliss! </p>
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<p><strong>Carol Whitaker</strong> is the author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ridiculously-Happy-Secret-Manifesting-Dreams/dp/0991313208/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1389044826&sr=8-1&keywords=carol+whitaker" target="_blank">Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams</a></em>. As a highly sought-after holistic lifestyle fitness coach and happiness expert, Carol dedicates herself to empowering men and women around the world to love and believe in themselves fully. She is well-known for the amazing transformations she creates in her clients' lives. Carol is an ongoing featured expert on national media and online websites. She is a happily married mother of three and is an avid equestrian. Follow her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/CarolWhitakerCoaching" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/LivFitCoach" target="_blank">Twitter</a> to receive her health, happiness and fitness tips. Visit <a href="http://www.carolwhitaker.com/" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com</a> and learn about her coaching services and to receive free gifts to help you unleash your power within to live a <em>ridiculously happy</em> life!. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-10-06T19:42:00Z
4 Quick Tricks to Overcome Procrastination
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2014-09-02T19:00:00Z
2014-09-02T19:00:00Z
<strong><br />Evelyn Roberts Brooks</strong><br /><a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/" target="_blank">evelynbrooks.com<br /></a><br />
<p>Why is it that we don't do what we know we should do? We've heard it before, time and again: itemize tasks by priority, then work on our projects in that order. And yet, even if we've made the list, we tend to focus on the most familiar endeavors first, and then we run out of time and energy for the most important ones.</p>
<p>Procrastination is a sly devil that convinces you to put off what you know is crucial, and instead fill your day with busy tasks that do little to contribute to your overall success and happiness. If you feel stuck on a treadmill of missed deadlines and opportunities, these four habits will launch you into a new mindset of timely action:</p>
<p><strong><br />1. Make a Habit of Prioritizing Tasks</strong></p>
<p>Every evening, write a list of the six most important things to accomplish the following day that will move you toward your big goals, such as making a phone call that would connect you with a possible promotion or outlining a project you've dreamed of doing.</p>
<p>Ask yourself frequently during the day: Am I moving toward my big goals, or am I spinning in circles with busywork?</p>
<p>Successful people make a habit of doing what is required for progress, not because they enjoy all the top priority tasks, but because they understand the long-term value of doing them anyway.</p>
<p><strong><br />2. Use a Chunk-by-Chunk Timeline</strong></p>
<p>The opposite of procrastination is being proactive. When we discipline our mind, we give ourselves a command (e.g., <em>Finalize this report by four o'clock</em>) and then follow through. It takes less energy to do work when you first have the task in front of you, than to put it off, worrying about it more and more, until it becomes a headache or disaster.</p>
<p>When we procrastinate, we lean into the ready excuses of why something else, usually something easier, is more crucial to do first, leaving the important things to spill over into the next day, and the next.</p>
<p>Many times, procrastination arises when there is no deadline or sense of urgency, and important projects get trundled off to the eventual panicked rush at the deadline.</p>
<p>Break down your big projects into activity chunks, allowing ample time for each segment. A simple list or calendar will work. Keep the first action step as close to today's date as possible. Otherwise, your former pal "procrastination" will convince you to start next week, next month, next year…next decade!</p>
<p><strong><br />3. Picture It Completed</strong></p>
<p>If you've ever needed to clear your desk or de-clutter the house before vacation or a special event, you automatically went into high gear. You did the most crucial things and left the rest for later. More likely than not, you were spurred on by the event or trip. That picture in your mind of what you would be enjoying soon kept you going even when some of the tasks were unpleasant, tedious, or boring.</p>
<p>Transfer that motivation-ability toward the big projects you habitually procrastinate on.</p>
<p>Get clear on the result you desire and then imagine how it will feel to accomplish that. Picture it in detail. Imagine it has already been easily and efficiently done. It feels great, doesn't it? Now, envision a brief scene that would signify successful completion, such as someone shaking your hand in congratulations, telling a friend "I did it!", or crossing the threshold of your newly organized home. Be creative, but keep the scene brief.</p>
<p>Feel a deep sense of appreciation in advance that the project is done satisfactorily. And then, while keeping the successful outcome and that brief creative scene in mind, dive in and do the work.</p>
<p><strong><br />4. Reward Your Progress Steps</strong></p>
<p>It's common to reward others for services rendered—such as tipping a server, the parking valet, or hairdresser—but all too often, we assume our own reward is off in the future, and we'll get it after a lot of hard work and sacrifices prove we deserve it.</p>
<p>Give yourself progressive rewards. They don't have to be time-consuming or expensive. Take a pleasure break after you reach a milestone, treat yourself to a new restaurant or a movie you've been wanting to see.</p>
<p>Each time you reward yourself for baby steps forward, you support and reinforce success habits, and you also make the journey more pleasurable.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Everyone procrastinates at times, but with the tools above, you can learn to turn that bad habit around and become more productive and happier.</strong></p>
<p><strong><br />Evelyn Roberts Brooks</strong> is a bestselling author, speaker and transformational life coach. Go to <a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/" target="_blank">evelynbrooks.com</a> to enjoy over 400 free articles, free webinar invitations and to receive your free 3-Way Guilt & Stress Busters gift collection. To learn more about W.A.I.T. and other tools for working in harmony with the universal laws, see her book, "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/1452586675/?tag=foyotrgeha-20" target="_blank">You Were Born to Triumph: Create a Five-Star Life in Your Quantum Kitchen</a>." For your free parenting workshop video gift, "The Secret to Family Harmony, " and articles about raising great children and enjoying a happy family life, <a href="http://evelynbrooks.com/parenting-articles/" target="_blank">click here</a>. <span>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</span></p>
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2014-09-02T19:00:00Z
7 Ways to Ease Your Child's Transition Back to School
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2014-08-25T07:06:00Z
2014-08-25T07:06:00Z
<em>(originally published 08.13.14)</em><strong><br /><br /><br />By Steve Reifman</strong><br /><a href="http://stevereifman.com" target="_blank">http://stevereifman.com</a><br /><br />The process of transitioning back to school at the conclusion of summer vacation can be very difficult for children. There are many different aspects to this transition, some of which tend not to get the attention they deserve. As adults who focus on teaching the whole child, we want to take a comprehensive, thoughtful approach to making this transition as smooth as possible. <br /><br /><strong>1. Encourage your child to view the start of the year in positive terms.</strong> We want the beginning of school to be a time that kids look forward to, not dread. Emphasize all the great things that a new school year brings, such as the opportunity to make new friends, meet new teachers, learn interesting new content, and participate in new after-school activities.<br /><br /><strong>2. Re-establish school bedtimes a few days in advance.</strong> Waking up early on the first day of school is a mighty tall order for kids (and teachers) who have been sleeping later during the summer. Gradually returning to school bedtimes over a period of days makes this adjustment quite a bit easier.<br /><br /><strong>3. Re-establish school breakfast times a few days in advance.</strong> This suggestion goes hand-in-hand with the previous one. Because eating a healthy breakfast is so important for a child's ability to focus in the classroom, we want to ensure that kids are able to consume a complete meal before heading off to school.<br /><br /><strong>4. Ensure your child has all needed supplies.</strong> Many schools send home a supply list over the summer or just prior to the start of the new year. When you purchase these supplies, take your child with you. Buying their school supplies with them increases children's ownership of the process and can mentally help them get back into "school mode."<br /><br /><strong>5. Review last year's final report card to recognize areas of strength and identify areas that need improvement.</strong> Highlighting strengths will raise children's self-esteem and build confidence. Noting improvement areas will provide a foundation for the next suggestion, goal-setting. <br /><br /><strong>6. Begin to set general academic or behavioral goals with your child.</strong> Perhaps the most powerful way to bring about improvement in any aspect of life is to set goals and measure progress over time. You do not need to go into too much detail at this point because classroom teachers frequently begin the year with some form of goal-setting. A nice general discussion of two or three meaningful goals will be sufficient to sharpen your child's focus and build motivation.<br /><br /><strong>7. Build in some daily academic work during the last week or two of summer.</strong> It is easy for kids to get away from daily reading when they are out of school. Before the new school year begins, it is a great idea to establish consistency and make reading a daily habit. Reviewing math facts and exercising their writing muscles is also recommended for kids who might not have done much academic work over the summer. <br /><br /><strong>Steve Reifman</strong> is a National Board Certified elementary school teacher in Santa Monica, CA. He is also the acclaimed author of several books, including <em><a href="http://www.stevereifman.com/teaching-books/changing-kids-lives-one-quote-at-a-time" target="_blank">Changing Kids' Lives One Quote at a Time</a> </em>and<em> Eight Essentials for Empowered Teaching and Learning, K-8</em>, and the creator of the <a href="http://www.stevereifman.com/chase-manning/chase-against-time" target="_blank"><em>Chase Manning Mystery Series</em></a> for kids 8-12. For tips and strategies on teaching the whole child, visit <a href="http://stevereifman.com" target="_blank">http://stevereifman.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2014-08-25T07:06:00Z
4 Reasons to Finally Lose the Weight
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2014-08-18T18:00:00Z
2014-08-18T18:00:00Z
<p><strong><br />Bruce Wayne<br /><strong><span><a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank"></a><a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank">ArmageddonWorld</a></span></strong></strong></p>
<p><strong>New research suggests that being overweight may increase the risk of cancer in women by 20%.</strong></p>
<p>My best client has lost over 238 pounds and is training for the Olympics in Rio. However, believe it or not, my biggest problem is not trying to figure out how to get my clients to lose weight. My biggest problem is trying to get them to listen and follow my instructions.</p>
<p>It’s no secret we live in a country that appears to be losing the battle of the bulge. With fast food restaurants practically on every street corner of America, gaining weight comes pretty easy for most of us. Unfortunately, it is our lust for food that’s creating a wide-spread health epidemic that the medical community has never experienced before. According to the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html" target="_blank">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention</a>, the estimated annual medical cost of obesity is more than $145 billion dollars and climbing. More than 110,000 people die a year from complications of simply being too fat. If wanting to look better hasn’t been the motivation to drop the extra pounds before, perhaps the health benefits below will inspire you to trade in those bad eating habits for much healthier ones.</p>
<blockquote><strong>1. Sexual Dysfunction - Is This Important to You?<br /></strong>According to Dr. Mary Maida a Neuroscientist for Armageddon Weight Loss Program, just about every system in the body is put at risk for injury, damage or disease. Extra pounds carry an increased risk for heart and cardiovascular disease, diabetes, cancer, joint damage and replacement, GI problems, and sexual dysfunction to name a few. Why invite any of these into your life?<strong><br /></strong> <strong><br />2. Chance of Depression Drops Significantly<br /></strong>It’s not uncommon for people to lose confidence in their appearance when they pack on the extra pounds. Sometimes this can also lead to depression. A recent Harvard study found that obese people have a 20 percent elevated risk of depression. When a person reaches this state, he or she generally becomes even less motivated to get active or get out of bed.
<p><strong>3. Risk For Cancer Decreases<br /></strong>Research has shown that losing weight reduces a person’s risk for certain cancers. Breast, stomach, thyroid, kidney, pancreas and colon cancers are just a few of the potentially deadly diseases linked to obesity. In a study by the American Cancer Society, researchers say current trends of overweight and obesity in the United States may account for 14 percent of all cancer deaths in men and 20 percent of those in women. </p>
<p><strong>4. Potential Heart Problems Drop<br /></strong>The more you weigh, the more likely you are to have a heart attack or suffer from heart disease. The good news is heath experts say even losing five percent of your weight significantly reduces heart problems down the road. Along with worrying about your heart’s health, extra pounds can increase your chance for diabetes, a stroke and even high cholesterol.</p>
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<p><strong>Bruce Wayne </strong>is the creator of Armageddon Weight Loss, a new pioneering program taught by 16 medical doctors, scientists, fitness experts and champion athletes that targets fitness and cellulite reduction. He focuses on treating the whole person and providing complete tools for permanent change in health and fitness. To learn more visit <a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank">www.ArmageddonWorld.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-08-18T18:00:00Z
'The Hundred Foot Journey' Is Just What We All Need
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2014-08-11T19:00:00Z
2014-08-11T19:00:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>As political, social and religious wars rage around the world and we hear of the bloodshed of children, the most innocent among us, most other topics seem petty to discuss.</p>
<p>Yet the new film <em>The Hundred Foot Journey</em> is just what the world needs right now. I’ll even predict this movie will be nominated for a Best Picture Oscar because of its relevance in 2014, premiering when strife between people of different cultures and beliefs continue to make headlines.</p>
<p>Young chef Hassan Kadam, his father and four siblings emigrate from Mumbai after a personal tragedy. They look to find someplace to live in Europe where the fruits and vegetables “have soul.” When their van breaks down in a small village in the South of France, Papa declares they’ve found their place and chooses to open an Indian restaurant 100 feet from a highly acclaimed French restaurant owned by Helen Mirren’s character.</p>
<p>Competition ensues and outrageous neighborly conduct sets the two sides at odds. Food is the one common denominator that at least keeps them talking.</p>
<p><em>The Hundred Foot Journey</em> depicts the classic struggle of prejudice and why people do not have compassion for others because of fear. When we live in our own safety bubbles, we are often blind to the persecution others endure. This film begs the question: What would happen if just one person from each of the enemy sides really got to know the other?</p>
<p><em>The Hundred Foot Journey</em> also feeds the soul as much as it does the senses, with descriptions of food and the passion for preparing it elevated to art. The novel was written by the same author who wrote the other great food story, <em>Chocolat</em>. When I walked out of the movie, which I saw on a whim opening night with my mom and three of my kids, my mood was lighter and I felt better for it. Plus, I felt inspired to whip up an omelet.</p>
<p>Unlike the dizzyingly fast paced, weak plotted films of late, <em>The Hundred Foot Journey</em> isn’t short on anything, but its plot is especially strong and its characters are ones viewers won’t soon forget. Hassan has a passion for cooking and learning, but as outside influences creep in, he stays true to his family and Indian culture. Papa is colorful and stubborn, yet loves his children and encourages the gifts they have to offer the world, a patriarch all fathers should emulate. Marguerite, an employee at the French restaurant, is kind and sincere, yet we see her emotionally grow over the course of the film as well.</p>
<p>My kids enjoyed The Hundred Foot Journey though they’ve never seen a film so centered on food and set in a different culture. It’s rated PG because there are two dramatic fire scenes where some characters show the evil prejudice that often inflicts on humanity. There are a few kisses and one scene where two characters are shown tucking in their clothes, which will go over most kids’ heads.</p>
<p>In the end it’s a story about family, loyalty, going for what we love and a reminder that sometimes life’s biggest lessons may come from the shortest <em>Hundred Foot Journey.</em></p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-08-11T19:00:00Z
Straight Talk from Al Jacobs: What We Buy - and Why
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2014-07-28T07:00:00Z
2014-07-28T07:00:00Z
<strong>By Al Jacobs</strong><br /><a href="http://www.onthemoneytrail.com./" target="_blank">OnTheMoneyTrail.com</a>
<p>A person's possessions speak volumes on what that individual regards as important. The advertising industry, devoted to identifying what the citizen considers significant, manipulates the market to create those choices. With massive sums to be spent, the competition is as fierce as it is grotesque.<br /><br />What brand of watch do you wear? Whether a top-of-the-line Rolex, a fashionable Cartier, a respectable Bulova, or an economy Timex, recognize that, except for the archaic Rolex, all are battery-operated, with a similar quartz movement, and none fails to keep excellent time. The day of the mechanical Swiss movement is a thing of the past. The current models all do a better job than the "precision" pocket watch your Uncle Elmo carried as an engineer on the Lackawanna Railroad. The only justification for a high-priced model is self-image and, let's face it, the <em>illusion</em> of prosperity.<br /><br />What can be said about wristwatches is equally true about other highly promoted products. These include magazine offerings, timeshare projects, $300 per ounce bottles of perfume, Las Vegas weekend getaways, $1,800 ballpoint pens, and the purchase of lottery tickets, to name just a few. As a rule of thumb, the more overpriced the merchandise, the more innovative its promotion. Perhaps there's a connection, if only because moderately priced items that reflect honest value incur less sales resistance, so need not be touted with such vigor. Reflect, for a moment, on the recognizable voices and faces that make the outrageous claims. If there is a benefit to this, perhaps it's that the association of certain marketing celebrities with a product of any sort saves you the effort of analyzing the offering; you may reject it out of hand.<br /><br />In short, how you conduct your affairs as a consumer relates to what's important in life. As a person with limited resources, but aspirations for the future, embrace thrift and discipline. As the years pass and your net worth increases, then modify your conduct accordingly, but keep in mind that these be deliberate choices. Don't let advertising pressures or market manipulators preempt your decisions. And on aggressively promoted merchandise, remember this: If a vendor must buy a dozen pages of advertising to say how wonderful its product is, it can't be.<br /><br />What and where you buy become habit. Whether your choice of lipstick is the $25 Chanel selection from Macy's, the $7.50 Max Factor brand from Rite Aid Drug, or the $1.39 Wet 'n Wild tube from Target, recognize that the essential ingredients are the same. The difference is packaging, promotion, and mystique, which is what the cosmetics business is all about. Similarly, you may often choose between a recognized brand name and a generic or little-known comparable product. If your preference in mouthwash is mint-flavored Scope, the 24-ounce bottle can be purchased at one well-known chain for $4.99. On the shelf two feet to the right is a 24-ounce bottle of mint-flavored Value Wise at $1.99. Thanks to federal law, labels list the ingredients. Are you surprised to learn that the contents of the two bottles are identical? As to flavor, there's no detectable difference. The likelihood is that both are manufactured and bottled together in the same plant and from the same spigot. Whether it's so in this particular case is less important than that the marketplace is rife with this practice, maintaining huge markups solely on media-promoted brand loyalty. <br /><br />Let me summarize: You now know how the game works. If you refuse to acknowledge that you are being bamboozled, you're fair game.<br /><br />To receive Al Jacobs' free monthly newsletter, <strong><em>On the Money Trail</em></strong>, visit his <strong><a href="http://www.onthemoneytrail.com./" target="_blank">website</a></strong> and sign in. To view his new book, <strong><em>The Road to Prosperity</em></strong>, <strong><a href="http://www.prosperitybk.com/" target="_blank">click here</a></strong>. </p>
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2014-07-28T07:00:00Z
Creating a Healthy Plate
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2014-07-21T16:55:00Z
2014-07-21T16:55:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a>
<p>Professional chefs work hard to create meals that not only taste excellent, but look just as great as they taste. No one can deny that a nicely plated meal looks great, but did you also know it’s healthier for your family? Buffet setups and family-style eating typically lead to everyone going back for seconds, thirds or piling on too much of certain food groups. The health benefits of plating your meal instead of serving family-style (or buffet) include improved portion control and better balance of a variety of foods.</p>
<p>A lot of detail and practice goes into mastering the art of food presentation, but there are easy ways for you to create healthy plates with an artistic touch. Here are some ways to help you dress up your plate with textures and colors to make your family meals look better and more appetizing! </p>
<p><strong>Think MyPlate when planning and plating: <img style="float: right;" src="/images/blog/my-plate-great(1).jpg" alt="" width="165" height="151" /></strong></p>
<p>Plan your plate to include a serving from the main food groups: vegetables, fruits proteins whole grains and dairy.</p>
<p><strong>Vegetables/Fruits</strong>: Keep colorful options in mind by choosing a variety of fresh, in season fruits and vegetables. Remember about half your plate will be fruits and vegetables, so the color splash from these food groups will have a big impact. Steam or lightly sauté vegetables so they keep their vibrant colors. Overcooked vegetables tend to lose their visual appeal and texture.</p>
<p><strong>Proteins</strong>: Aim for a 3 oz. portion-size of protein, which is about the size of your palm. Cube proteins and thread pieces on skewers before cooking or slice cooked meats before placing them on the plate. Play with textures by topping proteins with fruit salsa, lemon slices or cheese crumbles.</p>
<p><strong>Grains</strong>: Round out the final quarter of your plate with whole grains such quinoa, whole wheat tortillas or brown rice. Dress up your whole grains by tossing 1-2 tbsp. of chopped, fresh herbs such as basil, parsley or cilantro just before serving.</p>
<p><strong>Dairy</strong>: The dairy group is often represented in recipes, by adding cheese or milk to a dish or it is a beverage. A light sprinkle of cheese crumbles is nice touch to salads or a splash of milk added to vegetable purees will create a creamier texture.</p>
<p><strong>Presentation matters: </strong>You don’t have to spend hours creating a masterpiece on your dinner plate, but several studies have proved that offering a plate full of colors, textures and some creativity in the presentation made the food more enjoyable.<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Tips to plate like a pro<img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/plated-meat(1).jpg" alt="" width="225" height="166" /></strong></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">White, large rimmed plates make food look best. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">As general guide, visualize a clock on your plate with fruits and vegetables placed from 7-1 o’clock, grain placed at 1-4 o’clock and proteins at 4-7 o’clock.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">Pour dressings into squeeze bottles and drizzle salad dressing horizontally for a geometric finish.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">Add a little height to your plate by layering grains under the protein or leaning vegetables against the grains or proteins.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">Spoon sauces or gravy on the bottom of the plate not over the food. Vegetable purees (aka homemade baby food) can add color, a smooth texture and extra nutrition. Use vegetable purees like sauces by plating then under the food.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 12px;">When there is room, finish your plate with a healthy garnish, like a slice of citrus, sprig of parsley, or a couple basil leaves.</span></li>
</ol>
<div>You don’t have to be a professionally trained chef to perk up a plate. Even the simplest touch can give you a feeling of pride and provide your family and guests with a culinary experience.</div>
<p><strong>Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. creators of the award-winning <em>So Easy Baby</em> Food Kit, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</em> and <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at: <a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/">www.FreshBaby.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-07-21T16:55:00Z
Home at Last: A Family's Dog Found After 20 Months in the Wild
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2014-07-07T17:00:00Z
2014-07-07T17:00:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>On Oct. 6, 2012, the Braun family’s golden retriever Murphy, startled by a gun shot, bolted into the Tahoe National Forest near an off-trail campsite at Hell Hole reservoir.</p>
<p>Over the next two days they scoured the area for Murphy, but that Sunday evening they went home to El Dorado Hills without their beloved pet… but the family had no intention of giving up the search.</p>
<p>“It was terrible having to make that drive home,” father of three, Nathan Braun said in the family’s first in-depth interview. “How could we be leaving with one less member of our family?”</p>
<p>He took Monday off work to search with wife, Erin, and they continued to make the hours-long drive whenever they could, feverish in their mission and determined to find Murphy before winter.</p>
<p>The Brauns set up a Facebook page and posted lost dog bulletins all over Placer and El Dorado counties. By then dozens of volunteers formed an entourage to help find the then 5-year-old dog.</p>
<p>“One time we stayed at the Motel 6 in South Lake Tahoe to get an early start on a sighting,” Erin said. “We also chased a couple of goldens by foot throughout South Lake Tahoe and Myers.”</p>
<p>They had friends, family and even strangers help canvas the region during the first few months of the search. “I’m still amazed how many people helped us,” Nathan said.</p>
<p>Eventually winter brought the heartbreaking realization Murphy could be gone. “At a certain point we felt maybe it wasn’t fair to the kids to spend so much time searching,” Nathan explained. </p>
<p>Then the second winter came and more hope faded, but it never extinguished. At the same time, 11-year-old Matthew Braun and his younger sister Morgan asked Santa for a special Christmas gift — please bring Murphy home.</p>
<p>“That was motivating,” Erin said. </p>
<p>Every few months the Brauns would receive sighting calls. “But it always turned out to be something else … an Akita … a male dog,” Nathan said.</p>
<p>Until June 15, Father’s Day, when the near-impossible happened.</p>
<p>Erin texted friends: <em>Do you believe in miracles?</em> After 20 long months, Murphy was found at a campsite near French Meadows and, according to Nathan, “just five miles by bird’s flight or 11 miles by car” from where she was last seen.</p>
<p>Earlier this spring, a Foresthill resident and frequent hiker to the area was alarmed by an emaciated golden retriever and tried to find its owner. He searched lost golden retriever, Placer County, El Dorado County on the Web, which led him to the Brauns.</p>
<p>By phone Nathan asked him, “Are you sure it was a <em>female</em> golden retriever?’”</p>
<p>“I’m not sure,” the hiker said.</p>
<p>Yet they started getting more tips that a dog with the same description was sighted in the area.</p>
<p>Erin was resolute, telling Nathan, “You need to go camping.”</p>
<p>On Friday, June 6, Nathan headed to Ahart campground in the French Meadows reservoir region with longtime friend Larry and the Braun’s eldest son Matthew. Not wanting to tell Matthew the real reason behind the trip just yet, Nathan tried playing cool at first.</p>
<p>“I hid the handmade signs I made, but couldn’t help calling out Murphy’s name,” Nathan remembered. “Matt asked, ‘Why are you calling Murphy, Dad?’”</p>
<p>“I don’t know; you never know,” Nathan answered.</p>
<p>Camp ground host Jason Smith greeted them and asked how long they’d be staying.</p>
<p>“Hopefully one night so we can get our dog and get out of here,” Nathan said. “I’m looking for my golden retriever we lost 20 months ago and I’ve heard there’s been a sighting.”</p>
<p>“I know exactly what you’re talking about,” Smith said. “I’ve seen a dog going from campsite to campsite. Some people thought it’s a coyote, but it’s a dog. She’s here every third or fourth night, so should be back tonight or this weekend.”</p>
<p>By then he wasn’t hiding anything. Nathan was on a renewed quest as he tore into the eight pounds of bacon they brought to lure Murphy and talked with campsite neighbors about their story as they fried it up.</p>
<p>Nathan perked up when he heard the words, “Maybe it’s not so unrealistic your<br />dog’s still alive.”</p>
<p>Two campers said they’d always come snowmobiling to the camping area every winter but that the past two winters had been so mild, with such little snow, they hadn’t been able to.</p>
<p><em>Co</em><em>uld it really be? </em>Nathan thought, yet he still tried to shield himself from more disappointment.</p>
<p>Murphy didn’t come by that night so the next morning as the three reluctantly packed up, Nathan asked camp ground host Smith if he’d keep Nathan’s baseball cap, an old blanket and a 20-pound bag of dog food by his trailer. Smith agreed.</p>
<p>The Brauns had plans to go out of town that week before Father’s Day. “But something said we shouldn’t go,” said Nathan. “There was too much going on.”</p>
<p>That intuition was right. Days later the Brauns got the phone call, “Jason’s got your dog.” Smith was able to leash Murphy and had a friend notify the family.</p>
<p>“The very first night I laid out the blanket I heard some movement,” Smith said. “There was Murphy, sleeping on the blanket. And right there I knew, that’s Murphy. That’s their dog. It was curled up with its head on the hat.”</p>
<p>Still uncertain it was Murphy, the Brauns drove back to the campground on Father’s Day morning. “We get there and Jason wasn’t there,” said Nathan. “My blanket and hat were right there, but Jason was making rounds between the other four to five campgrounds he manages.”</p>
<p>They drove site to site within a five-mile radius, looking for Smith before they got to Lewis Campground and saw a crated dog in the back of a truck. Other campers had been holding her.</p>
<p>She wouldn’t come out of the crate for anyone, Nathan recounted, but when the Brauns walked up “She gave a little sigh of relief and put up her paw.”</p>
<p>“It was very touching,” Smith said. “The whole family was crying. I was doing my best to not cry.”</p>
<p>Her physical transformation from living in the wild was startling and made Nathan wonder if it really was Murphy while Erin and the kids never doubted for an instant. The family found the scar on Murphy’s ankle she’d gotten as a pup, which put any wonder to rest.</p>
<p>Murphy’s old mannerisms keep resurfacing. “She’s the same, just a lot mellower and doesn’t want to be left alone or go outside unless we’re with her,” Erin said.</p>
<p>She’s tired and frail but some things never changed. “The hard spot on her head’s the same,” Matthew said during our interview. “That’s how I know it’s her.”</p>
<p>“She has the same spots on her nose,” said 10-year-old Morgan as she gingerly touched cherished Murphy.</p>
<p>Little 3-year-old Finegan, too young to understand the ordeal Murphy endured, threw a ball to play catch while Murphy just stared at it. “She was never a good fetcher,” Nathan said, smiling.</p>
<p>“It’s kind of like someone returning from the dead,” Nathan continued, still in awe days after the reunion.</p>
<p>The vet said Murphy’s lighter fur and darkened pigment in the whites of her eyes are similar to what happens when people are malnourished, yet within days her coat was already getting darker and her eyes clearer.</p>
<p>The first 72 hours the Brauns separated Murphy from their younger golden retriever, Lambeau, who’d been depressed after Murphy first went missing. “We were wondering how Murphy would act after living in the wild so long,” said Nathan, but she hasn’t shown any aggression. Plus, they wanted to get Murphy checked for heartworm and parasites.</p>
<p>When Murphy’s check-up came back clean except for being very skinny, they reunited the pair. “They started wagging tails and sniffing each other,” said Erin. “It was like Lambeau was saying, ‘I know you and I also know you’re not feeling well.’”</p>
<p>Still, the miracle of how Murphy survived remains a mystery. Was it the two mild winters that enabled her to search the campgrounds for food? The Brauns also believe the time they spend in Tahoe helped. “She’s used to that environment,” said Nathan. They haven’t even ruled out someone else may have cared for her for a time. They are just happy to have her back.</p>
<p>One thing is for certain. “Her camping days are over,” said Nathan. Just in case, the Brauns have already fitted her with an identifying microchip so they never lose her again.</p>
<p>“We have so many individual people to thank the list is endless,” Erin said. “Words cannot describe how grateful we are. Homeward Bound Golden Rescue was instrumental in their efforts to help, the campground host, Jason.”</p>
<p>“It’s because of every person’s efforts that the camper could first track me down,” said Nathan. “It wasn’t just one person. It was all the people who helped for even an hour. I’ll never forget one man got out of his car and said he wanted to help when he saw me posting signs with Finegan, then a baby, on my back.”</p>
<p>“You all know who you are,” said Erin. “Thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We are forever grateful.”</p>
<p>What is the lesson Erin and Nathan will teach their three children about the harrowing experience and even more miraculous reunion? “Persistence and hope can pay off,” said Erin. “We never gave up."</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-07-07T17:00:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: 'How to Train Your Dragon 2' is Much More Than its Title
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2014-06-23T18:20:00Z
2014-06-23T18:20:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>Since dragons were banned, then accepted in the first <em>How to Train Your Dragon</em> movie, dragon racing has become the Vikings’ favorite pastime in the sequel,<em> How to Train Your Dragon 2.</em></p>
<p>The son of Chief Stoic, Hiccup, is now 20-years-old and isn’t sure he wants to step up as leader of Berk once his father retires. Instead of thinking about war or protecting their village from villain Drago Bloodfist’s desire to build a dragon army, Hiccup would rather hang out with his friends in the sky and explore surrounding regions now that “on the backs of dragons, the world just got a little bigger.”</p>
<p><em>How to Train Your Dragon 2</em> is so much more than its title. It’s a wonderful story of a young man’s rite of passage into adulthood complete with amazing visuals and strong supporting characters.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused grades for How to Train Your Dragon 2</strong></p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line: A</strong></p>
<p>The animation makes it appealing to kids, but its story line is sophisticated. There’s everything in this movie- honor, family, loyalty and the realization things aren’t always what they seem.</p>
<p><strong>Strong message: A </strong></p>
<p>The saying “Men who kill without reason can not be reasoned with” in the film begs the question: What makes a strong leader? What causes war? Why is it crucial to help the powerless among us?</p>
<p>Hiccup has deep respect and admiration for his parents though they don’t always see eye to eye.</p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model: A</strong></p>
<p>Hiccup is a young man who can act silly, but he also knows what’s important in life and does the right thing. Besides the villain, the other characters are strong as well.</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content: A-</strong></p>
<p>There are two kisses in the film. Once a minor character sees a brawny male's muscles and says, "Take me now!"</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence: B</strong></p>
<p>There are action sequences that could be upsetting to children under 7. There are swords, spears and other weapons drawn. There is a primary character’s death and then it’s alluded to his body is customarily burned, though it’s covered with a sheet.</p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for How to Train Your Dragon 2: A-<br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Rated PG, </span>Running time: 1 hour, 45 minutes</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-06-23T18:20:00Z
Conquering Cellulite: Getting Rid of 'Cottage-Cheese'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Conquering-Cellulite:-Getting-Rid-of-Cottage-Cheese/-414019377536637820.html
2014-06-16T20:20:00Z
2014-06-16T20:20:00Z
<p><strong>Bruce Wayne<br /><strong><span><a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank"><a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank">ArmageddonWorld</a></a></span></strong></strong></p>
<p>Cindy was very proud of herself for completing her first half marathon after having her first child; however, after seeing the pictures taken at the finish line, she began sobbing. “Cellulite everywhere!” she cried. Conquering cellulite requires hard science. Research suggests 80-90% of women are affected by this common yet complex cosmetic problem that affects post-adolescent women. The appearance of cellulite may consist of dimpled enlarge areas, “orange- peel”, “cottage-cheese” of the thigh, buttocks or breast of post-pubescent female. Cellulite is so concerning to many women that they never wear shorts or would not be caught DEAD in a swimsuit.</p>
<p><strong>What do we know about cellulite?</strong></p>
<p>What is even worse, said Dr. Molly Wanner, an instructor in dermatology at Harvard Medical School and an author of an evidence-based review of existing treatments. “A lasting remedy would have to address the interplay between skin, fat, connective tissue and underlying muscle. In other words, curing cellulite requires nothing short of changing the structure of skin.” In addition, known medical facts about cellulite includes that it rarely affect males, does not affect pre-pubescent females and that “there are five times more adipocytes (fat cells) in the thighs, hips and buttocks of women than in other sites of their body” - Journal of Drugs in Dermatology, 5(8), 709-717.</p>
<p><strong>What doesn’t work!</strong></p>
<p> Some recommendations made by research scientists includes “NOT to invest in liposuction, skin kneading and manipulation techniques, thermotherapy, topical ointments, and herbals for cellulite management as these treatment have shown not to significantly reduce the appearance of cellulite.”</p>
<p><strong>What worked for Cindy’s</strong></p>
<p>ONE-PERSON-KNOW-IT-ALL SOLUTIONS ARE OBSOLETE <strong>- </strong>There is no current cure for cellulite. If you want to reduce the appearance of it you should consider attacking it utilizing a multi-pronged approach utilizing a team of experts. Therefore the approach must be holistic.</p>
<p>Cindy’s program assessed what her overall fitness and health goals were and not only concentrated on her cellulite but also on her overall health. A targeted personalized program was implemented specifically for her that involved weight loss, toning, improving her symmetry, nutrition and more resulting in a significant reduction in her cellulite. Her results are jaw dropping and was featured in New Beauty Magazine's fall edition and the program that she used was presented as “the full body approach for losing cellulite” and the “anti-cellulite program”.</p>
<p><strong>What you should look for in a program</strong></p>
<p>When it comes to cellulite reduction, each person’s results will be different and is dependent on a number of factors such as genetics, age, and fitness level. Plus, part of the solution must be that the program is not ridiculously expensive for the average person, is focused less on “treatments, and places a much higher value on sustained, holistic healthy lifestyle approaches.</p>
<p>There are many products on the market that can make a contribution to help you reduce the appearance of cellulite. Working with your dermatologist, esthetician and utilizing a solid evidence-based weight-loss fitness program that utilizes a team of experts not just one-person-know-it-all or one product-fix-it-all approaches are solid ways to help you fit into your swim suit. So, let the cellulite battle begin with new hope and a few new tools in your arsenal. May the “surf” be with you!</p>
<p><strong>Bruce Wayne </strong>is the creator of Armageddon Weight Loss, a new pioneering program taught by 16 medical doctors, scientists, fitness experts and champion athletes that targets fitness and cellulite reduction. He focuses on treating the whole person and providing complete tools for permanent change in health and fitness. To learn more visit <a href="http://www.armageddonworld.com/" target="_blank">www.ArmageddonWorld.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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Staff
2014-06-16T20:20:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: 'The Fault in Our Stars' - A Modern Romeo & Juliet
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Kid-Focused-Movie-Review:-The-Fault-in-Our-Stars---A-Modern-Romeo--Juliet/-950485336800106369.html
2014-06-09T19:40:00Z
2014-06-09T19:40:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>Hazel is a 17-year-old with terminal cancer who starts going to a support group to deal with her depression. She meets fellow teen Augustus Waters, whose vivacious personality soon rubs off on Hazel. Everything is wonderful except for the one fault in their stars- a nod to a line in Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar. Though in remission, Augustus lost a leg during his own earlier cancer diagnosis and Hazel must lug an oxygen tank everywhere she goes. Limitations like these are a constant reminder of their immortality and keep them from acting like carefree teens, which they both desperately want.</p>
<p><em>The Fault in our Stars </em>is a deep, sobering film following two kids who seem much older than they are. One friend in my book club couldn’t finish the novel because, “They talk like grown ups…I couldn’t stand it,” she said. It’s hard to believe it’s teens talking as they discuss literature, life and the metaphysical.</p>
<p>“They’re so mature!” my seventh grade son said after the movie. Even though <em>The Fault in our Stars</em> is a bestselling children’s book right now, he thought the film was boring. We heard some high school girls sniffling throughout- and that’s the target audience.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused grades for <em>The Fault in our Stars</em> (taking into account it’s PG-13)</strong></p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line- B</strong></p>
<p>What would it feel like to be young and dying? Hazel and Augustus are the epitome of teenagers who feel they don’t belong, a theme popular with teens because they can identify with it.<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Strong message- B</strong></p>
<p>Strong relationships can help us through our darkest times. There are anti-establishment, bucking authority themes that seem harmless on the surface because the teens are sick.</p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model- B</strong></p>
<p>Hazel and Augustus care deeply for each other and for their friends and family, unlike the other, healthy teens depicted as self-absorbed. If they hadn’t had sex in the film they’d get a higher grade.</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content – D</strong></p>
<p>Cigarettes play a central part in the story. Though he never lights up, Augustus nearly always has a cigarette in his mouth as a metaphor that he can be close to something that can kill him, but choose to give it the power to do so or not.</p>
<p>There are plenty of conversations that are hard to believe teenagers would have.</p>
<p>As for their love story, it’s very sweet until they go from first kiss to having sex.</p>
<p>When they visit an author they both like, they are served champagne and ask for another bottle. There is even a tie back to the title in this scene- “We bottled the stars for you,” the waiter says. The parents, perhaps because they’re so glad their children are alive, seem to look past their kids’ adult behavior.</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- C</strong></p>
<p>Swear words are peppered throughout. Graphic medical scenes could be upsetting to children under 14.</p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for <em>The Fault in our Stars</em>: C+</strong></p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-06-09T19:40:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: Maleficent Tells Her Side of 'Sleeping Beauty'
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2014-06-02T20:15:00Z
2014-06-02T20:15:00Z
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>Maleficent is a well-intentioned fairy, a protector of her kingdom in the moors until her heart is hardened when she’s betrayed by the human world. She seeks revenge, taking her fury out on an innocent baby, Princess Aurora, thereby setting up the <em>Sleeping Beauty</em> story we know so well.</p>
<p>Like the recent hit <em>Wicked</em>, where viewers get the backstory to why the wicked witch in the Wizard of Oz is so mean, we also get a three-dimensional view of Maleficent, providing another example of the trend lately that casts storybook villains in a more sympathetic light.</p>
<p>Traditionalists may not like the changes to the original story, but they provide interesting discussions with kids familiar with the original <em>Sleeping Beauty</em>. My kids are just out for summer and I challenged them to compare/ contrast <em>Maleficen</em>t with <em>Sleeping Beauty </em>to earn technology time. Older children can think about how the characters are portrayed. Who is the villain? Who is the main character? How is King Stephan, Aurora’s father, the same and different in each story? Smaller children can look at the plot. For instance, how is the spell on Sleeping Beauty the same and different? What do the three colorful fairies who raise Aurora do that’s the same and different?<span style="font-size: 12px;"> </span></p>
<p>While the setting is visually beautiful on the big screen and the music soars, <em>Maleficent</em> is PG because of intense battle scenes and scary mythical creatures. It’s recommended to keep children under 7 away from this one.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Maleficent: </strong></p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line- A-</strong><strong> <br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Maleficent offers complexity and endless parallels to the original Sleeping Beauty. Some choices like how the King could turn so quickly and completely, even though it doesn’t really seem to be for his daughter’s protection after all, are a bit unsettling.</span></p>
<p><strong>Strong message- B<br /></strong><em style="font-size: 12px;">Power corrupts absolutely</em><span style="font-size: 12px;"> and </span><em style="font-size: 12px;">Ambition can be blinded by greed</em><span style="font-size: 12px;"> are two themes that could be talked about with older kids. Some viewers will be uneasy about sympathizing with an evil character we’ve all known so long. There’s also a modern spin on the idea “true love doesn’t exist,” or does it?</span></p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model- C<br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">We see the story through Maleficent’s eyes. The question of whether she’s a role model, what she values most, her flaws, and how she redeems herself are pivotal to the story. </span></p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content – A<br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">There is one kiss between Aurora and the prince.</span></p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- C<br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">The language is fine, but there are definitely scary parts for kids under 7. I brought my 6-year-old, but if it were just the two of us I wouldn’t have taken her.</span></p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for <em>Maleficent</em>: B <br /></strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Rated PG, Running Time: 1 hour 38 minutes </span></p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-06-02T20:15:00Z
Embrace Your Choices And Let People Know It!
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2014-05-26T17:15:00Z
2014-05-26T17:15:00Z
<strong><br /><br />Jamee Tenzer, PCC</strong><br /><a href="http://www.shesarealmother.com" target="_blank">ShesARealMother.com</a>
<p><br />You and I are old enough to know what we want and what we do not want. By now we also know who we are and who we are not. We definitely have a handle on what makes us happy and what gives us a knot in the stomach. And, we can identify the people we enjoy spending time with as opposed to those who make us wish we were getting our annual pap smear instead of sitting down for a visit or a cup of coffee.</p>
<p>We know. But do we trust ourselves to make good decisions based on this knowledge?</p>
<p>I recently found myself deliberating about a professional opportunity. Weighing the pros and cons with the exactitude of a size 16 woman on Weight Watchers, hoping to get into a size 10 dress by next week.</p>
<p>At some point, we have to stop weighing and choose. For the woman on Weight Watchers, the choice is to go out and buy a size 16 dress that she feels fabulous in.</p>
<p>For me, it was to realize that if the opportunity didn’t make me shout YES!, it was most likely an emphatic NO!</p>
<p>If you are in your 40’s or have joined me in the Fab 50’s, you probably know what you want. And yet, you may feel the need to deliberate. Why is this? Are we unsure of our own intuition? Do we feel that if we decide too quickly, we may be deemed impetuous or flighty? Are we afraid we may regret our decisions?</p>
<p>I hear you out there. You are telling me we should take our time and weigh our options. I agree. But when does weighing our options become a stressful exercise filled with doubt and lack of clarity?</p>
<p>And what about those times when we think we are unsure because of a deep underlying fear of something new? </p>
<p>Good news!</p>
<p><strong>You know when you are avoiding something simply because it scares or challenges you.</strong> You can trust yourself during those times too. Somewhere between “let me think about that,” and “Yes!” or “No Way,” is the point of no return. It's the place that we can trust ourselves to choose. And the wonderful thing about choices, is that there is always another one around the bend.</p>
<p>Make a choice you didn’t like? No worries. You learned some lessons and you have lots of other opportunities to make many more choices. Some of us preserve our choices like precious jewels we found in Granny's closet. Instead, let’s dust them off and utilize them, flaunt them and wear them at the breakfast table.</p>
<p>Here is my proposal: You notice how long it takes you to make a choice, and experiment with speeding up the process. Is it a yes, or no way? It’s your choice.</p>
<p><strong>Tips for Making and Trusting Choices:</strong></p>
<p><strong> 1. Start with small things. </strong> When you are at a restaurant, look at the menu and choose the thing that looks delicious. A baked potato with a side of French fries? Girl after my own heart.</p>
<p><strong>2. Restrict your time.</strong> When you are making a larger choice, give yourself a time limit.</p>
<p><strong>3. Get information.</strong> Be proactive about identifying the information you need to make a choice. Pledge to make the decision, once you have completed your due diligence, as opposed to continuing the process by adding more tasks to complete before deciding.</p>
<p><strong>4. Play it out in your mind.</strong> When faced with a decision, close your eyes and imagine each scenario. What do you see? The answer might be obvious.</p>
<p>Remember, most decisions are not really final. Trust yourself to do your best and to have the ability to modify, change, grow and expand to fit what the future brings. That’s a serious YES!</p>
<p><strong>Jamee Tenzer, PCC</strong> is a Life and Executive Coach for Women. She specializes in coaching working mothers, women in entertainment and 50-something moms. She is also a Trainer for the International Coach Academy and Mentors new coaches. Click here for mom tips and more free stuff: <a href="http://www.shesarealmother.com" target="_blank">www.shesarealmother.com</a>. Check out Jamee's book: <a href="https://jameetenzer.com/balance" target="_blank">https://jameetenzer.com/balance</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2014-05-26T17:15:00Z
Twenty-First Century American Banking
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2014-05-19T15:01:00Z
2014-05-19T15:01:00Z
<p><span style="font-family: arial,verdana; font-size: small;">By Al Jacobs<br /> <a href="http://www.onthemoneytrail.com">www.onthemoneytrail.com</a></span></p>
<em>“I rob banks for a living. I consider myself</em><em> on a higher moral level than the</em><em> crooks who run those banks.”</em><em> Willie Sutton</em>
<p>Over the past decade or so, banking officials made a fascinating discovery. They found their customers to be an untapped source of bounty, with depositors willing to accept minuscule interest on their savings while tolerating the payment of fees and assessments limited only by the imagination of the bank hierarchy. </p>
<p><strong>Consider the charges for a simple checking account.</strong> Although many banks provide low cost accounts to certain depositors such as senior citizens, and admittedly there’s a scattering of institutions offering "no-charge" accounts to the general public, these are not the norm. Most banks establish several plans from which the customer may choose, often with names like <em>deluxe, ultimate, </em>or <em>preferred</em>. Regardless of its title, the account normally includes one or both of two standard provisions: a minimum account balance to avoid a monthly service fee and a "per transaction" charge. In most cases you may expect to pay through the nose.</p>
<p><strong>Then there's the recent indignity is an increase in the price for imprinted checks. </strong>One large bank now bills the account twenty-five dollars for an order of two hundred. In response, many firms around the country are in the business of providing inexpensive checks as conveniently as ordering them from your bank. They charge but a small fraction of what you’ll pay your bank.</p>
<p><strong>Interest on savings accounts</strong> strikes a sore spot for many of us who recall when we collected 12 to 15 percent annually. Obviously those returns, unwarranted at the time, self-destructed as expected. That does not justify the many accounts currently paying as little as one-eighth percent or less. However, for those of you who, for whatever reason, must maintain an FDIC-insured bank savings account, there are banks which offer rates up near one percent, with no withdraw penalties and rates of from two to four percent on time deposits. It pays to do some comparison shopping and take advantage as you find it.</p>
<p><strong>Another banking-related subject concerns the use of credit cards.</strong> Much of the debate involves matters like annual fees, interest rates on the unpaid balance, and the use of an account to establish credit. Articles abound on charge strategies to secure tax deductions for otherwise nondeductible interest payments. There are even dissertations explaining how balances due on one card can be financed for extended periods through borrowings on another. Much of the information is of marginal value, and some is preposterous.</p>
<p><strong>Here’s the straight word:</strong> The lower the annual fee, the less the fixed charge you pay each year. Some banks and other organizations offer a card without a fee. If so, that’s your best bet. <strong>In case you cannot find a free one, shop around for the lowest price.</strong> In this regard, let me offer the philosophy of "Cheap Charlie," a one-time Huntington Beach, California, shopkeeper who operated on the stated principal: "You can't beat cheap"¾ certainly words to live by. Nonetheless, make certain it’s not merely the <em>first year's </em>fee that’s waived. Also, give thought as to whether the card is sufficiently usable. MasterCard and Visa are universally accepted; American Express, Diners Club, and others are of less value because there are fewer businesses that accept them.</p>
<p>One final matter may surprise you. It’s that <strong>interest rates charged on bank credit card balances that are as high today as they ever were</strong>. How can this be when comparing the miniscule interest <em>paid</em> on accounts to the interest that credit cards <em>incur</em>, often running to twenty-five percent and higher? I think you know the answer; it fits into the “all the traffic will bear” banking philosophy.</p>
<p>This gets us to the bare bones of the matter. My belief is that a credit card has a single purpose-a convenience when neither check nor cash is handy. Most importantly, when the monthly statement arrives, pay the full cash balance before the date that interest is charged. Follow this rule and the interest rate means nothing. If for any reason you cannot regulate your credit card use in this manner, destroy your cards, swear off cold turkey, and fashion your life accordingly.</p>
<p><strong><br />About the author:</strong> Al Jacobs has been a successful entrepreneur for a half-century. His business experience ranges from investment in real estate, mortgage loans, securities, property management and the operation of a private trust company. His latest book, <a href="http://www.prosperitybk.com"><em>The Road to Prosperity</em>,</a> embodies his last ten years of newsletters on the subject of wealth — how to get, keep and profit from it. To receive Al’s free monthly newsletter, <em>On the Money Trail</em>, visit his website at <a href="http://www.onthemoneytrail.com">www.onthemoneytrail.com</a>.</p>
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2014-05-19T15:01:00Z
Eat a Plant-Based Diet for Healthy, Glowing Skin
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2014-05-12T22:05:00Z
2014-05-12T22:05:00Z
<strong>By R. Saravanan, BHMS</strong><br /><a href="http://www.sharan-india.org">www.sharan-india.org</a><br /><br />
<p class="Body">To have healthy and glowing skin it is crucial to pay attention to what we eat every day. Foods that are high in trans-fatty acids such as meat, dairy products, processed, and fast foods can dehydrate the skin. This is because trans fats in animal based foods increase the free radical load and lead to premature aging of the skin.</p>
<p class="Body"><strong>Whole plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, greens, legumes, nuts, and seeds are storehouses of the vital nutrients needed for healthy skin.</strong></p>
<p class="Body">Vitamin A, biotin, vitamin C, vitamin E, selenium, zinc, silica, and omega 3 fatty acids are some of the important nutrients required for healthy and glowing skin. Vitamin A helps in maintaining and repairing skin cells. Carotenoids, the precursors of vitamin A, may help prevent ultraviolet induced skin damage and wrinkling. Vitamin A deficiency may result in dry and flaky skin. This vitamin is present in dark greens and yellow colored vegetables such as sweet potatoes, carrots, and pumpkins. Papaya and man- go are good fruit sources of Vitamin A.</p>
<p class="Body">Biotin is a water-soluble B vitamin and is needed for the formation of skin, nail, and hair cells. Biotin is found in whole grain cereals, nuts such as almonds and walnuts, and vegetables like carrots, cucumbers, cauliflowers, and onions.</p>
<p class="Body">Vitamin C is a powerful antioxidant that helps protect the skin against free radical damage. Factors such as exposure to environmental pollutants, smoking, and an unhealthy diet could lead to the production of these free radicals. Free radical damage is thought to be the basis of the aging process. Citrus fruits such as oranges, grape fruits, lemons, and limes as well as apples, papayas, watermelon, and leafy vegetables such as spinach and cilantro are rich in Vitamin C.</p>
<p class="Body">Vitamin E is an antioxidant that is essential for healthy and youthful skin. Vitamin E is found in green leafy vegetables, whole grains, almonds, and sunflower seeds.</p>
<p class="Body">Selenium is a trace mineral and a potent antioxidant, which also helps protect the skin from the damage caused by free radicals. Selenium has anti-aging effects and is found in whole grains, soya beans, mushroom, apple, tomato, onion, garlic, and walnut, and sunflower seeds.</p>
<p class="Body">Zinc, needed for repairing damaged tissues, has role in cellular growth and wound healing. It is beneficial for people who suffer from acne, as it helps control excess oil production in the skin. Peanuts, sesame seeds, watermelon seeds, and pumpkin seeds, as well as whole grains and legumes, are rich in zinc.</p>
<p class="Body">Omega-3 fatty acids act like moisturizers for skin and improve suppleness. Flax seeds, salba/chia seeds, sesame seeds, and walnuts are natural sources of omega-3 fatty acids.</p>
<p class="Body">Although many people think sun exposure is not good, our skin needs sunshine for Vitamin D. At least 15 – 20 minutes of sunlight exposure is needed for the skin to synthesize Vitamin D. Vitamin D is important for healthy skin and immunity. If you have a Vitamin D deficiency, supplementations are advised.</p>
<p class="Body">Whole plant-based foods, adequate water intake, sunlight exposure, and exercise will keep the skin healthy, youthful and attractive!</p>
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<p class="Body"><strong>Morning Shine Fruit Smoothie</strong></p>
<p class="Body">Ingredients:</p>
<ul>
<li>1⁄2 cup of apple slices</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>1⁄2 cup of mango slices</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>1⁄2 cup of papaya slices</li>
</ul>
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<li>1 cup of chilled almond milk</li>
</ul>
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<li>3-4 dates (deseeded) as natural sweetener.</li>
</ul>
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<li>1 teaspoon Salba or chia seeds</li>
</ul>
<p class="Body"><em>Blend all these ingredients in a blender to get a nutritious and delicious smoothie.</em></p>
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<p class="Body"><strong>Super Nutrient Smoothie</strong></p>
<p class="Body">Ingredients:</p>
<ul>
<li>1 cucumber</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>1 carrot</li>
</ul>
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<li>1⁄2 cup of fresh greens (iceberg lettuce / kale or any other greens)</li>
</ul>
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<li>1 tomato</li>
</ul>
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<li>1 cup of tender coconut water 2 tablespoon of coconut meat</li>
</ul>
<p class="Body"><em>Blend all these ingredients thoroughly in a blender and a super nutrient smoothie is ready.</em></p>
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<p class="Body"><strong>R. Saravanan, BHMS</strong><em>, </em>is a qualified Homeopath from the Tamil Nadu Dr. M.G.R. Medical University in India. Dr. Saravanan has received special training in Nutritional disease reversal from SHARAN, the pioneer organization in India offering Nutritional disease reversal programs. Currently he is serving as a Health advisor with SHARAN (<a href="http://sharan-india.org/">www.sharan-india.org</a>). He can be contacted at saravanan@sharan-india.org. </p>
<p id="yui_3_7_2_1_1399924747563_3448" class="yiv7110971771MsoNormal">Adapted from RETHINK FOOD: 100+ Doctors Can’t Be Wrong by Shushana Castle and Amy-Lee Goodman <a href="http://www.rethinkfoodbook.com">www.rethinkfoodbook.com</a><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">. Permission granted for use on <a href="/">DrLaura.com</a>.</span></p>
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2014-05-12T22:05:00Z
Am I Losing My Edge? The Second Fear of Aging
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2014-05-05T17:15:00Z
2014-05-05T17:15:00Z
<strong>By Joan Pagano</strong><br /><a href="http://www.joanpaganofitness.com">www.joanpaganofitness.com</a><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank"></a><br />
<p>"I've become aware that I'm slowing down and losing my edge. I just don't have the energy to do all the things I used to and feel like old age is creeping up on me."</p>
<p>Inevitably, our bodies change with time. The revelation that you can no longer rely on your body the way you used to comes with its own set of surprises. Are you starting to look for the elevator instead of taking the stairs? Are you having trouble carrying your grocery bags or lifting the roasting pan out of the oven? Do you have to use your arms to get up from a couch or easy chair? Do you tire easily and feel like you're falling behind?</p>
<p><strong>We've all had moments of awareness when we realize we could be doing better.</strong></p>
<p>Each of us wants to be able to maintain our everyday activities without undue fatigue and with energy to spare. Your ability to handle the physical demands of your daily life reflects your body's age, also known as your functional age. Although genetics plays a role in retaining a youthful body, <strong>the single most important lifestyle factor is maintaining a well-rounded exercise program.</strong></p>
<p>Experts in the field of aging agree that exercise is the prime mover in the drive to preserve vitality. Being in shape frees us from physical limitations and creates confidence, self-esteem and a positive attitude. We may not be able to re-capture our youthful bodies completely, but we can override the signals of aging by engaging in a consistent, dedicated program of exercise.</p>
<p>Jackie Kennedy was very clear in her goals as to what she hoped to achieve through fitness training. At the age of 60, she asked for my help in a strength-training program so she could continue to enjoy all the activities of her normal, energetic lifestyle.</p>
<p>As an accomplished equestrian, she told me she'd always been a fearless rider, but with age she was becoming more cautious. She wanted to re-capture the confidence to ride as she had in her youth and knew strength training could help her regain her edge. Her proactive approach to aging sends a positive message to all of us: <strong>being strong is empowering both physically and mentally. </strong></p>
<p>The three aspects of physical fitness that can affect the aging process and preserve a youthful body are:</p>
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<ul>
<li><strong>Cardiovascular stamina</strong> – Your vitality and capacity for life depend on the efficiency of your cardiovascular system. The heart is a muscle that gets stronger with training, improving your day-to-day function.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><strong>Muscular strength and endurance </strong>- Strength training sculpts the contours of your body and strengthens the bones within. By building lean body mass, it boosts your metabolism and your energy levels, making you resistant to the slow down that occurs with age.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><strong>Flexibility</strong> -<strong> </strong>Stretching discharges tension from the muscles, energizing the body. It defends against aging by lengthening the muscles to keep you tall and straight. Being flexible makes you agile, your movements fluid and youthful.</li>
</ul>
</blockquote>
<p><strong>The degree to which you can turn back your body clock depends in part on your starting level of fitness. </strong> If your starting level is below average for your age-matched peers, you stand to make the greatest initial improvements when you begin your exercise program. If your starting level is above average, you can "get younger" by continuing to challenge yourself with more vigorous exercise.</p>
<p><strong>Use this tip for yourself:</strong> By following a customized training program that is tailored to your current level of fitness, you can improve your body age. Within 8-12 weeks you can expect to:</p>
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<ul>
<li>Firm up by developing lean muscles</li>
</ul>
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<li>Lose 1-2 pounds of fat and gain 1 pound of muscle</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Increase stamina, the amount and intensity of cardio work you can sustain.</li>
</ul>
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<li>Decrease feelings of stiffness; improve posture and joint health</li>
</ul>
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<p><strong>Of course you need to continue the program to continue to benefit!</strong></p>
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2014-05-05T17:15:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: 'Rio 2' - Colorful Sequel With One Flaw
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Kid-Focused-Movie-Review:--Rio-2---Colorful-Sequel-With-One-Flaw/903868784347059337.html
2014-04-28T18:56:00Z
2014-04-28T18:56:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p>Domesticated blue macaw Blu, his wife Jewel and three kids leave their computers, iPods and busy city life in Rio de Janeiro to get back to basics and research their heritage in the Amazon rainforest. Thinking they’re the only blue macaws left in the world, they find others like them and soon Jewel wants to stay while Blu yearns for the comfortable life he’s always known.</p>
<p>The characters in <em>Rio</em><em> 2</em> are as colorful as the setting. Upbeat musical numbers will have the audiences laughing if not dancing. While Blu still plays the affable, clumsy guy like in the original, this time it’s just not as funny for the head of a household.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Rio 2: </strong></p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line- B</strong></p>
<p>There are several interesting plot lines at once. The family travels to, and acclimates to, life in the rainforest. Blu has his own internal and external struggles. The rainforest animals try to defend their habitat from loggers. Since many American school children study the rainforest today they will enjoy seeing it in action on the big screen.</p>
<p><strong>Strong message- B-</strong></p>
<p>Viewers will identify with the theme of why it’s important to retreat from the hustle and bustle of daily life to recharge every once in a while. The complexities of the rainforest are shown. Blu lives by the motto: “Happy wife, happy life,” though Jewel doesn’t seem to reciprocate.</p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model- C</strong></p>
<p>Blu is a kind, generous leading character, but he’s a doormat. He’s humiliated throughout the film and depicted as a weak father and husband. His kids don’t respect him. Jewel’s childhood boyfriend openly flirts with her in front of Blu. There are plenty more examples of this throughout Rio 2. When I said so to my sixth grade son afterwards, he immediately said, “Yeah, I noticed that everyone, even his kids always made fun of him.”</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content – A- </strong></p>
<p>The villain, cockatoo Nigel, has a poisonous frog sidekick and she is obsessed with him. Bruno Mars’s character, Roberto, flirts openly with Jewel, who is married.</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- B</strong></p>
<p>A few bullying words like “stupid” and “idiot” are said, which is surprising because of its G-rating. There are some scenes when rainforest animals prey on smaller creatures, which could be frightening to young viewers.</p>
<p><strong>Suited for the whole family- A-</strong></p>
<p>Rio 2 is for kids 5 and older. </p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Rio 2: B </strong></p>
<p><strong>Rated G, Running Time: 1 hour 40 minutes </strong></p>
<p> <strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-04-28T18:56:00Z
Managing Stress with Food
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Managing-Stress-with-Food/-165722737258071482.html
2014-04-21T14:00:00Z
2014-04-21T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />
<p>Dealing with stress on a daily basis is inevitable when kids, traffic, bills, and a number of other factors come into play. While a little bit of stress keeps us aware, alive and productive, too much prolonged exposure can have serious effects on our physical and mental well-being. Taking some time to unwind and relax, and teaching your kids to do the same, gives the body time to heal between stressful episodes.</p>
<p>Paying attention to what you eat is also important in helping to manage the negative effects of too much stress. Choosing foods that help the body produce serotonin, the hormone that helps you feel happy, and avoiding the urge to reach for high fat, salty or sugary food in moments of stress can help you cope better with tense situations. A large order of French fries might sound like the perfect stress-busting fare, but keeping these five tips in mind can help you and your kids become a "Stress Manager" instead of a "Stress Eater."</p>
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<li><strong>Substitute oatmeal for sugary breakfast cereal</strong> when the morning rush is too hectic. Comfort food, like a warm bowl of oatmeal, can have a calming effect on the nervous system. Sugary cereal might provide temporary feelings of contentment, but when the spike in blood sugar drops, the relief fades too.</li>
<li><strong>Trade in the ham or bologna for sliced turkey breast </strong>on the lunch sandwich. In addition to being a more nutritious option, choosing a low salt, lowfat lunchmeat can decrease the level of cortisol, the main stress hormone the body produces.</li>
<li><strong>Switch from white bread to whole grain bread</strong> that is high in complex carbohydrates. Complex carbohydrates like whole grains are digested more slowly so they contribute to make you feel better longer.</li>
<li><strong>Snack on an orange after work or school.</strong> Vitamin C not only improves the immune system, it can also help the body recover from stressful situations more quickly.</li>
<li><strong>Add some raw vegetables to your dinner plate.</strong> Think of this as exercise for the jaw. The action of crunching on raw vegetables can help release tension in the jaw joint, which is area many of us hold stress.</li>
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<p><img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/choose_my_plate_green.jpg" alt="" width="211" height="192" />The best recipe for keeping stress manageable is to follow the U.S. Department of Agriculture's MyPlate guidelines, take time to relax and unwind and get regular exercise. Remember to smile and have a sense of humor, too!</p>
<p><strong>Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. creators of the award-winning <em>So Easy Baby</em> Food Kit, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</em> and <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at: <a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/">www.FreshBaby.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-04-21T14:00:00Z
Acceptance
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Acceptance/435925785261533815.html
2014-04-14T19:05:00Z
2014-04-14T19:05:00Z
<strong>By Bob Livingstone</strong><br /><a href="http://boblivingstone.com/" target="_blank">BobLivingstone.com</a><br /><br />The word acceptance is a loaded term that is used in all types of media. It is utilized in self-help circles and the psychotherapy world. It is tossed around on talk shows and in relationship books. Folks forever strive for this magical place, but they are generally unclear about the true definition of the word. As a culture we are addicted to reaching this mythical state of acceptance.<br /><br />We falsely learn acceptance is a state you have to be worthy enough to reach. If you are not a good girl or boy, you will be forever ostracized from acceptanceville. Instead of instilling good feelings, this search leads to decreased self-confidence, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and feelings of hopelessness.<br /><br />The other way we process this term is by turning on and off a light switch. As an example Mary may say, "My mother died abruptly today and I now accept it." This may be Mary's way of dealing with her mom's death, but no reasonable person would think that on the same day her mom dies, she would be able to be OK with it.<br /><br />She will go through days and perhaps weeks of rawness, emotional pain, longing for her mom to return and feeling like she wants to join her in heaven. She will have moments of clarity; realizing her mom is really dead and not coming back. But, much of the time spent shortly after her parent's death will be chaotic and very stressful. That is what happens when we grieve.<br /><br />One element of the acceptance process is questioning what happened to you, and sometimes this results in the endless spinning and obsessing of your loss. Questioning is a normal part of dealing with your loss. However endless spinning and obsessing can get in the way of your normal functioning and ability to move forward. Part of the problem here is when you are in this state of endless searching, you become overwhelmed at the notion there is no solution to your problem. This can create anxiety and feelings of depression.<br /><br />I am here to tell you there is a pathway to finding acceptance, coming to terms with your issues and discovering peace.<br /><br />Acceptance can be a lengthy process and it does not happen smoothly or on a well-constructed arc. If you have experienced an intense loss such as the death of a loved one, a breakup with an intimate partner, the end of a friendship or if you parents get divorced; it probably will take a while before you come to terms with it.<br /><br />In order for acceptance to occur, it is helpful be able to experience the pain of your loss in your mind, heart and soul (if you believe you have one). This will help you understand what you actually went through and will allow you to let your emotions out. It will be difficult to obtain acceptance if you only think and don't feel your pain. This will take time, so be patient and seek out help from a therapist if you need assistance.<br /><br />Try not to focus on expectations or outcomes right now. Concentrate on the following:<br /><br />
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<li><strong>Acceptance is learning</strong> something has ended and your life has now changed forever. Acceptance can include sadness and resolution that your boyfriend has left you for another and your parents will never get back together. Acceptance is the relief you feel when you realize you don't have to continue to spin the whys, what-fors and what-could-have-been story lines anymore because it is over.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance can occur</strong> when you understand you will never know if your girlfriend ever really loved you or not. You can learn not to search the universe for answers to questions about her. Your new truth is there are no answers to these questions and finding no answers is the end of this journey. Your suffering because of this endless search can now cease. You will find solace and calmness knowing you don't have to hit your head against the wall anymore.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance is understanding</strong> there are no more story lines to fixate on about your loss. You have thought about all of them repeatedly and there is no need to do so anymore from this moment forward.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance can occur</strong> when you no longer obsess about a person or ask yourself the same questions about the hurt over and over again. This is really what is meant be letting go.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance is understanding</strong> you cannot go back to high school and confront the teacher who called you stupid. You can now focus on what you have achieved in your life and marvel at overcoming that obstacle of being labeled unintelligent.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance is not about being euphoric </strong>or like being high on meth, coke or heroin. It is a place where all the harmful, useless internal chatter stops because you have decided to not listen to it anymore. Not listening to it decreases its intensity and power. The chatter fades into the background and often disappears completely. It is a peaceful, calm place where you can rest and have fun.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance is when you finally realize</strong> that you can never go back and change what happened in the past because the past is gone. The present is very much with you and you have the power to live in this exciting, hopeful and happy place.</li>
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<li><strong>Acceptance comes when you choose</strong> to focus on how you are going to enrich your life instead of continually dredging up personal injustices. You notice that you are no longer afraid of having nothing to turn to when you stopped obsessing. You discover there is richness in your spirit; for the first time, you can breathe and smile.</li>
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<br /><strong>Bob Livingstone</strong>, psychotherapist has helped millions heal their emotional pain during the past twenty years. He has been instrumental in assisting victims of emotional and/or physical violence recover from trauma and no longer be victims. He is a featured contributor to DrLaura.com, Beliefnet.com, Ediets.com, Selfgrowth.com and SheKnows.com. He is the author of the critically acclaimed book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Body-Mind-Soul-Solution-Emotional/dp/B005DIBQMA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397593835&sr=8-1&keywords=The+Body-Mind-Soul+Solution%3A+Healing+Emotional+Pain+through+Exercise" target="_blank"><em>The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise</em></a>. For more emotional healing visit <a href="http://boblivingstone.com/" target="_blank">BobLivingstone.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2014-04-14T19:05:00Z
The Significant Value of Emotional Endurance
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Significant-Value-of-Emotional-Endurance/499403944227174285.html
2014-03-31T14:00:00Z
2014-03-31T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Sherrie Campbell</strong><br /><a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a></p>
<p>Emotional endurance is the ability to stay strong under challenging circumstances. Life is designed to present challenge after challenge demanding us to stretch physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Without these challenges and unexpected shifts in life we would not grow. What we learn, when we stay true to ourselves, regardless of our circumstances, is that whatever is removed from our lives is only removed so we can find a new direction.</p>
<p><strong>6 Ways of Establishing Emotional Endurance</strong></p>
<p><strong>1. Think Big:</strong> Whatever it is we desire or yearn for, say "yes" to it. When being challenged we must start to envision a new dream for our reality. We must be realistic about the work it will take to get there. If we have a passion for something and we believe it is our destiny to achieve it, then we can do it - even if that dream is to leave a relationship to be happy, to survive a breakup and move on, or to build the career of our dreams. Think Big.</p>
<p><strong>2. Journal:</strong> Writing helps us find direction. It helps us get to know ourselves deeply. It is organizing to our mind and emotions bringing them together instead of them operating miles apart going in all different directions. The heart is slower than the mind, so when we write we put these two mechanisms on the same page working in conjunction with each other.</p>
<p><strong>3. Visualize Progress:</strong> When we have an idea or a vision to follow, we need a structure created to back it up. The vision itself will naturally create the goals which will lead to us successfully achieving what we want our new life to look like. The mind is extremely powerful, so create the vision and live the daily goals to get there. Soon, you will be living your new direction.</p>
<p><strong>4. Analyze Beliefs:</strong> We have to examine the beliefs which hold us back, look at our fears and see how we have been living these fears keeping us feeling small. Take every new change as an opportunity to undo and prove negative beliefs to be false. We need to jump outside of what we are used to and scare ourselves a little in an effort to build confidence and resilience.</p>
<p><strong>5. Action:</strong> The antidote to despair is action. To have endurance we need to be in consistent action, especially in the face of adversity. We need to put faith behind our action showing we believe things will be better than before if we keep working hard and moving. </p>
<p><strong>6. Positive Attitude:</strong> Maintaining a positive attitude and putting a crisis in its place is key. We can choose how much drama and negative attention we give to our challenge. A positive attitude gives our pain a purpose. This is a gift that we will find priceless in creating our new life. </p>
<p>Our ability to succeed in life and in the face adversity comes from inside. When our external world has fallen apart, it does not have to define us. We must refuse to be defined by our adversarial outer world where the chaos is. We need to go inside and pull from the power we have within to comfort ourselves, adjust to each moment, make a new plan and take the steps necessary to create our new direction. We cannot find this new path staying stuck in non-movement still wanting what was in the past.</p>
<p><strong>Little Life Message:</strong> Resilience is most crucial in the face of failure and disappointment.</p>
<p><strong>Dr. Sherrie Campbell</strong> is the author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Yourself-Mastery-Being-Person/dp/1477289321/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1358475260&sr=8-1&keywords=Loving+Yourself+The+Mastery+of+Being+Your+Own+Person" target="_blank">Loving Yourself</a> and is a licensed Psychologist with more than nineteen years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly achieve an empowered life. <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/relationship-advice-love-creates-the-common-ground-sherrie-campbell-ph-d/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get her free article on <em>Five Ways to Make Love the Common Ground in Your Communication</em>. She is a featured expert on a variety of national websites and has a successful practice in Southern California. Receive free insights from Sherrie and to be involved in her <a href="http://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD" target="_blank">Facebook community</a> of others looking to improve their relationship. For more information visit <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com" target="_blank">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-31T14:00:00Z
Aging Excellently: Can You Surf the 'Silver Tsunami' or Will You Drown?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Aging-Excellently:-Can-You-Surf-the-Silver-Tsunami-or-Will-You-Drown/157534197224338340.html
2014-03-24T14:00:00Z
2014-03-24T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Dr. Cheryl Woodson<br /></strong><a href="http://www.drcherylwoodson.com" target="_blank">DrCherylWoodson.com</a><br /><br />The media has called the aging of America the "Silver Tsunami." Our families, health system, and economy can either surf, or drown. Where's your surfboard? The first Baby boomers reached age 65 in 2012, ushering in the largest group of seniors in American history, but these silver foxes don't intend to rock on anybody's porch. We plan to stay physically and mentally active as we handle challenges that confronted no generation before us.</p>
<p>We remain in the workforce (though some of us will have no other options.) We squeeze into the Sandwich Generation, but our caregiver sandwich is a triple-decker club: parents, grandparents, and children. Some of us also have a grandchildren-layer. We reinvent ourselves, completing, or continuing our education, following new interests, or reclaiming passions we set aside to focus on responsibilities. We face the reality that aging and death are not optional, but we insist on controlling how we go out.</p>
<p>We plan for the time when we can no longer live independently, discuss our wishes, and prepare documents to insure that our lives end the way we lived, according to our values. We serve as leaders in our families, communities, and houses of worship, initiating these discussions to encourage others to plan as well. We also hold legislators accountable to enact policies that reject archaic laws, and support the way Americans age and provide eldercare today.</p>
<p>Baby boomers are changing the rules of aging, but to stay in the game, we will have to <strong><em>AGE EXCELLENTLY!</em></strong> That means, working smarter, not harder to preserve our physical, financial, emotional and spiritual health. It means becoming informed, effective partners with health care professionals, preparing to manage our health and to advocate for loved ones.</p>
<p>It means working with certified financial advisors to budget, and manage debt. Social service agencies can help you apply for appropriate assistance programs (for tax rebates, employment and income options, food, housing, medication, and transportation). Instead of using our retirement resources to support people who need to support themselves, we will let our adult children be adults. We will learn to stop enabling, crippling, and leaving them vulnerable when we pass on. We can also recommend they apply for assistance programs, too.</p>
<p>Emotional health is avoiding regret by keeping our "I Love Yous" up to date, and by breaking the bonds of thoughts we are afraid to question. My grandmother said, "There's no SHOULD, there's only IS," and I say, "Stay in your lane." At our age, our diva cards have a BIG D. Any dues you paid are working for you, and nobody gets to tell you "should." You are not a victim; you choose, and since you've chosen, you are a victor; accept your choice, and dig deep for the joy.</p>
<p>Many of us also stress about things that aren't our business. Stop worrying about what you think people <strong>should</strong> do. Who died and made you queen? We can choose to help if people ask, but often, our input is not wanted, or necessary.</p>
<p>Holding grudges poisons our spirits. Forgiveness doesn't mean standing in the line of fire; it means reclaiming people's power to hurt us, freeing our spirits for more positive feelings that generate growth and joy.</p>
<p>I think "Age Gracefully" means sitting back and accepting the past image of aging. I don't like "Age Successfully" either. We're the CAN DO generation; we deserve excellence! Let's AGE EXCELLENTLY, pick up our surfboards, and surf the Silver Tsunami, grabbing our futures, and protecting our physical, financial, emotional, and spiritual health.</p>
<p><strong>Dr. Cheryl Woodson</strong> is an author who specialized in Geriatric Medicine for more than thirty years, and also navigated her mother's ten-year journey with Alzheimer's disease. She taught Geriatrics in medical schools, founded community-based care-coordinating Geriatrics programs, and served on the White House Conference on Aging. Shooting from the hip and from the heart, Dr. Woodson brings a unique perspective to professional and family caregivers, community activists, and policy-makers. For more information and resources visit <a href="http://www.drcherylwoodson.com" target="_blank">DrCherylWoodson.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-24T14:00:00Z
Kid Focused Movie Review: 'Mr. Peabody & Sherman' Offers Adventure and Heart
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Kid-Focused-Movie-Review:--Mr.-Peabody--Sherman-Offers-Adventure-and-Heart/147763607420778963.html
2014-03-17T14:00:00Z
2014-03-17T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p>To look around the movie theater, parents had the biggest smiles on their faces during <em>Mr. Peabody & Sherman</em>, the new animated Dreamworks film that's a nod to the past while still offering a clever, fresh plot.</p>
<p><em>Mr. Peabody and Sherman</em> is based on the adventures of the1960s characters of the same name. A genius dog adopts a human boy and the father/son duo break the time space continuum in their self-made time machine. They visit major conflicts during world history including the French Revolution and Trojan War. During lighter times they pal around with the likes of George Washington and Leonardo DaVinci. All goes swimmingly until Sherman starts school and a mean girl wreaks havoc on their secret time travel lifestyle.</p>
<p><em>Mr. Peabody & Sherman</em> offers a broad, quick glimpse of history for younger viewers that will pique their interest. Still, the heart of the film is the relationship between father and son.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Mr. Peabody & Sherman:</strong> </p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line- A-</strong><br />Like the popular <em>Magic Treehouse</em> book series, kids will walk away thinking history is cool. The story of a dog adopting a boy (and the more serious this all gets) is goofy though, but kids won't mind.</p>
<p><strong>Strong message- A-</strong><br />Learning doesn't always happen in a classroom. Don't judge a book by its cover. The ubiquitous, 21st-century theme: families come in all forms (which could have some looking deeply at how much the filmmakers wanted to embellish this point).</p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model- A</strong><br />Mr. Peabody is a strong, loving, smart and respectable father to Sherman's sweet, obedient, funny son-refreshing to see in 2014.</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content - B+</strong> <br />Sherman develops a crush. The mean principal gets carried off by Agamemnon-<br />they hug and kiss back in Troy.</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- C</strong><br />A few bullying words like "stupid" and "loser" are said. There are some scenes when the characters confront scary situations like when Mr. Peabody almost gets his head chopped off or when the ancient Egyptians explain how wives would be eviscerated if their husbands were to die first.</p>
<p><strong>Suited for the whole family- A-/B+</strong><br />Though my 5-year-old daughter wasn't scared during <em>Mr. Peabody & Sherman</em>, most of the historical references went right over her head. This film is for older kids at least 7 and older. </p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Mr. Peabody & Sherman: B+ </strong></p>
<p><strong>Rated PG Running Time: 1 hour 31 minutes </strong></p>
<p> <strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-17T14:00:00Z
Women, Sugar and Addiction
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Women,-Sugar-and-Addiction/-878384562387977777.html
2014-03-17T13:59:00Z
2014-03-17T13:59:00Z
<strong>By Mary Jayne Rogers</strong><br /><a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">DoctorMaryJayne.com</a><br /><br />
<p>I have noticed that more and more businesses keep a small bowl of candy in reception areas and on countertops. They are practically becoming part of the décor. The other day, while waiting for my hairstylist, a woman marched over to the obligatory bowl of candy, snatched up a fistful of candy and announced, "I need some sugar!" She was not a diabetic in distress; she was not faint from not eating. She had an emotional need for not just one piece of candy - but a fistful.</p>
<p>I know there have been times when I felt the same way. But observing this woman's self righteousness over her need for sugar really made me take a step back and think about her "need" for sugar. As women we have practically become a sisterhood of sugar devotees. We use ice cream to mend a broken heart, chocolate to get through hormonal flux, sweet treats to reward ourselves, cakes and pastries for celebrations and special occasions, and delightful tidbits of this or that, just to get us through the day.</p>
<p>We are hearing more about sugar addiction from a number of health authorities, including Kristin Kirkpatrick from the Cleveland Clinic. We have heard stories for years about the addictive nature of junk food, and most recently the big news comparing the addictive nature of Oreos to cocaine. We have learned that sugar truly affects our brain by altering neurotransmitters which actually does make us need, crave or require sugar literally to calm our nerves.</p>
<p>Aside from the fact that sugar causes inflammation in the body; aggravating joint pain, wreaking havoc with skin issues, and weakening the immune system, it is also obviously a source of useless calories that cause a blood sugar roller coaster. We get the lift from the sugar, which is rapidly absorbed, causing a blood sugar drop that forces us to eat more to raise the blood sugar back up. These sugar highs and lows can lead to insulin resistance, which can then put us at a higher risk for Type 2 Diabetes.</p>
<p>Woman to woman, what troubles me the most is that women seem to be specifically targeted by the food industry for sugary indulgences. This has been the case for quite some time; Valentine's Day Chocolates and Boxes of Candies for Mother's Day as an example. Somehow the food industry has convinced us that we need sugar; that mocha frappuccino, cookie dough ice cream and foil wrapped kisses are our divine right. We have come to believe we deserve this decadence after all that nature has doled out to us: monthly hormone flux, periods, then no hormones and no periods. Whatever we are going through, we have been given the message that certainly sugar will fix everything. I say its time to stop the madness! We need to take our health back. Our brains, emotions and bodies are ours to control. We must be our own advocates. The next time you see an ad that specifically targets you for more sugar and more calories, remind yourself that the sugar doesn't love you. Pamper every bit of your being - just say, "No - thank you."</p>
<p><strong>Healthy Sweet Treats No Sugar or Artificial Sweeteners:</strong></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong>1. Stuffed Dates:</strong> Try fillings such as goat cheese, almonds or walnuts<br /><strong>2. Fresh Berries</strong> <br /><strong>3. Fresh Figs:</strong> Try broiling them adding a drizzle of honey or stuffing with blue cheese<br /><strong>4. Pureed Fruit Popsicles</strong><br /><strong>5. Freeze fresh fruits</strong> for delicious granita, sorbet or smoothies</p>
<p><br /> <br /><strong>Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers</strong> is an exercise physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness and fitness education and instruction. As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages. Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. For more information visit <a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">DoctorMaryJayne.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-17T13:59:00Z
Conquer Your Chaos - Keep Stress at Bay
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Conquer-Your-Chaos---Keep-Stress-at-Bay/607154800554250542.html
2014-03-10T14:00:00Z
2014-03-10T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Sherry Borsheim<br /></strong><a href="http://www.simplyproductive.com" target="_blank">SimplyProductive.com</a></p>
<p>Stress is quickly becoming an epidemic in North America. Today, 75 - 90 percent of all doctor visits are stress related. Conditions like high blood pressure, allergies, migraines, ulcers, skin problems, and more have all been related to stress. That's not to mention the fact that stress has been linked to all the leading causes of death, including heart disease, cancer, lung ailments, and accidents.</p>
<p>The start of each day is the time to feel fresh and confident in your ability to make progress on your daily tasks. This feeling of purpose comes easily with an organized workspace. Disorganization, on the other hand, washes all good intentions away in confusion and stress, and sets the tone for the rest of the workday.</p>
<p>Then, we must address the electronic chaos. Spam assassin's aren't diffusing all of the spam anymore, the convenience of networking has created duplicates in local folders and network folders, stored documents on CD are almost impossible to retrieve and dare we enter the gloom of contact lists, emails and the "convenience" of archiving. </p>
<p>With all this in mind, now, more than ever, is the time to protect your health and business by <strong><em>conquering your chaos</em></strong>. Getting organized is one giant leap towards dealing with stress effectively.</p>
<p>Here are a few tips for reducing stress through organization.</p>
<p>Know your priorities and then schedule time for those tasks in your calendar. You don't have to complete your list in one day, just focus your energy on what matters most and work your way down.</p>
<p><strong>If Paper Chaos is your biggest challenge:</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Take all of the paper piles you have on your desk, counter or table and place it in a box.</li>
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<li>Pick up the first piece of paper and apply the FAST principle™ - ask yourself if you are going to File, Act, Schedule or Toss this piece of paper? If it's file, then write trigger word(s) in the top right hand corner of the paper. Put it in a pile called "File". If you need to take action, write out all the action steps on the top right corner of the paper or use a post-it-note and put it in a pile labeled "Action". If you need to schedule this into your calendar then write it into your calendar and toss the paper. When you've sorted the entire box you should have 3 piles - File, Act, Schedule and I'll assume that your wastebasket is overflowing!</li>
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<li>Once sorted, start with the action pile and begin to handle each piece of paper - filing it in your action files or scheduling the next action into your calendar. You can also use the Tickler system to file these into on the day you plan to take action.</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>If Electronic Chaos is your biggest challenge:</strong></p>
<p>Fortunately, there's a lot you can do to take charge of your computer and abolish all electronic disorganization this month. To start, block off at least an hour in your day planner before taking the following steps.</p>
<ol>
<li>Review your computer files/documents and make a backup of all the documents that you know you will not refer to again (such as draft documents that have now been completed, files with out-of-date information or duplicate information in different file locations). Once a backup has been created, delete all of these electronic files.</li>
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<li>Remove any programs that you don't use. To do so, select "Start/Control Panel/Add or Remove Programs". Simply highlight the unused programs and click "remove".</li>
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<li>Run Scandisk weekly and create a backup.</li>
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<li>Make space in Internet Explorer by removing temporary files. To do so, go to "Tools/Internet Options/Temporary Internet Files" and click "Delete Files". Say "yes" to "Delete all offline content".</li>
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<li>Take a few minutes to organize your files within your e-mail program. Create these additional files: action; read; waiting for a response; and templates. Each morning, delete unnecessary e-mails (spam/junk), respond to any e-mail that will only take two minutes or less to respond to, then move all other e-mails to their designated files, leaving a completely empty inbox. Then schedule time each day to deal with those e-mails.</li>
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<li>Use only one calendar, either electronic or paper. A good idea is to use an electronic calendar that can be easily synced with a handheld electronic organizer, such as a PDA, on a daily basis.</li>
</ol>
<p>Whatever you do to <strong><em>conquer your chaos</em></strong> around the office or home, don't over schedule. Delegate tasks when appropriate - you don't have to do everything. Leave time free in your calendar for the unexpected and perhaps for a break now and then. Streamline your office for success!<br /> <br /><strong>Sherry Borsheim</strong> is the founder of Simply Productive, is an International organization expert, and has appeared on national media including HGTV. Sherry is an author and sought-after speaker who loves helping busy professionals, business owners and moms organize their chaos at home, at work and in their life. Sherry believes there's no one-size-fits-all solution to getting organized and that your organizing systems need to work for you and the people in your life. Contact Sherry to get organized today at <a href="http://www.simplyproductive.com" target="_blank">www.simplyproductive.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-10T14:00:00Z
The 5 Fears of Aging
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-5-Fears-of-Aging/625147271517183938.html
2014-03-03T15:00:00Z
2014-03-03T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Joan Pagano<br /></strong><a href="http://www.joanpaganofitness.com" target="_blank">JoanPaganoFitness.com</a><br /><br />Beginning around age 40 many women notice changes in their bodies that sound an alarm. You may be perplexed by creeping weight gain and stubborn belly fat. Perhaps you feel stiffer in the mornings and are becoming accustomed to living with little aches and pains in your joints. You may start looking for the elevator instead of taking the stairs. </p>
<p>Behind the scenes, all the systems of the body are indeed undergoing a subtle shift. As you approach perimenopause, hormonal changes cause the metabolism to slow down. There is a steady decline in bone and muscle mass. You are at increased risk of heart attack and stroke. You may even experience a slight decrease in balance and cognitive function.</p>
<p>Here are several common fears of aging and how you can modify their affect.</p>
<p><strong>1. Creeping Weight Gain and Stubborn Belly Fat</strong><br />"I've gotten really frustrated by the changes in my body. I used to be able to get by with a regular exercise routine and watching my diet, but recently have gained weight and my body fat is redistributing - it's all going right to my belly." </p>
<p>Midlife belly is caused by a combination of factors. Age is one part of the equation; hormones and stress also contribute. Abdominal fat is not only damaging to your silhouette, but can also damage your health profile. Research shows that exercise reduces the size of fat cells in the belly more effectively than dieting alone. </p>
<p><strong>2. Slowing Down and Losing My Edge</strong><br />"I've become aware that I'm slowing down and losing my edge. I just don't have the energy to do all the things I used to and I feel like old age is creeping up on me."</p>
<p>Experts in the field of aging agree that exercise is the prime mover in the drive to preserve vitality. Being in shape frees us from physical limitations and creates confidence, self-esteem and a positive attitude. We may not be able to re-capture our youthful bodies completely, but we can override the signals of aging by engaging in a consistent, dedicated program of exercise. <br /> <br /><strong>3. Pain has Taken Control of My Body</strong><br /> "At the end of last year, my body was falling apart and could no longer do what I wanted it to do. I had lost control over my body and pain was dictating to me what I was able to do." <br /><br />Don't assume that muscle aches, painful joints or nagging discomfort in any part of your body is a natural part of aging. With professional guidance, appropriate exercise will actually diminish the discomfort, increase mobility and strengthen the muscles that support the joints. <br /><br /><strong>4. White Coat Anxiety</strong><br />"I'm plain scared to see the doc and possibly get bad news. Serious cardiovascular disease runs in my family and I've recently seen numerous reports about women my age dying far more frequently from cardiovascular disease than breast cancer." <br /> <br />Silent diseases are difficult to detect because they have no symptoms to alert us.<br />The first symptom of osteoporosis could be a bone fracture; of high blood pressure, a stroke. Coronary artery disease, diabetes, and breast cancer also advance without warning. The best defense against developing disease is a healthy offense, including a well-rounded fitness program of cardio exercise, strength training and stretching.</p>
<p><strong>5. I'm Afraid its Too Late to Fix My Body at This Age? </strong><br />"I am helping my elderly parents cope with the changes that are occurring as they are getting older. It bothers me to see them struggling to maintain their independence. Is it ever too late to begin exercising? Is it safe for them to start at this advanced age?"</p>
<p>It is never too late to start exercising and the earlier you begin the longer you will benefit. Your individual exercise program is unique to each person and should be tailored to your starting level of fitness, your medical history and your objectives and goals. Studies show that even people in their 90's with chronic diseases can improve their strength by 175%, walking speed and balance by 48%.</p>
<p>Each of us wants to be able to maintain all of our everyday activities without undue fatigue and with energy to spare. Although genetics plays a role in retaining a youthful body, the single most important lifestyle factor is our engagement in a well-rounded exercise program.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Joan Pagano</strong> is the author of best-selling fitness books, including the new release <em><a href="http://www.joanpaganofitness.com/online-store/strength-training-exercises-for-women.html" target="_blank">Strength Training Exercises for Women</a></em> (DK 2014), an informational speaker on health and fitness topics and the owner of Joan Pagano Fitness in New York City. Former trainer to Jacqueline Onassis and Caroline Kennedy, Joan has specialized in strength training for women since 1988. She is an authority on the benefits of exercise for women's health issues such as menopause, osteoporosis and breast cancer, as well as strength training through the decades. For more information visit <a href="http://www.joanpaganofitness.com" target="_blank">www.joanpaganofitness.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-03-03T15:00:00Z
Kid Focused Review: 'The Lego Movie' - Glitzy Surface, Lackluster Substance
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Kid-Focused-Review:-The-Lego-Movie----Glitzy-Surface,-Lackluster-Substance/51010323028449165.html
2014-02-24T15:00:00Z
2014-02-24T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p>"Everything is awesome" for <em>The Lego Movie's </em>leading character Emmet, where in his Lego-constructed world all citizens abide by the rules and optimism abounds. Chosen by a prophecy to be an imaginative "master builder," and save the world from Kragl (a misspelling of Krazy Glue, which symbolizes no imagination or thinking outside structured, strict manual-led lives) Emmet is forced out of this utopian way of thinking and must face that being so agreeable doesn't always bring respect.</p>
<p>The beginning of <em>The Lego Movie</em> has a nice hook and the last 20 minutes finally tie up loose ends, but the middle is just one huge promotion for the Lego franchise with a convoluted plot. When I asked my younger kids (10, 7 and 5) to explain what it's about, all they could retell was the catchy "Everything is Awesome" song.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Lego Movie:</strong> </p>
<p><strong>Compelling story line- C </strong><br />Emmet is as b-o-r-i-n-g as you might expect a Lego man could be and he's mocked continuously for it. Thinking he was chosen as "The Special" for a reason, the supporting characters spend the whole movie trying to figure out why Emmet received such an honor. How Will Ferrell's adult, human character is tied in at the end with the larger story is somewhat redeeming, but it's too little, too late.</p>
<p><strong>Strong message- B </strong><br />Embrace what's special about you. Don't try to be like other people. Trust your instincts.</p>
<p><strong>Leading character is a role model- C </strong><br />Emmet is a nice enough guy, albeit wimpy.</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content - C+</strong> <br />Emmet develops a crush on the free-spirited Wildstyle even though she's dating Batman. There is some hand holding and cuddling, but no kissing.</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- C-</strong><br />The language in <em>The Lego Movie</em> is mild in comparison to its loud special effects, fast action sequences, punching, explosions, car racing, shooting, etc.</p>
<p><strong>Suited for the whole family- B-</strong> <br />For children ages 6 and up. Boys will likely enjoy <em>The Lego Movie</em> more than girls will. </p>
<p><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Lego Movie: C+</strong> </p>
<p><strong>Rated PG Running Time: 1 hour 35 minutes</strong> </p>
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-02-24T15:00:00Z
Six-Pack Abs Are Attainable
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Six-Pack-Abs-Are-Attainable/775199051498516517.html
2014-02-18T14:00:00Z
2014-02-18T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Carol Whitaker</strong><br /><a href="http://www.CarolWhitaker.com" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com</a><br /><br /><br />Having a six-pack is awesome! I've had a six-pack for over 20 years. There's nothing quite like it-it's highly empowering. I'm often asked how I achieved my six-pack and have maintained it for more than 20 years.</p>
<p>It takes work and definitely requires a lifestyle change; however, it's very doable. You have to be realistic; you can't workout like crazy, eat junk food and then expect to see results. That will only keep your desired six-pack hidden under fat.</p>
<p><strong>Commit to Living a LivFit Lifestyle</strong></p>
<p>Committing to living a LivFit Lifestyle is the first step in attaining an awesome six-pack. If you stay on track and focus on your goals daily, within a few short months you will have a killer washboard stomach. (If you don't have a lot of weight to lose you can have a six-pack within 90 days, and if you have a lot to lose it will just take you a bit longer.)</p>
<p><strong>How to Begin</strong></p>
<p>For starters, you can't pinpoint or isolate the abs to burn fat. The entire body has to shed fat to see the beloved six-pack. We all have abdominal muscles; it's just a matter of losing the fat stores that covers them. As you start to lose weight and strengthen your muscles, you will soon notice your abdominal muscles taking form-that is exciting!</p>
<p>Regular exercise is critical to achieving your six-pack dream. If you don't make time to exercise 5 to 6 days a week for 45 to 60-minute sessions you will never find your awesome six-pack. You can alternate cardio and weight lifting days throughout the week. Just make sure you exercise at least 5 to 6 days a week. Be sure to check with your physician before you begin any new exercise regimen.</p>
<p><strong>Eat Clean to Be Lean</strong></p>
<p>Diet is 85% of the equation in achieving a six-pack goal. It is critical to eat healthy, whole foods often throughout the day. When you eat small meals every 3 to 4 hours you will turbo charge your metabolism. </p>
<p>Each meal should consist of a lean protein, a complex carb and fresh veggies. Include 1 tablespoon of good fats (olive oil, walnuts, omegas or flax seeds) twice daily. Use the size of your palm for proteins and complex carbs servings and eat as much veggies as your heart desires.</p>
<p>Have your complex carbs during the first part of the day and fibrous carbs the second half of the day. Try to have your last meal between 6 and 7 p.m. Be sure to drink at least a gallon or more of purified water daily to keep your metabolism burning and to remove toxins.</p>
<p>If eating clean seems confusing to you remember the saying, "If God didn't make it, don't eat it." By eating whole foods your body will be fueled with the proper energy and nutrients it will need to efficiently build a hard, shapely physique and burn fat to unveil your desired six-pack.</p>
<p><strong>HIIT to the Rescue!</strong></p>
<p>Next you will need to do high intensity interval training (HIIT) at least 2 days a week for 20 to 30 minutes along with lifting weights at least 3 days a week. </p>
<p>When you strength train you will use your core muscles to stabilize your body, which will strengthen your abdominal muscles, keep your core tight throughout all exercises. Doing core training such as yoga and Pilates is also an excellent choice to strengthen your midsection. Do not train your abs every day. They need recovery time just like your other muscles.</p>
<p>As promised, below is my Awesome Six-Pack Abs Workout. Complete 3 sets of 25 to 50 reps for each exercise, doing one exercise and then the next until you complete 3 sets. Be sure to complete each exercise with good form-quality and quantity.</p>
<p><strong>Awesome Six-Pack Abs Workout</strong></p>
<p><strong>Crunches </strong>- With your legs up in the air at a 90-degree angle lift your shoulders up, keeping your chin off your chest, place hands gently behind your head.</p>
<p><strong>Twist Crunches </strong>- Reach with your elbow across your body to the opposite knee keeping your knees in the air at a 90-degree angle. Do these slow and controlled.</p>
<p><strong>Mason Twist</strong> - With your legs and torso up in the air, clasp your hands in front of your abs and touch the floor quickly on either side of your body while stabilizing your core.</p>
<p><strong>Three-Up Crunches </strong>- Do 3 small crunches in a row holding each little crunch for 3 to 5 seconds as you go up.</p>
<p><strong>Bicycles </strong> -Lay on your back, raise your pelvis up and do bicycles with your legs, 25 forward and 25 backward. </p>
<p><strong>V-Ups</strong> - Lay on your back raise your legs and torso at a 90-degree angle, hold for 30 to 60 seconds and release back down to beginning position.</p>
<p><strong>Superman</strong> - Lay on your stomach, at the same time lift your legs and arms straight out as high as you can for 30 to 60 seconds.</p>
<p><strong>Planks </strong>- Lay on your stomach on the floor, lift your body up on arms with your forearms and hands flat on the floor, hold for 30 to 60 seconds.</p>
<p>Always stretch after you train and drink plenty of water before and after. Also drink a whey protein drink and have a piece of fruit after all training to ensure your muscles have nutrients to repair quickly.</p>
<p>Believe that you can have an awesome six-pack and follow through with your fitness goals until you attain your desires abs. If you stay true to yourself and do my Awesome Six-Pack Abs Workout regularly you will have fantastic results just as I have. Have fun creating the abs of your dreams!</p>
<p><strong>Carol Whitaker</strong> is the author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ridiculously-Happy-Secret-Manifesting-Dreams/dp/0991313208/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1389044826&sr=8-1&keywords=carol+whitaker" target="_blank">Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams</a></em>. Carol is a Media Expert and Motivational Speaker. She is passionate about inspiring and motivating women to create and manifest the life and body of their dreams. Carol is an featured expert on national media and online websites. Carol is a happily married mother of 3. Connect with Carol on her professional profile <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/carolwhitakercoaching" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/CarolWhitakerCoaching" target="_blank">Facebook</a> to receive her health, fitness & happiness tips and by following her on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/LivFitCoach" target="_blank">Twitter</a>. Visit <a href="http://www.CarolWhitaker.com" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com</a> to learn more about her services along with tools and secrets to discover how to transform your life to that of your dreams. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2014-02-18T14:00:00Z
6 Ways to 'Travel Bond' with Older Children
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/6-Ways-to-Travel-Bond-with-Older-Children/-1857758369988472.html
2014-02-10T15:05:00Z
2014-02-10T15:05:00Z
<p><strong>By Anne Leedom<br /></strong><a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">ParentingBookmark.com</a><br /><br />As a mom, finding ways to stay connected to our daughters as they reach a legal age can be a challenge. They have so much going on in their lives, and it gets harder everyday to maintain ongoing family activities. When budget is a challenge it can be even more difficult to find ways to motivate young adult kids to hang out and truly enjoy each other's company.</p>
<p>Here are six ways to help create a magical getaway and strengthen your bond, as your kids become adults. We found our solution at the <a href="http://www.thedolphinbay.com" target="_blank">Dolphin Bay Resort</a> in Shell Beach. If you can arrange a visit, they truly provide the ingredients for a perfect getaway.</p>
<p><strong>1. Pick an outdoor destination.</strong> Motivate everyone to get out and enjoy time together. Enjoying the warm weather in Central California gave me a great opportunity to steal a few precious days with my young adult daughters.</p>
<p><strong>2. Bring movies.</strong> You can control the entertainment and avoid the dreaded problem of spending hours choosing something to watch. Many resorts offer a far better selection of movies and are more affordable than pay-per-view.</p>
<p><strong>3. Include activities you personally enjoy.</strong> Help your children see you are still a kid at heart. Hitting the beach and climbing the rocks, looking for shells, watching the clouds from the sand, all can help your young adult kids see the kid inside their parents. And it won't embarrass them. That's a bonus!</p>
<p><strong>4. Give them alone time so they look forward to the "we" time.</strong> Don't over schedule the days. They are older now and may well want some time alone. A manicure or a trip to the gym might give them a sense that's it's their time as well as "our time". The break will be appreciated by all and make coming back together that much more fun.</p>
<p><strong>5. Budget for activities, not food. </strong>Most family trips require budget consideration. We enjoyed room service, but focused on the kid menu or dessert. We chose a magnificent destination that included a full kitchen. Being able to cook easy meals and snacks gave us the chance to enjoy local activities without stretching our budget.</p>
<p><strong>6. Use smartphones for pictures.</strong> If they're going to text, at least it will be about the trip. We stopped to enjoy the resort photo opportunities, ocean vistas or just a silly moment and captured the moments on our cameras often. Rather than institute a "no texting" rule that would've been unrealistic with older kids, I gave my girls enough pictures and activities that any texting still focused on their trip.</p>
<p><strong>Anne Leedom</strong> is the Founder of Parentingbookmark.com, a website offering resources for raising caring kids. For more information visit <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">parentingbookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2014-02-10T15:05:00Z
How Body Language Can Lower Stress
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/How-Body-Language-Can-Lower-Stress/17383293546798292.html
2014-02-03T14:59:00Z
2014-02-03T14:59:00Z
<strong>By Vanessa Van Edwards<br /></strong><a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com" target="_blank">ScienceofPeople.com</a>
<p>Most stress relief techniques are completely useless.</p>
<p>Believe me, I've tried them all. I tried yoga, anti-stress software, breathing exercises, aromatherapy and classes before discovering body language. This is a completely new way to approach stress-and I want to teach it to you.</p>
<p>Mastering your body language is the most effective, science-based stress reducing technique-and you already have all the tools you need to use it.</p>
<p><strong>Step One: Take Back Control</strong></p>
<p>First, we have to understand that most of our stress comes from a lack of control. Especially for women who feel the majority of their stress during out of control situations-heavy workload, blind dates or having to impress new groups of people. Learning body language will put you back in control. And that's how we will target stress.</p>
<p><strong>Step Two: Internal Stress</strong></p>
<p>Most people don't realize that humans produce a stress hormone called cortisol. This is a nasty little hormone that causes to gain weight, slows down our thinking and makes us feel that overwhelming anxiety that always hits at the worst possible time. Harvard University researchers found that our cortisol levels can be changed by our body language. They found that just standing in weak body language for 5 minutes can increase your cortisol levels-making you feel more and more stressed! You can reverse this cycle by avoiding weak body language. Here's what to do when you begin to feel that internal stress:</p>
<p><strong>Step Three: Expand and Elevate</strong></p>
<p>The moment you begin to feel internal stress it means your cortisol levels are pumping, working to bring you even further down into a cycle of anxiety. As soon as you feel yourself to go into a stressful mental space, put your physical space into strong body language:</p>
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<li>Roll your shoulders back and down your spine.</li>
<li>Aim your chest and forehead up towards the sun.</li>
<li>Place your feet firmly on the ground, shoulder width apart.</li>
<li>Relax your arms at your side. </li>
</ul>
<p>These are the characteristics of strong body language. The more space you take up and the more relaxed your muscles, the less cortisol you will produce, which will then lessen your feelings of stress.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Step Four: Get Some Juice</strong></p>
<p>Body language not only helps you reduce cortisol, it can also help you increase the hormones that will help you conquer your stress. While weak body language increases cortisol, strong body language increases your testosterone levels. Testosterone (for both men and women) helps you think more clearly, it increases your endurance and makes you feel stronger. When you are in the throws of stress try power posing to decrease cortisol and increase testosterone. This will make you feel more in control and mentally strong:</p>
<p><img src="/images/blog/body_language.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="285" /><br /><br /><strong>Power Pose #1: Pride</strong></p>
<p>When we win a race we throw our hands above our head and smile with happiness. You can use this to get super-charged through stress.</p>
<p><strong>Power Pose #2: Wonder Woman</strong></p>
<p>Putting your hands on your hips and standing wide and firm is the ultimate testosterone-producing pose.</p>
<p><strong>Power Pose #3: Dancing</strong></p>
<p>The more you can move your body and take up space the more testosterone your body produces and the stronger you feel. Turn on your favorite song and rock out-it's the best stress relief there is.</p>
<p>Next time you're stressed try to use your body language to put you back in control and get the right hormones pumping. You will be amazed at how different you begin to feel.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Vanessa Van Edwards</strong> is an author and highly sought after behavioral investigator. She is a columnist for Huffington Post and her work and research has been featured on CNN, Forbes, Business Week and the Wall Street Journal. Vanessa <a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/" target="_blank">speaks</a> regularly and appears in the media regarding the latest research. Vanessa's groundbreaking <a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com/work-with-me/" target="_blank">workshops and courses</a> teach individuals how to succeed in business and life by understanding the hidden dynamics of people. Her specialty is human lie detection and body language in business. For more information visit <a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com" target="_blank">www.scienceofpeople.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2014-02-03T14:59:00Z
Why Do New Year's Resolutions Typically Fail?
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2013-12-30T08:00:00Z
2013-12-30T08:00:00Z
<p><strong>Edwin Locke, PhD and Ellen Kenner, PhD</strong><br /><a href="http://www.selfishromance.com" target="_blank">www.selfishromance.com</a></p>
<p><em>(originally published January 2012)</em><br /><br />Making New Year's resolutions is an old tradition. Over the next year we are going to stop smoking, lose weight, save money, exercise more, drink less and be nicer to our family members. Overwhelmingly such resolutions lead nowhere-until they are made again the next year with the same lack of results.</p>
<p>What's missing? Consider Tom who was 75 pounds overweight when I met him. When I saw him again a year later, I was shocked. The 75 extra pounds were gone. "Tom," I said, "How did you do it?" He replied, "It was easy!" "Easy?" I gasped in disbelief. <br />"Everyone knows losing weight is one of the hardest things you can do." Tom answered, "But you see, I really, really wanted to."</p>
<p>What did Tom mean by this? He meant he had had total commitment. Goals, specifically difficult goals, do not affect action unless you are committed to them. But what does commitment involve? Here are the keys:</p>
<p>You need to consciously consider the goal to be personally important.</p>
<p>You need to examine your subconscious for contradictory beliefs, such as, "Well actually, I really love, pizza, beer and ice cream and I could not bear to give them up." You can't have commitment if you have unresolved conflicts. You need to convince your subconscious your goal is important and the reasons why. For example, "Smoking drastically increases my risk of many types of cancer as well as heart disease and stroke, so I am committing slow suicide if I continue. I really want to live a long and healthy life."</p>
<p>Combine all long term, such as yearly goals, with short term (daily or weekly) goals so your goals stay fresh in your mind. </p>
<p>Be prepared for setbacks. Conflict does not go away overnight especially if you are attached to a strong habit. What will do you if you slip up? "Next time I am tempted I'll flush my cigarettes down the toilet." "When I go to the store next I will buy healthier foods." "I will remind myself my life depends on living better." I will be more sexually attractive if my breath does not smell bad and I am slimmer."</p>
<p>Have a specific plan. "I will go to the gym or take a two mile walk every other day."</p>
<p>Keep a written record to make what you are doing objective, such as number of miles walked, number of days with no smokes, number of calories consumed, or number of pounds lost (e.g., per week). This makes it hard to fool yourself.</p>
<p>Write a letter to your spouse and/or to one or more friends announcing what you plan to do. This makes keeping to your plan a matter of public integrity.</p>
<p>Practice thought control; when you are tempted to relapse, figure out things you can tell yourself to strengthen your commitment. "Uncle Joe died a horrible death from lung cancer; I don't want to go like that." "My partner does not want to make love to me because I am unattractive. I need to control what my body looks like."</p>
<p>Reward yourself for progress, say once a month. Maybe a new shirt or blouse, a special movie outing, one small piece of chocolate-something you value and can afford.</p>
<p>If you want your New Year's resolutions to be completed, take the steps needed to really commit to it. Instead of feeling shame at the end of the year you will feel pride.</p>
<p>Copyright 2011.</p>
<p><strong>Edwin Locke, PhD</strong>, a world-renowned psychologist, and <strong>Ellen Kenner, PhD</strong>, a clinical psychologist and host of the nationally-syndicated radio talk show, The Rational Basis of Happiness®, have co-authored <em>The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason</em>. Both are experts on Ayn Rand's philosophy of Objectivism. For more information visit <a href="http://www.selfishromance.com" target="_blank">www.selfishromance.com</a>.</p>
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2013-12-30T08:00:00Z
The Day After Christmas: Five Ways to Handle the Biggest Downer of the Year
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2013-12-23T08:00:00Z
2013-12-23T08:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Harry H. Harrison Jr.</strong><br /><a href="http://www.fearlessparenting.com" target="_blank">www.fearlessparenting.com</a></p>
<em>(originally published December 2012)</em><br /><br />The presents are all open. The living room is a wreck. The new trike is on its side in the hall. The tree is dropping pine needles on the wrapping that hasn't been picked up. Two toys are already broken. Dad's sweater is too scratchy. You've come to grips with the fact that your MasterCard bill totals four house payments. Your oldest daughter likes none of her new clothes. The whole family is exhausted and depressed, and seemingly, there's no reason to be happy for another 364 days.<br /><br />But we can change that. Right now. Here's how you can make December 26 as wonderful a day as December 25.<br /><br /><strong>1. Don't focus on the importance of your kids <em>getting stuff</em> for Christmas. </strong>Not that we should kill off Santa Claus, and not that some wonderful presents shouldn't be exchanged. But we now live in a culture where on Black Friday, 247 million of us raced to the stores and malls - sometimes just to stand in line at 2 a.m. or go online at 2 a.m. - to buy stuff. That's more people than actually celebrate Christmas. This emphasis on getting stuff means, in many households, that parents are just order takers presented with a checklist of stuff kids want. There's no room for surprises. The importance of Christmas is measured in the getting, not in the mystery of God coming to Earth as a baby. Rather than a "buy me this" list, we need to focus the family's attention on a "what we can do" list for each other. And not for one day, but for a whole year. Dad could focus on cooking dinner for two days a week, so Mom can take those nights off. A big brother might focus on teaching his little brother how to hit a baseball. A daughter might focus on teaching her dad how to dance. By focusing on what we can "do" for each other as Christmas presents, Christmas can come and go, but we will be as happy in July as we were on Christmas day. <br /><br /><strong>2. Wake up on December 26 owing nothing.</strong> Seriously, either pay cash for gifts or buy something cheaper. Even if your kids can't live without a certain toy, even if your spouse has his or her heart set on fancy German speakers - no matter what, if you have to charge it to buy it, leave it on the shelf. We have created an economy that depends on people buying stuff they can't afford, mainly at Christmas, and therefore, most people in the country wake up on December 26 in bad moods knowing how screwed they are. And because they make the minimum monthly payment, they can go on the same ridiculous buying spree the following year, never mind that nobody will remember what they're still paying for. <br /><br /><strong>3. Wake up on December 26 to a day-after-Christmas tradition.</strong> I don't mean showing up at 2 a.m. for the half-price sales at the mall with the same crazies that went berserk the day after Thanksgiving. That isn't a tradition - it's a reason to up your medication. I'm talking about fun things that can become traditions, like day-after-Christmas French toast for breakfast when diets are tossed aside, or skiing a particular mountain as a family every year, or a family touch football game. Give the family a reason to look forward to the day after Christmas, and they will.<br /><br /><strong>4. Wake up on December 26 to return unwanted stuff to the shelters, not to the stores. </strong> A sweater that doesn't fit, a coat that's the wrong color, jeans that are the wrong brand - there's a lot more satisfaction putting those things in the hands of people who need them rather than racing to the mall and standing in line to trade stuff for other stuff. If giving to the shelters every December 26 becomes a family tradition, trust me, it will be a more loved tradition than opening presents on Christmas day.<br /><br /><strong>5. Wake up on December 26 to a long family walk, four to six miles long, with the entire family.</strong> Getting out of the house, away from the tree that needs packing up, away from the presents piled up in the living room, and away from the food clogging up the fridge is a terrific way to burn off frustration, calories and bad moods all at the same time. The only rule is that the whole family goes. Set a goal of four to six miles so that the walk takes over two hours. Stop along the way and rest. If it's cold, stop at a place for hot tea. Let your kids play in the snow in the park. Let your teenager listen to her iPod for five miles. It doesn't matter: everybody goes, everybody walks, everybody returns home too tired to complain. And happy. <br /><br />The main thing to remember is this: Christmas is just another 24-hour day that people attach importance to usually for the wrong reasons. But we can love each other, be kind to one another, and laugh together as families the whole year long. And that's just about the greatest Christmas gift you can give.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Harry H. Harrison Jr.</strong> is a <em>New York Times</em> best-selling parenting author with over 3.7 million books in print. He has been interviewed on over 25 television programs, and featured in over 75 local and national radio stations including NPR. His books are available in over thirty-five countries throughout Western Europe, Eastern Europe, Norway, South America, China, Saudi Arabia and in the Far East. For more information visit <a href="http://www.fearlessparenting.com">www.fearlessparenting.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-12-23T08:00:00Z
What Does Your Gift Say About You?
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2013-12-16T21:34:00Z
2013-12-16T21:34:00Z
<p><strong>By Anne Leedom</strong><br /><a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">parentingbookmark.com<br /></a><br /><br /></p>
<p>Gift giving is a tricky thing. Do you find something that makes you look good? Or do you focus on something that will truly <a href="http://www.uncommongoods.com/gifts/collections/personalized-gifts" target="_blank">thrill your loved ones</a>. People will spend a great deal of time finding the 'perfect gift'. However, when it comes to shopping, there are a few key factors to bear in mind.</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Just friends or is it more. </strong>Take a moment to assess the expectation of the person you intend to give to. Is this a romantic relationship? Family? Sentiment will be well received, as long as it's consistent with the person you are giving to.</li>
<li><strong>Take the time to research.</strong> When you give a gift, take some time to find out what the recipient's interests might be. Giving a gift that could be given to just anyone will not go over well. Choose something personal that will show that you truly do you know who the person is on the other end of the gift.</li>
<li><strong>Don't go overboard. </strong> There's nothing more awkward then someone doing something so nice and elaborate, but it's not realistic or comfortable for the relationship. Make sure your gift is consistent with the comfort level of the person you want to give to. You can give a gift that incorporates all the special elements of giving the right gift, but still respects what is appropriate for the recipient.</li>
<li><strong>Quality counts.</strong> Ultimately, regardless of what you give or who you give to, the quality factor can't be overlooked. When you look at the wonderful old holiday movies, the very best gifts are things that are crafty, sentimental and heartfelt. Going to antique stores are a wonderful way to find the perfect gift for the people who matter the most. Anything that has a personal note will make the impression you hope to create.</li>
<li><strong>Sustainability.</strong> The prefect gift won't disappear in a year. Find gifts that are handmade and come from the heart. Even if they do get packed away one day, they will be discovered and have value for many years to come.</li>
<li><strong>Pass the unique test.</strong> To be honest, if everyone has it, it's actually not that exciting. Finding gifts that are unique and special are for more loved and valued then the latest "get' gift. Make sure your gift passes the unique test. It's a far better measure than the popularity test, as it will be cherished for years to come.</li>
</ol>
<p>Gift giving is about creating memories and expressing sentiment. Hand made gifts and old fashioned mementos are <a href="http://www.uncommongoods.com/sets/handmade-gifts" target="_blank">much more effective</a> than the latest and greatest trendy products that 'everyone' has. The movie <em>Santa Claus 2</em> is wonderful at expressing this ideal. It's memories and connections that will make the holidays special. <a href="http://www.uncommongoods.com/occasions/christmas-gifts/christmas-gifts" target="_blank">Make sure</a> your gift passes the sentiment test. You and your gift will be remembered fondly for years to come.</p>
<p><strong>Anne Leedom</strong> is the Editor and Founder of Parentingbookmark.com, a national online resource for raising caring kids. For more information and tips visit <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2013-12-16T21:34:00Z
Three Benefits to Managing Stress: Better Health, Rejuvenation & Weight Loss
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2013-12-09T14:50:00Z
2013-12-09T14:50:00Z
<p><strong>By Louisa Graves</strong><br /><a href="http://www.hollywoodbeautysecrets.com/">HollywoodBeautySecrets.com</a></p>
<p>Our bodies respond to our thoughts and feelings. When we're feeling down our bodies become tired and sometimes even sick. When we feel positive, our bodies are healthier; we become uplifted, more energized and enthusiastic about life. If you have a hectic lifestyle or occupation, here are life-changing tips that can help you feel less stressed, more energized and rejuvenated.</p>
<p><strong>The Stress, Weight Gain & Brain Fog Connection<br /></strong>Living in a constant state of stress not only rapidly ages us, but it also affects our health and hormones, impairs memory, and causes weight gain. Continuous stress causes the body to naturally release a hormone called cortisol. As stress prolongs we experience brain fog, irritability and sadness as well as additional inches of fat on the waist, hips and thighs. This can be devastating for many women.</p>
<p>Our stress hormone Cortisol, provides energy. When produced in excess, cortisol blocks the thyroid hormone which regulates how quickly we burn calories. This hinders weight loss, increases belly fat, water retention and cravings for high-carbohydrate foods such as sweets and starchy foods. These high glycemic and caloric comfort foods stimulate our endorphins (feel-good transmitters) in the brain, providing a temporary high that calms us for a short time.</p>
<p>However, high-carb foods enter the blood stream quickly and cause blood sugar spikes that stimulate the production of insulin. When insulin levels rise, the body's ability to burn fat slows down. As this cycle continues, the pancreas eventually stops producing the correct supply of insulin the body requires, which can lead to diabetes. In addition, sugar and high-carbohydrate foods cause inflammation and aged-looking skin, low energy, sore joints and even some diseases.</p>
<p>Continued stress exhausts the adrenal system, leading to a variety of health concerns such as depression, fatigue, thyroid issues, brain fog, panic attacks, irritability, low libido, restlessness, weight gain and more. Please visit your doctor if experiencing these symptoms.</p>
<p><strong>Reading Emails Increases Stress and Our Waistlines</strong><br />Did you know that reading emails increases stress? One study revealed that the anticipation of what's in an email causes cortisol production to rise. In addition, those annoying unsolicited emailed advertisements prey on our fears, increasing anxiety even further.</p>
<p>Everywhere we look someone is texting, tweeting, emailing or phoning someone else. I've witnessed 'texters' causing traffic accidents and bumping into others. One gal even tripped and fell into a mall fountain while texting and walking!</p>
<p><strong>Electronic Devices and the Weight Gain Connection</strong> <br />The reality is that to do our jobs many of us must rely on phones, computers and other electronic devices. But the sad truth is that when we're 'on' for countless hours a day, our bodies spew out cortisol. This can drain the adrenal system, cause anxiety, sleeplessness, over eating, and cravings for junk food, which affects our wellbeing and increases our waistlines.</p>
<p>Given the ever-increasing rise in obesity rates I often wonder if using electronic devices are another cause of this skyrocketing phenomenon. Read the alarming obesity statistic below. It's something to think about. Who doesn't have a cell phone or computer?</p>
<p><strong>FACT:</strong> In the USA, adult obesity rates increased in 16 states during the past year and none of the 50 states showed any decline in their rates of obesity.</p>
<p>If your job requires communicating via email or phone, take two moments each hour of the day to re-set your self back to calm mode. I also recommend that if you have a high-stress schedule to begin your day with meditation,</p>
<p>In addition, set boundaries while away from work. Turn your cell phone off during lunch. Take a quiet 10-15 minute walk by yourself. Walking is a scientifically proven stress buster and can be done easily.</p>
<p>Consider turning your computer and phones off after 7:00 p.m. Time away from work is your time. Calm your mind, nourish your body and just be. This will result in a more focused, healthier and rejuvenated you.</p>
<p><strong>Louisa Graves</strong> has appeared on myriad national television shows including The Talk, Extra, and The Doctors, and has been a beauty expert on over 500 terrestrial radio interviews including on WGN, KIIS-FM, and Sirius XM Doctor Radio. Louisa has appeared on the cover of Woman's World Magazine and is also featured regularly in their "Ask America's Ultimate Expert" column. Her tips have been featured on MSNBC.com, WomansDay.com, AOL Health and SheKnows.com. Louisa's <a href="http://www.youtube.com/user/BeautyGuru/videos" target="_blank">YouTube</a> page has had over 1,000,000 views and thousands of professionals and private individuals subscribe to her <a href="http://hollywoodbeautysecrets.com/about_us.htm#signup" target="_blank">newsletter</a>. Louisa is also the author of her bestselling book <a href="http://hollywoodbeautysecrets.com/books_videos.htm" target="_blank">'Hollywood Beauty Secrets: Remedies to the Rescue</a>'. For more information visit <a href="http://www.hollywoodbeautysecrets.com">www.hollywoodbeautysecrets.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2013-12-09T14:50:00Z
Kid Focused: 'Frozen' Movie Review
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2013-12-02T15:10:00Z
2013-12-02T15:10:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p>Meet the latest Disney princesses: sisters Anna and Elsa of the Nordic-inspired kingdom of Arrendale. When it's discovered Princess Elsa (Idina Menzel) has the powers to freeze everything she touches, her parents, the King and Queen, hide her away much like Princess Aurora in <em>Sleeping Beauty </em>was sequestered for her own safety. Yet when Princess Elsa is named Queen, her younger sister Anna (Kristen Bell) fights to save the kingdom as well as her sister's good name.</p>
<p>The cinematography is breathtaking in Frozen and the full musical soundtrack make it the newest Disney classic, though only time will tell whether the songs are as catchy as ones in many other Disney movies.</p>
<p>There are several twists in Frozen that keep it fresh and the supporting characters like Sven the reindeer and Olaf the snowman will have audiences, young and old, laughing out loud.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Frozen:</strong><br /> <br /><strong>Compelling story line- A </strong><br />Themes surrounding family, love and loyalty may be discussed. <em>How long does it take to really get to know someone? How long to fall in love? Why do some people choose to shut the world out?</em> Discuss the different ways the title could be seen as a metaphor throughout the movie. Compare and contrast Frozen to the fairytale it's loosely based on, <em>The Snow Queen</em> by Hans Christian Andersen.</p>
<p><strong>Strong message- A </strong><br />It's ok to be different. Family and good friends shouldn't be taken for granted.<br /> <br /><strong>Leading character is a role model- A </strong><br />Princesses Elsa and Anna will undoubtedly be the newest Disney princesses. They strike a nice balance of being strong female characters that can also rely on men.</p>
<p><strong>Sexual or adult content - A</strong><br />Princess Anna falls in love with two different men and shares a kiss at the end with one.</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- B-</strong> <br />There is a large snow monster that could be upsetting to children under six. The King and Queen die early on in the film, orphaning the two sisters, though young children may not realize it. Elsa can freeze people and there are scenes of a character nearly freezing to death. There is fighting and the use of crossbows in about ten minutes of the film.</p>
<p><strong>Suited for the whole family- A-</strong><br />For children six and up.<br /> <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Frozen: A- </strong> <br />Rated PG<br />Running Time: 1 hour 42 minutes </p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-12-02T15:10:00Z
Four Basic Principles to Prevent Holidaze
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2013-12-02T08:00:00Z
2013-12-02T08:00:00Z
<strong>Mary Jayne Rogers, Ph.D.</strong><br /><a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">DoctorMaryJayne.com</a><br />
<p>As the holiday season settles in to the stores, our neighborhoods, the airwaves and upon the earth, looking ahead to the season can bring warm anticipation. Thoughts of seeing family and friends in celebration can be delightful!</p>
<p>The unfortunate paradox is that in our eagerness to participate in the season to its fullest, we often find ourselves overworked, stressed, and exhausted. Our resources: physical, mental, emotional, and financial, are spent. We find ourselves overcome by <em>Holidaze</em>.</p>
<p>Holidaze can make us cranky, short-tempered, anxious, and depressed. Holidaze is the dark side of the season. It is our inner Grinch. We know it is encroaching when we become angry about losing a parking place or waiting in line; when we lose patience with the people in our lives - from the clerk at the store to our spouses and even our children, the little souls whom we hope to teach.</p>
<p><em>How do we escape the dreaded Holidaze?</em></p>
<p><em>Below are four principles for keeping Holidaze at bay and enjoying the spirit of the season with ease and well-being.</em></p>
<p><strong>Take care of yourself. </strong> Yes Virginia, that is the place to start. Exercise, daily if possible. Focus on maintaining sanity in your diet. Keep lavish foods, sugar, alcohol, and baked goods to a minimum. Take moments to yourself to get fresh air, breathe, and connect with the goodness inside of you. Taking on the Holidaze requires that your mind and body be as healthful as possible.</p>
<p><strong>Ask the important questions.</strong> Sometimes we get so caught up in the fervor of the season that we don't question our intention. Questions like: What is the purpose of this celebration? Why do I feel I need to participate in the chaos? What do I gain from this? What do I wish to teach my children? What am I actually teaching my children? Am I expressing myself in the world as the best I can be in this situation? What are my core beliefs and am I serving them now? This kind of query can help us take a step back from the Holidaze and take control. We can overcome the madness.</p>
<p><strong>Look for the "Sameness".</strong> When we take the time to stop and observe our world and her people, we find that we are really all the same. We are all daughters, sons, parents, or siblings. We work. We play. We struggle. We cry. We want our children to be happy and healthy. We want to do the right things. We want peace in our lives. We are all the same. There is no "us" and "them". There is "we". When we can recognize our sameness, we can realize that when others hurt, we also hurt. This awareness helps us to be more tolerant. It provides a framework for enhancing calm and empathy. It lights the path that leads us away from Holidaze.</p>
<p><strong>Be the Belief.</strong> Too often we look for meaning and purpose outside of ourselves. During this season in particular, we tend to seek fulfillment, gratification, acknowledgement and joy from external sources such as pageantry, giving and receiving gifts, family interactions, or ceremony. These are simply acts. In and of themselves they cannot sustain us or bring us happiness. Our belief, purpose, and core values are what bring meaning to these things. "Be the Belief" means that we make conscious choices in our lives that are congruent with what we say are our core values. When we do this, we actually radiate these values. We <em>become</em> the meaning and the purpose we have been seeking. We no longer need a person or an event to feed our needs.</p>
<p>Forget Holidaze. As we take care of ourselves, we can also appreciate and love others. We resonate with our core values and ask important questions about how we can best live those values. We personify the true magic of the holiday season. We <em>are</em> the celebration!</p>
<strong>Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers</strong> is an exercise physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness, fitness education, and instruction. As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages. Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. <a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">www.doctormaryjayne.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-12-02T08:00:00Z
Kid Focused: 'Catching Fire' Movie Review
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2013-11-25T15:00:00Z
2013-11-25T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p>Every once in a while a movie sequel is better than the original. This is the case for <em>Catching Fire</em>, the second installment of the <em>Hunger Games</em> trilogy based on the books by Suzanne Collins.</p>
<p>The heroine of the story, Katniss Everdeen (Jennifer Lawrence) struggles to readjust to normal life after triumphing in the 74th annual Hunger Games a year prior. So as not to incite rebellion, Katniss must pretend she is grateful for her rich, new lifestyle. Though revolutionary thoughts seethe within her, Katniss must also keep up the ruse she's in love with her co-victor, Peeta, even though her feelings for childhood friend Gale are just as strong. When the government grows suspicious, they decide the upcoming 75th Hunger Games will have a new twist...24 past winners of the games will be pitted against each other "as a reminder even the strongest can't overcome the power of the Capitol," thereby throwing Katniss and Peeta back into treacherous terrain.</p>
<p>The first half of the film is a slow build-up to the action, focused more on the psychology behind everyone's feelings. While the first film had more action from the start, <em>Catching Fire</em> is truer to the book. If parents of tweens were uncertain if they should allow their kids to read <em>The Hunger Games'</em> books, the first movie made it clear they should not. The violence in <a href="/b/The-Hunger-Games-will-Satisfy-Teens,-But-Leave-Younger-Kids-Home/409433657799002797.html">the first <em>Hunger Games</em> movie </a>should've earned it an R rating. It's dark, morose and the brutality of many of the teens is reminiscent of the kid killers in <em>Children of the Corn</em>, numb to pain and suffering, thrilled to kill. In the book, some children are like this, but certainly not to the level of viciousness portrayed in the movie.</p>
<p>In contrast, the bulk of enemies in <em>Catching Fire</em> are not other people but floods, poisonous gas, wild animals, etc. Because of this, it was not as violent as <em>The Hunger Games</em>. There are still some scary parts for children under 13- electrocutions, shooting, fights, but <em>Catching Fire</em> truly earns its PG-13 rating, no more.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for Catching Fire:</strong><br /> <br /><strong>Compelling story line- A </strong><br />Themes surrounding different types of government can be discussed. <em>What would it be like to live in a totalitarian society? How does this film show the fear technology can be too invasive? Discuss irony in Catching Fire.</em></p>
<p><strong>Strong message- A</strong> <br />Stay true to your self and others; loyalty is vital; never give up, etc.<br /> <br /><strong>Leading character is a role model- A </strong><br />Katniss may not be perfect, but she's loyal to others and puts others' needs before her own.<br /> <br /><strong>Sexual or adult content -C</strong><br />One character strips down and we see her naked back. She says something to Peeta along the lines of, "Do you know everyone wants to sleep with you?" Katniss also passionately kisses both Gale and Peeta several times each. There are a few times drinking is brought up. Once Peeta is offered a drink at a party that "will make him sick so he can eat some more."</p>
<p><strong>Language and Violence- D</strong> <br />The "s" word is used and once the "f" word is bleeped out during a television show segment. There are inferred deaths, floggings, fights and outside elements are often the enemy, wreaking havoc on others. Unlike R-rated movies, much of the violence is inferred instead of directly seen. Still, for young children, this violence could be upsetting.<br /> <br /><strong>Suited for the whole family- C</strong><br />Not for children under 13.<br /> <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for Catching Fire: B </strong> <br />Rated PG-13<br />Running Time: 2 hours 26 minutes </p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-11-25T15:00:00Z
Healthy Holiday Potluck
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Healthy-Holiday-Potluck/157831560389586162.html
2013-11-18T15:00:00Z
2013-11-18T15:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />
<p>The holidays are hectic, and cooking for the masses can cause stress during what is supposed to be a joyful time. A potluck dinner party is a fantastic way to ease some of the holiday kitchen tension. It's simple to plan because everyone helps out with the cooking and cleaning! Setting a theme for your potluck will give your guests cooking ideas when planning what to bring to the party.</p>
<p><img style="float: right;" src="/images/blog/choose_my_plate_green.jpg" alt="" width="211" height="192" />A MyPlate theme is a great way to get a nicely balanced fun and healthy dinner. Some of your guests may not be familiar with MyPlate, so this is a great opportunity to share your excitement about eating foods from each food group. <br /> <br />For your MyPlate potluck theme, simply assign each person to bring a food that represents one of the five food groups; vegetables, fruits, grains, proteins and dairy. Include all the courses in your menu when you are planning the dinner. Examples: You can ask the person making the appetizer to use vegetables or dairy and ask the person making the dessert to use fruit. Assign people to make side dishes with grains and/or vegetables and the main course can be protein.<br /> <br />Depending on how many people you plan on inviting, you can assign one course to each guest, or have a couple of guests make the same course. This will provide a larger variety of dishes to taste. Be sure to let your guests know how much food to prepare based on the number of dishes each guest is making. For example, if two people are making soup and you have 10 people coming to the party, ask each soup cook to make enough for five people. <br /> <br />To limit kitchen chaos when guests start arriving with dishes, keep it simple by setting the dinner up buffet style. Create place cards on your buffet table showing where you want dishes to be placed. Be sure to have counter, stove and oven space available for the folks who will need last minute prep time. For a special touch, have garnishes on hand to dress up the dishes. Parsley sprigs, lemon wedges and mint leaves are versatile garnishes.<br /> <br />To make your potluck memorable for your guests, ask everyone to bring recipe cards for the dish they are preparing. Give your kids a fun art project by asking them to decorate envelopes or small boxes to hold the recipe cards and send each family home with a mini cookbook.<br /> <br />Here is a sample menu from the Fresh Baby recipe files:<br />Appetizer - (fruit dairy): <a href="http://freshbaby.com/recipes/recipe_view.cfm?id=133" target="_blank">Stuffed Dates<br /></a>Soup - (vegetable): <a href="http://freshbaby.com/recipes/recipe_view.cfm?id=6#.Umm7IyTahwE" target="_blank">Butternut Squash & Roasted Garlic Soup<br /></a>Salad - (vegetable): <a href="http://freshbaby.com/recipes/recipe_view.cfm?id=168" target="_blank">Kale Salad with Lemon Dressing<br /></a>Main Course - (protein, whole grain, vegetable): <a href="http://freshbaby.com/recipes/recipe_view.cfm?id=187" target="_blank">Teriyaki Salmon with Gingered Vegetable Brown Rice<br /></a>Dessert -(dairy, fruit, grains): <a href="http://freshbaby.com/recipes/recipe_view.cfm?id=41" target="_blank">Maple Apple Graham Crisp with vanilla ice cream<br /></a> <br /><strong>Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning <em>So Easy Baby Food Kit</em>, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food</em> and the new book <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-11-18T15:00:00Z
10 Beauty Secrets to Look and Feel Your Best
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/10-Beauty-Secrets-to-Look-and-Feel-Your-Best/-243877774073008302.html
2013-11-11T15:00:00Z
2013-11-11T15:00:00Z
<p><strong><br /><br />by Carol Whitaker<br /></strong><a href="http://www.carolwhitaker.com" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com<br /></a><br />You can look and feel your very best 7 days a week regardless of age, gender or financial status or how tall, short, thin or wide you are. Looking and feeling your best is a matter of taking time to pamper yourself. When you care for your body, mind and spirit, you enable your inner beauty to radiate from within.</p>
<p>I was taught to look my best no matter the occasion. My mother always dressed beautifully. In my later teen years when we were out and about, if I wasn't wearing lip gloss she would open her purse and hand me a tube of lipstick.</p>
<p>Looking back I'm thankful beyond expression for my mother's love and devotion in helping me understand the importance of feeling my best. To this day she always looks her best and is a shining example to everyone around her.</p>
<p><strong>You're Worth It</strong></p>
<p>You may be thinking, "It takes too much time to get ready every day." That is just an excuse. You are worth the 15 to 20 minutes of extra effort. When you take the time to care about yourself by doing your hair and makeup each morning you will naturally want to dress nicer too, which will increase your self-confidence and makes a great start to your day.</p>
<p>We can all fit in an extra few minutes to care for ourselves regardless of our schedules. Let go of excuses and replace them with, <em>"I'm worth it!"</em></p>
<p>Did you know that your outward appearance is a reflection of your self-image? What are you expressing? Do you take the time to get up exercise, shower and dress your best each day? Or do you do the opposite?</p>
<p>Everything has energy, including the clothes you wear. When you dress your best you radiate a higher vibration of success and empowerment. Crazy as it seems, it's true! Think about what you wear most often. Can you see how it reflects how you feel about yourself?</p>
<p><strong>Be Confident</strong></p>
<p>People are drawn to positivity. Being happy and looking your best is not only attractive but it also increases your self-confidence. Your body language is an expression of how you feel about yourself.</p>
<p>When you walk confidently, standing tall and proud with a smile on your face, you are in power; likewise, when you walk slouched over looking down you are unempowered. Make it a point to walk with your shoulders back and head up. You can't look and feel your best if you don't respect what you are.</p>
<p>To help you look and feel your best below are 10 empowering beauty secrets to help you look and feel your best. The better you feel about yourself the better your life will be. Take time to become what you want to be and before long it will become a way of life. </p>
<p><strong>10 Beauty Secrets to Look & Feel Your Best</strong></p>
<p><strong>1. Wake Up with an Attitude of Gratitude </strong><br /> <br />Each morning, before you even get out of bed, think about what you are thankful for and proclaim what a fantastic day it's going to be! Begin each new day with powerful energy to create your day on purpose. Remember, like always attracts like, so declare what you want to experience each new day. Start your day off right by having an attitude of gratitude. Be happy!</p>
<p><strong>2. Believe in YOU!</strong></p>
<p>Believing in you! How many times do you find yourself saying something negative about yourself? How does that make you feel? It's not healthy in any way, shape or form. Stop self-sabotage and self-doubt by letting go of negative thinking! Acknowledge your inner and outer beauty, and appreciate your gifts and talents that are uniquely yours. See yourself as the magnificent being that you are.</p>
<p><strong>3. Be Happy!</strong></p>
<p>You were created to have a joyful, happy life! Live that way! Smile and have fun by following your bliss. Take time for some true R&R by doing what you love. Life becomes too stressful if you let it. Take time to play with your kids, read a good book, enjoy your favorite hobby, walk your dog, cook your favorite meal, talk to a friend, or have a date with your sweetheart. Do something each day that brings you joy and happiness.</p>
<p><strong>4. Start Your Day off Right</strong></p>
<p>Begin each morning with exercising for at least 30 to 45 minutes. Physical activity not only raises your metabolism but it also raises your self-esteem. Your body craves exercise just as much as food and sleep. So get moving! Workout whenever it fits your schedule; just be sure to complete at least 30 minutes, 4 to 6 days a week.</p>
<p>Aim to get your heart rate up in the morning and again in the evening. Take your dog for a walk after dinner or ride bikes with your family. Exercising in the evening will raise your metabolism again; it's an excellent way to burn fat and feel great. Make working out a top priority in your life.</p>
<p><strong>5. Shower Each Morning & Put on Make Up</strong></p>
<p>Each morning make it a point to shower and put on makeup or shave (for you men out there). Taking pride in yourself. Dress nicely, not in sweats or in an oversized T-shirt, rather, dress in clothes that flatter your figure. Regardless of your tasks at hand, dress in clothes that make you feel good; doing so you will help you begin your day with a smile on your face and a bounce in your step. Dress for success each new day! </p>
<p><strong>6. Express Love & Thankfulness</strong></p>
<p>Share love and appreciation daily to family and friends; this will bring you more loving experiences because of the Law of Attraction which states "like attracts like" - which means the more you give love and express appreciation the more you will have to be thankful for. </p>
<p>Take time to cuddle each day with your sweetheart. Make alone time a high priority in your marriage. Let your children and family members know how proud you are of them. Make it a point to speak kind words often to your loved ones, friends and associates. Let them know how much you appreciate them. The more you show gratitude, the more you will have to be grateful for! It's a beautiful thing!</p>
<p><strong>7. Take Time to Meditate</strong></p>
<p>Take at least 10 to 20 minutes each day to meditate. Meditation doesn't mean you have to sit yoga style it can take place anywhere you are alone and are able to quiet your mind and contemplate.</p>
<p><strong>8. Eat Wholesome Foods</strong></p>
<p>The saying <em>You are what you eat</em> is very, very true! Consuming junk food makes you feel awful because all food has energy as well. Whole foods have higher energy frequency so when you eat clean it shifts your cells into a higher vibration, that's a big part of why you feel so much more alive.</p>
<p>Most people feed their animals better than themselves. Don't you want to live a long healthy, vibrant life? Then buck up and eat right! Let go of the useless excuses of why you eat junk food. Eat to live, don't live to eat! It's simple and highly rewarding to eat clean.</p>
<p><strong>9. Drink Up</strong></p>
<p>Aim to drink 80 to 120 oz of purified water daily. You're mostly made of water; your body needs to be replenished to rebuild strong healthy cells. By staying hydrated you will have more energy and will increase your metabolism. You will also look and feel younger too.</p>
<p><strong>10. Get Your Beauty Rest</strong> </p>
<p>Get plenty of zzzz's. Getting to bed early will not only help you feel happier but it also aids in clarity of mind. Sleep is essential to look and feel your best. Your cells and muscle tissues rebuild and replenish during sleep. Aim to get at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night. Try to get to bed before 10:30 p.m. Your body will reward you for it!</p>
<p>Live these simple yet truly life-changing principles, and I guarantee you will look and feel your best!</p>
<p><em>About the Author:</em> <br /><em>Carol Whitaker</em> is the author of <em>Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams</em>. Carol is a highly sought after Lifestyle Fitness Coach, and is known for the amazing transformations she creates in her clients’ lives. Carol is a Motivational Speaker and is passionate about inspiring women to live the life of their dreams. Carol is a featured expert on national media and online websites. Connect with her to receive daily tips to transform your life on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/CarolWhitakerCoaching" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://www.twitter.com/LivFitCoach" target="_blank">twitter.</a> Carol is a happily married mother of 3 and is an avid equestrian. Visit <a href="http://www.carolwhitaker.com/" target="_blank">CarolWhitaker.com</a> for tools and secrets to discover how to live your best life today. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2013-11-11T15:00:00Z
Family is a Child's Life Center
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2013-10-14T15:00:00Z
2013-10-14T15:00:00Z
<p><strong><br /><br />by Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC<br /></strong><a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a></p>
<p>While on a recent trip to Greece, my husband and I made a two-night layover in Rafina (the second busiest seaport town in the Athens area). The first night we spent there was Saturday, and our hotel was conveniently located about 4 blocks from the town center (square). After arriving in town at 10:30 p.m. we then decided to walk to the square and enjoy a late dinner.</p>
<p>Much to our surprise, the town square was alive with children, families playing and parents visiting friends while enjoying the cafes. The children were playing tag, kicking a soccer ball, and talking "best-friend" girl talk. Interestingly, both genders played together without an apparent agenda.</p>
<p>While it delighted both my husband and me, at the same time it brought back nostalgic memories of our childhoods. They were so different from the childhoods most of our children experience today.</p>
<p>The Rafina families were united by food, laughter, and friendship. The children were secure and ran back and forth between their friends and their parents. The parents knew the children who were playing with their kids and talked with them with as much ease as they spoke with their own children.</p>
<p>In the United States, we rarely see this behavior. Our children play inside on computer games, shoot "selfies" of what they want to be perceived as, and text people who aren't with them. Our children have suffered a great loss when compared to the children in Rafina.</p>
<p>Most parents today try too hard to be their kids' friends, and thus have sacrificed their duty of being parents. Today's parents too often have lost the ability to say no, and rarely choose to spend family evenings socializing as a family group and/or with other families. Parents in the U.S. confuse giving their children stuff as being more important than giving them time. Work exhausts their time, and they choose not to interrupt the cycle for a night socializing with others face to face without texting or emailing.</p>
<p>Americans have become vigilant about not missing something important at work, the office, or world happenings, but they are less vigilant about missing a strong family connection.</p>
<p>The community of Rafina has something invaluable to teach every American: "family" IS the center of life. If you lose your family, you lose a huge root system for all of your life.<br />I grew up like the Greek children I saw that night; most of the time my face had the same happy expression these kids had. My siblings and I, and our friends, knew we were loved. We were not hurried to grow up; we had security; and our family was at the core.</p>
<p>When was the last time you saw children playing freely with one another outside? How old were they? Do you hear sighs of boredom and frustration when your child is forced to spend time with the family and not use electronics? This should be a red flag that maybe we have been prioritizing stuff instead of giving our children some undivided time.</p>
<p><strong>Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, </strong>is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman of <em>Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever</em>. Read more about the book at <a href="http://www.StartTalkingBook.com" target="_blank">StartTalkingBook.com</a> and more about Rapini at <a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2013-10-14T15:00:00Z
Pumpkin Time!
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Pumpkin-Time!/84629736527700152.html
2013-10-07T14:00:00Z
2013-10-07T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />
<p>Recognized in the literary world with stories such as <em>Cinderella, The Legend of Sleepy Hollow</em>, and <em>Peter, Peter, Pumpkin Eater</em>, the pumpkin is no stranger to the spotlight. Each year in the USA, thousands of pumpkins are carved into jack 'o lanterns and many pumpkin pies are eaten at holiday celebrations!</p>
<p>Pumpkin is excellent for you. It has no cholesterol, is low in fat and sodium, and is rich in vitamins. The bright orange color of pumpkin is a dead giveaway that it is loaded with the antioxidant, beta-carotene. Current research indicates that a diet rich in foods containing beta-carotene may reduce the risk of developing certain types of cancer and offers protection against heart disease and other aspects of aging.</p>
<p>On top of being good for your health, pumpkins taste good, too. That's why they are a part of the diet in almost every country in the world.</p>
<p><strong>Age to introduce:</strong> About 8-10 months (cooked and pureed).</p>
<p> <br /><strong>Toddler Treat: Pumpkin Sauce</strong> <br />This is the not-so-well-known cousin of apple sauce -- a side dish that can go with any meal, delicious as a spread on bread too!</p>
<p><em>Ingredients:</em> <br />2 cups of fresh pumpkin puree (see below)<br />1/4 cup apple sauce <br />1 Tablespoon fresh lemon juice <br />1/4 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice <br />1/4 cup of honey</p>
<p><br /><em>Instructions:</em> <br />Mix all of the ingredients together in a bowl. Serve</p>
<p><strong>Age to introduce:</strong> Over 12 months <br /><strong>Storage:</strong> Refrigerate for 2-3 days. Freeze for up to 2 months.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Fresh Pumpkin Puree</strong><br />1 small to medium pumpkin.</p>
<p><strong>Prep:</strong> Wash, cut in half, and remove seeds. Cut each half into four pieces.</p>
<p><strong>Cook:</strong> Place in microwave-safe dish with 1 Tbsp of water. Cover. Cook 13-15 minutes. Let stand 5 minutes. Pumpkin is done if you can pierce it easily with a fork.</p>
<p><strong>Puree:</strong> Scoop out pumpkin meat into blender/food processor. Add 1/4 to 1/2 cup of water. Discard Skins. Process. Add 1/4 to 1/2 cup additional water to develop smooth texture.</p>
<p> <br /><strong>Pumpkins for everyone </strong><br /> <br />Pumpkins find their place across the menu -- breakfast, lunch and dinner and dessert -- whether its pancakes, muffins, seeds for snacking, hearty soup, stuffed pumpkin or tasty pie. Here are few ideas for adding more pumpkin to your family meals:</p>
<p>1. Add 1/2 cup pumpkin puree (fresh or canned) and 1/4 teaspoon of pumpkin pie spice to you pancakes for breakfast. They taste terrific with maple syrup and chopped pecans!</p>
<p>2. Add 1-2 cups of pumpkin puree (fresh or canned) to your favorite chili recipe</p>
<p>3. Use pureed pumpkin (fresh or canned) instead of banana in your favorite banana bread or muffin recipe.</p>
<p>4. Make mashed potatoes with 1/2 white potatoes 1/2 pumpkin.</p>
<p>5. Bake pumpkin like a squash. Before baking, drizzle pumpkin meat with a mixture of balsamic vinegar, honey and chili flakes.</p>
<p><br /><strong>Roasted Pumpkin seeds</strong><br />Don't waste pumpkin seeds after cooking or making jack-o-lanterns. It is easy to roast the seeds for a delicious and nutritious snack. The hulls are a great source of fiber with the seeds containing a high amount of phosphorus. Let the kids slosh through the slippery seeds and pick out the fibers.</p>
<p>1 quart water <br />1 Tbsp salt <br />2 cups pumpkin seeds<br />1 Tbsp vegetable oil or melted, unsalted butter (optional)</p>
<p>1. Preheat oven to 250°F.</p>
<p>2. Pick through seeds and remove any cut seeds. Remove as much of the stringy fibers as possible.</p>
<p>3. Bring the water and salt to a boil. Add the seeds and boil for 10 minutes. Drain, spread on kitchen towel or paper towel and pat dry.</p>
<p>4. Place the seeds in a bowl and toss with oil or melted butter.</p>
<p>5. Spread evenly on a large cookie sheet or roasting pan (cover pan with aluminum foil for easy clean- up).</p>
<p>6. Place pan in a preheated oven and roast the seeds for 30 to 40 minutes. Stir about every 10 minutes, until crisp and golden brown.</p>
<p>7. Cool the seeds, then eat or pack in air-tight containers or zip closure bags and refrigerate until ready to eat. <br /> </p>
<p><strong>Pumpkin Fun Facts </strong><br /><strong>Original recipe for pumpkin pie: </strong>Colonists sliced off pumpkin tops; removed seeds and filled the insides with milk, spices and honey. This was baked in hot ashes.</p>
<p><strong>About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-10-07T14:00:00Z
Pack A MyPlate Lunch
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Pack-A-MyPlate-Lunch/162338972657827061.html
2013-09-16T20:44:00Z
2013-09-16T20:44:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />
<p>Packing a healthy lunchbox is simple when you include each MyPlate food group, including vegetables, fruits, proteins, whole grains and dairy. This approach will offer your child plenty of healthy choices at lunch time.</p>
<p>Here are some “lunch box safe” suggestions for each of these food groups and simple packaging tips that will keep your child’s lunch fresh and full of flavor.</p>
<p>Healthy Lunch = Vegetable + Protein + Whole Grain + Fruit + Dairy</p>
<p><strong>Vegetables<img style="border: 0; float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/choose_my_plate_green.jpg" alt="" width="211" height="192" /></strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Baby Carrots</li>
<li>Broccoli florets</li>
<li>Cauliflower florets</li>
<li>Celery</li>
<li>Cherry or grape tomatoes</li>
<li>Cucumber slices</li>
<li>Edamame</li>
<li>Green beans</li>
<li>Jicama Slices</li>
<li>Lettuce </li>
<li>Mushrooms</li>
<li>Red, yellow or green pepper slices</li>
<li>Spinach </li>
<li>Sugar snap peas</li>
</ul>
<p class="ListParagraphCxSpLast"><strong>Preparation – Packing</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Wash vegetables under cold water</li>
<li>Add a dipping sauce such as hummus or Ranch dressing</li>
<li>Add vegetable slices to a sandwich</li>
<li>Keep vegetables cool<br /> <br /> </li>
</ol>
<p><strong>Fruits</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Apples </li>
<li>Applesauce</li>
<li>Apricots </li>
<li>Blueberries</li>
<li>Cherries</li>
<li>Dates </li>
<li>Grapes </li>
<li>Kiwi</li>
<li>Mango </li>
<li>Melon</li>
<li>Nectarines </li>
<li>Oranges </li>
<li>Papaya</li>
<li>Peaches </li>
</ul>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Preparation – Packing</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Select fresh, dried or packaged fruits</li>
<li>Choose canned or packaged fruits with no sugar or syrup added</li>
<li>Wash fruits with cold water</li>
<li>Most kids like cut fruit instead of whole fruit</li>
<li>Keep fruits cool</li>
</ol>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Proteins</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Chicken salad</li>
<li>Ham </li>
<li>Hard-boiled eggs</li>
<li>Hummus </li>
<li>Nut butters (peanut, almond, cashew, sunflower)</li>
<li>Refried beans</li>
<li>Roast beef </li>
<li>Sliced chicken</li>
<li>Sliced pork </li>
<li>Smoked salmon</li>
<li>Tofu cubes </li>
<li>Tuna Salad </li>
<li>Turkey </li>
<li>White or black bean dip </li>
</ul>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Preparation - Packing</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Slice leftover meats from dinner for sandwiches</li>
<li>Roll up meats around a vegetable stick</li>
<li>Make sandwiches the night before and refrigerate or freeze them</li>
</ol>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Grains</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Boston Brown Bread</li>
<li>Brown rice cakes </li>
<li>Cinnamon Raisin bread</li>
<li>Graham crackers </li>
<li>Granola </li>
<li>Multi-grain bun or roll </li>
<li>Oatmeal – raisin cookies</li>
<li>Popcorn (air-popped) </li>
<li>Wheat flour tortillas </li>
<li>Whole grain crackers </li>
<li>Whole grain pasta salad</li>
<li>Whole wheat English muffin</li>
<li>Whole wheat pita</li>
<li>Whole wheat pretzels</li>
</ul>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Preparation - Packing</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Use whole grain breads instead of white sandwich bread</li>
<li>Try a tortilla wrap or flatbread to make a sandwich</li>
<li>Mix it up!</li>
</ol>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Dairy</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Cheese slices, sticks or cubes</li>
<li>Cottage cheese</li>
<li>Cream cheese</li>
<li>Goat cheese</li>
<li>Milk</li>
<li>Smoothies</li>
<li>Sour cream</li>
<li>Yogurt</li>
</ul>
<p class="ListParagraphCxSpLast"> </p>
<p><strong>Preparation - Packing</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Choose low-fat or skim milk products</li>
<li>Milk can be purchased at school at a very low cost. This is your child’s best bet to be sure the milk is kept cold.</li>
</ol>
<p class="ListParagraphCxSpLast"> </p>
<p><strong>About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-09-16T20:44:00Z
Going Back to School Without Separation Anxiety
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Going-Back-to-School-Without-Separation-Anxiety/927994113383116223.html
2013-08-26T23:04:00Z
2013-08-26T23:04:00Z
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>by Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a></p>
<p>Backpacks, new clothes and sack lunches are buzzwords this time of year. But for parents, they can bring worry and concern about their little ones. Beginning school for children is a time of excitement and anxiety. Minor separation anxiety is normal. We witnessed normal child anxiety when a stranger would reach out to our 8-month-old babies. We witnessed it again until the child was about 2 when we dropped our child off somewhere new. Mild separation anxiety is a normal phase for both Mom and children. We experience it again when our kids go off to college.<br /><strong><br />In young children</strong></p>
<p>There are several factors that influence separation anxiety, including a child's temperament, as well as how well he/she reunites with parents and teachers. How the parent responds is very important, because a parent's behavior is what many children react to.</p>
<p><strong>How a parent can help a young child minimize separation anxiety:</strong></p>
<p><strong>Develop a routine</strong></p>
<p>Children feel safe when they can count on what will happen. A routine that is the same each day helps children predict events and adds structure to their lives. They know that when Mommy or Daddy leave, they will come back.</p>
<p><strong>Don't be late</strong></p>
<p>Talk to your child for several days preparing them for their day. When you leave them, tell them after nap time or whatever the schedule is, "I will be there". Then be sure you are there. If for some reason you have a conflict and cannot pick them up, tell them who will and what they can expect. This helps your child feel secure and in control.</p>
<p><strong>Stay positive</strong></p>
<p>If you act worried, concerned or weepy, your child will follow your emotions. Be upbeat about the activities and meeting new friends. Whatever the child enjoys, make sure you promote that activity as much as you can. </p>
<p><strong>Follow the instructor's rules</strong></p>
<p>Your child will form a relationship with their teacher and whatever the teacher says is your child's truth. You may know more about a topic than your child's teacher, but they will correct you if your story doesn't match their teacher's. If your child's teacher has a rule, respect it as much as possible at home as well. An example is not allowing certain words to be said. No matter what the word is, if it is negative at school, do not say the word at home. </p>
<p><strong>Know and promote your child's school friends to meet outside of school</strong></p>
<p>Helping your child build friendships will help ease their school anxiety. If you know someone in the class, inviting that child over with their parent prior to school will help your child adjust more easily. </p>
<p><strong>Develop a bedtime routine at least two weeks prior to the school year beginning</strong></p>
<p>This will help your child feel more rested. </p>
<p><strong>Let your child help you pack their snack, lunch and backpack for school with necessary items for the first day of school</strong></p>
<p>This list is usually sent to parents prior to the first day of school.</p>
<p><strong>When your child is making a new transition</strong></p>
<p>Such as beginning school or starting a new grade in school, talking about it, reading stories about school, and watching cartoons about the subject matter help alleviate worry and fear about the unknown. A parent's goal should be to help their child feel confident that they will be well cared for.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Helping teens and tweens</strong></p>
<p>Minimize back-to-school anxiety involves being there emotionally and physically if they need to talk, but also allowing them time to explore healthy coping mechanisms on their own. Parents who structure a healthy school environment for their child are mentoring the importance of education in their family. Below are suggestions that can also help.</p>
<p><strong>1. Prior to school </strong></p>
<p>Have a schedule of when phones and computers will be turned off for the night. Kids need a structured routine and bedtime just as much as small children do. </p>
<p><strong>2. Discuss transportation</strong></p>
<p><strong></strong> Who will take whom where? Who is driving (and who will be with them)? Make sure you are clear about the route they will take.</p>
<p><strong>3. Your child should be responsible</strong></p>
<p>He/she should be able to do their own laundry, clean their own room and have their clothes ready for school each day. Doing too much for your child, or taking care of what they are capable of doing on their own is a no-no.</p>
<p><strong>4. Know your child's classes</strong></p>
<p>You should know which teacher your child has for each class. Attending the open house night prior to classes beginning is very helpful for children and their parents. </p>
<p><strong>5. Talking to your child prior to the semester</strong></p>
<p>Knowing which classes may require additional tutoring is helpful. Your child can plan their after-school activities easier and with less stress if they know you are supportive of them getting additional help if they need it. Anxiety is the worry of what will happen prior to it ever happening. The more parents can help alleviate the worry, the better. </p>
<p><strong>6. Reassurance goes a long way!</strong></p>
<p>Kids need to know you are on their team, with things they worry about.<br /><br /><strong>As your child heads off to college</strong></p>
<p>You may think your days of separation anxiety are over. Just the opposite is true. When kids leave home, it's a transition for the child as well as the parents. Every parent feels somewhat emotional when they drive away and leave their child behind to begin a new life on campus. Whether you have looked forward to this day or dreaded it, it will happen, and preparing your child as well as yourself will minimize your anxiety. These few suggestions will help:</p>
<p><strong>1. As much as possible</strong></p>
<p>Reassure your child that they will do well and that college is a wonderful experience. </p>
<p><strong>2. When you let your child off on campus</strong></p>
<p>This is not the time to insist on hugging, kissing or making a scene. Many kids aren't comfortable with public displays of affection, so writing a letter of how you feel about your child and leaving it somewhere where they can read it in private will be appreciated by them. </p>
<p><strong>3. Call your child or communicate with them</strong></p>
<p>Do this in the same manner you did in high school, but let them set the pace. </p>
<p><strong>4. Plan a bi-monthly or monthly family meal</strong></p>
<p>This allows your child to come home and reunite. For families who live far away, Facetime or Skyping are wonderful ways to reunite. </p>
<p><strong>5. Remind your child</strong></p>
<p>When they are concerned or worried that you aren't near, and that you have every confidence they can handle the situation. <br /><br /><strong>Separation is part of life</strong></p>
<p>Learning how to separate from the ones you love most is a lifetime lesson. If your child has difficulty, it will usually pass, but when in doubt, speaking to a counselor is always helpful. Reminding your child that mistakes are learning tools and that we all make them helps lessen their anxiety when they are trying to be perfect in their new surroundings. Most children I talk with tell me the one thing Mom and Dad gave them that pulled them through many anxious transitions was the fact that they could always go home. Kids need to know their family will always be there no matter where home (geographically) is.</p>
<strong>Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, </strong>is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman of <em>Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever</em>. Read more about the book at <a href="http://www.StartTalkingBook.com" target="_blank">StartTalkingBook.com</a> and more about Rapini at <a href="http://www.maryjorapini.com" target="_blank">MaryJoRapini.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
Staff
2013-08-26T23:04:00Z
A Healthier Salad: Make a MyPlate Salad Bar
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Healthier-Salad:-Make-a-MyPlate-Salad-Bar/906002870113150678.html
2013-08-12T14:00:00Z
2013-08-12T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />Children take pride in what they create, whether it's a picture colored with crayons or a meal they helped prepare for themselves and their family. When encouraging healthy eating, participation is a key to success.<br /><br />Creating a salad bar as a family meal is an easy and fun way to allow each member of your family to have creative control over their meal, while encouraging exploration and adventure of their taste buds. In addition, children can help in multiple ways to prepare the meal and take pride in the variety and choices they've helped to make for the family.<br /><br />Your salad bar can have many ingredients, but to ensure you are preparing a<img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/myplate_1.jpg" alt="" width="179" height="167" /> balanced meal, you can use MyPlate as your guide. It is a simple way to think about choosing ingredients from each of the food groups including: Vegetables, Fruits, Proteins, Grains and Dairy.<br /><br /><strong>When creating your salad bar feast remember: </strong><br />
<ul>
<li>Make half your plates vegetables and fruits</li>
<li>Take time to enjoy eating the meal you've prepared</li>
<li>Eat low-fat dairy</li>
<li>Make half your grains, whole grains</li>
<li>Choose lean proteins </li>
<li>Use a smaller plate to help with portion control</li>
</ul>
<strong>Themed Salad Bars </strong><br /><br />Creating a theme for your salad bar will make it fun! It will also encourage your children to try new flavors and foods, while allowing them to explore at their own pace. <br /><br />Once you have chosen a theme, select foods from the list of ingredients in each column. We suggest 4 vegetables, 2 fruits, 1 protein, 1 grain, 1 dairy and 1-2 salad dressing (store-bought or homemade). Set up foods on the table in bowls or on small plates. At meal time, each person can choose foods to build their own personal salad! Enjoy a wonderful and healthy family meal!<br /><br /><br /><strong>ASIAN<br /><br /><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/images/blog/myplate_asian.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="210" /></strong><br /><br /><strong>Sesame Ginger Dressing</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup Olive oil </li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Sesame oil </li>
<li>2 Tbsp. Soy sauce </li>
<li>1/4 cup Rice vinegar </li>
<li>2 tsp. Fresh ginger, minced </li>
<li>2 Tbsp. Brown sugar </li>
</ul>
<strong>Directions:</strong><br />Make the dressing by combining all ingredients in an air-tight container. Cover and shake well.<br /><br /><br /><strong>MEDITERRANEAN</strong><br /><br /><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/images/blog/myplate_med.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="216" /><br /><br /><strong>Lemon Dressing:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup Olive oil </li>
<li>1 Tbsp. White wine vinegar </li>
<li>3 Tbsp. Lemon juice </li>
<li>1 Garlic clove, minced or crushed </li>
<li>Pinch of salt & pepper </li>
</ul>
<strong>Directions:</strong><br />Make the dressing by combining all ingredients in an air-tight container. Cover and shake well.<br /><br /><strong>Creamy Dill Dressing</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup Plain yogurt </li>
<li>1/2 cup Mayonnaise </li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Chives or scallions, chopped </li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Fresh dill, chopped </li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Lemon juice </li>
<li>Salt and pepper, to taste </li>
</ul>
<strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all of the ingredients in a bowl and mix well until smooth and creamy. Chill until ready to serve.<br /><br /><br /><strong>MEXICAN</strong><br /><br /><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/images/blog/myplate_mex.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="185" /><br /><br /><strong>Cilantro Lime Dressing</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>1 cup Cilantro</li>
<li>1/2 cup Canola oil</li>
<li>1/4 cup Lime juice</li>
<li>1 Garlic clove</li>
<li>2 tsp. Sugar</li>
<li>1 tsp. Salt</li>
</ul>
<strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all ingredients in a blender and whirl until smooth. <br /><br /><strong>Simple dressing idea: </strong> Use store-bought salsa for your Mexican-themed salad bar.<br /><br /><strong>FRUIT & NUT</strong><br /><br /><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/images/blog/myplate_fn.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="171" /><br /><br /><strong>Yogurt Dressing:</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup Vanilla yogurt</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Honey</li>
<li>Dash of cinnamon or nutmeg</li>
<li>1/4 cup milk</li>
</ul>
<strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all of the ingredients in a bowl and mix well until smooth and creamy. Chill until ready to serve.<br /><br /><br /><strong>About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
Staff
2013-08-12T14:00:00Z
A Sloppy Sequel in 'Smurfs 2'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Sloppy-Sequel-in-Smurfs-2/-278160357313792114.html
2013-08-05T14:00:00Z
2013-08-05T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
Why are Smurfs blue? And why is Smurfette the lone girl in a community of males? These questions are at the heart of the sequel to the hit 2011 <em>Smurfs</em> movie. Thinking he has a chance to rule the world, evil wizard Gargamel kidnaps Smurfette to extract her blue essence. But might Smurfette willingly go to the dark side once she believes her Smurf family doesn't appreciate her?<br /><br />This sequel relies on bad jokes and slapstick Three Stooges violence. Just this week, it was big news that a young girl died from peanut allergies in my community so it wasn't funny when there was an early joke about this in the film, setting the tone for more awkward jokes. <br /><br />Besides Gargamel's hilarious tabby cat sidekick and a fun, music-filled ending, even my kids said, "It wasn't funny. The first <em>Smurfs</em> was better," afterwards. <br /><br />Most children are intrigued to see other kids act naughty, so I was hoping the main storyline with Smurfette would be explored more, but there just isn't enough emphasis on this. Instead, most of the plot centers on the Smurfs trying to find her. <br /><br />There are so many different characters and one-liners squeezed into <em>Smurfs 2</em> that it's hard to keep the different Smurf characters straight. And too much time is allotted to their human ally, Neil Patrick Harris, and his strained relationship with his stepfather. It's not clear until the end that this is supposed to parallel Papa Smurf's relationship with Smurfette. <br /><br /><em>Smurfs 2</em> is PG because it is fast-paced and there is some mild violence. The portal travel from Smurf village to New York City is intense. And besides all the head-clobbering humor, Gargamel's spells could be scary to kids under 7.<br /><br />There are some positive messages for kids in <em>Smurfs 2</em>, such as <strong><em>It doesn't matter where you come from, but who you choose to be</em>,</strong> and <strong><em>Don't make bad choices even if you're feeling sad - you'll only be hurting yourself.</em></strong><br /><br />The original <em>Smurfs</em> movie had a fresh, fun plot that stayed true to the 1980s cartoon series. The sequel has lost the Smurfs' essence while being just too noisy for young kids to follow. I say stay home from this one, wait for it to come out on video, and rent the original <em>Smurfs</em> movie instead. It's just not worth the steep cost of admission to the theater, but it wouldn't hurt to go either.<br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Smurfs 2</em></strong>:<br /> <br />Compelling story line - D <br /><br />Strong message - C+ <br /><br />Leading character is a role model - C- (It's hard to tell who really is the main character.)<br /> <br />Sexual or adult content - A (Neil Patrick Harris and his wife kiss and growl at each other in one scene.)<br /> <br />Language and Violence - C (The language is OK - the word "moron" is used at least once. There isn't as much substitution for the word "Smurf" as in the first movie for questionable words, like "Smurf happens," etc. There are plenty of hits between the eyes and crotch smashes for laughs, however.)<br /> <br />Suited for the whole family - B- <br /> <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for <em>Smurfs 2</em>: C </strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 45 minutes </strong> <br />
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<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-08-05T14:00:00Z
'Turbo' Is Terrific
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Turbo-Is-Terrific/-478981127045858382.html
2013-07-29T14:00:00Z
2013-07-29T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
Theo the garden snail may handle overripe tomatoes during the day, but after hours, he dreams of navigating the curves of NASCAR tracks and the "terrifying, blazing speed" that makes him happiest. Though he's subject to ridicule for these grand dreams, an accident soon gives him turbo powers. But will his new life really make him happy?<br />
<p>In a phrase, <em>Turbo</em> is terrific. Though the storyline is a familiar one - an underdog is pitted against someone or something powerful (think Flik, the tiny ant who goes up against much more muscular insects in <em>A Bug's Life</em>, or the cadre of toys against the neighbor boy in <em>Toy Story</em>). <br /><br />The storyline hums along, the characters are lovable, and the music will get the whole family dancing. <em>Turbo</em> isn't a movie just for boys or for girls - it's for everyone. <br /><br /><em>Turbo </em>is rated PG for loud sounds that could frighten children under 5 as well as some crows that swoop down and scoop up unsuspecting snails to carry them off for dinner. <br /><br />There are plenty of great messages in <em>Turbo</em>. The importance of teamwork is prevalent throughout. And with two sets of brothers featured, one set human and the other set snail (Ryan Reynolds as Turbo and Paul Giamatti as his cautious brother, Chet), we see how close that bond can be. Parents may also discuss the concept of <em>who would really stick by you during the good times and also the bad</em>. Or <em>making the most of each day</em> and <em>why we shouldn't settle for "good enough." </em> <br /><br />Of course, with a snail who wants to be a race car driver, the concept of irony - simply explained as when the opposite of what's expected to happen occurs - could be an early introduction to tools authors and moviemakers use to make a storyline exciting to read or watch. Once young people are aware of irony, they will see books and movies in a whole new way.<br /><br /><em>Turbo</em> is recommended for the whole family to enjoy. <br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Turbo</em>:</strong><br /><br />Compelling story line - A- (It's a little confusing for kids how Theo gets his new powers) <br /><br />Strong message - A <br /><br />Leading character is a role model - A <br /><br />Sexual or adult content - A- (Two snails flirt mildly. In one scene, it's assumed that celebratory bottles are alcoholic beverages)<br /><br />Language and violence - A- (The crows take snails away to eat. NASCAR scenes are loud. Yet, there is no potty humor, sarcasm or language that is so prevalent in many kids' films today.) <br /><br />Suited for the whole family - A <br /><br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade for <em>Turbo</em>: A </strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 36 minutes </strong> </p>
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<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-07-29T14:00:00Z
Ten Tips to Create Inner Harmony
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Ten-Tips-to-Create-Inner-Harmony/70303953308701549.html
2013-07-22T14:00:00Z
2013-07-22T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Christa O'Leary</strong><br /><a href="/http:www.christaoleary.com" target="_blank"><a href="http://www.christaoleary.com" target="_blank">www.christaoleary.com</a></a><br /><br /><strong>Gratitude Journal:</strong><br />In our fast-paced world that is filled with distractions and stressors, it is important to 'tune-in' to what you are grateful for to 'tune-up' your life. Focusing your thoughts on what you are grateful for places your attention on something positive. By doing this each morning, you set the tone for the rest of the day. Taking the time to acknowledge and focus on these areas that fill you with gratitude will facilitate a greater awareness of what is really important in your life.<br /><br /><strong>Priority List:</strong><br />The speed of technology, the pressure of work and the over-commitments at home can create a feeling of stress and anxiety. Break down your to-do list into small pieces that are manageable and attainable. Just having a list that prioritizes the to-do's will give your brain relief from needing to remember the various responsibilities. Furthermore, you will gain immense satisfaction every time you cross one of the items off your list.<br /><br /><strong>Spring Cleaning for the Home:</strong><br />Your home either nurtures you or brings your energy down. When you walk into your home, do you give a contented sigh because you are happy to be home, or do you notice the lightbulbs that need to be changed and the piles of clutter that need to be tackled? Start with a drawer or closet and begin to make your home a sanctuary.<br /><br /><strong>Spring Cleaning for the Body:</strong><br />Creating a body that is nourished and nurtured affects your vitality and happiness. Studies have shown that exercise increases serotonin, which is the happiness hormone. Choosing brightly colored fruits and vegetables that are packed with nutrients directly influences your health and mood. Make healthy choices that will energize and foster your overall sense of well-being.<br /><br /><strong>Unplug:</strong><br />Someone recently tweeted, "When did cell phones become appendages?" It made me think back 15 years when a cell phone was a novelty and not a necessity. We can be plugged in 24/7. It is important for your emotional well-being to unplug for some duration each day to connect with the sensations and delights of the real world. When do you unplug? <br /><br /><strong>Breathe:</strong><br />Take a few moments in your day to become aware of how you are breathing. Notice your breathing when you are relaxed and in a good mood. Begin to acknowledge what happens to your breathing when you are upset, stressed or angry. Most people find that their breathing is shallow, short and quick, which increases feelings of stress. By taking a few minutes at different points during the day to consciously take five deep breaths, you are able to reset your stress level. Take a moment right now to enjoy five deep breaths and begin to notice the difference in your body.<br /><br /><strong>Sleep</strong>:<br />Make sleep a priority. You probably have experienced a night where you were unable to get a good night's sleep which left you at less than your optimum level of functioning the next day. Your sleep has a huge impact on your overall sense of well-being. Additionally, sleepless nights or a lack of sleep increases your stress. If you need to, make up for a good night's sleep with a power nap; it is important to listen to your body. <br /><br /><strong>Thoughts:</strong><br />Begin to notice what you are thinking as you go through your day. We have so many thoughts that pass through our consciousness on any given day. Many of these repetitive thoughts become an unconscious virtual loop that plays over and over again in our minds. Start to become aware of the things that you say to yourself repeatedly. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. <br /><br /><strong>Positive People</strong>:<br />We all have people in our lives that either uplift us or completely drain our energy. When you need to expend extra energy to protect yourself from slights or a barrage of constant negativity, that effort depletes your well-being on many levels. Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and encourage you builds a strong foundation of harmony and support. It is important to choose life-affirming people versus life-draining. Begin to notice how you feel when you are with different people. Do they brighten your day or bring you down?<br /><br /><strong>Inspired Activity</strong>:<br />You might notice times in your day when you feel truly joyful, happy and inspired. What activities are you doing that are associated with those feelings. Maybe it is when you are taking a walk, playing tennis, sharing a story or figuring out a complex calculation. Begin to recognize what brings a smile of satisfaction to your lips. Incorporate more of these inspired activities and moments into each day.<br /><br />For additional strategies visit <a href="http://www.christaoleary.com" target="_blank">www.christaoleary.com</a><a href="http://www.christaoleary.com" target="_blank"></a> to help you live your best life! Visit us on FB & Twitter to have your questions answered. We look forward to connecting! Have an inspired day! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
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2013-07-22T14:00:00Z
Before Posting on Social Media, Consider Your 'Political Opponent'
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2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cliff Ennico</strong><br /><a href="http://www.succeedinginyourbusiness.com" target="_blank">SucceedingInYourBusiness.com</a><br /><br /><em>"If one writes in a secret Facebook group something not very complimentary about another Facebook member, and that person finds out and prints a screenshot of the posting, does one need to be concerned about legal liability?</em><br /><br /><em>Also, if said person wants to write an apology, would a lawyer recommend that this is an OK way to prevent a lawsuit? Or would the apology be used as possible evidence towards a libel suit?"</em><br /><br />Let me guess...this is strictly hypothetical, right?<br /><br />Seriously, I've been telling people for years that they have to be careful about things they post on social media. Even a "closed" Facebook group (there is really no such thing as a "secret" Facebook group) is public information. Once you post something there, it is there forever, and sooner or later anyone who really wants this information can get access to it.<br /><br />Assuming that "someone" is you, if what you wrote in your posting is 100 percent accurate, you will have nothing to worry about. Truth is an absolute defense against any sort of libel or slander lawsuit.<br /><br />If what you wrote in your posting is merely an opinion (as opposed to a statement of fact or accusing someone of a legal violation), you also probably would have nothing to worry about. Saying, "So-and-so is a jerk," is a lot different - and a lot safer - than saying, "So-and-so has engaged in illegal or immoral behavior." If the person you posted about is offended, they can easily come back at you by saying, "Yeah, and your mother too." At least, that's what we used to do in my childhood days in the Bronx.<br /><br />If what you wrote in your posting is a statement of fact that is not correct and was intended to cause harm to the person you posted about, you may have something to worry about. If, however, the person about whom you posted is as impecunious as you are (i.e. they are not a filthy rich person who enjoys bringing lawsuits as a blood sport), you probably have nothing to worry about. <br /><br />If what you wrote in your posting is a statement of fact that is not correct, was intended to cause harm to the person you posted about, and that person has the money, resources and time to crush you in our wonderful American legal system, you should see an attorney as soon as possible to begin preparing your defense.<br /><br />As for apologizing, until you know exactly which of the above situations applies, I would not recommend you post anything further to this Facebook group. Wait until you get some sort of response from the person you posted about. As you recognize, there is a chance that any apology at this time would be viewed as an "admission of liability," which could be used as ammunition against you in a court of law. If the person replies, I would ignore him or her. Getting involved in a long-winded, lengthy online battle with someone, even if you sincerely feel you are in the right, always makes you look like a loser.<br /><br />In the future, before posting anything online, subject it to the "political opponent" test: If you were running for public office and your opponent got hold of this posting and wanted to use it against you, would you be concerned? If the answer is "yes" or "maybe," don't post it. <br /><br />The best two pieces of advice about social media behavior came from your great-grandmother. Now, Grannie didn't know a whole lot about technology, but (if at least she was like mine) she was wise in the ways of people. Here are two pieces of advice she gave you (or should have) that are just as applicable today as they were in days long ago.<br /><br />First, "people judge you by the company you keep." If I look at your Facebook page and I think all of your friends are imbeciles (using, of course, my most professional judgment), I'm going to think you are am imbecile as well, unless I know you well. Human nature is not charitable; give someone a chance to think something awful about you, and most people will take advantage of it. Then (as a lawyer would say) you will have to "rebut" their presumption of imbecility.<br /><br />Second, "in order to have friends, you must be a friend." Social media is by definition interactive - you interact with other people online, but they can interact with you as well. So if I post something on Facebook asking you to go out and buy my latest book (or recommend it favorably on Amazon.com), you can ask me to sponsor you on your next "run for cancer". <br /> <br />As a famous diplomat once said, "Don't put anything in writing if you can say it instead, don't say something if you can nod your head instead, and never nod your head in the presence of witnesses."<br /><br /><br /><strong>Cliff Ennico</strong> (<a href="http://www.succeedinginyourbusiness.com" target="_blank">SucceedingInYourBusiness.com</a>), a leading expert on small business law and taxes, is the author of <em>Small Business Survival Guide</em>, <em>The eBay Seller's Tax and Legal Answer Book</em>, and 15 other books. COPYRIGHT 2013 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em><br /><em><em> </em></em>
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2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
Curing Insomnia: 7 Steps to a Great Night's Sleep
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2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Anne Deidre</strong><br /><a href="http://www.yourintuitivemakeover.com" target="_blank">www.yourintuitivemakeover.com</a><br /><br />Insomnia can happen to any one of us at different times in our lives. Sometimes it is a chronic sense of worry that can keep us up at night. Other times, it is just that we are going through something challenging and sleep eludes us. If you find yourself up at night, here are seven tips for getting a good night's sleep: <br /><br /><strong>1. Keep Clutter at Bay</strong><br />If your bedroom has clutter, eliminate it in order to get a more restful sleep. All of that clutter can disturb you even if you don't realize it. You can sort through it by putting things in their proper place, donating them to someone else who can enjoy them, or throwing away things you don't need. By getting rid of the clutter, a flow of peaceful, calming energy can return to your bedroom.<br /><br /><strong>2. Wind Down</strong><br />Before you hit the hay, it is helpful to wind down your evening activities. Prepare for a restful, uninterrupted sleep by creating a nightly routine. Play soothing music. Exercise earlier in the day. Cut back on caffeine and sugar. Watch what you eat and drink after 5 p.m. <br /><br /><strong>3. Do a Nightly Review</strong><br />At the end of each day, write in a journal as part of your nightly routine. Get in the habit of journaling about your day as creative expression. Creativity in the form of writing is a great way to not only make you feel better, but by reviewing your day through writing, you can get out what may have bothered you as well as see what is worth celebrating about the day. <br /><br /><strong>4. Create an Action Plan</strong><br />Whatever it is that you wrote down in your nightly review, create an action plan so that you can resolve the issues in your life. Whether you are up at night worrying about your relationships, job or well-being, being proactive will reduce the worry and stress in your life that can keep you up at night. Talk to your spouse, look for a new job or take a class that makes your heart sing. Whatever it is that you may want to change in your life, know that you are empowered to create it. <br /><br /><strong>5. Know That You Have Support</strong><br />Insomnia can make you feel that you are alone. Reach out to people who you trust and share your feelings with them. Find a mentor who can help you express your feelings and give you helpful feedback. Sometimes a fresh perspective is all it takes, and the feeling of support can help you feel less isolated.<br /><br /><strong>6. What Are You Thankful For?</strong><br />The benefit of keeping a gratitude journal or reviewing each night what you are grateful for will help you see the glass half full instead of half empty. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in everything that is "wrong" in our lives and lose good, quality sleep. <br /><br /><strong>7. Bring the Outdoors In</strong><br />Many of our bedrooms contain televisions, cell phones and other electronic devices. Move those televisions out and bring the outdoors in. Create an oasis in your bedroom with plants and flowers, including lavender. Lavender is known for its calming and healing properties, and the aromatherapy benefit is a plus to your great night's sleep.<br /><br /><strong>About the author: </strong>Anne Deidre is the CEO of Inner Visions Publishing, an Intuitive Life Coach, sought after speaker and the bestselling author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B0087EW86A" target="_blank">Miraculous: How Spiritual Awakening Cured My Depression, Inspired My Purpose and Ignited the Intuitive Powers Within</a></em> and <em>Extreme Intuitive Makeover: 55 Keys to Health, Wealth and Happiness</em>. Anne is an acclaimed artist. For more information and to receive your free "Your Intuitive Prosperity Makeover Kit" visit <a href="http://www.yourintuitivemakeover.com" target="_blank">www.yourintuitivemakeover.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
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2013-07-15T14:00:00Z
Summer Food Safety Tips
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2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />Great memories have been made over summertime picnics with family and friends. Keep your memories happy by practicing food safety with outdoor dining. Bacteria counts climb in hot weather so you have to pay more attention to the possibility of food borne illnesses. Here are some tips to enjoy safe outdoor meals in warm weather:<br /> <br /><strong>Keep Cold Foods Cold: </strong>Foods that contain mayonnaise or meat, such as sandwiches, macaroni salads, potato salads, raw hot dogs, hamburgers or seafood, need to stay in an environment that is 40 degrees or colder to prevent bacteria from growing. Store these foods in a well-insulated cooler that is packed with ice.<br />
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<li>Pack two coolers, one for foods and one for beverages. Your family should be drinking lots of water on hot days, which means the cooler will be opened and closed more often. Designating one cooler as "Drinks Only" means the food cooler will keep a consistent cold temperature.</li>
<li>Keep coolers out of direct sunlight. Pick a shady place at your picnic spot to store your cooler. If you are traveling by car, place the cooler in the air-conditioned area of the car, not in the hot trunk. If you are packing cooked food, make sure it is cooled completely before packing.</li>
<li>Use lots of ice. Empty spaces in coolers will trap warm air. Pack as much ice as will fit around the food in the cooler.</li>
<li>Throw away any food that has been sitting in the sun for more than two hours. Remembering the saying "When in doubt, throw it out" can go a long way in preventing a food borne illness. Put leftover food back in the cooler immediately after everyone is done eating if you want to save it for later.</li>
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<strong>Cleanliness Matters: </strong>A clean workspace, clean hands and washed vegetables and fruits are the best defenses against food borne illnesses. Be sure to use separate plates and utensils for raw meats and cooked meats.<br />
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<li>Wash your hands in hot soapy water for at least 20 seconds. Always wash your hands after handling raw meats. If you are somewhere that does not have running water, pack hand sanitizer in your camp box and use it regularly.</li>
<li>Keep raw meats and cooked meats on different plates. Do not put cooked meats from the grill on the same plate that was used for raw meat unless the plate has been washed with hot soapy water. Same goes for utensils.</li>
<li>Rinse fruits and vegetables before packing them in a cooler. If you are at the beach or at a campsite without running water, washing vegetables and fruits can be a challenge. Play it safe and wash them before you leave the house.</li>
<li>Package foods in airtight containers. Cross-contamination can happen between raw meats, fish and poultry, fruits, vegetables and prepared foods if the food is not packaged properly. Be sure seals are secured and there are no holes in bags before placing them in the cooler.</li>
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<strong>Cook Meats Thoroughly: </strong>Rare and medium-rare meats, fish and poultry might still contain harmful bacteria if a safe internal temperature is not reached during grilling.<br />
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<li>Preheat the grill. A grill should be good and hot before you start cooking on it. Preheat the grill for at least 20 minutes prior to use. Keeping a meat thermometer in your camp box is a good idea.</li>
<li>Marinating rules. Never use marinade on cooked food that was used on raw food. Always marinate food in the refrigerator, not on the counter top.</li>
<li>Be sure meat is thawed before grilling. If meat, fish or poultry still has frozen spots, it will not cook evenly. This means bacteria might still be present after the meat is cooked. Always thaw meat in the refrigerator, not at room temperature.</li>
<li>Keep the condiments cool while the main course is cooking. Mayonnaise, mustard, ketchup and sliced vegetables that are left to sit in the sun while the food cooks can easily become contaminated. Keep them cold while the meat gets hot and put them out just before serving.</li>
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<strong>About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
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2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
'Despicable Me 2': Best Parts Are the Original's Leftovers
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2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
<p><br />In the first <em>Despicable Me</em> (2010), hardened criminal Gru (Steve Carell) transformed before our eyes from a tough guy into a softie all by the uncomplicated, pure love of three little girls. By the end of the film, Gru formally adopts the orphans and vows to turn around his life. <br /><br />In this sequel, Gru remains a doting father and has traded hanging with jailbirds for handling jelly, calling himself "a legitimate businessman." However, when Gru's best friend and business partner, Dr. Nefario, decides to return to a life of crime, Gru must stand for what he knows is right as a role model to his children.<br /><br />Detective Lucy Wilde (Kristen Wiig) is an attractive undercover agent who convinces Gru he'd be noble to help her rid the world of a mutating serum that makes the sweetest of living things turn into killing machines once they're injected with it. She's been tipped off that someone at the shopping mall has the mutating serum and needs Gru's help to find which shop owner has it.<br /><br />There is action, a plot to save the world and a whole new cast of characters, yet the best parts of <em>Despicable Me 2</em> are still Gru's children and the zany yellow minions. Seeing tough, dark Gru juxtaposed with his three sweet daughters is still the best part of this franchise. The minions speak either French or Japanese (or both - I'm not sure), but they have the comedic chops of Scooby Doo. We don't laugh because of what they're saying, but because of the <em>way</em> they say it and how they react in different situations. I wasn't surprised to see something about "auditions for minion movie" at the end (Not sure the minions can carry a whole film, but hey, it's worth a shot).<br /><br /><em>Despicable Me 2</em> is rated PG for scary scenes and several romantic plotlines. When the serum is injected into bunnies or, later, minions, they turn into extremely scary creatures for children under 6. Throughout <em>Despicable Me 2</em>, Gru's daughters look for a mom figure, and his friends try to set him up. There are several love fantasies; even Gru's eldest daughter experiences her first love and then heartbreak. The love messages are definitely PG themes for younger children. My sixth grader really liked <em>Despicable Me 2</em>, but take away the daughters and the minions, and <em>Despicable Me 2</em> wouldn't be nearly as good. <br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Despicable Me 2</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - C+ <br />Strong message - C (not much substance)<br />Leading character is a role model - A <br />Sexual content - C+ (a storyline throughout is about finding single-dad Gru a girlfriend. His daughter dates, etc.) <br />Language and Violence - B- <br />Suited for the whole family - B (not for kids under 6)<br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: B-</strong> <br /><br /><strong><em>Despicable Me 2</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 38 minutes</strong> <br /><br />If you enjoyed this post, <strong><a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">"Like" us on Facebook</a></strong> for updates on more posts like it. </p>
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<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-07-08T14:00:00Z
'Monsters University' Has Something for Everyone
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2013-06-24T14:00:00Z
2013-06-24T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>With kids' movies of late being almost entirely rated PG or PG-13, it's a breath of fresh air to welcome the G-rated <em>Monsters University</em> this summer. The prequel to the 2001 megahit, <em>Monsters, Inc., </em>shows how the lovable monsters Mike (Billy Crystal) and Sulley (John Goodman) studied the art of scaring children in college, before doing it for a living.</p>
<p><em>Monsters University</em> won at the weekend box office because it has something for everyone. Adults will enjoy the humor and benign references to college life. Teens and 20-somethings, who were kids themselves when <em>Monsters, Inc</em>. came out in 2001, will love seeing the whole story come full circle. A new generation of children ages 5 and above will also enjoy <em>Monsters University</em>, even if they haven't seen <em>Monsters, Inc</em>.</p>
<p>The scariest part of the film is the character Dean Hardscrabble (played by Helen Mirren). "The movie almost should be PG because of her," my 7-year-old said. She might be frightening to some children.</p>
<p>My daughter's 7-year-old friend chimed in with another good point: "They should have made this movie before <em>Monsters, Inc</em>." If possible, rent <em>Monsters, Inc</em>. first to get a refresher before watching <em>Monsters University</em>. It's fun to see how the characters are depicted in both. For instance the bad guy in <em>Monsters, Inc</em>., Randy, begins as Mike's shy, socially awkward new friend in the prequel. </p>
<p>The movie is mostly entertainment, but parents can talk with kids about themes like teamwork, first impressions, and why we shouldn't judge a book by its cover.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Monsters University</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - A <br />Strong message - A <br />Leading character is a role model - A <br />Sexual content - A (one kiss)<br />Language and Violence - B+ (bullying language like "stupid")<br />Suited for the whole family - A <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: A</strong> <br /> <br /><strong><em>Monsters University</em>, Rated G</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 42 minutes</strong></p>
<p> <br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-06-24T14:00:00Z
9 Steps to Personal Wellness and Transformation
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2013-06-18T07:02:00Z
2013-06-18T07:02:00Z
<p><strong>By Sherrie Campbell</strong><br /><a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a></p>
<p>Creating a sense of genuine well-being and happiness is a lifelong and exciting endeavor. It involves being mindful of your values and making them work in a world that is full of change, duality, wonder, and challenges. Having a sense of personal wellness requires you to transform and grow <em>with</em> life.</p>
<p><strong>9 Steps to Personal Wellness</strong></p>
<p><em><strong>Read:</strong></em> Reading engages your attention and acts as a beautiful distraction from your outside pressures. It is like a mini-vacation for the mind and emotions, and acts as a form of meditation. It calms the spirit, inspires, educates and increases your connection to your inner world.</p>
<p><strong><em>Journal:</em> </strong> Journaling is the best way to develop a deep relationship with yourself. Journaling keeps you in conversation with your inner life so you more effectively understand who you are and your reactions to the world. It helps you to know what you need, what you want, what you deserve, and also what you may need to change. It is your own path to personal intimacy. </p>
<p><em><strong>Do what you love, love what you do:</strong></em> If you love what you do and are contributing to the well-being of yourself and others, you get to spend the majority of your time in life doing something which has deep meaning for you and a positive result in the larger world. Personal well-being must come through your work as much as any other area because this is where you spend the majority of your time. If you love what you do, you are bound to be successful.</p>
<p><em><strong>Help others: </strong></em> You grow in spiritual wealth from what you contribute to others. This does not have to be something major. It could be a simple hug or an acknowledgment of someone else that changes that person's day. Be mindful of others and reach out each day in some way that is positive to the enhancement of someone else's moment. The return gift from giving is your own well-being.</p>
<p><em><strong>Relax:</strong> </em> Humans are rushing creatures. We rush here and there desperately trying to keep our lives together. However, the more you do this, the quicker things fall apart. A night away from where you live or your regular routine to rejuvenate is not only nurturing for your soul, but it reminds you that there is life outside of the chaos. Breathe and relax - you deserve it and you will have the fuel to continue on.</p>
<p><em><strong>Refresh:</strong> </em> Go outside, get a massage, purchase a new outfit, have a bath or take a nap. Whatever it is that makes you feel a sense of new life, do it. Refreshing yourself allows you to take a moment to remember all that you have in this life. Just take a moment... and refresh. </p>
<p><strong><em>Have a purpose:</em> </strong> Purpose brings direction. Direction brings a sense of security. Security provides a sense of well-being and achievement. The byproduct of achieving is happiness. Having a purpose serves as a guide and a stabilizing structure allowing well-being to be experienced.</p>
<p><em><strong>Attitude:</strong> </em> A positive attitude helps you maintain a sense of flexibility to move through all of life's changes. Positivity and flexibility help you attract all the dreams and desires that you have. As you stay attuned to being positive, you grow and transform into the newer and newer versions of the you which you want to become. </p>
<p><em><strong>Responsibility:</strong> </em>Being responsible is the heartbeat of life. It makes life work. If life works, you will experience well-being. Everyone is capable of being responsible. If you have your responsibility in check, your life will flow smoother.</p>
<p>To achieve personal wellness, you must start by being mindful and learning as much as you can about what things bring you a sense of wholeness and satisfaction. Then you must commit to making those healthy decisions for yourself and your life because you know you are worth it.</p>
<p><em><strong>Little life message: Wellness is a mindful, joyful practice.</strong></em></p>
<br /><strong>Dr. Sherrie Campbell</strong> is an author and a licensed psychologist with more than 19 years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly achieve an empowered life. <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/relationship-advice-love-creates-the-common-ground-sherrie-campbell-ph-d/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get her free article, “Five Ways to Make Love the Common Ground in Your Communication.” She is a featured expert on a variety of national websites and has a successful practice in Southern California. Receive free insights from Sherrie and be involved in her <a href="http://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD" target="_blank">Facebook</a> community of others looking to improve their relationships. For more information visit <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/" target="_blank">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2013-06-18T07:02:00Z
'Man of Steel' Is Darker, More Solitary in 2013
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2013-06-18T07:00:00Z
2013-06-18T07:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p>As a girl, I swooned over Christopher Reeve as Superman. I don't know if it was his strength or that single curl of hair that fell on his forehead. Or maybe it was those goofy glasses he wore as Clark Kent that still couldn't hide his cuteness. Perhaps it was his smirk, especially when he'd banter with Lois Lane (played by Margot Kidder).</p>
<p>With memories such as these, I had to see if <em>Man of Steel</em> would uphold the same awing power over a new generation of young fans - if boys would want to emulate him and if girls would dream of being Lois Lane. Produced by Christopher Nolan of <em>The Dark Knight Rises </em>fame, this 2013 Superman is darker and more solitary. He has lost that lighthearted smirk.</p>
<p>We get more backstory about Superman's beginnings this time around. As an infant, he is sent to Earth by his parents when it's certain their alien planet Krypton will destruct. Before he goes, however, they inject him with superpowers that will preserve his race.</p>
<p>We see more of Kal-El's/Clark's youth in <em>Man of Steel</em> than we do in other Superman portrayals. As a young Clark, he is bullied and confused. His adoptive and biological fathers are both solid pillars of paternal love, teaching him how to use his powers responsibly. It is reminiscent of other wonderful father-son stories like <em>The Lion King</em>, especially when Simba continues to be guided by his father beyond the grave. These times with his fathers are the best parts of the film.</p>
<p><em>Man of Steel</em> is rated PG-13 for violence and crude language. The violence moves with artillery-like rapidity at times, which is numbing to the senses. Bodies are slung and necks are broken. There isn't blood to speak of, but the fight scenes are loud and heart pounding. The long battle scenes are why the film is nearly two-and-a-half hours long.</p>
<p>Straightforward themes can be talked about with older children, like good versus evil and why we have a moral obligation to do the right thing even when we have more power than others.</p>
<p>Still, leave children under 12 at home and rent the 1977 version of <em>Superman</em> with them instead.</p>
<p><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Man of Steel</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - B+ <br />Strong message - B+<br />Leading character is a role model - A <br />Sexual content - A- (two kisses, hand holding) <br />Language and Violence - D <br />Suited for the whole family - C<br /><strong>Overall Kid-Focused Grade: C </strong> </p>
<p><em><strong>Man of Steel </strong></em><br />Rated PG-13 <br />Running Time: 2 hours 23 minutes </p>
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2013-06-18T07:00:00Z
Celebrating Dads: A Picnic Menu
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2013-06-10T14:05:00Z
2013-06-10T14:05:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br /><br />
<p>Show Dad how much you love him this Father's Day by creating a heart-healthy picnic in his honor.</p>
<p><strong><img style="float: left; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/kale_turkey_burger.jpg" alt="" />Father's Day Menu</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Hoisin-glazed Turkey Burgers</li>
<li>Mango Salsa</li>
<li>Kale Salad with Lemon Dressing</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Hoisin-glazed Turkey Burgers</strong><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>1 lb. Ground turkey</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Teriyaki sauce</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. Green onions, sliced</li>
<li>1/4 cup Water chestnuts, diced</li>
<li>1/4 cup Hoisin sauce</li>
<li>4 Hamburger buns</li>
<strong></strong>
</ul>
<p><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Use a fork to gently combine ground turkey, teriyaki sauce, green onions and water chestnuts. Divide turkey mixture into 4 patties. Lightly spray each patty with cooking spray on both sides.</p>
<p>Heat grill pan over medium-high heat. Place patties on the grill; sear until browned, 1-2 minutes per side. Reduce heat to medium and continue grilling until cooked through, about 5-8 minutes per side.</p>
<p>Remove burgers from heat and place them on a plate. Brush both sides of the burgers with Hoisin sauce. Serve on buns topped with mango salsa.</p>
<p>Makes 4 burgers.</p>
<p><strong>Mango Salsa</strong><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>1 Mango, diced</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Cilantro, minced</li>
<li>1-2 Tbsp. Red onion, diced</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Honey</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Lime juice</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Directions:</strong> Place all ingredients in small bowl and gently toss to combine ingredients.</p>
<p><strong>Kale Salad with Lemon Dressing</strong><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>1 Bunch of Kale</li>
<li>1/2 cup Carrots, julienned or shredded</li>
<li>1/3 cup Dried cranberries</li>
<li>Lemon Dressing (see recipe below)</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Lemon Dressing:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup Olive oil</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. White wine vinegar</li>
<li>3 Tbsp. Lemon juice</li>
<li>1 Garlic clove, minced or crushed</li>
<li>Pinch of salt & pepper</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Make the dressing by combining all ingredients in an air-tight container. Cover and shake well.</p>
<p>Using kitchen shears or a knife, remove the thick, white ribs from the kale. Rinse kale in water to remove sand and dirt, and dry with cotton towels (or a salad spinner). Chop kale into bite-sized pieces. Place kale in large salad bowl; pour 1/2 the lemon dressing over the kale. Using your hands, gently massage the dressing into the kale until the leaves are glossy.</p>
<p>Add the carrots, cranberries and remaining dressing, and toss gently. Can be made up to one day ahead.<br /><strong><br /><br />About the author: <br />Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em></p>
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2013-06-10T14:05:00Z
Baby-Friendly Herbs, Spices and Natural Flavors
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Baby-Friendly-Herbs,-Spices-and-Natural-Flavors/-22677917007623626.html
2013-06-03T14:00:00Z
2013-06-03T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br /><img style="display: block; margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; float: left;" src="/images/blog/fresh_baby_herbs_1.jpg" alt="" /><br />When you cook with herbs, food tastes better and smells fabulous. Herbs also add a nutritional boost to meals and contain beneficial phytonutrients and antioxidants to keep the body strong.<br /><br />Introducing herbs to your child at an early age helps to develop their sense of taste and can make foods more interesting. Start out by adding an herb or spice to baby food purees. Simply add a small pinch of one herb or spice before cooking the food. The flavor of herbs, spices and natural flavors becomes more subtle when cooked. Once the food is cooked, puree it. <br /><br />Here is a list of baby-friendly herbs, spices and natural flavor enhancers, and the foods that pair well with them:<br /><br /><strong>Sweet Herbs and Spices:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Cinnamon:</strong> Sweet potatoes, Winter Squashes, Apples, Bananas, Peaches, Pumpkin and Cherries</li>
<li><strong>Clove: </strong>Apples, Sweet potatoes, Pumpkin and Pineapple</li>
<li><strong>Ginger:</strong> Sweet potatoes, Winter Squashes, Pears, Peaches, Pumpkin, Black Beans, Carrots and White Beans</li>
<li><strong>Nutmeg</strong>: Apples, Apricots, Nectarines, Peaches and Blueberries</li>
</ul>
<strong><img style="display: block; margin-left: NaNpx; margin-right: NaNpx; margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; float: left;" src="/images/blog/fresh_baby_herbs_2.jpg" alt="" /><br />Savory Herbs and Spices:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Oregano: </strong>Yellow Squash (Crooked Neck), Zucchini and Eggplant</li>
<li><strong>Dill:</strong> Peas, Yellow Squash (Crooked Neck), Zucchini, Asparagus, Broccoli, Carrots, Cauliflower and Beets</li>
<li><strong>Tarragon:</strong> Peas, Carrots, Snow Peas, Sugar Snap Peas, White Beans and Corn</li>
<li><strong>Basil:</strong> Yellow Squash (Crooked Neck), Zucchini, Green Beans and Eggplant</li>
<li><strong>Cumin:</strong> Black Beans, Carrots and Pinto Beans</li>
</ul>
<strong>Other Natural Flavors:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Garlic:</strong> Black Beans, Broccoli, Garbanzo Beans (Chick Peas), Spinach, White Beans and White Potatoes</li>
<li><strong>Lemon or Orange Zest:</strong> Winter Squashes, Asparagus, Broccoli, Brussels Sprouts, Carrots, Cauliflower, Garbanzo Beans (Chick Peas), Green Beans, Beets, Blueberries and Strawberries</li>
<li><strong>Sweet Onion:</strong> Peas, Yellow Squash (Crooked Neck), Cauliflower, Pinto Beans, Spinach, White Potatoes and Corn</li>
<li><strong>Vanilla:</strong> Apples, Pears and Peaches</li>
</ul>
<strong><br />About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
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2013-06-03T14:00:00Z
New Movie Is Not Quite 'Epic,' but Good
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2013-05-28T14:00:00Z
2013-05-28T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<em>Epic</em> is a mixture of several stories we've seen before - <em>The Littles</em>, <em>Avatar</em>, <em>The Wizard of Oz</em>, and <em>Honey I Shrunk the Kids</em>. <br /><br />The film is set when teenager Mary Katherine (aka M.K., played by Amanda Seyfried) goes to live with her eccentric father (Jason Sudeikis) after her mother dies (which is barely mentioned, so it will go right over most kids' heads). The first thing that comes to mind is Rick Moranis's character in the <em>Honey, I Shrunk the Kids</em> franchise. The dad is a mad scientist, bumbling and clueless socially. M.K. can't relate to him and certainly doesn't understand why he's so engrossed in proving there's an alternate universe of tiny people living in the forest behind their home. Yet, she quickly sees for herself that his theories are true as the plot alternates between the fantasy world of the little people she's joined and the world of reality she wants to return to.<br /><br />There are several plotlines going on at once in <em>Epic</em>. There is the relationship between M.K. and her father. And in the other world, Leafman soldiers battle to preserve the life of the forest from the Boggins who wish to rot it. Beyoncé plays Queen Tara, the ruler of the forest, who must choose an heir to her throne as part of the good versus evil race. The queen breathes her power into a pod, which must bloom before the heir is chosen. The pod ends up in M.K.'s hands, and like Dorothy with the ruby slippers, M.K. doesn't realize the power she holds when all she really wants is to go home.<br /><br />The animation in <em>Epic</em> is stunning. It is so smooth and clear that it almost doesn't look like animation. From the exact look of a taxicab meter to the crystal clear blades of grass, visually the film is exquisite. <br /><br />The imagination for much of the film is fun too. The highlights are the images of the natural world - flower fairies, soaring birds, etc. - and the differences between the human and little person world, such as when the tiny people laugh at how slowly humans talk and move.<br /><br />There are themes surrounding community and nature, and the phrase "you are never alone" is repeated throughout.<br /><br />Yet overall, <em>Epic</em> lacks originality, and for young viewers, the plot is confusing because there are too many things going on at once and too many details given. For instance, why do they need to visit the caterpillar and read the scrolls? Why can't the heir just be chosen instead of the power transferred to a pod? My 7-year-old got a little squirmy and afterward said, "I liked it, but I didn't understand a lot of it."<br /><br /><em>Epic </em>is rated PG for intense action, scary villains, and bow and arrow fighting, which results in at least one death.<br /><br />Overall, <em>Epic</em> is recommended for children <em>at least</em> 7 years old.<br /> <br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Epic</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - B-<br />Strong message - B <br />Leading character is a role model - A <br />Sexual content - A (one kiss)<br />Violence - B <br />Suited for the whole family - A-<br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: B+</strong><br /><br /><strong><em>Epic</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 42 minutes</strong><br /> <br /><strong>If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. </strong> <br /><br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-05-28T14:00:00Z
Ten Ways to Take Better Care of You
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2013-05-20T14:00:00Z
2013-05-20T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Sherrie Campbell</strong><br /><a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a></p>
Many of our lives are centered on taking care of the needs of everyone around us aside from ourselves. We are running around taking care of our kids, husbands/wives, pets, friends, bosses, coworkers, parents, etc. Sometimes the responsibilities we have in life feel like an overwhelming burden, and because of all of these responsibilities, we end up forgetting to have fun and to enjoy life. <br /><br />We cater to being responsible before we cater to being happy. However, there needs to be an established balance between both. Taking care of ourselves doesn't have to be a chore, an obligation, or something that is experienced as yet another burden. Here are 10 simple ways to take better care of yourself.<br /><br /><strong>1. Go outside.</strong> Exercise, take a walk, go to the beach/pool, hike, or do whatever else appeals to you. Get some fresh air. Fresh air fills us up with a fresh new look on life. Getting outside allows for a state of relaxed contemplation. It serves as a release from all the pressures we sometimes feel trying to be everything to everyone. <br /><br /><strong>2. Alone time. </strong> Make sure each day to get at least 30 minutes of alone time. Whether you get this time at your lunch break, a half hour before bed, or 30 minutes in the morning before everyone else gets up, time alone is detoxing and reparative.<br /><br /><strong>3. Ignite your creativity.</strong> Be it writing, reading, creating something, cooking, working on a car, building something, sewing, or making art, do whatever ignites your creative juices. Being creative lets us know we are alive and passionate. <br /><br /><strong>4. Spend time with friends.</strong> There is nothing better than a nice break from life's responsibilities and spending time with people we love and who make us feel free. Bonding is one of the healthiest ways to take care of ourselves.<br /><br /><strong>5. Take a nap.</strong> A 20-minute nap is said to be totally rejuvenating for the whole physical, emotional, and mental system. If you can fit it into your day, I highly recommend it.<br /><br /><strong>6. Go shopping. </strong> Getting something new often brings light and excitement into our lives. We all need to reward ourselves for our hard work.<br /><br /><strong>7. Get spiritual.</strong> In whatever way works for you, enlivening your spiritual life can make you feel more connected to the process your life is taking. Having a firm belief that all is happening as it should be will help to relax a stressed mind.<br /><br /><strong>8. Get a massage.</strong> Touch is healing and a great way to reduce stress and love ourselves.<br /><br /><strong>9. Eat healthy.</strong> There is something about eating healthy that makes us feel as if we are headed in the right direction and that we have a sense of control over our circumstances. Eating healthy is a powerful choice in the direction of self-love.<br /><br /><strong>10. Turn off your cell phone for a few hours.</strong> It is incredibly healthy to be able to just disconnect from the social and Internet world. <br /><br />I encourage everyone to follow these steps and whatever steps come to mind as you read this list. You each have a knowing within of what makes you feel good and what people, events and circumstances bring you joy. It is so easy to get overwhelmed in the world of responsibility only to lose sight of the basic reasons for living. You are here to feel happy as much as you can, to focus more on your pleasure than your pain, and to feel the fruits of your labor on an emotional (not just a financial) level. <br /><br />Your life experiences are dictated by how you feel emotionally. Due to this reality, you must make a conscious effort to take care of how you are feeling. If you veer off into the negative over never-ending feelings of responsibility, you have to recalibrate and take some action to take care of yourself. You deserve it.<br /><br />Little life message: You can be the best caretaker of you.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Sherrie Campbell</strong> is an author and a licensed psychologist with more than 19 years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly achieve an empowered life. <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/relationship-advice-love-creates-the-common-ground-sherrie-campbell-ph-d/" target="_blank">Click here</a> to get her free article, “Five Ways to Make Love the Common Ground in Your Communication.” She is a featured expert on a variety of national websites and has a successful practice in Southern California. Receive free insights from Sherrie and be involved in her <a href="http://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD" target="_blank">Facebook</a> community of others looking to improve their relationships. For more information visit <a href="http://www.sherriecampbellphd.com/" target="_blank">SherrieCampbellPhD.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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2013-05-20T14:00:00Z
Only Lovers of the Book Will Love 'The Great Gatsby'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Only-Lovers-of-the-Book-Will-Love-The-Great-Gatsby/716551797142850186.html
2013-05-13T14:00:00Z
2013-05-13T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> <br /></strong></p>
It's evident why 16-year-olds throughout America's classrooms continue to read F. Scott Fitzgerald's classic, <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0743273567/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0743273567&linkCode=as2&tag=kidfoc-20" target="_blank">The Great Gatsby</a></em>, nearly a century after it was written. The slim novel is packed with meaningful symbols surrounding themes of class, excess, pretense, and loneliness, which are as applicable today as ever. Director Baz Luhrmann's new movie version does a great job bringing the essence of this timeless tale to the big screen.<br /><br />We see the rip-roaring 1920s through narrator Nick Carraway's eyes. Tobey Maguire is cast perfectly as the wide-eyed, impressionable, everyman who is, in essence, the viewer. Carraway rents a house next door to the mysterious, exceedingly wealthy, golden Jay Gatsby (played exceptionally by Leonardo DiCaprio). He attends lavish, over-the-top parties at Gatsby's, and it brings to mind what it must be like today when regular folks become rich or famous overnight and must deal with the temptations that having access to anything and everything must bring. The modern soundtrack Luhrmann uses will draw these parallels for young people even more so.<br /><br />Gatsby and Nick live on the fictional West Egg side of Long Island, a place where people with "new money" come to indulge, facing the East Egg side of stuffy, aristocratic "old money" where Nick's cousin and Gatsby's long-lost lover, Daisy, and her husband, Tom Buchanan, live. Today, this can be talked about in the context of how teens view social status at school and, on a larger scale, social class in general. <br /><br />It's when the wealthy go into the industrial part of town that we see how the common people living there, like George and Myrtle Wilson, can't hide behind any grandeur because there is none. Everything about them is gritty - down to the grease and soot of their surroundings. Because they can't hide behind pretense, they cannot be superficial. At one point, George Wilson shows he's the most human character in the story when the true depths of his feelings come bursting forth, and Luhrmann recreates this scene so well. No one else in the entire story shows raw emotion except when Gatsby, in one scene, is haunted by memories of his humble past.<br /><br />One of the pivotal symbols in the book is the large, bespectacled pair of eyes on a billboard, a reminder that nothing can be hidden and that everything will eventually be seen by God.<br /><br />Despite the excess and pretense, loneliness is at this story's core. In the age of "look at me" and Facebook, what better time to talk about this with teenagers? Chief among the lonely characters is Jay Gatsby. He has parties to fill his home with noise and people so that sadness will stay away. One character even says, "Large parties are more intimate. With small parties, there is no privacy." The language in the novel is so rich, and I love the way Luhrmann brings key lines from the book to the big screen.<br /><br />The blinking green light at the end of Daisy's pier is a symbol throughout the novel and is played up by Luhrmann so it can't be ignored. It is a silent, "come hither" teasing of what Gatsby thinks will fill his life with meaning.<br /><br />Everything about Gatsby's life is concocted to fight his impermeable sadness. On the outside, he looks to have it all and because of his flaw of thinking that money can buy happiness as well as thinking that the past can be relived, Gatsby <a href="http://kidfocused.com/lance-armstrongs-tale-is-as-timeless-as-shakespeare/" target="_blank">is one of literature's most memorable tragic heroes</a>. When I taught <em>The Great Gatsby</em>, I always enjoyed sharing the poem "Richard Cory" by Edwin Arlington Robinson, written in 1897, with my students to draw comparisons:<br /><br /><strong>Richard Cory</strong><br /><br /><em>Whenever Richard Cory went down town,</em><br /><em>We people on the pavement looked at him:</em><br /><em>He was a gentleman from sole to crown,</em><br /><em>Clean favored, and imperially slim.</em><br /> <br /><em>And he was always quietly arrayed,</em><br /><em>And he was always human when he talked; </em><br /><em>But still he fluttered pulses when he said, </em><br /><em>"Good-morning," and he glittered when he walked.</em><br /> <br /><em>And he was rich - yes, richer than a king -</em><br /><em>And admirably schooled in every grace:</em><br /><em>In fine, we thought that he was everything</em><br /><em>To make us wish that we were in his place.</em><br /> <br /><em>So on we worked, and waited for the light,</em><br /><em>And went without the meat, and cursed the bread; </em><br /><em>And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,</em><br /><em>Went home and put a bullet through his head.</em><br /> <br />Despite the buzz that some people don't like this movie, I absolutely loved it. Then again, if I didn't study the book by teaching it several years in a row when I was a high school English teacher before I had kids, I am not sure how I'd view the film as a stand-alone. So I am biased. From the casting of characters to how every symbol is magnified down to the weather, it is obvious that Baz Luhrmann understands the important aspects of the book too.<br /> <br />I recommend <em>The Great Gatsby</em> to anyone who has studied the novel (so, only for teens in 11th grade or older - juniors typically study American Literature that year, and <em>The Great Gatsby</em> is still a core book). <br /> <br />Because of its PG-13 rating, which it deserves, children younger than 16 shouldn't see <em>The Great Gatsby</em>.<br /> <br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>The Great Gatsby</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - A <br />Strong message - A <br />Leading character is a role model - A-<br />Sexual content - B (loud bed pounding heard in the next room, kissing)<br />Violence - C (one shooting, one dramatic car accident, one woman gets slapped)<br />Suited for the whole family - C <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: B-</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>The Great Gatsby</em>, Rated PG-13</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 2 hours 22 minutes</strong><br /><br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2013-05-13T14:00:00Z
Hair Today - Gone Tomorrow
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Hair-Today---Gone-Tomorrow/-601991636717701870.html
2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br />Safe Beauty Expert<br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />Imagine this: you're getting ready for an afternoon date with someone who you've had your eye on for a while. You've got a great outfit, your hair looks wonderful, your shoes are gorgeous, your makeup is flawless - there's not a blemish in sight. You're feeling <em>FIERCE</em>! But as you hop into your car to go meet your dream date, you flip down the mirror to check out your fabulousness one more time and then you notice it. Right there, framing that perfect shade of lipstick is a mustache you hadn't noticed in your bathroom mirror, and you have exactly ZERO time to do anything about it. <br /><br />Unwanted hair creeping up to haunt you when you least expect it is something we all have to deal with. In that situation, there is little you can do aside from a bit of translucent powder. Your best bet is to properly remove hair regularly so you can avoid those moments. <br /><br />Let's talk about different hair removal techniques and what I recommend for different areas of the body, starting from the top and working our way down. <br /><br /><strong>Eyebrows/face:</strong> Never shave your face. Are we clear? I know a lot of eyebrow grooming kits come with that little tiny razor, but it is NOT your friend. First of all, shaving is such a temporary fix that it's not even worth it, and it can leave the skin in the shaved area dry and flaky. Secondly, hair that has been shaved grows back with a blunt tip, so it may look thicker and will leave the dreaded "five o'clock shadow" as it starts to grow back. That was a great look for George Michael's beard in the 80s, but it is NOT a good look for you and your eyebrows, lip, chin, etc. Depilatory creams are normally too harsh for facial use. Buffing can leave skin with "road rash." I suggest waxing, tweezing or threading for the face. <br /><br /><strong>Underarms:</strong> Shaving is fine here. Waxing can be rather painful in this sensitive and inconveniently-angled area, and threading would take ages. Some people can handle a depilatory cream in this area, but if you're not sure, then don't risk it. <br /><br /><strong>Arms/legs:</strong> Good news - arms and legs can handle just about any hair removal technique you can throw at them based on your skin type. Sensitive skin types should avoid depilatory creams and buffing as both can do more harm than good. Normal skin types are good to go with just choosing a preference. Those with oily skin may have a harder time waxing. <br /><br /><strong>Tummy:</strong> Yes, I said tummy. Some women (especially those who are just hairier to begin with or are having hormonal changes like ovarian issues, pregnancy or menopause) will find themselves dealing with hairy bellies. I suggest shaving here. <br /><br /><strong>Bikini area:</strong> This is another area where personal choice and skincare is going to matter the most when it comes to hair removal. However, I am going to strongly suggest against depilatory creams in the bikini area. The skin here is sensitive and you're very close to areas where the slightest slip could cause a UTI or some other damage. "Bikini Zone Chemical Burn" might be a great name for a punk band, but it's certainly not something I imagine many of you would want to sign up for. <br /><br />No matter what area we are talking about or how the hair is removed, it is important to remember to keep that area clean, exfoliated, moisturized and protected once the hair is gone.<br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
'Iron Man 3' Isn't So Steely After All
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2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
It's hard to keep movie sequels fresh, and so is the case with <em>Iron Man 3</em>. <br /><br />Robert Downey Jr. reprises his role as Tony Stark, defense contractor turned Iron Man in the third installment of the popular comic book series. In the first "Iron Man," we see his bumpy transformation into a strong fighter of crime. The sequels gravitate toward his budding relationship with his assistant, Pepper Potts (Gwyneth Paltrow). At one point in <em>Iron Man 3</em>, Stark says of his suit of armor, "it's been my cocoon," because after a series of glitches and meltdowns, Stark is forced out of it, spending most of the time having to prove the kind of tenacity he has on his own - which isn't saying much.<br /><br />Now a mad scientist, the motorized suits he's created are taking over Tony Stark's life, and his live-in girlfriend, Pepper, has grown exasperated. Downey Jr. is typecast as the quirky, smart man with a dry sense of humor, and his casting as an imperfect Iron Man has been a large part of the film's success. However, for kids' viewing eyes, Tony Stark comes across as a jerk - so narcissistic that he doesn't put anyone first. Not his girlfriend (whom he doesn't even ask to marry), not a little boy who is begging for a male role model, and not even the President of the United States. The less powerful superhero, Iron Patriot (played by Don Cheadle), wins as the best hero of this film any day.<br /><br />The external battles this time around are against the ethics of science and a new procedure called Extremis, which regenerates sick or wounded people into soulless terminators. Wreaking havoc on an even larger, televised scale is a bearded terrorist named the Mandarin (Ben Kingsley), playing the archetype of anti-American destruction and bearing an uncanny resemblance to Osama bin Laden. <br /><br />Both science and terrorist conflicts point to a larger theme - the main takeaway young people will get from <em>Iron Man 3</em> is to be even more cynical about our military and domestic safety. And, the next time we think a terrorist is an anti-American extremist, look to your own friends and neighbors instead. I'd prefer not to sink those messages into my kids' brains.<br /><br />The film is generously given a PG-13 rating although it contains graphic violence, bombings, shootouts, drugs, and sexually explicit scenes (including one with two women in a bed and a man who is just about to join them). Iron Man is also a self-indulgent playboy who sleeps around (another point of conflict is between Pepper and one of Tony Stark's one-night stands).<br /><br />Although this film is a huge blockbuster right now, I say skip it. <br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Iron Man 3</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - C <br />Strong message - D <br />Leading character is a role model - D <br />Sexual content - D <br />Violence - D <br />Suited for the whole family - D <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: D</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>Iron Man 3</em>, Rated PG-13</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 2 hours 10 minutes</strong><br /> <br /><strong>If you enjoyed this post, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. </strong> <br /><br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-05-06T14:00:00Z
Anti-Aging Secrets to Slow Down the Clock
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2013-04-29T07:00:00Z
2013-04-29T07:00:00Z
<strong>By Lionel Bissoon, D.O.<br /></strong><a href="http://www.antiagingm.com" target="_blank">www.antiagingm.com</a><br /><br />
<p>Staying on the wellness wagon every day for most of us is challenging. Feeling or looking our best doesn't necessarily translate into big bucks, though you'll arguably perform better everywhere - in the workplace, at the gym, in your love life, etc. - if you exude total health. In the ongoing battle to stay fit, there are wellness weapons that will help turn back time from top to bottom. If there is a fountain of youth, these tips can help lead you there. Here are six simple (and affordable) steps to self-improvement.</p>
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<li><strong>Set Goals.</strong> Success in life is rarely an accidental event. We all know success requires commitment and follow-through. One of the things I have noticed after seeing hundreds of clients worldwide is that when it comes to goal setting, once people achieve their target, they often aim even higher for further improvement. It just takes focus to begin the process and once it begins, success follows naturally as a result.</li>
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<li><strong>Delve into Shellfish.</strong> We all welcome the holidays and weekends with food and drink. You can still indulge and not have to feel so guilty - especially if you add oysters to the menu. Oysters are touted as an aphrodisiac because they are rich in zinc. This mineral blocks the aromatase enzyme, which keeps estrogen levels low and testosterone high. Alcohol can stimulate the production of the enzyme in the liver and lipogenesis (fat production), but zinc will counteract belly fat.</li>
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<li><strong>Get Moving.</strong> Aim to exercise 20 to 25 minutes every other day (at the very minimum). Whenever possible, walk instead of driving, take the stairs instead of using elevators, and if you are a couch potato, work out while watching TV. Commercial breaks air for about two to three minutes. Consider taking this time to get some exercise instead of snacking. The goal is to simply move as often as possible throughout the day.</li>
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<li><strong>Chew Your (Organic) Food.</strong> We live in such a fast-paced society where even eating has to be done quickly. I recommend you take your time while eating, and chew your food until it feels like a paste in your mouth, especially with meat. Chewing helps mechanically break up food and stimulates saliva production for lubrication. Within saliva, there are digestive enzymes to predigest the food. Thus, once it arrives in the stomach, the digestive juices of the stomach will facilitate the digestive process to enhance optimal absorption of nutrients.</li>
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<li><strong>Find Your pH Balance.</strong> In medical circles, the stomach is called the "second brain" because our innards are wired with neural tissue and neurotransmitters. I refer to it as "the gateway to healthy aging." We are constantly bombarded with information about antacids for heartburn and indigestion, but in reality, the presence of stomach acid is very critical for the digestion and absorption of nutrients. Too much acid will destroy the food in the stomach along with all the nutrition, and conversely, too little acid will allow food to go undigested into the intestines. If you experience tummy troubles, big or small, I recommend a Heidelberg pH test to assess what is going on inside.</li>
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<li><strong>Shiver in the Shower.</strong> Remember that before every home in America had hot water, only the rich took warm showers! From jump-starting your metabolism to instantly improving your mood, cold showers have numerous benefits that outweigh the chilling proposition. A cold shower is very invigorating - it will wake you up quickly, keep your energy up and decrease fatigue throughout the day. Studies have shown that a daily cold shower will boost the immune system, decrease elevated leptin levels (associated with obesity), increase circulation, improve fertility, enhance libido, and promote weight loss. A chilly wash will produce a response called shivering thermogenesis, which helps burn calories.</li>
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<p><br /><strong>Dr. Lionel Bissoon, D.O.</strong> is the author of <em><a href="http://www.antiagingmedicine.md/about" target="_blank">The Cellulite Cure</a></em>, and is a highly skilled physician with a wide range of medical knowledge. In the late 1990s, after studying Mesotherapy with renowned practitioners in Paris, Dr. Lionel Bissoon introduced Mesotherapy to the United States. Dr. Bissoon has been a featured guest on many television talks shows, including the ABC <em>20/20, Dr. Oz Show, Rachel Ray Show, Good Morning America</em>, and more. Dr. Bissoon has expanded his practice to include anti-aging medicine, bio-identical hormone replacement, nutrition, weight loss, minimally invasive cosmetic procedures, and regenerative medicine for improving health, vitality and wellness. He focuses on preventive medicine and alternative treatment programs to provide long-term sustainable healthy and very tangible results for his patients. For more information, visit <a href="http://www.anti-agingm.com/" target="_blank">http://www.anti-agingm.com/</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-04-29T07:00:00Z
Avoid the Ageism Trap
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2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Mary Jayne Rogers</strong><br /><a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">www.doctormaryjayne.com</a><br /><br />There is much ado about aging these days. We worry about looking old, feeling old, getting old, and being old. We definitely do not feel good about old. Old conjures up thoughts about osteoporosis, sexual dysfunction, loss of sight, loss of hair, loss of hearing, loss of mind...<br /><br />Satchel Paige said, "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?" <br /><br />This is an interesting question. How would you answer? The problem with the question is that in order to answer it, we have to make an assumption about age. What does it feel like to be 30? 50? 80? Is how "old" we feel completely related to how long we have been alive?<br /><br />I once interviewed a gentleman who was 93 years old (chronologically). He hiked 2 miles in the foothills of Albuquerque twice per week and went to the gym to lift weights. When I asked him why he chose the gym for his workouts instead of the hospital-sponsored fitness center, he answered, "I don't like being around all those old people."<br /><br />How would this man have answered Satchel? <br /><br />It is true that the longer we are alive, we may experience our bodies and our minds functioning differently. But it is also true that we can forestall "longevity-related" decline with good nutrition, mental stimulation, a healthy environment, and appropriate exercise. Here are some of the basic guidelines:<br /><br /><strong>Nutrition </strong><br />Accept the fact that you really and truly "are what you eat," no matter what fast food ads or even pre-prepared "healthy" meals try to sell you. Your body is composed of trillions of living, breathing cells that need quality nutrition to help you live to your greatest capacity. <br />
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<li>Go organic with the least amount of processing.</li>
<li>Eat your colors. A diet with a wide variety of colorful foods will help ensure you are getting as many nutrients as possible from real food. Think Rainbow - for example: Raspberries, Yams, Squash, Broccoli, Blueberries, Prunes, Purple Onions. Now you try. (This is a great game for kids.)</li>
<li>Eat more FAT. That's right. More fat. Our bodies need fat. Our brains and nervous systems are mostly fat. The key is to eat healthy fats; no trans-fat (found in margarine, processed foods, fast foods, and shortening). Go for choices such as olive oil, fish oil, flaxseed oil, and fats from coconuts, almonds, walnuts and avocado.</li>
<li>Get enough protein. Americans have seesawed back and forth between high carbohydrate and high protein diets for decades. The fact is our bodies (especially if we are growing children, recovering from illness or injury, exercising vigorously, or aging) NEED protein to maintain muscle mass and body functions. Sources should be lean and preferably organic, and can include: eggs, lean organic poultry, organic grass-fed beef, and organic beans, such as soy, navy, kidney, pinto or black. </li>
<li>Limit grains and choose those that have a lower glycemic index, such as barley, rice, buckwheat and amaranth.</li>
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<strong>Mental Stimulation </strong><br />The saying is true: "Use it or lose it." Here are a few ways to stimulate the brain:<br />
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<li>Read. Go for a variety of materials that will both entertain and educate.</li>
<li>Have interesting conversations on numerous subjects with many different people.</li>
<li>Puzzles and games are good, but better if you have to perform them for time.</li>
<li>Practice deep breathing or meditation.</li>
<li>Practice positive thinking.</li>
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<strong>Healthy Environment </strong><br />This includes everything from the choices you make in cleaning products and plant food to the products you eat, drink and breathe. Think of your environment as the blanket you wrap yourself in. You want it to be comfortable and soothing, not abrasive and smelly!<br />
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<li>Appropriate Exercise - I use the term "appropriate" because the same exercise is not the best for every person. However, every person should be doing some form of movement activity (a.k.a. exercise). Exercise, in my opinion, is the single most important thing you can include in your lifestyle to help you live a healthful life. The exercise that is BEST for you is the one that you WILL do. It may be anything from skiing, to walking, to folk dancing to hula-hooping. Find a movement activity you enjoy. Better yet - more than one. Do them often. In fact, most days of the week, please. And if you really want to be successful, find a friend or group to exercise with.</li>
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These are the simple truths to looking, feeling and performing your best at any age. <br /><br /> <br /><strong>Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers</strong> is an exercise physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness and fitness education and instruction. As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages. Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. For more information visit <a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">www.doctormaryjayne.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
When Earth and Memories Are Shot to 'Oblivion'
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2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong></strong>It's the year 2077 and Jack Harper (Tom Cruise) is a man whose memories have been erased just as the planet has been obliterated of all living things after a war 60 years before. Scavengers (or "Scavs") destroyed Earth's moon, sending the rest of mankind to live on Titan. Harper is one of two humans left on Earth to perform drone maintenance in the hopes that any remaining resources may be salvaged.<br /><br />Harper and his girlfriend, Victoria (Andrea Riseborough), are the "cleanup crew" before they're set to leave for Titan in a matter of days. Victoria is ready to go, but Jack can't reconcile the flashbacks he has of life before the war. His memories were erased, which leaves him hopeful there is still a chance he can stay. <br /><br />When a third human is found (Olga Kurylenko), their routine life is challenged, and a string of events set off a chain reaction, making the characters question everything they've ever known as truth.<br /><br />The action, music, and visuals are the best parts of <em>Oblivion</em>. Parents will have flashbacks to <em>Top Gun</em> as Tom Cruise soars and plummets in a spacecraft for his missions, bringing to mind the flying tricks and intensity of the film that propelled him to action star status more than 25 years ago.<br /><br />The exciting soundtrack adds to the thriller as well. <br /><br />Visually, <em>Oblivion</em> is a stunner. As all life has left Earth, its color has gone too. A good portion of it was filmed in Iceland, and it's easy to see why - the arctic tundra is the perfect setting for a bleak, post-apocalyptic America.<br /><br />Older children will appreciate how the future is imagined. Tom Cruise clings to small artifacts of America's past: books, records, a Yankees cap, etc. He is haunted by America in its glory days when he sees a dilapidated football stadium, a gutted New York City library, and the mere skeleton of the Empire State Building.<br /><br /><strong>Themes to talk about with older children could include:</strong> What could the distant future look like and why? What might life be like after a nuclear war? What are the pros and cons to technology replacing humans? What is irony and how is it central to the movie? What does "ignorance is bliss" mean? <br /><br />There are certainly no giggles or laughs in this film - it's all seriousness. And the science-fiction plot is hard to follow. <em> Oblivion</em> definitely seems longer than its two hour running time. <br /><br />And for Morgan Freeman fans, sorry to disappoint, but he plays only a minor, supporting role.<br /><br /><em>Oblivion</em> earns at least its PG-13 rating for language, guns, violence, loud noises, and one steamy sex scene. <br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>Oblivion</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - B-<br />Strong message - C <br />Leading character is a role model - C+ <br />Sexual content - D (naked woman jumps into pool and pulls Cruise in, kissing)<br />Violence - C (guns, drones, loud explosions, etc.)<br />Suited for the whole family - D (only for older teens, and then only for sci-fi fans) <br /><strong>Overall Kid Focused Grade: C-/ D+</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>Oblivion</em>, Rated PG-13</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 2 hours 5 minutes</strong><br /> <br /><strong>If you enjoyed this post, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111?fref=ts" target="_blank">"Like" us on Facebook</a> for updates on more posts like it. </strong></p>
<br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-04-22T14:00:00Z
'42' Is a Great American Story
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2013-04-15T14:00:00Z
2013-04-15T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong>"Post World War II, life in the United States was returning to normal and baseball was positive proof that democracy was real," opens the narrator of <em>42</em>, the new biopic of Jackie Robinson's career as the first black professional baseball player. Fittingly, the film was released on Friday, April 12th, on what would have been Robinson's 94th birthday.<br /><br />Harrison Ford plays Branch Rickey, the owner of the Brooklyn Dodgers during that time, and a man who "didn't see black and white, only green dollars" as well as the opportunity that introducing the first professional black baseball player could bring.<br /><br />Rickey handpicked Robinson (played by Chadwick Boseman), an unknown minor league player for the Kansas City Monarchs, to play for the Dodgers, which set up the greatest struggles and triumphs of Robinson's life: balancing the opportunity to play in the big leagues with being one of the most visible targets of racism in America during the 1940s. Rickey's challenge to Robinson was not to fight back, because a black man really couldn't during that time, but to prove he belonged in the big leagues through talent alone.<br /><br />The film highlights baseball, but also Robinson's relationships with others. Being a devoted husband and father was the light in his life, and suffering the cruelty of racism while retaining his dignity was the dark.<br /><br /><em>42</em> is PG-13 for intense subject matter as well as for continued use of the N-word and other coarse language.<br /><br />If middle school and high school kids are talked to in advance about these issues, they will get a lot out of <em>42</em>. It will be easy for them to see Robinson's life through the lens of bullying to the extreme. Robinson's story is a reminder that any fears we may have about making a stand are nothing compared to the grit he showed. Jackie Robinson's story gives us all the courage to be a leader too. <br /><br />Robinson showed courage, physical and mental strength, humility, and what it really means to be a hero. He also proved that true talent has no color. For this, I recommend taking all kids 12 and over to see it.<br /> <br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for <em>42</em></strong><br /><br />Compelling story line - A<br />Strong message - A<br />Leading character is a role model - A<br />Sexual content - B+ (the manager of the team is in bed with a woman, reference to cheating)<br />Violence - B (Robinson gets hit in the head with a baseball, very strong language)<br />Suited for the whole family - B (not for children under 10) <br /><strong>Overall Grade: B+ (for a general movie this film earns an A, but it is not a general kids' movie).</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>42</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 2 hours 8 minutes</strong></p>
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<strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-04-15T14:00:00Z
What's in Season - April
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2013-04-08T14:00:00Z
2013-04-08T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />Spring is here! Apricots, Hass avocado, banana, beets, grapefruit, green beans, honeydew melon, mango, and pineapple are all in season. Check out some of our favorite tips and recipes for April produce.<br /><br /><strong>Banana</strong><br /><br />Bananas are fat-free, but contain two to three times more carbohydrates than other fruit. Although they may not be the best choice for folks on low-carb diets, they are a great choice for active kids and adults. A banana has less water, 50 percent more food energy, four times the protein, half the fat, twice the carbohydrates, almost three times the phosphorus, nearly five times the vitamin A and iron, and at least twice the other vitamins and minerals as an apple. Two important nutrients that bananas offer are vitamin B6 and potassium.<br /><br />Sometimes referred to as the anti-stress, good mood vitamin, B6 is involved in the transmission of impulses in nerves and muscles, and is important in making red blood cells. It is also needed for serotonin production. About 45 percent of people suffering from depression are found to have a low level of serotonin in the brain. Bananas have more vitamin B6 than any other fresh fruit and are regarded as an excellent source of this vitamin. Eating bananas helps to keep serotonin levels high, which will keep you in good spirits.<br /><br />Potassium is essential to mental function, brain power and nerve impulses. In fact, according to certain biochemists, new brain cells cannot be made without potassium. Bananas, one of nature's richest sources of potassium, are also one of the easiest ways to give your body this important mineral that powers your brain and your muscles.<br /><br /><strong>Banana Smoothie</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />1 ripe banana, peeled<br />3 ripe strawberries OR 1/4 cup blueberries OR 1/4 cup papaya<br />1/2 cup 100% fruit juice, such as apple<br />1/4 cup plain OR vanilla yogurt (dairy or soy)<br />1/2 cup ice cubes<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all ingredients in a blender. Process until smooth and creamy. Pour into a covered cup, add a straw and serve immediately. This recipe makes two 6-ounce servings.<br /><br /><strong>Baked Banana Crumble </strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />4 bananas<br />1/4 cup flour<br />1/4 cup light brown sugar, firmly packed<br />1/4 cup sugar<br />1/2 cup quick rolled oats<br />1/4 cup chopped walnuts<br />1/4 cup (1/2 stick) butter, cut into little pieces<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Preheat oven to 400°F. Spray shallow baking dish (about 9 X 9 inches) with cooking spray. Slice bananas in 1/4-inch circles and place them in the shallow baking dish. In a medium-sized bowl, mix together flour, brown sugar, sugar, oats and nuts. Add the butter. Using a fork or the back of a large spoon, combine the mixture until it is crumbly. Sprinkle the crumble mixture over the bananas, pressing down slightly. Place the dish in the oven and bake until crumble top is medium brown, about 15-20 minutes.<br /><br />Serves 4-6.<br /><br /><strong>Frozen Banana Pops</strong><br /><br />Kids love bananas! Diced, they are a perfect finger food. Cut in circles and frozen, they soothe a cranky teether. And for many, peanut butter and banana sandwiches are a staple for the lunchbox. These frozen banana pops - with or without the chocolate - are a simple summer treat.<br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />Bananas<br />Popsicle sticks<br />Chocolate (1 ounce per banana - optional)<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />1 banana makes 2 pops. Peel bananas and slice in half crosswise. Insert a popsicle stick in the end of each piece. Place in freezer for 2 hours. They are ready to eat (unless you want to dip them in chocolate).<br /><br /><strong>To dip in chocolate:</strong> Melt chocolate according to the package directions. You may need to add a bit of cooking oil (1 tsp - 1 Tbsp, depending on the amount and type of chocolate) to develop a good "dipping" consistency. You can also purchase chocolate that is specially designed for melting and dipping. It is often located in the baking or produce sections of a grocery store. Once the chocolate is ready, remove the frozen bananas from the freezer and dip or spoon chocolate over them. Put them back in the freezer to set. They'll be ready in minutes.<br /><br /><strong>Storage:</strong> Wrap individually in plastic. Freeze for up to 2 months.<br /><br /><strong>Green Beans</strong><br /><br />Green beans are low in saturated fat and very low in cholesterol. They are a good source of dietary fiber and vitamin C, magnesium and potassium, and a very good source of vitamin A and folate. These factors and nutrients all help to reduce your risk of heart disease, cancer and hypertension. Green beans are also a diuretic and may be used to treat diabetes.<br /><br /><strong>Green Beans with Corn & Bacon</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />2 lbs green beans<br />1 ear sweet corn, kernels cut off cob<br />1 clove garlic, minced<br />1/4 cup onion, diced<br />3 strips bacon (turkey or pork)<br />2 Tbsp butter <br />Salt and pepper, to taste<br /><br /><strong>Directions: </strong><br />Slice bacon into small (1/2-inch) pieces and fry in saucepan until crispy. Remove from pan and drain on paper towel. Set aside.<br /><br />Leave 1-2 Tbsps bacon grease in the pan, add garlic, onion and corn kernels. Saute about 5 minutes over medium-high heat.<br /><br />Wash green beans and remove ends. Place beans in microwave-safe dish, cover and cook on HIGH for 3-4 minutes (until bright green and crisp tender). Toss with butter and place in serving dish. Spoon the corn mixture over the green beans and sprinkle with bacon bits. Serve.<br /><br /><strong>Mango</strong><br /><br />Ranking high on the list of nutrient-dense fruits, the flesh of a mango is peach-like and juicy with a hint of pineapple flavor. The flavor is pleasant and rich, and it's high in sugars and amino acids. Mangos are one of the best sources of vitamin A, and contain beta carotene. They are also a terrific source of vitamin C!<br /><br /><strong>Mango Milk Shake</strong><br /><br /><strong>Ingredients: </strong> 1/2 mango chopped <br />1/2 cup milk<br />1/2 cup ice<br />1-2 tsp honey<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all ingredients in a blender and whirl until smooth. Serve.<br /><br /><strong>Pineapple</strong><br /><br />As an international symbol of welcome, the pineapple is certainly a welcome member of the fruit family for its delicious taste and nutritional benefits. Pineapples are a good source of vitamin C, a commonly known antioxidant that protects the body from free radical damage and boosts the immune system. Not only does vitamin C help fend off colds and infections, but a recent study shows that vitamin C can help reduce your risk of gingivitis and periodontal disease too.<br /><br />Pineapple also contains high levels of an enzyme called bromelain. Bromelain is a natural anti-inflammatory, and it can help relieve rheumatoid arthritis symptoms, sore throat pain, and reduce postoperative swelling. Additionally, the bromelain in pineapple helps break down the amino acid bonds in proteins, which promotes good digestion. Finally, pineapple is full of manganese, a trace mineral that is in very few foods. Manganese protects against osteoporosis.<br /><br /><strong>Pineapple Kabobs </strong><br /><br />This recipe is super easy and tasty. Make a platter for a party, or make a few for your child's snack. Mini kabobs look fancy and are fun to make - even little fingers can help assemble them!<br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />Pineapple chunks (1/2-inch pieces)<br />Marble cheese cubes (1/2-inch pieces)<br />Slices of ham cut into 1-inch squares<br />Toothpicks<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Assemble the mini kabobs on a toothpick in the following manner: Ham square, pineapple chunk, ham square, cheese cube.<br /><br /><strong>Veggie version:</strong> Substitute teriyaki-flavored baked tofu for the ham/cheese. Baked tofu can easily be sliced into small cubes and is very tasty with the pineapple.<br /><br /><strong>Storage: </strong>Refrigerate before serving. Mini kabobs do not keep well in the refrigerator for longer than 3-4 hours.<br /><br /><strong>Strawberries</strong><br /><br />Looking beyond their sweet juicy taste, strawberries are loaded with nutrients including powerful, disease-fighting antioxidants and vitamin C. Just eight medium strawberries count as one serving, and this serving contains more vitamin C than an orange. Strawberries are also a good source of iron, folic acid, fiber and potassium. <br /><br /><strong>Smoothies</strong><br /><br />Smoothies are a great way to incorporate fruits (and perhaps sneak a few vegetables) into your child's diet. You can vary this recipe with seasonal fruits. Adding a handful of kale, a sliced cucumber, or a chopped carrot provides a bigger nutritional kick.<br /><br /><strong>Ingredients:</strong><br />1 ripe banana, peeled<br />3 ripe strawberries OR 1/4 cup blueberries OR 1/4 cup papaya<br />1/2 cup 100% fruit juice, such as apple<br />1/4 cup plain OR vanilla yogurt (dairy or soy)<br />1/2 cup ice cubes<br /><br /><strong>Directions:</strong><br />Place all ingredients in a blender. Process until smooth and creamy. Pour into a covered cup, add a straw and serve immediately. This recipe makes two 6-ounce servings.<br /><br /><strong>Age to introduce: </strong>Over 12 months<br /><br /> <br /><strong>About the author: Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the founder of <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">Fresh Baby</a>. For more than 10 years, Fresh Baby has helped parents foster their children's healthy eating habits and proactively respond to the childhood obesity epidemic that plagues our nation. Cheryl is the author and designer of the company's award-winning cookbooks and nutrition education products that support many stages of family life including: pregnancy, breastfeeding, introducing solid foods, and feeding toddlers, preschoolers and school-aged children. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<em><em> </em></em>
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2013-04-08T14:00:00Z
'The Croods' Become Less So with a Little Modern Help
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Croods-Become-Less-So-with-a-Little-Modern-Help/-881127791290063321.html
2013-03-25T16:27:00Z
2013-03-25T16:27:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong></strong></p>
<p><strong><br /></strong>The Croods are the Flintstones of our time, a modern stone-age family (and I foresee the family Halloween costume of 2013, just like the Incredibles were a few years back). The father of the clan, Grug Crood (voiced by Nicolas Cage), has worked hard to keep his Neanderthal wife, children, and mother-in-law safe while just about everyone they know has perished during harsh prehistoric times. The motto Grug has drilled into his family:<strong> Fear is what keeps us alive!</strong> This all goes along well until his oldest child, daughter Eep (Emma Stone), starts to grow up and become curious about what's beyond their safe, dark cave. <br /><br />When Eep meets Guy (Ryan Reynolds), he's more evolved than the Croods. So when Guy challenges the family to change their boorish behavior and become more civilized beings, it's a new way of living that disrupts everything the family has always found comfortable.<br /><br />When the family sees fire or shoes for the first time, kids can see what life was like through the eyes of earlier people. These parts were fun, and I wish there were more of them. The first half of the movie is the Croods acting like, well, cavemen, and it isn't until the second half when we see them make discoveries like these that there is actually a plot. Needless to say, the second half of <em>The Croods</em> is much more interesting and fun than the first. <br /><br />Why the family shows such physical, Neanderthal behavior for the first half of <em>The Croods</em> won't be clear to young kids. It just seems like a lot of punching, slapping, growling, and body slamming. They most likely won't make the connection that this behavior is all because they're cavemen (and women).<br /><br /><em>The Croods</em> is rated PG for several reasons. There is the physicality - punching, throwing, slamming, etc. There is also an intense opening scene where the family hunts for their food and tries to beat out animals - it is fast-paced and loud. There are also very scary predators throughout the movie that could be scary to children younger than 6. They snarl, bare their teeth, lunge, hiss, etc.<br /><br />Kid Focused themes that can be integrated into discussions or assignments centering on <em>The Croods</em> involve Invention, Sacrifice, Growing up, Envy, Leadership, and Fatherhood.</p>
<strong>Kid Focused Grades for<em> The Croods</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - C+<br />Strong message - B<br />Leading character is a role model - A<br />Sexual content - A- (Eep and Guy hold hands, come close to kissing)<br />Violence - B - (Loud, fast-pace action, scary predators)<br />Suited for the whole family - B (not for children under 6) <br /><strong>Overall Grade: B</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>The Croods</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 30 minutes</strong><br /> <br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-25T16:27:00Z
Run, Don't Walk, to See 'Girl Rising'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Run,-Dont-Walk,-to-See-Girl-Rising/540349896431610943.html
2013-03-25T14:00:00Z
2013-03-25T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></p>
Every once in a while, a book or a movie opens our eyes to things we haven't thought much about before - things that really matter. This week I had such an experience when I went to a screening of a new documentary called <em>Girl Rising</em>. In it, we see and hear nine heartbreaking stories of young girls living in developing countries around the world. What was stunning is that these girls desire something many of us take for granted, something many kids even resist: the right to go to school. <em>Girl Rising</em> is a wake-up call that education for all children is not the automatic freedom our kids receive.<br /><br />The stories unfold like chapters - we visit Afghanistan, Egypt, Ethiopia, Haiti, India, Nepal, Peru, and Sierra Leone, and see in each girl's story a different side to the same problem: going to school gives the highest returns on so many levels - economically, physically, culturally - yet millions of girls are forbidden to go. In fact, 33 million fewer girls than boys go to primary school around the world simply because of their gender. <br /><br />I was flabbergasted to hear this because if anything, girls are ahead of boys academically here at home in the U.S. More girls are enrolled in college, and I've even complained that teachers downright favor girls here. Yet as far as equal rights for girls and women have come in America, <em>Girl Rising</em> is a stunning revelation that girls are modern day slaves in much of the developing world.<br /><br />The reasons for this are complex.<br /><br />Yasmin from Egypt's story sheds light on the problem of child brides that are still so common around the world. Millions of parents would rather marry off their young daughters - some as young as 7 years old - than risk them being raped. This is also a reason why many parents keep girls home entirely, which means no school. These girls then have children before their bodies are mature, making death by childbirth the leading cause of death for girls 15-19 years old in developing countries. And so the ugly cycle continues.<br /><br />If not outright banned, education is a commodity in many countries - available to only the highest bidders. We see this in 7-year-old Wadley's story from Haiti. <br /><br />Stories like Wadley's also offer hope. She risks humiliation just for the chance to listen to a teacher in an outdoor, makeshift classroom. Her desire to learn and her perseverance and bravery are as big as her smile. Other uplifting messages are also shown through the various stories, like how finding a passion (poetry, music, drawing, etc.) carries some of these girls through their darkest days. And through the kindnesses of several men, we also see that not all of the men in these countries want to oppress women and girls. <br /><br />The "rising" in the title is a metaphor - these girls cannot be ignored. <br /><br />The movie is rated PG-13, but that is for the intense subject matter. Older children (boys and girls) will get a lot out of it.<br /><br />When we left, my two friends and I discussed how good it would be for American kids to see this movie just to realize how lucky they are to have the right to a free, public education. Not that our system is perfect by any means, but children would be shocked to see what other kids their age are going through today. <br /><br />This movie also made me want to see more respect in our school system on many levels, starting with education being looked at as more important than the idol many families worship: sports.<br /><br />The only way to see this film for now is to arrange a screening. I urge you to find a screening of <em>Girl Rising</em> near you, or arrange one by visiting <a href="http://www.girlrising.com/" target="_blank">girlrising.com</a>.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-25T14:00:00Z
Don't I Ever Outgrow Adult Acne?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Dont-I-Ever-Outgrow-Adult-Acne/67799024610620885.html
2013-03-18T07:00:00Z
2013-03-18T07:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br />Safe Beauty Expert<br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />When I think about what things were like when I was a teenager, I can't help but make this strange expression that looks like something in between a smile and a grimace. I'm sure most of you make the same face. Being a teenager was fun - it was first loves and first tastes of freedom - but it was also greasy foreheads and relentless acne. When you finally grew out of those pimples, you breathed a sigh of relief thinking the pimples and blemishes were just another awkward teen memory.<br /> <br />Then, for many of you, adult life brought with it not only the stresses and freedoms of adulthood, but also adult acne. What is adult acne and why is it different from the acne many people have as teenagers? What are some of the major causes? How do you treat it? Let's start by talking about what makes adult acne different from teenaged acne. <br /><br />As teenagers, the breakouts most people have tend to be located along the T-zone (the forehead, nose, and chin) and are, for the most part, caused by the sudden fluctuation of puberty hormones. That is why that type of acne tends to just go away on its own after puberty has passed. Adult acne, too, can be caused by hormonal fluctuations (especially during menstrual cycles, pregnancy, menopause, or on certain medications), but these breakouts are more common along the lower part of the face like the cheeks below the cheekbone, chin, and jawline. <br /><br />Most teenagers will suffer from blackheads, whiteheads, larger pustules, and cystic acne. Adult acne will appear in any and all of those forms, but adults are also prone to the added joys of rosacea (but that is an entirely different conversation). <br /><br />Now that we understand some of the differences between teen acne and adult acne, let's talk about what the major causes of adult acne are. As I said before, hormones certainly play into adult acne. Other culprits could be stress, imbalanced diet, makeup and skin care products, and even your hairstyle! <br /><br />Stress releases hormones that cause your body to release other hormones to counteract them; the hormonal flood can often send your complexion into a tailspin. Many people mistakenly assume greasy foods or chocolate cause acne. Studies have shown that is not really the case - the major culinary criminal in the case of adult acne is actually the sugar in the candy bars or other candy, as well as high-glycemic-index carbs like white bread, pasta, potatoes, etc. Yes, the wrong foods can spike insulin levels, leading to a chemical imbalance and, in turn, acne.<br /><br />What about topical acne treatments? Well, here's something that will surprise you. Traditional acne creams and lotions contain an ingredient that can actually irritate your skin and make the problem worse. That's right, your efforts to clear your skin may actually be adding fuel to the fire. These products disrupt your skin's natural acidic pH, chip away at its protective layer, and actually trigger the production of sebum. To avoid these types of products, I prefer gel or gel-cream type formulations that avoid harmful ingredients like PEG's, Glycols, and soap-based emulsifiers (often listed as Self-Emulsifying Wax or Polysorbate).<br /><br /><em>For DIY / chemical-free skin care product recipes, more advice, or to ask a question, visit <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com</a>. </em><br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-18T07:00:00Z
'Oz' Alternates Between Boring and Scary
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Oz-Alternates-Between-Boring-and-Scary/736087140829487192.html
2013-03-11T07:00:00Z
2013-03-11T07:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></p>
<br />In <em>Oz the Great and Powerful</em>, Professor Oz (James Franco) is a shady traveling magician, scraping by while performing his con-man show across the "dusty podunks" of the Midwest. When he returns to Kansas, an ex-girlfriend, Annie (Michelle Williams) tells him John Gale has proposed to her, reminding the viewer of Dorothy Gale and that this could very well be a clever prequel to <em>The Wizard of Oz</em>. Not so. Nothing more is mentioned of the Gales, and this interaction is just the first of Oz's romantic entanglements throughout the rest of the movie, not based on, but compiled from the works of novelist L. Frank Baum. <br /><br />Oz flees Kansas and the people he has duped via hot air balloon just as a tornado approaches, carrying him to the faraway land of Oz. There, he must convince three witches, as well as the people, that he is their rightful ruler. The land, after all, does carry his name. <br /><br />The best part of the film is the Oz setting. The movie begins in black and white - just like <em>The Wizard of Oz</em> does - but once Professor Oz touches down in the landscape of the Emerald City, the colors and detail won't disappoint.<br /><br />Yet this story is nowhere near as good as the original. No wonder it's taken 75 years to make another movie about Oz. It would've been better left alone.<br /><br />The movie is rated PG for scary parts, and there are sexually charged scenes that Oz shares with multiple women. The tornado scene is loud and scary for viewers under 9, and lasts several minutes. There are several scenes where witches and minions howl or jump into the camera, startling viewers. I saw <a href="/b/Too-Bad-Jack-the-Giant-Slayer-Is-Rated-PG-13/-681448417136956342.html" target="_blank"><em>Jack the Giant Slayer</em></a> last week and thought if that film was rated PG-13, this one should be too. I actually think <em>Oz the Great and Powerful</em> is a scarier movie. <br /><br />When it's not scary, there are long, drawn-out scenes. Oz travels on the yellow brick road away from the Emerald City on a witch hunt. He picks up several friends along the way, but none of them are as endearing as the yellow brick road friends we know and love. <br /><br />There are some allusions to the original, beloved "Wizard of Oz," but not enough to make the trip to the theater. For diehard fans, I recommend waiting for the movie to come out on DVD.<br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for<em> Oz</em></strong><em> <strong>the Great and Powerful</strong></em><br />Compelling story line - C (viewers will enjoy looking for connections to the classic tale, but that's it) <br />Strong message - C- (being a con man has its rewards?)<br />Leading character is a role model - C- <br />Sexual content - B- (Oz passionately kisses several women and strings them along; this is a major part of the plot)<br />Violence - C (Loud, violent action throughout)<br />Suited for the whole family - C (not for children under 9) <br /><strong>Overall Grade: C</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>Oz the Great and Powerful</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 2 hours 10 minutes</strong><br /> <br /><br /><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-11T07:00:00Z
A Legacy of Memories: Five Strategies for Creating Your Family's Magical Vacation
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Legacy-of-Memories:-Five-Strategies-for-Creating-Your-Familys-Magical-Vacation/561221559253026953.html
2013-03-04T18:15:00Z
2013-03-04T18:15:00Z
<strong>By Anne Leedom</strong><br /><a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">ParentingBookmark.com</a><br /><br />It never ceases to amaze me how life-changing a simple moment can be. Waking up to the smell of clean ocean air. The knowledge that a great-tasting breakfast is on its way. The joy that my teenage children are a few feet away and that all the miracles that will be discovered in the coming hours will be shared by all of us. This is my dream moment. Thankfully, with a little magic and a few angels in the wings, my dream became a reality when I opened my eyes and realized as I opened the curtains that I was looking out over the incredibly gorgeous and unendingly perfect Monterey Bay in California. <br /><br /><img style="float: left; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/tip_030413.jpg" alt="" width="188" height="127" />There is nothing as bonding and empowering to a family than sharing moments that will last a lifetime. Vacations and travel, in my opinion, are the very best ways to connect. Making memories is the secret to finding balance in life, finding joy, and ultimately, creating a family legacy. For my daughter's 17th birthday, this was hands down the best way to celebrate how much I appreciate what a miracle she is to me.<br /><br />I recommend every parent give these legacy strategies a try when you get a chance to create your next magical moments: <br />
<blockquote><strong>1. Texting allowed - but only to each other as needed:</strong> All communication to friends and family back home is done via pictures and notes that are taken, saved and shared later.<br /><br /><strong>2. Adventure:</strong> Include at least one common activity. In our case, it was a breathtaking drive toward Big Sur to watch the whales off the California coast. There were so many right off the road that we didn't need a boat. We liked the flexibility to stop wherever we wanted. <br /><br /><strong>3. Down time:</strong> Our hotel included a superb collection of movies, which made the evenings fun and a time to just relax, take in the lights and watch a movie. OK, yes, there was a little chocolate involved and a glass of wine. But hey, we can have popcorn at home.<br /><br /><strong>4. One great meal:</strong> It is a splurge, but there is something truly freeing in saying it's OK to pay $10 more for dinner than I might normally pay. Not crazy expensive, but enough to say yes, this is a good thing and so glad I did it! Watching everyone relax, laugh, talk and enjoy a special meal is a powerful way to connect.<br /><br /><strong>5. History:</strong> I want my kids to understand the value of history, including their own. Visiting a few prominent historical locations on the trip was important to me. Seeing the first theatre in California, the Presidio, and classic landmarks like Cannery Row helps kids see that history is fun. It's alive and makes them appreciate that they are, in fact, part of history too.</blockquote>
As your days get busier this year, take a moment to plan a magical getaway. You don't have to go far, however, if you can put Monterey into your plans this year, your children will thank you. The incredible abundance of sights, sounds, smells and activities will create a legacy of memories that will stay with you long after you return home to life's daily routines. It was not a dream but rather an amazing adventure that will be cherished for a lifetime. The hotels offer the greatest views and the service is unparalleled. Consider the gorgeous <a href="http://www.portolahotel.com/" target="_blank">Portola Hotel</a> where you can also get a great steak at their restaurant <a href="http://www.portolahotel.com/" target="_blank">Jacks</a>. It's phenomenal.<br /><br />I must say, it gives me joy to see the smiles on my kids' faces as they remember the fun we had...together. EVEN as teenagers! Now that's a great gift!<br /><br /><br /><strong>Anne Leedom</strong> is the publisher of <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">ParentingBookmark.com</a>, a website offering expert strategies on raising caring kids. She frequently contributes to national media and works with <a href="http://www.portolahotel.com/" target="_blank">The Portola Hotel and Spa</a> and other travel destinations to offer ideas on how to connect with kids through the wonder of travel and adventure. For more information, visit <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com" target="_blank">ParentingBookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-04T18:15:00Z
Too Bad 'Jack the Giant Slayer' Is Rated PG-13
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Too-Bad-Jack-the-Giant-Slayer-Is-Rated-PG-13/-681448417136956342.html
2013-03-04T08:00:00Z
2013-03-04T08:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank"><br /></a></strong></p>
<br />The latest spin on a classic fairytale begins and ends as a bedtime story, but oddly enough, it shuts the door on the under-13 crowd.<br /><br />In this version, the legendary beans that come into Jack's possession are ancient relics, passed down over the ages until their dangerous powers are stopped with the burial of legendary ruler, King Erik. Yet poor, farm boy Jack still retrieves them, and though he's heard the legend of the beans' power since he was a tot, he never expects that they will cause such a commotion. That is until Princess Isabelle, heir to the throne and King Erik's descendant, comes into his life.<br /><br />There is another famous children's story inadvertently referenced in "Jack." When Jack and a few other humans arrive at the mythical land in the clouds atop the beanstalk, one character's wearing of a simple crown brings the giants to their knees and complicates the plot. I'll bet <em>Where the Wild Things Are</em> by Maurice Sendak was at least considered when producers brought "Jack" to the 21st Century. The following passage from Sendak's classic tale comes to mind and, if pointed out, older children are sure to see the similarities as well:<br /><br /><em>"And when he came to the place where the wild things are</em><br /><em>they roared their terrible roars and gnashed their terrible teeth</em><br /><em>and rolled their terrible eyes and showed their terrible claws</em><br /><em>till Max said "BE STILL!"</em><br /><em>and tamed them with the magic trick </em><br /><em>of staring into all their yellow eyes without blinking once</em><br /><em>and they were frightened and called him the most wild thing of all</em><br /><em>and made him king of all wild things."</em><br /><br />The giants are what make the film memorable, but they're also why the film is rated PG-13. They're shown close-up, with mangy skin, decaying teeth, and an appetite for human flesh. The film insinuates that they eat people and animals by showing them holding up the much smaller creatures and putting them toward their mouths. The film is also rated PG-13 because it depicts knife fights and people pushed down the beanstalk to their deaths.<br /><br />The movie is not going to win best picture, mainly because the writing is weak. When Jack climbs the beanstalk with deadpan phrases like, "I'm not too fond of heights," adult and savvier viewers will groan. Yet the film, just like the fairytale, is meant for children, and if they'd cut just a little more of the gore, it would have been a great film for its intended audience. <br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for<em> Jack the Giant Slayer</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - B<br />Strong message - B<br />Leading character is a role model - A<br />Sexual content - A (There is one kiss between Jack and the leading lady.)<br />Violence - C (The giants are grisly and there is lots of fighting)<br />Suited for the whole family - B- <br /><strong>Overall Grade: B-</strong><br /> <br /><strong><em>Jack the Giant Slayer</em>, Rated PG-13</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 53 minutes</strong><br /> <strong><br /><br />Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-03-04T08:00:00Z
Snack Healthy - The Sweet Tooth Edition
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Snack-Healthy---The-Sweet-Tooth-Edition/324540762045703218.html
2013-02-25T08:00:00Z
2013-02-25T08:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br />Safe Beauty Expert<br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />I know a person who spends hours working out every day, six days a week. He has been doing this for the last 60 days and has not lost a single pound. How is that possible? The answer is quite simple - he never changed his diet! <br /><br />When it comes to looking good and feeling good, healthy weight plays an important role, and experts agree that a major factor is what you eat. Most of us can manage to figure out a healthy breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Where almost everyone falls off track is mastering the fine art of snacking. <br /><br />I know I have a sweet tooth, but here is a list of some secretly healthy sweet snacks that I have learned to keep on-hand to get through the day without hitting up the drive-thru or vending machine: <br />
<blockquote>1. <strong>Banana Chips dipped in Dark Chocolate:</strong> Bananas are packed with Vitamin A, phosphorus, potassium, and other nutrients, and they're a great source of slow-release carbs to keep you feeling energized for longer. Dark chocolate is one of the best and tastiest sources of antioxidants a person can have if it's at least 70 percent cocoa. <br /><br />2. <strong>Fruit and Yogurt Parfait:</strong> Make your own at home! Use the fruits and yogurts you like most, and why not add some of your favorite nuts (especially almonds and walnuts) while you're at it! The vitamins and minerals in fruits and nuts are great for you, the yogurt is loaded with vitamins and calcium, and studies have shown that yogurt can help reduce belly fat! <br /><br />3. <strong>Low-fat Chocolate Milk: </strong>This one is simple - it's got chocolate! The milk is full of calcium and vitamins, and it will help fill you up. As long as it's low-fat, you don't need to feel too guilty about it! <br /><br />4. <strong>Baked Apples:</strong> Craving apple pie? Ditch the crust and just bake half an apple for a few minutes. Sprinkle with cinnamon and nutmeg, and grate some nuts on top after you pull it out of the oven!<br /><br />5. <strong>Pudding: </strong>One fat free pudding cup filled with fruit or sliced nuts (or both) can be a great snack. The luxurious pudding will help you mentally feel satisfied, and fruit and nuts will boost the health factor! <br /><br />6. <strong>Fruit and Almond Butter:</strong> Slice up a sweet fruit, like a pear or a honey crisp apple, and top it with a teaspoon of almond butter. This snack usually clocks in at just under 200 calories and has enough natural sugars and proteins to keep you going through the day. <br /><br />7. <strong>Candy:</strong> OK, let's be honest, sometimes you just want a candy or some ice cream, and nothing else is going to satisfy that sweet tooth. When that happens, don't get too discouraged - you can still keep things low-calorie. Lots of companies have begun releasing 150 calorie or less packs. The frozen section of your local grocery will almost certainly have low-calorie frozen treats. The trick to this is making sure that you read the labels and stick to the correct serving size!</blockquote>
Remember - small changes here and there are what make a real difference in your life over time. Replacing a chocolate bar, Twinkie, cupcake, etc. with one of these healthier tasty options can be an easy step towards a healthier you!<br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-02-25T08:00:00Z
'Escape from Planet Earth,' or Really Just America?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Escape-from-Planet-Earth,-or-Really-Just-America/-747250184644034890.html
2013-02-18T08:00:00Z
2013-02-18T08:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong></strong>Two blue brothers from planet Baab have worked as a team to save one planet at a time for years until their latest challenge calls them to Earth, otherwise known as "The Dark Planet." Scorch Supernova is a brawny, bachelor astronaut, while his nerdy brother, Gary, is a family man, content working behind the scenes as the genius manning the mission control tower. While Scorch just wants to flex his muscles and recklessly answer the intergalactic SOS call to fight crime on Earth, cautious Gary thinks they'd better sit this one out. When Scorch decides to travel to Earth anyway, it sets up the physical problem of getting there and back to Baab safely, but it also sheds light on just how the brothers can still work together when they're as opposite as two brothers can be.<br /><br />The movie is supposed to be about Earth, but it's clear that "America" is what's deemed "The Dark Planet." My main problem with "Escape" is how America is depicted in it. Remember the saying, "I can talk about my mother but you can't."? It's no coincidence that a Canadian film company made this movie, so therefore the jabs against America as being dumb and greedy just aren't as funny. Some of the digs are harmless and may get a laugh, like the quick tutorial the aliens watch to learn more about Earth, telling them Americans worship someone named "Simon Cow-wheel." The first encounter the aliens have on Earth is at a massive, mega-lit 7-11 run by two guys who act like Beavis and Butthead. The film goes on to show that the movie's villain is a corrupt, high-ranking, Elvis wig-wearing, American government official who oversees the space program, and that the only reason those Earthlings have gotten as far as they have with technology is because they ripped off alien ideas. Does that sound like a familiar storyline? Most of these things will go over kids' heads, but patriotic parents will surely take notice.<br /><br />What I did like about this movie is that both leading male characters are redeemed as "real men" in the end. Too often in movies and television of late, men are cast as either wimpy nerds or meatheads, and at first, both Gary and Scorch Supernova fit into these stereotypes (as do all the other males, save Gary's young son, Kip, who has yet to go through puberty). Yet we see the brothers are much more than meets the eye as the film develops.<br /><br />Young children will enjoy this movie, while teens will be bored. My 9-year-old son went with me and said, "I liked how there were made-up planets in the movie - it was funny. I also liked how it showed real things about the solar system, like the Milky Way."<br /><br />Themes about family, brotherhood, and loyalty can be tied-in to talk about with children after they see it.<br /><br /><strong>Kid Focused Grades for<em> Escape from Planet Earth</em></strong><br />Compelling story line - C<br />Strong message - C <br />Leading character is a role model - B<br />Sexual content - B (Sofia Vergara's character oohs and aahs over Scorch, as do the villain and his online girlfriend.)<br />Violence - B (some punches and fast-paced action sequences)<br />Suited for the whole family - B- <br /><strong>Overall Grade: B-/ C+</strong><br /><br /><strong><em>Escape from Planet Earth</em>, Rated PG</strong><br /><strong>Running Time: 1 hour 29 minutes</strong><br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-02-18T08:00:00Z
Chinese New Year
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Chinese-New-Year/157972555043823314.html
2013-02-11T13:00:00Z
2013-02-11T13:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />The Chinese New Year is one of the most important and longest festivals in the Chinese calendar. Starting on Feb. 10 and culminating in the Lantern Festival on Feb. 24, the Chinese New Year is a great celebration.<br /><br />2013 is the Year of the Snake. People born in the Year of the Snake are said to be charming, cunning, proud, passionate, and wise. They are also said to be elegant and attractive with a passion for the better side of life. They have excellent business sense and people skills.<br /><br />On the eve of the Chinese New Year, families will gather to have a feast and celebrate with a festive Chinese family dinner. Traditional Chinese favorites include spring rolls, dumplings, lettuce wraps, cold sesame noodles and long-life noodles. Whole fish and whole chicken dishes are also traditional New Year foods. Food plays a significant role in the Chinese New Year celebration. Here are some Chinese foods and their significance at New Year:<br />
<ul>
<li>Whole chicken: Family togetherness</li>
<li>Noodles: Long life</li>
<li>Spring Rolls: Wealth (Their shape is similar to gold bars.)</li>
<li>Lettuce: The Cantonese word for lettuce sounds like "rising fortune."</li>
<li>Tangerines and oranges: The Cantonese words for tangerine and orange sound like "luck" and "wealth," respectively.</li>
<li>Fish: The word for fish, "Yu," sounds like the words for both wish and abundance.</li>
<li>Sweet, steamed cakes: Rich, sweet life abundance in the coming year</li>
</ul>
Enjoy these recipes and "Kung Hei Fat Choi" (Chinese for "have a prosperous and good year")!<br /><br /><strong>Chinese Dumplings</strong><br /><em><br />Ingredients:</em><br /><br /><em>Dough: <img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/chinese_new_year_2.JPG" alt="" width="200" height="200" /></em><br />
<ul>
<li>1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour</li>
<li>Pinch of salt </li>
<li>1/2 - 3/4 cup cold water</li>
</ul>
<em>Filling:</em><br />
<ul>
<li>4-6 oz. ground pork</li>
<li>1 tsp. salt</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. soy sauce</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. sesame oil</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. Chinese rice wine or dry sherry</li>
<li>2 tsp. fresh ginger, finely minced</li>
<li>1 clove garlic, finely minced</li>
<li>1 green onion, finely minced</li>
<li>1 1/2 cups spinach, finely shredded</li>
<li>4 Tbsp. water chestnuts, finely diced</li>
</ul>
<em>Dipping Sauce:</em><br />
<ul>
<li>2 Tbsp. soy sauce </li>
<li>1/2 Tbsp. rice vinegar</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. honey</li>
<li>1 tsp. sesame oil (optional) </li>
</ul>
<em>Directions:</em><br /><br />Make the dough first. Stir the salt into the flour. Slowly stir in the cold water, adding as much as is necessary to form a smooth dough. Knead the dough into a smooth ball. Cover and let the dough rest for 30 minutes.<br /><br />While the dough is resting, prepare the filling ingredients. Add the soy sauce, sesame oil, salt, and rice wine to the meat, stirring to combine the ingredients. Add the remaining ingredients and mix well.<br /><br />To make the dumplings: Uncover the dough and knead it into a smooth ball. Divide the dough into 25 pieces. Roll each piece out into a circle about 3 inches in diameter.<br /><br />Place 1 tablespoon of the filling into the middle of each wrapper. Wet the edges of the dumpling with water. Fold the dough over the filling into a half moon shape and pinch the edges to seal. Continue with the remainder of the dumplings.<br /><br />To cook, bring a large pot of water to a boil. Add the dumplings, giving them a gentle stir so they don't stick together. Bring the water to a boil and add 1 cup of cold water. Cover and repeat. When the dumplings come to a boil for a third time, they are ready. Drain and remove. Serve with dipping sauce.<br /><br />Make the dipping sauce by stirring together all ingredients in a small bowl. <br />Tip: Leftover dumplings can be warmed up by pan frying them in small amount of oil.<br /><br /><strong>Dan Dan Noodles</strong><br /><em><br />Ingredients:</em><strong> <img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/chinese_new_year_3.JPG" alt="" width="200" height="200" /><br /></strong>
<ul>
<li>1/2 lb. long-life noodles or 3 packages (3 oz.) Ramen noodles</li>
<li>1 lb. ground turkey or chicken</li>
<li>3 Tbsp. ginger, minced</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. garlic, minced</li>
<li>4 Tbsp. water chestnuts, diced</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. oil</li>
</ul>
<em>Peanut sauce:</em><br />
<ul>
<li>1/4 cup sherry</li>
<li>3/4 cup chicken broth</li>
<li>3 Tbsp. creamy peanut butter</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. soy sauce</li>
<li>1 tsp. sesame oil</li>
</ul>
<em>Directions: </em><br /><br />Make the peanut sauce by whisking together all ingredients. Set aside. <br /><br />Cook the noodles (according to package directions) in a large pot. Drain. <br /><br />In a large bowl, mix together turkey, ginger, garlic, and water chestnuts. Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add turkey mixture and flatten it out with a spatula. Cook until it begins to brown. Turn meat over and brown the other side. Turn heat down to medium and break meat is smaller chunks with a spatula. Stir in peanut sauce. Simmer until turkey is cooked through and sauce thickens. <br />Serve sauce over noodles. Sprinkle with sliced green onions as a colorful garnish.<br /><br /><strong>Chinese Restaurant-Style Green Beans</strong><br /><em><br />Ingredients: <img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/chinese_new_year_4.JPG" alt="" /></em><br />
<ul>
<li>1 Tbsp. soy sauce</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. brown sugar</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. water</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. butter</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. oil</li>
<li>1 Tbsp. garlic, minced</li>
<li>12 oz. green beans</li>
<li>4 oz. shiitake mushrooms, sliced</li>
</ul>
<em>Directions:</em><br /><br />Stir together soy sauce, brown sugar, and water in small dish and set near the stove.<br /><br />In a large straight-sided sauté pan or a wok, heat the butter and oil over medium-high heat. When the butter is melted, add the green beans and toss with tongs to coat them with the butter mixture. Cook, turning occasionally, until green beans are browned, shrunken, and tender, about 7-8 minutes.<br /> <br />Reduce heat to low and add mushrooms and garlic, stirring constantly for about a minute. Stir the soy mixture well, and pour it over the beans. Cook, stirring until the liquid reduces to a glazy consistency that coats the beans and mushrooms, about 1 minute. Serve. <br /><br /><strong>Chicken Lettuce Cups</strong><br /><br /><em>Ingredients:</em> <img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/chinese_new_year_5.JPG" alt="" width="200" height="200" /><br />
<ul>
<li>2 heads of butter or Boston lettuce</li>
<li>lb. boneless chicken thighs, minced</li>
<li>1 tsp. salt</li>
<li>2 tsp. cornstarch</li>
<li>7 Tbsp. cooking oil</li>
<li>2 tsp. ground ginger</li>
<li>2 garlic cloves, minced</li>
<li>2/3 cup bamboo shoots, diced</li>
<li>2/3 cup carrots, diced</li>
<li>4 Tbsp. soy sauce</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. rice wine or cooking sherry</li>
<li>2 Tbsp. rice vinegar</li>
</ul>
<br /><em>Garnishes:</em><br />
<ul>
<li>1/2 cup hoisin sauce</li>
<li>1/2 cup red pepper, thinly sliced</li>
<li>1/4 cup cilantro, chopped</li>
</ul>
<em>Directions: </em><br /><br />Break off and wash whole lettuce leaves. Arrange on a plate and place in the refrigerator to remain crisp.<br /><br />In a plastic bag, mix together chicken, salt, cornstarch, and 1 tablespoon cooking oil. Let the chicken mixture marinate for 15-30 minutes. <br /><br />Heat 4 tablespoons cooking oil in a wok over high heat. Add chicken and stir-fry for 2-3 minutes. Remove chicken from the wok. Add ginger and garlic to the wok. Then add bamboo shoots and carrots. Stir-fry for 2-3 minutes. Add chicken, soy sauce, rice wine, and vinegar. Stir-fry over high heat until liquid is absorbed. Place chicken mixture in a large bowl.<br /><br />To serve: Place bowl of chicken and cold, crisp lettuce leaves, hoisin sauce, and green onions on the table. Place one lettuce leaf on a plate and add a spoonful of chicken mixture in the middle of the lettuce leaf. Drizzle with hoisin sauce and sprinkle with red pepper and cilantro. Fold the lettuce leaves inward and eat with fingers.<br /><br />
<p><strong></strong><strong>About the author: </strong>Cheryl Tallman is the cofounder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of <em>So Easy Baby Food</em> and new book, <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>.<strong></strong> Visit Cheryl at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips.</p>
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2013-02-11T13:00:00Z
Six Big Reasons to Go Organic
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Six-Big-Reasons-to-Go-Organic/448856845559607675.html
2013-02-04T08:06:00Z
2013-02-04T08:06:00Z
<strong>Mary Jayne Rogers Ph.D.</strong><br /><br />Controversy arose earlier this year when Stanford University published a study which suggested that organic fruits and vegetables may not be as healthful as touted by the pro-organic community. Unfortunately, this received quite a bit of superficial publicity from the mainstream press. However, this is an extremely important topic, and it's worth taking a deeper look into the reasons why we need to go organic: for our families, our communities, and our global environment. Here are six BIG reasons to go organic:<br />
<blockquote>1. <strong>Toxicity to the Earth and water </strong>- Chemical fertilizers and pesticides harm our environment. These chemicals are known to cause cancer, birth defects, and neurological impairment. Bees, which we rely on in nature to pollinate crops and produce food, are becoming endangered possibly due to the widespread use of pesticides. (Bees travel from field to field and are unable to determine which crops are organic and which are "conventional.")<br /><br />2. <strong>Cruelty to animals</strong> - "Conventional" practices of raising animals for food involve not only feeding the animal food that is laden with pesticides and herbicides, but also hormones, antibiotics, and even arsenic. Animals are often maimed, tortured, and found wallowing in and ingesting feces.<br /><br />3. <strong>Toxicity to our bodies </strong>- The chemicals that we use in our food supply, our households, and in our communities are toxic to our bodies. The human body is an amazing and miraculous collection of systems and functions that work endlessly to keep us well. Over time, with continued bombardment of poisonous compounds, these systems start to fail. Risk of cancer, autoimmune disease, and neurological disorders increases with every exposure - every year, every day, every meal, every bite. Yes, every bite counts because it not only presents our bodies with pollutants that must be overcome, but it also contributes to and supports the "mainstream conventional culture."<br /><br />4. <strong>Expense</strong> - Yes expense. Organics do tend to cost a bit more. How can this be a reason to "go organic?" Companies and businesses that promote "conventional" food, cleaning supplies, pesticides, and fertilizer make their profits betting that people like you and me are more interested in saving money than saving ourselves and the environment. As businesses begin to realize that producing an organic product is what the consumer demands, more and more green companies will emerge and more "conventional" companies will see the wisdom in going green. When this happens, with the power of competition, prices will go down. <br /><br />5. <strong>Tastes Better</strong> - In studies that compared the taste of organic to "conventional" food, including fruit, vegetables, meat, and poultry, people consistently preferred the taste of organic food to "conventional" food.<br /><br />6. <strong>Karma</strong> - Whether you believe in karma or not, the fact is that when you choose organic food and products, you are doing good things for you, your family, and the planet. The result is a more vibrant, healthful world - both inside the body and out.</blockquote>
<br />Start now. If you are not currently choosing organic or green products, take a look around your home and in your kitchen to see where you can start. Perhaps you will begin by selecting one or two products that will make the greatest impact on you and your family. Once you begin to go green, you will find yourself becoming more mindful about the choices you make. Go organic - feel good.<br /><br />Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers is an exercise physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness, fitness education, and instruction. As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages. Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. <a href="http://www.doctormaryjayne.com" target="_blank">www.doctormaryjayne.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2013-02-04T08:06:00Z
Winter Door Checkup
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Winter-Door-Checkup/628720338712623519.html
2013-01-28T16:25:00Z
2013-01-28T16:25:00Z
<strong>By Mar Jennings</strong><br /><a href="http://www.marjennings.com" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a><br /><br />Happy New Year! So you ended the year with a fabulous door wreath - now what? As a designer, clients are always asking for advice on what to do to make their front door more stylish and inviting during the winter months. That said, removing your holiday wreath is always a good start. Keeping your holiday wreath up past this time should not be an option and/or a solution. You can do better than that. <br /><br />With no wreath in sight, we can focus on the basics elements of design and function, building on a foundation as well as taking care of the front door. Only then can we begin to focus on adding decorative items. <br /><br /><strong>First, here are the ground rules I refer to: </strong><br /><br />
<blockquote><em>Rule #1:</em> Pride in your home starts at the doorstep.<em><br /><br />Rule #2:</em> Take ownership, even if you're not the owner. You're paying good money to be there, and that gives you the right to make your recommendations to your landlord and/or apartment super.<br /><br /><em>Rule #3:</em> Little things make a big difference - so start small and build your confidence.</blockquote>
<br />So how's your door "score"? To make it easy to remember where you have an opportunity (or two), I've created this simple self-test. Give yourself an extra point for each item you can answer "yes" to:<br /><br />
<blockquote><strong>S = Safe and Secure </strong>Does the lock work? Can you see through the peephole? Is there enough light to clearly see any steps and/or walkway?<strong><br /><br />C = Color </strong>Although apartment owners or renters may not be able to change the part of the door that is seen from the hallway, is the paint chipped? Do you need to touch-up the paint and trim?<br /><br /><strong>O = Opens easily </strong>Have you had to jiggle the key more than 1 out of every 50 times? Have you ever worried you might need to give a hip-check to a swollen doorframe?<strong><br /><br />R = Ring my bell! </strong>Does your doorbell work? Can you hear it throughout the house? Is it still attached to the house? If it's a knocker, is it secured to the door, or does it need a little tightening?<br /><br /><strong>E = Every little detail counts around your entryway. </strong>A great knocker, a fabulous wreath or a clear number sign makes your door more inviting and noticeable.</blockquote>
<br />How did you do? If you're feeling a little shut-out (pun intended), here are some other details for which you can give yourself extra credit.<br /><br /><strong>Extra credit for homeowners: </strong>Show off the details (hardware, lighting fixtures, architectural styling, etc.). Flower containers, stone statues or other larger decorative accents offer a wonderful element of surprise. Work towards consistency for your home/apartment with your neighbors. Coordinate color maintenance and signage together. Pick a color; if your door lacks a welcome punch, consider a bright inviting color to welcome your guest from afar. Temperatures only need to be above 40 degrees to paint. <br /><br /><strong>Extra credit for apartment or condo dwellers:</strong> Owning a home is wonderful, but renting a home or apartment should not mean you have to sacrifice style and design. Adopt a local green space if you do not have your own. The entrance to your building can spill out onto the curb. Why not coordinate with your building and/or neighborhood to do some "green" good? A welcoming welcome mat can keep the dirt out of your home and can also be monogrammed for a sophisticated modern touch.<br /><br />Take ownership of your entrance as if you were looking at it for the very first time. What you experience may be shocking and inspire you to make a refreshing new change. Take advantage to upgrade and make new modern changes that will suit your changing home or apartment style.<br /><br />Once you have done your winter door checkup, it's time to hang something interesting. Your choices are endless as many off-price stores offer wonderful seasonal choices. I prefer using an all-natural Grapevine Wreath for its organic color and textures. In the early spring, I personalize it to reflect the blooms of the season. <br /><br />And there you have it.<br /><br />Mar Jennings is a TV Host, Lifestyle Expert and best-selling author of <em>Life On Mar's, A Four Season Garden</em>, an award-winning deluxe oversized coffee table book that chronicles the evolution of his Westport, Connecticut garden and how he planned it to provide visual interest and beauty through all four seasons. Discover more about the home and garden world of Mar Jennings at <a href="http://www.marjennings.com" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2013-01-28T16:25:00Z
Goodbye Leftovers - Hello Beautiful You
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Goodbye-Leftovers---Hello-Beautiful-You/588400516304255340.html
2013-01-28T16:20:00Z
2013-01-28T16:20:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br />Safe Beauty Expert<br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />Your refrigerator shrinks at the tail-end of the year. At least that's what it starts to feel like when you try to put away holiday leftovers, especially the sides and salads. This year why not think a little differently and glam it up at the same time? Here are 10 tips for reusing those leftovers to beautify you and your space: <br /><br /><strong>Cranberries</strong><br />
<blockquote>1. <em>Cranberry Hair Rinse:</em> Cranberries can add oomph and dimension to your auburn or chocolate locks. Mash up half cup of cranberries and mix in some lemon juice. Spread the mix over your hair and pop on a shower cap. Steam for 10-15 minutes and condition as usual. Alternately, a cranberry and water mixture can be boiled up like tea and put into a spray bottle once it's cooled. Spray through hair and go get some sun. While blondes have sun-in - brunettes and redheads now have this little trick!<br /><br />2. <em>Cranberry Skin Scrub:</em> Cranberries naturally help kill bacteria and are great for holiday stress-induced breakouts. Combine some berries with crushed almonds, milk, honey and a touch of flour to create a paste. Massage over dry skin to gently exfoliate and moisturize. Rinse with warm water and enjoy the glow. <br /><br />3. <em>Cranberry Lip Gloss:</em> Combine a tablespoon of sweet almond oil, 10 cranberries and a teaspoon of honey over a warm stove. Crush and stir the berries as they soften. Let the mix cool for five minutes before removing the berry chunks. Add the oil from one vitamin E capsule and voilà, gloss! </blockquote>
<br /><strong>Pumpkin</strong><br />
<blockquote>4. <em>Pumpkin Pie Body Butter:</em> Nobody is going to have any actual leftover pumpkin pie, but you can fake it by combining equal parts pureed pumpkin and coconut solids. A few drops of almond oil and a half teaspoon each of cinnamon and brown sugar finish off the mix. Spread onto skin (it's messy!) and massage gently. Let sit for 10 minutes and rinse. You'll smell heavenly for hours.<br /><br />5. <em>Pumpkin Décor:</em> Small pumpkins make great bowls. Use seasonal spices to fill, or try my recipe for <a href="http://pinterest.com/pin/392305817510042694/" target="_blank">potpourri</a>. You can also try a candle to create a floating decoration. Float them in a glass bowl or in your bath for a relaxing spa feel. Try this with apples or squash too!</blockquote>
<br /><strong>Potatoes</strong><br />
<blockquote>6. <em>Potato Foot Soak:</em> Take leftover mashed potatoes and mix well with warm water till thin. Soak feet for 20-30 minutes to help with dry skin, cracked heels and swelling. <br /><br />7. <em>Dark Circle Relief:</em> If you have raw potatoes on hand, grate one up into cheesecloth. 20 minutes on the eyes followed by a warm water rinse will have you looking rested and ready. Fig slices work also!</blockquote>
<br /><strong>Sweet Potatoes</strong><br />
<blockquote>8. <em>Sweet Potato Skin Mask:</em> Baked sweet potatoes can be mashed up and combined with oatmeal, sugar, sweet almond oil, honey, cinnamon and nutmeg in a blender. Once the consistency is creamy, spread the mix over your skin and rest for 5-10 minutes before thoroughly rinsing. This is another recipe that may leave you smelling like a delicious pie. <br /><br />9. <em>Puffy Tired Eye Relief:</em> Slices of raw sweet potato on the eyes for 20 minutes will help reduce puffiness. Try this with pumpkin, potato, squash and cucumbers too. </blockquote>
<br /><strong>Speaking of Cucumbers...</strong><br />
<blockquote>10. <em>Cucumber Everything!:</em> Go ahead and pick the little miracle workers off of that salad. When eaten, they've been shown to help aid digestion, promote hair growth, reduce cholesterol, help fight illness, treat tapeworm and even relieve arthritis and gout pain - but that's just scratching the green surface. Slices over the eyes can reduce puffiness. When rubbed on your nails, cucumber can help prevent splitting. Cucumber rubbed onto sunburns, bug bites or rashes can provide cooling relief. Mix with equal parts avocado and an egg white for a wonderful face mask. My website, <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.Com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.Com</a>, features recipes for cucumber astringents for oily skin, a refreshing toner featuring cucumber and rose water, and several others you can try at home.</blockquote>
<br />Say goodbye to all those leftovers and hello to a fabulous new you! <br /><br />Looking for more recipes, check out my <a href="http://Facebook.com/JustAskDavid" target="_blank">Facebook.com/JustAskDavid</a> or <a href="http://Pinterest.com/JustAskDavid" target="_blank">Pinterest.com/JustAskDavid<br /></a><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2013-01-28T16:20:00Z
Lance Armstrong's Fall Is a Timeless Tale
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Lance-Armstrongs-Fall-Is-a-Timeless-Tale/103143896771982604.html
2013-01-21T08:01:00Z
2013-01-21T08:01:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<br />The world's greatest storytellers allow us to better understand human beings and their complexities through fiction. Lance Armstrong's sad fall from grace since his admission of doping last week is a true story, but it could have just as easily been torn from the great writers' notebooks. Armstrong symbolizes what students in high school and college English classes learn to identify as a Tragic Hero, or a character in a story who seems to have everything on the outside - respect, fame, and perhaps money - but because of a single fatal flaw, brings about his or her own ruin. The Greeks wrote about this timeless theme; Shakespeare did too. In fact, no Shakespearean character could more strongly be linked to Lance Armstrong than Macbeth. In both instances, greed was their tragic flaw.<br /><br />Macbeth and Lance Armstrong were both heroes in their own right. Macbeth was a respected leader in King Duncan's Scottish army with a seemingly loving wife by his side. Lance Armstrong was a modern American icon. Diagnosed in his early 20s with Stage 3 testicular cancer, Armstrong not only beat cancer, but he went on to win the greatest cycling race in the world, the Tour de France, not just once, but seven consecutive times between 1999 and 2005. With his charisma and young family by his side, the whole world rooted for him. His charitable foundation, Livestrong, raised more than $500 million for cancer research.<br /><br />Yet, both men succumbed to the same tragic flaw - greed from their blind ambition. Macbeth and his wife weren't satisfied with the power they already held. They wouldn't stop until they ruled the kingdom and would go to any length to make this happen. Lady Macbeth coerced her husband to kill King Duncan, and then King Macbeth kept lying and killing in order to keep his new throne secure. His conscience finally caught up to him, though, and would ultimately be his prison. <br /><br />Armstrong's chief desire was to be the best in his sport of cycling, even if that meant cheating by taking banned performance-enhancing drugs. Armstrong may not have killed literally, but he bullied, sued, and killed the careers of innocent people, mostly friends and teammates, who had no other choice than to speak out. "I sued so many people, I can't even remember who I sued," he said last week in a tell-all with Oprah Winfrey, all the while knowing those people were telling the truth. There was no guilt at the time, he said, though. Instead Armstrong thought, "You're coming in on my territory. I'm gonna fight back." <br /><br />Armstrong was the admitted sole mastermind behind his deeds. It's come to light he began taking steroids even before his first Tour de France win in 1999 and continued to cheat in every one thereafter. When asked if he felt guilt during the years he doped, he said, "No." <br /><br />A tragic hero's downfall often ends in death, as it did with Macbeth. In Armstrong's case, he has lost everything - his Tour de France titles, sponsors, supporters, money, and respect. Now being accused of fraud, drug trafficking, witness tampering, and using banned substances, his punishment is still unknown. Still, he called his punishment of being forced to resign from the Livestrong Board of Directors "his lowest point," and being barred from competing in any sanctioned sports for the rest of his life "a death sentence."<br /> <br />When asked if he thinks these punishments are too severe, Armstrong said, "Yes." He didn't feel sorry then - he's only sorry he got caught. <br /><br />Tragic characters usually evoke sympathy. We saw Macbeth's desperation as his wife egged him on. And as mad as we are at Armstrong, it is sad to see what we thought of as one of the greatest American success stories was all just a sham.<br /><br />This is one of those times I miss teaching, especially teaching <em>Macbeth</em>. Still, it's a reminder that just as the great writers do for us in their works, we can highlight the light and dark sides of human nature to our kids by looking with them at books, but even more so, by looking with them at the world they live in today.<br /><br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2013-01-21T08:01:00Z
From Stop & Shop to Tabletop
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/From-Stop--Shop-to-Tabletop/996312702856568881.html
2013-01-14T15:00:00Z
2013-01-14T15:00:00Z
<strong>Mar Jennings</strong><br /><a href="http://http//www.marjennings.com/articles/garden-studio/terrarium-mar-velous-glass-garden" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a><br /><br />As a lifestyle expert and designer, I always find myself thinking outside the box and looking for inspiration and unexpected resources everywhere I go. This year - with a big focus on creativity and one stop shopping - I challenged myself not only to purchase everything I needed for a festive lunch and dinner, but to create a tablescape that also infuses the many resources of my local Stop & Shop grocery store. This shopping trip was like no other as I explored the aisles with a newfound mission: What can I do with <em>that</em> on my table? The cohesive creative design will surprise you. The result: a "crafty" table that doesn't look juvenile.<br /><br />Here is my grocery list and creative ideas by department:<br /><br /><strong>GENERAL MERCHANDISE:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Mason jars</strong> - The half-pint size serves as the perfect vessel for tea lights. </li>
<li><strong>Candles</strong> - Fabulous dripless candles are a staple and are perfect for many projects.</li>
<li><strong>Hallmark wrapping paper rolls</strong> - A wrapping paper made from good paper stock serves up great style as a runner; or if you wish, you can double it and use it as a tablecloth - either way, it's disposable. Use pinking scissors to cut roll to fit for a professional look. Have a tablecloth you love to use? Cut the paper into placemats; simply trace any mat you have, cut, and go.</li>
</ul>
<strong>GROCERY: </strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Lindt Lindor chocolate truffles</strong> - This is not the dessert course! I scatter these individually wrapped chocolates around my centerpiece. They are so pretty, reflect the candlelight, and can of course be nibbled on before dessert arrives. </li>
</ul>
<strong>HEALTH & BEAUTY:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Epsom salt</strong> - Perfect for creating a snowy effect on your table. Use as a base in a clear glass jar or snifter, and nestle tea lights or candles into it. </li>
</ul>
<strong>PRODUCE:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>Granny Smith apples</strong> - Cut off top third to create a flat surface, then use an ice cream scoop to remove the remaining core. The apple has now become a small vase for a festive flower arrangement. Use a rubber band to secure the bouquet stems together. Make multiple arrangements, enough for each guest to take home. </li>
<li><strong>Pears</strong> - Used as-is, they are a perfect fall décor detail that's also edible later. </li>
<li><strong>Dumpling squash</strong> - Another wonderful item to use as-is which ties in the scheme of the season. </li>
<li><strong>Large artichokes</strong> - Candlestick holders. Yes, that's right! Cut off across where the stem joins the flower to make a flat base. On opposite end, drill hole big enough for your candle to fit snugly. Don't want to drill? If candle is a traditional taper, insert a paring knife into flower and twist. s<strong>MAR</strong>t Tip: Do ahead of time and keep fresh in fridge; use more than once by refrigerating between uses too. </li>
<li><strong>Bag of walnuts</strong> - Another staple item that can easily be incorporated into a wonderful table or buffet design. Can be used as-is scattered on table. Can also be used to create napkin rings by drilling small holes to run wire through. s<strong>MAR</strong>t Tip: Drill side-to-side, avoiding the nut's natural seams.</li>
</ul>
<strong>FLORIST: </strong><br />
<ul>
<li><strong>A package of autumn leaves</strong> - When Mother Nature does not offer you a selection, your local grocery store does. Nothing represents autumn more than the powerful colors and textures of Mother Earth. By laying across and intertwining the leaves into your center focal point, not only will you build some height and interest but you'll be pulling the colors of the season right to your table. </li>
<li><strong>Flowers</strong> - Today's supermarkets offer huge flower departments that are filled with many ready-made arrangements. The designers that build these offer an easy alterative to those expensive flower shops. Their cut flower selection is also great; they are a weekly purchase in my home for this very reason. Plants and holiday bulbs are also available for longer lasting décor options. </li>
<li><strong>Cinnamon-scented pinecones</strong> - A creative place card holder alternative. If you try to slip a place card between the ridges, the card will look rippled and uneven. Instead, use a small handsaw to create a straight space. Place the cone on its side and saw the length of it - go about a 1/2 inch in. Insert a handwritten place card into the slice. </li>
</ul>
One stop shopping has never been so much fun. This season, wander your grocery store with an open mind, allowing the unexpected to speak to you. You'll be surprised just how resourceful you can be with your tabletop.<br /><br />And there you have it. <br /><br /><br /><strong>Mar's</strong> inventive and original blueprint for design infuses Mother Nature's colors and textures throughout the home and garden. Mar creates resourceful designs for a casual luxury lifestyle. As featured on HGTV, QVC, <em>The Today Show</em>, and in <em>The New York Times</em> and many other national media outlets. For more information visit <a href="http://http//www.marjennings.com/articles/garden-studio/terrarium-mar-velous-glass-garden" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com.</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2013-01-14T15:00:00Z
'The Hobbit' Is Still Incredible 75 Years Later
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Hobbit-Is-Still-Incredible-75-Years-Later/968885839089129988.html
2013-01-04T15:00:00Z
2013-01-04T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong> </strong><br />In a letter to his nephew, Frodo, hobbit Bilbo Baggins sits down on his 111th birthday to tell of the greatest adventure he ever had (also setting up the prequel to the <em>Lord of the Rings</em> trilogy). 60 years prior, Bilbo's ordinary, comfortable way of life was jarred once he reluctantly joined the wizard Gandalf and thirteen colorful dwarves on a quest to help them get back what rightfully belonged to them. <br /><br />In true odyssey form, the movie's different chapters leave the protagonists encountering one difficulty after another on their trek across Middle-earth, bringing to mind other classic, odyssey adventures like <em>The Wizard of Oz</em> or <em>The NeverEnding Story</em>. <br /><br />To see Tolkien's story brought to life by Peter Jackson on the big screen is nothing short of art. From the narration and music to the acting, visuals, and smart dialogue, everything is perfectly thought through. Kids will hear words like "necromancer" and be teased with brainy riddles. Because of this, I didn't mind the violence, which wasn't as bad as I expected.<br /><br />There are violent moments in the film, but except for one scene at the end, they are not gratuitous and they are few and far between. For that one scene, it would be easy to shield young kids' eyes. However, I'd leave kids under 9 at home, as they may be frightened by the trolls, Gollum, and the general fast pace.<br /><br />The different encounters the group of friends endures are amazing to see. From the giant eagles swooping down to carry them to safety to the wall of mountains that turn into Transformer-like creatures whose fighting sets off perilous avalanches, there is nothing lazy about this film. Why didn't I even notice that the film was nearly three hours? It whizzed by.<br /><br />The producers changed or embellished parts of the 1937 book by J.R.R. Tolkien a bit for the movie adaptation, but the essence of the original story, which centers on main character Bilbo Baggins's personal growth from simple homebody to confident adventurer, is the same. Bilbo remains the heart of the story, and witnessing how he grows from his good-natured, hobbit ways but never sells out on his values is still as current a theme as ever. It's the reason why <em>The Hobbit</em> has been a beloved story for 75 years.<br /><br />Running Time: 2 hours, 49 minutes<br /><br />4/4 stars<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2013-01-04T15:00:00Z
The Best to Worst Kids' Movies of 2012
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Best-to-Worst-Kids-Movies-of-2012/-373493116415787716.html
2013-01-03T15:00:00Z
2013-01-03T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong> </strong><br />It's hard to compare movies aimed toward older kids to ones that are made for the under-7 crowd. Still, in 2012 there were a few movies that had such strong stories that they are sure to be remembered as classics suited for the whole family. Only G, PG and PG-13 movies were considered. Movies were ranked lower for sexual content and violence and higher for having strong messages for kids and/or leading characters who served as role models. Some were ranked lower because they are only suited for older children. Click on each movie title for a more detailed review.<br /> <br /><strong>#1 <a href="/b/Pi-Is-a-Movie-with-It-All,-Arguably-Best-of-the-Year/-747045702554337258.html" target="_blank">Life of Pi </a></strong><br /><br />The great coming-of-age classics like <em>The Black Stallion</em> and <em>The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn</em> come to mind. A boy's adventures teach him about life and its big questions too. There is one shipwreck scene and animals turning on each other for survival that could scare the very young. <br /> <br /><strong>#2 <a href="/b/A-Tale-of-2-Animal-Movies:-War-Horse-and-We-Bought-a-Zoo/114300622174178893.html" target="_blank">War Horse </a></strong><br /><br />The various young people who own Joey in the early 20th century may face poverty, loneliness or disease, yet the horse is there to uplift them. This film came out on Christmas Day, 2011, but wasn't seen by many until 2012.<br /> <br /><strong>#3 <a href="/b/Let-The-Lorax-Be-Your-Guide/798717445085316423.html" target="_blank">The Lorax </a></strong><br /><br />There are timeless environmental themes, but also lessons about greed, making amends, and teamwork that won't be lost on kids older than 6.<br /> <br /><strong>#4 <a href="/b/The-Hobbit-Is-Still-Incredible-75-Years-Later/968885839089129988.html" target="_blank">The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey </a></strong><br /><br />The film may differ from the 1937 classic children's book by J.R.R. Tolkien, but the essence of both versions, chiefly Bilbo's physical and even more important personal odyssey as he grows from a simple homebody to a confident adventurer, are the same. This movie is more violent than the book, but the violence isn't often or gratuitous, except for one scene at the very end (during which it would be easy to have young children look away).<br /> <br /><strong>#5 <a href="/b/Dog-Days-Respectably-Captures-Middle-School-Angst/-120991352938615700.html" target="_blank">Diary of a Wimpy Kid: Dog Days </a></strong><br /><br />Greg is a mini Ferris Bueller - and just like Ferris went out of his way to innocently trick authority, the kind of excitement Greg seeks is pretty mundane, while still capturing the middle school angst many tweens and teens feel today.<br /> <br /><strong>#6 Ice Age 4: Continental Drift </strong><br /><br />Kids 6 and older will see that not even a seismic shift has to separate us from the ones we love. The main character played by Ray Romano is a strong leader of his family, seldom seen in movies and television today.<br /> <br /><strong>#7 <a href="/b/Journey-2-Will-Have-Older-Kids-Running-to-the-Library/-869288121046071302.html" target="_blank">Journey 2: The Mysterious Island </a></strong><a href="/b/Journey-2-Will-Have-Older-Kids-Running-to-the-Library/-869288121046071302.html" target="_blank"></a><br /><br /><em>Treasure Island</em>, <em>Gulliver's Travels</em>, and ancient stories about the Nautilus and the lost city of Atlantis are decoded for kids over 8. I was tickled to get home and see many of those books all checked out of the library.<br /> <br /><strong>#8 <a href="/b/A-Slow-Start,-But-Ultimately-Lots-of-Heart-in-Madagascar-3/608469309101288229.html" target="_blank">Madagascar 3: Europe's Most Wanted </a></strong><a href="/b/A-Slow-Start,-But-Ultimately-Lots-of-Heart-in-Madagascar-3/608469309101288229.html" target="_blank"></a><br /><br />The story becomes interesting once the crew collects themselves to help their new friends revitalize a has-been European circus. Because of mature dialogue, some violence, and quick action sequences, this film earns its PG rating and isn't for kids under 6.<br /> <br /><strong>#9 <a href="/b/Hotel-Transylvania-and-Wont-Back-Down-Make-Strong-Impacts/-61120714040573745.html" target="_blank">Hotel Transylvania </a></strong><br /><br />After more than a century of running a thriving hotel, single dad, Dracula, plans his daughter's 118th coming-of-age party while going to great lengths to keep her his dependent, baby girl. I'd hold off on showing kids younger than 8 this movie though because it can be frightening in several different parts. <br /> <br /><strong>#10 <a href="/b/Sherlock-Holmes:-A-Game-of-Shadows-Shows-Brains-Are-Our-Best-Asset/787902851319149407.html" target="_blank">Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows </a></strong><br /><br />I think teens and young adults today just may pick up some Sir Arthur Conan Doyle after seeing <em>A Game of Shadows</em>. The formula he mastered over 100 years ago in his books is still just as fun and relevant today. This movie came out at the very end of 2011, garnering a place on our 2012 list.<br /> <br /><strong>#11 <a href="/b/Hotel-Transylvania-and-Wont-Back-Down-Make-Strong-Impacts/-61120714040573745.html" target="_blank">Won't Back Down </a></strong><br /><br />It is the behemoth of bureaucracy that is the enemy in the film and in real life too - tons of red tape is what keeps many concerned citizens quiet about their neighborhood schools. This film is a reminder that we can all take action, and high-school aged kids can join in the conversation after watching it.<br /> <br /><strong>#12 <a href="/b/Wreck-It-Ralph-Is-Old,-Tries-Not-to-Be-Tired/-646598420821789033.html" target="_blank">Wreck-It Ralph </a></strong><br /><br />I appreciated seeing old friends like Pac-Man and Frogger on the screen more than my young, 21st Century, Mario Bros.-loving sons did. The only reason viewers with kids over 7 should flock to the theater to see <em>Wreck-It Ralph</em> is for the visuals.<br /> <br /><strong>#13 <a href="/b/Two-Young-People,-Two-Very-Different-Lives-in-Timothy-Green-and-Sparkle/247225619023109155.html" target="_blank">The Odd Life of Timothy Green </a></strong><br /><br />This movie is sweet, but not as magical or nearly as funny as <em>E.T. </em><br /> <br /><strong>#14 <a href="/b/Frankenweenie-Pays-Homage-to-Classic-Horror/158172711521800739.html" target="_blank">Frankenweenie </a></strong><br /><br />As is typical with Tim Burton films, this movie is dark. In fact, it's really scary for kids under 10. For older children, the ethics of science can be discussed after viewing it, and for parents who'd like to take the learning opportunities even further, I suggest reading Mary Shelley's <em>Frankenstein</em> aloud with your child before or after watching <em>Frankenweenie</em> and enjoy comparing and contrasting the two stories.<br /> <br /><strong>#15 <a href="/b/The-Pirates!-Band-of-Misfits-Now-Out-on-DVD/-92524700532673028.html" target="_blank">The Pirates! Band of Misfits </a></strong><br /><br />Mostly just a silly film - think the <em>Airplane</em> movies with pirates. However, the one-liners aren't nearly as funny as the ones in <em>Airplane</em>.<br /> <br /><strong>#16 <a href="/b/We-See-Too-Much-of-Katy-Perry-in-Part-of-Me/-723576206411389402.html" target="_blank">Katy Perry: Part of Me </a></strong><br /><br />In the first five minutes of the movie, Katy is trying on various costumes when she yelps, "This one makes my ass look like Nicki Minaj!" The enhancement of her chest in many costumes and the performances to songs with lyrics like "I wanna see your peacock!" are just too suggestive for the bubblegum pop audience it tries to reach.<br /> <br /><strong>#17 <a href="/b/Two-Young-People,-Two-Very-Different-Lives-in-Timothy-Green-and-Sparkle/247225619023109155.html" target="_blank">Sparkle </a></strong><br /><br />The PG-13 rating comes with escalating heavy material that shouldn't be seen by younger children. While the beginning of <em>Sparkle</em> is tame, there are eventually scenes showing drug use and domestic violence. The scenes with drug use aren't glorified, but shown in the light of how talented people can so easily waste their dreams.<br /> <br /><strong>#18 <a href="/b/Latest-Snow-White-is-More-Grimm-than-Disney/95566918648023962.html" target="_blank">Snow White and the Huntsman </a></strong><br /><br />Though more Grimm than Disney, the original choices which enhance this classic story are smart.<br /> <br /><strong>#19 <a href="/b/Twilight:-Breaking-Dawn--Part-2-Is-The-Ultimate-Soap-Opera/31089769156848588.html" target="_blank">Twilight: Breaking Dawn - Part 2 </a></strong><br /><br />Self-control is a theme that runs throughout the film, perfectly aimed at its teen fan base. Not meant for younger kids.<br /> <br /><strong>#20 <a href="/b/The-Hunger-Games-will-Satisfy-Teens,-But-Leave-Younger-Kids-Home/409433657799002797.html" target="_blank">The Hunger Games </a></strong><br /><br />Satisfying to teens, but since young kids won't relate to the strong feelings of angst, I'd hold off on exposing them to this violent film, which is much more so than the book.<br /> <br /><strong>#21 The Avengers </strong><br /><br />Superhero lovers will be pleased, but with too many characters to keep track of, it's also much too violent for kids under 10.<br /> <br /><strong>#22 <a href="/b/For-Kids-Who-Still-Believe,-Rise-of-the-Guardians-Spoils-the-Wonder/-783099807215558082.html" target="_blank">Rise of the Guardians </a></strong><br /><br />As we left the theater, the first thing my 6-year-old asked was, "Is Santa Claus real?" It spoils the wonder for kids who still believe.<br /> <br /><strong>#23 <a href="/b/A-Tale-of-2-Animal-Movies:-War-Horse-and-We-Bought-a-Zoo/114300622174178893.html" target="_blank">We Bought a Zoo </a></strong><br /><br />The rare visits with the zoo animals aren't spotlighted enough. The title makes you think it's a lighthearted kids' film, but it's really a depressing yawner.<br /> <br /><strong>#24 <a href="/b/Mirror-Mirror-Tries-to-Be-Fresh,-But-Falls-Flat/758584061893569758.html" target="_blank">Mirror Mirror </a></strong><br /><br />In this cynical retelling of the classic fairytale, home-cooked meals aren't enough to endear Snow White to the Seven Dwarfs' or garner her a permanent seat at their table. The little men with names like Chuck, Wolf and Grub tell her, "To live with us, you'll have to be a thief like us," setting up scenes that go on far too long.<br /> <br /><strong>#25 <a href="/b/Brave-Proves-Its-Anti-Princess-By-Being-Anti-Boy/394559796709012344.html" target="_blank">Brave</a> </strong><br /><br />I expected <em>Brave</em> to be a tough, girl-power film, and it is. It also proves that princess movies don't need to have lots of pink or even (for the first time) a romantic love story. What I didn't expect was for <em>Brave </em>to go so far as to be anti-male and anti-marriage to push its message.<br /> <br /><strong>#26 <a href="/b/No-Need-for-Anyone-Under-25-to-See-Rock-of-Ages/-117107911216583720.html" target="_blank">Rock of Ages </a></strong><br /><br />If it weren't for the great soundtrack and fresh twist on the songs, I wouldn't recommend this movie at all. It's PG-13, but it should have an R rating. There are multiple graphic sex scenes and several more scenes set to pole dancing in strip clubs.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2013-01-03T15:00:00Z
The Day After Christmas: Five Ways to Handle the Biggest Downer of the Year
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Day-After-Christmas:-Five-Ways-to-Handle-the-Biggest-Downer-of-the-Year/-249810519099547120.html
2012-12-17T15:00:00Z
2012-12-17T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Harry H. Harrison Jr.</strong><br /><a href="http://www.fearlessparenting.com" target="_blank">www.fearlessparenting.com</a></p>
<br />The presents are all open. The living room is a wreck. The new trike is on its side in the hall. The tree is dropping pine needles on the wrapping that hasn't been picked up. Two toys are already broken. Dad's sweater is too scratchy. You've come to grips with the fact that your MasterCard bill totals four house payments. Your oldest daughter likes none of her new clothes. The whole family is exhausted and depressed, and seemingly, there's no reason to be happy for another 364 days.<br /><br />But we can change that. Right now. Here's how you can make December 26 as wonderful a day as December 25.<br /><br /><strong>1. Don't focus on the importance of your kids <em>getting stuff</em> for Christmas. </strong>Not that we should kill off Santa Claus, and not that some wonderful presents shouldn't be exchanged. But we now live in a culture where on Black Friday, 247 million of us raced to the stores and malls - sometimes just to stand in line at 2 a.m. or go online at 2 a.m. - to buy stuff. That's more people than actually celebrate Christmas. This emphasis on getting stuff means, in many households, that parents are just order takers presented with a checklist of stuff kids want. There's no room for surprises. The importance of Christmas is measured in the getting, not in the mystery of God coming to Earth as a baby. Rather than a "buy me this" list, we need to focus the family's attention on a "what we can do" list for each other. And not for one day, but for a whole year. Dad could focus on cooking dinner for two days a week, so Mom can take those nights off. A big brother might focus on teaching his little brother how to hit a baseball. A daughter might focus on teaching her dad how to dance. By focusing on what we can "do" for each other as Christmas presents, Christmas can come and go, but we will be as happy in July as we were on Christmas day. <br /><br /><strong>2. Wake up on December 26 owing nothing.</strong> Seriously, either pay cash for gifts or buy something cheaper. Even if your kids can't live without a certain toy, even if your spouse has his or her heart set on fancy German speakers - no matter what, if you have to charge it to buy it, leave it on the shelf. We have created an economy that depends on people buying stuff they can't afford, mainly at Christmas, and therefore, most people in the country wake up on December 26 in bad moods knowing how screwed they are. And because they make the minimum monthly payment, they can go on the same ridiculous buying spree the following year, never mind that nobody will remember what they're still paying for. <br /><br /><strong>3. Wake up on December 26 to a day-after-Christmas tradition.</strong> I don't mean showing up at 2 a.m. for the half-price sales at the mall with the same crazies that went berserk the day after Thanksgiving. That isn't a tradition - it's a reason to up your medication. I'm talking about fun things that can become traditions, like day-after-Christmas French toast for breakfast when diets are tossed aside, or skiing a particular mountain as a family every year, or a family touch football game. Give the family a reason to look forward to the day after Christmas, and they will.<br /><br /><strong>4. Wake up on December 26 to return unwanted stuff to the shelters, not to the stores. </strong> A sweater that doesn't fit, a coat that's the wrong color, jeans that are the wrong brand - there's a lot more satisfaction putting those things in the hands of people who need them rather than racing to the mall and standing in line to trade stuff for other stuff. If giving to the shelters every December 26 becomes a family tradition, trust me, it will be a more loved tradition than opening presents on Christmas day.<br /><br /><strong>5. Wake up on December 26 to a long family walk, four to six miles long, with the entire family.</strong> Getting out of the house, away from the tree that needs packing up, away from the presents piled up in the living room, and away from the food clogging up the fridge is a terrific way to burn off frustration, calories and bad moods all at the same time. The only rule is that the whole family goes. Set a goal of four to six miles so that the walk takes over two hours. Stop along the way and rest. If it's cold, stop at a place for hot tea. Let your kids play in the snow in the park. Let your teenager listen to her iPod for five miles. It doesn't matter: everybody goes, everybody walks, everybody returns home too tired to complain. And happy. <br /><br />The main thing to remember is this: Christmas is just another 24-hour day that people attach importance to usually for the wrong reasons. But we can love each other, be kind to one another, and laugh together as families the whole year long. And that's just about the greatest Christmas gift you can give.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Harry H. Harrison Jr.</strong> is a <em>New York Times</em> best-selling parenting author with over 3.7 million books in print. He has been interviewed on over 25 television programs, and featured in over 75 local and national radio stations including NPR. His books are available in over thirty-five countries throughout Western Europe, Eastern Europe, Norway, South America, China, Saudi Arabia and in the Far East. For more information visit <a href="http://www.fearlessparenting.com">www.fearlessparenting.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-12-17T15:00:00Z
Tips for Unique Christmas Gifts
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Tips-for-Unique-Christmas-Gifts/4543596532563326.html
2012-12-10T15:00:00Z
2012-12-10T15:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />Is it just me or does it get more and more difficult every year to find those special gifts that stand apart from the traditional mall fodder as unique or original? <br /><br />A candle - even for a candle lover - seems predictable, overdone and just plain blah after so many seasons of giving. The same can be said for bath sets, food baskets, calendars, etc. For many of us, the decision to "keep it modest this year" means that we find ourselves giving and receiving the same sorts of things over and over again, even when those items aren't even on someone's list. Why not break the pattern and try something original this year with these holiday gift giving tips and tricks?<br /><br /><strong><em>A DIY Beauty Gift Basket or "Beauty Cocktail"</em></strong><br />Why not make some homemade beauty recipes online, purchase the ingredients, package and label them in jars or containers that can be reused, and present them along with the recipe cards in a bath or shower basket? For a smaller stocking stuffer-type gift, you could also make "beauty cocktails" by putting the finished recipe in inexpensive wine or cocktail glasses, painting or writing the recipe with permanent markers on the glass, and then decorating it with a fun design. Most craft stores carry stocking stuffer-sized treat or apothecary-style jars as well as all the bits and baubles you will need to personalize to your heart's content. Pinterest is a great source for crafty DIY projects. Check out <a href="http://pinterest.com/justaskdavid/" target="_blank">pinterest.com/justaskdavid</a> for some great DIY beauty recipes. <br /><br /><strong><em>Use Reusable Grocery Bags in Place of Gift Bags</em></strong><br />Reusable grocery bags are inexpensive ($.99 at many local supermarkets), come in various sizes, and now feature a variety of patterns and colors that change seasonally. Instead of using a traditional gift bag that will just be discarded or stored after the gift is opened, package gifts in environmentally friendly reusable gift bags that can be used throughout the year. <br /><br /><em><strong>Give Someone the Gift of Youth...Literally</strong></em><br />Everyone loves beauty and skin care products. Here's a creative idea that will take them back to their childhood days - and they'll love you for it. Package a favorite moisturizer, anti-aging serum, and/or eye cream in a lunchbox with a throwback logo or design and include a childhood candy, toy, game, T-shirt or pair of socks that features pop icons from his or her childhood days. These days, it's easy to find superheroes, 80's video game characters, and popular cartoon characters on merchandise at many big box stores. Amazon, eBay, and even vintage stores are also great resources for finding such items. A quick Internet search for your local comic shop may lead to a treasure trove of nostalgia for you. My local shop is like a wonderland. Aside from the modern comics and cartoons, the place is stocked to the brim with items featuring the ThunderCats, Ghostbusters, Mario Bros., Jem and the Holograms, and even She-Ra! Tuck a card inside the case or lunchbox that discloses the theme of the gift "forever young." <br /><br /><em><strong>Have a Christmas Crafting Party!</strong></em><br />Invite your friends to bring enough supplies and instructions for a craft they'd love to distribute to everyone at the party. Then spend the day crafting away. When you're done, you'll have a variety of interesting and, more importantly, original gifts and stocking stuffers. If one of your friends has a certain craft forte that you don't or vice versa, you can each make your specialty project for one another and then exchange them at the end of the day. If your friends aren't the crafty type, you can search for local artists and craft festivals online; many of the artists will happily do custom work or teach their craft, and it's a great way to expand your social circle. <br /><br />All of these ideas will put a fresh spin on your gifts and make your gift original enough to stand out among standard holiday gift giving fare! <br /><br />Share this article with friends by clicking the links above or posting a link on your Facebook page.<br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-12-10T15:00:00Z
'Pi' Is a Movie with It All, Arguably Best of the Year
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Pi-Is-a-Movie-with-It-All,-Arguably-Best-of-the-Year/-747045702554337258.html
2012-12-03T15:00:00Z
2012-12-03T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong> </strong><br />Why is it that fresh, smart story lines have taken a backseat to visual gymnastics in kids' movies lately? The bigger the budget, the more tricks we see, but this often means less in the way of character and plot development. That is until <em>Life of Pi</em>, the new film based on the 2001 novel by Yann Martel. It does have modern special effects, but "Pi" also has a story line that soars, making it one of the best kids' movies (or any movie for that matter) of this year.<br /> <br />The movie begins with a grown man, Pi Patel, narrating his life story to an author, promising that his saga will "make anyone believe in God." Pi takes us back to years before, during a voyage across the Pacific to a better life with his family, when a monster storm orphaned Pi at sea. Marooned with only the caustic Bengal tiger from his family's cargo-packed zoo, we see that Pi's obstacles are just as much an odyssey of the mind as they are the physical feats of being lost at sea for 277 days.<br /> <br />The great coming-of-age classics <em>The Black Stallion</em>, <em>The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn</em>, and<em> E.T.</em> come to mind while watching this film. It's about a boy whose adventures teach him about life and its big questions. <br /> <br />Children 7 and older will identify with Pi as a regular kid, but his compassion, commitment, and honor make him a role model, too. There are many themes that can be discussed with kids, but faith and the importance of saying goodbye come first to mind. There are also snapshots of Indian culture during the first chunk of the film that kids would benefit from seeing.<br /> <br />The movie is rated PG for some intense scenes, like the shipwreck and when the animals turn on one another for survival.<br /> <br />I recommend this movie for all kids over 7 with parental supervision.<br /> <br />Rated PG<br /><br />Running Time: 2 hours 5 min.<br /><br />4/4 stars<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-12-03T15:00:00Z
For Kids Who Still Believe, 'Rise of the Guardians' Spoils the Wonder
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/For-Kids-Who-Still-Believe,-Rise-of-the-Guardians-Spoils-the-Wonder/-783099807215558082.html
2012-11-26T15:00:00Z
2012-11-26T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong> </strong><br />"Christmas will never be as magical until you have children of your own," my mother told me sadly after I declared there was no such thing as Santa Claus. When another little girl spilled the news to me at school, first putting any doubt in my head, I quickly lumped the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy in with Santa. <br /><br />My mom was right. Three of my four children still faithfully believe in these guardians of childhood, as they are also positioned in the new DreamWorks film <em>Rise of the Guardians</em>. Unfortunately, as much as the film is imaginative, it also raises doubts for kids who still believe. As we left the theater, the first thing my 6-year-old asked was, "Is Santa Claus real?"<br /><br />Santa Claus summons the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, Sandman (keeper of dreams), and Jack Frost to the North Pole with an important mission. The Boogeyman (aka the keeper of nightmares) is threatening to destroy little boys' and girls' beliefs in them, therefore dashing all that these characters symbolize. "It is our job to watch the children of the world and keep them safe, but the children are in danger," Santa says, setting off a mission where the five legends work together to keep children across the globe still believing.<br /><br />The effects are wonderful in the film, and the imagination is fun, especially when the guardians show where they live and how they do their work - e.g. How does Santa coordinate all those good little boy and girl wish lists? How does the Easter Bunny color all those eggs? Where does the Tooth Fairy keep all those teeth, and why is her role important? Is Jack Frost really as bad as he's made out to be? <br /><br />For imagination, much of the movie soars. However, as my 4-year-old said, "I liked the beginning and the end, but not the middle," because much of the middle is a fight between good and evil. My 6-year-old said, "I didn't really understand it." She did understand enough, though, to ask me for the first time if Santa is real.<br /><br />Except for the Sandman and the Tooth Fairy, the other guardians are cynical and reminiscent of the characters in last year's <a href="http://kidfocused.com/arthur-christmas-is-too-cynical/" target="_blank"><em>Arthur Christmas</em> (see Kid Focused review).</a> Santa is a sword-wielding, reindeer-whipping, tattoo-covered, tough guy. No pink cheeks or jubilant "ho-ho-hos." The Easter Bunny isn't cute and cuddly, but demeaning and always looking for a fight until the guardians finally begin working together.<br /><br />The film is rated PG for its fast-paced, mild violence, and for frequent loud and scary music. There are also several scenes with the Boogeyman and his nightmares that will frighten most young children.<br /> <br />Unless your children are beyond the age of innocence and wonder, don't risk it by taking them to see <em>Rise of the Guardians</em>. <br /><br />Running Time: 1 hour 37 minutes<br /><br />Starring: Alec Baldwin, Hugh Jackman<br /><br />2/4 stars<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-11-26T15:00:00Z
'Twilight: Breaking Dawn- Part 2' Is The Ultimate Soap Opera
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Twilight:-Breaking-Dawn--Part-2-Is-The-Ultimate-Soap-Opera/31089769156848588.html
2012-11-19T16:03:00Z
2012-11-19T16:03:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
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<p>Beauty, danger, supernatural forces and, yes, ripped abs aplenty abound in the final movie installment of the "Twilight" saga. Heroine Bella Swan wakes from her human-to-vampire transformation after also giving birth to her first child with new husband, Edward. Though Bella enjoys the strength and speed she now possesses, she must also learn to temper her physical and emotional desires. Self-control is a theme that runs throughout the film, perfectly aimed at its teen fan base.</p>
<p>The larger conflict is that Edward and Bella's baby is half mortal and half immortal, a rarity that brings rival vampires, the Volturi, sniffing for answers, but mostly looking to satiate their thirst for human blood.</p>
<p>Diehard fans (aka Twihards) won't stay away from this movie no matter what any critic says. Nevertheless, the characters are flat and the plot is simple. <br />Anyone between 13 and 21 will swoon for the sappy sentiments and will cheer on the tough, mostly female, leading characters. For viewers jumping in for the first time, it helps to know the previous stories leading up to <em>Breaking Dawn Part 2</em>, but like any soap opera, it's possible to quickly pick all the story lines up.</p>
<p>The film is rated PG-13 for sex and violence. In one steamy sex scene newlyweds Edward and Bella consummate her new life as a vampire in characteristic soap opera fashion. The violence builds throughout. Vampires in the "Twilight" world can only die if their heads are ripped off and doused in flames, which there is plenty of in this movie. </p>
<p>I do wish parents would take movie ratings to heart. There were many young children and even babies at the show I went to. As of this writing, mothers continue to post Facebook pictures of their barely double digit-aged daughters camped out at the weekend's midnight premiere.</p>
<p>In the end, kids under 13 really should be kept from seeing this movie.</p>
<p>Running Time: 1 hour 56 minutes<br />Starring: Kristen Stewart, Robert Pattinson, Taylor Lautner<br />2/4 Stars</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2012-11-19T16:03:00Z
Rules for Choosing Evening Jewelry
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Rules-for-Choosing-Evening-Jewelry/537203621237774793.html
2012-11-09T15:00:00Z
2012-11-09T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Amandine Fontaine</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank"></a></strong></p>
Wearing the right jewelry for the outfit is a bit like pairing food and wine - it's an art, and sometimes, hard and fast "rules" will only get you so far. But that's not to say there aren't any rules to talk about. After all, we all know when someone has worn the <em>wrong</em> thing with a particular dress or outfit. So by the very nature that there is a <em>wrong</em> thing, there must be a<em> right</em> thing - and therefore, at least a few rules that we can definitively discuss when it comes to pairing clothes and jewelry. <br /><br />Going big with jewelry is a risky choice - after all, everyone will be sure to notice and comment on your jewelry selection (if not to you, then to each other, or their spouse or friends afterwards) - but it can pay huge dividends. There are two things you want to keep in mind when wearing a flashy piece of jewelry. First, go with only one piece. If it's a necklace - which is the most likely choice for a flashy jewelry centerpiece - make sure you ditch the other bling. Also, if your necklace is particularly attention-grabbing, stick with a simple dress or outfit. For best results, go with a solid-colored, or mostly solid-colored, dress. <br /><br />The jury is still out on mixed metals - some say there's no problem going with a silver bracelet and gold necklace, and for a more fashion-forward, progressive look, that's undoubtedly true. But if you're in a conservative environment - a business meeting, work dinner or formal occasion with an older, more conservative crowd - match your metals, keeping like with like, to stay on the safe side and give yourself a classic and classy look for that all-important formal event or party. <br /><br />Unfortunately, like clothes, jewelry must also take into account your shape and age. For example, older women should avoid chokers and look for longer necklaces that draw attention away from the neck area. Alternatively, if you have a bony neck and chest, consider a multiple-strand necklace, with the shortest strand hugging the base of your neck. A wide neck can be offset by wearing graduated necklaces. <br /><br />There are four main necklace lengths - chokers (14 to 16 inches long), "princess-length necklaces" (17 to 19 inches long), "matinee-length necklaces" (20 to 24 inches long), and "opera-length necklaces" (28 to 34 inches long). A princess-length necklace is the most common and versatile, and looks good with most necklines save very high ones. A matinee-length necklace hits the top of the bust, and because of that, it's a major "no-no" to wear this type of necklace with a plunging neckline, as it makes for a confused look. Opera-length necklaces fall below the bust and look stylish with a high or plunging neckline (think of the 1920s flapper, and in keeping with that image, you can also double or triple up the necklace to further accentuate the classic style from the past). However, women with amble bosoms may wish to avoid this length or to knot the necklace at bosom height to avoid that awkward moment when you find your necklace has caught on your chest.<br /><br />Of course, the most important rule is that you wear what you wear with confidence. If you feel good in your jewelry and feel good about yourself, there's a good chance that those around you will feel the exact same way.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Amandine Fontaine</strong> (<a href="http://www.tesco.com/direct/gifts-jewellery/jewellery/cat3376531.cat" target="_blank">http://www.tesco.com</a>) is a French-born, well-traveled, now full-time mom of two girls. Amandine loves to share her experiences of raising Aurore and Philip and sharing tips with other moms. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2012-11-09T15:00:00Z
'Wreck-It Ralph' Is Old, Tries Not to Be Tired
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2012-11-05T15:00:00Z
2012-11-05T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong></strong><br />My 8 and 10-year-old sons enjoy playing "Mario Brothers" and "Madden Football" on the Wii every chance they get, as do most of their friends. So with a video game movie like<em> Wreck-It Ralph</em> out, I knew exactly which two people I'd take to see it. Unfortunately, even with a so-so plot (which is somewhat redeemed by the stunning visuals), many of the references are intended for Generation X viewers, leaving kids today left in the dark.<br /><br />How many kids still go to arcades regularly? The stage is set in one, where for 30 long years the protagonist, Ralph, has lived dutifully inside <em>Fix-It Felix</em>, playing the archetypal video game bad guy. He wrecks everything in sight so that Felix can mend even the biggest mess with his golden hammer. On-screen and off, Felix is the hero of the specific world they share, and Ralph has grown tired of always being the oafish bad guy nobody wants around. Ralph believes if he earns a hero's medal from a neighboring game he will change the <em>Fix-It Felix </em>community's impression of him as a villain.<br /><br />Although it's set in an alternate, video game world, I still had to suspend belief on an even more basic level. It's not believable that the arcade game <em>Fix-It Felix</em> is at risk of having its plug pulled forever because Ralph is visiting other games and isn't there to do his wrecking job, leaving his home dangerously out of order. In three years, the game has never been out of order before? No one has ever said a kind word to Ralph? He may be a bumbling, clumsy guy, but a villain? And why would he go to such lengths to get a medal that he has to tell lies to get? Why is there no mention of the way kids play video games today, either on computers or television screens? Instead, we see human children interacting with technology only through a two-way arcade game window. The last 20 years of technology have been completely left out.<br /><br />The special effects are the best part of <em>Wreck-It Ralph</em>. When Ralph enters different arcade games like <em>Hero's Duty</em> (a welcome nod to the current "Call of Duty" games), each game's thematic world is captured. In <em>Hero's Duty</em>, rock music and dark colors set the intense mood. In the game <em>Sugar Rush</em>, which is a cross between <em>Candy Land</em> and <em>Mario Kart</em>, Oreo cookie guards chant "O-RE-O" to the marching tune "O-E-O," and Laffy Taffy makes a sweet cameo. The audience is hungry at times like this for anything current, and that is what gets the most laughs.<br /><br />But there isn't enough of this kind of familiarity.<br /><br />I appreciated seeing old friends like Pac-Man and Frogger on the screen more than my young, 21st Century, Mario Brother-loving sons did. Apparently steep copyright fees excluded the modern, well-known characters kids today enjoy. Therefore, <em>Wreck-It Ralph</em> relies on past video games and ones that have been fictionalized for the movie (marketers are clever, though - plans are already underway to bring some of these fictional games, like <em>Sugar Rush</em>, to reality).<br /><br />"What's a glitch?" my son wanted to know after watching <em>Wreck-It Ralph</em>. This is the nickname a key character gets because of flawed wiring - a short circuit leaves her fading in and out against her will, something kids from the 1980s were familiar with, but not kids today.<br /><br />Yet, it is ultimately when Ralph meets this "Glitch," a 9-year-old wannabe race car driver, that the two misfits plot how to be viewed for their strengths instead of their weaknesses. This is also the point where themes of friendship, loyalty, and courage come to the forefront and the movie's sluggish beginning and middle finally wake up.<br /><br /><em>Wreck-It Ralph</em> is rated PG for some violence and loud noises, crude humor, sarcastic language, and fast-paced action. There are also several scary scenes with monsters that may frighten young children.<br /><br />The only reason viewers with kids over 7 should flock to the theater to see <em>Wreck-It Ralph</em> is for the visuals. Otherwise, wait for it to come out on video.<br /><br />3/5 stars <br />Starring John C. Reilly, Sarah Silverman, Jack McBrayer, Jane Lynch<br />Running Time: 1 hr. 41 min.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-11-05T15:00:00Z
Leftover Halloween Candy Tips
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2012-10-29T07:01:00Z
2012-10-29T07:01:00Z
<p><strong>by Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam</strong><br /><a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/" target="_blank">www.LivingOnADime.com</a></p>
<p>Here are some tips for using all of that extra Halloween candy!</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* To prevent sugar shock, have a big bag of popcorn waiting when everyone comes back from Trick or Treating. It's easy to fix and will counteract some of the sweet stuff.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* You can freeze candy up to a year in the freezer.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Don't forget to buy discounted Halloween candy for Christmas stockings and parties. Most kids don't care if their Christmas candy is orange and black or if it has silver and gold wrappers instead of red and green.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Use leftover Halloween candy in Christmas baking and for making gingerbread houses.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Use grated or chopped chocolate in place of chocolate chips in cookies.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* It is easier to cut candy into pieces if you freeze it first.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Break Butterfinger candy bars into peanut butter cookie dough.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Sprinkle chopped chocolates on a white or chocolate frosted cake or use them to top ice cream and cheesecake.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* Mix leftover chopped chocolates into cake mixes.<br /> <br />* When making cupcakes, decorate the tops with one Hershey's kiss or a mini candy bar.<br /> <br />* Pour some leftover candy into a basket or pretty bowl to give to someone for a special gift.<br /> <br />* Even a Christmas bag full of an assortment of candies would be a gift that would delight anyone - kids, adults, co-workers or neighbors.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">* When making apple butter, instead of your usual spices use 1/2 cup red cinnamon candies and 1 Tbsp. cinnamon for every 10 cups apples and your regular amount of sugar.</p>
<p> <br /><strong>Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam are frugal living experts and the authors of the <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/store/dining-dime-cookbook/" target="_blank">Dining On A Dime Cookbook</a></strong>. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes visit <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com</a> , sign up for our free <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/newsletter-signups/" target="_blank">Living On A Dime Newsletter </a>and learn to save more! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-10-29T07:01:00Z
'Frankenweenie' Pays Homage to Classic Horror
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2012-10-22T07:00:00Z
2012-10-22T07:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong></strong><br />"Science isn't good or bad, but it can be used for both," warns a schoolteacher to his eager student in Tim Burton's latest dark film <em>Frankenweenie</em>. Set in the 1950s when kids' recreation meant undivided time for lots of imagination, young outcast Victor Frankenstein's world is shattered when his one true friend, dog Sparky, is struck by a car and killed. Victor's passion for science and invention, and especially Sparky, spawns the idea to bring his beloved pooch back to life, but when others learn of Victor's plan, things go terribly wrong.<br /><br />Ninety-nine percent of <em>Frankenweenie</em> is a compilation of all the favorite classic scary movies. The premise is the same as Stephen King's <em>Pet Semetary</em>. When the animals come back to life, they are just like the creatures in King Kong at times or the dinosaurs in <em>Jurassic Park</em> at others. The most benign animals turn as devious as those cute little monsters in <em>Gremlins</em> when they went bad. Above all, the clearest tie-in is to Mary Shelley's classic gothic novel, <em>Frankenstein</em>, which is considered the first science-fiction novel and the beginning of the horror genre. From the boy's name being the same as the scientist in <em>Frankenstein</em> who brings the monster to life ("Frankenstein" is the inventor's name, not the monster's), to the isolated nature of both main characters, the similarities abound.<br /><br /><em>Frankenweenie</em> is set in a bleak, black-and-white world. "It's not funny at all," said my first-grade daughter after viewing it (I should've left her at home, but the film's PG rating misled me). As is typical for Tim Burton films (<em>Edward Scissorhands</em>, <em>The Nightmare Before Christmas</em>, <em>Coraline</em>), this movie is dark. In fact, it's really scary for kids under 10. For older children, the ethics of science could be a good point of discussion, and for parents who'd like to take the learning opportunities even further, I suggest reading Mary Shelley's <em>Frankenstein</em> aloud with your child before or after watching <em>Frankenweenie</em>. You can enjoy comparing and contrasting the two stories with them.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-10-22T07:00:00Z
Healthy Habits: Introducing Your Family to Yellow Foods
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2012-10-15T14:00:00Z
2012-10-15T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />Yellow fruits and vegetables come in a range of textures and flavors, and contain a variety of beneficial vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. <br /><br />Yellow is a great color - it's the color of sunshine, and sunshine energizes us. Next time you are at the market, ask your child to choose a sunny yellow fruit or vegetable so they can enjoy the delicious energetic benefits of yellow foods. <br /> <br /><strong>Here's more information about some of our favorite "sunshine" yellow foods:</strong><br /> <br /><strong>Bananas</strong> - This fun and easy to eat fruit contains potassium, vitamins A, B-6, B-12, and C. Bananas provide a quick energy boost for hungry kids of all ages. Keep bananas on the counter for healthy after-school snacking. Bananas are great added to smoothies, cereal, yogurt, pancakes or baked goods. <em>For more ideas on adding bananas to your family meals, check our <a href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019NVZIVmIp-IkJ_KGAFdmd8Q7XgPktQ2SwvVWcJLie6oqBW6vHTcVb90hK3nh9vtwHNY6pdXMti9R4cauGIBX2m2DSvF-reZH5XvkVyw6SQzNyd_iWK6u-s1XNtSPhhW-jZ2tJp8KoBPaJ1D4GBOhhvu8xtGey9h8pw-T3BuPSIcnNyJYzfCG4z2pJ4N-saCIqQ9BoFZ5wVbycBV5A7Yf-cu7dZJxfQeALZByBvD1Lmo9Z79og6phcaYzpi8vUHR2iL9B3pZL80HoSqTsdTCAJ58tX3BaMv5Yyd9UfFY52GarMIDZ--PxtwetbLN16dLCG6FesRBhfMY_9wqmV5dAHtRHJXFlnQiXY1EW_XLCuy4kLENYqOaBCOuHBfcwVCt5JmeadiS_-fk=" target="_blank">Food Guide: Bananas.</a></em><br /> <br /><strong>Pineapples</strong> - Juicy, sweet pineapples provide the body with bromelain, vitamins A and C, and manganese. Bromelain is a natural anti-inflammatory that helps relieve swelling caused by injury or illness. Serve pineapples fresh, grilled, or add to sauces and salsas. <em>For more ideas on adding pineapple to your family meals, check our <a href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019NVZIVmIp-JaCui_KYd3vx1RvTMf50dXgPoOAysfU7fazvknHlJpKX0UY2LkJAcXbyZJvsnR01VCmnpuAnufwsAWZg2AXXJ-zVmA3jOnz3b99cPcUljTvM4pG286D0oZ9lEFLb32ar2YVwTkKLQSVAjoTda6RjP20SAwCrSc4fSuYxLvIqOtHz3QuZ5CaZFQ992FHkC3zxqr3O3w8mFxUuBZGvpYbEIYdneRIFd1HBN9kpL49MTwDk3qxxOuMhofSm18R0B-zxB6vsi80Imy8IGtvO2qUCHbb1wGh94WJzpyYY5R5IoDxBhPt4HRCfZBFGEYalgMyQMUEqa87RLgDxww14xjNRvxEfStAl9lqmlQjd9raltKvcSzP0k8n898B7_6OwN9oO0=" target="_blank">Food Guide: Pineapple.</a></em><br /> <br /><strong>Yellow Peppers</strong> - Yellow peppers are a good source of dietary fiber, vitamins A, C, and B-6, niacin, magnesium, copper, folate, potassium and manganese. Add yellow peppers to pasta, stir-fry, and salads. Slice yellow peppers and serve with a side of salad dressing for a crunchy, sweet snack.<br /> <br /><strong>Yellow Squash</strong> - Yellow squash contains vitamin C, iron, folate, beta-carotene, and lutein. Slice yellow squash and sauté with olive oil for a nutritious side dish, or add to casseroles for extra goodness. <br /> <br /><strong>Corn</strong> - Watching a young child eat corn on the cob can be a memorable experience! Corn provides the body with beneficial antioxidants to help prevent disease, and fiber for healthy digestion. Steam, boil or grill corn on the cob, or cut the kernels from the cob and serve as a side dish, or add it to soups, stews, salads and casseroles. <br /> <br /><strong>Lemons</strong> - Lemons are a good source of vitamin C. Plus, they are a cleansing food. Squeezing a slice of lemon into a glass of water each day can aid digestion problems and remove impurities from the body. Adding a little slice of lemon to your kid's water can be a great way to get them to drink more water. You can also squeeze fresh lemon juice over vegetables, poultry and fish.<br /> <br /><strong>Yellow Pears</strong> - Loaded with vitamins, minerals, and cancer-preventing antioxidants, pears are a healthy and delicious choice for snacks and side dishes. Pears also have a low glycemic index, which means they can help control blood sugar levels. Pears provide the body with vitamins A, C, B1, B2, and E, folate, potassium, iron, and fiber. Slice pears and serve alone, or add to salads and smoothies. <em>For more ideas on adding pears to your family meals, check our <a href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019NVZIVmIp-LCz9t4ANN3568lUodjXYTrJ9jah5gruZmDrgB4qv2iCY_DNlwkMz_TK4I77rv_COAYOqJTvYRD7hAZ2yEPA0qUg2HyabAh0h4EoI0oSM65XCroAY7PKBhcp6NQGZlB-7IplujDmnvsj0w8ngcrygjkc3lL4goDygBX0AgUOsR7nY03xwGs1R5ARQLQGtSwZQMW-56IfMRyMgExOwrH9ZKrW1yATltXhDngRaFAbL9cumil2JjcbgyJ1MtpvX4SonIaT6VLCJonKIWQbqKSj_-MLKlBUcX8bbFz0GgAJhb9fCyptk8MYTaT65nO1kuRd4RW4miPOokcn6nIrowm5qYRSeqGdRHcpkZh9vgiMD9DEMRofNkHNiBI8jcMkDNId0w=" target="_blank">Food Guide: Pears.</a></em><br /><br /><br /><strong>Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creator of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of <em>So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</em> and <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years.</em> Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. 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2012-10-15T14:00:00Z
Lunch Box Fruits and Veggies
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2012-10-08T14:00:00Z
2012-10-08T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />It is never too late to encourage your child to make healthy food choices and build a foundation that will last a lifetime. Here are few suggestions for including fruits and vegetable in your child's lunch box:<br /><br /><strong>Fruit Choices:</strong> <br />
<ul>
<li>Whole Fruits: Some fruits turn brown quickly, so they are better whole than cut up. This includes apples, bananas and pears. Small bunches of grapes or a handful of blueberries are also good whole fruit choices. </li>
<li>Oranges may sound like a good whole fruit, but they are not. They take too much time to peel and are messy. It's best to peel the orange or cut it into wedges before it goes into the lunch box. </li>
<li>Dried fruits are perfect for the lunch box - A handful of dried apricots, raisins, pears, blueberries or cherries are sweet and neat to eat. </li>
<li>Cut up fruits that are great in a container include melon, watermelon, strawberries, peaches, plums, pineapple and mango. Don't forget a spoon or fork!</li>
<li>Beware of these store-bought items: </li>
<li>Fruit snacks in the shape of TV characters. These are not fruit, they are candy. </li>
<li>Dried fruits with lots of sugar added. Read the labels (typical culprits are dried pineapple, bananas and mango - they are often caked with extra sugar).</li>
</ul>
<strong>Veggie Choices:</strong><br />
<ul>
<li>Sticks: carrot, celery, sugar snap or snow peas all make great choices. They'll stay crunchy in the lunch box and are easy to eat. </li>
<li>Cherry or grape tomatoes with a small container of dip are fun. </li>
<li>Cucumber circles with a dipper of ranch dressing or tossed in Italian dressing are yummy! </li>
<li>Quick veggie salads can be made with leftover rice, couscous or pasta, and chopped veggies - carrots, green beans, broccoli, cauliflower, peas, or celery. Simply toss together with your child's favorite salad dressing. </li>
</ul>
<br /><strong>Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creator of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of <em>So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</em> and <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years.</em> Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2012-10-08T14:00:00Z
'Hotel Transylvania' and 'Won't Back Down' Make Strong Impacts
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2012-10-01T14:00:00Z
2012-10-01T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<em><strong>Little Kids Shouldn't Check in to 'Hotel Transylvania' </strong></em><br /><br />In this <em>Romeo and Juliet</em>-esque story, two star-crossed lovers are kept apart, but to make the chasm even deeper, Johnny is a 21-year-old mortal in love with Mavis, a 118-year-old vampire. Her father, Count Dracula (played by Adam Sandler), loathes humans so much that he's built a gothic "Hotel Transylvania" for all monsters who seek refuge from the persecution of humans. <br /><br /><em>Hotel Transylvania</em> first begins when Mavis is an infant in 1895, which is also about the time Bram Stoker wrote <em>Dracula</em>. The movie parodies the vampires and monsters we thought we knew so well, showing them to be sensitive and misunderstood while humans are the ones to be feared. <br /><br />Fast-forward to present day. After more than a century of running the thriving hotel, single dad, Dracula, plans his daughter's 118th coming of age party while going to great lengths to keep her his dependent baby girl.<br /><br />The attention to detail is great in this movie. It's fun to see the silly cast of spooky characters who stay at the hotel, like Frankenstein, Big Foot, and more. There are clever references to the mega-hit "Twilight" franchise, and current pop music keeps the film current too.<br /><br />There are themes of father/daughter love, trust, and why we often have misconceived notions about others. <br /><br />I'd hold off on showing very young kids this movie, though, because it can be frightening in several different parts. There is fast-paced action, scary music, startling pop-ups, fire, and zombies with pitchforks through their heads, just to name a few examples. <br /><br />Kids over 8 will like the humor and appreciate seeing the movie during Halloween season. <br /><br /><br /><em><strong>The Message of 'Won't Back Down' Gains Momentum </strong></em><br /><br />Is education reform the civil rights issue of today? That's the question being asked more frequently, and it's getting louder as parents, teachers, and concerned citizens aren't willing to sit back in resignation and accept that our nation's public school system is collectively failing. <br /><br /><em>Won't Back Down</em> begins with a heart-breaking scene of a young, dyslexic student forced to read aloud in front of her peers. Her teacher is disengaged and the class is chaotic while still managing to be cruel to her. <br /><br />Viola Davis costars as a burned out second-grade teacher, and Maggie Gyllenhaal plays a mother on a mission who takes action upon learning there is a legal process for parents who want to take over their kids' failing schools. <br /><br />It is the behemoth of bureaucracy that is the enemy in the film (and in real life too) - so much red tape is what keeps many concerned citizens quiet about their neighborhood schools. This film is a reminder that we can all take action.<br /><br /><em>Won't Back Down</em> tackles many of the same issues as the 2010 documentary <em>Waiting for "Superman".</em> The film depicts families competing for limited spots at the rare, decent schools in their neighborhoods. Underfunding and teachers' unions are underscored too.<br /><br />Teachers' unions are often pointed to as the chief culprits, with ineffective, tenured teachers standing smugly behind them. But who are these teachers? Isn't teaching a calling? Those of us who have done it, or are doing it, certainly aren't called to the profession for the money. So what's going on? <br /><br />Davis's character symbolizes the formally great, idealistic teachers who have been beaten down by low expectations, low parental involvement, and lack of support. Gyllenhaal is her foil, an idealistic firecracker, reigniting Davis's passion and reminding her why she was first called to teach to begin with. Her husband mentions that at first Nona (Viola Davis) "purposely chose a school that needed her most."<br /><br />This film is PG because it contains lots of education subject matter. Teens should go with their parents and then join in the conversation to help answer the question: How do we make schools succeed?<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of four young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-10-01T14:00:00Z
Trendy Topless Terrariums
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Trendy-Topless-Terrariums/134517771247946417.html
2012-09-24T14:00:00Z
2012-09-24T14:00:00Z
<strong>Mar Jennings</strong><br /><a href="http://http//www.marjennings.com/articles/garden-studio/terrarium-mar-velous-glass-garden" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com</a><br /><br />I'm a firm believer that we should surround ourselves with living things - people, pets and plants. This s<strong>MAR</strong>t tip is about the natural beauty of indoor terrariums. I'm no stranger to this concept, so much so that I have even written an earlier article about a <strong>MAR</strong>velous glass garden, but this is different - now we are going topless and I love it!<br /><br />Recently, the garden lifestyle store Terrain opened a new flagship in Westport, Connecticut, and I became a huge fan while discovering many wonderful things for my home and garden. One feature that took my breath away was the plethora of topless terrariums and of course I needed to have one - OK, maybe two. I adore them, and I quickly wanted to learn how I could reproduce the same look in various sizes to give as gifts. <br /><br />It did not take long before I was making my own version of these portable gardens, and thanks to Terrain's collection of decorative rocks and plant materials, it became easy to do at a fraction of the cost. Now don't get me wrong! If you would like to splurge and purchase one already made I recommend going to their store and picking one up - they are beyond compare - but for the many people who do not live in the area, I wanted to deconstruct the process so you too can enjoy "going topless" with a glass garden container. <br /><br />It's easy and you will love the creativity of the process. You will be able to assemble yours in about 30 minutes.<br /><br /><em><strong>Here is what you will need:</strong></em><br /><br /><strong>A container.</strong> While you can find containers that are sold specifically for terrariums, any glass vessel that has walls will do. Depending on how big and how fancy you want to get, it's always best to get glass containers from an off-price store. I pay no more than $20. You can buy anything from a large fish bowl to a small vase - as long as it is open, you are good to go.<br /><br /><strong>Horticultural charcoal.</strong> Terrariums are damp environments with no drainage holes, and the charcoal will keep the soil from developing a sour odor. This can be easily found at nurseries, or at pet stores in the aquarium department. <br /><br /><strong>Stones or pebbles.</strong> These will not be very visible, so any kind will do. You will need a couple of handfuls - enough to create a shallow layer.<br /><br /><strong>Decorative rocks or moss.</strong> These will be visible to layer on the surface. A sheet of moss or a few handfuls of rocks are enough. Sheet moss is available at garden centers, and small rocks can be scavenged from nature, or you can use aquarium rocks.<br /><br /><strong>Potting soil. </strong>The best soil for terrariums is a high quality, sterile potting soil because it has a high amount of organic matter.<br /><br /><strong>Plants.</strong> Before you purchase plants, first determine where you would like to place the terrarium because light conditions and temperature will affect your choice of plants. All should have similar requirements. Low-growing, dense plants are best - if you are not sure, simply ask at your garden center. A benefit to topless terrariums is that you can also use succulents, which do not do well in closed terrariums because of the humidity. Make your selection based on size, color and texture.<br /><br /><strong>Decorative items.</strong> This is often my favorite part because you can really be creative, and it allows you to personalize it even more. You will use these to create dimension and structure to your top level, in amongst the plants. One or two pieces per terrarium is plenty - I like to use driftwood, bark, decorative rocks, pottery pieces, etc.<br /><br /><em><strong>Assembly steps:</strong></em><br /><br />
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<li><strong>Drainage layers:</strong> Because terrariums do not have drainage holes in the bottom, you need to create somewhere for the excess water to go away from the plants' roots. First add about an inch or so of charcoal, then your two handfuls of stones or pebbles.</li>
<li><strong>Potting soil:</strong> Spoon in about three to four inches of potting soil (depending upon the vessel; you don't want to go all the way to the rim!)</li>
<li><strong>Design:</strong> Before you place your plants, finalize the design of your terrarium. Will it have a back and front? If so, then place the taller plants in the back. If not, place them in the middle. I love to contour the soil so it creates more of a landscape. Contouring plus the small-sized plants combine to create the effect of a miniature world.</li>
<li><strong>Plants:</strong> Use your fingers or a spoon to create an opening in the soil for each plant. Tip: Before placing each plant in the soil, I prefer to quickly soak the roots in a cup of water - this helps give them a jump-start of moisture. Place each plant into the soil and gently pat them in. Do not overcrowd them.</li>
<li><strong>Coat top layer </strong>with decorative rocks or moss strips for that natural organic look. Place any decorative item(s).</li>
<li><strong>First watering:</strong> Add about 1/4 cup of water per plant; try to distribute the water evenly.</li>
</ul>
<br /><em><strong>Maintenance</strong>:</em><br /><br />Simply water weekly - possibly less often if the top layer of soil feels moist to the touch. Want to water even less often? It's simple, fun, and so decorative. If watering once every six months is more appealing, consider creating covered, <a href="http://www.marjennings.com/articles/garden-studio/terrarium-mar-velous-glass-garden" target="_blank">enclosed terrariums. </a><br /><br />And there you have it. Who knew that going topless was possible year-round? <br /><br /><br /><strong>Mar's</strong> inventive and original blueprint for design infuses Mother Nature's colors and textures throughout the home and garden. Mar creates resourceful designs for a casual luxury lifestyle. As featured on HGTV, QVC, <em>The Today Show</em>, and in <em>The New York Times</em> and many other national media outlets. For more information visit <a href="http://http//www.marjennings.com/articles/garden-studio/terrarium-mar-velous-glass-garden" target="_blank">www.marjennings.com.</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-09-24T14:00:00Z
Gabrielle Douglas Has Even More Character Than We Knew
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Gabrielle-Douglas-Has-Even-More-Character-Than-We-Knew/17686583090905627.html
2012-09-17T14:00:00Z
2012-09-17T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong><br /></strong>Our first African American all-around gold medalist in women's gymnastics is also just a young girl with the same issues as many high school kids her age.<br /> <br />Gabrielle (who likes her formal name instead of "Gabby") sat down with Oprah recently and explained that although the more advertised reason for her switching gyms and moving to Iowa was the chance to be taught by famed coach Liang Chow, the racism and bullying she experienced at her hometown Virginia gym were largely why she moved. <br /><br />Douglas's mom, Natalie Hawkins, told Oprah that Gabrielle even said she'd rather quit the sport than stay in Virginia.<br /><br />Now her hometown gym, Excalibur in Virginia Beach, is lashing back, understandably embarrassed. "The accusations that are being made against the gymnasts and coaches are just sickening," Excalibur's Randy Stageburg told Gymnewstics.com in a statement. "Gabby was never a victim - in fact many would say she was one of the favorites. I never once heard her complain about girls being mean; funny how it is just now coming up."<br /> <br />But why would Gabrielle make up that some girls called her their "slave" among other hurtful things? With Oprah, Gabrielle recounted the humiliating details with her trademark grace and smile. There was no bitterness and certainly no victim's mentality.<br /> <br />Gabrielle's story should be a lesson for us all. She knew she deserved better treatment than she was receiving. This wasn't an athlete spending a few hours a week at a gym - she was there more than she was home. So without a lot of ruckus, a <em>young girl</em> made some tough decisions on her own, like leaving her family to move over 1,000 miles away. She also didn't expect to change the mean girls and certainly didn't let their ignorant views rub off on her. Instead, Gabrielle independently shaped her future (which is a lot to say for a 16-year-old). <br /><br />What's even sweeter is that her future, at least in the short term, has proven to be golden...times two.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-09-17T14:00:00Z
Nature's Own Anti-Wrinkle Solutions
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Natures-Own-Anti-Wrinkle-Solutions/-341646120891375829.html
2012-09-10T14:00:00Z
2012-09-10T14:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />Now you can avoid those expensive creams and save those extra bucks for that new blouse you have been eyeing! <br /><br />Have you been spending a fortune on the latest beauty products that promise a cure for wrinkles? Are you concerned about spending all your hard-earned money on popular, celebrity advertised products that may not be as effective as promoted? <br /><br />Keep reading, because I want to help you unravel some of the best kept secrets Mother Nature has created for you. By making a few simple changes in your skin care regimen and your diet, you can release nature's own solutions for anti-aging. You will not only reduce those wrinkles and crow's feet, but you will also become a more health-conscious individual. You may even start glancing at the label to see what natural goodies are in the beauty products you buy. <br /><br /><strong>Are You Facing This?</strong><br />Are you tired of looking at a face with crow's feet around the eyes and visible wrinkles around your mouth? Are you tired of sporting sagging facial skin and puffy, tired eyes? Or are you tired of having a dull, lifeless complexion? <br /><br />Remember, no one skin product can suddenly reverse the years of damage to your skin, nor instantly transform it to younger-looking skin.<br /><br />The best advice I can give is take care of your skin, from the inside out. Watch what you put on your skin and what you put into your body. <br /><br /><strong>Go Green (Tea)</strong><br />I use green tea in many of my anti-aging skin care formulations. It's the flavonoids and the antioxidants present in green tea that can prove to be one of the best solutions for fighting wrinkles, if consumed regularly. They fight the free radicals that can accelerate the signs of aging.<br /><br />I suggest looking for a moisturizer or serum that contains green tea, as well as drinking a soothing cup of green tea during your afternoon break or maybe an iced green tea after your workout routine.<br /><br /><strong>Antioxidant Rich Fruits</strong><br />There are two ways to achieve beautiful skin. One way is taking Vitamin E, and the other is by consuming antioxidants!<br /><br />Fruits like strawberries and pomegranates are packed with plenty of antioxidants. Making them part of your regular diet will naturally boost your skin's glow while making the wrinkles less noticeable.<br /><br /><strong>Veggies Like Red Beans Are Good Too!</strong><br />Increase your intake of red beans because they contain a high concentration of antioxidants. Plus, you gain the benefit of their fiber content, which helps reduce your blood pressure level and the risk of cancer too.<br /><br /><strong>Reward Yourself!</strong><br />Just like fresh, homemade food has the best natural ingredients, here is a quick and easy at-home recipe for a "sweet" facial mask.<br /><br /><strong>Honey-Almond Exfoliating Mask</strong><br />
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<li><strong></strong>2 Tablespoons Honey</li>
<li><strong></strong>2 Tablespoons Finely Ground Almonds</li>
<li><strong></strong>2 Strawberries</li>
<li>A Couple Pieces of Cut Up Pomegranate</li>
<li>1 Teaspoon Powdered Clay (Bentonite, Red Earth etc.)</li>
<li>4 Tablespoons Oatmeal</li>
<li>Water</li>
</ul>
Combine ingredients in a bowl and mix into a paste. Add a little water, if necessary. To use, splash face with warm water. Massage mix over face. Let set for 10-15 minutes. Rinse with warm water and "voila"! <br /><br />By just using a little bit of fruit, vegetables and soothing tea, you will see the best in Mother Nature in you! You will have glowing, younger-looking skin in no time at all! Enjoy the new glamorous you!<br /><br />I invite you to share this article with friends by clicking on the links above.<br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-09-10T14:00:00Z
'The Pirates! Band of Misfits' Now Out on DVD
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Pirates!-Band-of-Misfits-Now-Out-on-DVD/-92524700532673028.html
2012-09-04T14:00:00Z
2012-09-04T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong><br /></strong>It's 19th century England and a claymation Queen Victoria, known mainly for her rigid moral code, opens The Pirates! Band of Misfits with how much she loses control when she thinks of her hatred for pirates. But how can she hate a bunch of fun-loving misfits? The Pirate Captain (Hugh Jackman) leads a pirate crew of gruff looking, biker dudes who are harmless. Instead of theft and murder, they get excited about things like "ham night" while traversing the high seas. The group decides they must win the "pirate of the year competition," with hopes that the title will give them more credibility, yet they encounter plenty of obstacles along the way. <br /><br />The movie is set nearly 200 years ago, but there's nothing dated about it. It's filled with modern humor and music, and the stop-motion animation with clay characters is fun to see. The lifelike impressions the clay characters make are easily the best part of the film.<br /><br />"Pirates" is mostly just a silly film - think the "Airplane" movies but with pirates and not as many funny one-liners. There aren't many lessons to be gained, but you can talk with kids after seeing it about how when you do the right thing, good people are there to support you.<br /><br />The plot is choppy and only kids over 10 will get the references to science and Charles Darwin's main role in the movie. <br /><br />It is rated PG for some rude humor and loud action sequences. Cannon blasts and swords are drawn - there is also one part when The Pirate Captain narrowly escapes getting his head chopped off in the gallows that may be scary for younger viewers.<br /><br />All in all, this movie is fine for kids 7 and over to see, but kids 10 and over will get the most out of it.<br /><br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-09-04T14:00:00Z
Seven Tips for School Success
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Seven-Tips-for-School-Success/109286614849459624.html
2012-08-27T14:00:00Z
2012-08-27T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Susan Stone Belton</strong><br /><a href="http://susanstonebelton.com/" target="_blank">http://susanstonebelton.com/</a><br /><br />August is here and the start of a new school year is just ahead. Many families find this exciting while others dread it in anticipation of homework, early mornings, and school stress. But all parents want their children to have a successful school year. Here are seven tips to help every child reach that goal.<br /><br /><strong>Make education a family value. </strong><br />The goal of school is to learn to love learning. Learning is a lifetime goal, and parents can demonstrate their own appreciation of learning. "What is one thing you learned today?" is a nice question for everyone to answer at the dinner table. Ask your children daily about their school day. You don't need to know every detail, and often kids are reluctant to share anything. So simply ask them to tell you the worst moment and the best moment of their school day. This makes them feel that you care and want to participate in their school and their education. <br /><br /><strong>Read to your child every day. </strong><br />You can't start too early and you can't read too much. Encourage reading of magazines, newspapers, books, and websites. Read recipes, do research on the Internet, and point out license plates from other states. Read a book together, taking turns reading out loud and at bedtime. Even preteens enjoy being read to (even if they pretend they don't). "Harry Potter," anybody?<br /><br /><strong>Prepare your child for school's first day.</strong><br />Buy your school supplies as soon as they go on sale at your local store. Check if a new backpack, lunchbox, or lock is needed, and make sure your child can use them. Order any required books or uniforms. Practice the walking or biking route with your child and review safety rules. And get your child back on their school days sleeping schedule one week before school starts. If your child is going to a new school, visit the campus in advance and learn your way around.<br /><br /><strong>Make numbers fun and part of everyday life.</strong><br />While grocery shopping, allow your child to weigh the produce. Collect coins and count/roll them every week. Play counting games with Legos or Cheerios. Watch a baseball game and discuss the player's batting averages. Quiz your child on their math facts while driving together. Sort buttons or poker chips into ice cube trays and then count them. Bake cookies and help your children to measure the ingredients. <br /><br /><strong>Support your child's school and its rules.</strong><br />Attend back-to-school nights and school plays. Allow your child to get the hot lunch once in a while, even if it is unhealthy. Wear the T-shirt with the school logo even on a weekend. Don't send candy if the school requests "no candy" (even if that makes your child unhappy). Read the school newsletter, post the weekly calendar on your bulletin board, and hang school papers on your fridge. <br /><br /><strong>Assist your child with their homework.</strong><br />Remember who is responsible for the homework, but help as needed. Insist that your children be polite with you, but understand that homework can be frustrating. Provide a quiet and clean homework station and a homework kit with needed supplies. Praise your kids for their effort, not just the result. Homework is not a job (kids don't get paid for doing it), but it is a big responsibility.<br /><br /><strong>Spend time in your child's classroom.</strong><br />Get to know the teacher, the students, and the other parents. Volunteer to help on a regular basis or just once in a while. Offer to be the room parent or the chaperone on a field trip. Visit the classroom on a special holiday and share a new tradition. Give your (overworked and underappreciated) teacher a gift for the holidays. Show your child that school is appreciated by your entire family.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Susan Stone Belton</strong>, Family Coach & Motivational Speaker (<a href="http://susanstonebelton.com/" target="_blank">http://susanstonebelton.com/</a>), is a certified Special Education Teacher with over 40 years experience working with families. She has presented hundreds of talks to Bay Area groups, and works with individual families to help solve their <a href="http://susanstonebelton.com/speaking-coaching" target="_blank">parenting concerns</a>. Susan is the author of<em> Real Parents, Real Kids, Real Talk</em>, a book for parents with children of every age. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-08-27T14:00:00Z
Two Young People, Two Very Different Lives in 'Timothy Green' and 'Sparkle'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Two-Young-People,-Two-Very-Different-Lives-in-Timothy-Green-and-Sparkle/247225619023109155.html
2012-08-20T14:00:00Z
2012-08-20T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<strong><br />"Timothy Green" is a Slower, Simpler E.T.</strong><br /><br />Remember Cabbage Patch Kids? Those odd little dolls were all the rage for little girls in the 1980s. They each came with adoption papers, a birth certificate, and a composite of their hobbies, unique strengths, and even personality traits. What that little piece of parchment paper revealed was as exciting as the dolls themselves.<br /><br /><em>The Odd Life of Timothy Green</em> is a tale told from the point of view of married couple Jim and Cindy Green (played by Joel Edgerton and Jennifer Garner). It begins with their sadness over not being able to conceive. And in Jim's last ditch effort to keep his wife's spirits lifted, he rattles off a list of qualities that their imaginary child would have, hoping, believing them to be true.<br /><br />The Greens plant these traits in their garden that night, encapsulating their dreams in a little box, only to wake up to find a fully sprouted 10-year-old boy of their own. <br /><br />The rest of the story unfolds in the same fashion as stories like <em>E.T</em>., or the 1990s film, <em>Powder</em>. The new additions are odd, definitely otherworldly, yet ultimately more compassionate than most of the humans they're around.<br /><br />The movie is sweet, but not as funny as <em>E.T.</em>, as it plods along. It is also weirdly outdated. I thought for sure it had been based on a novel from 30 or more years ago and needed updating, but it's actually an original screenplay. From the old-fashioned way all the kids dress and what they like to do in their spare time (ride big-handled bikes around town), to not a single mention of the challenges technology presents for young people today, opportunities were missed to contrast Timothy's simple ways to a fast-paced, modern world. Besides pressure to perform well in sports, Timothy's situations are not authentic to 21st century kids. <br /><br /><strong>The film is rated PG for its emotional issues like death, infertility, and adult sibling and parent dynamics.</strong> Still, the movie is fine for viewers over 8. Kids that age and older will leave with the message that being yourself is perfectly enough. One of the other stronger themes of the movie is that sometimes the most meaningful relationships aren't bound by blood.<br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>"Sparkle" Shines and Shows Plenty of Rough Patches Too</strong><br /><br />It's 1968 in Detroit, the heart of Motown, and every young girl wants to be the next Aretha or Diana Ross. <em>Sparkle</em> is about a new generation's passion for the music at that time, centering on three sisters who moonlight as a girl group away from their protective mother's (Whitney Houston) watchful eye.<br /> <br />In a perfect first movie role for the 2007 <em>American Idol</em> winner, Jordin Sparks plays Sparkle, the youngest sister in a family of all women. She is coming of age, trying to find balance between respecting her mother's wishes while still following her own dreams. Sparkle is the sweetest and most supportive of the sisters as well as the brainy songwriter behind the sister act. She must decide whether or not she'd like to shine in the spotlight too.<br /> <br />While the film has complex characters and even deeper family dynamics, great music is at the movie's heart, with many original songs written for its score. It's worth it just to see Houston give one powerful, show-stopping church choir performance in her last onscreen role.<br /> <br /><strong>The PG-13 rating comes with escalating heavy material that shouldn't be seen by younger children. </strong>While the beginning of <em>Sparkle</em> is tame, there are eventually scenes showing drug use and domestic violence. The scenes with drug use aren't glorified, but shown in the light of how talented people can so easily waste their dreams.<br /> <br />In one eerie scene, Houston asks her daughters, "Wasn't I enough of a cautionary tale to you?," to dissuade them from going into show business. Parents can discuss the movie's message with older teens as well as <a href="/b/Talking-With-My-Kids-About-Whitney-Houston/594969684688560948.html" target="_blank">Houston's real life tragic downfall all at once</a>.<br /> <br />There are also some provocative outfits and singing performances. <br /> <br />Although she is a good role model throughout, I was disappointed in Jordin Sparks' main character when she gives in at the very end by dressing in an extremely revealing dress that she wouldn't normally wear.<br /> <br />With parental guidance, high school aged kids (no younger) will get a lot out of Sparkle. They will see what fierce family loyalty looks like and why even young adults still need house rules. It will also be interesting for them to see what it was like to live in a different time - like when a traditional marriage proposal was the only way for a young man to show his good intentions and get the girl.
<p><strong><br />Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-08-20T14:00:00Z
'Dog Days' Respectably Captures Middle School Angst
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Dog-Days-Respectably-Captures-Middle-School-Angst/-120991352938615700.html
2012-08-06T14:00:00Z
2012-08-06T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
It's summertime for teen Greg Heffley, and he's turned more rebel than wimpy kid in the latest, third movie installment of the popular Jeff Kinney book series. Greg aims to make the long days of summer exciting, but this lands him time and again in the doghouse at home.<br /> <br />Greg is a mini Ferris Bueller - cute in an ordinary, every-boy kind of way. And just like Ferris went out of his way to innocently trick authority and do innocuous things like join a parade float, the kind of excitement Greg seeks is pretty mundane too, while still embodying the middle school angst many tweens and teens feel today.<br /> <br />Although the <a href="http://kidfocused.com/movie-review-diary-of-a-wimpy-kid-2-rodrick-rules/" target="_blank">second wimpy kid movie, <em>Rodrick Rules</em>,</a> centered on Greg's relationship with his older brother, this time the message centers on Greg's relationship with his dad as the two try to find common interests.<br /> <br />One of the reasons why the books are so successful (and this film captures the same spirit) is that they are a time capsule of the middle school years. Most issues normal kids at that age wrestle with are shown, but not in a gratuitous way. There's peer pressure, mean kids, parents who don't understand, a need for adventure, first crushes, and plenty of awkward moments.<br /> <br />Multiple times my preteen son, a lover of the book series, and I looked at each other knowingly. I think he liked that I saw what kids around his age experience, but he didn't have to say so himself. And besides lots of silliness, Greg learns some life lessons - such as how a parent's disappointment can be worse than getting yelled at. It also shows that parents and kids just need to spend time together to remember they're more alike than different.<br /> <br />Afterwards, my son chattered excitedly about some differences between the book and the movie. He even told me to read the book so I could see for myself. My first thought was to say, "No, I think I get it," but instead said, "That's a good idea."<br /> <br />The adults are clueless for most of the film, <a href="/b/Boys-Are-Now-the-Ones-Slighted/-194888006705960319.html" target="_blank">which you know I don't like</a>, but they are shown with more depth by the end. Unlike most movie franchises, I've liked each of the wimpy kid movies better than the last. In the first film, the emphasis on Greg being a wimp is depressing, but as he's grown and become more confident, I find him a great role model for kids.<br /> <br /><em>Diary of a Wimpy Kid: Dog Days</em> isn't Academy Award caliber, but the PG-rated film is recommended for any readers of the series (which is geared toward 8 to 14-year-olds) and their younger siblings too.
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
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2012-08-06T14:00:00Z
10 Ways to Handle Life Changes with Courage
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/10-Ways-to-Handle-Life-Changes-with-Courage/-789413274957361687.html
2012-07-30T14:00:00Z
2012-07-30T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Ann Gatty</strong><br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank"></a><a href="http://www.stress-management-4-women.com" target="_blank">www.stress-management-4-women.com</a><br /><br />Changes in life happen. All the time. Things happen for good and bad reasons and much of change is beyond our control. How we handle change is within our control. There will always be external events that cause change, but you still need to take control of your own reactions and attitudes toward change. Here are 10 tips to help you handle changes in your life without adding undue stress.<br /><br /><strong>1. Expect Change</strong><br />The best way to design an effective change outcome in your life is to be proactive and design a management strategy that is easy for you to follow. You want this transition period to be as comfortable and productive as possible. Your life can be viewed as a succession of chapters, each with its own theme and characteristics. Enjoy the journey and view changes in each chapter as an opportunity for self-improvement and growth.<br /><br /><strong>2. Check Your Attitude</strong><br />Change can definitely cause disruption in your life. If you have chosen to make the change, then you probably feel more in control of the situation. If the change is occurring without your consent, then you need immediately to make certain that this transition does not take control of your decisions. When change happens in your life, react by being excited, stimulated and inspired- not threatened, terrified or immobilized.<br /><br /><strong>3. Protect Your Health</strong><br />Change causes stress, and stress can be detrimental to your health. So whether you think you have the energy or not, take positive action. Start moving physically, and do not allow yourself to become complacent. Get eight hours of sleep- regardless of whether you want it; eat well- regardless of whether you feel like it; exercise every day to burn off some of the stress; and drink more water to flush out the impurities caused by toxic stress levels. When you handle change in your life, taking care of your physical body often is neglected. Keep moving - you'll feel better - even in tough times.<br /><br /><strong>4. Get Out There</strong><br />Regardless of the changes you are experiencing, life is worth living. So, go out and embrace life. Make life an adventure worth exploring. Not every part of your day is going to be exciting, but if you start noticing the little details of life situations, you can begin finding your surroundings more beautiful, people more inspiring, and situations more interesting. Opening your eyes to the world around you allows you less time to spend focusing on things that may be worrying you. <br /><br /><strong>5. Build Relationships and Network</strong><br />Change can lead you to meet new and inspiring, helpful people, or it can lead you toward isolation. How you handle change in your life can cause you to become afraid and turn inward, not wanting to share your fears, sadness, or anxieties with others. But during life transitions, change is easiest when you let others help. Build a network of support. Surround yourself with a team of two to three people who will keep you moving on your forward path to success.<br /><br /><strong>6. Be Yourself</strong><br />You're good at that. Nobody else can be you. You have unique talents, skills, knowledge and opinions. Use them. But use them wisely and with respect for others. You will do a better job at handling change in your life if you handle change with your own set of tools rather than trying to work with somebody else's. You can be yourself better than anyone else. And stop trying to be the person who you think people want you to be. That will not bring you success.<br /><br /><strong>7. Set Goals</strong><br />How you handle change in your life can have good or bad results. If you set goals for what you believe could be the best outcome, you will have a positive target to work towards. Focusing on a goal allows you to establish an action plan to move, one step at a time, toward that goal.<br /><br /><strong>8. Believe in Yourself</strong><br />Self-doubt is a destructive perspective to hold, and it denies your self-confidence. Maybe you have experienced a conflict with someone. Maybe you feel unqualified to complete a task because you compare yourself to someone else you think is more capable. Maybe you have been criticized for work you have done. Build your self-confidence by naming these doubts and identifying what is triggering them. You can replace self-doubt with self-belief when you realize that you are human and have your own capabilities, even if other people disagree. <br /><br /><strong>9. Pick Yourself Up</strong><br />We all make mistakes. That is part of being human. The best way to move forward when life changes cause missteps is to be honest. Own your mistakes; don't put the blame on someone else. When you make a mistake, admit that you were wrong and learn from the situation. Use the experience to grow in wisdom.<br /><br /><strong>10. Embrace Your Dream</strong><br />Know your passion and don't be afraid to follow your dream. Ask yourself -- plug in the answers to the following questions: "Where am I now?" and "Where do I want to be in the future?" You are moving forward. As you handle the change in your life, celebrate your successes, small or large. You are on a journey we call life, and change is part of the process.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Dr. Ann Gatty</strong> coaches individuals in stress management strategies and building life transitions. She coaches women in finding a life balance between professional and personal responsibilities. Visit her website, <a href="http://www.stress-management-4-women.com" target="_blank">www.stress-management-4-women.com </a>to learn more. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-07-30T14:00:00Z
Protect Your Skin with These Sunscreen Secrets
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Protect-Your-Skin-with-These-Sunscreen-Secrets/271271635268191298.html
2012-07-23T14:00:00Z
2012-07-23T14:00:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />It's summer time. It's time to have fun. But, before you dare go outside, you will want to protect your skin from the hot sun.<br /><br />If you're like me, your head will spin just by looking at all the different sunscreens on the market. So, how do you know which one to buy?<br /><br />First, it's important to understand that there are two types of sun rays to be concerned with: UVA rays, which cause damage that leads to wrinkles and brown spots, and UVB rays, which cause the actual sunburn.<br /><br />Now that the science lesson is over, it's time to pick an SPF (Sun Protection Factor) that's right for you. And don't worry, all those SPF numbers may seem confusing, but I will decode them for you. Normally, your skin will burn in as little as 10 minutes of sun exposure. An SPF 15 screens out 93 percent of UVB rays. So where does the number 15 come from? Well, simply put, it means that you can stay out in the sun 15 times longer than if no product were used for 150 minutes.<br /><br />Does that mean an SPF 30 has double the protection? NO! Actually, any sunscreen with an SPF 30 or higher will provide only 97-98 percent protection from the sun's UVB rays. <br /><br />So, what number is right for you? Obviously, the more protection you have the better, but don't waste your money on products rated above SPF 50 because there is no effective way to test them.<br /><br />Did you notice that while I was decoding the SPF rating system, we were only discussing UVB rays, or the cause of sunburns? That's because the SPF system does not rate UVA protection. So, be sure to look for products labeled "Broad Spectrum Protection" as well as waterproof sunscreen. They will last longer because they don't wash off the minute you jump in the water or have a little fun playing ball.<br /><br />Once you have found the sunscreen that's right for you, remember that no sunscreen will provide you any benefit if left in the bottle. Many people quickly smear a little sunscreen over their bodies and assume they are protected for the day. Here are a few tricks to help get the most out of your sunscreen!:<br /><br /><em><strong>Double check the expiration date on the sunscreen</strong></em> (to make sure the actives are still good) as well as <em><strong>shake the bottle before using</strong></em> (to help make sure it's mixed and not separating).<br /><br />Next, <em><strong>apply sunscreen on you and the family 30 minutes before going out in the sun. </strong></em> The active ingredients need time to be absorbed in order to be effective. I suggest that you apply sunscreen before you leave the house and even before you put on your bathing suit. <br /><br />The key is to make sure all areas are covered with sunscreen - not just the areas you think will be exposed. Cover feet, legs, torso, arms, hands, back, shoulders, neck, and face. Pay special attention to the ears, lips, eyes, and scalp (especially for guys with thinning to no hair). And since most sunscreen lotions can drip and irritate the eyes, consider a stick sunscreen for the face and around the eyes. Try it! Your kids will thank you for it!<br /><br />How much sunscreen should you use? Sunscreens are formulated so the average person uses about one ounce. That's a lot more than you may have thought, but skimping on the amount you use only defeats the purpose and minimizes the benefits.<br /><br />Another secret is to <em><strong>reapply, reapply, reapply!</strong></em> That's right - reapply every 2 hours you are in the sun - or even more frequently if you have been swimming or sweating.<br /><br />With melanoma cases on the rise, it's critical that you properly apply your sunscreen and continue to reapply it - especially if you are going to be in the sun for an extended period of time.<br /><br />Summer time can be fun, but make sure you follow these tips to help you avoid skin damage and the increased risk of skin cancer for you and your family!<br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2012-07-23T14:00:00Z
Japanese Food for Your Little Ones
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Japanese-Food-for-Your-Little-Ones/422916666719432445.html
2012-07-16T14:00:00Z
2012-07-16T14:00:00Z
<strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">FreshBaby.com</a><br /><br />Edamame and shiitake mushrooms are very common to Japanese cooking. Edamame (pronounced ed-ah-MAH-may) are little green gems - packed with protein and loads of nutrients. Including shiitake mushrooms in this puree is a great way to introduce your baby to the distinctive taste of umami. <br /><br /><span style="color: #ff0000;"><strong>Shiitake & Edamame Puree</strong></span><img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/jfood_1.jpg" alt="Edamame Puree" width="275" height="275" /><br />
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<li> 4 oz. Shiitake mushrooms, stems removed </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 Tbsp. olive oil </li>
</ul>
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<li>12 oz. (2 cups) shelled edamame </li>
</ul>
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<li>3/4 - 1 cup water </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 tsp. soy sauce, <em>optional</em></li>
</ul>
Directions: Bring 6 cups of water to boil in a stock pot. Add edamame and cook for 4 minutes. Drain edamame in a colander and place them in a blender or food processor. In a small sauté pan, heat oil over medium heat, add mushrooms and cook for 2-3 minutes. <br /><br />Add the mushrooms, soy sauce and 3/4 cup of water to the edamame in the blender. Process until the mixture is a smooth puree. If needed, add additional water. <br /><br />Spoon the puree into your So Easy Baby Food Trays, cover and freeze until ready to use. Serve as a vegetable dish for your baby's meal with mashed brown rice, meats or fish. <br /><br /><span style="color: #ff0000;"><strong><br />Toddler Treat: Okonomiyaki</strong></span><br /><br />Okonomiyaki is a Japanese-style pancake and is very popular with kids. There are restaurants all over Japan that specialize in making okonomiyaki. These places have special tables with a griddle built into them. Families are seated around the griddle, they cook their okonomiyaki and eat them. We chose to make this dish with cabbage, green onions and shrimp, but you can use almost any shredded vegetable and chopped meat combination. <br /><br /><strong>Okonomiyaki Pancakes:</strong><img style="float: right; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/jfood_3.jpg" alt="Okonomiyaki Pancakes" width="275" height="275" /><br />
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<li>1/4 cup flour </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 tsp. baking powder </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 egg </li>
</ul>
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<li>3 Tbsp. water </li>
</ul>
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<li>3/4 cup Nappa cabbage, shredded </li>
</ul>
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<li>5 cooked shrimp, chopped or 1/4 cup cooked chicken, chopped </li>
</ul>
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<li>2 green onions (green parts only), chopped</li>
</ul>
<strong>Okonomiyaki Sauce</strong>:<br />
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<li>3 Tbsp. ketchup </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 tsp. Worcestershire sauce </li>
</ul>
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<li>1 tsp. soy sauce</li>
</ul>
Directions: Combine flour and baking powder in a medium size mixing bowl. Gently mix in the water and egg. Next, add the cabbage, shrimp and green onions and mix them together thoroughly.<br /><br /><img style="float: left; margin: 5px;" src="/images/blog/jfood_2.jpg" alt="Okonomiyaki Sauce" width="275" height="275" />Heat a skillet over medium heat and lightly oil. Spoon the okonomiyaki mixture into the skillet to make 2 pancakes (about 4-inches wide).<br /><br />Cook about 4-5 minutes and turn it over with a spatula and cook an additional 4 minutes. Both sides should be a light golden brown and the pancake will be firm in the center.<br /><br />Serve on a plate and spread the sauce over the okonomiyaki<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><br />Cheryl Tallman</strong> is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of <em>So Easy Baby Food</em> and the new book <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br /><br /><br />
Staff
2012-07-16T14:00:00Z
We See Too Much of Katy Perry in 'Part of Me'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/We-See-Too-Much-of-Katy-Perry-in-Part-of-Me/-723576206411389402.html
2012-07-09T21:00:00Z
2012-07-09T21:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
"I look 16, and I act 16, but I'm not 16," Katy Perry says at one point to a young fan in her new 3D documentary concert movie, <em>Part of Me</em>, where cameras follow her over the course of her 365 day world tour in 2011. That's just what I was thinking - the brightly colored 3D movie looks like it should be for young girls, and there are parts that will appeal to them, but it's not as young and girlish as it seems. <br /><br />Stories and interviews intertwined with Katy's live concert performances of the songs off her <em>Teenage Dream</em> album move the film along, but the best parts of the film are the pictures and home movies of a young Katy pre-stardom. She is shown singing gospel music during her childhood years, and then video diaries of a teenage Katy are shown that express her prophetic dreams for the future. These sweet, earlier moments make the film, and her fans are sure to love them. Katy's family and friends who make up her entourage also give interviews to fill in how Katy rose to fame. In large part it's an American success story about hard work and sacrifice, and it's amazing that so much memorabilia was saved to document it. <br /><br />However, things take a turn, and we get a little too much information when Katy talks about how "people love a story of a good girl gone bad." She talks about her Christian background and how she eventually rebelled against her family's values by ditching gospel music for songs like the one that first made her a household name- "I Kissed a Girl (And I Liked It)." Her parents sit uncomfortably through their interviews during this phase. I felt bad for them, as Katy talked in too much depth about (even mocking) her devoutly Christian parents. For younger viewers, I wished she'd skipped straight to the part where she eventually says she still has a relationship with God. <br /> <br />The movie is rated PG for other heavy emotional issues. While Katy's fans and her desire to be in the spotlight are what fuel her throughout, we also get a look into her relationship with actor-comedian Russell Brand, and how her grueling year-long concert schedule ended their brief marriage. <br /><br />There are also plenty of provocative details for younger viewers, which should actually earn the film a PG-13 rating. In the first five minutes of the movie, Katy is trying on various costumes when she yelps, "This one makes my ass look like Nicki Minaj!" The enhancement of her chest in many costumes and the performances to songs like "I wanna see your peacock!" are just too suggestive for the bubblegum pop audience it tries to reach.<br /><br />Though the 3D feature had some neat moments, like bubbles and beach balls during concert sequences that appeared close enough to touch, it wasn't worth the steep price of 3D admission. As my 10-year-old said when I told him the movie was 3D, "Aren't movies about sharks or piranhas supposed to be in 3D? Why would one about a concert be?" I couldn't have said it any better, except somehow the 3D glasses cast us perfectly in Katy Perry's uber-costume world. <br /><br />Still, for a mother-daughter day of bonding, I say skip <em>Part of Me</em> and go look at the fashions at the mall instead.
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</p>
Staff
2012-07-09T21:00:00Z
Cleaning Tips to Save Time and Money
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Cleaning-Tips-to-Save-Time-and-Money/118862471916712773.html
2012-07-02T14:00:00Z
2012-07-02T14:00:00Z
<strong>by Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam </strong><br /><a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com</a><br /><br /><strong>Here are some quick tips to save time and energy by changing your habits:</strong><br /><br />*<strong>First,<a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/improve-life-dressed/"> get dressed, comb your hair and put on a comfortable pair of shoes</a>.</strong> You wouldn't show up at the office or work in your pajamas. Take your home and family's needs that seriously, and get dressed! <br /><br /><strong>*<a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/kids-chore-chart/" target="_blank">Kids chores:</a> Have the kids make their own beds and pick up their rooms before they leave for school. </strong>The fastest way to get this done is to make sure that no one eats breakfast or turns on the TV until it's done. When I first put this rule to the test, I went from one hour of nagging and accomplishing nothing to 15 minutes of peace and quiet with clean rooms and groomed children.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/clean-organize-minutes/" target="_blank"><strong>*5 minute organizing:</strong></a> While on the phone, clean out a desk drawer or your purse. Put away the DVDs or tapes lying around the TV. These small sorting projects can really make a huge difference in the amount of time you spend cleaning.<br /><br /><strong>* If clothes are clean, hang them up and wear them again. </strong><br /><br /><strong>* Let each family member use one towel per week.</strong><br /><br /><strong>* Allow family members to eat only at the table to avoid food messes in the rest of the house.</strong><br /><br /><strong>* Make toddlers wear a bib or oversized T-shirt when eating. </strong><br /><br /><strong>* Serve only light-colored drinks</strong> such as white grape juice, lemonade, and water if you have light-colored carpet <br /><br /><strong>* Don't overdo it when buying clothes.</strong> 10 days worth of clothing is plenty for most people. <br /><br /><strong>* Buy clothes that don't need to be taken to the dry cleaners.</strong><br /><br /><strong>* Don't clean if the house doesn't need it.</strong> Who says you have to vacuum everything every week? For a seldom used room like a guest room, don't waste time vacuuming it every week.<br /><br /><strong>* Don't dust until you see dust.</strong><br /><br /><strong>* If there is something that continually frustrates you, fix it.</strong> If you can't find you keys, put a nail in the wall and hang them by the door. Hang the keys there as soon as you walk in and you will know right where they are when you leave. It literally takes 30 seconds to pound a nail into the wall to solve a chronic problem. I once heard someone refer to this as being "too busy driving to stop for gas." <br /><br /><strong>Homemade Cleaning Recipes</strong> <br /><br /><strong>All-Purpose/Window Cleaner</strong><br /><br />2 Tbsp. ammonia<br />1/2 cup rubbing alcohol <br />water<br />1/4 tsp. dishwashing liquid<br /><br />Put the ammonia and rubbing alcohol in a spray bottle. Fill almost to the top with water. <br /><br />Add dishwashing liquid and mix. Top off with water. This is rated to work better (and much cheaper!) than most commercial window and kitchen sprays by Consumer Reports magazine. <br /><br /><strong>Cleaner for Stainless Steel Sink</strong><br /><br />1/2 borax<br />1/2 baking soda<br /><br />Mix and scour on sink. Rinse well.<br /><br /><strong>Fruit and Vegetable Wash</strong><br /><br />You really don't need a special cleaner for your fruits and vegetables. Just wash them with a weak solution of dish detergent and a scrub brush. This works just fine. If you still insist on using a special wash, this is a good recipe that is the same as the "natural" stuff in the store.<br /><br />1 Tbsp. lemon juice<br />2 Tbsp. baking soda <br />1 cup water<br /><br />Put ingredients in a spray bottle. Be careful because it will foam up. Spray on vegetables. Let sit 5 minutes then rinse with a scrub brush.<br /><br /><strong>Homemade Laundry Soap</strong><br /><br />1/3 bar Fels-Naptha Laundry Soap, grated<br />6 cups water<br />1/2 cup washing soda<br />1/2 cup borax<br /><br />Heat 6 cups water and soap in a large pan until dissolved. Stir in washing soda and borax. Mix and heat until dissolved. Boil 15 minutes. Remove from heat. (It will have the consistency of honey.*) In a 3 or 5 gallon bucket, add 1 quart of hot water. Then add the soap mixture. Mix. Add enough cold water to make 2 gallons of the mixture. Mix until well blended. Let sit 24 hours. The soap will gel.* Use 1/2 cup for each load. <br /><br />Makes 2 gallons.<strong> (Approx. $.40 per gallon)</strong><br /><br />*If the detergent doesn't gel or reach honey consistency, it will still work. <br /><br /><strong>Notes:</strong><br /><br />*Stir before each use as this does separate. Detergent can be stored in a liquid detergent bottle. Then, just shake it up each time you use it. It is safe for HE washers.<br /><br />*This detergent will not sud up in the washer, but it is still getting your clothes clean.<br /><br />*If you have extra-hard water, the soap may not clean as well. Add 1/2 cup borax or washing soda to the load and that may help.<br /><br />*If you do not like this laundry soap, you can still use the Fels-Naptha bar for spot cleaning and to rub on stains. The borax and washing soda are great to add to your regular detergent for extra cleaning. <br /><br /><strong>Jill Cooper </strong>and <strong>Tawra Kellam</strong> are frugal living experts and the authors of the <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/store/dining-dime-cookbook/" target="_blank"><em>Dining On A Dime Cookbook.</em></a> <em>Dining On A Dime</em> will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes visit <a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com</a>, sign up for our<a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/newsletter-signups/" target="_blank"> free Living On A Dime Newsletter</a> and learn to save more! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
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2012-07-02T14:00:00Z
'Brave' Proves It's Anti-Princess By Being Anti-Boy
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Brave-Proves-Its-Anti-Princess-By-Being-Anti-Boy/394559796709012344.html
2012-06-25T14:01:00Z
2012-06-25T14:01:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
Sweet Snow White and demure Cinderella are passé, yet my young daughters still adore them. Even so, the archetype for Disney's leading ladies has shifted over time to valiant heroines who don't need any rescuing. In fact, the new Disney princesses of the past 20 years have started saving the prince too. Therefore I expected <em>Brave</em> to be a tough, girl power film, and it is. It also proves princess movies don't have to have lots of pink or even (for the first time) a romantic love story. What I didn't expect is for <em>Brave</em> to go so far as to be anti-male and anti-marriage to push its feminist message.<br /><br />The protagonist, Merida, is a princess living with her parents and three little brothers centuries ago in the highlands of Scotland. When her parents plan for her customary betrothal, Merida rebels, and by taking matters into her own hands, sets off a sequence of cataclysmic events. <br /><br />Her mother, Queen Elinor, symbolizes everything Merida loathes. In early scenes, she is loving and playful with her daughter, but over time, the Queen becomes rigid and unhappy, married to someone who's not her intellectual peer. She attempts to tame Merida's fiery free spirit by turning her into "all that a princess should be...perfection." Merida doesn't want fancy clothes or to sit like a delicate flower - she'd much rather shoot arrows and ride her horse. "I don't want my life to be over," she declares. "I want my freedom!" I kept expecting someone, anyone, to come into the film at this point to show Merida how wonderful and harmonious marriage can be.<br /><br />Instead, all I could think was, <em>I wouldn't want to marry any of the men she has to choose from either</em>. In fact, not one boy or man in the movie is shown in a positive light. Her little brothers are juvenile delinquents; the suitors are all stupid and ugly; and her own father plays the central buffoon, a barbarian who can't stop retelling the same story of his hatred for bears. I kept waiting for a man, any male at all, to be shown as respected. Even Merida's male horse, Angus, lets her down. <br /><br />It is said in the film that "one selfish act can turn the face of a kingdom" and it does. Merida is not brave, but selfish, and her mother pays the highest price. Merida barely apologizes until her mother is in mortal danger. Until then, we are supposed to buy that mother and daughter are learning to appreciate one another. Queen Elinor is forced to let go of her perfectionist ways, but Merida - she doesn't change much at all. She doesn't show compassion for her mom, who must lose all her former dignity before she can see Merida's point of view. If any of the characters are supposed to be brave, it's Queen Elinor - certainly not Merida.<br /> <br /><em>Brave</em> earns its PG rating mostly for violence. There are several brawls and scary bear chases. There are also a few sorcery scenes that could be scary for younger viewers. Though it's an animated film, in one scene a group of men are left without kilts and we actually see their bare butts. That's a first as far as I know for animated films.<br /><br />The music, animation, and landscapes of Scotland are nice to see on the big screen. Teens might identify with the mother/ child miscommunication. Yet overall, I can't recommend <em>Brave</em>, which is a shame after all the hype. <br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-06-25T14:01:00Z
No Need for Anyone Under 25 to See 'Rock of Ages'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/No-Need-for-Anyone-Under-25-to-See-Rock-of-Ages/-117107911216583720.html
2012-06-25T14:00:00Z
2012-06-25T14:00:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
A struggling musician from Oklahoma (Julianne Hough) arrives with empty pockets but big dreams when she meets Drew (Diego Boneta), a wannabe rocker making ends meet as a busboy at a faded, but legendary, nightclub in the movie musical <em>Rock of Ages</em>. <br /><br />Set in 1987 on the Sunset Strip in Hollywood, Sherrie and Drew sing their naïve hearts out with hopes that the jaded world of rock 'n' roll might be a little less cruel if they navigate it together. <br /><br />Meanwhile, savvy veterans in the industry like fictional rock icon Stacee Jaxx (Tom Cruise) and nightclub owner Alec Baldwin begin to realize fame and fortune aren't all they're chalked up to be.<br /><br />Cruise is a caricature of lead singers from the 1980s rock era. He's nocturnal - glaring, grunting behind a pair of shades until the sun goes down each night. It is then that he comes to life, sex fueled, gyrating as he growls songs like "Pour Some Sugar on Me."<br /><br />In true musical fashion, the actors break into dozens of classic 80s songs by Bon Jovi, Guns N Roses, Scorpions, Foreigner, and many more - just the right song, right when the moment calls for it, and it's the soundtrack that makes the film. The audience will laugh and sing along, but without the music, the movie is lackluster with vapid characters and a predictable storyline. <br /><br /><em>Rock of Ages</em> is PG-13, but it should have an R-rating. There are multiple graphic sex scenes and several more scenes set to pole dancing in strip clubs. Plenty of skin is shown throughout, and it's not only women. Tom Cruise is never seen with a shirt on, and in his opening scene, he wears chaps that expose more than any of us expected. Cruise's character is either drunk, pelvic thrusting, or sticking his tongue in someone's mouth (or ear) in every scene he's in. Catherine Zeta-Jones plays the hypocritical wife of the mayor of Los Angeles, hell-bent on bringing down "the filth" of rock 'n' roll, but just as raunchy as the rest of them.<br /><br />A big screen musical that parodies the big hair bands of the 1980s, <em>Rock of Ages</em> should only be seen by Generation Xers because of its nostalgia to that time. The references to the culture and styles back then are abundant and will go right past younger viewers. <br /><br />Yet, if it weren't for the great soundtrack and fresh twist on the songs, I wouldn't recommend this movie at all. <br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-06-25T14:00:00Z
Spring Clean Your Skin
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Spring-Clean-Your-Skin/861009843962623329.html
2012-06-18T14:04:00Z
2012-06-18T14:04:00Z
<strong>By David Pollock</strong><br /><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com </a><br /><br />Every year around this time, we say good-bye to winter by "spring cleaning" our homes. Millions of us open up the windows to air things out, we deep clean our closets, and dust areas we haven't had the time to touch in months - all to create that fresh and new feeling.<br /><br />But what about your skin? In the spring, I am most often asked what is the best thing to do for dry skin. Most people don't realize that for the last several months, your skin has been cooped up and damaged by exposure to the drying effects of winter. <br /><br />Don't worry - I have a few simple steps to help you refresh and renew your healthy skin. Keep in mind, this is not about pampering yourself - it's about the essential steps you need for radiant "spring skin."<br /><br /><strong>Step 1: OUT WITH THE OLD! </strong><br />I often hear about people using their favorite product sparingly - trying to make it last as long as possible. This is a big mistake for two major reasons: <br /><br />If you have a good product, use it! Most products are formulated to be used a certain way. If you use less than the intended amount, you are not going to get the result you are looking for.<br /><br />Every time you open the product and touch it, you're exposing the product to contamination. And, no matter how tight you seal the cap, the product changes due to evaporation. So, I suggest using up the product or throwing it away within six months of first opening the container.<br /><br />So, go through your bathroom and throw away all makeup and skin-care products that are over 6 months old. Then go ahead and replace them with new, fresh products. <br /> <br /><strong>Step 2: MIX IT UP</strong><br />Buying the latest spring makeup trends is not only healthy, but fun. Some people may fear the cost, but it doesn't have to be expensive for you to be prepared for the new season. When you are revamping your makeup box, go for those key essentials (the ones you can't live without). Try finding affordable brands, then replacing your makeup will be a cinch and keeping that youthful in-style glow will be a breeze. <br /><br />As the season approaches you may find yourself outside more often, which causes a different effect on your skin. As the weather changes, your skin becomes more exposed to humidity and perspiration. I recommend changing your skin-care regimen to match your spring and summer lifestyle. Consider lighter, quicker absorbing moisturizers. Try an eye gel instead of an eye cream. <br /><br />Try some of the newest anti-aging serums that have hit the market. And for those susceptible to age spots and uneven skin tones, consider an age spot treatment - especially if you plan on spending more time outdoors in this new season.<br /><br /><strong>Step 3: SPONGES, LOOFAHS & BRUSHES</strong><br />Every few months you should replace your toothbrush because of worn out bristles and the buildup of bacteria. You should also do the same with your makeup sponges, your bathing sponges, and loofahs. They are prime hiding places for bacteria and mold. Look for sponges and loofahs that have a rope, so they can hang and dry out after use.<br /><br />Makeup brushes can be expensive so, if they are worn or moldy, you really need to throw them away. However, if the brushes just have a buildup of makeup, you can clean them. Tap or shake off any loose powder in to the sink. Then, hold them under very warm running water with the bristles pointing downwards. Take a small amount of liquid dishwasher soap on your fingertips and gently work through the bristles. Rinse again. Repeat until the water runs clear. Then set aside to dry before using.<br /><br /><strong>Step 4: OUT WITH THE OLD</strong><br />Now you are ready for the most dramatic step of all! Wash your skin, and remove all your makeup. Exfoliate your skin with a deep physical exfoliator, like an almond, walnut or bamboo scrub. Don't be shy. You want to remove all the old dead skin cells, and reveal the younger skin underneath. <br /><br />Next, apply your favorite clay mask to purify and revitalize your skin. Let it sit for 15 minutes. Rinse well, washing away impurities. Follow with your treatment serums, moisturizer, and eye gel. <br /><br />You should instantly see fresh, radiant, younger-looking skin - ready to start the new spring season. It's time to put everyone on hold and take a moment for yourself, so you can put a new spring in your step. You deserve it! <br /><br /><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality, and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
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2012-06-18T14:04:00Z
A Slow Start, But Ultimately Lots of Heart in 'Madagascar 3'
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Slow-Start,-But-Ultimately-Lots-of-Heart-in-Madagascar-3/608469309101288229.html
2012-06-11T14:02:00Z
2012-06-11T14:02:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
Running away with the circus and many more adventures have the <em>Madagascar</em> friends shrieking, soaring, and train hopping across Europe, their third continent in as many movies. In hot pursuit of them is the officer of animal control, and she's hungry to mount their heads as trophies on her already full wall. <br /><br />The first half of <em>Madagascar 3: Europe's Most Wanted</em> whizzes along, heavy on action with a weak, convoluted plot. Too many characters stuffed in confuses things and it's unclear why they're all there. My 4-year-old's mouth hung open, a scowl on her face, during the many action scenes. I counted one dizzying action every 5 seconds during the first 30 minutes of the just under 90 minute movie.<br /><br />The storyline finally steadies and becomes interesting once the crew collects themselves to help their new friends revitalize a has-been European circus. <br /><br />With the current trend of swapping now politically incorrect circus animals for humans performing glamorous special effects (think Cirque de Soleil), the gang sets out to do both: have <em>animals</em>, and animals only, perform a modern, dazzling circus show.<br /><br />Alex (Ben Stiller), Melman (David Schwimmer), Gloria (Jada Pinkett-Smith), and Marty (Chris Rock) are still the reason the <em>Madagascar</em> franchise works. Despite the fancy special effects, their characters alone are what ultimately make us laugh, smile, and care about what happens. <br /><br />Kudos also go out for the writing of the new European circus friends- from Stefano the sensitive Italian sea lion to Vitaly, the stoic Russian tiger, they are just as zany and lovable, and bring out even more characteristics we hadn't seen yet in the original <em>Madagascar</em> animals. Some of the best laughs in the movie come from the pairing of lofty King Julien with a new character, Sonya, the simple, tricycle-riding bear.<br /><br />The soundtrack doesn't compare with the original <em>Madagascar</em>. There are no original hit songs that stand out like the smash hit "We Like to Move It." The closest song is Chris Rock's "Circus Afro," but it's not nearly as catchy.<br /><br />In the end, whatever continent the characters travel, or whatever feats they struggle to overcome, the four friends are still the heart of the film. The moral "Home Is Where the Heart Is" can be discussed with kids after watching, as can "Be Careful What You Wish For- You Just Might Get It." There are also topics to discuss with kids surrounding making new friends and/ or the importance of using our imaginations.<br /><br />Because of mature dialogue, some violence, and quick action sequences, this film earns its PG rating and I wouldn't take kids under 6 to see it.<br />
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-06-11T14:02:00Z
Latest Snow White is More Grimm than Disney
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Latest-Snow-White-is-More-Grimm-than-Disney/95566918648023962.html
2012-06-04T14:10:00Z
2012-06-04T14:10:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p>We first see that familiar flicker of hate glimmer in the evil stepmother's eyes on her wedding day to the King - an impossibly young, yet not yet mature, Snow White turns more heads processing down the aisle than the new stepmother. So sets the stage for the monstrous jealousy that consumes the Queen, with the magic mirror serving as instigator. We know how the story goes, but in this latest version of it, <em>Snow White and the Huntsman</em>, the focus is on Snow White's escape to the woods, when the Queen forces a skilled huntsman to bring back Snow White's heart. This latest retelling has more disturbing Grimm fairytale components in it, rather than Disney milk and kindness, to be sure. Yet, the original way new details are written into the story to give it more depth while still sticking to the classic plot, won't be lost on teens and older viewers.</p>
<p>We see more dimensions to the characters we thought we knew so well. The stepmother's backstory is explained - how a damaged childhood left her clinging to her looks; there's a good reason why it's Snow White's heart she wants above all else; and just why the Queen's vanity can never be satiated. </p>
<p>The dwarves still fall for the sweet girl and protect her like a cherished friend, yet they are warriors who are savvy and street smart too.</p>
<p>The Prince isn't a flat, one-dimensional character who just appears out of thin air either. It's suspenseful who the Prince even <em>is</em> until the end.</p>
<p>Yet, of all the characters, Snow White is probably still the most flat, and that hasn't changed in this movie.</p>
<p>There are 2 disturbing scenes that earn this film its PG-13 rating - in one the Queen rips out a commoner's heart with her bare hands. We can't see any blood - it's all really just insinuation in the scary scenes like this one. But what makes the movie eerie are the big production sound effects, chilling music, and use of magic. The magical, fantasy elements to the story are so vital to the script the device is practically a character itself. </p>
<p>As for romance, there is hardly any except for one scene early on when the Queen is in bed with the King - I thought there would be a sex scene by the way it was going, but there isn't. The rest of the film is as chaste as Snow White.</p>
<p>Teens will enjoy the heavy use of symbolism, especially if a few examples are pointed out to them first. Light and dark imagery is used almost excessively throughout. The world is bleak, physically gray, the first half of the film. Snow White comes across a wild stallion, white, symbolizing hope and new, good things to come. The world brightens with comic levity and flowers even once the dwarves come on the scene. The stepmother's name is Ravenna, yet she has golden hair. Snow White is pure and sweet, with a head of dark hair.</p>
<p>With two Snow White movies out in 2012 - this and <em>Mirror, Mirror</em> - it's hard not to compare the two. <em>Snow White and the Huntsman</em> is astronomically better than <em>Mirror, Mirror</em>. It's compelling, original, and the choices to enhance the classic story are smart instead of cheesy.</p>
<p>Still, I would hold off showing children younger than 12 <em>Snow White and the Huntsman</em>.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-06-04T14:10:00Z
Take the Time for Tea
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Take-the-Time-for-Tea/196655829112760126.html
2012-05-29T19:48:00Z
2012-05-29T19:48:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
A funny thing happened to me yesterday. As I dashed around, running to the store, buying birthday gifts and groceries, preparing for all the kids to be out of school for summer vacation starting today, I paused to take my 4 and 6 year olds to the park. There was another mom there who I've known for the past 4 years, but haven't really "known." She is an Indian immigrant whose two children are the same ages as two of mine. <br /> <br />As we made small talk and watched our younger children play, I found her so open and warm, and before I knew it we were talking about her background. She holds a Ph.D. in Biology from India, for one thing, and I was fascinated to learn she and her family are vegans. I asked her how she stays full and satisfied eating mainly legumes, fruits and vegetables. What do her kids like to eat?<br /><br />She rises early to make Indian food every day. Naan baked with cauliflower and other fresh vegetables are a staple in her kids' lunches. They like to snack on garbanzo beans - and not the kind from a can.<br /> <br />We dashed to get her son and my daughter off to their last regular day of kindergarten. I offered them a ride for the short distance to our school since she doesn't drive. <br /> <br />She opened her son's lunch so I could see the Tupperware filled with delicious and nutritious food as we walked them in. This reminded me to rush back and grab the bag of Cheez-Its from the Target bag in my trunk to add to my daughter's lunchbox. "Hey, whose Cheez-Its?," her son asked, in his American accent, when I flashed the orange-red package quickly in the transfer, feeling somewhat sheepish.<br /><br />I offered her a ride home after we dropped off our kids, which she gladly accepted, saying she needed to start the evening meal, but not before she would enjoy her afternoon tea.<br /> <br />She invited my 4 year old and I to join her for tea. I declined right away, not used to being spur of the moment in the middle of the day, and the groceries, though not perishable, sat in the back of my car. "Sure, why not," I said, impressed that she'd have us with no preparation. <br /> <br />She whipped up a pot of authentic chai tea and shared that day's fresh samosas with us. <br /> <br />We discussed her arranged marriage, our dreams for our children, and her amazing mother - who the very thought of brings on pangs of homesickness for my new friend, but also an irrepressible smile. When seeing her daughter only once every 2 years, her mother insists she spend the first half of each trip back to India at her mother-in-law's, even though the in-laws are a 9-hour drive from the airport and she, herself, is only 3 hours away.<br /> <br />I could have talked to her all day. I left refreshed, kicking myself for waiting until nearly the last day of school to get to know her, but glad to have taken the time to have tea with a neighbor, who I hope to now call my friend.
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-05-29T19:48:00Z
Healthy Habits: Introducing Your Family to Red Foods
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Healthy-Habits:-Introducing-Your-Family-to-Red-Foods/-886324883101918053.html
2012-05-15T23:15:00Z
2012-05-15T23:15:00Z
<p><strong>By Cheryl Tallman</strong><br /><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">FreshBaby.com</a></p>
<p>In Japan, the color red signifies energy and power and is often used as a color for heroic figures. This is a good description because when you include red fruits and vegetables in your child's meals, they will grow up strong like superheroes.</p>
<p>Red foods are packed with lots of vitamins and minerals like vitamin A, vitamin C and potassium. Red foods also contain compounds called phytochemicals, which have been shown to have positive health benefits. Phytochemicals you might have heard about include flavonoids, lycopene, reservatol and capsaicin.</p>
<p>Make a game out of letting your kids choose one "superhero" red food to eat every day. <strong>Our favorite red foods include:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Strawberries </strong>- Strawberries are loaded with vitamin C, potassium, and folate. Strawberries are best fresh, for a special treat add them to yogurt, cereal and smoothies.</li>
<li><strong>Tomatoes</strong> -Tomatoes are a great source of lycopene, potassium and vitamin C. They taste great fresh off the vine and cooked in sauces, stews and soups. Try them with scrambled eggs.</li>
<li><strong>Red Peppers</strong> - A bright red pepper contains potassium, vitamin A and vitamin C. Red Peppers can be served raw as a snack or in salads, cooked in pasta and stir fry dishes or roasted in soups and stews.</li>
<li><strong>Apples</strong> - The wonderful shiny red apple contains soluble fiber, pectin and flavonoids. For a healthy afternoon snack, slice an apple and top with peanut butter. Yummy!</li>
<li><strong>Watermelon</strong> - You know its summer time when you see watermelons. Watermelons are packed with vitamin A, vitamin C and lycopene. A big slice of fresh watermelon is sure to put a smile on your little one's face.</li>
<li><strong>Red Beets</strong> - Red beets contain iron, niacin and potassium. Start introducing red beets to kids in salads or roasted with olive oil and ground pepper. Pickled red beets are also a good introduction.</li>
<li><strong>Red Grapes</strong> - Red Grapes contain flavonoids, reservatol and quercitin to help keep your heart healthy and strong. Grapes are a great snack. Freeze them for a hot summertime treat.</li>
<li><strong>Cherries</strong> - Cherries are considered a nutritional super food because they are loaded with antioxidants and vitamins and, they taste great! Remove the pits to make it easier for little ones to enjoy this delicious treat.</li>
</ul>
<p><br />About the author: <strong>Cheryl Tallman </strong>is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food </em>and the new book <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips</em> and <em>Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-05-15T23:15:00Z
Busy with Kids? Five Ways Moms Can Still Grow
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2012-05-07T14:24:00Z
2012-05-07T14:24:00Z
<p><strong>Mia Redrick</strong><br /><a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com</a><br /><br /><br />As a mom, when was the last time you really did something for yourself? Odds are, you probably don't remember. Or if you do remember, it was quite a long time ago. The problem with motherhood is we have a tendency to put our children's, husbands, and everyone else's needs before our own. It often feels like that's what we were meant to do. </p>
<p>Moms have the natural ability to nurture everyone around them, but the problem with motherhood is we spend so much time nurturing everyone else we forget to take care of ourselves. A mom simply has to take care of herself and continue to grow in her own life, or it's only a matter of time before she finds herself unable to help her children grow. </p>
<p>Here five simple ways moms can help themselves to personally grow.</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Take yourself on a date.</strong> Just as married couples need regular dates and time alone together, you also need some time to yourself. A mom's days are full of requests and demands from everyone. She needs regular dates when the only demands she hears are from her own mind. You can never grow if you don't take a little bit of time to indulge your own interests now and then. Spend some time enjoying "me time" at your favorite bookstore or have lunch out with the girls one day. It can even be as simple as spending some quiet moments with your journal at the park. </li>
<li><strong>Plan ahead and let others help you.</strong> As moms, we often feel the need to be super women. We find a way to bake three dozen cupcakes for our child's bake sale, take the kids to soccer practice and dance class and still have a perfectly cooked dinner on the table at six p.m. The problem with this scenario is it usually means the things you need to get done, simply don't get done. Each night just make it a point to plan for the next day. Prioritize what you need to get done and rank your to-do's in order of importance. Figure out how to delegate some of your tasks and ask your family to help you. Chances are, they will appreciate being able to help "Super Mom" save the day.</li>
<li><strong>Write a self-affirmation statement that gives you power and repeat it to yourself every day.</strong> Remember the things we focus on in life are the things we enact. Writing a self-affirmation statement is one thing you can do to set yourself up for a successful way of life. It should affirm something you enjoy doing and set a goal for self-care. Affirmations are terrific ways to empower us. Identify two places where you will see your affirming statements several times per day. Some ideas for locations include the bathroom mirror, the steering wheel of your car, or on your work computer.</li>
<li><strong>Blend the things you need to do with your family activities.</strong> It's been said you should work smarter, not harder, and the same truth applies to motherhood. Get creative with the things you need to accomplish by doing them at the same time as your family activities. When you are choosing an activity for your child, ask yourself how you can care for yourself while caring for your children. Think about what you can bring with you while waiting in the carpool line. It might be a book on tape, your calendar, or a puzzle book that will take your mind off of your to-do list. If you've been missing out on exercise, take your kids to the park and let them play while you take a walk or run around the park. </li>
<li><strong>Set a personal goal for yourself and then make time to meet it.</strong> Growing is all about meeting our goals, and you're the only one who can make time to do it. Only you know what you truly want to do, although you may have forgotten exactly what it is. Spend some time getting to know yourself again and remember all the parts you gave up in order to be what you think of as the perfect mom. Once you realize what it is you've been missing, set a goal to accomplish it, and then put yourself to the task. Get your family involved in your goal, and they're sure to cheer you along every step of the way.</li>
</ol>
<p>Growing is something that comes naturally to all of us, and it's up to us to ensure we don't forget to grow ourselves along the way. Take control of your life back and remember to nurture yourself so you can continue to nurture others.</p>
<p><strong>Mia Redrick,</strong> Mom Strategist is a mom of three, author and speaker empowering one million mothers to practice better self-care. Redrick is the author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Time-mom-Me-Essential-Strategies-Self-Care/dp/0979627303/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288711627&sr=1-1" target="_blank">Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother's Self-Care</a>. For tips from The Mom Strategist visit <a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-05-07T14:24:00Z
Making the Best Snack Choices for Your Child
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2012-04-30T14:24:00Z
2012-04-30T14:24:00Z
<p><strong>By Erin Palinski</strong><br /><a href="http://www.erinpalinski.com" target="_blank">www.erinpalinski.com</a><br /><br />When choosing a nutritious after school snack for your child there are many things to consider. You may ask yourself "is this snack food too high in sugar?" Does this snack contain too much fat or too many calories" or even "Will this snack help keep my child satisfied until dinner?" With so many snack choices out there, it can be hard to know what will make the best choice for you child.</p>
<p>Here are a few tips to help you make the best choice when choosing an after school snack:</p>
<ul>
<li>First, look for a snack that contains a good source of whole grains, is high in fiber (3 or more grams), and contains little to no added sugars. For instance, if you want to give your son or daughter cheese and crackers after school, choose a cracker made from 100% whole grain, such as 100% rye crisps or stone wheat crackers.</li>
<li>If you need the snack to keep your child full for more than two hours, choose a snack high in lean protein or healthy fats. Both protein and fat take longer to digest than carbohydrate, making snacks high in these nutrients long lasting. Consider snack choices including foods such as low fat string cheese, natural peanut butter, or even lean deli meats.</li>
<li>Concerned about calories? If your child needs to lose or maintain their body weight, it is important to provide them with healthy, lower calorie snack options. However, to do this and still keep your child satisfied can be tricky. Aim for snacks that are large in volume but low in calories such as air popped popcorn (3 cups = 100 calories), fresh fruit (1 medium piece of fruit provides approximately 80 calories), or raw vegetables with 2-3 Tbs of hummus or low fat dip. Not only are these snacks low in calories, they are loaded with healthy fiber, helping to keep your child satisfied until dinner.</li>
<li>Have a picky eater? Encourage your child to try new fruit and vegetable options by providing fun dip options such as applesauce, peanut butter, and low fat yogurt.</li>
</ul>
<p>There are plenty of tasty, nutritious, kid friendly snack options available. With a bit of planning, you can find a variety of healthy snack ideas to please any child!</p>
<p><br /><strong>Erin Palinski, RD, CDE, LDN, CPT</strong> is a nationally recognized nutrition & fitness expert who regularly contributes to ABC News, CBS News, Fox News, News 12, <em>Consumer Reports, Glamour, Cosmopolitan,</em> and <em>Women's World</em>. She is the author of the forthcoming <em>"Belly Fat Diet for Dummies"</em> and is known as the <em>dietitian who gives practical, realistic advice that allows you to start seeing results instantly and maintain results permanently!</em> Erin is available for nutrition coaching and consultations via internet, phone, and in person at <a href="http://www.erinpalinski.com" target="_blank">www.erinpalinski.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-04-30T14:24:00Z
7 Steps to Winning the Battle with Your Picky Eater
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2012-04-23T13:50:00Z
2012-04-23T13:50:00Z
<p><strong>By Denise Mira</strong><br /><a href="http://www.denisemira.com" target="_blank">www.denisemira.com</a><br /><br />Have you noticed all the journalistic space dedicated to the "dilemma" of getting little Junior to eat his veggies? I can't quite relate to a crisis of this magnitude, especially pertaining to a forty-pound child. My five boys have always been expected to eat what's set before them. But in today's touchy-feely, politically correct culture, sometimes common sense gets thrown right out the window. Parents find themselves confused about very simple matters. So, what to do about your picky eater? Let's be discerning in an age of preschooler-pleasing parents.</p>
<p><strong>1. Our kids need to be guided in their diet.</strong> When we consider what Junior's shoveling into his mouth is, quite frankly, a life or death matter, I think some parents ought to be arrested because of how they're feeding their children. Check it out: Type 2 diabetes is deadly<sup>1</sup>, leads to heart disease, and has reached epidemic proportions in our nation, but most often can be avoided by improved lifestyle choices, starting with a healthy diet.</p>
<p><strong>2. Clean out the cupboards, fridge and freezer and remove the decoys.</strong> Everywhere I go, kids seem to exist on non-nutritive, refined products loaded with white flour, fillers, chemicals, sugar and salt. Ingredients are clearly listed on the items we purchase. Read the labels. Food is defined as 'any nutritious substance people eat or drink, in order to maintain life and growth.'<sup>2</sup> Much of what's going down the hatch simply can't be considered real 'food.' Put it where it belongs - in the trash bin.</p>
<p><strong>3. Keep an arsenal on hand of everything that grows in the ground.</strong> This is crucial to counter the indiscriminate appetites of the immature. Require the daily eating of fresh, colorful salads with a variety of vegetables and fruit in the mix.<sup>3</sup> Radishes, broccoli, oranges, sweet red peppers, sugar snap peas, purple cabbage, sprouts, sweet onion, spinach, apple, romaine, strawberries, cherry tomatoes, mushrooms, grated carrot, and turnip are some great salad ingredients. I didn't say iceberg lettuce drowning in bottled ranch dressing with so many preservatives it will never die.</p>
<p><strong>4. Ensure your child's 'hunger factor.'</strong> I never cease to be amazed by moms who overlook what their little ones are consuming throughout the day, so when meal times roll around, there is no hunger to motivate them to eat something healthful. Cut out in-between-meal munching, unless you're offering things like fresh fruit, sliced veggies, and natural peanut butter and honey on whole grain toast. Many popular snacks peddled to modern moms will fill the void but not the need. You'll be amazed at what a hungry kid will eat.</p>
<p><strong>5. Use the "eat it or go hungry" line.</strong> Mean it. Enforce it. Buddy Hackett said, "My mother's menu consisted of two choices: Take it or leave it." Don't wimp out and fix two meals. You're not a short-order cook. You're a hard-working parent who happens to be training up those little ones to live healthy and grateful lives. Spoiled children regularly turn their noses up at healthful foods. We should be ashamed of ourselves if we let them get away with it.</p>
<p><strong>6. Ration minimal and rare portions of processed foods</strong> such as sweetened breakfast cereals, deep-fried chips, cheese crackers, white bread, snack bars, and candy. We all love our occasional treats, but remember why they're called 'treats.'</p>
<p><strong>7. Make water the drink of choice at your house.</strong> Buy distilled or invest in a filter if the taste of your tap water isn't nice. Apple juice, soda, energy drinks, and iced coffees belong in the 'occasional treat' category. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.</p>
<p>We cannot feed our kids a standard American diet<sup>4</sup> and expect them to excel. Dad, Mom, perhaps you didn't have the privilege of learning this as you were growing up, but the power for change in your household is in your hands.<sup>5</sup> You can pioneer a path of 'eating to live' for your family.</p>
<p>Don't limit your child's future by teaching him to eat only what he likes. Train him to enjoy new and valuable flavors, textures and recipes. Before you know it, these forays into nutritious eating will become lifelong habits with long-term benefits. Begin today!</p>
<p>Denise Mira, public speaker, educator, author of <em>No Ordinary Child: Unlocking the Leader Within Your Child</em>, monthly columnist, and contributing author to many publications, has been married to Gregory for 31 years. They are the parents of five sons. For more information visit <a href="http://www.denisemira.com" target="_blank">www.denisemira.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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<p><sup>1</sup> 13 million Americans have Type 2 diabetes. Excess blood sugar can lead to atherosclerosis. Readers Digest pp 49-50, March 2008 Dr. Roizen and Dr. Oz</p>
<p><sup>2</sup> New Oxford American Dictionary</p>
<p><sup>3</sup> 38% of breast cancers, 45% of colon cancer and 70% of endometrial cancers could be prevented with a plant-heavy diet, exercise and healthy weight. Good Housekeeping Magazine March 2011 page 52</p>
<p><sup>4</sup> America spends more than $100 billion on healthcare needs related to obesity every year with prescription drugs for controlling diabetes making up much of that cost. Costco Magazine January 2010 pg 35.</p>
<p><sup>5</sup> 'Why Kids Are Still Obese' Parents have the greatest influence over what their children will eat. MSNBC.com July 5, 2007</p>
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2012-04-23T13:50:00Z
How to Catch and Hold onto Your Dream
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2012-04-16T15:00:00Z
2012-04-16T15:00:00Z
<p><strong>By Ann Gatty</strong><br /><a href="http://www.stress-management-4-women.com" target="_blank">www.stress-management-4-women.com</a><br /><br /><br />What do you wish to become when you grow up? What's your life long-passion, an ever-present yearning for you to fulfill? Many of us have such dreams and lifelong desires but find time is slipping by and our dreams are ever allusive.</p>
<p>Here is the secret. Turn time into a friend rather than an enemy. It is not helpful to catch and hold onto a dream if you are racing against a clock. Let's learn how time can be an ally. Let's find ways to use the hours of each day as a backdrop against which you can create masterpiece upon masterpiece.</p>
<p>We need to appreciate and enjoy life now. Let's catch the dream and start living it today. You can find there are many things you can do right now to start enjoying a journey of a more purposeful and fulfilling life.</p>
<p><br /><strong>1. Identify your passion.</strong> Ask yourself, "What do I love to do?" Have you considered how you can make money pursuing this passion? When you identify what you really love to do, then pursuing the passion will bring you the most satisfaction and allow you to stick with the ensuing tedium without loosing your enthusiasm. I believe by pursuing your passion you will shine! And people will notice. They will notice competency, self-confidence and a smile</p>
<p><strong>2. Create some joy everyday. </strong> When you wake up in the morning and begin your day, notice the people around you and find ways to make their day a little better. Maybe you can assist a co-worker to complete a task. Or help a shut-in with grocery shopping. Be happy you are capable of helping others. Again, the lesson is to appreciate and enjoy your life everyday, starting with now.</p>
<p><strong>3. Share your talents with others.</strong> Everyone has a different set of skills, abilities and knowledge. What are your best talents? How can others benefit from your abilities? Start to notice the skills you possess that others find helpful. Sharing your talents allows you to focus on others and leave your worries behind. <em>"Self-improvement comes mainly from trying to help others."</em> -Sir John Templeton</p>
<p><strong>4. Develop goals. Simple and straight forward.</strong> Goals don't have to be complex. They have to be motivating stepping stones that keep you on the path you are designing. Let others help when they can so you can share the joys of success. Keep moving forward, and always have something in your life that inspires you to reach those goals.</p>
<p><strong>5. Do something different each day.</strong> Often our time is spent navigating through our days on auto-pilot because we get into routines. By finding opportunities to change something in our routines, we allow ourselves the opportunity to notice the world around us. Living in the present allows us to appreciate and enjoy life. Leave auto-pilot behind.</p>
<p><strong>6. Read.</strong> Yes, you need to read more. Read different types of news and different types of books. If you read the <em>New York Times</em>, then read the <em>Wall Street Journal</em>. Get different perspectives. Know what is happening in the world around you. Read novels from the newest authors. The more you read, the more you shape your personality. And you become more interesting to people.</p>
<p><strong>7. Nurture the child within you.</strong> Just because you are all grown up doesn't mean you have to be adult all the time. Maintaining a sense of curiosity, wonder and adventure keeps a fresh perspective of the world around you. Take a walk in the woods, ride a bicycle, enjoy a board game. Play. It's a wonderful stress management strategy.</p>
<p><strong>8. Play nice.</strong> Give back to those who helped you. Don't make enemies. You may need them and never know where they will end up in your career path. My son is a cadet at the US Military Academy at West Point. One of the most important messages he has learned is "cooperate to graduate." He and his classmates have learned it is much better to work together to accomplish goals. This work strategy doesn't just apply to the military. It applies to all facets of life. And this is a good networking tactic. People notice whom they can trust and rely on to get their work done.</p>
<p><strong>9. Be a lifelong learner.</strong> Most of your learning occurs outside the classroom. And learning never stops. Remember life is a journey? There is always something new to learn. Learning new skills allows you to follow your passion and make your dreams a reality.</p>
<p><strong>10. Believe in yourself. </strong> You were given your abilities, talents and passions to make a difference in this world. Let the journey begin today, and live each day practicing your passion and experiencing the construction of your dream. You will enjoy the journey, and stress will take care of itself.</p>
<p><strong>Dr. Ann Gatty </strong>coaches individuals in stress management strategies and building life transitions to balance personal and professional goals. Visit her website, <a href="http://www.stress-management-4-women.com" target="_blank">www.stress-management-4-women.com</a> to learn more about <a href="http://www.stress-management-4-women.com/stress-management-tools.html" target="_blank">stress management tools</a>, stress reducing tips, and information to help women, moms and teens effectively manage their daily stressors so that they can reach their full potential in their personal and professional lives. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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Staff
2012-04-16T15:00:00Z
10 Secrets To Looking Younger - Instantly!
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2012-04-09T14:31:00Z
2012-04-09T14:31:00Z
<p><strong>By David Pollock</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">JustAskDavid.com</a></strong></p>
<p>As we grow older, our bodies start to slow down. Age sets in. But none of us want to admit it. We all want to look our best - as long as we can.</p>
<p>As a beauty expert, I have worked with cover girl models, famous celebrities and formulated anti-aging products for some of the most recognized names in the industry.</p>
<p>But, today, I want to share with you insider secrets that will help you look your best - INSTANTLY and help you AND help you realize how beautiful you really are...</p>
<p>No, I am not talking about some new miracle product. I am talking about a few simple lifestyle changes that can help you turn back the hands of time - quick and easily.</p>
<p><strong>STAND UP STRAIGHT</strong> and be proud! You will appear more confident and look younger. Here is a trick, practice standing with your arms down to your side. Next, turn your thumbs outward. Your shoulders automatically go back. Practice this, until standing up straight becomes second nature.</p>
<p><strong>SLEEP</strong> - Having a good night sleep of 7 to 8 hours gives your body a chance to rejuvenate itself. With the right amount of sleep, you will wake up looking and feeling younger, more refreshed.</p>
<p><strong>HAIR COLOR </strong>- Coloring your hair to hide the gray is a great way to hide the tell tale signs of aging. Choose a color that is close to your original color, so it naturally compliments your facial tones. If you like, consider high lights or low lights, since they do not require re-doing as often.</p>
<p><strong>HAIR STYLE</strong> - Longer hair can actually make you look tired and worn down. Shorter hair eliminates the dry ends, creates a more bouncy look and can improve your overall youthfulness. Consider side swept bangs to expose and frame your beautiful face. Also, consider a layered style to create a more lively, shinier appearance.</p>
<p><strong>MAKEUP</strong> - Avoid heavy makeup. Compliment your natural shades and don't load up on makeup. Use a light foundation, one that will not sink in to and highlight wrinkles. Try cream eye shadows. Remember to contour your face- it brightens and even makes you look thinner.</p>
<p><strong>UPDATE YOUR GLASSES</strong> - As our eyes change and our prescription glasses need changing, so does the style of frames. Updating your current frames creates a more current, up-to-date look.</p>
<p><strong>BRIGHTER SMILE</strong> - A smile changes your whole face and makes you look more radiant, distracting from areas that show your age. Along with that smile, maintain a positive attitude - blocking negative thoughts that cause stress and wrinkles. Also, consider whitening your teeth. Coffee and other foods can stain our teeth over time, creating a dull look to our smile. Make your smile look bright and young by whitening them with an at-home kit or even visit your dentist for treatments that deliver faster results.<br />You can always keep a spare toothbrush in your purse.</p>
<p><strong>DRESS RIGHT </strong>- Outdated fashions outdate you! As your body changes, so should your wardrobe. Most importantly - avoid baggy clothes. Wear outfits that compliment your body and that help hide areas of concern. Have flabby arms? Try wearing three quarter length sleeves. Also, since our skin tone becomes lighter, duller with age - look for outfits with softer colors to better match your complexion.</p>
<p><strong>UPDATE YOUR SHOES</strong> - Dull, worn and out of date shoes reflect the same on your appearance. Keep your shoes updated with the fashions and looking shiny and new.</p>
<p><strong>TAKE CARE OF YOUR SKIN</strong> - and, of course, take a few minutes every day for a proper skin care regimen that will cleanse away impurities, exfoliate dead skin cells, hydrate and nourish the newly revealed skin cells, plus an eye gel or cream to target crow's feet. Proper skin care will help restore that healthy, radiant glow!</p>
<p>You will be amazed at how fast people notice a difference in your appearance and with all the compliments you will receive.</p>
<p><br /><strong>David Pollock</strong> is a global beauty expert who has formulated products for some of the most recognized names in the business. He is a published author, radio personality and was recently named one of the "20 to Know" by Global Cosmetics Industry. Today, David is empowering women to take control of their health and beauty. Subscribe to his free newsletter at <a href="http://www.JustAskDavid.com" target="_blank">www.JustAskDavid.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-04-09T14:31:00Z
Mirror Mirror Tries to Be Fresh, But Falls Flat
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2012-04-03T14:46:00Z
2012-04-03T14:46:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p><em>Mirror Mirror</em> is told from the point of view of Snow White's evil stepmother, much like the wildly popular story <em>Wicked</em> centers on Dorothy Gale's nemesis, the wicked witch of the west. Yet where the latter achieves fresh insight into a story we all thought we knew so well, <em>Mirror Mirror</em> is a threadbare attempt to do the same, and it fails.</p>
<p>In this cynical retelling of the classic fairytale, home cooked meals aren't enough to endear Snow White to the seven dwarves or garner a permanent seat at their table. The little men with names like Chuck, Wolf and Grub tell her, "To live with us, you'll have to be a thief like us," setting up scenes that go on far too long.</p>
<p>Kids probably won't notice Julia Roberts as the Queen's faux British accent (which majorly got on my nerves - in one scene she had it, and in the next she did not), and her sarcasm will probably go over kids' heads too. </p>
<p>Yet there is no escaping the flat, one-dimensional characters and even flatter one-liners that barely got a chuckle in the packed theatre I was in. In fact, some scenes are plain awkward - not one person laughed when we were supposed to.</p>
<p>If anything, I like the visuals in <em>Mirror Mirror </em>- it's filled with beautiful costumes and scenery. It's too bad as much thought didn't go into the storyline, dialogue and characters. </p>
<p>Even at the end, the Queen says, "It really wasn't my story after all," and she's right. What could have been a clever twist on a classic was forced and not thought through.</p>
<p>Yes, the movie is mostly silly, but there are plenty of frightening scenes that could haunt kids under 10 (my 8-year-old, who went with me, helped me come up with this age). For example: there is a beast in the forest that's quick, serpent-like and is always accompanied with dark skies and foreboding music.</p>
<p>The film earns its PG rating due to fight scenes, weapons, strong language and sexual innuendo. The seven dwarves remind me more of "The Three Stooges," with all of the punching, prodding and physical tricks they play too.</p>
<p>Teenagers might enjoy the movie and to compare its plotline to the original. Otherwise, I say skip it for everyone.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-04-03T14:46:00Z
The Hunger Games will Satisfy Teens, But Leave Younger Kids Home
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Hunger-Games-will-Satisfy-Teens,-But-Leave-Younger-Kids-Home/409433657799002797.html
2012-03-26T20:46:00Z
2012-03-26T20:46:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p>Full of interesting topics to discuss with older kids, <em>The Hunger Games</em> is much too emotional and violent for younger viewers.</p>
<p>In the post-apocalyptic country of Panem, a raffle is held each year to determine which 24 young people must fight to the death until one victor is left standing. Think <em>Survivor</em>, but with child contestants between 12 and 18 years old who, instead of eliminating one another by voting them out, must kill each other off as the chief goal of <em>The Hunger Games</em>.</p>
<p>Generations of high school students have read bleak, gray, futuristic classics like George Orwell's 1984 for the past 50+ years. There are many topics to discuss in them and for teachers and parents a lot of learning opportunities for kids. I could see <em>The Hunger Games</em> by Suzanne Collins as a text that could also be thought about and discussed in high schools for years to come. It deals with issues teenagers may be experiencing for the first time surrounding love, commitment and family loyalty. There are also larger social issues in the story too, like <strong>What could losing freedom as a society actually look like?</strong> And, <strong>How close is technology to consuming our lives? </strong></p>
<p>Human nature is also explored in <em>The Hunger Games</em>, like with the question of <strong>What could make a decent person kill?</strong> Or, <strong>Must we experience evil to understand goodness?</strong> The bulk of <em>The Hunger Games</em>, though, is about injustice, rebellion and fighting the system - in this case the kids are not only pitted against one another, but against the government, adults and the status quo.</p>
<p>Since kids younger than puberty don't relate to these strong feelings of angst just yet, I'd hold off exposing them to it.</p>
<p>As for the violence in the film (which is much more graphic than the book), I borderline felt the film earned not its PG-13 rating, but an R rating. It's dark, morose and the brutality of many of the teens is reminiscent of the kid killers in <em>Children of the Corn</em>, numb to pain and suffering, thrilled to kill. I see no need to expose little kids to this either.</p>
<p>Many children have read <em>The Hunger Games </em>- my 4th grader has been trying to convince me he is the only one in his class who hasn't! Now with the movie's release I am sure even more kids are begging their parents to read it. Although I do love the idea of kids begging to read, the book shouldn't be read by anyone younger than 12 and I'd hold off on the movie version even longer.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-03-26T20:46:00Z
The Carb Craze: Is It the Real Solution to Weight Loss Success?
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Carb-Craze:-Is-It-the-Real-Solution-to-Weight-Loss-Success/122225603822990880.html
2012-03-19T13:54:00Z
2012-03-19T13:54:00Z
<p><strong>By Erin Palinski</strong><br /><a href="http://www.erinpalinski.com" target="_blank">www.erinpalinski.com</a></p>
<p>It seems recently everywhere you look a low carbohydrate product is being sold or a new low carb diet advertised. What is causing this craze over carbohydrates? Are they truly the cause of weight gain like the advertisers would like us to believe, or are they just another passing fad? Let's take a closer look.</p>
<p>Carbohydrates are found in breads and grains as well as fruit, vegetables, and milk products. When we eat carbohydrates, the body stores them in the muscles and liver, which then converts them into glucose to fuel the brain. The common belief is carbohydrates make people overweight. Carbohydrates do make people gain weight, but then again, so does protein and fat if consumed in excess. It's all about the calories.</p>
<p>When we drastically restrict our carbohydrate intake, our body's main source of energy is depleted. Our body then must turn to protein and fat as energy sources. This leads to a state of "ketosis," which is a biochemical condition where the body produces ketones (fat fragments) at a higher rate than it releases glucose into the blood. Ketones are the result of the breakdown of fat, supporting the claims that a low carbohydrate diet results in the burning of fat.</p>
<p>However, ketones, although not the preferred energy source for the body, still provide 5 calories per gram to the body. This is higher than the 4 calories per gram provided by carbohydrate. The difference lies in the amount absorbed. Since carbohydrate is more easily absorbed than ketones, more will be converted to energy for the body to use and store. However at the end of the day, if 90% of carbohydrates and 70% of ketones consumed are converted to energy by the body, there is not a large difference in calorie savings.</p>
<p>So where are the weight loss claims coming from? Well, low carbohydrate diets have a diuretic effect on the body, meaning the body will loose large amounts of water. One gallon of water weighs eight pounds, so a large amount of weight can be lost following these plans, however it isn't all fat mass.</p>
<p>Also, when you restrict your intake of breads, grains, fruit, milk, yogurt, and vegetables, there is not a large amount of food left to choose from. People following low carbohydrate diets are actually restricting their total caloric intake without realizing it. Restricting calories, no matter what the source, results in weight loss.</p>
<p>Low carbohydrate diets also come with their share of negative side effects. They can raise cholesterol levels because many protein-rich and fatty foods contain saturated fats. Due to the drastic decrease in fiber intake, increase in blood pressure may result. Diets excessive in protein cause the body to eliminate calcium during urination, which can lead to osteoporosis and may also place a great strain on the kidneys.</p>
<p>In some people, low carb diets may also cause diarrhea, constipation and headaches. You may also feel sluggish and notice a decrease in mental acuity due to the decrease in glucose reaching the brain. Diabetics should be especially careful of low carb diets, as ketosis in diabetics can lead to serious side effects including coma and even death.</p>
<p>On the positive side, weight loss can be achieved and maintained, even without giving up your favorite carbohydrates. A calorie is a calorie, regardless of the food it comes from. The formula for weight control is simple: take in more calories than you expend and you gain weight; take in less calories than you expend and you lose weight. Eating a balanced diet and controlling your portions of foods from all food groups, including whole grain carbohydrates, fruits, vegetables, milk, protein, and fat will help you lose weight and keep it off while staying healthy!</p>
<p><strong>Erin Palinski, RD, CDE, LDN, CPT</strong> is a nationally recognized nutrition & fitness expert who regularly contributes to ABC News, CBS News, Fox News, News 12, <em>Consumer Reports, Glamour, Cosmopolitan,</em> and <em>Women's World</em>. She is the author of the forthcoming <em>"Belly Fat Diet for Dummies" </em>and is known as the <em>dietitian who gives practical, realistic advice that allows you to start seeing results instantly and maintain results permanently!</em> Erin is available for nutrition coaching and consultations via internet, phone, and in person at <a href="http://www.erinpalinski.com" target="_blank">www.erinpalinski.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-03-19T13:54:00Z
'Journey 2' Will Have Older Kids Running to the Library
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Journey-2-Will-Have-Older-Kids-Running-to-the-Library/-869288121046071302.html
2012-03-12T16:51:00Z
2012-03-12T16:51:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p>Any movie that piques kids' curiosity to read classic literature like <em>Treasure Island, Gulliver's Travels</em> and the works of Jules Verne already gets points in my book.</p>
<p>In this sequel to the 2008 hit movie<em> Journey to the Center of the Earth</em>, teen Sean Anderson is 4 years older and his obsession with Jules Verne novels continues to land him in more hot water. His mother (Kristin Davis) is now remarried to Hank (Dwayne Johnson), a Navy vet who is trying to fit into his stepson Sean's Vernian world (what he calls people who believe Verne's books are real.) This time the story is loosely based on the Verne classic <em>The Mysterious Island</em>.</p>
<p>When an opportunity for Sean to reunite with his long lost grandfather (Michael Caine) comes up, Hank uses it to bond with Sean and they travel to the South Pacific.</p>
<p>The film reminds me of the <em>Da Vinci Code</em> for kids, where ancient texts (this time classic literature, and mythical stories like The Nautilus and The Lost City of Atlantis) are decoded. I loved getting home to see many of those books are all getting revivals at the library and on the bestseller lists.</p>
<p>I loved the special effects and adventure in the movie too. In locales alluding to Swift's <em>Gulliver's Travels</em>, things have been turned upside down. The large are small and the small are now large. They snuggle cute baby elephants, ride mammoth bees, and flee giant lizards, for instance.</p>
<p>However the acting is subpar in <em>Journey 2</em>, not that kids will care much. Vanessa Hudgens glares into the camera for much of the film, playing the discontented daughter of the helicopter pilot (Luis Guzman). Then she oozes on affection so quick it isn't believable.</p>
<p>The kids are smart in the movies while the parents often play the fool part, but even this is somewhat remedied by the end.</p>
<p>There is some romantic chemistry between the two teenagers and there are often scenes too scary for viewers under 8, earning it its PG rating.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox and connect with us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/KidFocusedcom/209494072409111" target="_blank">Facebook </a>too. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-03-12T16:51:00Z
Let 'The Lorax' Be Your Guide
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Let-The-Lorax-Be-Your-Guide/798717445085316423.html
2012-03-08T18:23:00Z
2012-03-08T18:23:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p><em>"I am the Lorax, I speak for the trees,"</em> opens the self-named "guardian of the trees" and hero of the film version of Dr. Seuss's 1971 classic children's book, <em>The Lorax</em>, setting up the story of what went so wrong in a town as bright, happy, yet as plastic as Thneedville.</p>
<p>On the surface all seems well in Thneedville, yet there is not one living plant or tree inhabiting it. Generations of residents haven't known what they're missing until a boy named Ted (voiced by Zac Efron) first learns a real, live sapling is the way to a special girl's heart. </p>
<p>As Ted seeks to find what, exactly, did happen to trees, those ancient objects of lore, the story's villain, and now shunned Once-ler, gives him the town's history and how an object he invented, the Thneed (a shapeless, forgettable, thing that could be substituted for any commercial product today) corrupted nature. Through it all, Ted learns trees have a much bigger purpose than for just getting the girl.</p>
<p>The Lorax descends from the sky whenever a tree is chopped down. His heavenly form stands as our collective conscience - to not lightly choose industry when pitted against nature.</p>
<p>The plastic, commercialized industry bemoaned as the story's premise is ironically part of the film itself: marketers cleverly released <em>The Lorax </em>on what would have been Theodor Seuss Geisel's 108th birthday, which has also been turned into "I Love Reading Day" in our nation's schools in recent years. No wonder viewers are flocking to theatres to see it.</p>
<p>Still, 41 years since the picture book's release, the conservation themes are just as relevant today. Unlike other kids' films of late that aim for heavy, environmental messages, like <em><a href="http://kidfocused.com/happy-feet-2-is-anything-but-happy/" target="_blank">Happy Feet 2</a></em>, the lessons in <em>The Lorax</em> are simple and uncontroversial: 1) Plant a tree. 2) Don't cut trees down unnecessarily.</p>
<p>The movie is filled with bright colors, even brighter music, and the look and feel of a Dr. Seuss book. Yet Seuss's use of rhyme and meter, why some call him the Shakespeare of children's books, are acutely absent on the big screen.</p>
<p>There are environmental lessons in <em>The Lorax</em>, but also themes about greed, making amends, and teamwork that won't be lost on kids older than 6. The PG rating is for some mild violence and language. </p>
<p>So all in all, it's worth a see, but do not fret, just save a tree!</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-03-08T18:23:00Z
'The Help' is About Mother/Child Relationships as Much as Racial Inequality
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/The-Help-is-About-Mother/Child-Relationships-as-Much-as-Racial-Inequality/399905901453962769.html
2012-02-21T21:11:00Z
2012-02-21T21:11:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p>I enjoyed reading <em>The Help</em> by Kathryn Stockett a few years back, and tonight I finally watched the film version to gear up for the upcoming Oscars.</p>
<p><em>The Help</em> is about a white woman living in Jackson, Mississippi during the early Civil Rights era. She writes an anonymous book from the point of view of the hired black "Help" and in doing so uncovers secrets that blow any pleasantries out the window within her community and even tighter circle of friends. </p>
<p>The story is presented to be about gross racial inequalities and what it was like to be black, living in the south, during that period of time. What particularly touched me, and had me bawling by the end of the movie, though, were the mother/ child relationships depicted throughout, particularly Viola Davis's character, Abiline, and the maternal bond she shares with the white child she's cared for since birth, Mae Mobley. </p>
<p><em>Abiline</em> is the one who feeds and loves Mae Mobley; she potty trains her and does her best to instill values and positive self-esteem in the chubby little toddler, whose biological mother is much too busy to "lift her up more than once a day." Abiline reminds little Mae with the daily affirmation, "You're kind...you're smart...you're important," and the little girl repeats it back to her in earnest. What's heartbreaking is we can flash forward 20 years to see Mae may very well still end up like her weak and vapid mother.</p>
<p>To see their bond shattered, even after Mae says to Abiline, "You're my real mama," was as authentic as any of the other great mother/ child scenes I've ever seen. Think when Meryl Streep was forced to choose between her children in <em>Sophie's Choice</em>, or when our hearts broke along with Sally Field's as she lamented the loss of her daughter at the cemetery in <em>Steel Magnolias</em>.</p>
<p>Watching <em>The Help</em> also affirmed yet again what an honor it's been to raise my children on my own each and every day since the day they were born (nearly 10 years). The days can be tiring, and sometimes long, but when they hug <em>me</em> and look into <em>my</em> eyes with trust and the confidence that I will be there to guide them through the next day, well, I just wouldn't have it any other way.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-02-21T21:11:00Z
Untangling Mom From the Web of Email and Family Schedules
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Untangling-Mom-From-the-Web-of-Email-and-Family-Schedules/499888332924236084.html
2012-02-06T22:13:00Z
2012-02-06T22:13:00Z
<p>By Mia Redrick<br /><a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com</a><br /><br /><br />In 2007, the Washington Post ran an article on the relatively new phenomenon of "email bankruptcy," citing statistics such as: there were 6 trillion business emails sent in 2006; that workers were increasing their daily workload by up to three hours by having to respond to the endless deluge of emails; and psychological studies showing people's stress levels are increasing by feeling their work is never done as a result of these endless emails. That was five years ago and it hasn't gotten any better.</p>
<p>It's not all about business anymore either. Being a mother who is active in her children's lives, there seems to be no escape from "email overload" for me.</p>
<p>As soon as the school day starts the emails and the invitations for play-dates, parent parties, teen dances, class trips, reading time, birthday celebrations and the new sign-up lists for swimming and soccer begin to flood in.</p>
<p>I actually feel like I might need an ark to handle the schedule for my three children if we commit to all that is in front of us. I love the fact my three children are active and popular, but I have to admit I feel all these invitations might leave the family swamped for the entire weekend with zero family or quality time in our own home.</p>
<p>At some point, I want to model what a quality life looks like for my kids and I'm pretty sure it isn't riding around from place to place in your car. Can you relate?</p>
<p>Each day, I check my emails more than once to make sure I haven't neglected to respond to a class party or to confirm I am bringing cookies or to make sure there isn't a message from a teacher in the spam folder (I hate when that happens). I miss the days when a single note from a teacher with all of the week's activities hanging on the fridge was the norm. Tell me you used magnets for your school schedules also?</p>
<p>Technology is a great thing but with three children and lots of parents, teachers, and friends connected to them, email can be rather difficult to keep up with. Recently, I was thinking it would be nice if all of these extra-curricular events would roll into your calendar and you could click yes or no if you plan to attend. Then, if you click yes, voila, it would automatically appear on your calendar. This same technology could advise you if you have another event for a particular day and indicate which child it is for to help you balance the limited 72 hours of the weekend.</p>
<p>I know, I am dreaming.</p>
<p>Too much of a good thing is simply too much. So in my perfect world, I would create this wish list to make my scheduling life easier:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Invitation App</strong> - An application that allows moms to accept or reject an email invite and once accepted, automatically defaults to the main calendar. It could also automatically notify you if two events or commitments overlap.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>No Play-Dates on the Birthday Party Parent Alliance</strong> - A parent/community understanding to not schedule play-dates on the same weekends as birthday parties or major events when your child will see the other child they were scheduled to have a play-date with.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Quality of Life Activity</strong> - One extra-curricular activity per child, per semester. Or, we could be open to no extra-curricular activity during that semester if the child wants to spend time at home with their family.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Bring Back Family Game Night</strong> - Bring back family game night and make it an event to remember. It takes a lot less time to organize and doesn't require a commute.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Electronic Signatures</strong> - School notes that require signatures can be signed electronically.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Smaller Parties</strong> - Children's birthday party invites for special friends instead of everyone (Ok, it's not politically correct but I'm sorry, it just makes sense.)</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Telegram for Mom Drivers</strong> - 72-hour notification for any event that requires me to drive.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Class Fan Pages </strong>- Facebook class page that lists all of the class events for the school year. This page would provide an automatic reminder and invite for upcoming events in advance.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Carpool Collective</strong> - A rotating carpool parent for each teen dance.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">• <strong>Reply All Message</strong> - Some kind of window that pops up when parents click "reply all" that says something like, "Are you sure you want to send, 'Johnny has a dentist appointment that day' to 52 parents?"</p>
<p>Am I the only mom who has had it with too many emails as the primary method to inform parents? I actually think the answer to this question probably varies depending on your age and exposure to and use of technology, but we can safely assume this information society is here to stay and really, it's a relatively new human endeavor. We'd be silly to think there aren't still some bugs to work out. So help me out. What would you add to my list?</p>
<p><br />Mia Redrick, Mom Strategist is a mom of three, author and speaker empowering one million mothers to practice better self-care. Redrick is the author of <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Time-mom-Me-Essential-Strategies-Self-Care/dp/0979627303/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288711627&sr=1-1" target="_blank">Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother's Self-Care</a></em>. For tips from The Mom Strategist visit <a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</p>
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2012-02-06T22:13:00Z
Missed Opportunities for Female Bonding in Toddlers & Tiaras
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Missed-Opportunities-for-Female-Bonding-in-Toddlers--Tiaras/486369085809921105.html
2012-01-30T20:22:00Z
2012-01-30T20:22:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p>When the controversy sparked recently about a little girl on the TLC show <em>Toddlers & Tiaras</em> being dressed up as Julia Roberts's prostitute character on <em>Pretty Woman</em>, I had to tune in to see what it is all about. And then the show made headlines again when one mom confessed to giving her daughter large quantities of caffeine and sugar, calling it "Go-go Juice" and "pageant crack," to keep her little daughter awake and competitive at pageants.</p>
<p><em>Toddlers & Tiaras</em> should really be called Tweens & Tiaras, as the episodes I've seen mostly had 10 and 11-year-olds as the stars. Each 60-minute episode follows 3 different girls and their families as the girls compete in American beauty contests. Some families showcase the stereotypical stage moms hooting and hollering from the back of the room, their eyes brimming with tears when their daughters don't claim the top prize, their candid confessionals caught on camera.</p>
<p>There are also plenty of girls who don't seem to be enjoying the pageant process, despite their moms hiring independent talent "coaches" and vowing repeatedly their daughters "love competing in pageants." One little girl, 6-year-old Paige, turned her back on the coach, never smiling once, even while on stage. Yet her mom, with the same dull expression as her daughter, declared, "Paige is really excited to be here."</p>
<p>I expected to watch <em>Toddlers & Tiaras</em> and see a bunch of show moms living through their daughters. I did see that, but I also saw much more of the pageant world spectrum. And surprisingly, there are aspects of the pageant world and the families featured on the show I actually like.</p>
<p>At a time in America when kids are left alone with the TV or game console as their main companion, there is a lot of female bonding and attention the girls are getting from their moms and mother figures on Toddlers & Tiaras.</p>
<p>In one episode a 10-year-old girl named Madi has a pageant "Aunt" and "Grandma" with her every step of the way. These are women who don't have daughters or granddaughters of their own, so they've taken their friend's little girl as their own to introduce to the pageant world.</p>
<p>There are mothers and daughters who pray together; they laugh and share inside jokes. Many of the moms are likable, not annoying, shallow moms like I've seen on the Lifetime show, <em>Dance Moms</em>.</p>
<p>What I don't like about the premise of the pageant world, and the show, though, is at best these little girls seem destined to grow up to be self-indulgent, expecting an entourage to cater to them at every turn. One little 3-year-old (the only real toddler I saw in the episodes I saw) barked commands at her mom and coaches. Without knowing what she was saying, she'd mantra like a robot, "I'm going to get the crown and money."</p>
<p>It is definitely all played up for the cameras. This little girl's cheeks are so adorable, and she did end up winning the Grand Prize with her sassy attitude, but I kept flashing forward 10 years in my mind to the self-indulgent, Veruca Salt character I can just see in the making. Do we really need more shallow, self-centered people in the world?</p>
<p>None of the families look like they have the money to be competing in these pricey pageants, which consist of costumes, coaching and travel, either. This just adds to the argument that decadent beings are being raised instead of kind, altruistic ones.</p>
<p>I also worry about the way these little girls will feel when they're older, when their looks fade and they look around to see what else they have to offer. In one heartbreaking scene it was obvious a little girl, Desiree, thought twice about the enhancements that were thrust upon her. The message was clear her own brown eyes weren't good enough as her entourage struggled to get flashy green contacts to cover her own eyes instead.</p>
<p>When she asked her mother, "Maybe I should just use my own teeth," which were typically crooked of many 10-year-olds, her mother snapped, "No," and glued the broken mouth piece of perfectly fake white, straight teeth (flippers) in place.</p>
<p>The personalities, charisma and family dynamics outshine any of the sparkly costumes on <em>Toddlers & Tiaras</em>, though. And because of these winning combinations, I'd much rather see mom and daughter teams working for something really helpful to society, like walking to fight breast cancer or forging relationships with others to build schools in impoverished areas...something that would actually add value to the world.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-01-30T20:22:00Z
A Tale of 2 Animal Movies: War Horse and We Bought a Zoo
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/A-Tale-of-2-Animal-Movies:-War-Horse-and-We-Bought-a-Zoo/114300622174178893.html
2012-01-23T23:41:00Z
2012-01-23T23:41:00Z
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong><br /><strong><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a></strong></p>
<p><em>War Horse</em> Contrasts Grim Realities of War With the Brightness of Innocent Children and <em>We Bought A Zoo </em>is Heavy on Drama, Short on Animals</p>
<p><br /><strong><em>War Horse</em></strong></p>
<p>Just at the brink of World War I, an English farm boy is given the opportunity to break in the colt whose birth he witnessed. A steely bond between the two ensues, in the same classic vein as the Black Stallion and young Alec, or E.T. and Elliot. </p>
<p>Told from the point of view of Joey, the horse, <em>War Horse</em> is an epic saga that spans the duration of the Great War in Europe. The bright spots of kindnesses and the love of the innocent young people who cross paths with Joey buoy the desperation and sadness of the time.</p>
<p>This movie serves as a history lesson too. It shows just how essential horses were in the early 20th century. During wartime, they were the cavalry's chief mode of transportation (approximately 1 million horses were killed during World War I.) They were important to businesses and farmers back home, too. In <em>War Horse</em>, it is scoffed at when a thoroughbred like Joey is bought to be a plough horse to save the family's farm. A young soldier then barters for him to use in combat. We see Joey change hands multiple times, a horse symbolizing a vital commodity of the time.</p>
<p>Horses like Joey were a staple of the bravado on the front lines, but this movie shows how a loved pet can also transform young lives. It was amazing to see the cavalry on horseback charging full speed ahead, swords straight out, rushing towards the enemy without restraint. The various children who love Joey show bravery in their own lives too. He helps one boy become a responsible man; a girl forgets her illness for a while; a young soldier takes time out to help others because of Joey. These young people may face poverty, loneliness or disease, yet Joey is there to uplift them.</p>
<p>The majestic music and attention to detail also make this movie one of the best I've seen in a long time. </p>
<p>I would recommend <em>War Horse</em> for children 10 and older. It is PG-13 for intense war scenes, but I think they are done tastefully. There are loud artillery booms, which might scare young kids, and several deaths (mostly insinuations and no blood), but I do think the movie shouldn't be missed for its rich lessons, morals and heart. </p>
<p><em><br /><strong>We Bought a Zoo</strong></em></p>
<p><br />Of all the titles <em>We Bought A Zoo</em> could have had, the film is not really about a zoo, or the light-hearted, childlike associations that come with one, but the people and the heavy problems that inhabit it.</p>
<p>A dilapidated zoo serves as the backdrop for Benjamin Mee (Matt Damon) and his two young kids as they attempt to piece their lives back together 6 months after the death of their wife and mother.</p>
<p>The cast of humans is a menagerie of colorful characters, to be sure. I particularly enjoyed newcomer Maggie Elizabeth Jones, who plays 7-year-old Rosie Mee, as well as Elle Fanning as Lily, the homeschooled farm girl who is a ray of sunshine in Benjamin's angst-ridden son's otherwise dark life. Both of these girls positively light up the screen.</p>
<p>The rare visits with the zoo animals, like a 750-pound grizzly bear named Buster, and the details about them, aren't spotlighted enough. I enjoyed learning new animal facts, like the guttural sound tigers make is called "chuffing," but I wanted even more. Just as the title misleads, the dealings with animals are the few times <em>We Bought a Zoo </em>could be thought of as a kids' film.</p>
<p>Viewers mostly get insight into Benjamin's mourning and his kids' failure to thrive...complicated stuff. Early on, Benjamin's brother gives a crude speech about how his lonely, widowed brother needs to find company, and not of the 4-legged kind.</p>
<p>When Benjamin blurts out to his teenage son, "We have a little 7-year-old girl in this house who still believes the Easter Bunny is real!" I was glad my older children missed seeing this "kids' movie" with me. Thank goodness it went right over my 3-year-old's head, who later said the movie was "boring."</p>
<p>It is an interesting movie, with a solid premise as I kept reminding myself it's actually based on a true story. But don't be fooled, it's not a young kids' movie, or even a comedy for that matter. It is rated PG, but I think a PG-13 rating would be more fitting.</p>
<p>In the end, I'd skip taking elementary school-aged kids to see <em>We Bought a Zoo </em>unless they've lost a significant person in their life. In that case, it might be a good way to talk about grief and loss. Unless that's the case, go see it with other adults or wait for it to come out on video.</p>
<p><strong>Julie Samrick</strong> is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-01-23T23:41:00Z
Why Do New Year's Resolutions Typically Fail?
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2012-01-16T08:00:00Z
2012-01-16T08:00:00Z
<p>Edwin Locke, PhD and Ellen Kenner, PhD,<br /><a href="http://www.selfishromance.com" target="_blank">www.selfishromance.com</a></p>
<p>Making New Year's resolutions is an old tradition. Over the next year we are going to stop smoking, lose weight, save money, exercise more, drink less and be nicer to our family members. Overwhelmingly such resolutions lead nowhere-until they are made again the next year with the same lack of results.</p>
<p>What's missing? Consider Tom who was 75 pounds overweight when I met him. When I saw him again a year later, I was shocked. The 75 extra pounds were gone. "Tom," I said, "How did you do it?" He replied, "It was easy!" "Easy?" I gasped in disbelief. <br />"Everyone knows losing weight is one of the hardest things you can do." Tom answered, "But you see, I really, really wanted to."</p>
<p>What did Tom mean by this? He meant he had had total commitment. Goals, specifically difficult goals, do not affect action unless you are committed to them. But what does commitment involve? Here are the keys:</p>
<p>You need to consciously consider the goal to be personally important.</p>
<p>You need to examine your subconscious for contradictory beliefs, such as, "Well actually, I really love, pizza, beer and ice cream and I could not bear to give them up." You can't have commitment if you have unresolved conflicts. You need to convince your subconscious your goal is important and the reasons why. For example, "Smoking drastically increases my risk of many types of cancer as well as heart disease and stroke, so I am committing slow suicide if I continue. I really want to live a long and healthy life."</p>
<p>Combine all long term, such as yearly goals, with short term (daily or weekly) goals so your goals stay fresh in your mind. </p>
<p>Be prepared for setbacks. Conflict does not go away overnight especially if you are attached to a strong habit. What will do you if you slip up? "Next time I am tempted I'll flush my cigarettes down the toilet." "When I go to the store next I will buy healthier foods." "I will remind myself my life depends on living better." I will be more sexually attractive if my breath does not smell bad and I am slimmer."</p>
<p>Have a specific plan. "I will go to the gym or take a two mile walk every other day."</p>
<p>Keep a written record to make what you are doing objective, such as number of miles walked, number of days with no smokes, number of calories consumed, or number of pounds lost (e.g., per week). This makes it hard to fool yourself.</p>
<p>Write a letter to your spouse and/or to one or more friends announcing what you plan to do. This makes keeping to your plan a matter of public integrity.</p>
<p>Practice thought control; when you are tempted to relapse, figure out things you can tell yourself to strengthen your commitment. "Uncle Joe died a horrible death from lung cancer; I don't want to go like that." "My partner does not want to make love to me because I am unattractive. I need to control what my body looks like."</p>
<p>Reward yourself for progress, say once a month. Maybe a new shirt or blouse, a special movie outing, one small piece of chocolate-something you value and can afford.</p>
<p>If you want your New Year's resolutions to be completed, take the steps needed to really commit to it. Instead of feeling shame at the end of the year you will feel pride.</p>
<p>Copyright 2011.</p>
<p>Edwin Locke, PhD, a world-renowned psychologist, and Ellen Kenner, PhD, a clinical psychologist and host of the nationally-syndicated radio talk show, The Rational Basis of Happiness®, have co-authored <em>The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason</em>. Both are experts on Ayn Rand's philosophy of Objectivism. For more information visit <a href="http://www.selfishromance.com" target="_blank">www.selfishromance.com</a>.</p>
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2012-01-16T08:00:00Z
'Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows' Shows Brains Are Our Best Asset
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2012-01-03T15:30:00Z
2012-01-03T15:30:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br /><em>"It's our last adventure and I intend to make the most of it,"</em> proclaims eccentric Detective Sherlock Holmes (Robert Downey Jr.) to his conventional sidekick, Dr. Watson (Jude Law), on the eve of Watson's wedding. Their quest in this sequel is to outwit a new villain, evil Professor Moriarty (Jared Harris), before he wreaks more havoc across Europe. Efforts are fueled once more not by brawn or good looks, but by Watson's trademark book smarts and calm thinking as well as Holmes's keen intuition and inventive disguises.</p>
<p>Loosely based on Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's entire short story, "The Final Problem," <em>Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows</em> can stand alone from the first film for those who haven't seen the original.</p>
<p>Set in 1891, when women wore corsets and donned gloves while drinking tea, elevated language is in abundance. Professor Moriarty coolly tells Sherlock Holmes, <em>"My respect for you is the only reason you're alive,"</em> as they mind duel during a game of chess. The smart thinking in this film is just as exciting as any action, if not more so.</p>
<p>I didn't take my kids this time, as the movie is rated PG-13, but the teens sitting near my husband and me seemed to enjoy the journey to 1891. They laughed out loud when Holmes teased his best friend, Watson, by saying, <em>"Don't be such a ponce!"</em> Insults sound the same no matter what century they're said in. And later, when Holmes opts for a Shetland pony instead of a racing stallion to travel across France, the teens laughed right along with the bumpy ride.</p>
<p>The costumes and the landscapes of the travels through Europe are magnificent too; educational as well as entertaining, the visuals alone are enough to see the film.</p>
<p>I do think the film earns its PG-13 rating due to intense action and fight scenes, though. The scenes are done tastefully except for a single scene near the end involving a meat hook, which was borderline gratuitous. </p>
<p>The film also could've been shortened a bit. At times the plot gets a little convoluted, but it all comes together in the end.</p>
<p>I do recommend <em>A Game of Shadows</em> for teenagers and their parents. It reminds me of the interest sparked when I first watched an Agatha Christie film as a teenager. I was immediately inspired to pick up my first Agatha Christie whodunit. I think teens and young adults today just may pick up some Arthur Conan Doyle after seeing <em>A Game of Shadows</em>. The formula he mastered over 100 years ago in his books is still just as fun and relevant today.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2012-01-03T15:30:00Z
Best to the Worst: Kid Movies of 2011
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2011-12-20T00:37:00Z
2011-12-20T00:37:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br />Since my youngest turned 3, we've added "going to the movies" to our list of favorite family pastimes. So just in time for the holidays, when many more families reconnect by watching, renting or buying movies, here is my ranking of the children's movies I saw in theatres with my kids this past year.<br /> <br /><strong>#1 The Muppet Movie</strong><br />The Muppets are still their charming, wholesome, zany selves, gaining a new generation of fans as well as staying exactly the same for those of us who grew up watching them. In fact, I felt so nostalgic I left the film wondering, "What did happen to the Muppets? Why have they been out of our lives for so long?" As for the film's PG status, there were a couple of scenes that could've easily been cut to give it a G rating. All in all, The Muppets is a great film for everyone in the family.</p>
<p><strong>#2 Puss in Boots</strong><br />"The story of a cat who became a hero" begins with Puss as a self-described outlaw. We are taken back to the past when Puss is just a sweet kitten at an orphanage and other childhood nursery rhyme characters are introduced in a fresh way. Also, the soundtrack had me dancing in my seat! Two intense action scenes coupled with a few mature story lines lead me to recommend it to viewers over 7.</p>
<p><strong>#3 Diary of a Wimpy Kid 2: Rodrick Rules</strong><br />Instead of middle school, Greg must navigate the dynamics of his family this time. The double entendre of the title sets up the rules Greg must adhere to if he wants to get along in his brother Rodrick's world, yet it's also a hint Rodrick is a pretty cool brother after all. Unlike the first film, we get to see a more human side of Rodrick. I actually liked this sequel better than the somewhat depressing part 1.</p>
<p><strong>#4 Mr. Popper's Penguins </strong><br />Despite having funny man Carrey starring, the laughs in Mr. Popper's Penguins come mostly from the penguins. I'm glad the superficial references to the parents' divorce and business dealings don't go any deeper. This film is still recommended for kids of all ages.</p>
<p><strong>#5 Judy Moody and the NOT Bummer Summer</strong><br />Based on the <em>Judy Moody </em>book series by Megan McDonald, Judy desperately wants her summer after third grade to be the best yet, until she learns all her friends will be away. Judy is an imperfect heroine, reminiscent of Ramona Quimby or Anne of Green Gables. She and her pals are the opposite of moody; they are an absolute delight. Still, kids over 11 might be bored.</p>
<p><strong>#6 The Smurfs</strong><br />Without compromising any of the 1980s television show's charm, sweetness, humor or naiveté, this movie is modernized with young viewers still in mind. There are strong themes that won't be lost on kids either: loyalty, self-respect, and what it takes to be a good father, just to name a few. Some magic scenes with Gargamel might be a little scary for viewers under 5.</p>
<p><strong>#7 Spy Kids: All the Time in the World</strong><br />This film is about GIRL POWER. The females are all one-dimensionally strong and smart, while the boys and men just bumble. Still, it has great special effects and a somewhat redeeming story line in the end. The language is fine, except for one scene when the original spy kid, Carmen, yells, "Oh, SHI-take mushroom!" My boys knew just what he meant. Overall, I recommend this movie to kids 7 and over only with adult supervision.</p>
<p><strong>#8 Arthur Christmas</strong><br />A spacecraft replaces Santa's sleigh and savvy elves rappel from the sky to deliver gifts to every good boy and girl. It's an interesting idea, but I think a 10-minute children's book would be plenty. Some things just shouldn't be touched, and Santa is one of them. Let kids believe in the magic of Santa as we've known him for generations just a little bit longer. This film is a little too cynical for kids under 10.</p>
<p><strong>#9 Happy Feet 2</strong><br />Even more star power this time around (Brad Pitt, Pink, etc.), cool special effects and a catchy soundtrack can't make up for a boring, disjointed plot. When I asked my 7-year-old to tell me what it was about he said, "It's about penguins trying to stay alive." I could've sworn he yawned. Let's just say this movie isn't as happy as the original.</p>
<p><strong>#10 Kung Fu Panda 2</strong><br />Po's mission to save China packs this sequel with gratuitous violence. Bully taunts like "stupid" and "idiot" are said excessively throughout too. The only reason the film isn't rated PG-13 is because it's animated. It left me missing the sweet Po we came to know and love in the original - there wasn't nearly enough of him in part 2.</p>
<p><strong>#11 Cars 2</strong><br />Much lonelier than the first film, when friends were plentiful and always there to lend a hand, Tow Mater is the star this time and he is left to figure things out on his own as he unknowingly becomes embroiled in a spy scheme in strange new lands. The special effects are stunning, but they don't make up for the anti-American sentiments or weak plot. What a disappointment after the fantastic Cars.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-12-20T00:37:00Z
Arthur Christmas is Too Cynical - Movie Review
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2011-12-12T08:56:00Z
2011-12-12T08:56:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br />Call me old fashioned, but there are some things that just shouldn't be touched, and Santa is one of them. In the newly released <em>"Arthur Christmas,"</em> a spacecraft replaces Santa's sleigh and instead of reindeer, savvy elves rappel from the sky to deliver gifts to every good boy and girl. If the elves are an army, the current Santa, #20 in the lineage, is their red beret-wearing leader. </p>
<p>Christmas is portrayed as a sleek machine until the North Pole's chief business of December 25th goes awry and 1 child is left without a gift. Santa's youngest son, Arthur Christmas, sees it as his mission to repair it.</p>
<p>It's the best part of the movie when bumbling but well-meaning Arthur joins forces with his grandfather, retired Santa #19, and they bring back the sleigh and reindeer for one last assignment. Arthur represents the lone voice of tradition, fighting against an enclave of cynicism and dashed dreams.<br /> <br />Before long the 21st century creeps back in with an eyebrow pierced elf as Arthur's sidekick and a retired reindeer sitting by helplessly wearing a cone collar.</p>
<p>The story is an interesting idea, but I think a 10-minute picture book with the same idea of how Santa may be evolving through the years would suffice instead of a full length feature movie. The film has a few scary parts for young kids, too, especially when they land in the Sarangeti National Zoo and the animals that give chase are vicious. </p>
<p>My main problem with <em>"Arthur Christmas"</em> is any suspicion any child has ever raised about Santa is brought up. I only took my 5 and 3 year-olds with me this time and I was glad. I think their 7 and 9 year-old brothers would've had a lot of questions for me afterwards, if you know what I mean.</p>
<p>Some might enjoy the modern twist on just how Santa might operate in the 21st century. But for the younger crowd, those under 10, I'd skip it and let them believe in the pure magic of Santa as we've grown to know him and love him for generations just a little bit longer.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-12-12T08:56:00Z
Kung Fu Panda 2 is Much Darker Than the Original - Movie Review
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2011-12-05T21:19:00Z
2011-12-05T21:19:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br /><br />It's fitting the big blockbusters come out this time of year. The holidays are about reconnecting with family, and watching movies together is one good way to do that. Lately, my husband and I have been showing the kids movies at home from our own childhoods. Last week we showed them <em>Big</em> with Tom Hanks and <em>Teen Wolf</em> with Michael J. Fox today. One thing I never noticed before is they're both filled with sexual themes. While not kid movies, they both have minors as the main characters. </p>
<p><em>Kung Fu Panda 2</em> is now out on DVD and it was one one of the top grossing kids' movies of the summer of 2011. This movie is a reminder many kids' films today have just replaced all the sex in movies before with more violence. Which is better?</p>
<p>Let's just say <em>Kung Fu Panda 2</em> makes <em>The Karate Kid</em> look like a G rated flick. The sequel to the sweet and funny <em>Kung Fu Panda</em> original, right away had an opening scene that's a little disturbing. It was all about Po, the fun loving Panda played by Jack Black, playing "Chubby Bunny," the game where whoever can stuff the most amount of food in his mouth and still talk wins. Immediately I thought of the horrifying news shows I've seen over the years about how dangerous "Chubby Bunny" is and how so many children choke to death playing it each year.</p>
<p>OK...I was going to brush past this and think of it as an oversight. Then I was quickly reminded again why this animated movie is PG, and not G, rated. Early on, Po leaves his home on a mission to save China, and for the rest of the film his journey is packed with martial arts and weapons. I know "Kung Fu" is in the title, as my 8-year-old reminded me later, but except for an exciting scene at the end when we actually get to see the beauty and grace of Kung Fu, when Po deftly turns the fiery cannons around on the enemy, the scenes using Kung Fu were gratuitously violent, fluctuating between slapstick Three Stooges kind of injuries and scenes that were definitely darker than I was expecting. Bully taunts like "Stupid" and "Idiot" were used excessively throughout the movie as well. I kept thinking the only reason the film isn't rated PG-13 is because it's animated - very deceptive that way.</p>
<p>The winning part of the movie is the character of Po, though. His character is certainly why a sequel must've been planned for starters. Po is endearing like Shrek, representing the kind of friend we'd all like to have. He's funny, loyal, sweet, brave, and he doesn't take himself too seriously. My 7- year-old said his favorite part of the movie is the flashbacks to Po as an infant. Po is who and what we came for, and there wasn't enough of him in it.</p>
<p>In my opinion, focusing more on the themes the movie touched on like adoption, acceptance, parental love and choosing the course of our own destiny through our decisions, if they were also developed more, could have won the movie many more points. <br /><br />The first <em>Kung Fu Panda</em> did a better job of presenting the characters and the themes. This time around the prolonged action scenes and excessive violence made for a lot less laughter than I expected. I wouldn't recommend showing this movie to anyone under 7 years old. I should've left my five-year-old and three-year-old at home.</p>
<p>Hopefully there are other movie gifts to give and see this holiday season; otherwise we all know there are lots in our personal archives to show the kids.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-12-05T21:19:00Z
Happy Feet 2 is Not So Happy - Movie Review
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2011-12-05T20:54:00Z
2011-12-05T20:54:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br /><br />Every commercial or preview I've seen of <em>Happy Feet 2</em> led me to believe it would be like its lighthearted original, with plenty of dancing and a strong story line. I quickly found it may be heavy in special effects, but it has a disconnected story line and not nearly enough fun or dancing.</p>
<p>In the sequel to the original 2006 hit <em>Happy Feet</em>, a grown Mumble and his wife Gloria guide their young son, Erik, to try dancing. When Erik realizes he doesn't have smooth footing or rhythm like his father, he sets off to find his own destiny. He quickly becomes enamored with the revered "penguin" leader, Sven, a special bird who can fly.</p>
<p>There is an even bigger all star cast in <em>Happy Feet 2</em>, than in the original, with Brad Pitt, Matt Damon and Pink joining this time around.</p>
<p>Brad Pitt and Matt Damon play "Will and Bill the Krills." They may be at the bottom of the food chain, but they are philosophers who, frankly, talk way too much. Detached from the main story, the krill serve as reminders of the movie's theme: that every part of our ecosystem, from the large to the small, plays a vital role in maintaining it.</p>
<p>I really wanted to like the film, but one of the only things I liked was when there was dancing or singing. Pink, who voices Gloria, has a truly spectacular voice! The soundtrack, I am sure, is better than the movie. There were also themes of team work and sacrifice that older kids could grasp.</p>
<p>The film is like the incomplete individual squares of a patchwork quilt- nice to look at when standing alone, but stronger and more unified once sewn together. I kept waiting for the different plots to come together to make a single piece. There were multiple story lines, too many main characters and too much emphasis on the environment and global warming, diluting the whole picture in the end. </p>
<p>When I asked my kids what it was about, my 7-year-old said, "It's about penguins trying to stay alive." I could've sworn he yawned. Let's just say, there weren't many chuckles or what I was hoping to see in a kids' film.</p>
<p>There are many other family movies out this holiday season to choose from, so I'd recommend waiting for this one to come out on video and not spend your money seeing it in the theatre.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-12-05T20:54:00Z
Happiness and Chocolate... Are They Similar? Learning How to Live Life to the Fullest
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2011-11-28T21:57:00Z
2011-11-28T21:57:00Z
<p>By Dr. Robert Puff<br /><br />Although I try to eat a proper diet most of the time, I love chocolate! I limit how often I treat myself, and I try to restrict myself to a particular "healthier" type of chocolate. Years ago, when I was much more indulgent, I found the biggest, most delicious chocolate cake while shopping at Costco. The first bite was so exquisite; I couldn't help taking another and still another! However, after a few bites, the cake didn't taste quite as good. Each progressive bite wasn't as enjoyable as the experience of that first taste. You may be wondering, <em>"What does chocolate cake have to do with happiness?"</em> Let me explain.</p>
<p><strong>The Key to Happiness is Keeping Things Fresh</strong><br />Studies have shown after we get something new and wonderful, we eventually become used to it. After a while, most of our feelings toward it become less intense. Eventually, we reach a point where we are so "full" of the good feelings they no longer seem so amazing. In other words, when we get used to something, we stop enjoying it as much. Life is full of such examples. One of the key factors of happiness is keeping things new, thus avoiding getting into a rut.</p>
<p>It is merely our own minds that prevent us from viewing life's details as new and fresh. We tend to label or categorize things; when we do so, we stop seeing them. As an old saying relates, <em>"Once I see a sparrow and label it, I stop seeing it."</em> There is great truth in this statement! The same principle applies to our experiences. When we have a really great experience, we usually perceive this first, initial encounter to be the most intense. </p>
<p>We relate everything back to it, and seek the same "high" again. But life doesn't always give us the same "high" again, particularly if we are comparing and contrasting our experiences! It is this constant comparing and contrasting that keeps us from enjoying things in the present and keeps us from feeling fresh, new, and alive with a wonderful richness and sense of fulfillment.</p>
<p><strong>Open Your Eyes and Senses to a Wonderful New World</strong> <br />Yes, sometimes we do indeed need labels. Labels are important for remembering the past and for avoiding dangerous things. However, we miss out on so much in life when we're wrapped up in our own notions instead of simply experiencing that which is before us! When I speak at a retreat or to an organization, I love to bring some "healthy chocolate" with me to share. </p>
<p>Before everyone samples the treat, I'll first say, <em>"Let's pretend we are all aliens and have never, ever seen this substance before. First, let's smell it and touch it and see what it's like. Then, if we think it's safe, let's put it to our lips to see if we have any adverse reaction. Then, let's cautiously put it to our tongues. What does it taste like? Let's put a piece into our mouths, not too big, just holding it there without chewing or swallowing. Just hold the chocolate there and see what happens."</em> As one can imagine, at the end of this exercise, the chocolate seems to be the most exquisite piece of candy we've ever eaten! </p>
<p>Now, this "healthy chocolate" is very good, but it's not the best chocolate in the world. Instead, our enjoyment stems from experiencing it with new, fresh eyes and senses. This exercise applies to everything in life. If we learn to quiet our minds and just be present with what is, then we will experience all the beauty and freshness of the world in a new, pristine state. When we label, we don't experience the world around us nearly as well. </p>
<p><strong>Be Present, Be Happy</strong><br />We must learn to still our racing minds and to simply enjoy life as it is right here, right now. Once we are aware of the extent to which we label, we will start labeling less. This novel way of thinking and perceiving requires work, but if we put forth the effort, we will reap the benefits. We will finally be aware of all of the rich beauty in life that has always been there, but that we have regularly overlooked. Learn to cease labeling things; instead, see everything in this world as new and exciting. You will truly be amazed!</p>
<p><br />Dr. Robert Puff is a meditation expert, international speaker and creates a podcast and articles that explores the world of Enlightenment available at <a href="http://www.EnlightenmentPodcast.com" target="_blank">http://www.EnlightenmentPodcast.com</a>. He also has a blog at <a href="http://www.Meditation-Enlightenment.com" target="_blank">http://www.Meditation-Enlightenment.com</a>. He is the creator of the weekly Meditation For Health Podcast, available at <a href="http://www.MeditationForHealthPodcast.com" target="_blank">http://www.MeditationForHealthPodcast.com</a>. He has a weekly podcast that explores the world of Happiness at <a href="http://www.HappinessPodcast.org" target="_blank">http://www.HappinessPodcast.org</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-11-28T21:57:00Z
The Muppets Are For Everyone - Movie Review
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2011-11-28T16:36:00Z
2011-11-28T16:36:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br /><br />After all these years, the Muppets are still their charming, wholesome, zany selves, gaining a new generation of fans as well as staying exactly the same for those of us who grew up watching them. Writer and star of The Muppet Movie, Jason Segel, doesn't try to modernize the Muppets by making them crude and rude as many remakes do. In fact, I felt so nostalgic, the film left me wondering "What did happen to the Muppets? Why have they been out of our lives for so long?"</p>
<p>Man child Gary (Jason Segel) and his muppet brother, Walter, are as close as any two brothers could be, sleeping in side by side twin beds and wearing matching clothes. They travel to LA with Gary's girlfriend (Amy Adams) to sightsee and to get a glimpse of Walter's childhood icons, the Muppets. </p>
<p>When the trio find dust and cobwebs have collected at the once vibrant Muppet Studios, a telethon bringing together the cast of Muppet characters to raise $10 million is their only hope of salvaging it before an oil tycoon (Chris Cooper) takes over the property.</p>
<p>With Kermit as their guide, the group set out to find all of the characters from the past. Miss Piggy is a Vogue executive in Paris; Fozzie the Bear has created a D List "Moopets" show at a hole in the wall in Reno. Every single Muppet is back and watching each return to the big screen was like going to a class reunion- I'd forgotten about some, but within seconds of seeing them I remembered their essence.</p>
<p>The whole movie plays like a musical, with plenty of charm, laughs and nostalgia as its glue.</p>
<p>My husband and I took our 4 kids plus 2 nieces and our nephew. With 7 kids I was hoping to answer the question: Do kids really like The Muppets or is the movie more for my generation and older? The kids all loved it and they each had a different favorite character and scene from the movie. </p>
<p>As for the film's PG status, there were a couple of scenes that could've easily been cut to give it a G rating. There's an unnecessary electrocution scene early on and a later brawl when the gang finds Animal in an Anger Management class. When "Drums" is said, Animal's "trigger word," fists start flying. And even though Gary and Mary are girlfriend and boyfriend, there's no evidence they've so much as kissed - each acting the wholesome part. I give the film kudos for that.</p>
<p>All in all, The Muppets is a great film for everyone in the family.</p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Subscribe to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a> delivered weekly to your inbox. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-11-28T16:36:00Z
8 Ways to Get Your Family to Help You Around the House
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2011-11-14T20:06:00Z
2011-11-14T20:06:00Z
<p>Mia Redrick<br /><a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com<br /><br /></a>Housework never ends. Here's a list of 8 ways to enroll your family into helping more around the house. First, however, here is a small list of ways to not get your family to help around the house: nagging, yelling, coercion, and anger. And while these are often our natural inclinations and it might get you what you want in the present, it isn't effective in the end.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">1. Routine. If your family knows what to expect and when to expect it, the family will have less to complain about. If, every week, Saturday afternoons are for cleaning, these cleaning sessions become just another family tradition like going to church on Sundays or going to school during the week.<br /><br />2. Set a timer. People operate more effectively when they have endpoints in mind. Kids--and husbands--will be more willing to clean if they know they only have to do if for an hour, or whatever amount of time you agree upon.<br /><br />3. Make it a game. Kids like to play. Make cleaning synonymous with playing. If you have more than one child, you can make it a contest to see who finishes their duties first.<br /><br />4. Give the kids options. Ask your child if they would, for example, rather sweep the floors or wipe the counters. Kids like choices and having one will make them feel like more of the process instead of an employee who must do what they are told. <br /><br />5. Create a reward system. What this looks like is different for every family but it could include a candy for every chore completed or a once a week movie night if they do all of their weekly chores. This can also include an allowance or privileges like going to their friends' house. <br /><br />6. Set a good example. Don't just let the house fall apart and, on a whim, ask everyone to pitch in and clean up. Be the person you want your kids to be. Keep your promises, do what you say you will do, create the environment and make your family get used to it, motivate them to maintain it as you would. <br /><br />7. Invite friends or family over. This is a great excuse to get your family to chip in with the cleaning. Everyone cleans up before the guests arrive. <br /><br />8. Reciprocity. Make it a part of your family culture that one good turn deserves another. Be helpful to the family members whose help you want in return. Don't expect willing assistance if you are not prepared to assist others.</p>
<p>Mia Redrick, Mom Strategist is a mom of three, author and speaker empowering one million mothers to practice better self-care. Redrick is the author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Time-mom-Me-Essential-Strategies-Self-Care/dp/0979627303/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1288711627&sr=1-1" target="_blank">Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother's Self-Care. </a>For tips from The Mom Strategist visit <a href="http://www.findingdefinitions.com" target="_blank">www.findingdefinitions.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-11-14T20:06:00Z
Don't Bother with Cars 2 Unless You're a Diehard Fan
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2011-11-07T17:17:00Z
2011-11-07T17:17:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br />(Cars 2 now out on DVD)<br /><br />I’m starting to see a trend with animated sequels lately- studios wowing us with cool special effects but thinking we’ll overlook their weak story lines.<br /> <br />Cars 2 centers around Lightning McQueen and Tow Mater’s trip abroad, as McQueen competes in a multi-city World Grand Prix. The story is mainly about the lovable, obtuse sidekick Mater this time while McQueen plays a supporting role.<br /> <br />Much lonelier than the first film, when friends were plentiful and always there to lend a hand, Mater is left to figure things out on his own as he unknowingly becomes embroiled in a spy scheme while in, what to him are, strange new lands.<br /> <br />The film begins with a James Bond opening- a car chase and lots of bang, bang, shoot’em-up sequences. One of the first spoken lines of the movie is “Kill him!” There are several electrocutions along the way too. There were many times I thought of the G-rated movies of my own youth, and couldn’t believe I was sitting through one.<br /> <br />There are plenty of Anti-American jabs as the duo travel through Europe. For instance one Brit asks another about Mater, “Is he American?” to which the other replies, <em>“Very,”</em> as Mater is completely uncouth then and throughout the duration of the film.<br /> <br />To be fair, there are also jokes about Italians being mama’s boys. But the English are definitely the most attractive and smart while Americans are definitely the buffoons. Maybe I was extra sensitive that day, seeing it so soon in the theatres after the pride of celebrating the 4th of July, but those parts irked me. Now that it’s out on DVD, just before Thanksgiving, I still remember how it made me feel - like I shouldn’t be proud to be an American.<br /> <br />The movie makes statements about alternative fuel and other themes that were way too much for the G-rated crowd again. Coupled with the witty, Tina Fey banter, I was confused what audience the movie was targeting, kids or adults? Or maybe the kinds of cartoons aimed towards teens. I still don’t know.<br /> <br />The best part of the movie was the originality and detail that went into the effects, which really are stunning. There’s a scene when two cars are trapped inside Big Ben in London (or I think it’s Big Benz in the movie); anyways, the cranks and shafts rotate in perfect unison and look so real I marveled at how far computer animation has come.<br /> <br />I also enjoyed the smart car humor. Mater is mortified that he “leaks oil” in public and the play on words is constant. For instance, they visit “Towkyo” to kick off the international race. Though the puns mostly went over my kids’ heads, as I’m sure they did the other under 10s in attendance, the jokes weren’t lost on the adults. Like in the original Cars, the all-car cast of characters all had great names like Axelrod and Shiftwell.<br /> <br />There just wasn’t a linear, substantive overall plot.<br /> <br />My young daughters were bored stiff and I couldn’t wait for it to end either. I felt like I was watching a guy movie, but it was G-rated, and a cartoon. As a sequel to an original we all loved, even my older kids didn’t really get most of it.<br /> <br />By the end, even Mater as the lovable protagonist grated on my nerves.<br /> <br />The first Cars movie came out in 2006, when my now 7 and 9-year-olds were tiny. They zoomed their little Lightning McQueen cars around then, and I think they were looking forward to the sequel. I thought possibly they’re aging the franchise with its viewers, just like Harry Potter. But then why is Cars 2 rated G? And why, as my son informed me, is the Cars 2 video game rated for ages 10 and up but the movie is for general audiences?<br /> <br />This movie made me yearn for the Disney movies of my youth, when movies were light on effects but heavy on story lines and morals for little kids. Movies as recent as Toy Story 3 achieve both.<br /> <br />Cars 2 is another modern film that aims to show all the tricks it’s got, and little else.<br /> <br />I would only recommend this movie to diehard fans of the original Cars movie. </p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Get weekly updates by subscribing to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-11-07T17:17:00Z
Puss in Boots: A Kids' Movie with Everything
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2011-11-02T19:08:00Z
2011-11-02T19:08:00Z
<p>Julie Samrick<br /><a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused<br /></a><br />An egg and a cat is the oddest pairing of friends I could ever imagine; yet Humpty Dumpty and Puss in Boots make the best movie friendship I can recall.<br /> <br />The newly released DreamWorks film is supposed to be a prequel to Shrek 2, where viewers get Puss’s back-story, told like an old western, with plenty of bravado, desert landscapes and loneliness. There are lots of light moments, too, leaving viewers with the feeling that this movie has it all.<br /> <br />“The story of a cat who became a hero” begins with Puss (voiced by Antonio Banderas) as a self-described outlaw. We are taken back to the past when Puss is just a sweet kitten at the San Ricardo Orphanage and the other inhabitants are also childhood nursery rhyme characters like Humpty Dumpty and Little Boy Blue.<br /> <br />A tight bond is forged between Puss and Humpty as they fight off outlaws, Jack and Jill, and set off on an odyssey to search for magic beans (of Jack and the Beanstalk lore). Kitty Soft Paws (voiced by Salma Hayek) joins Puss and Humpty, making the trio a modern and dynamic 3 Musketeers.<br /> <br />I forgot I was rooting for 2 cats and an egg- they are so wonderfully developed and human. Every once in a while the movie creators throw something in to remind us we are indeed watching…cats and an egg. Puss walks into a bar, full of swagger, then grabs a shot of milk to lap. Humpty is full of gumption, until he loses his balance and is helpless until his wobbly self is set straight again.<br /> <br />The soundtrack had me dancing in my seat (who knew I love flamenco music?) The smart, original story line isn’t crude, rude, or too violent or banal for kids and parents to enjoy together, as is often the case with kids’ movies these days. I really loved it!<br /> <br />I would recommend this movie to children aged 7 and over. Yes, there are two intense action scenes, but mainly it’s because some of the themes and story lines would be lost on younger viewers. Among the more serious ones, there are messages concerning topics about justice, revenge, and shame. It wouldn’t be bad to take kids younger than 7 if they are tagging along with older kids in the family- I took my 5 and 3-year-olds along with my 7 and 9-year-olds and they did just fine. It just might be a waste of money to take only younger kids.<br /> <br />For everyone else, Puss in Boots is a gem. It’s likely the best-animated film I’ve seen so far this year.<br /> </p>
<p>Julie Samrick is a stay-at-home mom of 4 young kids and the founder of <a href="http://kidfocused.com/" target="_blank">Kid Focused</a>, a site devoted to children and family issues. Get weekly updates by subscribing to the free <a href="http://kidfocused.us2.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=bdb270f7e82b12d1fd161b6cb&id=f87064d037" target="_blank">Kid Focused newsletter</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com </p>
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2011-11-02T19:08:00Z
How to Roast and Use Pumpkins!
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2011-10-17T07:00:00Z
2011-10-17T07:00:00Z
Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam<br /><a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com<br /><br /></a>Peter Piper Picked a Profoundly Plump Pumpkin -- Now what does he do with it?<br /><br /><strong>How to Roast a Pumpkin</strong><br /><br /><strong>You can only do this with a freshly carved pumpkin!</strong> Do not use on a pumpkin that has been carved and sitting out for several days.<br /><br /><strong>To bake a fresh 6 to 7 pound pumpkin,</strong> halve the pumpkin crosswise and scoop out the seeds and strings. Place halves, hollow side down, in a large baking pan covered with aluminum foil and add a little water. Bake, uncovered, at 375 degrees for 1 1/2 to 2 hours or until fork-tender. Remove. When cool, scrape pulp from shells and puree, a little at time, in food processor or blender. Mix with a little salt.<br /><br /><strong>To freeze pumpkin puree.</strong> Put 1-2 cups in freezer bags along with spices and use in pies.<br /><br /><strong>To use pumpkin puree for recipes:</strong> Line a strainer with a double layer of cheesecloth or a flour sack dish towel and let the pumpkin sit to drain out the extra moisture BEFORE cooking with it. Pumpkin is very moist, so in order for your recipe to come out correctly, you MUST strain it.<br /><br /><strong>Roasted Pumpkin Seeds</strong><br /><br />Boil seeds in water for 5 minutes. Drain well. Sprinkle with salt or seasoned salt. Place a thin layer on a cookie sheet. Bake at 250 degrees. Stir after 30 minutes. Bake 1/2-1 hour more or until crunchy.<br /><br />*Squash seeds may also be used.<br /><br /><strong>Pumpkin Smoothies<br /></strong><br />1/2 cup pumpkin<br />3/4 cup milk or vanilla yogurt<br />1/4 tsp. cinnamon<br />1/8 tsp. nutmeg<br />2 tsp. brown sugar<br />4 ice cubes<br />whipped cream (optional)<br />sprinkles (optional)<br /><br />Place all ingredients in a blender. Blend until smooth. Pour into 2-3 glasses. Serve with a small amount of whipped cream on top. You may also add orange sprinkles if you like. Serves 2-3.<br /><br /><strong>Pumpkin Crunch</strong><br /><br />1 package yellow cake mix<br />1 can (15 oz.) solid packed pumpkin<br />1 can (12 oz.) evaporated milk<br />3 large eggs<br />1 1/2 cup sugar<br />1 tsp. cinnamon<br />1 tsp. salt<br />1/2 cup nuts<br />1 cup butter, melted<br /><br />Heat oven to 350 degrees. Mix pumpkin, milk, eggs, sugar, cinnamon, and salt in a large bowl. Pour into a greased 9x13 pan. Sprinkle dry cake mix over pumpkin mixture. Then sprinkle with nuts. Drizzle with butter. Bake for 50-55 minutes or until golden brown. Cool, served chilled. Serve with whipped topping.<br /><br /><strong>Homemade Pumpkin Muffins</strong><br /><br />1 cake mix (any flavor works, but chocolate is our hands down favorite!) 1 can pumpkin or 2 cups mashed cooked pumpkin<br /><br />Beat together with electric mixer until smooth (It will be really thick). Add 1 cup mini chocolate chips and stir. Line muffin tins with paper muffin cups and spray with non-stick spray. Use an ice cream scoop to put batter into muffin cups (I can get 24 muffins from one box of mix). Bake at 350 degrees for around 20 minutes. Cool and frost if desired. My family likes them just as they are when they are hot from the oven.<br /><br />Spice cake mix is great - add white chocolate chips, peanut butter chips or butterscotch chips.<br /><br />I have made pumpkin muffins with white cake mix and yellow cake mix too. They have around 120 calories apiece with the mini chocolate chips and are virtually fat free. If you are on weight watchers, they only count as 1 point.<br /><br />This is a fabulous way to sneak some vitamin A rich veggies in on the kids. Just don't let them see you put the pumpkin into the muffins and they will never know it is there. These are more moist than very expensive name brand double chocolate chip muffins.<br /><br /><strong>Pumpkin Pancakes</strong><br /><br />2 cups flour<br />2 Tbsp. brown sugar, packed<br />1 Tbsp. baking powder<br />1 1/4 tsp. pumpkin pie spice<br />1 tsp. salt<br />1/2 cup pumpkin<br />1 large egg<br />2 Tbsp. vegetable oil<br />1 cup milk<br />1/2 cup nuts, chopped (optional)<br /><br />Combine ingredients. Stir just until moistened; batter may be lumpy. Heat griddle or skillet over medium heat. Brush lightly with vegetable oil. Pour 1/4 cup batter onto hot griddle. Cook until bubbles begin to burst. Turn and continue cooking 1 to 2 minutes. Serve with Pumpkin Maple Sauce and nuts.<br /><br /><strong>Pumpkin Maple Sauce</strong><br /><br />1 cup maple syrup<br />1 1/4 cups pumpkin<br />1/4 tsp. ground cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice Mix together until well blended.<br /><br />Visit <a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com" target="_blank">www.LivingOnADime.com</a> for more easy recipes!<br /><br />Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam are frugal living experts and the authors of the <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/store/dining-dime-cookbook/" target="_blank">Dining On A Dime Cookbook</a>. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes visit <br /><a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com <br />
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2011-10-17T07:00:00Z
Nine Ways To Cure Unhappiness
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2011-09-12T07:00:00Z
2011-09-12T07:00:00Z
By Janet Levine<br /> <a href="http://www.janetlevine.com/" target="_blank">www.janetlevine.com</a><br /> <br /> <em>"If only there was a cure for unhappiness."</em><br /> <br /> The other day someone spoke those words to me accompanied by a heartfelt sigh. Unhappiness is a burden we carry at times and it can be debilitating. Is there a cure? It is easier to contemplate the idea we cause much of our unhappiness by attaching so much energy and attention to the cause - loss, unwelcome change, illness, our own or of someone we are close to, disappointment and so on - than to change our state of mind about the situation. Yet change our attitude is exactly what we need to do. As Hamlet in the famous Shakespeare play of the same name says, "There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so." Here are some proven "cures."<br /> <br /> 1. Be content 100% of your effort in whatever you undertake is perfect enough. Don't obsess about how you can achieve 110%. Between you and me, as you grow older and wiser, you learn 90% will do very well, too.<br /> <br /> 2. Be content in the knowledge not everyone you desire to help and accommodate to wants or needs your help or accommodation. Some people find your constant attention annoying. Offer yourself and then wait for the other person to step toward you. Don't feel rejected and unhappy if they don't, there are many reasons why they are not open to you at that moment, and they almost certainly have nothing to do with you.<br /> <br /> 3. Be content not to always be "doing": performing, achieving, always being "on" can become burdensome. Be assured you are also living life if sometimes you can just "be." In other words be content to be a human being and not a human "doing". <br /> <br /> 4. Be content with what you have and try not to struggle with envy of what others have or what you can't have. For instance, if your finances do not allow it, don't page through high-end glossy catalogs and desire what you see there; those material goods you never knew you wanted until you opened the pages. If this is a cause of unhappiness, don't look at those offerings, don't read the catalog, no one is forcing you to be envious or focus on what is missing in your life.<br /> <br /> 5. Be content with the knowledge you can gather about a topic and relax into the idea of being reasonably knowledgeable. You can't be an expert on everything. In our information age there is no end to resources and sources of more information. Pursuing this shifting goal obsessively can cause great mental anguish. <br /> <br /> 6. Be content to be present in the moment and drop the "over thinking" habit. Like a drug habit we can become caught up in our stories, memories and judgments and once obsessive thinking kicks in we lose touch with the present and move into doubts, fears, questions of the future and past. We replay scenarios and double-guess ourselves over what we regret or anticipate what is to come. Usually these thoughts can dominate our desire to be balanced and present. <br /> <br /> 7. Be content with your current environment whether at home, work or recreation. You know if you have a short attention span, so practice not losing focus. Don't let your attention be drawn away by a fly buzzing, or another noise, or an itch. Be especially vigilant with mental activities such as thinking about future plans and options take over. If you find you are somewhere else in your mind than where you are supposed to be, break the chain of mental activity and refocus.<br /> <br /> 8. Be content the world will continue to spin whether you are there or not to control the axis. In other words take responsibility for what you can control and let go of trying to control what you know is beyond your ambit. This is especially relevant in relationships. Learn how to control yourself so you don't scare people away with your inner power and desire for control, and let them take care of themselves. Otherwise you make yourself and those around you unhappy.<br /> <br /> 9. Be content with your placidity and ability to feel compassion and empathy for others. People like a non-confrontational presence and energy, and you can help by listening and using your empathy to see their problem as they see it. This is a gift. It is important to feel compassion for yourself as well.<br /> <br /> These "cures" all lead back to how we process our life's experiences. We can choose unhappiness or be content knowing we are coping as best we can. We can never find permanent happiness and contentment in outer objects and activities. We need to recognize that we can choose the peace of mind that is present naturally for us. We simply have to become conscious of its existence. <br /> <br /> <br /> An accomplished author, teacher and presenter, Janet Levine is an expert on applying spiritual practices to practical purposes for everyday life such as coping with stress, achieving balance and happiness, and parenting. Some of these ideas are given fictional form in her latest book, "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Leelas-Gift-Janet-Levine/dp/055753142X/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1300137124&sr=1-4" target="_blank">Leela's Gift</a>." Learn more about her work at <a href="http://www.janetlevine.com/" target="_blank">www.janetlevine.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2011-09-12T07:00:00Z
Introduction to Indian Cuisine for Babies
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2011-06-15T07:00:00Z
2011-06-15T07:00:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" />By Cheryl Tallman<br /> <a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><a target="_blank" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2flivingonadime.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497"><br /> </a><br /> <br /> Indian cuisine seeks a balance of four tastes - sweet, sour, salty and bitter. This goal is based on a 5,000 year-old science that focuses a belief that eating balanced flavors encourages proper digestion and the release of positive, nurturing energy.<br /> <br /> The food of India reflects the great variety of Indian life. What Indian people eat depends on the crops raised locally in their area and the ethnic and religious traditions and their lifestyles. On crowded city streets, vendors peddle a selection of tasty on-the-go food such as samosas, a vegetable (or meat) stuffed pastry. Religious affiliations also dictate Indian diets. As a result, people in India eat far less meat than do other people around the world. This emphasis on meatless dining has led to a unique cuisine of vegetarian delights.<br /> <br /> <strong>Common Spices used in Indian Cooking:</strong><br /> <ul> <li>Curry Powder (Yellow)* </li> <li>Garam Masala* </li> <li>Cumin </li> <li>Cinnamon </li> <li>Nutmeg <br /> <em>Note: Curry Powder and Garam Masala are both Spice blends. They can be purchased in markets or homemade using a variety of spices.</em></li> </ul> <br /> <strong>Common Foods Used in Indian Cooking:</strong><br /> <ul> <li>Lentils </li> <li>Chick Peas </li> <li>Leafy Greens </li> <li>Winter Squashes </li> <li>Yogurt </li> <li>Chutneys (a sweet and sour condiment)</li> </ul> <br /> It's simple to add a "Taste of India" to your baby's food by making Indian-inspired sauces, freezing these sauces in single-serving cubes and adding them to your baby's pureed or mashed foods.<br /> <br /> <strong>Coconut Curry Sauce Cubes</strong><br /> <br /> Yellow Curry Powder is often associated with Indian cooking. It's a blend of spices, which vary by region, food, and cooking style. Most Indian curry powders contain turmeric, coriander and cumin. At the market, choose a curry powder labeled "mild" for this recipe.<br /> <br /> This recipe uses coconut milk which can be found in the Asian section of your supermarket. Coconut milk sometimes separates into a thick layer of white coconut and a watery liquid. Shaking the can before opening can recombine it, but if that doesn't work, pour the contents of the can into a blender and whirl it, or pour it into a bowl and use a whisk to blend it together.<br /> <br /> <strong>Ingredients:</strong><br /> <ul> <li>1 (13.5 oz) can Coconut Milk </li> <li>1/4 cup Chicken Broth </li> <li>1/4 cup Onion, chopped </li> <li>1 Garlic Clove, chopped </li> <li>1 Tbsp. Tomato Paste </li> <li>1-2 Tsp. Curry (mild) Powder </li> <li>1/4 tsp. Cinnamon </li> <li>1 Tbsp. Brown Sugar</li> </ul> Place all contents in a blender and process to smooth texture. Pour into a saucepan, bring to a boil, cover and simmer over low heat for 10 minutes. Pour the sauce into an ice cube tray, cover and freeze until ready to use. <br /> <br /> <strong>Serving:</strong> Remove a sauce cube from the freezer, defrost and combine it with pureed or mashed beans, meats rice or vegetables. When first introducing the sauce, try a small amount and work your way up to more. Here are some delicious combinations for awesome coconut curries:<br /> <ul> <li>Lentils, Carrots and Apples </li> <li>Sweet Potatoes, Cauliflower and Beef </li> <li>Brown Rice, Spinach and Chicken</li> </ul> <br /> <strong>Apple Chutney Cubes</strong><br /> <br /> Chutney is a popular Indian Condiment that is made from fruits or vegetables with vinegar, spices, and sugar. It is commonly served with roasted meats or vegetables and curries. It also makes a great snack with cream cheese and crackers. <br /> <br /> <strong>Ingredients:</strong> <br /> <ul> <li>3 large Granny Smith apples peeled, cored, and chopped </li> <li>1/2 cup Onion, chopped</li> <li>1/4 cup Golden Raisins </li> <li>1/2 cup Apple Cider Vinegar </li> <li>1/2 cup Brown Sugar </li> <li>1 Tbsp. Fresh Ginger, chopped </li> <li>1/2 tsp. Pumpkin Pie Spice</li> </ul> <br /> Combine all ingredients in a medium saucepan and stir well. Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer, covered, for 40 minutes. Let cool. Pour into a blender or food processor and process to a smooth texture. Pour the sauce into an ice cube tray, cover and freeze until ready to use. <br /> <br /> <strong>Serving:</strong> Remove a chutney cube from the freezer, defrost and combine it with pureed or mashed beans, meats rice or vegetables. At the beginning, try a small amount of chutney and work your way up to more. Here are some winning combinations for tasty chutney-infused dining:<br /> <ul> <li>Banana and Yogurt </li> <li>Pork, Butternut Squash and Brown Rice </li> <li>Roasted Cauliflower, White Potatoes and Black Beans </li> <li>Combine Apple Chutney with Vanilla Yogurt for great dipping sauce</li> </ul> <br /> About the author: Cheryl Tallman is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food </em>and the new book <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2011-06-15T07:00:00Z
Muffin Basics
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Muffin-Basics/9750.html
2011-05-17T03:18:00Z
2011-05-17T03:18:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" />by Jill Cooper<br />
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Muffins are very easy to make. Mix the liquid ingredients into the dry ingredients and hand stir lightly. Usually, you only need to stir them about 12-15 times. The batter will be very lumpy but that is the way it should be. Muffins are one thing you don't want to over-mix. Pour them into greased muffin cups about 2/3 full. If you don't have enough batter to fill all of the cups in the pan, you can fill the empty ones with water if you like. I do this sometimes but not always.<br />
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<li>If you are adding nuts or fruit, mix them in with the dry ingredients before you add the liquids. This prevents them from all falling to the bottom of the muffin.</li>
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<li>Your muffins should come out with rounded tops and a light fluffy texture. If they don't, there could be a couple of things you are doing wrong:</li>
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<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>- Flat heavy muffins with tunnels may mean your oven temperature is too low.<br />
<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>- If the muffin has a lopsided or misshapen peak, the oven temperature could <br />
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<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>- Knobs and peaks on top and long tunnels can also be caused by over-mixing.<br />
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Here is a basic muffin mix recipe from <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/store/dining-dime-cookbook/" target="_blank">Dining on A Dime</a>:<br />
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<strong>Basic Muffins</strong><br />
2 cups flour<br />
1/4 cup sugar<br />
1 Tbsp. baking powder<br />
1/2 tsp. salt<br />
1 egg, beaten<br />
1 cup milk<br />
1/4 cup oil<br />
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Mix ingredients together. Spoon into greased muffin cups, 2/3 full. Bake at 400° for 20-25 minutes. Makes about 12-15 muffins.<br />
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<strong>Add these ingredients to a basic muffin mix to liven up your muffins:</strong><br />
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<li><strong>Bacon or Ham</strong> - Reduce sugar to 2 Tbsp. and add 1/2 cup chopped bacon or ham</li>
<li><strong>Blueberries</strong> - 1 cup</li>
<li><strong>Cherries or cranberries</strong> - 2/3 cup of cherries or cranberries, mixed with 2 Tbsp. of sugar first</li>
<li><strong>Dried fruit</strong> - 1/2 cup apricots, currants, peaches, figs, prunes, raisins or dates</li>
<li><strong>Nuts</strong> - 1/3 cup chopped</li>
<li><strong>Cheese</strong> - 1/2 cup grated cheese and 1/8 tsp. paprika</li>
<li><strong>Cornmeal </strong>- 1 cup cornmeal and 1 cup flour</li>
<li><strong>Whole wheat</strong> - 1 cup whole wheat flour and 1 cup flour. This is especially good with crumbled bacon.</li>
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The sky is the limit with what you can add to a muffin if you only have a hand full of many different things. For example a little leftover corn would be good in a cornmeal muffin, a few chocolate chips would spruce up lots of different muffins, etc.<br />
-Jill<br />
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Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam are frugal living experts and the authors of the <a href="http://www.livingonadime.com/store/dining-dime-cookbook/" target="_blank">Dining On A Dime Cookbook</a>. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt, by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes, including gardening tips, visit <a target="_blank" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2flivingonadime.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">LivingOnADime.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2011-05-17T03:18:00Z
Delicious Mother's Day Breakfast!
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Delicious-Mothers-Day-Breakfast!/9751.html
2011-05-03T06:43:00Z
2011-05-03T06:43:00Z
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by Jill Cooper<br />
<a target="_parent" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2flivingonadime.com%2f&tabid=123&mid=474">LivingOnADime.com</a><br />
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<strong>You discreetly open one eye and scan the room.</strong> Maybe if you don't move they will think you are still sleeping. Crash! The door flies open, the scrambled eggs go airborne and you know they have found you out! There they stand in the doorway - your family, grinning from ear to ear. It's another Mother's Day and once again they are treating you like a goddess- bringing you a tray full of burnt offerings (known in our culture as breakfast in bed).<br />
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<strong>There's blackened toast, large brown lumps you think may be scrambled eggs,</strong> coffee "paste", and oh, are these strips of bacon, beef jerky or dog treats? Then of course you look at their smiling faces full of love and you are reminded how blessed you are. Gratefully, you pick up your fork and start eating. Has anything ever tasted more like manna from heaven?<br />
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<strong>If you'd rather be able to identify your Mother's Day breakfast this year,</strong> then discreetly slip these recipes to your husband or children so that he can make sure that this heartwarming moment is also a tasty memory for you!<br />
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<strong>RECIPES:</strong><br />
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<strong>Pancakes</strong><br />
2 eggs<br />
2 cups flour, all-purpose or wheat<br />
1 1/2 cups milk<br />
2 Tbsp. sugar <br />
1/4 cup vegetable oil <br />
5 tsp. baking powder<br />
1/2 tsp. salt<br />
In a bowl, mix ingredients just enough to moisten dry ingredients. Mixture will be thick and lumpy. Heat a griddle or frying pan over medium heat and lightly grease. Cook on a hot greased griddle. Flip when bubbles break on the surface and the edges begin to dry. Makes 15-18 medium pancakes.<br />
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<strong>Scrambled Eggs</strong><br />
8 eggs<br />
4 Tbsp. milk or water (optional) <br />
1 tsp. salt <br />
1/4 tsp. pepper<br />
4 tsp. margarine (or bacon grease)<br />
Stir all the ingredients except margarine in a bowl until well blended. Heat a skillet on medium heat. Add margarine to the skillet. Pour egg mixture into skillet. Stir constantly about 4 minutes until eggs are fluffy and set. Serves 4<br />
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<strong>Country Fried Potatoes</strong><br />
6 Tbsp. bacon grease or margarine<br />
6 potatoes, peeled and sliced <br />
salt and pepper <br />
Melt bacon grease or margarine in a frying pan. Add the potatoes in the pan and cook over medium heat. Flip potatoes and cook until golden brown. Remove from pan. Salt and pepper to taste. Serves 4-6.<br />
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<strong>Creamy Orange Shake</strong> <br />
(like Orange Julius) <br />
1/3 cup frozen orange juice concentrate<br />
1/2 cup milk<br />
1/4 cup sugar <br />
1/2 cup water (optional)<br />
1/2 tsp. vanilla<br />
5-6 ice cubes<br />
2 scoops vanilla ice cream<br />
Combine ingredients in a blender until smooth. Serves 4.<br />
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<strong>Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam</strong> are frugal living experts and the authors of the Dining On A Dime Cookbook. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt, by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes, including gardening tips, visit <a target="_blank" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2flivingonadime.com%2f&tabid=123&mid=474">LivingOnADime.com</a> Permission granted for use on Dr.Laura.com.
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Staff
2011-05-03T06:43:00Z
What's in Season: Artichokes
Staff
http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Whats-in-Season:-Artichokes/9752.html
2011-04-26T06:11:00Z
2011-04-26T06:11:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" />By Cheryl Tallman<br />
<a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.freshbaby.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br />
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Spring is here and the steady stream of fresh produce arriving into your local market is about to begin. Some of the first vegetables of spring include artichokes. Artichokes are very healthy and peeling off petals, dipping them and scraping them your teeth make artichokes fun to eat for the whole family.<br />
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Artichokes are an excellent source of potassium and magnesium. They are good source of folic acid. Here are a few pointers on picking, storing and preparing the freshest and the best tasting artichokes of the season:<br />
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<strong>At the market:</strong> Select compact, heavy artichokes with hard, tight leaves and good green color. Avoid an artichoke with discolored leaves, black spots at the tip, or that are open.<br />
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<strong>Storage:</strong> In the fridge for up to 4-5 days, unwashed, in a loosely open or perforated plastic bag<br />
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<strong>Preparation: <em>Basic Steamed Artichokes</em></strong><br />
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Cooking whole artichokes can take about an hour, but cutting them in half or quarters before cooking reduces the cooking time less than 20 minutes. Plus, the half or quarter is a perfect serving size. <br />
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<strong>Directions:</strong> Wash artichokes under running water. The pointed ends or the leaves can be removed by cutting off about 1/4 inch with kitchen shears. Cut 1/4 inch of the stem end of the artichoke off. On a cutting board, hold the artichoke with the stem facing up and cut through the entire artichoke with a large knife. Using a spoon scoop out the "choke" (fuzzy-looking part) and any sharp purple-ish petals. Set each half in a bowl of water with some lemon juice until you are ready to steam them. Steam artichokes in a steamer basket by bringing the water to a boil, cover and reduce heat to low. Steam artichokes for 15-20 minutes until they are easily pierced at the stem end with a fork. <br />
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<strong>Serving:</strong> Artichokes are often served with a dipping sauce. The sauce can be as simple as melted butter or mayonnaise. You can also tray one of the dipping sauce recipes below. <br />
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<strong>Eating artichokes:</strong> Simply peel off a petal, dip it in sauce and scrape the inside of the petal with your teeth. Once scraped, discard the petal. As you peel off the leaf, it will begin to reveal a culinary treat - the heart of the artichoke. Once the petals are gone, cut the heart into pieces, dip and enjoy the final bites of your delicious artichoke!<br />
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<strong>Lemon Garlic Herb Butter</strong><br />
* 1/2 cup butter<br />
* 1 clove garlic<br />
* 1 tsp. lemon zest<br />
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In a small saucepan, melt butter. Add garlic and lemon zest. Serve with artichokes<br />
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<strong>Herb Mayonnaise</strong><br />
* 1/2 cup mayonnaise<br />
* 1 tsp. parsley<br />
* 1 tsp. green onions<br />
* 1 tsp. fresh tarragon<br />
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Finely chop parsley, green onions, and tarragon. Mix herbs with mayonnaise and serve with artichokes.<br />
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<strong>Pesto Mayonnaise</strong><br />
* 1/2 cup Mayonnaise<br />
* 1-2 Tbsp. store-bought pesto<br />
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Whisk together mayonnaise and pesto. Serve with artichokes.<br />
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Cheryl Tallman is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of the <em>So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</em> and <em>So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</em>. Visit Cheryl online at <a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.freshbaby.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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Staff
2011-04-26T06:11:00Z
Easter Egg-stravaganza!
Staff
http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Easter-Egg-stravaganza!/9754.html
2011-04-12T05:19:00Z
2011-04-12T05:19:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" />By Tawra Kellam<br />
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OK, so the kids noticed on the calendar that Easter is approaching and they want to make a huge production of dying eggs. In the past, the little stickers you bought at the store sufficed, but now they want the real thing. Here are some old standards with a few new ideas for you. <br />
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One important note: When the kids get really excited about egg dying, don't feel sorry for them and pour the left over egg dye in their bath water so they can have more fun (no matter how much they beg and plead! Especially if it's food coloring). Someone might panic and declare a citywide medical quarantine if they see your kids dyed all sorts of strange colors in their Easter finery.<br />
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Before you decorate Easter eggs, cover the entire table with newspaper. Keep a huge roll of paper towels or rags handy for messes. Have each kid wear one of dad's old (now disposable) tee shirts.<br />
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Making Easter Egg Stands: Cut toilet paper roll cores into one inch cylinders and use for egg stands. Decorate with stickers or paint.<br />
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Decorating Eggs: <br />
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Traditional method<br />
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Hard boil eggs. Fill several mugs with boiling water and add 1-2 tsp. vinegar. Place a few drops of desired food coloring in each mug. Place eggs in mugs for several minutes until eggs reach desired shades.<br />
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Remove with a spoon. Place on paper towel to dry. When dry, polish with a small amount of shortening on a paper towel. Buff until glossy.<br />
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You can draw or write on the eggs with a light colored or white crayon before dipping. The drawing will remain white after the egg is dipped.<br />
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To clean out mugs, put a little bleach water in the cups and soak for a few minutes.<br />
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Natural Easter Egg Dyes <br />
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If you would like to try dying eggs naturally, try the following: <br />
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Yellow-- yellow onion skins, turmeric (frac12; tsp. per cup water) celery leaves<br />
Orange--any yellow dye plus beet juice<br />
Red--beets, paprika, red onion skins<br />
Pink--cranberry juice<br />
Blue--blackberries, grape juice concentrate, red cabbage<br />
Brown--black tea, white oak, juniper berry, coffee, barberry<br />
Light purple--blackberries, grapes, violets<br />
Green--alfalfa, spinach, kale, violet blossom plus frac14; tsp. baking soda, tansy, nettle, chervil, sorrel, parsley, carrot tops, beet tops or dip yellow egg in blue dye<br />
Hard boil eggs with 1 tsp. vinegar in the water. Place dying ingredients in non-aluminum pans, cover with water and boil 5 minutes to 1 hour until desired color is achieved. Use enough material to make at least 1 cup dye. Crush ingredients as they boil to extract as much dye as possible. Strain the dye. Most dyes should be used hot. Let each egg sit in the dye until it reaches the desired color. Some dyes will take longer than others to make the desired colored on the egg. Remove the egg and let dry.<br />
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Glitter Eggs- Place 1 tablespoon each of glue and water in a cup. Stir the mixture and then paint the eggs with it. Sprinkle with glitter. This can also add sparkle to already dyed eggs!<br />
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Crepe Paper Eggs- Wet a white or dyed egg. Dab torn pieces of colored tissue paper or pieces of pretty colored napkins on the eggs. When the paper dries, the paper falls off and leaves the color behind on the egg.<br />
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Decoupaged eggs - Tear small pieces of wrapping paper, napkins, stickers, or clip art. Mix equal amounts of glue and water. Paint egg with glue mixture. Place paper on top and then cover with more glue mixture. Let dry.<br />
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Spotted Eggs- Place 1 tsp. of cooking oil in dye. Dip the egg. The oil will cause the dye to make an irregular pattern on the egg.<br />
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Waxed Eggs- Dip a portion of the eggs in melted paraffin or candle wax. Then dip them in the dye. Remove from dye. Dry and peel off the wax. The egg will be white on one half and colored on the other half. You can also dip in dye before waxing to get two colors.<br />
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Hollow Eggs- Poke a hole in one end of an egg with a very small needle. Poke another slightly larger hole in the other end. Then blow on the small end and the egg will come out the other side. Decorate as desired. <br />
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Tawra Kellam is the author of the frugal cookbook Dining On A Dime: Eat Better, Spend Less. For more free tips and recipes visit her web site at <a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2flivingonadime.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">LivingOnADime.com</a>. Get your own FREE copy of Tawra's Quick Dinner e-book here. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br />
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Staff
2011-04-12T05:19:00Z
How to Hide Yourself on Facebook
Staff
http://www.DrLaura.com/b/How-to-Hide-Yourself-on-Facebook/9755.html
2011-03-28T22:15:00Z
2011-03-28T22:15:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" />By John Sileo<br />
<a target="_blank" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.sileo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">www.Sileo.com</a><br />
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What if I want to use Facebook to log in to other sites and to keep track of friends, but don't want to share my information the other direction?<br />
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In reality, it's difficult to just up and quit Facebook completely. You may want to use it like the proverbial fly on the wall that lets you watch what is going on in other people's lives without them seeing or commenting on what is going on in yours. You might use your Facebook login credentials to centralize access to other sites (e.g., log in to Twitter with your Facebook credentials). Or you may want to keep it open so your username isn't made available to someone else.<br />
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So how do you drop off of the Facebook radar without completely closing your account? This video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqQgODah96k&feature=player_embedded#) and the steps below are the closest approximation we've found to going underground.<br />
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1. First go to Facebook.com and log in to your profile. Click 'Account' in the top-right corner and then choose 'Privacy Settings.'<br />
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2. From the 'Privacy Settings' page, under "Connecting on Facebook" click 'View Settings' to see who can search for you, send messages to your account, see your education and work settings and more. Change all of these drop-down menus to 'Friends Only.' There is no option in this section to restrict the settings to 'Only Me' like there is in other areas.<br />
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3. Return to the 'Privacy Settings' page and choose 'Customize Settings' near the bottom of the page. This new page will load a number of different privacy options, but you'll want to click through each one and change the setting to 'Only Me' so that nobody else can see your Facebook activity.<br />
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4. While on the 'Customize Settings' page, scroll down to 'Things Others Share.' Here, you want to click Edit Settings and disable settings so that your friends are unable to write on your wall, comment on posts and check you in to places.<br />
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5. Return to the 'Privacy Settings' page and, under 'Apps and Websites' in the bottom-left corner, select 'Edit Your Settings.' This page shows all of the third-party websites and applications you have given access to some of your Facebook information. If you see anything on this list you want to remove, just click to remove it from the list.<br />
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6. Stay on the 'Apps and Websites' page, scroll down to 'Instant Personalization' and select 'Edit Settings.' Uncheck the box at the bottom of this page to block other websites from accessing your Facebook interests. Select 'Confirm' when a pop-up asks you if you're sure you want to disable this option.<br />
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7. Return to the 'Apps and Websites' page, scroll down to 'Public Search' and select 'Edit Settings.' To keep search engines from finding your Facebook profile, uncheck the box on this new screen.
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About the author: John Sileo speaks professionally to organizations that wish to avoid the costs associated with identity theft, data breach, social media exposure and insider theft. His satisfied clients include the Department of Defense, Blue Cross Blue Shield, the FDIC, Pfizer and hundreds of corporations of all sizes. Learn more about his entertaining and effective presentations at <a target="_blank" href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.thinklikeaspy.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a> or contact him directly on 800.258.8076. Permission for use on DrLaura.com</li>
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Staff
2011-03-28T22:15:00Z
How to Opt Out of Data Miners and Online Directories
Staff
http://www.DrLaura.com/b/How-to-Opt-Out-of-Data-Miners-and-Online-Directories/9756.html
2011-03-22T06:52:00Z
2011-03-22T06:52:00Z
<img class="blog-icon-large" alt="Icon" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" />By John Sileo<br />
<a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.sileo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.Sileo.com</a><br />
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Whether you like it or not, your information is available publicly to everyone through online directories. Businesses and advertisers have the ability to easily find this information and then market their products to you. This means that you have never actually "opted-in" to receive these ads. Fortunately, there are ways for you to "opt-out" of widespread information sharing (see the list of more than 120 ways below).<br />
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<strong>The Top 4 Opt-Out Opportunities:</strong><br />
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<li><strong><a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.optoutprescreen.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.OptOutPreScreen.com</a></strong>. Remove yourself from the marketing lists sold by the three major credit reporting bureaus, Equifax, Experian and TransUnion. There is not cost for this list. </li>
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<li><strong><a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.dmachoice.org%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.DMAchoice.org</a></strong>. This puts you on a Do Not Mail list for the Direct Marketing Association. The cost is $1, but it is well worth the instant trip down in your mail. </li>
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<li>White Pages. That's right, your old-fashioned printed phone directory is the source for most of the online contact info databases. Remove your directory listing (you will likely have to the phone company every month to have your info NOT shared - I know, it's asinine) or otherwise opt out.<br />
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<li><strong><a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.spokeo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.Spokeo.com</a>.</strong> To opt out, read this blog post about removing your info from Spokeo. This is one of the more utilized sites by identity thieves, stalkers and scammers. </li>
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There is a slower and more tedious process of opting out of online directories (i.e., you have to visit every one. Some (<a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fspokeo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank"><em>Spokeo.com</em></a><em></em>) are more important than others (<a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwhitepages.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank"><em>Whitepages.com</em></a><em></em>) because of the information that they collect. Sites such as Spokeo.com can have as much information as your physical address and pictures of your home, while others may just house your phone number. These sites spend hours upon hours scouring public records such as marriage licenses, birth certificates, and real estate purchases for this type of information.<br />
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Since most online directories typically offer a way to opt out of their listings you would think they would make it easy. Not so. They tend to hide this option deep within the site, as they don't actually want you to leave. Luckily, The Privacy Rights Clearing House has done most of the legwork in their <strong>Comprehensive Opt Out List</strong>. I suggest starting with a few main sites, <em><a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2f123people.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">123people.com</a></em>, <em><a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fspokeo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">spokeo.com</a></em>, etc. and continuously adding to it over time. Opt out of one a week if you like, and eventually your data will be less exposed. Protecting your privacy and identity is a layering process. It is easy for people to get overwhelmed, especially when it comes to online directories.<br />
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About the author: John Sileo speaks professionally to organizations that wish to avoid the costs associated with identity theft, data breach, social media exposure and insider theft. His satisfied clients include the Department of Defense, Blue Cross Blue Shield, the FDIC, Pfizer and hundreds of corporations of all sizes. Learn more about his entertaining and effective presentations at <a href="http://drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.thinklikeaspy.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497" target="_blank">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a> or contact him directly on 800.258.8076.Permission for use on DrLaura.com<br />
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2011-03-22T06:52:00Z
Spring Break Travel Scams
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Spring-Break-Travel-Scams/9757.html
2011-03-15T03:38:00Z
2011-03-15T03:38:00Z
<img src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg" class="blog-icon-large" alt="Icon" />By John Sileo<br />
<a target="_blank" href="http://www.drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.sileo.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">www.Sileo.com</a><br />
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Here comes Spring Break! And the scams that go along with travel and vacations, whether you are a student or just taking some time off.<br />
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<em>Picture this: you find a great deal online for a vacation package and are counting the days till you take off for some fun in the sun. The day finally arrives and you show up at the airport, bags packed and ready to take flight. But when you reach the ticket counter, you learn that you have no flights booked... you've been scammed!</em><br />
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It happens ALL THE TIME, and scammers are getting more and more convincing. Scams rise during any busy travel season, but there are ways to avoid becoming a victim. Here are some tips on how to prevent travel scams and make sure that you get to enjoy a great Spring break trip.<br />
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<ul>
<li>Verify the business you are booking your trip through. If you are going to use a travel agency or online booking company, make sure they are legitimate first. Go online and do your research - if people have been scammed before by the company, the internet is the first place they will go to vent. You can even ask the company for referrals so you can check up on some satisfied customers.</li>
</ul>
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<ul>
<li>Read everything carefully before you sign. Sometimes there are hidden fees or clauses where they can change the airport you are flying into or out of without telling you - even up to 100 miles away! Make sure you know the airline and hotel before signing. This way you can verify their legitimacy. Feel free to contact them and make sure that this is a great deal.</li>
</ul>
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<li>
Always pay with a credit card. Good credit card companies allow you to dispute fraudulent charges so that you are not held liable for the money. If the company insists you pay with cash or check or money order, GO SOMEPLACE ELSE! Legitimate travel companies will let you use a credit card.</li>
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<ul>
<li>Make sure you get EVERYTHING in writing. If your great deal does turn out to be a scam, you will need something to show the credit card company in order to dispute the charges.</li>
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<li>
<strong>If it sounds too good to be true, then it probably is.</strong> If they are offering you a flight to Mexico that is regularly $500 for $100, then chances are, it's a scam. While there are great ways to book your hotel + flight + food + drink together to save money, most don't offer an 80% discount!</li>
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Buy directly from the companies themselves (airline, hotel, transportation, tickets). Many times the actual companies guarantee the cheapest possible fare on their own website (United does this, for example). Even if it does cost you a bit more, you will sleep better at night knowing that your trip is booked and confirmed.</li>
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A lot of Mexico resorts offer all inclusive packages that are a great deal. You simply need to purchase your airfare. If you are booking it directly through the resort websites themselves, your chances of getting scammed drops immensely.</li>
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Don't be afraid to try a website like <a target="_blank" href="http://www.drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.tripadvisor.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">TripAdvisor.com</a> to do some background investigation.</li>
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Getting scammed definitely kills the vacation buzz! Getting scammed when you're ready to have a great time with friends and family just plain sucks! Follow these tips to make sure that it doesn't happen to you.<br />
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<strong>John Sileo</strong> speaks professionally to organizations that wish to avoid the costs associated with identity theft, data breach, social media exposure and insider theft. His satisfied clients include the Department of Defense, Blue Cross Blue Shield, the FDIC, Pfizer and hundreds of corporations of all sizes. Learn more about his entertaining and effective presentations at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.drlaura.com/LinkClick.aspx?link=http%3a%2f%2fwww.thinklikeaspy.com%2f&tabid=125&mid=497">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a> or contact him directly on 800.258.8076. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
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2011-03-15T03:38:00Z
5 Things Toddlers Teach Us About Back Pain Relief
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/5-Things-Toddlers-Teach-Us-About-Back-Pain-Relief/9758.html
2011-03-01T07:47:00Z
2011-03-01T07:47:00Z
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<p>By Kathleen Porter<br />
<a target="_blank" href="http://www.naturalposturesolutions.com/">http://www.naturalposturesolutions.com/</a>.<br />
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<p><strong>Toddlers Hold the Key to Pain-free Living and Healthy Aging</strong></p>
<p>Toddlers may have to rely on grown-ups to teach them how to tie a shoe and use the potty, but when it comes to knowing how to sit, stand, bend and walk with ease, we can take our cues from these agile little ones . Moreover, toddlers, in spite of their tender age, hold the secret of how to age comfortably. Sound nutty? Read on.<br />
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<p>All healthy babies teach themselves how to stand and walk by falling down enough times to discover the central axis or "plumb line" along which they must arrange their bones in order to balance a heavy head on top of the spine. A comparison of people in the world who age into their 80's and 90's with long spines and no back pain with the typical person who experiences chronic back pain, reveals the back pain sufferer is far more likely to have veered off from this axis. The shocker is that true natural alignment is surprisingly different from what your mother may have taught you about sitting or standing "up straight."<br />
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<p><strong>5 Things Toddlers Know that Most of Us Have Forgotten</strong></p>
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<li>One of the first things toddlers learn when standing on their own is their bones do the primary job of holding them up, not muscle strength. Without aligned bones, they fall down.</li>
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<li>Toddlers do not actively lift up their chests, nor do they slouch. To do either would cause them to lose their balance.</li>
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<li>Toddlers don't have firm "abs" or sucked-in bellies. Their relaxed belly muscles on the surface allow breathing to be free and natural, as well as their skeletons to align themselves. Only with aligned bones can the deeper "core" abs provide stabilizing support.</li>
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<li>Toddlers do not pull their heads up and back. The fact their heads are proportionately larger and heavier at their age forces them to discover how to delicately balance the skull on the spine (somewhat like a bowling ball on a stick).</li>
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<li>Toddlers don't breathe into their upper chests, but rather experience a gentle natural breath in the lowest and broadest part of the lungs, filing the back, as well as the front of the body.</li>
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<p>Children are losing their natural alignment at increasingly younger ages due to a long list of influences that include such things as poorly designed strollers, car seats and desk seats in school which often cause the pelvis to tuck in a "sad dog" position. Hours spent slumped in front of television and computer screens cause muscles in the front of the hips and torso to be trained to shorten in an unnatural, chronic way that becomes habitual in all they do. To counteract our society's ever-growing tendency towards slouching, we have developed an entire culture of exercise and fitness that is based on the belief strength and flexibility are qualities that must be worked at to be maintained. However, authentic strength and flexibility are simply the natural byproducts of living a normally active life in an aligned body, where muscles remain elastic and joints have full range of movement. People who age into their 70s, 80s and beyond with elongated spines and flexible joints, as well as those small women in the world who successfully carry heavy loads on their heads without developing problems, have never lost the skeletal alignment they first discovered as toddlers<br />
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<strong>Things You Can Do to Align Like a Toddler</strong><br />
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<p>While specific instructions for how to realign in a natural way is beyond the scope of this article, some simple explorations can help you get started. Keep in mind the steps outlined below may feel awkward, weird or just plain wrong at first, especially if your muscles are accustomed to doing the work of holding you up.</p>
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<li><strong>Locate your sit bones or "butt bones."</strong> Sit on a firm, level surface. Slide your right hand, palm up, under your right buttock. Let your weight come down onto your hand and roll around until you feel a boney "knob" pushing into your hand. This is one of your sit bones (there's another one on the left side). A baby or toddler always sits perched on these sit bones.</li>
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<li><strong>Park your pelvis in neutral.</strong> Bring your weight directly onto both sit bones. (Pulling the flesh of the buttocks out behind you may help you do this). Bring your awareness to the pubic bone, where two bones of your pelvis meet low in the front. Slowly move the pubic bone upward, away from the seat, noticing the rounding that comes into the spine. Notice, also, how your weight has rolled off the back edge of the sit bones. Now press the pubic bone downwards into the seat until you experience the rising length that comes into the spine. This will give you a sense of how the position of the pelvis determines the stability of everything above it.</li>
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<li><strong>Relax Your Belly.</strong> This can be one of the most difficult things to do when we have been told constantly to "suck it in." However, tightening the "abs" (<em>rectus abdominis</em>) interferes with natural breathing. Give it a try. Suck in and hold your tummy in for a few seconds, long enough to notice you've stopped breathing. Now relax your belly ever so slightly, then a little more and a little more, and you will experience how breathing returns quite naturally. (Don't worry. Your deeper core abs can only do their job when this surface tension is released)."</li>
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<li><strong>Let your chest settle "in" instead of lifting "up.</strong> This can be hard to accept if you've been taught to sit up straight by lifting your chest. However, lifting your chest not only arches the spine, it compresses the spinal cord through which every nerve in your body passes. For many people, longstanding back problems are resolved almost immediately when they learn to "settle" the chest and open the back. Pay attention to how your back widens and relaxes as you do this. <strong>Note:</strong> It is essential you park your pelvis in neutral first, or releasing your chest will put you into slouching mode instead.</li>
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<li><strong>Let your neck be soft and free.</strong> Perhaps the most difficult instruction of all requires you stop "working" to hold your head up. Try this for yourself. Lift your chin and notice how the back of your neck (and your cervical spine) shorten and compress. Slowly drop your chin and feel your spine lengthening through the back of your neck. Again, this is likely to feel weird when you first experience these new ways of inhabiting your body. Put the emphasis more on how you feel than what you believe you should look like.</li>
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<p>Slouching and sitting "up straight" represent opposite ways to be off the central axis. This simple fact explains much of the tension and pain experienced by millions of people today. Truly good posture aligns along the center and is comfortable, loose, easy and relaxed. Living in an aligned body adheres to fundamental laws of nature that govern physics, engineering and architecture. By re-learning how to return to what you once knew (in other words, embracing your inner toddler!) you will be able, once again, to rely on the structural framework of an aligned, living skeleton to provide all the support you need to be naturally strong, flexible and pain-free.<br />
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<strong>Kathleen Porter</strong> has traveled the world researching natural skeletal alignment in people who have never lost what we all once knew as healthy toddlers. The author of <em>Sad Dog Happy Dog: How Poor Posture Affects Your Child's Health & What You Can Do About It,</em> and <em>Ageless Spine, Lasting Health: The Open Secret to Pain-free Living and Comfortable Aging</em>, she has taught principles of natural alignment through the University of Hawaii at Hilo, the National College of Natural Medicine in Portland, Oregon and is currently on the faculty of the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York. For information visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.naturalposturesolutions.com/">www.naturalposturesolutions.com</a>.</p>
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Staff
2011-03-01T07:47:00Z
10 Hints on When to Buy A Home
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/10-Hints-on-When-to-Buy-A-Home/9759.html
2011-02-21T23:31:04Z
2011-02-21T23:31:04Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Sydney Potter
Interest rates remain at historical lows and new housing stock is priced at its lowest in the past nine years, Here are 11 indicators that provide guidelines as to when it's time to buy an investment home in a new tract development.
1.
Look for high appreciation markets.
Your market data research will make this very evident. The highest "Top 10" or "Top 25" appreciating markets in the country will on average change every four to five months. Search the Web for these "top market" lists.
2.
Pick the early build-out phases of a development.
For example, try to buy in phase 1, phase 2, or phase 3 versus the later phases. The earlier phases, for obvious reasons are usually priced slightly lower to generate activity.
3.
Target specific homes.
Watch for homes or lots that have a long build-out at a development, since this likely ensures a better chance of the home "marinating" in appreciation.
4.
Target low deposit requirement communities.
Low deposit generally implies a deposit between $3,000 and $8,000, although you may see some deposits lower than that.
5.
Know the Ideal Range.
The ideal price range for flip candidates is in the $200,000 to $400,000 range. These are entry-level to mid-market homes that offer sizeable returns in terms of the actual net profit on a flip, which should be in the $30,000 to $60,000 range.
6.
In-fill areas are okay.
In-fill areas are normally inner-city, substandard, or community redevelopment areas located within a market area that might be qualitatively defined as C locations, as opposed to A or B locations, which are the better and higher priced areas of a city or suburbia.
7.
Some people like dirt!
By that, it's not meant to be an insult, but this adage will make you money. Hence, it's okay if the development is in a C location, since this may offer some upside.
8.
Understand demographic trends.
Why are people buying in this area? Just like in criterion 8, put yourself in the mind-set of the homebuyers.
9.
Conduct a market grid analysis.
This will help you better understand your market. Ask yourself where the market is priced and more importantly and at what price it is closing.
10.
Determine the fundamentals of your market.
Go out there and kick the dirt. Alternatively, do a satellite Web site search and survey the area from the comfort of your own recliner.
Sydney Potter has worked in the real estate and mortgage industry since 1992 and is a licensed member of the National Association of Realtors and the National Association of Home Builders. Mr. Potter has a BA in Political Science, two MBA's and part of a doctorate degree from Pepperdine. Most recently he served on the Board of Directors for two major HOA's in Las Vegas. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
Staff
2011-02-21T23:31:04Z
We've Got Trouble: "Skins" is In
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Weve-Got-Trouble:-Skins-is-In/9760.html
2011-02-14T22:03:22Z
2011-02-14T22:03:22Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Erik Fisher, PhD, AKA Dr E...
www.DrEPresents.com
A bomb exploded on MTV, and your teens may have become part of the fallout. The fuse was lit years ago, however. Why didn't we do anything to disarm this bomb or snip the fuse? All of the signs were there since they were infants, on television, newspapers, magazines in the media, then on the internet, My Space, Facebook, Twitter, their cell phones... This fuse burned across all of these media, through your household and your neighbors', on the school bus and in the schools... We never looked to see where the fuse was leading, and now look what happened.
The television show,
Skins
, debuted on Viacom's MTV with a viewership of 3.3 million viewers, its highest ratings in the 12-34 year-old range. Viacom, by the way, is the same company that brings you Dora the Explorer on Nickelodeon. You don't have to look too far to see the concerns with the show
Skins
, just watch the trailer; however, I don't want the focus of this to be the show itself, which is concerning enough; the focus should be on our culture, itself, after all, we may not have lit the fuse, but we allowed it to burn all the way to the bomb itself.
Skins
Didn't Start The Fire
Back in the 80's, the heavy metal bands Judas Priest and Ozzy Osbourne were implicated in the suicide of teenagers for the lyrics in their music and this was taken to court. What I believed then and believe now is that while these teens and young adults listen to the genre of music, their musical interests were only an indicator of their beliefs, emotions and attitudes. As it pertains to
Skins
, this show is no more responsible for the sexual attitudes of our kids than heavy metal is for suicide. However, these are further influences that impact our culture and our kids.
Kids from infancy on are exposed to sexual content, whether we realize or not, and as I have discussed before in previous blogs (
Elmo Says
,
Gleeful Discretion
, and
Your Body Is Not A Disneyland
) this exposure contributes to the vernacular of their unspoken language and ours. We all have to see that we have become numb to many of the influences in our culture that became the fuse that led to this bomb. Skin is everywhere and what they have seen on TV and in the media is that sex is power and drugs are an escape. These are very powerful messages indeed, and aren't we all seeking power in some form?
Money, It's A Hit
The almighty dollar is also a huge source of power. How much money do we spend on sex, drugs, and rock and roll? The bottom line is people pay for these and watch the shows and the advertising dollars will follow. I have a few questions for Taco Bell, who recently announced that they were pulling out of their sponsorship. When did they decide to pull their sponsorship of the show, and if they saw the trailers for the show why did they think it was okay to sponsor this show in the first place?
Money makes our media world go around, and with the ferocity of the competition and limited ad dollars being spread around to that many more outlets, realize that you, as a consumer and viewer, have more power than you think. When the money hungry monster isn't fed, he dies faster and faster these days. If you don't watch the show, it will not survive. When we allow shows that endorse unhealthy and reckless lifestyles to remain in our media-driven culture, we make it okay and send a message that this behavior is okay to our kids and others.
Freedom, I Won't Let You Down
Over the past decade, the internet has become more and more of a vehicle for our belief systems and information is shared at an eye-popping speed, and many of our kids have had unprecedented and unsupervised access to it. In addition, cell phones have contributed to another avenue of exposure to life that is also often unsupervised. Like kids in a candy store without supervision, and even sometimes with supervision, many of them ate too much candy that made them sick, and they still have not learned to eat healthy.
We live in a country that values freedom, and some powers of the internet and media work to protect these freedoms that sometimes protect their interests more than ours. As a parent, it is your job to monitor and manage your child's freedom. I would prefer it not be control. Freedom comes with a price and a responsibility. Use it wisely, and teach your kids to do the same. At this time, we have a lot of work to do.
What's Love Got To Do With It? It's NOT A Second-Hand Emotion
Many of the issues our kids are having with sex, drugs and their sexual attitudes are influenced by their concept of love and their attachments and relationships to parents and others. We have serious problems with the strength of our attachments with our kids and sex and drugs often becomes a way that they are reaching out for comfort and escape from pain. Just because we give them everything they want, doesn't mean they have everything they need. Acting out behaviors, be it sex and/or drug-related are often a sign of deeper issues that go back to love and security. Step back and see what you can do to repair, heal and strengthen the gap between you and your kids.
So what should you, as a parent do about
Skins
and other more serious bombs that could still explode in our culture?
Talk about the concerns of shows like
Skins
and re-enforce the values of the family.
Give your kids more hugs and love. We all need them.
Sit down with your kids and talk with them about their life, beliefs, and attitudes.
Don't lecture, listen.
Turn off the TV and do more together as a family
Eat dinner together as a family
Meet your kids' friends, boy/girlfriends and their parents
Watch what your kids are watching with them sometimes and talk about it.
If your kids are having difficulties that you realize you can't handle, get help.
Don't just complain about what should change in our culture, do something about it.
This isn't just a game people play. These attitudes and beliefs are a way of life for an emerging generation. There are many more losers than winners, and the results can be tragic. Just like many hair and clothing styles in the past, I hope we wake up one day, look back and say, "What were we thinking?"
About the author: Erik Fisher, PhD, aka Dr. E..., is a licensed psychologist and author who has been featured on NBC, CBS, FOX and CNN. Visit him at
www.drepresents.com
to learn more about his books "The Art of Empowered Parenting" and "The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict or to check out his blog. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
Staff
2011-02-14T22:03:22Z
Valentine's Day Candlelight Menu for less than $10
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Valentines-Day-Candlelight-Menu-for-less-than-$10/9761.html
2011-02-07T21:35:06Z
2011-02-07T21:35:06Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>by Jill Cooper
www.LivingOnADime.com
It's almost Valentine's Day!
Today we're including a menu for a romantic candlelight dinner for two (or if you can't find a babysitter, for 4, 5, or 6).
On Valentine's Day our thoughts always turn to love, of course.
Here is a verse I have always liked:
Proverbs 15:16-17. "Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil.
Better a meal of vegetables where there is love than a fattened calf with hatred." (For those of you who might be a little confused today, that isn't saying the only way to find true love is to become a vegetarian!)
We live in a society where we put too much importance on having wealth,
even if it comes at the cost of our relationships at home. Sadly, this is true in Christian homes too. Just this weekend my 9 year old granddaughter asked me, "Why do those people talk so mean to each other if they go to church?" Out of the mouths of babes. It's something to think about.
You may not be able to serve the most expensive meal
or go to an expensive restaurant but, even so, you can make any meal special. Fill the room with yummy smells coming from the kitchen. Add some candles, a nice tablecloth and your best dishes (for some of us, that is anything other than paper plates HA! HA!) and you're all set.
We often get so focused on the things "to buy" to make ourselves happy that we forget the little things we can do that cost nothing.
One of those things is looking our very best for our spouse.
We dress to the nines for others,
whether we're going to church, work or a party but half the time we look like "something the cat dragged in" at home. Keep the romance alive every day -- not just on Valentine's Day. Get up, comb your hair, put on your makeup and get out of your sweats. You thought nothing of getting dressed every day when you went to work or school, so surely you can do it for your spouse, too.
I know it's work, but marriage doesn't just happen.
A good marriage takes as much effort as you would put into any other job and even more because this is one job that you don't want to lose.
Even though you'll hopefully be looking good enough to eat, here is a mouthwatering menu to start off a lovely, special evening.
Menu:
Mushroom Chicken
Baked Potato
Tossed Salad
Herbed Tomatoes
Crusty French Bread
French Cherry Pie
RECIPES:
Mushroom Chicken
4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts
1/4 cup flour
3 Tbsp. butter or margarine
1 cup fresh mushrooms, sliced
1/2 cup chicken broth
Salt and pepper to taste
1/3 cup mozzarella cheese, grated
1/3 cup Parmesan cheese, grated
1/4 cup green onions, sliced
Flatten chicken to 1/4 inch thickness. Coat chicken with flour by placing both chicken and flour in a plastic bag and shaking. In a skillet, brown chicken on both sides in 2 Tbsp. of the butter. Place in a greased baking dish (about 11 x 7 x 2 inches). In the same skillet, add remaining butter and saute the mushrooms. When tender, add broth, salt and pepper. Boil for 5 minutes or until liquid is reduced to 1/2 cup. Pour over chicken and bake uncovered at 375 degrees for 15 minutes. Sprinkle with cheeses and onions and bake 5 minutes longer or until chicken juices run clear.
Herbed Tomatoes
3 large firm tomatoes, halved
sugar, salt and pepper
1 1/2 tsp. sweet basil
About an hour before serving, sprinkle tomatoes with sugar, salt, pepper and basil. Then:
3 Tbsp. butter or margarine, melted
3 Tbsp. bread crumbs
1 clove garlic, crushed
Crush garlic into butter and cook 2 minutes. Sprinkle bread crumbs over tomatoes. Add 1 tsp. of melted garlic butter on top of those. Broil until tops are brown, watching carefully.
French Cherry Pie
1 cup cold milk
1 (3 3/4 oz.) package instant vanilla pudding
1/2 tsp. vanilla
1 cup sour cream
1 (9 inch) pie shell, baked and cooled (You could use a graham cracker crust.)
1 can cherry pie filling
Combine first 4 ingredients in a bowl and beat about 1 minute. Pour into pie shell and chill for 2 hours. Serve, spooning pie filling over each serving.
Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam are frugal living experts and the authors of the Dining On A Dime Cookbook. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt, by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes visit
www.LivingOnADime.com
. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com
Staff
2011-02-07T21:35:06Z
Three Ways Technology is Killing Businesses
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2011-01-24T05:40:28Z
2011-01-24T05:40:28Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Cliff Ennico
www.creators.com
.
It's been over 30 years now since the first personal computers, and over 15 years since the Internet, gave us all a digital life. Who today can remember what it was like to do business in the days before e-mail, PowerPoint, laptops, Blackberries, iPhones, iPods, iPads, mobile apps, Facebook and Twitter?
Today's technology is truly a marvel - all the information in the world, in your hands, at any time. But it is making it harder for businesses to make an honest buck.
Proposition # 1: The Internet Is Killing Jobs.
Back in the 1970s, if you ran a billion dollar (in sales) corporation, you needed hundreds if not thousands of midlevel executives running around managing the systems that made those complicated business models possible. Many of those employees were duplicating effort, providing checks and balances to ensure that all of the key functions were executed properly and correctly.
Today's information technology solutions have made most of those people obsolete. With the right technology solutions, a billion dollar (in sales) corporation can be run by fewer than 100 full-time employees.
Think I'm kidding? In 2008 YouTube.com was acquired by Google in a $1.9 billion transaction. At the time YouTube.com had only 72 full-time employees.
By doing complicated tasks effectively, quickly and with 100% accuracy, the Internet enables today's executives to perform tasks in a few minutes that used to take a team of employees days to accomplish. Great for productivity, but lousy for the employment picture.
Greater efficiency and productivity kills jobs. A famous British advertisement of the 1980s showed a photo of several angry-looking factory workers wielding sledgehammers, baseball bats and other weapons of mass destruction, over the caption "the lads would like to have a word with the new computer". While the information technology industry has created some jobs, these are dwarfed by the number of jobs lost to technology in traditional industrial and manufacturing companies.
Proposition # 2: Technology Turns Everything into a Commodity
. Today's technology creates a world of "perfect information", especially for those too lazy to spend time comparing prices. I just read about a new mobile phone application that will tell you exactly where you can find the lowest price for just about any piece of brand-name merchandise.
Great for consumers, but think about it from a retailer's perspective. When you can see competitive prices at a glance, and can order the items electronically in "real time" for instant gratification, why in a million years would you choose anything but the lowest price? Retailers who provide greater service to their customers and accordingly cannot discount to the lowest levels a Wal-Mart, Amazon.com or CostCo can are bound to suffer. People will visit these retailers to do their research, learn more about the available options, make their decision, then go online and buy the item elsewhere for the greatest possible discount.
One of the great myths of small business is that customers will actually pay more for better, more personalized service. Baloney. People want the service, but they also want everyday low prices.
Someone - I think a famous economist - once said that "in a world of perfect information, everything would sell for exactly one penny over cost". Many traditional retailers have relied on the unavailability of perfect information to inflate their prices on the assumption that people are too busy or basically lazy to engage in aggressive price comparison. The Internet, by making comparative price information instantly available, will force all retailers to congregate at the bottom of the market, turning virtually all products and services into "commodities" that compete only on price.
Proposition # 3: Technology Is Killing Margins By Eliminating "Barriers to Entry".
It costs a lot of money to publish a book in print format. There's the cost of paper and ink, the bindings, the cover design, the shrinkwrap, the author's royalty, shipping, warehousing and fulfillment, yada, yada.
By comparison it costs hardly anything to publish a book in electronic format. You get the manuscript from the author, you edit it and lay it out in the appropriate eBook format, post it on your website, and people pay to download perfect, identical copies that live only in cyberspace.
Great for the reading public, and wonderful for the environment, except for one thing . . . can you realistically charge more than a few pennies for each download when your production costs are so low?
A quick look at Stephen King's books on Amazon.com shows that his eBooks sell for a significant discount from his hardcovers and paperbacks. What's interesting is that the eBook prices are only 25% to 30% (on average) lower than the printed book prices. That won't last, especially for authors who don't have the industry clout Stephen King has.
By minimizing production costs and other "barriers to entry" generally, today's technology is also erasing margins. Once something can be produced for pennies, in a competitive market it becomes impossible to sell them for dollars. Unless, of course, you have a monopoly (for example, patented technology or exclusive rights to a popular author's novels) and can charge whatever you like.
No wonder there's such a ruckus about the future of copyright protection in the publishing world . . .
Cliff Ennico (
crennico@gmail.com
) is a syndicated columnist, author and former host of the PBS television series "Money Hunt." This column is no substitute for legal, tax or financial advice, which can be furnished only by a qualified professional licensed in your state. To find out more about Cliff Ennico and other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit our Web page at
www.creators.com
. COPYRIGHT 2011 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS.COM
Staff
2011-01-24T05:40:28Z
Online High School: Top 5 Benefits That Drive College Success
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2011-01-18T06:40:48Z
2011-01-18T06:40:48Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Ofelia San Pedro, Chief Operating Officer
Getting into a respected university has always demanded hard work and self-discipline in addition to a stellar high school record with the advanced coursework admissions officers seek. However in today's competitive world, many students are achieving all the above from a very non-traditional place....their own living room.
High school at home: a uniquely non-traditional approach
Online high school programs are revolutionizing the way students learn and prepare for college. Top-quality, accredited home school programs offer motivated teenagers the ability to earn the same competitive college-prep education as any traditional brick and mortar school, while also providing them with unique flexibility and freedom to develop their personal talents.
Five Key Benefits of Home School Programs:
1. Flexibility:
Students can schedule all their assignments, tests, and studying around their life and their passions, including sports competitions, performing arts training, important family events, or other life goals. Most students are not nearly as free to pursue their interests and dreams in traditional school environments. A top-quality online high school allows them to do both: develop personal talents and earn a competitive-level education.
2. Self-paced:
While students can take the same advanced placement courses and labs in math, science and other competitive areas, home school allows them to work at a pace right for them. So they are never slowed down or left behind by large group classes and therefore are subject to far less stress.
3. AP/Honors Curriculum:
In quality home school programs, students find all the AP and honors classes they need. In many cases they have access to a wider choice than traditional schools offer.
4. Intensive Teacher Interaction:
Rather than compete for a teacher's attention with 30 to 40 other students, online high school provides more personalized help. Students, teachers and parents communicate regularly to ensure the student stays on track and understands the material. Teachers are as close as a call, IM, email or even in-person visit to assist with any concerns.
5. Self-Discipline and Time Management:
Students often speak of these as the biggest personal strengths they gained from home school. Weekly schedule sheets and structured assignments are given, but it's still up to students to have the self-discipline to complete them. Each has to do his or her assigned work without anyone standing over them. It's very similar to the unstructured environment of college.
Most graduates of top-rated home school programs enjoy acceptance at the college of their choice, including top-tier universities like Columbia, Duke, Purdue, Stanford, Notre Dame, and dozens of others. Many are awarded scholarships.
Do your research to find the right home school program
Not all online high school programs are equal in quality. Make sure you do all the research first.
Accreditation: You'll want a fully accredited online high school program with a competitive curriculum that's top-notch in both academic standards and course selection.
Program Structure: Ensure everything is well planned from first day to graduation. This includes clear milestones for course planning and selection, class assignments, exams, group discussions, plus consistent feedback from teachers and counselors to ensure the student stays on track and progresses at a steady rate.
Teacher Qualifications: Check that all teachers are certified with years of teaching experience on average...preferably with a significant percentage holding Masters degrees.
ACT/SAT prep and college counseling: The home school program should include extensive test prep, including classes and personal tutoring. College counseling services should include help with school selection, admissions applications/essays and planning of campus visits.
It's critical to research any online high school carefully before committing. The right one provides a rich, rewarding academic experience to help drive future college and career success.
Kaplan College Preparatory School (KCPS) offers a true college prep online high school education with a rigorous, accredited curriculum, flexible customized academic calendars, and exceptional structure including teacher-initiated outreach support, academic coaching and extensive college counseling services. Visit
http://www.truecollegeprep.com/
to learn more and hear testimonials from KCPS students, faculty and parents. To speak with a KCPS admissions advisor today, please call 866.361.5037.
Staff
2011-01-18T06:40:48Z
Holiday Financial Safety Tips
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2010-12-14T00:25:01Z
2010-12-14T00:25:01Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By John Sileo
www.Sileo.com
The month between Thanksgiving and Christmas is the biggest shopping time of the year. As we enter the season of giving there is one thing we should be stingy with - protecting our Identities!
Holiday madness, crazed shoppers and packed malls. While we are bustling from store to store and internet site to internet site trying to complete everyone's holiday list, thieves and scammers are taking our distraction as a signal to strike. This is the easiest time of year for thieves to steal wallets, break into houses and profit financially from the season of giving without victims detecting it for a long time.
Don't trust your email.
There are so many holiday scams by email that you should read everything with an enormous grain of salt. If someone is promising you something for nothing (free gift, free money, etc.), don’t buy it.
Protect your home.
Your greatest risk during the busyness is all of the extra people that come into your home. It makes it very easy to pocket a check book that's on your desk or a brokerage statement in your filing cabinet. Especially during the holidays, lock it up!
Use your credit card.
Don't use checks and don't use a debit card, as they don't give you nearly as much protection.
Carry less in your wallet.
It is too easy to steal a purse that is sitting at your feet as you pay or have lunch. The very best advice is to take your driver's license and one or two credit cards with you shopping.
Watch your statements.
Most forms of holiday identity theft can be caught simply by monitoring your checking, debit and credit card accounts frequently. Even better, sign up for automatic account alerts when any transaction occurs on your account.
Monitor your credit reports.
Shop on secure websites
. Make sure that both the https:// and lock symbols appear in your browser.
Be cautious in public.
Don't give your credit card number (or Social Security Number) over the phone if someone is within earshot. Shield your PIN number when entering it at an ATM or card swipe.
Donate to known charities and only when you have initiated the gift
. Don't respond to phone calls for charity.
Rotate your credit cards.
After the busy holiday shopping season is over, call your credit card company and ask them to issue you a new card (you can tell them that you are concerned that your credit card number was stolen).
Don't advertise travel plans to burglars on Social Networking sites.
Distraction is the worst enemy when it comes to crime and the holidays. In addition to spending more money, we tend to be busier, more stressed-out and less careful than other times of the year. Identity thieves take advantage of this distraction to perform information extraction.
About the author:
John Sileo speaks professionally to organizations that wish to avoid the costs associated with identity theft, data breach, social media exposure and insider theft. His satisfied clients include the Department of Defense, Blue Cross Blue Shield, the FDIC, Pfizer and hundreds of corporations of all sizes. Learn more about his entertaining and effective presentations at
www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com
or contact him directly on 800.258.8076. Permission Granted for use on Dr.Laura.com.
Staff
2010-12-14T00:25:01Z
Getting Ahead of the Holidays: 4 Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday Season
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2010-12-04T09:01:00Z
2010-12-04T09:01:00Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Joe Bruzzese, MA
Without warning the holiday season can wreak havoc on the most sane middle school families. Get ahead of the holiday rush by creating a clear vision for how you want it to be. The holidays cause chaos for many people because of the change from their typical daily routine. Feeling compelled to participate in everything that comes their way, a vast number of people react in the moment to invitations for holiday parties, parades and gift exchanges. The added number of activities can result in extra stress during a time when there may already be an overload of regular commitments.
Before the clamor and chaos of the holiday season sets in take a moment to sit back and find a time to envision your ideal holiday experience. Can fun and family coexist during the holidays? Where does holiday shopping and entertainment fit into your vision for the coming months? With a clear vision in place of how you want your holiday season to be the chance of realizing your vision increases ten-fold.
Carve out 10 minutes tomorrow to sit with a piece of paper and pencil to record your ideal vision for the holidays.
Commit to taking action tomorrow. Planning for "sometime this week" leaves you with too many opportunities to find something else to do.
Create an Ideal Holiday Vision
1. Create a list of adjectives that describe your previous holiday experiences.
2. Cross out any adjectives that don't create a positive picture in your mind. You may decide to throw out the entire list. Feel free to seek out the nearest trashcan and deposit your list should the need strike you.
3. On a second piece of paper create a list of adjectives that describe your ideal holiday season. Remember this is your ideal so use words that truly represent the vision you want experience. Nice and good don't create a vivid enough picture. If nice and good really mean relaxed and peaceful then choose to use the more descriptive words. The richer the description the more likely you are to choose a course of action that matches this description.
4. With the second list in hand, create one action statement for the coming day. The statement should define a specific action you can complete within the coming day that will bring you closer to realizing the ideal you have envisioned. If one of the adjectives on your list was relaxed you could use the following action statement, "I will schedule 30 minutes in the coming week to engage in an activity I enjoy." Commit yourself to this activity by circling a date on the calendar.
Continue to create action statements every 2-3 days that drive you towards your ideal vision for the holidays. With a frequent and consistent commitment to your vision the resulting set of action statements will naturally begin to bring you closer realizing your ideal. Revisit your list of adjectives every week. Add new words to the list at any time as long as they align with your original vision.
Joe Bruzzese,
author of
A Parent's Guide to the Middle School Years
and parent education expert, speaks to parents across the United States offering practical and long terms strategies for overcoming the struggles of the middle school years. Download your free checklist, "Is My Child Thriving or Just Surviving" at
www.MiddleSchoolYears.com/list
. For information on Joe's work visit
www.middleschoolyears.com
. Permission granted for use on Dr.Laura.com.
Staff
2010-12-04T09:01:00Z
Holiday Identity Theft Protection
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2010-11-29T14:29:48Z
2010-11-29T14:29:48Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By John Sileo
www.Sileo.com
AAA Hawaii’s Annual Holiday Season Travel and Shopping Poll of 250 local residents reveals that 76% plan to primarily shop this holiday with credit or debit cards. However, almost four in ten of surveyed shoppers have little or no concern about identity fraud happening to them this holiday shopping season! Identity theft is rampant throughout the holiday season. Over the past 3 years stolen data being used in less than one week jumped from
33%
to
71%
, meaning that they steal today and shop today. Identity thieves count on our lackadaisical attitude toward monitoring our wealth.
Not only does legitimate business pick up during the holiday season, but Identity theft and fraudulent Business seems to be on the rise as well. Especially during these hard economic times Identity thieves are on the prowl more than ever looking for a quick fix to their financial problems. It is just not possible to observe and ward off every threat to our identity. There will be documents that you forget to destroy or lock up, accounts that you won’t cancel, checks that you will mail, and waiters that will disappear with your credit card. It is not practical to think that we can cover every situation that threatens the safety of our identity. But we are not helpless in these situations.
Like an experienced spy, we have a solid backup plan. It is extremely important to monitor the key components of our identity especially during the Holidays. Over 50% of all Identity theft is self detected. Here are a few tips to stay safe and keep an eye out for Identity Fraud this Holiday Season:
Monitor Your Credit Report
Look for any suspicious activity or unknown accounts. If you find anything new that you haven’t applied for contact the responsible financial institution immediately.
Credit Monitoring Services
Services that companies offer make it easy to ensure that fraudsters aren’t accessing your personal information, accounts, or credit. Allowing them to do it for you will put you more at ease this Holiday Season.
Sign up for Account Alerts
This way you will know immediately if anyone is making fraudulent charges on your account.
Switch to Online Statements
This way you can more easily access your accounts throughout the month rather than waiting until the end of the month for a statement.
John Sileo
speaks professionally to organizations that wish to avoid the costs associated with identity theft, data breach, social media exposure and insider theft. His satisfied clients include the Department of Defense, Blue Cross Blue Shield, the FDIC, Pfizer and hundreds of corporations of all sizes. Learn more about his entertaining and effective presentations at
www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com
or contact him directly on 800.258.8076. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2010-11-29T14:29:48Z
Cranberry Up Your Thanksgiving
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http://www.DrLaura.com/b/Cranberry-Up-Your-Thanksgiving/9767.html
2010-11-16T00:48:54Z
2010-11-16T00:48:54Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Cheryl Tallman
Cranberry up your Thanksgiving meal by trying some of these tasty and simple ideas.
1. Football snack:
Add dried cranberries to any nut mixture.
2. Salad:
Sprinkle dried cranberries on mixed green or spinach salad. The sweetness of the cranberries is terrific with any vinaigrette dressing and is a great compliment to crumbled blue cheese or goat cheese.
3. Side dish
: Add dried cranberries to your favorite stuffing, wild rice, or couscous recipe.
4. Veggie:
Sauté onions, diced zucchini and dried cranberries in olive oil. Season with a dash of turmeric, cinnamon, and rep pepper flakes. Great taste and awesome color!
5. All American apple pie:
Add ½ cup of fresh cranberries to your favorite apple pie recipe.
6. Treat the whole family to fresh cranberry sauce.
Here is a simple recipe that can be made ahead of time.
Easy Cranberry Sauce
Ingredients
16 ounces fresh cranberries
2 cups granulated sugar
1/2 cup cranberry juice
1/2 cup fresh orange juice or water
Directions:
Combine ingredients in a saucepan. Cook over medium heat until the berries pop open (about 10 minutes). Skim the foam off the surface with a metal spoon and discard. Cool to room temperature.
Storage:
Refrigerate, covered, for up to three months.
Age to introduce:
Over 12 months (cooked/juice/sauce). Over 18 months (dried).
Here are a few recipes kids - and grown-ups -- will love for dipping.
Creamy Cranberry Dipping Sauce
Ingredients:
3/4 cup 100 percent cranberry raspberry (or grape) juice
1/2 cup sour cream
1/2 cup vanilla yogurt
Directions:
Place juice into a small saucepan. Boil until reduced to a syrup (about 3 tablespoons). Allow to cool. Add syrup to remaining ingredients and stir to combine. Chill and serve with a variety of fresh fruit slices.
Cranberry Mustard Dipping Sauce
Ingredients:
1/2 cup jellied cranberry sauce
1 1/2 tablespoons grainy Dijon mustard
1 tablespoon brown sugar
Directions:
Combine ingredients in a small mixing bowl, whisking until smooth. Serve hot or at room temperature. Serve with raw/blanched veggies, baked tofu, chicken fingers or fish sticks.
About the author: Cheryl Tallman is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of the
So Easy Baby Food
and the new book
So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years
. Visit Cheryl online at
www.FreshBaby.com
for more delicious tips. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
Staff
2010-11-16T00:48:54Z
Gleeful Discretion
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2010-11-09T00:56:41Z
2010-11-09T00:56:41Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Erik Fisher, AKA Dr. E...
www.DrEPresents.com
I have to admit something from the start. I am a Glee fan. My wife and I looked forward to the pilot when we heard the concept and bought in from moment one. Being on "the Journey", I have never stopped believin' in Glee. I have watched the show evolve in theme and storyline, and from the beginning of this season became concerned with the sexual content, that they almost flaunted at will. Others in the media took note as well, perhaps to poke fun at The New Kid in Town.
The sometimes outrageous sexual content almost followed the theme of their episode last season when Rachel, who most commonly dresses more conservatively, was encouraged to dress in a more sexual manner to change her image. By the end of the show, she realized that the style did not fit her personality, and she returned to her more comfortable dress.
Where Have You Gone, Will Schuster?
Well, the Glee that I was sold on was not the Glee that is has become this season. You didn't have to change your style to get me to like you more.
Realize that it is just my wife and I that watch this in our home, but I have concerns about the influence of this content on our already "oversexualized" society. Here is a compliment to the writers at Glee - you don't need to add the sex to have a great show.
So here is where it gets better. I am not sure where it came from, whether it was the discussions in the media about the content, a set up from the start, and/or a growing awareness of where the show was going, but in last night's Rocky Horror episode, I wanted to give the writers a big hug and thank them for the message they communicated. Is this a case of art imitating life?
In this episode, Will Schuster, the Glee club instructor, pulls back from performing the Rocky Horror Picture Show with his students. In a dialogue with Cheerio's instructor, Sue Sylvester, he makes a realization that even though there are plenty of avenues where his students are exposed to sexual content, he didn't have to play along. It was him getting lost along the way that almost led him to inappropriately make his students he vehicle of his OWN issues. Sue makes the statement, "If you lead them to it, you make it okay."
FOX
Network, Changing the World
In the history of television, there have been many moments where trends changed, and when I look at when sexual content became more of a part of the television vernacular; it was when FOX network started pushing the boundaries in the late 80s with
Married with Children
. As ratings went up, the other networks eventually followed the almighty advertising dollar and sold their collective soul.
I would ask this of the FOX network, let this be an opportunity when you do the unconventional again and turn the corner. Can we, as a society, enjoy the boob tube without the boobs? I believe that we can. It will take some effort and good writing, but we can do it. After all, "When you lead them to it, you make it okay."
About the author:
Erik Fisher, PhD, aka Dr. E…, is a licensed psychologist and author who has been featured on NBC, CBS, FOX and CNN. Visit him at
www.DrEPresents.com
to learn more about his books "The Art of Empowered Parenting" and "The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict" or to check out his blog. Permission granted for use on
DrLaura.com
.
Staff
2010-11-09T00:56:41Z
How to Sell Your Home With Less Stress
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2010-11-02T06:53:05Z
2010-11-02T06:53:05Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Kari McCoy
Putting your home up for sale in today's market is never an easy task with or without kids. Most Real Estate agents will advise their sellers to pay close attention to the complete picture with both outside and well as inside the home. The outside is vital because that is what the buyers see first and there are not second chances because there are too many other homes for sale to look at. Whether your kids are young or they are older you can encourage them into helping the process become easier for you and much smoother for them.
Explain the process and get the kids involved right at the beginning and throughout the entire process. You know when selling your home, having the property look its very best is the top priority. This could mean you sell or you do not sell, or perhaps you get the price you had hoped for….or not.
To kids, real estate sounds boring and means your attention is taken away from them. The kids will be much more interested if they are allowed to participate right from the very beginning of the process. Have the children present when the realtor first comes over to sign papers with you and to offer the list of how a home is shown. Be wise and take this time as an opportunity to be a fun event and you might just find the process more palatable.
You may want to use the example with the kids of pretending your home is like the packaging of a gift. They can then relate, as they have all been given gifts. Help them remember that a large gift box with fancy paper and a nice bow is a gift that they would want to open right away and a smaller package with worn dull colored package with out a ribbon would be probably be opened later without the enthusiasm. Explain to the kids that your home is like a package and you need their help to put the house's best foot forward so the buyers will want to see and buy their house.
Get organized. Help your kids make space for toys and items. Out of sight is the best.
Reducing your excess or perhaps consider using a pod or a storage unit. Then that could offer your kids something to look forward to opening and seeing the items later.
You and the kids can start packing up the little knick-knacks and clear off the counter tops and dressers.
Once the home is in show condition sit down with the kids and asks them to help create a short list of items to do when everyone wakes up and before they leave the house in the morning.
One idea you might find useful and fun is every 7 days that goes by with your home on the market, celebrate with your kids and take them to a movie of their choice, go out to dinner or out for ice cream on a picnic or what ever they would like to do to reward them during this process. This will offer everyone a sense of accomplishment with bench marks. Be smart and take advantage of a stressful situation and turn it into a fun experience and good memories for everyone.
Kari McCoy
, CRS has been a Realtor for 25 years and owns the Kari McCoy Group, Residential Real Estate at Coldwell Banker. She can be reached at
sold@karimccoygroup.com
. Permission granted for use on
DrLaura.com
.
Staff
2010-11-02T06:53:05Z
Coming Out of The Dark, We Finally See the Light
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2010-10-23T06:48:10Z
2010-10-23T06:48:10Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>by Erik Fisher, PhD, aka. Dr. E...
www.DrEPresents.com
What a truly inspiring week for the sum of humanity who witnessed the miraculous rescue of the Chilean miners. Whether one was involved personally or was riveted to the television, this event went a long way to redefining how we can all witness a news event as a positive outcome and challenge us to seek a more peaceful world. And my being an On-Air consultant to CNN Networks during their climb to earth was a once in a lifetime gift. Perhaps the most synchronous part was that the miners were reached on John Lennon's birthday - "Imagine" that. As a psychologist, I am often looking at metaphors that life evokes, and the circumstance of these miners, rescued after being trapped below the earth, provides such an apropos metaphor for the world to learn from.
So many times in the history of mankind, we, as a collective, have created the circumstances that contributed to our traumas, and those who were supposed to protect us either caused the trauma or did not do what could have been done to prevent it. As a result, we feel betrayed, neglected, unloved, and our trust is shattered like a stone through a window pane. Through our experiences in this world, we are taught to hide our traumas and pains deep inside ourselves.
So many of us have so many wounds and pains that we feel helpless to know what to do with, and we believe that the deeper we bury them, the better off we should be. Sooner or later there comes a time in our life when something so egregious happens that we can't just turn our backs to it. We have to act, there is too much to lose if we don’t, but we often don't have the resources to find our lost selves and heal them, ourselves. We require the help of others. But how helpless it can feel when we are trapped by our own negligence and denial.
So we work with the help of others to dig and drill down to the depths of our soul traversing the various strata of our defenses, addictions, attitudes and beliefs of indifference, anger and mistrust, the efforts slowed by almost impenetrable doubt and fear, and still we press on, learning that failure is the process of learning on the journey. Quitting, not an option, we continue, refining our technique with proper guidance, until we reach them.
Still alive, we give them enough to sustain them until we can bring them to the surface, one by one, and the efforts begin again.
Trapped for so long in indescribable conditions, banished to the recesses of our unconscious, we understand that to feel our wholeness and resolve our shame we must bring them back into the light. As we widen the reach of our efforts, we are able to free our pain from our self-imposed tombs, and we bring our traumas to our light, and as each is exposed, worn, sickly, and wary of the light, they require time to regain their strength. Share they must their traumas and pains, no more to be buried and forgotten. Learn, we will from them They ultimately grow in strength from the light. Stronger they are to stand with us, changed forever, by facing our truth we realize that our shame was not suffered through the trauma, but was the result of our own disrespect of our self and our soul.
Through this we learn, as failure will teach, that the love and respect of ourselves and others leads us to understand that there is no price that can be put on our soul, nor one else's.
But when the miner's were rescued, their president spoke to the world of the "33" being strong and better for their experience, denying their own negligence and accountability. And the miners' pain and their potential pain to come, should they bury their experience behind their shield of strength, indifference, and financial reward to come, as so many have before them, would only be borne by them as others would have moved on long ago. Shall this all be forgotten when we turn the channel? I hope not.
I dedicate this not only to the indeterminable strength of the "33" miners, but to the indeterminable strength of the human spirit that lives in all of us.
Bless you all in your journey to healing, and God bless us all in our journey to truth.
About the author:
Erik Fisher, PhD, aka Dr. E…, is a licensed psychologist and author who has been featured on NBC, CBS, FOX and CNN. Visit him at
www.DrEPresents.com
to learn more about his books "The Art of Empowered Parenting" and "The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict" or to check out his blog.
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2010-10-23T06:48:10Z
Kid-Friendly Treat: Jewels in Snow
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2010-10-18T23:08:00Z
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers
www.FreshBaby.com
Many believe that the gemstone garnet got its name from the pomegranate. The tiny arils of this fruit resemble the garnet's deep-red color and shape. This recipe mixes the deep-red arils into cottage cheese creating the look of garnets buried in a blanket of snow. Try this simple dish for breakfast. The jewel and snow filling can also be spread onto graham crackers or celery sticks for a crunchy after school snack or meal time side dish.
Ingredients:
1 cup small curd cottage cheese
2 tsp honey
2 Tbsp pomegranate arils
2 tsp ground pecans (optional)
2 slices whole grain toast
Directions:
Combine the cottage cheese, honey and pomegranate arils in a small bowl. Spread the mixture over the toast. Slice the toast into 4 triangles and sprinkle with ground pecans. Serve with apple or peach slices.
Note: Pomegranate arils are a choking hazard for children under 3 years old, so this recipe is best suited to children over this age.
Makes 2 servings.
About the authors:
Cheryl Tallman
and
Joan Ahlers
are sisters, the mothers of five children and founders of Fresh Baby (
www.FreshBaby.com
). They are the creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit and Good Clean Fun Placemats, available at many fine specialty stores and national chains including Target and Whole Foods Markets. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2010-10-18T23:08:00Z
Is This Web Merchant For Real?
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2010-09-25T08:04:47Z
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By Cliff Ennico
"Over the weekend I was looking for a specific item which I could not find locally. I found a source on the Internet, but I'm a little nervous about doing business with these folks. It is a company that I have never heard of, I don't know where its "office" is, etc. How do I know it is a valid, safe place to give my credit card number to for a purchase and that I'll get timely delivery?"
Just because someone has put up a Website to sell merchandise doesn't mean they are a reliable vendor. Anyone with a few bucks and a basic knowledge of HTML can set up a website. To become a reliable merchant takes years of experience. The fact that this website isn't customer-friendly is one sign that the company doesn't really care about what its customers think about it.
Here are some of the things I look for on e-commerce websites.
Do they publish their address and telephone number?
While I realize many e-merchants do not want to give out their mailing address and telephone number for fear they will be swamped with "crank calls" that will overwhelm their customer service staff, I do not like websites that don’t tell you where they live in the physical world.
Without having to dig too deep, you should be able to figure out (1) where the company is located, (2) what state they are incorporated in, and (3) what their "snail mail" address is. If the street address ends in "# 123" or "Suite 123", check Google Earth to see if there is an actual building at that address. Many e-merchants use private mailboxes (such as those available from UPS Stores) as their mailing addresses; if this one does, it is probably a home based "Mom and Pop" business. That's not a bad thing, of course, but it means you may have to dig deeper to find out if they're reliable.
Do they encourage you to e-mail them with questions?
Go to the "Contact Us" page and see if you can send them an e-mail asking for more information about their company. If they don't have a "Contact Us" page, or if they fail to respond to your e-mail message within 24 hours, that's a big strike against them.
Check out the website's "terms and conditions of sale" and "privacy policy"?
The website's "terms and conditions of use" (sometimes called a "user's agreement") should contain information about the company's returns and refunds policy in case you are not satisfied with their merchandise. If it's not there, or if it says "we do not accept returns or give refunds under any circumstances," that's a big strike against the company.
I personally would not do business with any website that did not have a "privacy policy" explaining how your personal information will be used and with whom it will be shared. Because so many websites simply "cut and paste" another website's privacy policy and adopt it as their own, look for a "Trust-e" seal or other evidence that the policy has been independently reviewed and vetted by an independent third party.
Do they have a shopping cart with SSL encryption?
You should never order merchandise from a website that does not have a "shopping cart" enabling you to select and pay for your purchases, or at least a link to their merchandise listings on a well established and reputable e-commerce website (such as Amazon, eBay or Yahoo!) from which you can buy the merchandise safely.
If the website does have a "shopping cart," check to make sure it features SSL (Secure Sockets Layer) encryption when you type in your credit card information. If the shopping cart is SSL encrypted, your credit card and shipping information will be transmitted across the Internet in a "scrambled" form and not decoded until the website receives it.
The better e-commerce websites will tell you whether or not their shopping cart is SSL encrypted (this will usually be done as part of their "privacy policy"). If this one doesn't, here's a simple test. Select the item you wish to order, and put it in their cart. When you click on the "finish and pay" prompt (leading you to the page where you would put in your credit card information), look at the bar at the top of your browser page showing the Web page address. If the http:// at the beginning of the address has changed to https://, that page is probably SSL encrypted and you should be okay.
What is their reputation online?
Do a Web search for the company name and see if it has been featured prominently in any blogs, discussion forums or other consumer-oriented websites. If the name doesn't show up, that's a good sign this company isn't well known in the marketplace.
Be sure also to search the phrases "[name of company] sucks" and "I hate [name of company]". If you see more than a handful of "hits" on these searches, look elsewhere for your stuff.
Cliff Ennico
(
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) is a syndicated columnist, author and former host of the PBS television series "Money Hunt." This column is no substitute for legal, tax or financial advice, which can be furnished only by a qualified professional licensed in your state. To find out more about Cliff Ennico and other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit our Web page at
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. COPYRIGHT 2010 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS.COM. Permission Granted for use on Dr.Laura.com.
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2010-09-25T08:04:47Z
Abuses of Facebook Places and FourSquare
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2010-09-15T08:23:22Z
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>By John Sileo,
www.Sileo.com
Facebook recently added a check-in or location-sharing feature, much like the one provided by FourSquare.com. The feature is designed to accomplish three main tasks:
Help people share where they are in a social context
See which friends are near by
Discover nearby places and new places through friends' profiles
But, by default, it also allows your friends to tag and publicize your location for you. It's like being tagged in a photo, except the other person gets to share your location instead of your picture (even if you don't want others to know where you are, and even if you are not there).
Here are some of the rarely discussed ways that Facebook Places will be used (now or in the future) that you might want to think about before checking in:
Facebook will sell (share) your current location and profile to stores in your vicinity so that they can server you hyper-targeted advertising (e.g., here's a coupon for the store you are about to enter).
Friends who aren't actually your friends will be able to check you in to questionable Places even when you are not there (the practical jokes for the Check Friends In feature are limitless)
Facebook will compile and analyze your Places and then sell this profile to companies that would like to have you as a customer. If you "check in" frequently while in Casinos, get ready for a healthy dose of advertising from Bally's.
Thieves will track your location to know the best time to rob your home. It happens every day.
Your suspicious spouse or boss will have a handy tool to track your whereabouts when you'd rather keep it private (this could actually be seen as a positive use of Places).
The police will be able to subpoena records of your location at the time of a crime (again, if you have done nothing wrong and can prove it, this is a great way for law enforcement to establish location).
The solution isn't to completely avoid all use of places. It's to customize your Facebook Places Privacy Settings so that you are in control of the flow of data.
John Sileo
is the award-winning author of
Stolen Lives,
Privacy Means Profit
(Wiley, August 2010) and the
Facebook Safety Survival Guide
, a professional Financial Speaker and America's leading identity theft expert. His clients include the Department of Defense, FTC, FDIC and Pfizer; his recent media appearances include 60 Minutes. Learn more about him at
www.Sileo.com
and
www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com
. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
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2010-09-15T08:23:22Z
Watch The Weight Of Your Child's Backpack
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2010-08-15T07:08:43Z
2010-08-15T07:08:43Z
<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/>Complaints about back and shoulder pain are increasingly common. Parents have every right to be concerned about how heavy their child's backpack is. In fact, overweight backpacks have been getting so much attention that April was declared National Backpack Safety Month by the Congress of Chiropractic State Associations.
Children, mostly under age 14, are reporting backpack-related pains that result from repetitive strain-schlepping packs from home to bus to school to classrooms to bus to home several times a day, five days a week. They typical overstuffed backpack weighs in at about 14 pounds, which is often 15% or more of a child's body weight, and that's too much. The strain of leaning forward to support the load is causing painful necks and backs and even changes in posture. Symptoms can be so severe that the kids have to be treated in emergency rooms.
Some kids have it even worse, hauling around packs that weigh as much as 40% of their body weight. Get out your calculator; If you had to lug 40% of your body weight in and out of cars and up and down stairs all day long you'd be in some serious pain too.
Fortunately, there may be some ways to save our kids backs:
Weight your child's backpacks once in a while and keep it under 10% of his weight.
Keep non-essentials to a minimum. Does your child really need to carry all those books at the same time? Will she use every one of them that day? If your child won't tell you, make a few calls to her teachers.
Investigate whether your child can share books with one or more of his classmates. That way each kid can carry a smaller portion of the total load.
If possible, arrange to have duplicate books at school. Or invest in a few paperbacks (particularly of literature books) and have your child keep the hard-covers at home.
If your child really does have to carry a lot of books, at least be sure to get the right kind of backpack. Single-strap packs cause the most discomfort because they're carried on one shoulder, which means that the child is always leaning to one side. The best and most comfortable packs'have two padded straps and an abdominal belt.
Get a rolling backpack if your child's school allows it. Some don't though, because they're worried that students will get injured, trip, or fall over them in the classroom or the hallways. Why they aren't worried about the kids' backs is beyond me.
Treat your child to a nice neck/shoulder/back massage.
Armin Brott
, hailed by
Time
as "the superdad's superdad," has written or co-written six critically acclaimed books on fatherhood, including the newly released second edition of
Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years
. His articles have appeared in The
New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, American Baby, Parenting, Child, Men's Health, The Washington Post
among others. Armin is an experienced radio and TV guest, and has appeared on
Today, CBS Overnight, Fox News, and Politically Incorrect
. He's the host of "Positive Parenting," a weekly radio program in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit Armin at
www.mrdad.com
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2010-08-15T07:08:43Z
Tip of the Week: February 15th, 2010
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2010-07-28T02:23:36Z
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Google History and YourPrivacy</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>What started in 1997 as aresearch project and a mission as the way to organize the world'sinformation has turned into the world's largest search engine. Googlehas given anyone with an Internet connection access to more informationthan they realize. With such quick access to information, you need tobe careful what you put on the World Wide Web and realize what iscontained in your Google History. Remember, posts -- and searches-- are permanent. Here are a few privacy issues when it comes toGoogle:<br></font><div style="text-align: left;"><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Google's Cookie and Toolbar.</span> Whenyou use their search engine, Google places a self-renewing cookie witha unique ID number on your hard disk. As you search websites, Googlerecords your surfing activity and saves your searches. There are waysto change your Internet options to stop the cookie tracking and you canlearn more by visiting www.google.com/support/accounts/. Remember, nothing you do on the Internet is private; it is all tracked,aggregated, analyzed, sold and used for a variety of purposes (many ofthem good). The advanced features of Google's new toolbar for InternetExplorer not only updates automatically, but it also tracks whichwebsites you visit.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Google Mail.</span> Google's mail service,or Gmail offers users free webmail. What most users will notice are thetargeted ads that appear on the right side and above your email.According to Google's privacy page they state "Google believes thatshowing relevant advertising offers more value to users than displayingrandom pop-ups or untargeted banner ads. In Gmail, users will see textads and links to related pages that are relevant to the content oftheir messages#133;. No email content or other personally identifiableinformation is ever shared with advertisers." Although they may notdirectly be sharing the content of your email messages withadvertisers, they are being scanned for content and populated withrelevant advertising. Most people and businesses probably don'tconsider an email that has been scanned by others to be truly private.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Google Docs.</span> Google Docs is anamazingly powerful platform that essentially replaces Microsoft'sOffice on your computer. This has many advantages. It is considerablyless expensive, always up to date and available from any computerconnected to the Internet. It gives you freedom of computing, sharingand collaboration not available when your documents are available onlyon a physical hard disk. It is rapidly being adopted as the officesuite of choice by governments, education systems and businesses. Butas with any web-based application, there are privacy concerns.</font></li></ol></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Google's profit model is based oncollecting, indexing and sharing as much information as possible abouteveryone who uses its suite of tools. Because Google dominates thesearch engine market, websites, businesses and individuals are highlydependent on them. This dependency gives us a good excuse to overlookprivacy issues with the company (Gmail is so useful, I couldn't livewithout it, even if I'm losing some of my privacy). The solution is notto stop using Google, the Internet or web-based tools. It is to beconscious and discriminating of how you use the tools.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">About the author: <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">John Sileo</span> became America'sleading <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">IdentityTheft Speaker amp; Expert</a> after he lost his business and morethan $300,000 to identity theft and data breach. His clients includethe Department of Defense, Pfizer and the FDIC. To further bulletproofyourself and your business, visit John's blog at <a target="_blank"href="http://www.sileo.com/">Sileo.com</a>. To book John at yournext event, visit </font><font><a target="_blank"href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/"><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"></font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:23:36Z
Tip of the Week: April 18th, 2010
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2010-07-28T02:23:34Z
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Six Things You Need toDo to Avoid Buying a "Lemon"</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Norman Taylor<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.normantaylor.com/">www.normantaylor.com</a><br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Buying a car is a biginvestment - whether it's brand new or a used car. It can also be anexciting time and thinking about possible defects in the vehicle maynot be top of the list of features you're looking for. However, the recent recalls have opened our eyes to the possibilitythat even a brand new car from a manufacturer previously consideredsafe could have a defect and turn out to be a 'lemon.'<br><br>What should you do to protect your investment and make the purchase ofyour next car a pleasant and rewarding experience? <br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">1.<span style="font-weight: bold;">Know the Car Manufacturers' StatisticsRegarding Lemon Law Cases</span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Once you find a car you like,check on their lemon record. Statistics are available that givethe percentage of lemon law cases by vehicle manufacturer. What to lookfor? The higher the percentage of lemon law cases compared to thenumber of vehicles sold is an indication that something is wrong. Check for recalls or recent safety issues. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">2. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Do your homework. </span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If you are buying a pre-ownedvehicle, check its history. Have you ever heard the phrase 'launderedlemon ? When a car has a defect the dealer or manufacturer couldbe forced to buy it back. These cars have been known to findtheir way back onto the lot and get sold again, without the requireddisclosures. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">One way to check if the car youwant to buy has a 'hidden past' is to do a title search through theNational Motor Vehicle Title Information System at <a target="_blank"href="http://www.nmvtis.gov/">www.nmvtis.gov</a>. Many states,including California, require 'lemon buyback to be included in thetitle of a vehicle.</font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Go the extra mile with yourresearch: Find the Vehicle Identification Number (VIN) and research thevehicle's history. For a small fee you can get a title history fromCARFAX Vehicle History Reports, AutoCheck, Consumer Guide andothers. It's wise to check a number of sources; just because onereport is clean another might not be.</font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">3. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Buy from a reputable dealer. </span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Whether you're looking to buy anew car or a used car, it's best to go to a well-known dealer. They keep only the best trade-ins and they are usually easier to dealwith if you do happen to get a lemon.</font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">4. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Check out the Warranty</span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">What are the terms of the warrantyfor a new car? What exactly does it cover? And if it ispre-owned, dealers must include the FTC Buyer's Guide. Sometimes a usedvehicle is sold with a warranty and sometimes it is sold 'as is' or'with all faults'. A service contract does not confer the same rightsas a warranty so be sure to clarify exactly what you're getting. Get any form of warranty offered in writing. The conditionsshould be clearly stated, such as what percentage of labor and partsthe dealer will cover, for exactly which systems within the vehicle,and for what duration. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">5. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Always Take A Test Drive</span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Always take a test drive and makea note of any unusual squeaks or rattles. Note if the car pullsto one side.</font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">6. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Have the Vehicle Inspected</span></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If everything else checks out,before you sign on the dotted line, take the car to an independentmechanic and have the vehicle thoroughly inspected.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>If you do your homework your new car should be a reliable and enjoyableasset for many years to come. Should you have the misfortune torun into difficulties with defects, remember that every state has somekind of lemon law to protect its citizens from the nightmare of adefective vehicle. You can find all the information you need inthe Lemon Law Guide.<br><br>Author Bio:<br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Norman Taylor</span> has worked as aconsumer advocate specializing in <a target="_blank"href="http://www.normantaylor.com/">California Lemon Law</a> for morethan twenty years. Over this time his firm has handled over 8,000cases that resulted in refunds in excess of $100,000,000.00 paid toconsumers for defective vehicles. <a target="_blank"href="http://www.normantaylor.com">http://www.normantaylor.com</a>. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:23:34Z
Tip of the Week: May 16th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>The Lemon Law is NotJust for Cars</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Norman Taylor<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.NormanTaylor.com/">www.NormanTaylor.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Although the Lemons Law is mostoften associated with defective vehicles, it applies to all consumerproducts purchased for personal use. What exactly is a "consumerproduct for personal use"? That would be virtually anything anindividual buys for their own or household use, except clothingand consumables. It could be an electric toothbrush or a kitchenappliance. There have been several calls for creating a computer lemonlaw, but the law already covers computers bought for personaluse. It also covers musical instruments and even medical devicessuch as wheel chairs and hearing aids. The only requirement is that theproduct is bought primarily for personal or family use.<br><br>Consumers don't expect manufacturers to produce defective products, butthis consumer protection law takes the opposite view-the more expensiveand complicated a product is, the more possibility there is thatsomething can go wrong. Both consumer and manufacturer have rights andduties under this law: the consumer has the duty to present the productto the manufacturer or its representative dealer so that they candiagnose the defect and repair it. Along with the duty, the consumerhas a right to expect that the product will be repaired honestly andexpeditiously.<br><br>Manufacturers have the right to expect that the consumer will presenttheir defective vehicle at an authorized dealer for repair in a timelymanner, nothing more. They cannot expect that the consumer perfectlydescribe the defect or any other limiting requirement. The Lemon Lawmakes allowances for the manufacturer to repair the product, or if thatfails, to refund the money or give the purchaser a replacement.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Lemon Law Tips</span></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Your best defense against anuncooperative manufacturer is a thorough, specific and accurateservice-record paper trail. Document everything. Obtain copies of allwarranty repair orders from the dealer and keep notes of your reportedproblems and all conversations you have with service people, includingthe date, time and participants in these conversations.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Determine whether yourprevious efforts to repair the problem satisfy the requirements of yourstate's lemon law. Most state laws allow the manufacturer three or fourchances to repair the defect or defects.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Put your complaint inwriting. Send a letter to the manufacturer and ask for either a refundor replacement.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If you still don't getsatisfaction consider hiring an experienced and effective lemon lawattorney</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Author Bio:<br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Norman Taylor</span> has worked as aconsumer advocate specializing in California Lemon Law for more thantwenty years. Over this time his firm has handled over 8,000cases that resulted in refunds in excess of $100,000,000.00 paid toconsumers for defective vehicles. <a target="_blank"href="http://www.normantaylor.com/">http://www.normantaylor.com</a>. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font></body></html>
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Tip of the Week: January 27th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>In Praise Of B.S. -It's Not All Bad For 'Ya</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cliff Ennico<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.creators.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.creators.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>As a longtime fan of comedianGeorge Carlin, I was recently delighted to find in my local video storea DVD of an HBO special performance Carlin gave in Los Angeles only afew months before his death in June 2008.<br>The special, entitled "It's Bad for 'Ya", was the usual blend ofCarlin's spot-on social and political satire.<br><br>My only problem with his routine came in the title skit - a long rantagainst certain ritual and other symbolic behaviors we perform ineveryday life (for example, placing your hand on a Bible or othersacred text when swearing an oath). After describing each ritualand showing how meaningless it is, Carlin added the tag line "it'sB.S., and it's bad for 'ya." At one memorable point in hismonologue, Carlin wonders out loud "how many millions of dead soldiersin military cemeteries around the Globe marched off to war because theyfelt they were fighting for something that was nothing more than B.S.?"<br><br>A veteran of the social and political upheavals of the 1960s and 1970s,Carlin believed, as did many of his generation (listen closely to thelyrics of John Lennon's song "Imagine"), that a world without B.S. is aworld of perfect beauty, peace and freedom, in which there is nothingto kill or die for, and we can finally achieve "a brotherhood of man".<br><br>With all respect for an artist who can no longer defend himself, and(full disclosure) as a member of that generation myself, I would saythat I agree with Carlin . . . but only halfway.<br><br>It's hard to argue that most ritual behavior is B.S., in the sense thatit has no extrinsic meaning. Quite a few social rituals that usedto have real meaning no longer do - in the 1500s, shaking someone'shand in greeting was a way of saying you had no intention to draw yoursword on that person.<br><br>But that is just the point: ritual behavior is not meant to havereal meaning. It is symbolic, a shorthand way of communicatingsomething that cannot be put in words or is too complex for the humanmind to grasp in full. Putting your hand on a sacred text whenswearing an oath is a way for society to signal that "what you areabout to say is extremely important, just as important as the words inthis text you're holding, and we as a society intend to hold youaccountable for every word."<br><br>Ritual behavior lies at the heart of every human organization, be it afamily, a company (we commonly speak of "corporate culture"), a tribe,a religion, a political party, or a nation. Participating inritual is a way for people to say "yes, we are all different as humanbeings, but we are willing to sacrifice some of our individuality, ourpersonality, our disagreements and our uniqueness to be members of acertain community that identifies itself by these rituals." <br><br>The rituals themselves are B.S., and easily ridiculed. But - andhere is where I part company with Carlin - not all B.S. is bad for'ya. <br><br>Would you really want to live in a world without B.S.? A world inwhich each individual is truly unique, different and perfect inhimself, without any shorthand or symbols to show his fellow humanitywith others? Frankly, I think it would be boring as Hell - inmuch the same way that guys with shaved heads and goatees (er, excuseme, "soul patches") look exactly the same.<br><br>Whenever you make any sort of general statement about something, it isB.S. because it is too simplistic. Whenever you tell a story toillustrate a moral, it is B.S. because it is fiction. Wheneveryou create a theory or model to explain to someone how something in theworld works, it is B.S. because every rule has exceptions, and theworld is too complicated for any theory to explain perfectly. Whenever you accept something as an article of faith, you use B.S. todeal with questions that cannot be answered by rational or scientificanalysis (for example, what happens to us after we die, why bad thingshappen to good people). According to some 20th century Europeanphilosophers, even language itself is B.S. because words are meresymbols that cannot communicate the "thing in itself" - we love poetrybecause by listening closely to the words we hear, and sometimes feel,an image of what is being spoken about.<br><br>In many ways, B.S. is the lubricant that makes learning, communication,understanding and all other aspects of human society possible. B.S. is what gets us emotionally and psychologically through life,gives us our sense of personal identity, and what gives us hope thatmaybe there is something in the Universe that is bigger than we are andof which we are a part.<br><br>Cynicism can be a good thing, if taken in moderation. But someonewho spends too much time removing B.S. from his life, and pointing outto others why B.S. isn't real, sooner or later ends up not believing inanything. George Carlin had a successful career, achieving wealthand fame making millions laugh at the B.S. in their lives, but Isometimes wonder if he died happy. He didn't look happy in thatHBO special. Of course, he probably knew he had only a few monthsto live.<br><br>People should be free to choose which B.S. they believe in, of course -B.S. should never be forced on anyone. People should also beeducated enough not to confuse B.S. with reality. But give upB.S. altogether? If anything, the more we learn about the cold,hostile, unforgiving world around us, the more B.S. we need to keepfrom going crazy. And yes, some B.S. is worth fighting and dyingfor.<br><br>As you engage in your holiday rituals, customs and traditions, whateverthey may be, try not to think too hard about them. Studysomething too closely, and you kill the beauty, the magic and themystery.<br><br>Cliff Ennico (<a href="mailto:crennico@gmail.com">crennico@gmail.com</a>)is a syndicated columnist, author and former host of the PBS televisionseries "Money Hunt." This column is no substitute for legal, tax orfinancial advice, which can be furnished only by a qualifiedprofessional licensed in your state. To find out more about CliffEnnico and other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit ourWeb page at </font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.creators.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.creators.com</font></a><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. <span style="font-weight: bold;">COPYRIGHT2009 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS.COM.</span> </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: February 22nd, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Luck Won't Make YourMarriage a Success:<br>Four Benefits of Pre-Marital Counseling</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Sharon M. Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T.<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.sharonrivkin.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>We seem to prepare foreverything in our life - jobs, exams, etc. Why then don't weprepare for a successful marriage? Maybe it's because of thefairy tales that have brainwashed us into thinking that we'll all livehappily ever after? In reality, it doesn't work that way, as you mayhave noticed by now. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce#133;andonly half of those that endure are truly happy in the long run. <br><br>According to Patricia and Gregory Kuhlman of Marriage Success Training,"research shows that there is a window of opportunity during the yearbefore the wedding and the six months or so after when couples get theoptimum benefit from marriage preparation. Later, under stress,negative habits and relationship patterns may become established and bemuch harder to resolve. If you just wing it and count on yourluck and romantic attachment to make your marriage a success, your oddsare only one in four."<br><br>How do you beat the odds and give your marriage a better chance ofsurvival? Through pre-marital counseling and education. According to research, pre-marital counseling can reduce the risk ofdivorce by up to 30% and lead to a happier and healthiermarriage. And the healthiest marriages are those where the couplecan negotiate their differences. Why wait until you're marriedand have your first marital fight to see if you can negotiate? Why not prepare ahead of time with tools and skills? <br><br>Most couples naively think they don't need preparation. Maybe theyhaven't experienced relationship hardships and don't believe there willever be problems. And if problems do pop up, they believe theywill magically turn out okay. Remember the fantasy? Marriagesdon't work that way. They take a lot of hard work, thought, andskill. Love alone will not guarantee a successful marriage. Instead, discuss and resolve important issues before the big date tohave a better chance for a healthy marriage, such as:<br></font><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">What are your expectationsfor a good marriage? </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">How compatible are you onday-to-day issues?</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">What personality-type areeach of you and what are your families of origin like? </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">What are your communicationskills? Are you an introvert or extrovert? </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Do you have tools forconflict management? Can you negotiate? What do you do whenconflict arises?</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Do you have similar sexdrives? What type of sex do you prefer? </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Do you share long-term goalsand similar values? </font></li></ol><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Then, get pre-marital counselingto learn the following tools:<br></font><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Fair fighting. How to taketime outs, call a truce, stop the shaming and blaming, and developingground rules for fighting. </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Keep your partner frombecoming your enemy. When arguments build up, you cease giving yourpartner the benefit of the doubt. Therefore, resolve conflictsimmediately so you can continue to love your partner and see them in apositive light.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Stay current. Addressarguments as soon as they come up. Don't sweep issues under therug. They won't go away. Resentment and anger build momentumwhenever an issue isn't dealt with and resolved.</font></li></ol><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Don't count on luck to beat thedivorce odds#133;and drop the fantasy. By discussing important issues andlearning skills through pre-marital counseling, you'll be forming asolid foundation for a successful marriage. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-style: italic;">"What's the big deal? All I said was. . ."</span> Sound familiar? Argument/Affairs Expert and TherapistSharon Rivkin helps couples fix their relationships by understandingwhy they fight. Sharon says, "If you don't get rid of the ghosts thathaunt your arguments, you'll never stop fighting!" Read her new book,Breaking the Argument Cycle: How to Stop Fighting Without Therapy, tolearn the tools of therapy to break the cycle of destructive fighting.Sharon makes regular radio appearances nationwide and has been featuredin <span style="font-style: italic;">O: The Oprah Magazine, Reader'sDigest, Yahoo.com, Martha Stewart Living Radio,</span> and <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Dr.Laura.com</span>. For more information,visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com">http://www.sharonrivkin.com</a>.Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 4th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Facebook Safety: Wakingup with a Social Media Hangover</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a><br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Facebook safety has a directcorrelation to your business's bottom line. Facebook, and social mediasites in general, are in an awkward stage between infancy and adulthood- mature in some ways, helpless in others. On the darker side of siteslike Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter, scammers and identity thieves aredrooling at the sight of this unchecked data playground. In contrast,most social networkers are myopically intoxicated with all thefriendships they are creating and renewing. <br><br>There is no denying that Facebook and other social media sites have avery luring appeal. You can sit in the comfort of your own homeand suddenly have a thriving social life. You can look up oldfriends, make new ones, build business relationships and create aprofile for yourself that highlights only your talents and adventureswhile conveniently leaving out all your flaws and troubles. It iseasy to see why Facebook has acquired over 200 million users worldwidein just over five years. Which is why Facebook safety is still soimmature: Facebook's interface and functionality has grown faster thansecurity can keep up. <br><br>Unfortunately, most people dive head first into this world of socialconnectedness without thinking through the ramifications of all thepersonal information that is now traveling at warp speed throughcyberspace. It's like being served a delicious new drink at aparty, one that you can't possibly resist because it is so fun andtempting and EVERYONE is having one. The downside? Nobody isthinking about the information hangover that comes fromover-indulgence: <span style="font-style: italic;">what you put on theInternet STAYS on the internet, forever</span>. And sometimes it showsup on the front page of the Wall Street Journal, in the hands of aprospective employer or your boss's inbox. All of the personalinformation that is being posted on profiles -- names, birthdates,kids' names, photographs, pet's names (and other password reminders),addresses, opinions on your company, your friends and your enemies, allof it serves as a one-stop shop for identity thieves. It's allright there in one neat little package and all a scammer has to do toaccess it is become your 'friend .<br><br>Recently my friend, who was an avid Facebook user, gave it up. Hehad acquired 2,000 friends and he just couldn't manage itanymore. Of course, I'm thinking, "Two thousand friends?" How do you come to personally know two thousand people over the courseof 40 years on earth? The answer is easy: he didn't knowthem all. People accept "friend" invitations all the time frompeople they don't actually know. Who doesn't like people seekingout their friendship? But consider this: there is an increasinglikelihood that the "friends" you don't know might also be con artistswho are simply trying to access your information. Every time you allowa stranger into your profile, picture yourself with a morning-afterhangover. Follow the Five Facebook Safety Tips and save yourselfthe trouble.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">5 Facebook Safety Tips</span><br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">1.<span style="font-weight: bold;">If they're not your friend, don'tpretend.</span> Don't accept friend requests unless you absolutely knowwho they are and that you would associate with them in person, justlike real friends. <br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">2. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Post only what you want made public.</span>Be cautious about the personal information that you post on any socialmedia site, as there is every chance in the world that it willpropagate. It may be fun to think that an old flame can contactyou, but now scammers and thieves are clambering to access thatpersonal information as well.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">3. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Manage your privacy settings.</span> Sixty percent of social networkers are unaware of their default privacysettings (how Facebook sets them for you). The simple task of settingthem to your standards can reduce your risk of identity theftdramatically. Take a few minutes and lock down your profiles byvisiting the privacy tab of your account settings. Understand what partof your profile is visible to friends and non-friends alike. <br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">4. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Keep Google Out.</span> Unless you want allof your personal information indexed by Google and other searchengines, restrict your profile so that it is not visible to thesedata-mining experts. <br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">5. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Don't respond to Friends in Distress.</span>If you receive a post requesting money to help a friend out, do thesmart thing and call them in person. Friend in Distress schemes arewhen a thief takes over someone else's account and then makes a pleafor financial help to all of <span style="font-style: italic;">your</span>friends (who think that the post is coming from you). </font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>Following these 5 Facebook Safety tips is a great way to prevent aninformation-sharing hangover.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">About the author: <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">John Sileo</span>became America's leading <a target="_blank"href="http://www.thinklikeaspy.com/">Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert</a> after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC. To further bulletproof yourself and yourbusiness, visit John's blog at <a target="_blank"href="http://www.Sileo.com/">Sileo.com</a>. To book John atyour next event, visit </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">.</font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:23:22Z
Tip of the Week: November 29th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Landscaping Tips forWinter</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Irwin<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.royalgardenlandscaping.com/">www.royalgardenlandscaping.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>The colder weather is coming and that often means freezing temperaturesand frost. There is no need to panic however, when it comes toprotecting your plants. Below are six strategies to help your plantssurvive the winter.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Cold temperatures</span><br>Plunging temperatures make every homeowner worry about the safety oftheir plants. Choosing plants properly that can withstand the cold isthe first and most important step. Place plants more vulnerable to thecold in protected areas. If you have plants that don't like the coldtemperatures, then take extra steps to protect them, such as layingdown extra mulch, or covering plants with sheets or cloth.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Mulch </span><br>A 4-inch layer of winter mulch placed after the ground freezes twoinches deep will protect your more vulnerable plants. Mulch root areaof larger plants. Cover or wrap plants and shrubs with cloth toinsulate them. Don't use plastic as it suffocates the plants and willraise and lower their temperatures too quickly.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Salt Damage</span><br>Salt damage occurs when salt is used to melt ice and snow on drivewaysand walkways. It is also caused when salt is used on your streets, andthen tossed onto plants by snowplows. To prevent damage from salt, usealternatives such as sand, kitty litter or an environmentally friendlysalt mixture to de-ice walkways and driveways. Place only extra hardyplants in your snowplow zone, and avoid those varieties that are highlysusceptible to salts.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Wind </span><br>Strong winds can cause plants to lose moisture in the winter. To avoidmoisture loss, mulch around roots and cover or wrap plants with cloth.You should still water plants occasionally to prevent moisture loss.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Winter Pests</span><br>The biggest issue during the winter attends to be animals nibbling ontrees and shrubs. There are a number of ways to prevent damage frompests, such as using environmentally safe products that repel pests,wrapping tree trunks with protective materials and placing fencingaround valuable plants. You can also try leaving out food for theanimals so they won't be tempted to eat your plants.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Containers</span><br>If you have perennials in containers or pots, you should move them intothe garage or a shed during the winter. If the plants are not move, thesoil can freeze and kill the plants. If you don't have a garage, add alayer of mulch around and over containers to protect plants, or movethem indoors when temperatures are severe.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Roses</span><br>Winter is not generally a problem for roses if you have the rightvariety#151;especially if they were grown from their own roots. Manyantique and climbing roses are very hardy and don't require specialattention. However in some climates with severe winters, roses need tobe buried in a trench to survive the winter. Tree roses are verysusceptible to cold, so they may need to be covered or buried. When in doubt, it is best to consult your local horticulturist orgarden center to know what is best for protecting plants in yourclimate.<br><br>John Irwin is a professional landscaper in the Sacramento area and hasbeen in business for more than 18 years. For more tips and strategieson creating the yard of your dreams visit </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.royalgardenlandscaping.com/">www.royalgardenlandscaping.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:23:20Z
Tip of the Week: April 12th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>The Key to SuccessfulRelationships:<br>Put Yourself First<br></b></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Winn Claybaugh<br>Author of <span style="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span><br><a href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.beniceorelse.com<br></a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Before you can have successful relationships with others, you mustmaster your relationship with yourself. Here's a radical challenge:Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to aroomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervousgiggles. Even the thought of 'falling in love with me seems extreme,and many people reject the idea. But before you can offer others thegifts of happiness, joy, purpose, and fulfillment, you have to own themyourself.<br><br>I once had the honor of knowing a wonderful woman named Noel DeCaprio.A successful spa owner, Noel was heralded as a mentor and leader withinher industry. She'd been featured and interviewed in magazines and ontelevision for her wisdom, and many people looked to her for coaching,business ideas, and her 'you can do it approach.<br><br>Noel experienced a 14-year battle with breast cancer, which eventuallytook her life in December 1998. Six months before her passing, Iinterviewed Noel for an audiotape to raise money for breast cancerresearch. In that interview, she said that after her double mastectomyand months of chemotherapy, she looked in the mirror and hated herself.Noel was wise enough to know she had to find a way to fall back in lovewith herself, and she did it by making bathing a ritual. Every day,she'd spend hours in the ritual of bathing. She focused on the bathsalts, candles, oils, creams, and aromas. She spent time visitinglittle boutiques that sold such items, having them gift wrapped eventhough she was buying them for herself. She put so much time intosomething she'd never had time for before#151;something that seemed soselfish and narcissistic#151;that eventually she realized she was back inlove with herself. And when that happened, Noel told her family,friends, and staff, 'Tell everyone I have cancer! I'm out of thecloset, and I want everyone to know so I can help as many people as Ican. <br><br>How Noel went on to raise money and awareness for cancer wasunbelievable. But let me ask you: Could she have accomplished so much,and benefited so many people, had she not fallen back in love withherself?<br><br>Once you solidify your relationship with yourself, you're ready to moveon to your relationships with others. People often think relationshipsmean that 'one and only person in their life, but every person youcontact is a relationship that requires your commitment. If you drivein traffic, you have a relationship with everyone on the freeway. Ifyou drive down the freeway screaming, 'Get out of my way! it's goingto be very difficult for you to walk into work and say, 'Hi, happy toserve you. If you verbally abuse waiters, waitresses, or bank tellers,it's going to be very difficult for you to have a successful, intimaterelationship with a spouse or partner.<br><br>Remember that every relationship offers you the opportunity to grow andlearn. If you assume that everyone is doing their best#151;just as youare#151;and choose to give people a break, you'll find yourself developingthe warm, wonderful, nice relationships you desire.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Winn Claybaugh</span> is the author of <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span> and 'one of thebest motivational speakers in the country, according to CNN's LarryKing. A business owner for over 25 years with over 8,000 people in hisorganization, Winn is the co-owner of hair care giant Paul Mitchell'sschool division. Winn has helped thousands of businesses build theirbrands and create successful working cultures. His clients includeSouthwest Airlines, the Irvine Company, Vidal Sassoon, EntertainmentTonight, Mattel, <span style="font-style: italic;">For Rent</span>magazine, Structure/Limited/Express, and others. Winn is a frequentguest on national radio and a regular contributor to onlinepublications. Visit </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><ahref="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.BeNiceOrElse.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> to sign up for his free monthly <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span> newsletter.</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">.</font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: January 3rd, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Analyzing Dreams - ToFind The Truth</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Amitt Parikh<br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Every night we go to sleep andwitness many dreams. We almost spend our one-third life in sleeping.Whether you are able to remember your dreams or not, everybody dreamsand it's a fact.<br><br>I have been conscious of my dreams since past few years and wonderedtheir complex stories and how they would perfectly reflect my state ofbeliefs, desires, fears, and aspirations working as a perfect mirror ofmy waking consciousness.<br><br>Lately I began to see them more closely and many a times, becameconscious of dreaming inside the dreams and altered the output of thedream or course of the dream. Sometimes, I rewind and experience thealtered sequence. Often I would analyze dreams while dreaming.<br><br>Once I got up from a very complex dream and woke up. I was amazed at asudden thought of my mind working as a projector, projecting such acomplex script as a dream sequence involving so many characters, hugelandscapes, twists and turns like that of a movie story and weavingeverything together as one coherent dream sequence without any'editing' or 'revisions' needed!<br><br>One day, I was hearing an audio recording of Deepak Chopra's interviewwho views this whole thing with little different perception andimmediately it struck me. I used to think of my mind projecting thisstory, but I did not see my mind as 'me'. So now I have me myself, inmy dream as not only the character which is 'me' in the dream but allother characters, the plot, the locations... everything as 'me'!<br><br>So if you are witnessing a dream of you playing volleyball on a beachwith your friends, then essentially you are the 'you' who is playingalong with 'yourself' as your friends, you as the sea, you as the sandof the beach, you as the net, you as the ball as well you are thesounds you hear, you are the sunlight you see, you are ALL THAT IS inthat dream including the OBSERVER observing and experiencing that dream!<br><br>The REALITY as we know is no different than a DREAM, only it is awaking state dream. I am my physical body, I am my mind, I am the PC onwhich I am reading this, I am the article, I am the reader and I am thewriter and I am the one who is observing and understanding this andsaying 'hmm'!<br><br>Think of what happens when you 'wake up'. You suddenly realize all thathappened in dreams was only an illusion and so it never actuallyhappened. What if we 'wake up' again from our so-called wakingconsciousness just to find that this reality is also an illusion? Andnothing actually happened? <br><br>As we know the 'I' in our dreams never existed, it was just aprojection of 'myself' (which is 'higher self' for the 'I' within thedream state). So isn't this 'I' of waking state also an illusion - aprojection? Is this 'I' also our limited perception of the omnipresentOne Higher Self?<br><br>Well it seems dreams do tell us a lot about <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">'</span>reality' if we analyze them moredeeply. <br><br>copy; Amitt Parikh, all rights reserved.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><a target="_blank" href="http://www.facebook.com/amitt.parikh"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Amitt Parikh</span></a> is the author of <atarget="_blank" href="http://www.themysteriousone.org/"><spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Conversations with The Mysterious One</span></a>.He is a mystic and a professional trainer conducting revolutionary SelfDevelopment Courses, seminars and workshops for Everyday EvolutionaryLiving and Your Spiritual Revolution. He is the Executive Editor of <atarget="_blank" href="http://www.yourspiritualrevolution.org/">YourSpiritual Revolution eMagazine</a> and the Founder of Spiritual Scienceamp; Research Foundation, India.</font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> Permission granted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 6th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Deleting Your FacebookAccount 101</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">How do I delete my Facebook account?</span>I get asked this question every day. At my speeches, by my clients, bymy friends and family. It used to be that people no longer wanted themundane information overload that Facebook promotes. <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">But now they are looking at it from aprivacy perspective - they no longer want their thoughts, pictures, andvideos shared indiscriminately with people they don't know.</span><br><br>The defections have been sparked by Facebook's continuing march to sellyour private information (with only your implied consent, i.e., simplyby using Facebook, you agree to their terms) with an ever wideningcircle of people who are NOT YOUR FRIENDS (advertisers, data miners,and unfortunately, identity thieves). Many of the corporations I speakfor have me include a component on safe social networking because theinformation their employees are posting (personally or professionally)are damaging their corporate brand and profits either through dataleakage or as a beach-head for social engineering and other types offraud.<br><br>In past posts, I have pointed to the tools at your disposal to <atarget="_blank" href="http://www.sileo.com/category/social-media/">tightendown your Facebook security settings</a>. But suddenly, that is nolonger complete enough for people, as Facebook continues to erode whatlittle privacy you can control. Just look at the privacy relatedFacebook news in the past few weeks:<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/05/13/facebook.delete.privacy/index.html?hpt=T2">CNNArticle about Facebook defection</a> because of privacy concerns</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Facebook announces <atarget="_blank"href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/04/21/facebook.changes.f8/index.html">OpenGraph</a>, which shares your data with websites outside of Facebook toallow for more targeted advertising</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://news.cnet.com/8301-13577_3-20004213-36.html?cnn=yes">Securityhole</a>: Live chat messages and pending friend requests brieflyavailable to ALL contacts forced Facebook to disable chat</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">So for those who actually want totake themselves off of Facebook (whether they want to delete theirFacebook profile or simply deactivate it), let me give you the basics.<br><br>First of all, you need to know the difference between <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Deactivating</span> and <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Deleting</span> your Facebook account (Iwill walk you through the steps to do either). When you <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">"deactivate"</span> your account, Facebookmerely suspends your account but retains all of your data in case youwant to restore it at a later date (and in case they still want to sellit even though you are no longer active). When you <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">"delete"</span> your account, yourinformation is permanently removed from Facebook (eventually) and <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">cannot be restored</span> if you changeyour mind. In other words, before you delete your account, make surethat you have original copies of any of the photos, videos, posts andcontact lists in your profile. Once they are gone, they're gone.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">How To <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Deactivate</span> Your Facebook Account:</span><br><br>Here are step-by-step instruction on how you can easily deactivate youraccount. Remember the difference between deactivation and deletion:deactivation is temporary so that you can reactivate your account ifyou wish to return to Facebook.<br><br>1. Log into your account and on the top right side click <spanstyle="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Account</span> and then<span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Account Settings</span>.When this screen pops up, click the last option: <spanstyle="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Deactivate Account</span>.<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook1.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>2. Once you click on <spanstyle="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Deactivate Account</span>,it will bring you to this page:<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook2.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Even after your account is "deactivated", you can still be tagged inphotos, invited to events, etc. Once again, you are still an activepart of the social networking site, it's just that you don't get to useany of the tools available to active accounts (thought Facebookcontinues to use your information). For a little additional privacy, besure to "opt out" of emails at the bottom of the page if you don't wantto receive any communications.<br><br>3. The site will ask you to confirm your password as well as a"captcha" security word to confirm that you are a <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">living, breathing defector</span> and nota computer.<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook3.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>Remember, you can reactivate at any time by logging in with your emailand password, although you must have access to your current login emailaddress.<br><br>4. Following all of these steps, Facebook will send you an emailconfirmation entitled "You have deactivated your Facebook account". Ofcourse, the email gives you a way to reactivate your account Facebookreally wants you to stick around, as your information is what supportstheir bottom line.<br><br>If this doesn't go far enough toward protecting your privacy#133;<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">How To <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Delete</span> Your Facebook Account:</span><br><br>If you are certain that you won't use Facebook again (at least withyour current settings, posts, photos, videos, groups and pages) andwould like your account deleted, <spanstyle="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;">please keep in mindthat you will not be able to reactivate your account or retrieve any ofthe content or information you have added</span>. If you would likeyour account permanently deleted with no option for recovery, followthese steps:<br><br>1. Log in to your account and then click here to <a target="_blank"href="https://ssl.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=delete_accountamp;__a=3">PermanentlyDelete Your Facebook Account (and regain some sense of privacy)</a>.You should see this page:<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook4.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>2. Click submit to continue, enter your password, complete the securitycheck and click OK to make sure that you want to continue withDeletion. It should look something like this:<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook5.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>3. You will then be taken to one final page to confirm permanentdeletion of your Facebook account:<br><br>Pay close attention to the second sentence. If you log into youraccount again (even automatically on your iPhone or in your browser orthrough an affiliated site like Twitter or LinkedIn) <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">your profile will be reactivated</span>.<br><br></font><div style="text-align: center;"><imgstyle="width: 400px; height: 273px;" alt="Facebook"src="http://www.drlaura.com/timages/sd/facebook/facebook6.jpg"><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>4. After completing this process you should receive an email with asubject similar to: "Account Scheduled for Deletion". At this point,you still have the option to cancel the request. I have heardthat Facebook might guilt you into staying (e.g., they may say that JoeFriend (one of your contacts) will really miss you).<br><br>Deleting your Facebook account is a very personal decision, but it isyour right to have these tools for controlling privacy at yourfingertips.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">About the author:</span> To furtherbulletproof yourself and your business, visit John's blog at </font><font><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. To book John at your next event,visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>.John Sileo became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font><br><br>
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Tip of the Week: January 4th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br> <center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Passion for Pomegranates<br>By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/" target="_blank">http://www.FreshBaby.com/</a> </center><br><br>Pomegranates are quite unique. Slightly sweet. Slightly tart. Inside the crimson-colored fruit you'll find exactly 840 Arils. These are seeds surrounded by a sac of sweet-tart juice. The arils are held together in layers resembling honeycomb. Simply peel off the arils and pop them in your mouth for a burst of pomegranate goodness.<br><br> Pomegranates are fun to eat, but do require a little work. For those of us looking for great flavor with "open and enjoy" convenience there several brands of pomegranate juice on the market to quench your thirst and deliver an antioxidant punch.<br><br><b>At the market:</b> Pomegranates are available fresh from October through January. Pomegranates are picked when ripe, so when you see them in stores they are ready to eat. When selecting a pomegranate, consider that the heavier the fruit is, the juicier it will be.<br><br> Pomegranate juice is sold under several brand names. You'll find pomegranate juice in the produce or juice sections of the supermarket. Check the label to ensure you are purchasing 100% pomegranate juice.<br><br><b>Storage:</b> Whole fruits can be stored for a month in a cool, dry area or refrigerated up to two months. When frozen, the arils or juice will keep for several months in air-tight containers.<br><br>The Art of Eating a Pomegranate: At first glance, the pomegranate appears a bit intimidating. Here's the quickest way to harvest the arils from the skin:<ul><li>Cut off the crown, then cut the pomegranate into sections. <li>Place a section in a bowl of water. Using your fingers, gently separate the red arils from the skin. The arils will sink and the white skin will float to the top. <li>Discard the skin - it is not edible. Drain the water by pouring the arils through a colander or strainer.</li></ul>Note: Pomegranate juice stains fingers, clothes and carpeting. Sitting at the kitchen table or outside is the best place to enjoy pomegranates.<br><br>Here are some creative and simple ideas to include pomegranates into your family meals:<br><br><b>Dressings and marinades:</b> Pomegranate juice has an acidic, citrus-y flavor. It's a great substitute for citrus in marinades and salad dressings. Simply substitute the same quantity of pomegranate juice in a recipe that calls for orange, lemon or grapefruit juice. Pomegranate flavor is a great complement to lamb. Here is a simple marinade that is perfect for making lamb kabobs.<br><br><b>Pomegranate Marinated Lamb Kabobs</b><br><br>1/2 cup pomegranate juice 1/4 cup olive oil 1 Tbsp lemon juice 1 tsp salt 1/4 tsp fresh ground pepper 1 tsp dried rosemary or 1 Tbsp fresh rosemary, chopped 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 pounds boneless lamb shoulder or leg, cut into 1 1/2 inch cubes/li></ol>In a large bowl, whisk together pomegranate juice, oil, lemon juice, salt, pepper, rosemary and garlic. Add lamb cubes and toss to coat. Cover and refrigerate at least 6 hours or overnight.<br><br>Thread lamb equally onto bamboo or metal skewers. Place skewers on medium hot BBQ or a lightly greased Grill Pan on medium heat. Cook, turning often until meat is well browned outside, but pink in the center, about 10-15 minutes. Serves 6.<br><br><b>Enjoy a pomegranate soda:</b> Start with tall glass filled with a few ice cubes. Pour sparkling water to 1/2 full. Then fill to the top with 100% pomegranate juice. Garnish with sprig of fresh mint or a lemon twist.<br><br><b>Return of a classic:</b> Many years ago, Grenadine was made from pomegranates. Sadly, bottled versions today are made with artificial flavor and food coloring - no pomegranates at all. To put the pomegranate back into grenadine, make your own at home. It's easy.<br><br>In a small saucepan, simmer 2 cups of pomegranate juice over medium heat and cook until reduced by half, about 7 minutes. Reduce heat and add 1 cup sugar, stirring constantly until dissolved, about 2 minutes. Let cool. Store in a tightly closed jar or container in the refrigerator for up to a month.<br><br>Along with making a great Tequila Sunrise or Shirley Temple, this pomegranate syrup, is a tasty treat. Here are some great ways to use this syrup:<ul><li>Drizzle over pancakes, waffles or French toast<br><li>Stir into plain yogurt, smoothies or oatmeal<br><li>Pour over frozen yogurt, ice cream or pound cake</li></ul><b>Great garnish:</b> Pomegranate arils add a dash of color, flavor and texture to many dishes.<br><br>Try sprinkling or tossing arils in:<br><br>Guacamole or salsa<br>Creamed spinach<br>Fried rice<br>Salads - green, spinach or fruit<br>Brown rice, couscous or quinoa<br>Alfredo pasta<br><br><b>Pomegranate-infused BBQ Chicken:</b> Put some zip into store-bought BBQ sauce by combining a frac12; cup of pomegranate juice and frac12; cup of BBQ sauce in a saucepan. Bring to boil, reduce heat to low and simmer for 10 minutes. Baste the sauce over a chicken while it's baking or slather over chicken in the final minutes of grilling.<br><br>About the authors: <b>Cheryl Tallman</b> and <b>Joan Ahlers</b> are sisters, the mothers of five children and founders of Fresh Baby ( <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com"/ TARGET="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> ). They are the creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit and Good Clean Fun Placemats, available at many fine specialty stores and national chains including Target and Whole Foods Markets. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 17th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center> <font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b><strong>Seven Ways to Discover Joy</strong> </b></font><br> <font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> By Bob Livingstone LCSW<br><a href="http://www.BobLivingstone.com/" target="_blank">www.BobLivingstone.com</a></center><p>Many of us reach a point when our lives become routine, dull, and thankless. We lose our sense of meaning and direction. There seems to be a lack of purpose and feelings of hopelessness permeate our very being. We do reach a time when we are tired of being emotionally constipated and seek out ways to break this numbing cycle. The time has come to venture into something new.</p><p>Here Ways to discover joy:</p><ul> <li>Listen to Music-Select songs that will make you happy or if you haven't cried for a long time, select songs that will induce sadness. The release of tears will help you let go of what ever is keeping you stuck.<br> <br> </li> <li>Changing Jobs-If you have been working at the same job for a long time, perhaps it is time for a change. It is difficult sometimes to know when you have outgrown your current position and you stay because it is familiar and secure. However, the lack of new challenges is deadly for your personal growth and creativity. It may be time to move on.<br> <br> </li> <li>Follow your Dream-If you have had a long term dream of writing a book, opening a store, moving to the country or running for political office, now is the time to pursue that dream instead of merely fantasizing about it.<br> <br> </li> <li>Letting go of Stuck Grief-You may have been deeply hurt during your childhood. One of your parents may have died abruptly or you may have been abused. If you are having difficulty forming and keeping relationships and if you have had a loss or traumatic event years ago and it seems like it happened yesterday, you may be suffering from stuck grief. Seeking out a psychotherapist or an appropriate self-help group may be very helpful.<br> <br> </li> <li>Giving to the Community-Volunteering to help those less fortunate than you will not only be appreciated by many, it will also reward you spiritually and allow you to connect with others who are helping and receiving assistance. This activity will move you out of the intellectual realm and into your emotional world.<br> <br> </li> <li>Celebrating your Positive Changes-We tend to focus on the negative aspects of our being and the positive parts of us tend to be overlooked or ignored. Tune in to the positive changes you may have recently made such as: "I used to be so reactive and now I am able to stop and think before I blurt out something that will be hurtful." "I can now walk for three miles without getting exhausted."<br> <br> </li> <li>Decide to Break your Addiction-Whether you are addicted to substances, another person, video games or anything else, getting assistance and eventually breaking your addiction will eventually make you a happier, more productive person.<br> <br> </li></ul><p>Starting a regular exercise program will help you physically, emotionally and spiritually. It you are able to stick to a workout routine for a week, you will feel like this is a major accomplishment. You will begin to look and feel better. Your confidence, self-esteem and self-image will improve. Exercise will also drive you to discover the delight of moving your body. </p><p>If you have never exercised before, check with you physician to insure that you are cleared to workout. Begin slowly and briefly. For example you can start out by walking once around the block and then slowly increase your distance and your pace. The gift of exercise will open up the world of joy for you.<br> <br> Psychotherapist Bob Livingstone has helped millions heal their emotional pain during the past twenty years. He has been instrumental in assisting victims of emotional and/or physical violence recover from trauma and no longer be victims. He is a featured contributor to <em>DrLaura.com, Beliefnet.com, Ediets.com, Selfgrowth.com</em> and <em>SheKnows.com</em>. He is the author of the critically acclaimed book <em>The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise</em> (Pegasus Books, Sept. 2007). The first printing has sold out-Now in its second printing! For more emotional healing visit <a href="http://www.boblivingstone.com/" target="_blank">www.boblivingstone.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br> <br> </font>
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Tip of the Week: March 15th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Dumbed-Down Parenting</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Nancy Carlsson-Paige<br></font><a href="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Lots of parents tell me they rely on screen activities such asGameBoys, DVD players, and computers to entertain their kids when theyare traveling, waiting for appointments, or sitting inrestaurants. "It's so easy," they tell me, "it really keeps themquiet." Yes, the screens do engage kids, for sure. But are thereways to occupy kids that are more beneficial to them?<br><br>Over the years, I've gone to restaurants now and then with my grandsonsJackson and Miles. Before we head out, I always stick someopen-ended toy or material in my bag-a handful of legos or smallblocks, a few sheets of paper and some markers, or a hunk ofplaydoh. <br><br>What I find really amazing is that once we're seated and waiting forour food, the boys become deeply engrossed in these activities withoutfail. They seem really happy and peaceful as they sit with theirgrandparents and create. And we have some really niceconversations about what they're making-buildings with lots of windows,or how you can draw really big muscles. Have you ever tried totalk to a kid who's on a GameBoy? You can shout quite loud andstill not be noticed.<br><br>Children learn the most when they are directly involved with hands-onactivities and when they interact with people. With open-endedmaterials like playdoh, building toys, and art materials, children canexplore, problem solve, and make up stories and characters from theirown imaginations; the possibilities are limitless. <br><br>But when kids engage with the screen, their involvement is morerepetitive; the activity doesn't foster new and original ideas. Withhandheld games and screens, children don't invent what they want tomake or do; they play the games or watch the stories that someone elsehas created. <br><br>I think we parents have fallen into an all-too comfortable trap sincewe've had the electronic option. It's so easy to turn on theswitch-bingo! The kids are occupied. <br><br>It becomes an easy habit for us-we quickly turn to electronics when thekids are bored, when they're arguing, when we want them to bequiet. We choose this option first instead of searching for otherpossible ways to engage them. And this has dumbed down ourparenting: we no longer have to use our own ingenuity to findinteresting alternatives for our children. <br><br>I think it's time we reclaim our parental creativity, time we lookbeyond screens to find better, fuller activities that can optimallyengage our kids and help us be the fully involved parents children needus to be. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Nancy Carlsson-Paige </span>is aprofessor of education at Lesley University and the author or co-authorof five books. Her most recent book is <a target="_blank"href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Dapsamp;field-keywords=Taking+Back+Childhood%3A++Helping+Your+Kids+Thrive+in+a+Fast-Paced%2C+Media-Saturated%2C+Violence-Filled+World.++amp;x=0amp;y=0"><spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Taking Back Childhood: Helping YourKids Thrive in a Fast-Paced, Media-Saturated, Violence-Filled World</span></a>. Nancy writes and speaks about how media, violence, consumerism,and other social trends are shaping children today and what parents andteachers can do to raise caring and compassionatechildren. For more information visit </font><ahref="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</font></a><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: December 27th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>How to Answer theDreaded Questions<br>When you Go Home for the Holidays</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By The Love Goddess<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">"I'm going to be asked by my aunt--yetagain--why I'm not married," and am tired of answering thequestion with "Because I haven't met anyone yet. Because the look onher face when I say that is, like, triumphant. 'Oh dear.' she says,shaking her head 'I guess, well,--and here she smiles--no one's reallygood enough. Such a shame. How old are you now?'"</span><brstyle="font-weight: bold;"><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">'My brothers are going to tease meabout gaining weight. I need a quick answer that doesn't humiliate me.Help! </span><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"> </span><brstyle="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">'My mother will put down myboyfriend--a fabulous carpenter just starting out--with little snydecomments like, 'And what do you do again, dear? </span><br><br>Okay darling earth girls; time to get smart--now, beforeChristmas. Answers to stupid questions require planning ahead,lest they make you so mad you lose your cool. Here are threetried-and-true ways to five answers to the world's most obnoxiousquestions. Note that they share a theme, and that it's the theme you'reto remember.<br><br>1. ANYONE WHO ASKS YOU WHY YOU'RE NOT MARRIED DESERVES A BLOW-OFFANSWER.--AS GOOFY AND INSINCERE AS YOU CAN MAKE IT. Don't takethe question or the person seriously, as it's not a sincere questionbut rather one designed to make you uncomfortable (for, after all, whatanswer can you give that doesn't require an intimate, honestexchange?). So, unless you're prepared to level the person and start afight, evade the question with a breezy, even goofy answer--it deflectsthe hostility and you come out looking cheerful and unfazed. <br><br>2. To hone this skill, try anticipating the questioner's real point,and offer the answer she or he wants to hear. "I guess no one's goodenough for me, Aunt Jane" is very good, as it saves her the trouble ofimplying just that. 'No one would ever marry me because I'm fartoo stupid is another good one. Whatever you suspect the hidden agendais. <br><br>3. Disarm the questioner with something more interesting than thequestion. "I came close to marrying Fred Auntie, but he got worriedwhen he discovered how rich I am." At least she'll do a double take.You? Rich? How and when? Huh? An excellent answer. Thenturn and pour yourself a drink--and don't join her again. <br><br>The theme here is to disarm the rude questioner in any way you can. Thegoofier the answer, the better. "Gosh, Grandpa, I DO want toget married and have found just the right guy....<spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">but my psychic told me not to get marrieduntil February of 2011</span>. So I'm waiting. " (Grandpa won't knowwhether to ask about the psychic or the reasoning for the month ofFebruary, or why he didn't know you were engaged--by which point you'llhave dashed out of the room.) Your "psychic" could also be yourguru, or your priest or your Groom's mother. Anybody who hasn'tbeen introduced to the family, nor heard of at all, will do. You wantto sound like it's all taken care of--by some lunatic no one knows.<br><br>For a roomful of family friends who all seem to be asking the samequestion and can't shut up, try. "Oh, you haven't heard, UncleBill. I AM married! I just haven't announced it yet! You're thefirst to know--so keep it a secret for me for now, okay?" Bill willwant to know when you're going to tell everyone. Just say, "Soon! Verysoon!"<br><br>Same for your boyfriend, the neophyte carpenter. Have him tell yourmother he's working on a chest of drawers for the queen of England. Andtell your brothers that the reason you've gained weight is that you'reon the girls' basketball team and are taking steroids till you reachthe proper strength. <br><br>See?<br><br>And then walk away and find someone to talk to who loves you just theway you are.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Dalma Heyn, M.S.W.</span>, Founder of <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">The Love Goddess</span>, is the author ofseveral bestselling books on marriage and relationships. Dalma is awidely read columnist and sought-after speaker. She hasappeare--without her wings--on national talk shows including <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Oprah, The View, Charlie Rose, GoodMorning America, and Larry King Live</span>. For more information visit</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> or <a target="_blank"href="www.dalmaheyn.net">www.dalmaheyn.net</a>. Permission granted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 9th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Text Messages and YourPrivacy</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Just as you wouldn't want togive any personal identity information to someone via email, you wantto use the same practices via text message. There is a new wave offraud that tries to trick you with text messages appearing to be fromyour bank.<br><br>SMiShing uses cell phone text messages to deliver the "bait" whichentices you to divulge your personal information. The "hook" (themethod used to actually "capture" your information) in the text messagemay be a web site URL, like it is in phishing schemes. However, it hasbecome more common to receive a texted phone number that connects to anautomated voice response system. One version of this SMiShing messagewill look like this:<br><br>Notice - this is an automated message from (a local credit union), yourATM card has been suspended. To reactivate call urgent at 866-###-####.<br><br>In many cases, the SMiShing message will show that it came from "5000#8243;instead of displaying an actual phone number. This usually indicatesthe SMS message was sent via email to the cell phone, instead of beingsent from another cell phone.<br><br>Once you take the "bait" and pass on your private information, it canbe used to create duplicate credit/debit/ATM cards. There are somedocumented cases where the information an unsuspecting victim gave on afraudulent website was used within 30 minutes#133;halfway around the world.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">To minimize your risk:</span><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Approach all text messagesasking for your personal information with a great deal of skepticism<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Understand that no bank,business or financial institution will EVER ask you to divulge orconfirm your personal banking information over email or SMS textmessage.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If you have any question atall that the text is legitimate, contact your bank or financialinstitution directly using a published phone number (on the back ofyour card, for example).</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">About the author: <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">John Sileo</span> became America's leadingIdentity Theft Speaker amp; Expert after he lost his business and morethan $300,000 to identity theft and data breach. His clients includethe Department of Defense, Pfizer and the FDIC. To further bulletproofyourself and your business, visit John's blog at www.Sileo.com. To bookJohn at your next event, visit </font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"><a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. </font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: November 16th, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> 6 Tips for Resolving Your Thanksgiving Hassles NOW </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> By Sharon Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T.<br><a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com" target="_blank">www.sharonrivkin.com</a></center><br><br>He says no#133;she says yes. She wants to go to her best friend's for Thanksgiving dinner, he's firm about going to his parents'. She wants a change#133;he wants the same. Suddenly you're not feeling <i>thankful</i> for anything at all. Sound familiar? So, how do you put the thankful back into Thanksgiving? How do you come to a middle ground with your partner, your family, and yourself?</i><br><br>Thanksgiving can be anything but peaceful if holiday disagreements escalate into yearly battles. It's easy to forget what you're thankful for if the hassles of planning Thanksgiving begin to outweigh the meaning of this important occasion. <br><br><b>Use these 6 tips to resolve your Thanksgiving hassles NOW! </b> <br><ol><li><b>Negotiate</b> with your partner about how to spend the day. Start by each of you writing down your ideal Thanksgiving. Compare notes and see what's negotiable and what's not. Then talk about how to structure Thanksgiving with both of you getting what you want. It may not look like your original ideal list, but it will be workable nevertheless, and you both can feel satisfied that you heard each other, listened to each other, and came to a middle ground.<br><br><li><b>Delegate.</b> If you're hosting Thanksgiving, don't be a martyr and do it all alone. Make a list of what you want to do and can comfortably do given your work schedule, etc. Then begin to delegate tasks to the invited guests. We often take on too much and feel so hassled on Thanksgiving Day that we simply don't enjoy ourselves.<br><br><li><b>Take care of yourself and just say NO</b> if you really can't do something. At busy times of the year, we tend to forget about ourselves. Don't stop exercising or getting your weekly massage during the holidays. In fact, try to schedule or do something EXTRA for yourself at these times to compensate for the extra stress. Remember, if you're stressed and not taking care of yourself, it will be difficult to take care of your loved ones and enjoy the holiday activities.<br><br><li><b>Make it easy on yourself.</b> Create a list of the things you MUST do to make it a good holiday. Then make a list of things you don't really HAVE to do. For instance, you might HAVE to clean your house before the guests come, but maybe you don't HAVE to cook. You could buy a whole Thanksgiving meal and save yourself a lot of time, energy, and hassle. Think about it!!<br><br><li><b>Create a new tradition.</b> In advance of the holiday, gather your loved ones and talk about doing something different this year that has meaning for the entire family. It could be a special walk together or sitting down and allowing each member to express their appreciation.<br><br><li><b>Gratitude.</b> The most important way to put the thanks back into Thanksgiving is to be grateful. Writing down a list of things you're grateful for, your "Gratitudes," is an immediate and powerful way to negate depression, envy, and stress. Write one per day from now until Thanksgiving, and suddenly you'll feel grateful instead of hassled. We tend to emphasize what we don't have or what's not working, so turn that around and see what you do have and what is working.</ol><br>Just follow these tips and you will feel less hassled, more grateful, and truly thankful to be celebrating another Thanksgiving! <br><br>Relationship and Conflict Resolution Expert, <b>Sharon M. Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T.</b>, author of <i>The First Argument: Cutting to the Root of Intimate Conflict</i>, helps hundreds of couples break the argument cycle with her proven, groundbreaking technique that resolves the most painful issues, stops repetitive conflict in its tracks, saves relationships, and puts the love back in your marriage! Sharon has been featured in <i>O: The Oprah Magazine, Reader's Digest</i>, and DrLaura.com. Visit Sharon at <a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com" target="_blank">www.sharonrivkin.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: February 12th, 2006
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Notes for Valentines Day and Beyond<br> </b></font> <font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Patti Teel<br><a href="http://www.pattiteel.com/" target="_blank">www.pattiteel.com</a></center><br><br>If you've ever attended a child's class Valentine party, you've seen how enthralled children are to open each and every valentine. Starting around age three, children not only enjoy receiving valentines, they take great delight in giving them. Many children also begin to express their affection and love by drawing and presenting their pictures and homemade cards to their parents and teachers. <br><br>Most parents receive an assortment of pictures and cards containing colorful rainbows, hearts and words of love--which are all the more precious because they have been written phonetically. These pictures and love notes will fill your heart--as well as boxes, files, and a significant portion of your garage. <br><br> For parents and their children, Valentine's Day includes the lovely ritual of expressing their love through the exchange of cards. But if you're only giving your children cards and notes on Valentines Day and on their birthdays, you're missing out on a wonderful opportunity. Through the written word, parents can express love, encouragement, appreciation, concern, and understanding. It's also an effective way to settle a misunderstanding, offer an apology, or express constructive criticism. <br><br>During the turbulent teen years, notes and letters can be a wonderful way to keep the lines of communication open and to gain a deeper understanding of your child. And while it's easy to let a thoughtless or angry remark slip out of our mouths, writing notes requires us to be reflective as we carefully choose the words that will communicate a clear and thoughtful message. <br><br>Sometimes, older children and teens are more comfortable expressing their heartfelt emotions through the written, rather than the spoken word. My teenage daughter writes me notes with a depth of thoughtfulness and understanding that takes my breath away. The colorful cards of her childhood have been replaced by letters that express her growing maturity, love, and the agony and joy of young adulthood. Whether your child is three years old or seventeen--cards, notes, and letters, are a great way to deliver a message of love and understanding. <br><br><b>Here are some ways to use the written word in your relationship with your child:</b><br><br><b>Use notes to express love. </b><br>Children can't be told too often that we love them or that we're thankful to be their parent. In addition to telling your children that you love them, leave little love notes in visible places-taped to the bathroom mirror, by the front door, etc. <br><br><b>Use notes to express appreciation and thanks.</b><br>When your child surprises you by straightening a room or helping with the dishes, write a quick thank-you note and tape it where he or she is sure to spot it.<br><br><b>Use notes to congratulate and celebrate. </b><br>Young children love to receive mail. Occasionally, surprise your child by sending a congratulatory note in the mail. For example, "Congratulations! You finished your science project! Let's celebrate with a scoop of ice cream!" <br><br><b>Use notes to apologize. </b><br>If you lose your temper, or make a mistake that affects your child, write an apology note. You will be teaching your children to accept responsibility for their actions and to make amends to anyone who is harmed by them. <br><br><b>Use notes to remind. </b><br>While verbal reminders can feel like nagging, notes can clearly list the chores your child is expected to do. <br><br><b>Use notes to encourage. </b><br>When your child will be facing a particular challenge at school, tuck a note in his lunchbox or backpack saying, "You can do it," or, "I have faith in you!"<br><br><b>For older child or teens:<br>Use notes to gain understanding and to stay close. </b><br>Share a journal with your older child or teen. Pass it back and forth and keep it in a place where each of you can get to it and easily express your feelings. <br><br><b>Use notes to show concern and clear up misunderstandings. </b><br>If your child becomes defensive and angry when you try to correct his behavior, notes can be especially effective. A thoughtful note can clear up a misunderstanding and help to ensure that constructive criticism is taken in the spirit that it is intended.<br><br><b>About the author:</b> Dubbed "The Dream Maker" by People magazine, Patti Teel is a former teacher and the author of <i>The Floppy Sleep Game Book</i>, which gives parents techniques to help their children relax or fall asleep. She is holding Dream Academy workshops at schools, hospitals, and libraries across the country where parents and children learn the playful relaxation techniques from her book and widely acclaimed children's audio series. Children at the Dream Academy workshops practice the three R's by resting their bodies, relaxing their minds, and refreshing their spirits. Visit her online at <a href="http://www.pattiteel.com/" target="_blank">www.pattiteel.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br</font>
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Tip of the Week: January 6th, 2006
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> The Future of Parenting<br>Five Key Trends in the Future of Parenting </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Caron B. Goode<br><a href="http://www.acpi.com/" target="_blank">www.acpi.com</a> </center><br><br>The future is uncertain. So is the future of parenting. The aftermath of disasters such as 9/11 and Hurricane Katrina has cast a shadow of doubt over our lives. This pervasive sense of insecurity and vulnerability has prompted many people to reevaluate and reclaim what is most important to them#151;their families. We instinctively reach out to our families for comfort. But is it possible to give that feeling roots? Is it possible for parents to give their children a sense of strength, security, and faith in the future? <br><br>According to Caron B. Goode, director of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, it is not only possible, it is imperative. <br><br><center><b>Five Key Trends in the Future of Parenting</b></center><ul><li> <b>Family First.</b> Although statistics indicate a 10% increase in the number of stay at home parents, the majority of children today are raised in families where both parents work. While economic pressures make this situation hard to escape, parents have begun to give voice to their desire to put family first. According to a 2004 study by the Families and Work Institute, parents are starting to say no to overtime and yes to family time. In fact, a recent survey found that among working fathers between the ages of 22-37, 52% have no interest in taking on more job responsibility, as compared to 68% in 1992. <br><br><li> <b>Fostering Resiliency.</b> While parents may have never considered fostering resiliency in their children before, they do now. Resiliency is the ability to navigate stressors, major or minor, and then return to the business of living. Studies have shown that children who have close, supportive families and caregivers are more apt to deal with stress or trauma in a positive manner than those who do not. Having supportive, sensitive, and responsible parents helps ensure that children are equipped to handle life's stressors, now and in the future. <br><br><li> <b>Raising Compassionate Children.</b> More and more, parents are concerning themselves with raising compassionate children. As borders blur and the global community expands, parents feel it is important for their children to be understanding, empathic, and willing to help a neighbor in need. To be compassionate, one must first be capable of identifying with another, which is best taught by example. Parents who treat their children with kindness and respect, will see those same children treating others in kind. By nature, children are caring and compassionate creatures, but it is up to parents to nurture their altruistic behavior. <br><br><li> <b>Finding Faith.</b> Increasingly, parents are becoming interested in helping their children develop a spiritual base. A growing number of parents are turning to spirituality, whether it is religious, iconic or mystic in nature, to help them navigate rough terrain and master the uncertainty that inevitably visits every life. Teaching children to believe in something greater than oneself fosters a sense of community and reinforces the tenets of tolerance on many levels. The very nature of spirituality shows children that no one person is more important than another. It illustrates that we are, in fact, all part of a greater whole, and that this whole can be a powerful source of strength and a vital instrument for change. <br><br><li> <b>Reducing Stress.</b> Today many adults and children suffer with chronic stress which has been linked to a number of physical conditions such as depression, heart disease, and diabetes. In addition to the adverse health consequences, overexposure to stress may, in part, inhibit the development of healthy resilience. Scientists believe that our ability to manage stress is formed in childhood through a combination of genes and experience. Everyone must learn to deal with stress, and to a degree stress is necessary to a healthy, productive life. This generation of families is aware of this fact, but they are also starting to say enough is enough. Mothers and fathers are beginning to recognize that they can't nor do they want to do it all. Parents are spending less time on the things they feel they must do, and making room for the things they want to do, like spend time with their family. They are starting to insist that their children assume responsibility within the family, which in turn is helping their children learn how to manage time, become part of a whole, and develop a strong sense of community. They are also starting to replace the propensity to over schedule their children and acknowledging that kids need time to be kids. This shift in attitude is leading to a less stressful existence, and is putting the emphasis back on the family functioning as a unit.</ul> Dr. Caron Goode is a parenting expert and the director of the Academy of Parent Coaching International. The Academy offers a parent coaching certification program for individuals interested in helping families nurture and grow their children. For more information, visit <a href="http://www.acpi.biz/" target="_blank">www.acpi.biz</a> Receive a free online parenting magazine, visit <a href="http://www.inspiredparenting/" target="_blank">www.InspiredParenting</a>.net. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 27th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Tax Time Identity TheftPrevention Tips</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a><br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>This past week, I have beenhelping a gentleman recover from the theft of all of his taxrecords. Before it is all over, this gentleman will have spendhundreds of hours and thousands of dollars simply preventing anyfurther fraudulent use of his identity. That doesn't account for anydamages already done to his finances, criminal record, medical recordsor social security benefits. There is very little that is more damagingand dangerous to your identity than losing your tax records. <br><br>After all, tax records generally contain the most sensitive personallyidentifying information that you own, including Social Security Numbers(for you, your spouse and maybe even your kids), names, addresses,employers, net worth, etc. Because of this high concentration ofsensitive data, tax time is like an all-you-can-eat buffet for identitythieves. Here are some of the dishes on which they greedily feed:<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Tax documents exposed onyour desk (home and work)</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Private information thatsits unprotected in your tax-preparer's office</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Improperly mailed, emailedand digitally transmitted or filed records</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Photocopiers with harddrives that store a digital copy of your tax forms</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Copies of sensitivedocuments that get thrown out without being shredded</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Improperly stored and lockeddocuments once your return is filed</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Tax-time scams that takeadvantage of our propensity to do whatever the IRS says (even if it'snot really the IRS asking)</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">TopTips for Tax Time Identity Theft Protection: Safe Preparation.</span>Your greatest risk of identity theft during tax season comes from yourtax preparer (if you use one) either because they are dishonest (lesslikely) or because they are careless with your sensitive documents(more likely). Just walk into a tax-preparers office on April 1 and askyourself how easy it would be to walk off with a few client folderscontaining mounds of profitable identity. The devil is in thedisorganization. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Effective Solutions:</span><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Choose your preparer wisely.How well do you know the person and company preparing your taxes? Didthey come personally recommended, or could they be earning cash on theside by selling your personal information. Do they have an establishedrecord and are they recommended by the Better Business Bureau?</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Interview your preparerbefore you turn over sensitive information. Ask them exactly how theyprotect your privacy (do they have a privacy policy?). Are they meetingwith you in a room full of client files, or do they take you to aneutral, data-free, conference room or office? Do they leave files outon their desk for the cleaning service to access at night, or do theylock your documents in a filing cabinet or behind a secure office door?Do they protect their computers with everything listed in the nextsection?</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Asking professional taxpreparers these questions sends them a message that you are watching!Identity thieves tend to stay away from people they know are activelymonitoring for fraud. Remember, losing your identity inside of theiraccounting or bookkeeping business poses a tremendous legal liabilityto their livelihood.</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">SecureComputers.</span> Last year, more than 80 million Americans filed theirtax returns electronically. To prevent electronic identity theft, youmust take the necessary steps to protect your computer, network andwireless connection. Additionally, your tax preparer should be workingonly on a secured computer, network and internet connection. Hire aprofessional to implement the following security measures:<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Strong alpha-numericpasswords that keep strangers out of your system</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Anti-virus and anti-spywaresoftware configured with automatic updates</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Encrypted hard drives orfolders (especially for your tax preparer)</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Automatic operating systemupdates and security patches</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">An encrypted wirelessnetwork protection</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">A firewall between yourcomputer and the internet</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Remove all file-sharingprograms from your computer (limewire, napster, etc.)</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Private information should betransmitted by phone using your cell or land line (don't use cordlessphones). In addition, never email your private information to anyoneunless you are totally confident that you are using encrypted email.This is a rarity, so don't assume you have it. In a pinch, you canemail password protected PDF documents, though these are relativelyeasy to hack. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Stop Falling for IRSScams</span>. We have a heightened response mechanism during taxseason; we don't want to raise any red flags with the IRS, so we tendto give our personal information without much thought. We are primed tobe socially engineered. Here's how to combat the problem:<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make your default answer,"No". When someone asks for your Social Security Number or otheridentifying information, refuse until you are completely comfortablethat they are legitimate. Verify their credentials by calling them backon a published number for the IRS.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If someone promises you (byphone, fax, mail, or in person) to drastically reduce your tax bill orspeed up your tax return, don't believe them until you have done yourhomework (call the IRS directly if you have to). These schemes flourishwhen the government issues economic stimulus checks and IRS refunds.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If anyone asks you forinformation in order to send you your check, they are scamming for youridentity. The IRS already knows where you live (and where to send yourrebate)! By the way, the IRS will NEVER email you for any reason (e.g.,promising a refund, requesting information, threatening you).</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">To learn more about IRSscams, visit the only legitimate IRS website, which is www.irs.gov. Ifyou are hit by an IRS scam, contact the IRS's Taxpayer Advocate Serviceat www.irs.gov/advocate.</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">MailSafely.</span> A good deal of identity theft takes place while taxdocuments or supporting material are being sent through the mail. Ifyou are sending your tax return through the mail, follow these steps:<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Walk the envelope inside ofthe post office and hand it to an employee. Too much mail is stolen outof the blue USPS mailboxes and driveway mailboxes that we use foreverything else to make them safe.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Send your return bycertified mail so that you know it has arrived safely. This sends amessage to each mail carrier that they had better provide extraprotection to the document they are carrying.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Consider filingelectronically so that you take mail out of the equation. Make surethat you have a well-protected computer (discussed above).</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Shredand Store Safely.</span> Any copies of tax documents that you no longerneed can be shredded using a confetti shredder. Store all tax records,documents and related materials in a secure fire safe. I recommendspending the extra money to have your safe bolted into your home sothat a thief can't walk away with your entire identity portfolio. Makesure that your tax provider appropriately destroys and locks up anylingering pieces of your identity as well. Tax returns provide more ofyour private information in a single place than almost any otherdocument in our lives. Don't waste your tax refund recovering from thiscrime.<br><br>About the author: <span style="font-weight: bold;">John Sileo</span>became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC. To further bulletproof yourself and yourbusiness, visit John's blog at Sileo.com. To book John atyour next event, visit </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">.</font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 20th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Relationship Red Flags<br>5 Tips for Identifying Your Negotiables and Non-Negotiables<br></b></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Sharon Rivkin<br></font><a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/" target="_blank"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.sharonrivkin.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>You're in a new relationship, and you're starting to see some redflags, warning you that the relationship may not be a good bet, butdoes that mean you should leave? How many red flags does it take tomake that decision? How do you know if the red flags mean futuredisaster, or are just a warning?<br><br>These are tough questions to answer. But if you've identified your redflags, you can begin to get clear about staying or leaving by lookingat your negotiables and non-negotiables. These are the patterns ofbehavior in the relationship that either you can deal with (negotiable)or you can't (non-negotiable). A negotiable item does not go againstyour integrity, but a non-negotiable does. For example, if you valuehonesty in your relationships, and your partner is continually lying toyou, that is a non-negotiable. How could you really have a healthyrelationship with someone whose very behavior goes against the essenceof who you are? If you compromise on this behavior by deciding thatsometimes lying is okay, you are cutting into the deepest part of yourpsyche. Non-negotiables are those issues that you will not compromiseon because it goes deeply against your values.<br><br>Negotiables are not deal breakers and are those issues that don't cutas deeply. For instance, maybe your partner is messy and you valueneatness. However, messiness doesn't cut into your integrity andalthough it may never change, you could live with it and not feel asthough you've compromised your very essence.<br><br>It is important to know your negotiables and non-negotiables. That way,you can decipher which of these two categories the red flags fall into.If in your current relationship most of the red flags arenon-negotiables, it will be nearly impossible to have a lovingrelationship for more than two or three months. Our integrity can onlybe compromised for a short period of time#151;the honeymoon phase#151;before weget angry and resentful of our partner. If your negotiables outweighyour non-negotiables, it makes sense to continue the relationship.<br><br>Use these five tips to help you identify your negotiables andnon-negotiables:<br></font><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make a list of issues youknow you can compromise on that your partner is displaying. "She's lateall the time, but I can live with that."</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make a list of issues thatyou know you can't compromise on. "He says he's going to call me andeither doesn't or calls much later than planned. He always has anexcuse, and I want someone who keeps his word 99% of the time. I can'tsee living with this much inconsistency."</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make a list of issues youwould compromise on within yourself for another person. "I know I'mmessy, so I'd either get an organizer to help me with this or bewilling to hire a housekeeper."</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make a list of issues youcould not and would not compromise on. "I am an independent woman, andcould not be with a partner who wanted me to give up my work or myfriends for him."</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If you're not sure whichcategory your red flags falls under, ask yourself this question: <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">If this behavior never changed, could Ilive with it?</span> You have to assume it may never change and thatalone should help you determine if it's a negotiable or non-negotiable.</font></li></ol><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If you know your non-negotiables,theres still the issue of infatuation/love/passion/fantasy that cloudsour judgment and overrides our good senses. Sometimes we ignore thesigns of disaster and plunge forward anyway. That's just called beinghuman, so don't beat yourself up if this happens. Nevertheless, knowingyour negotiables and non-negotiables is important because when thefantasy dies down and you're wondering what happened, you can look atyour list as a reminder. This will help you pull back, reevaluate, andhave a clearer sense of what to do. The negotiables and non-negotiablesare exactly the framework and boundaries needed when trying to decideto stay or leave. It doesn't matter how long you've been involved, thenegotiables and non-negotiables are always there to remind us of who weare, what we want, and what we don't want. <br><br>Relationship and Conflict Resolution Expert, <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Sharon M. Rivkin</span>, M.A., M.F.T.,author of <span style="font-weight: bold;">The First Argument: Cuttingto the Root of Intimate Conflict</span>, helps hundreds of couplesbreak the argument cycle with her proven, groundbreaking technique thatresolves the most painful issues, stops repetitive conflict, savesrelationships, and puts the love back in your marriage. Sharonhas been featured in O: The Oprah Magazine, Reader's Digest, and majorwebsites such as YahooPersonals, DrLaura.com, Hitchedmag.com,SheKnow.com, and many others. Visit Sharon at </font><ahref="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/" target="_blank"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.sharonrivkin.com</font></a><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: January 29th, 2006
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>10 Reasons Why You Should Become A Virtual Assistant This Year </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Liz Folger, Work-at-Home Mom Expert</center><br><br>First of all, what is a virtual assistant (VA)? I like to explain it as a word processor gone wild. A VA is someone who works with clients, providing them with top quality support services without having to be physically present at a clients office. VA services are becoming more and more popular thanks to today's technology such as email, the Internet, online instant messaging, fax, phone, and overnight delivery. Gone are the days of offices needing their support staff in the same building. <br><br>If you have a secretarial background or other support staff expertise and a love for computers and all the technology it offers, then here are ten very good reasons why you should start your own VA business this year. <ol><li> Make An Income You Can Live On<br><br>It was reported by virtual assistant trade organizations that the average full-time VA working in the US would gross about $39,452 annually. Now that isn't a bad income! That is the type of money you can live on, even if you are a single mom. <br><br> <li> The Need For VA's Is Only Going To Get Greater<br><br>According to the George Washington University forecast of emerging technology, Virtual Assisting will become a $130 Billion Industry by 2008. Thanks to our growing technology, and the fact that it's easier to just source out work to a VA due to the fact that a business doesn't have to pay for any benefits when they out-source, this type of service will only get bigger and more in demand. <br><br><li> Are you feeling unfulfilled, unchallenged, and unmotivated? Is your current corporate job beginning to feel like a real drag? <br><br>Are you dreading getting dressed up, driving your commute to work, and working with a boss who is ungrateful and unappreciative? Do you love some parts of your job and despise other parts and wish you could do the parts you love more? Then becoming a VA might be something you need to look into. <br><br><li> Want to continue your professional working life without having to leave home? Want the flexibility to work from home and have a better balance between work and life? <br><br>Maybe you're thinking of having kids, or have had your first baby. You so want to continue your career, but you also want to spend more time with your children. Take a good hard look at the world of a VA. This type of home business will continue to give you the satisfaction of a career, while also offering you the ability to be there for your kids doctor appointments, their first step, school field trips, and running them around to after school events. <br><br> <li> Gain the ability to work with people you want to work with. <br><br>Do you tend to click with certain types of people more than others? With a VA business, you can decide who you want your clients to be. Authors, salespeople, consultants, coaches, executives, entrepreneurs, and small business owners are just a few of the types of people you could work with. <br><br><li> The ability to do more than just one thing. <br><br>Looking for a little variety in your business? Don't want to get stuck doing the same thing over and over again? Here is a list of just some of the things you can do as a VA. <br><br>Administration <br>Writing services (technical or creative) <br>Business/employee communications<br>Proofreading and editing, research (online or traditional) <br>Word-processing<br>Spreadsheets<br>Data entry<br>Database management<br>Message management<br>Scheduling<br>Bill paying<br>Simple website design<br>Newsletter distribution<br>Bulk mailing<br>Reminder services<br>Event planning<br>Special projects<br>Concierge services<br>Secretarial services<br>Research<br>Data processing/data management<br>Desktop publishing<br>Transcription services<br>Mail and email services<br>Telephone/fax services<br>Internet services<br>Bookkeeping<br>Purchasing services<br>Writing/editing services<br>Marketing services<br>Personal services<br>Santa letters<br>Proposal Writer<br><br><li> The ability to Niche yourself. <br><br>Choose just a few of the ideas above and take it one step further. Niche yourself. You might already possess knowledge in a certain area. You can contact those businesses you are already familiar with and work with them. Maybe in the past you had worked as support staff for a marketing company. If marketing is your thing, you can let businesses know that you can not only be their VA and take care of all their typing and database applications, but that you can also use your expertise to help them market their business. <br><br><li> Use the equipment you already have. <br><br>If you're reading this article, then there's a good chance you already have a computer, a printer, and fax capabilities. Why not start putting that equipment to good use and make some money? <br><br><li> The choice between working full-time or part-time. <br><br>Maybe you don't want to work full time, but you need to do something to call your own. That's great! You'll be your own boss; you can decide how much or how little you want to work. <br><br><li> Being able to say you love the way you make money. <br><br>If just the thought of working with your computer and current technology makes you giddy, why not make money doing something you love? Grab hold of the opportunity to make as much money as you'd like and the ability to work from your home. You have the opportunity to decide who you want to work with, the type of work you want to do or not do, and your niche area. If this sounds like the perfect opportunity for you visit *** to learn more about starting your own Virtual Assistant Business. </ol>For More information on starting your own Virtual Assistant business visit: <a href="http://www.bizymoms.com/cart/careers/va_kit.html" target="_blank">www.bizymoms.com/cart/careers/va_kit.html</a><br><br>Liz Folger is the founder of <a href="http://www.bizymoms.com" target="_blank">www.bizymoms.com</a>. Bizymoms.com is the leading online resource for work-from-home ideas. The site offers home-based business start-up kits, online classes, e-books, chats and enthusiastic support for moms who want to have it all - a family and a career. Visit a href="http://www.bizymoms.com" target="_blank">www.bizymoms.com</a> for more information.<br><br>* The author gives permission for the use of this article on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:22:53Z
Tip of the Week: August 16th, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Dietary Essentials for Your Baby</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers</center> <br><br> <b>Feeding your 12-24 month old</b><br><br>Babies are introduced to solid foods at about six months old, and from this time to about 24 months old, they will learn plenty about food, and it goes well beyond taste. <br><br>First it is just swallowing solid foods, then lumps, picking up pieces, chewing (or gumming) and much more. It takes a great amount of coordination, muscle development and motor skills for your baby to master these tasks. The best approach is to take things slowly and to wait for your baby to give you signals he or she is ready. There is no need to rush this development process. <br><br>While babies are people, they are not little adults. Their dietary requirements are different than adults, and different than toddlers, preschoolers and adolescents. Unless your baby's diet is under the supervision of a healthcare professional, it is not necessary to count calories, or choose low-fat and non-fat foods. <br><br>In the past three decades, the number of overweight two year olds has doubled. Hurried lifestyles, the abundance of processed foods, and the lack of focus by parents is creating unhealthy two year olds with poor eating habits and cheeks that are much too chubby. These statistics are alarming and should concern all parents. When your baby reaches 12 months old, you need to focus on some basic nutritional aspects. <br><br><b>Breastfeeding/Formula/Milk:</b><br><br>The fat and calcium found in breastmilk, formula and milk are essential for bone growth and brain development. While the requirement for fat reduces dramatically after two years old, the calcium requirement gradually increases through adolescence. <br><br>The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breastfeeding your baby to 12 months old and the World Health Organization recommends to two years old. If you decide to wean your baby at 12 months old, you should wean them to 16-24 ounces of whole milk (preferably in a cup) per day. If you wean your child at two years old, you wean them to 16 ounces of low fat or nonfat milk (in a cup) per day. If your child is not being introduced to dairy products, it is very important that you introduce calcium-rich foods that will satisfy their calcium requirements. <br><br>If you were unable to or decided not to breastfeed, you should switch from formula to 16 to 24 ounces of whole milk per day when your child is 12 months old. If you have not already done so, this is also a good to transition from a bottle to a cup. At two years old, you switch from whole milk products to 16 ounces of low fat or nonfat milk products per day. <br><br>Unless recommended by a healthcare professional, toddler formulas and toddler nutrition drinks are not necessary. Many of these drinks contain large amounts of fat and sugar and are high in calories. <br><br><b>Serving sizes are small for toddlers</b><br><br>Over the past 20 years restaurants and food companies have been increasing the amount of food that is contained in a serving. These larger serving sizes are considered to a contributing factor to the rise in obesity. Interestingly, children eat more if the size of the portion on their plate in larger. <br><br>In most cases, a serving size for a child under two years old is one ounce -- about 2 tablespoons. Every day, your baby should eat two to four servings each of fruits and vegetables and two to three servings each of proteins (beans, eggs, lean meat, fish) and grains (preferably whole grain brown rice, whole wheat bread and pasta, oatmeal). <br><br><b>Meal frequency</b><br><br>Your little baby has a very small tummy and a fluctuating appetite, so The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends small, frequent meals over fewer larger ones. Your baby should be fed four to six 'mini meals per day. Each meal should include a fruit or a vegetable and you may want to vary proteins and grains throughout the day. Following the mini-meal concept, means that you need to pay just as much attention to offering well-balanced nutritious snacks as you do the traditional meals of breakfast, lunch and dinner. <br><br><b>Variety</b><br><br>As your toddler begins eating 'grown up food, they might also develop 'grown up eating habits like too much junk food and too few vegetables. It is important to pay attention to eating patterns, and to remember that the ultimate key to a balanced diet is variety. Different foods provide different nutrients. In order to ensure your child is getting all of the nutrients he needs to grow, he has to eat a good variety of foods. <br><br>Everyday, your baby should eat vegetables, fruits, whole grains (i.e. whole-wheat bread pasta, brown rice, oatmeal), proteins (i.e. beans, fish, lean meats), and dairy products. When your child is 2 years old, you should switch dairy products to low-fat or nonfat varieties. According the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA) the average 2 year old should be eating the following amounts: <br><br>Vegetables8 ounces<br>Fruits8 ounces<br>Grains3 ounces <br>Proteins2 ounces<br>Dairy16 ounces milk/yogurt or4 ounces cheese<br><br>To sum it all up a healthy approach to feeding your toddlers is to offer small servings, many choices, frequently throughout the day. <br><br>Here are few time saving tips for healthy homemade meals: <ol><li> Make meals in large quantities, in advance, and freeze them ice cube trays or small plastic containers. When it's time for a meal, simply defrost a few food cubes or a small container. Some toddler meals that freeze well are:<ol type="a"><li> Whole wheat macaroni and cheese with tomatoes and peas<li> Ground beef (or firm tofu), spaghetti sauce and whole wheat elbow macaroni<li> Burrito filling made from beans and mild enchilada sauce. Defrost a roll up in a flour tortilla.<li> Hash brown potatoes with chopped broccoli or spinach. Defrost and serve with melted cheese on top.</ol><li> Have no-hassle healthy snacks on hand at all times.<ol type="a"><li> Frozen veggies (peas, carrots, green beans) a small handfuls cooks up quickly<li> Fresh fruits (blueberries, peaches, strawberries, grapes) avoid hard fruits (unless they are cooked), and cut the fruits into small pieces, grapes should be quartered.<li> Whole grain cereals (puffed wheat, cheerios)<li> Rice cakes and whole grain crackers<li> Yogurt<li> Semi-hard cheeses (cheddar, Jack, Provolone) cut into cubes of thin slices</ol><li> Bake healthy foods for your family. Most baked goods freeze great and defrost quickly. Freezing some of your homemade treats <ol type="a"><li> Make cookies with real fruit or fruit juice. Do not make large cookies, keep them small. For toddlers, two cookies are much better than one, not matter what the size.<li> Add shredded carrots or zucchini, or pureed pumpkin to muffins and sweet breads. Consider buying a mini muffin pan or slice the quick bread loaf in half longwise and then slice it into pieces.<li> Bake bread with whole-wheat flour.</ol></ol><b>About the authors:</b> Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers are sisters, the mothers of five children, and founders of Fresh Baby (<a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a>). Raised by parents who love fresh foods and entertaining, their mom, a gourmet cook, ensured that they were well-equipped with extraordinary skills in the kitchen. Both with long track records of business success, they decided to combine their skills in the kitchen with their knowledge of healthy foods and children to create Fresh Baby. Cheryl and Joan put a modern twist on the conventional wisdom that when you make it yourself, you know it's better. Their goal at Fresh Baby is to make the task of raising a healthy eater a little bit easier for all parents. Fresh Baby's breastfeeding accessories and baby food making supplies provide parents with practical knowledge and innovative tools to support them in introducing their children to great tasting, all-natural foods easily and conveniently. Visit them online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> and subscribe to their Fresh Ideas newsletter to get monthly ideas, tips and activities for developing your family's healthy eating habits! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 5th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Your iPhone 4: Is itSafe?</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo <br><a href="http://www.sileo.com/" target="_blank">www.Sileo.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>While the new features keep the iPhone at the forefront of technology,they also cause some privacy concerns.<br><br>One concern that carries over from previous iPhone models is the <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Always-on iPhone Apps</span> that trackyour every move through the GPS navigation system. Back in April, Applebegan allowing location-tracking applications to run in thebackground. So, for example, companies like FourSquare, Yelp, andFacebook can continuously track your location, providing automaticnotifications to your friends when you are less than 1/2 mileaway from them, <span style="font-weight: bold;">if you allow them.</span><br><br>For example, I just had a highly confidential client meeting at theclient's corporate headquarters. To the uninitiated, that meansthat the company I was visiting is probably having data theft issues(and has brought me in to help). If the media finds out that they arehaving these issues before the company has had a chance to start thedamage control process, their stock will drop far faster than if theyhave prepared for the news to go public. If Facebook or FourSquare isbroadcasting my whereabouts, my followers already know which company ishaving the problem, their competitors know it (if they are following myGPS broadcasts), and the media sits and waits for me to enter thebuilding. Luckily, I'm not well-know enough for anyone to care, butjust in case, I don't broadcast my whereabouts. Other, far moreinfluential people, do so without thinking twice about it. Which goesto show you that there are ways to utilize all of the cool newtechnology without letting it control you. With the right knowledge,you can take control of how your information is utilized.<br><br>Apple does realize the privacy concerns with location tracking andgives users a way to control how much information is shared. Whenyou open an app, the top bar will show a little arrow in the right-handcorner, indicating location awareness (pictured to the right). Therewill also be a dashboard where you can toggle location-trackingpermissions on and off for different apps. Regardless, this means thatmore companies will have access you your location than before. Ihaven't spent a lot of time thinking through the negative implicationsof location tracking, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't be aware thatit is going on in the background so that we can make decisions from aposition of power.<br><br>High-definition video is a second tool that will be used by data spies.What could be easier than for an identity thief to pretend they are onthe phone as they are actually filming you typing in your ATM PIN infront of them? Why does iPhone 4 change the game? Because Hi-definitionmeans that they can stand further away and still get high quality videowith which to read your data. A simple sweep of an office desk, aclient file, etc. with high definition video gives me all of thedocuments I need to learn more about your company. Think of it as a spycamera that provides thousands of pictures a minute and is hidden asthe most ubiquitous device on the planet - a cell phone. Powerful toolboth for good and bad.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><b>About the author:</b> Tofurther bulletproof yourself and your business, visit John's blog at <ahref="http://www.sileo.com/" target="_blank">www.Sileo.com</a>. Tobook John at your next event, visit <ahref="http://www.thinklikeaspy.com/" target="_blank">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>.John Sileo became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp; Expertafter he lost his business and more than $300,000 to identity theft anddata breach. His clients include the Department of Defense, Pfizer andthe FDIC. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font><br><br><br><br>
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Tip of the Week: September 21st, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br> <center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>"PASS OR FAIL"<br>Strengthen Your Marriage with a Simple Daily Exercise </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Winn Claybaugh<br><a href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.beniceorelse.com</a> </center><br><br>I don't know about you, but I've found that on many days it's easier to smile at strangers than at the person at home. However, if you want a better marriage, then you need to practice every day with total strangers. Imagine that in the course of one day you come across fifty people. They might include strangers you pass in a parking lot, a waitress, or a bank teller. What if you looked at all of those relationships as a "pass or fail" exercise?<br><br>You pass when you smile at a stranger in the parking lot and say, "Have a nice day," or go out of your way to cheer a grumpy waitress, or choose to ignore a driver who flips you off. You fail when you come across that stranger in the parking lot and do absolutely nothing, or when that waitress has a worse day after her experience with you.<br><br>Can you have fifty fails in a day and expect to go home to a successful, constructive, loving relationship with your spouse? Absolutely not. You can't be a monster in the world and expect to be charming at home.<br><br>Several years ago, I traveled to Cleveland, Ohio, with a dear friend of mine, Kitty Victor, for a two-day seminar we were facilitating together. After landing at the airport, we had about an hour to grab our bags, get to the hotel, change clothes, and begin the seminar. We jumped into a cab but didn't tell the driver we were in a hurry. However, our cabbie was driving like a maniac and his driving began to frighten us. He darted in and out of lanes, honking and yelling at the other drivers. A driver next to us was talking on his cell phone, so our driver sped up, cut in front of the other driver, and slammed on his brakes-all in rush-hour traffic.<br><br>At that point I yelled, "What are you doing?" Our driver mumbled something about how he hated it when other drivers talk on the phone. I angrily quipped, "Oh, so you're going to teach him a lesson at the expense of our safety? Quit driving like a maniac! Slow down, and get us to our hotel safely." <br><br>At that point, Kitty asked me, "Pass or fail?"<br><br>I replied, "PASS!" Improving your relationships doesn't mean letting people walk all over you while you bite your tongue. Unconditional love doesn't mean unconditional abuse. Had I said nothing to the cab driver, I wouldn't have been honoring the most important relationship I have: my relationship with myself. Physically or verbally attacking him-"You're an idiot and the worst driver in history!"-would also be a fail. <br><br>If you want a better relationship with your spouse, you need to practice all day, every day, with total strangers. Every stranger you encounter was sent to you for a specific reason and purpose: They're your personal home-play assignments. So, which will it be-pass or fail?<br><br><b>Winn Claybaugh</b> is the author of <i>Be Nice (Or Else!)</i> and "one of the best motivational speakers in the country," according to CNN's Larry King. A business owner for over 25 years with over 8,000 people in his organization, Winn is the co-owner of hair care giant Paul Mitchell's school division. Winn has helped thousands of businesses build their brands and create successful working cultures. His clients include Southwest Airlines, the Irvine Company, Vidal Sassoon, Entertainment Tonight, Mattel, <i>For Rent</i> magazine, Structure/Limited/Express, and others. Winn is a frequent guest on national radio and a regular contributor to online publications. Visit <a href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.beniceorelse.com</a> to sign up for his free monthly <i>Be Nice (Or Else!)</i> newsletter. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: January 11th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> What to Do When Your Partner Has Become Your Enemy </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Sharon Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T.<br><a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/" target="_blank">www.thefirstargument.com</a> </center><br><br>Where has all the love gone that you once felt for your partner? Do you seem to fight about everything? Has your partner become your enemy? How did it happen?<br><br>The process of "building a case against our partner" begins quietly and unconsciously, so we hardly notice what we're doing. The emotional battle often begins after the <i>honeymoon</i> phase of a relationship and <i>reality</i> has set in. Suddenly the one who could do no wrong, can't seem to do anything right. The one who used to make us happy is slowly becoming the enemy...someone to defend against and distrust. We're certain they're doing things just to annoy us and make us angry. We retaliate by doing things to them that get the same result. Slowly we have forgotten that we love our partner and now wonder what to do.<br><br> One of the most important things to do to begin to regain the love you once had for your partner is to start giving them the benefit of the doubt, like you would a friend or even a stranger. In order to do this, remember these three things:<ol><li> Step out of yourself and listen to your partner. What is she/he really saying if you weren't already expecting the worst and waiting to defend yourself? <br><br><i>Example: Your partner is upset that you've come home late and says, "Here we go again, you're late for dinner and you didn't even call me." Your first reaction is to defend yourself with excuses of why you're late. Instead, just listen to your partner...when we're busy talking, we don't really hear what our partner is trying to communicate. You may see that your partner is simply trying to tell you that she/he's hurt, and not that you're a bad person. By holding back your defenses and addressing your partner's upset, a conversation can ensue rather than a defensive arguing match. In this situation, apologizing for being late, listening, and seeing the situation from your partner's point of view would dramatically alter the dynamics of the situation.</i><br><br><li> Don't take everything your partner says PERSONALLY. In other words, don't just react impulsively from JUST your emotions. Let your head help you to think about the situation and what's been said, rather than assuming your partner is trying to hurt you. To help you NOT just react from emotions (taking a remark as a personal attack), try asking yourself these simple questions: How might I respond to my partner if I did not take what she/he is saying personally? What if what she/he is saying ISN'T about me? If this was true, would I hear her/him differently? Would I respond differently? <br><br> <i>Example: Your partner's had a hard day and has been unable to talk to anyone about it. Then you walk in and start talking about your day. All of a sudden your partner is angry that you never listen. If you take a minute to THINK about the situation, without immediately reacting, you may realize that your partner did have a hard day and needs to be HEARD, not necessarily that you NEVER listen. By not reacting to your own hurt, you might be able to be there for your partner...and then they're more likely to be there for you. Again, a potential argument could transform into an intimate conversation. </i><br><br><li> What if I didn't see my partner as my enemy? How would I respond if I still loved/liked my partner? How did I respond in the beginning of our relationship?</ol>Do you want to be right or do you want a resolution for the argument? Do you want a healthy relationship? The healthiest relationships are the ones where both people can be right and have the opportunity to express their feelings and be heard. It only takes one person to change the pattern of the relationship. Be that person. Stop attacking and putting your partner on the defensive. Begin with an act of kindness to yourself and your partner by giving them the benefit of the doubt. By doing so, you begin to change the pattern of your relationship from negative to positive, from attacking to understanding, from fighting to intimacy, from enemy to friend, lover, and partner. One act of kindness goes a long way, leading to a different and healthier way of communicating.<br><br>Sharon M. Rivkin, Marriage and Family Therapist, and author of <i>The First Argument: Cutting to the Root of Intimate Conflict</i>, has worked with couples for 27 years. Her unique insight into the first argument was featured in <i>O: The Oprah Magazine</i> and <i>Reader's Digest</i>, and has attracted people throughout the United States and abroad for consultation, workshops, and courses. For more information on Sharon Rivkin and her book, or to contact her, visit <a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/" target="_blank">www.sharonrivkin.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 11th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Encouraging Your Childto Appreciate Their Taste Buds</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cheryl Tallman<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/">www.FreshBaby.com</a><br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Encouraging healthy eating isabout balance - even when it comes to taste. Here are a few tipsthat can help you expand or improve the balance in your child'staste buds. <br> <br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Experiment with Tastes:</span> Allowyour child to experience and identify the four unique tastes that makeup flavor - sweet, salty, sour, bitter. Taste small amounts ofdifferent ingredients to identify which taste category they belong to.This can be a fun kitchen activity when preparing dinner!<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Stay Balanced:</span> Good tasteis a balancing act. Include a variety of tastes in your mealsand encourage your child to try all foods. Experiencing the sametastes all the time is not a path to healthy eating. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Ask Them and Talk About It:</span> Whenyou hear "that's yummy!" or "Yuck - that's terrible!" - ask whichflavor is best or bothering. The more you understand your child's tastepreferences the easier to guide (and expand) their food choices. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sweet Tendency:</span> Bothbreast milk and formula are sweet. It is the first taste we develop andas a result we're already "off balance" when we begin eating foods. Itis believed the earlier you introduce your child to other tastes, thebetter chance you have of keeping a "sweet tooth" from overpowering thetaste buds. <br><br>About the author: <span style="font-weight: bold;">Cheryl Tallman</span>is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of the award-winning So EasyBaby Food Kit, and author of the <span style="font-style: italic;">SoEasy Baby Food Basics: Homemade Baby Food in Less Than 30 Minutes PerWeek</span> and <span style="font-style: italic;">So Easy ToddlerFood: Survival Tips and Simple Recipes for the Toddler Years</span>.Visit Cheryl online at </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/">www.FreshBaby.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> for more delicious tips.</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: February 1st, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Managing Anger BetweenParent and Child</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Nancy Carlsson-Paige<br><a href="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Mothers often say that they get "horribly angry" with their youngchildren. As one mother stated "I get so mad at them sometimes, mostlywhen they fight, that I end up screaming#151;no screeching#151;at them. I eventold them I hate them one time recently. I feel so out of control whenI'm like that. I know I scare them. Then I feel so bad for unleashingmy uncontrollable temper onto my kids."<br><br>When we're in an emotional state, we can't communicate or problem solveconstructively#151;our feelings hijack us and block our capacity to focus.We need to find ways to reduce the anger so that we can begin tocommunicate again. <br><br>Learning to deal with our own anger is an essential skill for conflictresolution and for life. First, it can help just to notice that you'regetting angry. What's happening in my body? Is my breathing more rapid?Does my face flush? Is my voice rising or my heartbeat increasing? Thenyou can ask yourself, what is it that's triggering my anger? <br><br>Next, see if you can lower the intensity of your feelings by breathingdeeply, using "self talk," such as repeating a key calming word orphrase, or taking a step away for a moment, or just simply pausing andwaiting. Then try to communicate your anger in an "I" statement#151;usingwords that say what you feel, what is making you angry, and what youneed. <br><br>It's worth noting here that anger is often a secondary emotion#151;that is,it can arise as a response to other emotions such as fear, sadness, orinsecurity#151;and it can be a challenge to go inward and try to find theunderlying feeling or need. <br><br>Marshall Rosenberg, founder and educational director of the Center forNonviolent Communication, explores anger deeply in his nonviolentcommunication (NVC) approach, set out in a body of work that may bevery helpful for many parents. Rosenberg explains that often whattriggers our anger is not its true cause; that is, it isn't what peopledo that makes us angry but something in us that responds to what theydo. He encourages us to try to go beyond what triggered our anger andbecome more conscious of the need that is at its root. His belief isthat we get angry because our needs are not getting met, but that oftenwe are not in touch with those needs and instead of recognizing themwithin ourselves we focus on what's wrong with other people. <br><br>On the other side of the equation, what happens when we're dealing witha child who is angry? First, if the child is acting aggressively, it'svital before anything else to ensure the safety of everyone involved.Once you've made sure everyone is physically safe, try to listenattentively to the angry child while he or she expresses how he or shefeels. Try to reflect back the essence of what you hear. <br><br>Sometimes this alone is enough, especially for a young child, to enablehim or her to move beyond being upset. With younger kids anger oftenpasses quickly, especially if they know they are being listened to andrespected for how they feel. For a child whose anger is notdissipating, suggest that they try oneor two of the calming techniques mentioned above.<br><br>I believe that by helping kids develop inner life skills, we're puttingin their hands new tools that will help them manage all kinds of lifesituations. And when there are conflicts, or kids are angry, we cancall on these skills to help bring down tension and restore peace.<br><br><b>Nancy Carlsson-Paige</b> is a professor of education at Lesley Universityand the author or co-author of five books. Her most recent book is<i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Dapsfield-keywords=Taking+Back+Childhood%3A++Helping+Your+Kids+Thrive+in+a+Fast-Paced%2C+Media-Saturated%2C+Violence-Filled+World.++x=0y=0" target="_blank">Taking Back Childhood: Helping Your Kids Thrive in a Fast-Paced,Media-Saturated, Violence-Filled World</a></i>. Nancy writes and speaks abouthow media, violence, consumerism, and other social trends are shapingchildren today and what parents and teachers can do to raise caring andcompassionate children. For more information visit <a href="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 7th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Facebook Privacy:Hiding from Google</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>The New York Times recentlypublished an article that discusses the severe changes Facebook hasmade to privacy settings. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">What Can Google See? (Keep Your DataOff the Search Engines)</span><br><br>When you visit Facebook's Search Settings page, a warning message popsup. Apparently, Facebook wants to clear the air about what info isbeing indexed by Google. The message reads:<br><br>There have been misleading rumors recently about Facebook indexing allyour information on Google. This is not true. Facebook created publicsearch listings in 2007 to enable people to search for your name andsee a link to your Facebook profile. They will still only see a basicset of information.<br><br>While that may be true to a point, the second setting listed on thisSearch Settings page refers to exactly what you're allowing Google toindex. If the box next to "Allow" is checked, you're giving searchengines the ability to access and index any information you've markedas visible by "Everyone." As you can see from the settings discussedabove, if you had not made some changes to certain fields, you would besharing quite a bit with the search engines#133;probably more informationthan you were comfortable with. To keep your data private and out ofthe search engines, do the following:<br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">1.Fromyour Profile page, hover your mouse over the Settings menu at the topright and click "Privacy Settings" from the list that appears.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">2.Click "Search" from the list ofchoices on the next page.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">3.Click "Close" on the pop-upmessage that appears.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">4.On this page, uncheck the boxlabeled "Allow" next to the second setting "Public Search Results."That keeps all your publicly shared information (items set to viewableby "Everyone") out of the search engines. If you want to see what theend result looks like, click the "see preview" link in blue underneaththis setting.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>Be proactive about what you share on Facebook and protect your onlineprivacy!<br><br>About the author: <span style="font-weight: bold;">John Sileo</span>became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC. To further bulletproof yourself and yourbusiness, visit John's blog at </font><font><a target="_blank"href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Sileo.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. To book John at your next event,visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: November 22nd, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Toddler Treat: Cranberries </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers</center><br><br>Toddlers love to play with their food. Dipping sauces make foods taste good and provide your child with an activity that makes meals and snacks more fun. Here are two recipes for yummy dipping sauces - one for fruits and another for veggies, tofu and meats. <br><br><b><i>Creamy Cranberry Dipping Sauce</i></b><br><br><b>Ingredients:</b> <br> frac34; cup 100 percent cranberry raspberry (or grape) juice<br>frac12; cup sour cream<br>frac12; cup vanilla yogurt <br><br><b>Directions:</b><br> Place juice into a small saucepan. Boil until reduced to a syrup (about 3 tablespoons). Allow to cool. Add syrup to remaining ingredients and stir to combine. Chill and serve with a variety of fresh fruit slices. <br><br><b><i>Cranberry Mustard Dipping Sauce</i></b><br><br><b>Ingredients:</b><br> frac12;cup jellied cranberry sauce<br>1 frac12; tablespoons grainy Dijon mustard<br>1 tablespoon brown sugar <br><br><b>Directions:</b> Combine ingredients in a small mixing bowl, whisking until smooth. Serve hot or at room temperature. Serve with raw/blanched veggies, baked tofu, chicken fingers or fish sticks. <br><br><b>All about cranberries</b><br><br>The cranberry is a Native American fruit that grows on trailing vines like a strawberry, and thrives in wetland areas, called bogs. Cranberries are harvested in September and October. The most common technique for harvesting is known as a "wet" harvest, which involves flooding the bogs with water to float the fruit for easy collection. During the winter the frozen water insulates and protects the vines. <br><br>The North American cranberry has a distinguished history. Native Americans used cranberries as food, in ceremonies, and medicinally. Revolutionary War veteran Henry Hall planted the first commercial cranberry beds in Dennis, Massachusetts in 1816. Today they are farmed on approximately 40,000 acres across the northern United States and Canada. <br><br>Cranberries are available in a variety of product forms including: fresh, juice, dried and sauce. Cranberries are considered a healthy fruit. They contain no cholesterol and virtually no fat, and are low in sodium. In addition, they contain significant amounts of antioxidants and other phytonutrients that may help protect against heart disease, cancer, aging and other diseases. Cranberries also contain bacteria-blocking compounds that are helpful in preventing urinary tract infections, and possibly ulcers and gum disease. <br><br>Age to introduce: Over 12 months (cooked/juice/sauce). Over 18 months (dried). <br><br><b>Cranberries for the family</b><br>Cranberry up your Thanksgiving meal by trying some of these tasty and simple ideas. <ol><li> Football snack: Add dried cranberries to any nut mixture. <br><br><li> Salad: Sprinkle dried cranberries on mixed green or spinach salad. The sweetness of the cranberries is terrific with any vinaigrette dressing and is a great compliment to crumbled blue cheese or goat cheese. <br><br><li> Side dish: Add dried cranberries to your favorite stuffing, wild rice, or couscous recipe. <br> <br> <li> Veggie: Sauteacute; onions, diced zucchini and dried cranberries in olive oil. Season with a dash of turmeric, cinnamon, and rep pepper flakes. Great taste and awesome color! <br><br><li> All American apple pie: Add frac12; cup of fresh cranberries to your favorite apple recipe. <br> <br> <li> Treat the whole family to fresh cranberry sauce. Here is a simple recipe that can be made ahead of time. </ol> <b><i>Easy Cranberry Sauce: </i></b><br><br><b>Ingredients</b><br>16 ounces fresh cranberries<br>2 cups granulated sugar<br>frac12; cup cranberry juice<br>frac12; cup fresh orange juice or water <br><br><b>Directions:</b><br>Combine ingredients in a saucepan. Cook over medium heat until the berries pop open (about 10 minutes). Skim the foam off the surface with a metal spoon and discard. Cool to room temperature. <br> <br> <b>Storage:</b> Refrigerate, covered, for up to three months. <br><br><b>About the authors:</b> Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers are sisters, the mothers of five children, and founders of Fresh Baby (<a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a>). Raised by parents who love fresh foods and entertaining, their mom, a gourmet cook, ensured that they were well-equipped with extraordinary skills in the kitchen. Both with long track records of business success, they decided to combine their skills in the kitchen with their knowledge of healthy foods and children to create Fresh Baby. Cheryl and Joan put a modern twist on the conventional wisdom that when you make it yourself, you know it's better. Their goal at Fresh Baby is to make the task of raising a healthy eater a little bit easier for all parents. Fresh Baby's breastfeeding accessories and baby food making supplies provide parents with practical knowledge and innovative tools to support them in introducing their children to great tasting, all-natural foods easily and conveniently. Visit them online at <a href="http://www.freshbaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> and subscribe to their Fresh Ideas newsletter to get monthly ideas, tips and activities for developing your family's healthy eating habits! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: August 7th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Eating Colorfully </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers</center><br><br> It's essential to eat a colorful variety of fruits and vegetables every day and it can be a lot of fun too! Colorful fruits and vegetables provide a wide range of vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals your body needs to maintain good health and energy levels. Each color range provides your body with different nutrients, so it is important to eat a rainbow of color! Here are five major colors and example foods: <br><br> <b>Blue/Purple: </b> Blueberries, Purple grapes, Plums, Purple cabbage, Eggplant and Purple peppers <br><br><b>Green: </b> Avocados, Green apples, Honeydew, Kiwifruit, Artichokes, Asparagus, Broccoli, Brussels sprouts, Cucumbers, Leeks and Peas <br><br> <b>White: </b> Bananas, Brown pears, White peaches, Cauliflower, Garlic, Ginger, Jicama, Mushrooms, Parsnips, Potatoes and White Corn <br><br> <b>Yellow/Orange: </b> Apricots, Cantaloupe, Oranges, Papayas, Pineapples, , Butternut squash, Carrots, Yellow summer squash and Sweet potatoes. <br><br> <b>Red: </b> Red apples, Cherries, Cranberries, Pomegranates, Strawberries, Red peppers, Radishes, Radicchio, and Tomatoes. <br><br> Make it fun while shopping by having the kids pick out different colored fruits and vegetables. At mealtimes, identify the colors and name the foods. Colorful eating is an easy concept to teach small children and it will go a long way to developing their healthy eating habits. <br><br> <b>About the authors:</b> Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers are sisters, the mothers of five children and founders of Fresh Baby, creators or products such as homemade baby food kits, baby food cookbooks, baby food and breast milk storage trays, breastfeeding reminders, and child development diaries (<a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a>). Visit them online at <a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a> and subscribe to their Fresh Ideas newsletter to get monthly ideas, tips and activities for developing your family's healthy eating habits! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: September 11th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Seven Ways to Protect Your Family from Internet Dangers</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Steve Cross</center><br><br>It's the Wild West on the Internet, and as a parent you are responsible for keeping your kids safe 'out there, Even though 'out there may be two feet away from your kitchen while you are preparing dinner. Scammers, sexual predators, cyber bullies, and every type of hack are lurking on the Internet, in a very real and aggressive sense. <br><br>If you are the parent of a girl, you probably think about what name she is using in chat rooms and for instant messaging (IM), and you are wise to be concerned. How can you protect your daughter if you are unaware what web sites she visits, what chat rooms, who she chats with, and the true identities of her online 'friends? <br><br>If your teenager is a boy; what is he downloading? Are you going to be liable for illegal music downloads? Is he downloading porn, and the viruses that ride along? What sites does he visit, what does he look at there? It's a parents right to know these things, and a parent's responsibility if, heaven forbid, something goes terribly wrong. <br><br>Boys are aggressive downloaders, according to studies and many of the most popular sites for illegal downloads of music and movies are infested with viruses, worms, and Trojan Horses (hacker software that sneaks in and lets the hackers use your machine later!). Many of these programs will seek out your personal data and then transmit it to the hackers. Whether it is just the theft of your credit card information or full fledged Identity Theft, you would be very wise to be alarmed by this possibility. <br><br>Did you know that recent studies show that teenage girls spend even more time on the internet than boys? That's interesting and alarming news, as teenage girls are more likely to be cyber bullied, or sexually harassed online than boys. <br><br>Dr. Michele Borba, internationally renowned educational consultant and author of 20 books, wrote 'There are some specific ways to protect kids from bullying both in cyberspace and on the playground. Parents today need a closer 'electronic leash on their kids and need to be more tuned into the cyberspace trend. This isn't about being controlling--this is good parenting. <br><br>To extend her point, the monitoring of your children's activities on the internet is not about control, or infringing upon their privacy, it's about protecting your children from very real threats. <br><br>Some internet service providers (like AOL and MSN) have built in parental controls to 'block out certain types of web sites. However, none of these parental controls are foolproof, which means your kids are on the loose much of the time#151;and if you are a typical family, your kids probably know more about computers than you. <br><br>You can't look over their shoulder at all times, but you can do a number of very smart things. Here are seven ways to keep your kids safe when they use the Internet.<ol><li> Talk to them about the dangers of unrestricted use of the internet. Inform them about keeping passwords really secret, never sharing a credit card number with anyone, even their best friend. And please talk with them about cyber bullying, whether they are on the receiving end, or the giving end. <br><br><li> If they are on the giving end of cyber bullying, you must take away their privileges immediately. You have liability here, both ethical and legal. <br><br><li> If they are illegally downloading music and movies, make them stop. If the studios or record companies come after them, as their parent you have the legal responsibility of paying the fines. <br><br><li> Talk to them about stalkers and predators on the internet that use false identities, and urge them to be careful in chat rooms. <br><br><li> Use the parental controls that come with your internet service. <br><br><li> Take the computer out of their rooms and place it in a common area in the house. Your kids are much less likely to do something inappropriate or dangerous if other people are around. <br><br><li> Look into Internet Monitoring Software</ol> Steve Cross, author of the book "Changing Channels", is a former columnist for Newman Media, Channel Media, and the Gartner Group. Steve is a contributor to various jazz publications. Currently, Steve serves as the Steve is president of Guardian Software. <a href="http://www.guardiansoftware.com/monitor-pro.html" target="_blank">http://www.guardiansoftware.com/monitor-pro.html</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: September 2nd, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Teaching Tips on Reading Skills for Kids </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Jodie Lynn, <br><a href="http://www.parenttoparent.com/" target="_blank">www.ParentToParent.com</a></center><br><br>Getting kids to learn how to enjoy reading can be quite stressful and frustrating for a parent. Here are some tips to utilize that seem to work well for those reluctant readers.<ol><li><b> Get your child a library card. </b> As soon as he is old enough, let him get his own card. It is very exciting for kids to have their own card and make their own choices in reading material. <br><br><li><b> Don't frown on his choice of books or reading material. </b> Let your child make the choice on what to read. It might not be the book you would have picked out. In fact, it might even be a comic book, the back of a cereal box or a bubble gum wrapper. As long as your child picks up something and begins to read, it doesn't really matter. <br><br><li><b> Let your kids see you reading. </b> Laugh aloud and show them what it is that you are laughing about. Open the book to that specific page or picture and point to the words and read them to your child. Say, "Books can really be funny!" <br><br><li><b> Set aside time for reading together. </b> In the beginning, it might only be three times a week, then every other day and eventually move forward to each day. It almost always works best if you will take turns reading. <br><br><li><b> Ask questions about what he just read. </b> Don't do this with every page. Children know exactly what you are trying to do. Indeed, it works much better if you make a statement like, "Wait -- I don't understand why Jordan did not like the large red truck -- do you?" <br><br><li><b> Encourage reading material on things he likes best. </b> If your child loves Fairy Tales, shoot for that topic to begin. Alternatively, let them choose a wide variety of mixed topics, some of which you might was to roll your eyes -- but just stay calm and smile. <br><br><li><b> Be Flexible: </b> If you have a reading time scheduled and he just does not want to do it, go with the flow. It's important to show your child that reading is fun and is not a chore, test or quiz. You can always catch up later. <br><br><li><b> Tape the session. </b> Nothing is funnier as taping a reading session. Parents can get much farther with kids if they will let down their guard every once in a while and act silly. Play back the tape and your child will hear themselves reading and then hear your part where you acted silly. Maybe by changing your voice. <br><br><li><b> Share personal stories. </b> When reading with your child, point out a similar instance in real life. For example, if a character in the book falls down and drops a glass of milk, you could say, "That happened to me when I was seven." Or, "That's just like the time when you fell down after tripping over the dog...remember." <br><br><li><b> Read everything aloud. </b> If you will read signs, instructions, even the weather forecast off the TV and etc., aloud, your child will hear words and make a connection. He will see and hear how words are powerful, fun and descriptive while building his vocabulary and enjoyment for reading.</ol> Remember, don't punish your child if they are not catching on to the joy of reading as quickly as you would like for them to -- it'll all work out as long as you stay calm. <br><br>copy; 2005 Jodie Lynn<br><br>Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Parent to Parent (<a href=" http://www.ParentToParent.com " target="_blank">www.ParentToParent.com</a>) is now going into its tenth year and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. Lynn has a regular family segment on radio programs, one of which is syndicated to over 20 stations. She has written two books and contributed to two others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest best-selling parenting/family book is <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/096591254X/ref=ase_parenttopar0b-20/103-1701637-4895064?v=glances=books" target="_blank">Mommy CEO, revised edition</a>. Preorder Lynn's new book, "Mom CEO: Avoiding the Distressed Housewife Syndrome and Winning at Motherhood," online or from any bookstore. See <a href=" http://www.ParentToParent.com " target="_blank">www.ParentToParent.com</a> for more details. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: September 6th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Watch The Weight Of Your Child's Backpack</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></center><br><br>Complaints about back and shoulder pain are increasingly common. Parents have every right to be concerned about how heavy their child's backpack is. In fact, overweight backpacks have been getting so much attention that April was declared National Backpack Safety Month by the Congress of Chiropractic State Associations. <br><br>Children, mostly under age 14, are reporting backpack-related pains that result from repetitive strain#151;schlepping packs from home to bus to school to classrooms to bus to home several times a day, five days a week. They typical overstuffed backpack weighs in at about 14 pounds, which is often 15% or more of a child's body weight, and that's too much. The strain of leaning forward to support the load is causing painful necks and backs and even changes in posture. Symptoms can be so severe that the kids have to be treated in emergency rooms. <br><br>Some kids have it even worse, hauling around packs that weigh as much as 40% of their body weight. Get out your calculator; If you had to lug 40% of your body weight in and out of cars and up and down stairs all day long you'd be in some serious pain too. <br><br>Fortunately, there may be some ways to save our kids backs: <ul><li> Weight your child's backpacks once in a while and keep it under 10% of his weight. <br><br><li> Keep non-essentials to a minimum. Does your child really need to carry all those books at the same time? Will she use every one of them that day? If your child won't tell you, make a few calls to her teachers. <br><br><li> Investigate whether your child can share books with one or more of his classmates. That way each kid can carry a smaller portion of the total load. <br><br><li> If possible, arrange to have duplicate books at school. Or invest in a few paperbacks (particularly of literature books) and have your child keep the hard-covers at home. <br><br><li> If your child really does have to carry a lot of books, at least be sure to get the right kind of backpack. Single-strap packs cause the most discomfort because they're carried on one shoulder, which means that the child is always leaning to one side. The best#151;and most comfortable packs#151;have two padded straps and an abdominal belt. <br><br><li> Get a rolling backpack if your child's school allows it. Some don't though, because they're worried that students will get injured, trip, or fall over them in the classroom or the hallways. Why they aren't worried about the kids' backs is beyond me. <br><br><li> Treat your child to a nice neck/shoulder/back massage.</ul><b>Armin Brott</b>, hailed by <i>Time</i> as 'the superdad's superdad, has written or co-written six critically acclaimed books on fatherhood, including the newly released second edition of <i>Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years</i>. His articles have appeared in The <i>New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, American Baby, Parenting, Child, Men's Health, The Washington Post</i> among others. Armin is an experienced radio and TV guest, and has appeared on <i>Today, CBS Overnight, Fox News, and Politically Incorrect</i>. He's the host of 'Positive Parenting, a weekly radio program in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit Armin at <a href="http://www.mrdad.com" target="_blank">www.mrdad.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 13th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Countdown to Fire Season:<br>Five Things to Do Now to Prepare </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Larry Koman<br><a href="http://www.disasters911.com/" target="_blank">www.disasters911.com</a></center><br><br> The recent fires in Santa Barbara are a stark reminder that the California Fire season is here early. If you escaped damage from the fires, consider yourself lucky. Losing a home to a fire is a life-changing event that no one should experience. Even if you don't live in a rural area, you are not immune to damage from fire. Many people in San Diego would have never expected that they would be affected by brush fires, but many lost their homes anyway. <br><br>You should take this time to make sure you are prepared in the event of a fire. Here are five things you can do to be ready.<br><br><b>Have an Evacuation Plan</b> Any plan is better than no plan. Think about what you would do if you were suddenly told to evacuate. Where would you go, what would you do? What about the kids, pets, and the elderly? Have a family meeting. Talk about what to do if you were forced to evacuate. Make sure everyone knows their role, where to go, where to meet, and where to call. Talk about what stays and what goes. Remember that you might not have much time. Write it down, make a checklist. This will take the stress out of the evacuation order and make things easier.<br><br><b>Review your Insurance Coverage</b> This is a good thing to do from time to time. Call or visit your insurance agent and review all of your insurance, especially your fire insurance. If you don't know who your fire insurance company is, find out and write it down and keep it with your important papers. Most Insurance Companies will be happy to review your coverage with you, and many have tools especially designed for this purpose. Make sure you know what is covered. This will give you piece of mind in the event of a fire.<br><br><b>Inventory your belongings</b> Take some time to make a list of what you own. This doesn't take long but will help you remember if it is all gone after a fire. Go from room to room and write down what you see. Make notes about the items like where you got it, how much it cost, etc. Don't forget the obvious, like the furniture, but don't overlook the little things either, like window coverings, pictures, paintings, and special finishes. When you're finished, put the list in an envelope and put it somewhere you can get to it after a fire. Keep it somewhere else; a safety deposit box, an office, or a relative's house. If possible take pictures of every room and keep the pictures or disk with your inventory. <br><br><b>Gather Important Things Together </b> I look around my house and I notice I have important things in a lot of different places. I looked for a copy of a picture a while ago and found that I have a drawer in the kitchen, a drawer in my office, and a drawer in the den, all with pictures. If I had a fire today, I might lose all of them. I also have some important papers in my office and some in the den. You should gather important pictures and files together so they can be gathered up quickly. Placing them in a fire proof safe or cabinet away from the garage or kitchen will help insure that they survive. The hardest thing to replace after a fire is the pictures and important papers. Take this step now and have peace of mind in the event something tragic occurs.<br><br><b>Fireproof your Home</b> Although there is really no such thing as fireproof, there are things you can do to reduce the risk of fire damage to your house. If you have an older home with a shake roof, think about replacing it now with a composition shingle or cement tile roof. Spending a little money now will give you added peace of mind later. Clear debris from around your house, even if you don't live in a rural area. Clearing combustibles from around your house will reduce the threat of fire damage and make it possible for Fire Fighters to maneuver around your house to help defend it. <br><br>Whether you live in an area exposed to brush fires or not, taking these steps now will help make your family safer and give you peace of mind. If your home is suddenly destroyed, you're prepared. <br><br>Larry Koman is a Certified Property and Casualty Underwriter and a Licensed California General Contractor with more than 20 years experience inspecting and rebuilding homes damaged by fire, earthquake, and other disasters. For more information visit <a href="http://www.disasters911.com/" target="_blank">www.disasters911.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:22:31Z
Tip of the Week: November 19th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> The Great Crib Escape </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Armin Brott<br><a href="http://www.mrdad.com/" target="_blank">www.mrdad.com</a> </center><br><br><i>Dear Mr. Dad: My year-old child has begun to climb out of the crib at night. How do I keep her safe?</i> <br><br>A: Start by thinking about her environment in larger and larger circles, from the crib to the door. First, the crib. There get rid of all those bumpers (those oh-so-cute fabric pads that used to protect your baby from banging her head against the inside of the crib). Bumpers make great stepping stones for climbers. Also, take all those big stuffed animals, pillows, and heavy comforters out of the crib. These items were dangerous as suffocation hazards when your baby was small. Now that she's bigger, they're tickets to freedom. <br><br>Start by explaining to your child that this is her very own, safe, special bed, and that she can sleep there all night, just like Mommy and Daddy do in their bed. Then, if you haven't done it already, adjust the crib's mattress so it's at the setting closest to the floor. If the lower mattress and lack of climbing materials still don't prevent escape, you have a few options. <br><br>You might consider buying one of the commercially available safety nets that fit over the top of the crib like a large dome. These nets always seem a little like you're imprisoning your child, but they're a temporary solution (they're also excellent for keeping roaming pets out of the crib). <br><br>If safety nets aren't your style, consider installing a gate across her doorway or using a doorknob safety cover that your child won't be able to open. If you go this route, though, be absolutely sure that your child's room is completely childproofed. <br><br>As your child approaches two, she'll begin associating climbing and jumping with the possibility of falling, and may become more cautious on her own. You can help the process along by reminding her#151;'Remember how you fell down and bumped your head and cried?" <br><br>Whatever you do, don't just give up and put pillows around the crib, as some people do. Because pillows can shift around and expose the bare floor, this is not a good long-term solution. <br><br>The next step is a "big girl bed," which can be a mattress on the floor or a twin bed. The twin bed should be pushed against the wall, with a bed rail on the outside. This all applies until it is time for potty learning, when the world gets even bigger! <br><br> Armin Brott, hailed by <i>Time</i> as 'the superdad's superdad, has written or co-written six critically acclaimed books on fatherhood, including the newly released second edition of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0789208504/qid=1126471131/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/103-9745919-0585447?v=glances=books" target="_blank"><i>Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years</i></a>. His articles have appeared in The <i>New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, American Baby, Parenting, Child, Men's Health, The Washington Post</i> among others. Armin is an experienced radio and TV guest, and has appeared on <i>Today, CBS Overnight, Fox News</i>, and <i>Politically Incorrect</i>. He's the host of 'Positive Parenting, a weekly radio program in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit Armin at <a href="http://www.mrdad.com/" target="_blank">www.mrdad.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: December 1st, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Soar Above theClouds </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Emily Sue Harvey <br><a href="http://www.renewalstories.com" target="_blank">www.renewalstories.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Renewal has never been portrayed to me quite as vividly as during myfirst flying experience aboard a 747 jet. The delayed flight, due torain, plunged my spirits. Finally, the engines roared to life and Ifelt myself raised up, up until we lifted from earth. Outside thewindows, the clouds swallowing me were gray and angry, painting myemotions desolate.<br><br>Then, a remarkable thing happened. Suddenly, we burst free of the darkclouds, into glorious sunshine and a sky so blue and clear I could seeto infinity. Joy! I've never before nor since experienced such amystical example of rising above darkness. <br><br>We've all experienced encountering dark and rough places through whichwe must struggle. Such experiences have stirred me to reach out toothers and simply say, Hang in there! Above those dark clouds, the sunis shining!<br>Here are five tips for breaking through clouds: <br></font><ol><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><li><b>Trust: </b>Understand that you have little to no control overcircumstances. This "aha" often finds us on the short end of the stick.We cannot help that. What we can help is the way we perceive ourselvesas we journey through dark clouds. Trust in your ability and strengthto persevere. Buried in grief years ago, I remember distinctly stoppingdead in my tracks one day and saying to myself, "self-pity will killme." And I knew in my heart of hearts that was true. From that momenton I refused to be a victim. No "poor me" passed my lips. It was thebeginning of renewal. <br><br></li><li><b>Stay Busy: </b>Nothing can restore one's emotional andspiritual balance like staying active. The mind can only fully focus onone thing at a time. Whether your pain is from grief, heartbreak,depression or myriad other sources, forcing your focus on positivethings will aid in a smoother healing. During grief, I sang in thecollege choral group. As a scholarship section leader, I led ensemblesfor the upcoming Spring Concert. Nothing is more difficult than singingwhen one's heart is breaking but the group patiently coaxed me along,overlooking my tears, validating me with how "needed" I was, until,weeks later, I sang from Sound of Music as joyfully as the rest.Staying busy was cathartic in my healing, moving on process. <br><br></li><li><b>Be Flexible: </b>The journey through dark clouds is alwaysdifficult. Just when you think you're about to top them, setbacks canoccur. These are the times you must chill out and ride it out until youreach another plateau of recovery. A friend of mine has a daughter,whom I'll call Laurie, who is going through drug rehab via a MethadoneClinic. Laurie wants desperately to wean off the methadone and get onwith her life. She must constantly readjust dosages, due to withdrawalcrises. But she's growing stronger by the day by exercisingflexibility. <br><br></li><li><b>Exercise Your Inner Strength: </b>We must increase our senseof power by exercising it. Sure, it's tough sometimes, especially whenwe're at our lowest ebb. During my period of loss, I yanked myself upby the boot straps by reflecting how my departed adolescent daughterhad perceived Mama as Superwoman, who'd always made things right andwho could conquer anything. <br><br>It was on that note that I put one foot in front of the other and kepton keeping on during that difficult time. "Oh, you're so brave," folkstold me. And I thought, "You just don't know what I'm feeling inside."But later looking back, I saw how important that interval was in myjourney to renewal and healing. It was the walk - the exercise - thatbuilt up my spirit and mind to where I was able to walk through thedarkness with unprecedented strength.<span style="font-weight: bold;"> </span><br><br></li><li><b>Gather Role Models: </b>Role models forge us a path andinspire us to follow. They bring us to a clearer understanding ofthe who we are and what we're meant to be. My best friend had adifficult childhood. Abandoned by her parents during adolescence, shewas reared by her grandmother, a stalwart woman who taught her goodcommon sense. Charlene ignored poverty and went on to become who shewas meant to be. She picked role models from those amongst her withadmirable attributes. Teachers and church folks she loved and wished toemulate. She chose her Home Economics teacher's posture and carriage,practicing it until perfected. <br><br>From others she gathered nuggets of diction, health habits, wisdom, andacademic excellence. An honor student, she dressed impeccably allthrough high school, sewing her own clothing from scraps of leftovermaterial from clients she sewed for. I didn't know until later of herdire circumstances. After all, she'd always had a big old smile, washomecoming queen with a reaching out personality that drew folks likebutterflies to flowers.<br><br>Now, she's one of the most beautiful and strongest women I know.Charlene was wise enough to know the value of following exemplary rolemodels. So do I. Especially the ones who have weathered life'sthunderstorms and rise above those dark clouds into sunshine and clearskies. It lets me know that if they can soar above the clouds, so canI! </li></ol><span style="font-weight: bold;">Emily Sue Harvey</span> writes to makea difference. Her upbeat stories have appeared in dozens ofanthologies including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Chocolate for Women,From Eulogy to Joy, A Father's Embrace, True Story, CompassionateFriends Magazine, and Woman's World. Emily Sue served as president ofSoutheastern Writers Association in 2008-2009. PeterMiller's NY Literary and Film Agency represent Emily Sue. Her firstnovel, Song of Renewal, published by Story Plant, will be released inthe spring of 2009. For more information visit <ahref="http://www.renewalstories.com" target="_blank">www.renewalstories.com</a>.Permission granted for useon DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: September 18th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Fears Of A Clown</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">by Bob Schwartz</center><br><br>There are certain words spoken by a child that can send a shiver of panic through every parental nerve ending. I've discovered that the words causing the greatest consternation were not "Don't worry, the tattoos can always be removed with a laser" or "Can you believe putting in six eyebrow rings barely hurt?" <br><br>Rather, the words which sent me quickly into a panic attack were, "My Gymbo's gone!" <br><br>Most children, sometime in their early bedtime careers, take a liking to sleeping with a stuffed animal, cuddly clown, small blanket or even something out of the ordinary like one of my children's predilection for nightly embracing a deck of <i>Rugrats Uno</i> cards. Don't ask. <br><br>Our son fell into the clown category, and while putting him to bed one night during a family vacation in Canada, we discovered the terrifying experience of finding that his Gymbo the clown was gone. Vanished. Without even a trace of stuffing left behind or a crayon scribbled note. <br><br> After ransacking the room and coming up Gymboless, it was clear that he was most likely the victim of an involuntary dollnapping. We concluded he must have been inadvertently scooped up with the sheets that day by the hotel staff. Poor little Gymbo was lying innocently on the bed one minute and then, suddenly, his world was torn asunder with the disengagement of a fitted sheet. <br><br>Apparently, he was abruptly wrapped up in the bed linen and tossed down that dark and seemingly never-ending chute to the basement laundry facility. He went from his sheltered suburban upbringing, to being quickly exposed to the giant underbelly of a hotel building. He was naively left to wonder what he'd done to be cast aside and jettisoned into the dungeon of the sheet and pillow case world he was then forced to call home. <br><br> The immediate focus was damage control by one parent and Gymbo retrieval by the other. As our son broke out into hysterics, he made it painfully clear that no Gymbo for him meant no sleep. For everyone. And after a long day of nonstop vacationing movement, no sleep was simply an untenable concept for me. <br><br>My wife quickly got connected to the hotel laundry room and explained the dire circumstances. She was advised that they'd not seen him yet, but amazingly, they requested she provide them a description of the victim. <br><br> This caused us to immediately wonder just how many stuffed dolls they had lying in that basement. Was there some international black market for stuffed cuddly things going on down there? I grabbed the phone and interjected that we'd be able to pick him out of a lineup, so please just let us know how many cotton clowns they'd seen recently. Or perhaps they'd like us to come down and do a composite watercolor painting for them. <br><br> I handed the phone back to my wife who patiently provided the laundry staff the unmistakable physical characteristics of a stuffed blue and yellow clown #151; a missing button on his body-hugging suspenders, frizzy red hair, a frayed right leg, about twelve inches long, a bow tie, and with an unwavering cat that ate the canary smile on his face. I felt very confident they wouldn't confuse him with a mattress pad. <br><br>As we anxiously paced back and forth, the phone finally rang. In a thick French Canadian accent, the unemotional voice said, "Vee have located your clown." <br><br>The words, spoken so solemnly yet somewhat muffled, forced me to become fearful they would next demand a ransom? Or, worse yet, advise us that after a violent fifty-minute foray in the tumble dryer his arm was hanging by a thread? <br><br>My wife and I were so thankful that Gymbo was soon delivered to our door in one piece and wearing that same cockeyed grin, but to me, he had a little shell-shocked look. I could only think of the horrors he must have seen down below, tossed in amongst the giant spinning washer along with stained tablecloths and thrown about in the whirling dryers with a bath towel pressed against his face. <br><br>We could only hope that the familiar rhythmic breathing of his sleeping owner in the footed pajamas would soon erase the memories of his emotionally charged excursion into the outside world. <br><br>We did learn to avoid any unchaperoned Gymbo excursions in the future by tying one end of a shoelace around his waist and the other end around the bedpost each morning. I know that doesn't necessarily look all that loving, but hey, he never stops smiling. And it does eliminate one potential for bedtime parental panic. <br><br>Once was enough #151; for all of us. <br><br>Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: August 21st, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Tips for Staying Fit and Healthy at Home </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> by Lesley Spencer, MSc; Founder President HBWM.com Inc.<br><a href="http://www.HomeBasedWorkingMoms.com" target="_blank">http://www.HomeBasedWorkingMoms.com</a></center><br><br>Many Americans these days are finding themselves out of shape and overweight. Why is that? The bottom line is we are taking in more calories than we are burning. It takes a conscious effort to reduce calories, eat healthier and get regular exercise. <br><br>Exercise does not have to be a dreaded word either. The good news is that exercise gives you more energy, stress relief, better health, clearer focus, sharper mind, better sleep, better bone health, better sex life, and it decreases the risk of cancers, heart attacks and heart problems. Forget the benefits of just looking good and realize exercise not only makes you feel good, it can help you live a longer, healthier life. <br><br>Here are some tips to get you on your way to a healthier lifestyle:<ul><li> Put your workout clothes on first thing in the morning. You'll feel more "obligated" to exercise once you are dressed in your workout clothes. <br><br><li> Use music to energize and motivate you to exercise. Get a few great CDs that energize you. Turn it up and jam out! The music will motivate you and help the time pass by more quickly! <br><br><li> Always keep a water bottle and a healthy snack with you. When you get hungry, go for the healthy snack instead of heading to the pantry. Try to keep your water bottle full so that you can drink plenty of water throughout the day.<li> Follow the two-bite rule. If there's something you absolutely must have, take two bites and be done! You'll get your fix and be proud of your will power to put it down! <br><br><li> No time for exercise? Make a goal to walk for 30 minutes at least three times a week. You'll find if you make it a priority, you can fit it in. Try going right after breakfast or after taking your kids to school. <br><br><li> Need to be motivated to exercise? Find one or two workout partners to motivate one another. If you don't have anyone near by, find a virtual workout buddy on the <a href="http://www.HBWM.com" target="_blank">http://www.HBWM.com</a> Self-Care message boards. Share successes, motivate one another and just enjoy doing something for yourself! <br><br><li> Keep a diary of what you eat for a few days. Calculate your intake and decide where you should cut back. (You can find nutritional charts on the Mom's Assistant section of <a href="http://www.HBWM.com" target="_blank">http://www.HBWM.com</a>.) <br><br><li> If you have cravings for something sweet, try eating something tart to curb the craving such as a pickle. If you crave crunchy salty snacks, try having an apple instead.</ul>Take the leap. Commit to exercising a few days a week and before you know it, the benefits will be their own motivator! You will feel better, look better and be better.<br><br>Lesley Spencer is founder and president of the HBWM.com, Inc. Network whichincludes: <a href="http://www.homebasedworkingmoms.com/" target="_blank">http://www.HomeBasedWorkingMoms.com</a>, <a href="http://www.WorkAtHomeKit.com" target="_blank">http://www.WorkAtHomeKit.com</a>, <a href="http://www.edirectoryofhomebasedcareers.com" target="_blank">http://www.edirectoryofhomebasedcareers.com</a>,<a href="http://www.momsworkathomesite.com" target="_blank">http://www.momsworkathomesite.com</a>, <a href="http://www.HBWMconferences.com" target="_blank">http://www.HBWMconferences.com</a>, <a href="http://www.HBWMcanada.com" target="_blank">http://www.HBWMcanada.com</a> and <a href="http://www.HireMyMom.com" target="_blank">http://www.HireMyMom.com</a> (coming soon!). She has a Master's Degree in Public Relations and has been featured in numerous media outlets including CBS News, Forbes, Business Week, Parents, Wall Street Journal and USA Today. She has been working from home for over 10 years and has two children whom she absolutely adores! Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: February 28th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Discipline, not Punishment</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Anne Leedom</center><br><br>It's kind of tragic that just as we master the baby and toddler years we are thrown a whole new set of curves. Our kids grow and develop new and not always desirable behaviors and we now have to learn how to cope once again. <br><br>So I set out to construct the perfect plan and I am proud to say it has stood the test, at least for now. Behavior battles seem to be at a minimum in our home. Based on information from a variety of experts, I have put into motion a strategy that should provide long term relief and a much happier and harmonious day. <br><br><b>The Set Up</b><br>Let's face it. We just push our kids too far. We stray from the routine to the point where even the most accommodating child will break. It could be preventing them from getting their rest, letting them get too hungry, asking them to be overly patient while we do our errands, chores or work, or providing so much fun and stimulation that they simply go on overload. This is a critical element to watch, or you will have the perfect situation for the ultimate tantrum. <br><br><b>Watch the Barometer</b><br>Without warning kids can suddenly hit their limits and patience begins to wane rapidly. Too often parents try to dictate in this moment how they want their child to behave. Unfortunately, the barometer is rising and our wishes will almost certainly fall on deaf and increasingly angry ears. As soon as you notice the struggle, begin to take the child aside to a quiet location and try to reason with them. For example, 'I don't want to take a bath can become a conversation about whether to take a bath or shower. In these crucial early moments, giving kids a small choice can go a long way toward preventing a potential meltdown. <br><br><b>Change the Course</b><br>Even the most prepared parent will encounter those horrid moments when kids are just going to wail. The key in this moment is to move past the moment as quickly and quietly as possible. Deciding to give them a bath in the morning instead of right at that moment or letting your child read in bed with the door closed for five more minutes will almost certainly restore harmony. Sure, you may not be able to expedite the plan you had in mind, but the goal is to work together. It's not about giving your child control; it's about giving your child <i>some</i> control. <i>Disciplining your child is a team effort</i>. You need to involve your child in the solution so they are more willing to cooperate. Parents who raise kids in this manner have kids who will cooperate more often than not. The battles are over before they begin and you will not be caught wondering what to do when those difficult moments arise. <br><br><b>Keep in Mind</b><br>No one reacts well to the word 'no . There are dozens of ways we can say no without over-using this word. Simply saying, 'Gee, that's a thought. I will think about that, has a completely different sound to a child. Kids know when we mean no. But once again, they like to feel they are being considered in the process. A little tact is another key ingredient to raising kids with at least a few less tantrums. <br><br>Ultimately, these strategies give parents something we all long for. We want to feel like we can actually overcome the battles and feel like we have won, but not at the expense of our kids' love and respect. Discipline that empowers the parent and the child is a winning formula for the long haul. <br><br>Anne Leedom is the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 7th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Things to do When Traveling by Car and Light Snacks For Kids </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></center><br><br> This is the time of year when families begin to plan for their vacations and many will be taking to the roads via automobiles and need help in trying to make it a good experience. <br><br> Some pointers are listed below: <ul> <li>Plan ahead and get the kids involved in the planning the trip along with a map or road atlas.<li> Discuss what you will see and perhaps get a video of where you are going. <li> Check out possible points of interest along the route and stop there for meals or a stretch.<li> Kids enjoy talking into a tape recorder to "report" what is out the window or other momentary facts. </ul> Bring along a bag of distractions. Hand them out only as a last resort. <br><br> When traveling with kids, get things for them to share and things just for each child. "Trouble-Free Travel With Children" by Vicki Lansky, (Book Peddlers, $9.95) has tons of things to do with your children as well as plenty of ideas to do before you get started to ensure it is the best one yet. The "Everything Kids Travel Activity Book," by Erik Hansen (Adams Media Corporation, $6.95) has many choices for kids in the age range of 8 to 12. <br><br> Think about buying music that everyone in the car will enjoy like "Kids' Roll Party," (Lightyear Entertainment, $6.95) has cool rock 'n roll tunes from the 70's in today's kids' words and themes. <br><br> Start your trip early around 3:00 a.m. so the kids will still want to sleep through the morning, make frequent stops to use the bathroom, eat light snacks, run around, stretch at the rest stops and do not let the kids drink caffeine. <br><br> Nutritious treats to think about can be the small pre-boxed raisins, cherries, cranberries, trail mix or buy the larger sized containers and make up your own by mixing and adding dried non-sugar cereal. <br><br> <b>Alternatives for Keeping up with Children's Activities and Meals </b><ol> <li> Have a large "at-a-glance" calendar. Place it on the counter by the telephone. Write any appointments, deadlines or activities on it with a colored pencil. Put the person's name or initials followed by the event. Use different color pencils for each name. Use the same color for the same person. Everyone can glance at the calendar and know what is going on by color. <br><br> <li> Have a large calendar on the wall. Make sure it has big squares representing the days of the month. Write down everything - including meal choices that each member of the family has decided on. This way, there will not be any "what are we having for dinner" questions or who chose it. <br><br> <li> Organize your day by time. Clip all papers from camp counselors, childcare teachers or anything from the school for the upcoming school year in chronological order on the refrigerator. Once a week make a schedule of the following weeks' events, organized by day. Each day is organized by time. This schedule is posted on the refrigerator. Don't forget to add who is to do what to help in the kitchen and other chores. <br><br> <li> Keep a diary by the telephone. Each day is a page, and all activities are entered plus meals for the week. You can often refer to it for what happened the previous year around the same time and even look to see if there was a meal you cooked that the family particularly enjoyed. <br><br> <li> Plan snacks and meals in advance. Having meals planned in advance can save time, energy and arguments. If you know your weekend is going to be spent mainly in the car, quick easy to clean up meals and snacks are timesaving and healthy alternatives to stopping at the fast food window. Cut up vegetables the evening before and place in a glass container filled halfway with water. This keeps them extremely crisp. Drain them in the morning and place in the top tray of an ice chest enclosed in a "freezer" baggie. Place sliced fruit in a freezer bag in the same area. </ol> Jodie Lynn is an internationally syndicated parenting/family/health columnist. Her latest paperback book is Mommy-CEO: 5 Golden Rules, 2001 revised edition, which covers family and health tips. Check out the new Mom, CEO totes, cups and T-shirts on the <a href="http://www.ParentToParent.com/" target="_blank">www.ParentToParent.com</a> website and order yours today. All moms are working moms and are the real CEOs in life. Jodie Lynn originated the terms, Mommy CEO, Mom CEO and CEO Mom and all implications in "honoring balance in the life of moms/women," in 1989 and in print since 1996. Preorder her newest book, Mom CEO: Avoiding the Distressed Housewife Syndrome and Winning at Motherhood, soon! copy;2005 Jodie Lynn. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 25th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Pots and Pans: TheEssentials</b><br>Excerpted from <br>"Two Dudes One Pan: Maximum Flavor from a Minimalist Kitchen"</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Jon Shook and Vinny Dotolo,<br>published by Clarkson Potter/Publishers, 2008<br><a href="http://twodudesonepan.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">twodudesonepan.blogspot.com/</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>When we were thinking of the different pots and pans to use, we decidedto focus on the truly essential pieces, the ones that no kitchen shouldbe without. These are the ones that we think are the most important.<br><br><b>The Big Bowl</b><br>With one large bowl, you can make a variety of dishes, from salads toceviches. We prefer metal to glass because we can bang it around on thecounter and in the sink without worrying that it will break. Wood isfine for salads, but don't use it for ceviche because the bowl will geta fishy smell. Mixing bowls are one of the few pieces of equipment thatyou can cheap out on. Save your money for a good quality skillet,roasting pan, or Dutch oven instead.<br><br><b>Nonstick Skillet</b><br>Instead of making a big investment in an expensive nonstick skillet,buy an inexpensive one that has moderate heft and a comfortable,welded-on handle (the screwed-on handles can come loose an get wobblywith time). You really shouldn't spend more than fifty bucks on anonstick skillet. A twelve-inch nonstick can fry a frittata just aswell as it can accommodate long fish fillets. It's the size werecommend to start with; though a small eight-inch nonstick comes inhandy for frying eggs. <br><br><b>Classic Skillet</b><br>Whether you call it a frying pan, a skillet, or a sauteacute; pan, agood-quality, evenly weighted skillet is one of the most importantpieces of equipment in your kitchen. This is the pan you'll turn totime and time again for searing meats, sauteacute;ing vegetables, andmaking pan sauces. The handle should be oven-safe so the pan can gofrom the stovetop to the oven or broiler without a problem. Enameledcast iron works well, too, but we find it on the heavy side. If youwant to work on your biceps while you cook, though, go for it! As withthe nonstick skillet, a twelve-inch skillet is the size to start with.<br><br><b>Dutch Oven</b><br>This is a piece of equipment worth investing in. It's used for slow,wet cooking methods, such as braising short ribs in beer orslow-cooking lamb shanks with wine. Since it's constructed forstovetop-to-oven cooking, a Dutch oven is usually made of heaviermaterial that can withstand long stays in a hot oven. A six-quart Dutchoven can comfortably hold big pieces of meat and roasts and is deepenough to contain any liquid you add for the cooking process. In apinch you can make soup, boil water for pasta, and deep-fry in a Dutchoven, making it a really valuable all-around player in the kitchen.<br><br><b>Roasting Pan</b><br>When you're dry roasting without much liquid, this is the pan tochoose. It should be large and deep enough to hold a six-bone prime ribor a Thanksgiving turkey, with handles that are easy to get a good,solid grip on. Invest in a roasting pan with a thick, even, andheavy-gauge bottom. If you can't devote that kind of money to a pan,then you can always place a baking sheet underneath a flimsier roastingpan to provide a little more support. Be sure to purchase a roastingrack along with your roasting pan if it doesn't come with one. Theseare handy for elevating chickens or pork loins to circulate air formore even browning. <br><br><b>Baking Dish</b><br>We use a 9 by 13-inch 3-quart glass baking dish for all of ourdesserts. You could get all fancy here if you wanted and buy a priceyglazed porcelain or clayware baking dish, but we opt for the tried andtrue (and cheap) glass Pyrex dish for a few reasons. One, it's cool topeek into the oven and see right through the baking dish to check thecolor of what's baking (which is why we also prefer glass over metalbaking pans). Two, its curved corners are easy to clean. Three, if itbreaks, it's no problem. Go to any department store or even a grocerystore and you can replace it for less than fifteen dollars. <br><br><b>Saucepan</b><br>We didn't include a saucepan chapter in our book because you can'treally make a meal in a saucepan. That said, a saucepan is useful forlots of things, such as making rice, polenta, fruit compotes andsauces, and cream sauces (cregrave;me anglaise, beacute;arnaise, andmore); heating stock; and blanching small-cut vegetables. Saucepanshave straight edges and sharp corners while sauciers have roundedcorners; they're fairly interchangeable, though sauciers are a littlebetter for making cream sauces because you can really get into thecorners. We tend to prefer good-quality heavy-gauge steel-cladaluminum- or copper-core saucepans because they heat evenly and retainheat - qualities that are vital for rice and cream sauces. We like longhandles to keep our hands away from the heat, and we prefer weldedhandles or riveted ones to those attached to the base by screws thatcan come loose with time. A good 2- or 3-quart saucepan should lastawhile. <br><br>In June 2008, <b>Jon Shook</b> and <b>Vinny Dotolo</b> created LA's newestrestaurant, animal. The food is fresh and seasonal, refined yet rustic,and perfects the rare art of unpretentious sophistication. In addition,Jon and Vinny are the 'dudes behind the Food Network show Two DudesCatering, and have appeared on Iron Chef America and Last Call withCarson Daly. TWO DUDES, ONE PAN is their first book. For moreinformation visit <a href="http://twodudesonepan.blogspot.com/"target="_blank">http://twodudesonepan.blogspot.com/</a> and<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fs6EtLqP5Wg" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fs6EtLqP5Wg</a>.Permission granted for useonDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: December 6th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Trust Your Heart</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By The Love Goddess<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Dear Love Goddess: I keep going outwith men who look great, have good jobs, etc., but who are really,really strange once they're in a relationship. I KNOW this is nottrue of all men, but of the men I'm choosing#133;.but is there a way ofspotting these guys? -Miserable Earth Girl</span><br><br>A. Dear Miserable Earth Girl: Spotting men unfit for human consumptionfrom afar by just looking at them? No. They do not, unfortunately, wearsigns saying, "I'm a loser and a creep." They can look reallygood. They can sound really good. They often, in fact, look and soundbetter than the really terrific guys do, because they've madeincredible adjustments to the fact that they ARE losers and creeps (andthey do know it; they've been told by untold numbers of women) and knowthey have something to hide. So they make an extra effort to look good,sound good, come on to you politely#151;and often aggressively-- seemincredibly interested, promise a good time, and so forth...all thethings they hope will ensure that you'll go out with them. But despitetheir camouflage, there are two sure ways to tell which men are likelyto turn out, as you put it, "really, really strange."<br><br>First, you really must trust your instincts. How do you feel whenyou're with him? Do you feel good#133;.or anxious? Do you have the sensethat you're really connecting#133;.or that you really want to butaren't? Does he seem too aggressive, too sure that you're the oneand only, too pushy about making a date? Pay attention to yourgut....it is inevitably right. Then, if you make a date, does he alwaysshow up late, leaving you a little miffed? Does he always expect you tocook? Does he bring wine, or offer to cook or take you out? Do you feela little on edge, or like a drag? Do you find yourself constantlywishing you (or he) were in a better mood?<br><br>Next, how do you feel between dates with him? Does he check in to sayhe had a nice time; to see when you'll meet again, or does he kind ofdisappear for days or weeks? Does it feel as if the relationship isgetting traction#133;.or do you a have the sense, each time you see him,that you're starting from square one? Does he disappear? Is his life asecret? Does he seem to want what you want in this relationship or doyou have the sense that you're always trying either to make him comecloser or to get him to back off somewhat? Does he seem to behaving trouble being involved with you#133;.as if it's not something thathe truly enjoys; not something he can keep up without being giveninstructions? Do you have the sense that he's peddling something ("I really want marriage and a family with a woman like you") that hecan't deliver ("I think I'm going to spend next year in Alaska"). Hashe been in a long-term relationship? <br>I know you can't answer all these questions, and my aim is not to haveyou drill him. I just know that the hardest thing to learn is to trustyour gut about someone. So listen to your inner voice, and then to goby what a man DOES, not what he says. It's so hard to resist thecompelling urge to make him become someone you want him to be when thesigns point to the fact that he never was and never will be. Thesigns, I believe, are inevitably there. But they're not visible on hisperson; they're telegraphed subtly, and can only be felt by you by yourown senses, your own heart.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Dalma Heyn, M.S.W.</span>, Founder of <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">The Love Goddess</span>, is the author ofseveral bestselling books on marriage and relationships. Dalma is awidely read columnist and sought-after speaker. She hasappeare--without her wings--on national talk shows including <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Oprah, The View, Charlie Rose, GoodMorning America, and Larry King Live</span>. For more information visit</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> or <a target="_blank"href="www.dalmaheyn.net">www.dalmaheyn.net</a>. Permission granted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: October 25th, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Kid-Friendly Treat:Jewels in Snow<br>By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Many believe that the gemstone garnet got its name from thepomegranate. The tiny arils of this fruit resemble the garnet'sdeep-red color and shape. This recipe mixes the deep-red arils intocottage cheese creating the look of garnets buried in a blanket ofsnow. Try this simple dish for breakfast. The jewel and snow fillingcan also be spread onto graham crackers or celery sticks for a crunchyafter school snack or meal time side dish.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Ingredients:</span></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>frac12; cup small curd cottage cheese <br>2 tsp honey <br>2 Tbsp pomegranate arils <br>2 tsp ground pecans (optional) <br>2 slices whole grain toast <br><br><b>Directions: </b>Combine the cottage cheese, honey and pomegranatearils in a small bowl. Spread the mixture over the toast. Slice thetoast into 4 triangles and sprinkle with ground pecans. Serve withapple or peach slices.<br><br>Note: Pomegranate arils are a choking hazard for children under 3 yearsold, so this recipe is best suited to children over this age. <br><br>Makes 2 servings.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>About the authors: <b>Cheryl Tallman</b> and <b>Joan Ahlers</b> aresisters, the mothers of five children and founders of Fresh Baby ( <ahref="http://www.FreshBaby.com" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a>). They are the creators of the award-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit andGood Clean Fun Placemats, available at many fine specialty stores andnational chains including Target and Whole Foods Markets. Permissiongranted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: October 9th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Ditch the Negative Drama</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Winn Claybaugh<br><a href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.beniceorelse.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Years ago, a lovely woman who works for me made it almost a dailyritual to tell me all the negative drama and complaints from people atmy business. She truly believed she was doing me a favor, and I thinkshe thought it was a compliment that people brought her their problemsand complaints. <br><br>One day I asked her, "Why are you so available for this information?Why do so many people want to dump their negative drama onto you?"After a long conversation and a reminder about our company's veryeffective and positive system for expressing grievances, she finallyrealized she was <span style="font-style: italic;">not</span> helpingthe individuals work out their problems, she was <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">not</span> bringing me information I coulduse, and she was instead bringing stress and bitterness upon herselfand her coworkers. This lovely woman is now no longer available fornegative gossip and drama.<br><br>To eliminate stress from your workplace, try these four ideas forreplacing stress-producing drama with fun, positive activities. <br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">1. Create a "Caught Ya" board.</span>Whenever a staff member sees a coworker doing something wonderful,they're encouraged to "write them up." A "Caught Ya!" message couldread something like, "To Derrick: Thanks for surprising me by cleaningup the stockroom." Keep preprinted "Caught Ya" cards near your boardand display it in the lunch area or break room where the "spoons"usually hang out-people who are back there stirring things up. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">2.What's on your bulletin board?</span> Take down anything negative andpost stories of hope and inspiration for everyone to see. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">3.Devote time to a favorite charity. </span>Doing something good forsomeone else brings your company together as a team and helpsindividuals step outside their own drama. </font><br><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">4.Give people something to laugh about!</span> It's a medical fact thatstress can lead to ulcers and other unfavorable physical calamities.When people laugh and have fun, their bodies release<spanstyle="font-style: italic;"> endorphins</span>-the ultimate "naturalhigh." Give your team a daily dose of healthfulness by making yourworkplace fun. </font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>As a leader, you have choices in life. You can spend your day lookingfor problems, and guess what you'll find? Or you can spend your daylooking for reasons to celebrate your fellow team members. At the endof the day, you can go home feeling drained, exhausted, and bitterbecause of all the problems you discovered, or you can go home feelingenergized and grateful because you spent your day focusing on thingsthat empower both yourself and your team. The second choice makes you avisionary leader. Which type would you rather be?<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Winn Claybaugh</span> is the author of<span style="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span> and "one ofthe best motivational speakers in the country," according to CNN'sLarry King. A business owner for over 25 years with over 8,000 peoplein his organization, Winn is the co-owner of hair care giant PaulMitchell's school division. Winn has helped thousands of businessesbuild their brands and create successful working cultures. His clientsinclude Southwest Airlines, the Irvine Company, Vidal Sassoon,Entertainment Tonight, Mattel, <span style="font-style: italic;">ForRent</span> magazine, Structure/Limited/Express, and others. Winn is afrequent guest on national radio and a regular contributor to onlinepublications. Visit </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><ahref="http://www.beniceorelse.com/" target="_blank">www.BeNiceOrElse.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> to sign up for his free monthly <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span> newsletter.</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 30th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center> <font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b><strong>TheGraduation Speech Your Kids Really Need To Hear</strong></b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cliff Ennico<br></font><a href="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.creators.com/"target="_blank">www.creators.com</a></font></a></center><p><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Members of the Class of 2009:<br><br> I was sorry to hear that the children's TV show hostwho was to have been your commencement speaker today had to bow out atthe last minute due to an attack of terminal cuteness. I wasdelighted, however, when the Trustees called me about an hour ago andasked me to fill in.<br><br> Now, I've never done this before, and I wasn't givena whole lot of guidance, except that I was told to tell you to "followyour dreams" and "reach for the stars", since there's a federal lawrequiring those statements to be included in all graduation speeches[pause for laughter].<br><br> While I know some of you already have jobs and some,OK most of you, do not, I know that all of you are wondering today whatyour lives are going to be like. I know I did when I sat in oneof these chairs back in 1975. Let me tell you something it'sgoing to be a lot different than you think it will be. As JohnLennon once said, "life is what happens to you when you're making otherplans."<br><br> I have two pieces of news for you, and neither ofthem are fun to talk about, but I feel they must be said, and no bettertime than today. First, whatever dreams most of you hope toaccomplish in your lives, you won't be able to achieve them until youhave achieved some measure of financial security for yourself and yourloved ones. Like many generations before you, unless you wereborn wealthy (and sometimes even then), finding and keeping thatfinancial security will be the primary, if not the only, thing you willspend time on for the next 50 years.<br><br> It gets worse. The second thing is that it hasnever been a more difficult time to make a decent living inAmerica. I'm not just talking about the collapsing banks,bankrupt auto companies, or global warming. I'm talking aboutsome mega-changes in our economy.<br><br> Many of the career paths your parents andgrandparents enjoyed working for large corporations are no longerthere. Oh, many of the corporations are still there, but they'vegot a different outlook than they did in my day. To them, peoplecost money, and you have to keep your costs as low as possible to stayalive. So if you can buy computers to do the work of lots ofpeople, you buy the computers and fire the people. If you musthire people to do a job, because no computer is good enough, you hirethe cheapest people you can in Asia and Latin America. And if youreally must hire Americans, you "outsource" them as independentcontractors rather than employees. That way you don't have to paytheir health insurance.<br><br> The Government won't be there to bail you outeither. Social Security, Medicare and other government programsthat helped your parents and grandparents either won't be there whenyou are ready for them, or they will be so scaled back that only themost poverty-stricken Americans will qualify for them. Hopefullythat won't include any of you [pause for murmuring/dodge vegetables].<br><br> And if you think you can scale back yourexpectations and work in a small, simple business, there's a massivewave of immigrants from Asia, Africa and Latin America who are only toowilling to take the jobs we Americans are too proud to take.<br><br> The terrible truth about your future, ladies andgentlemen, is that there is only one person you can rely on to help youbuild your future and success, and that is you. Sooner or later,you will find yourself running your own business, and you had betterstart preparing for that day now. It may happen next year, it maynot happen until you turn 50. It may be a part-time business, <br><br> Many of you, I'm sorry to say, are totallyunprepared for the challenge. While the American educationalsystem is still, for my money, the best in the world, the sad truth isthat most of you are totally clueless about what business isabout. Far, far too many of you, including even a few Phi BetaKappas and Rhodes Scholars, don't know the difference between revenueand profits, can't balance your checkbook, and couldn't tell thedifference between a balance sheet and an income statement if your lifedepended on it. To be successful in this brave new world, youwill have to learn how business really works on the job, with lots ofself-study, practical experience, and by making a few mistakes.<br><br> Now before you business students start thinking youhave a leg up over your liberal arts classmates, let me tell you thatyour education has been grossly deficient as well. You know a lotabout numbers and spreadsheets, but you don't know diddly about thehuman heart. Make no mistake to be a success in business, youmust be a keen observer of human nature above all else. To knowwhich customers are more willing to buy than others, and whenperceptions of your products and services are changing, is a lot morevaluable to a business than knowing the difference between "accountingprofit" and "economic profit".<br><br> What is probably worst of all, many of the best andbrightest of you have a dim view of business, period. Like manybefore you, you think you are too good for a business career, or thatone has to be unethical, greedy and unscrupulous to be a success. Sadly, it's hard to blame you for that, given all of the recentfinancial scandals, grossly overpaid executives and business' totaldisregard for the environment. But let me assure you that youdon't have to be ruthless, obnoxious, devious or even Republican tosucceed in business [pause for laughter/applause/murmuring/vegetables].<br><br> For those of you who think a business career isn'tchallenging, let me remind you that any activity that generates incomefor you and your family, is a business. If you are a collegeprofessor, getting published and being granted tenure is yourbusiness. If you work for a corporation, staying employed andimpressing the right people every day is your business. If youare an artist, creating works that you know will sell quickly (andpreferably have been paid for in advance) is your business. Whileit's admirable to look at what you do as a calling, if you neglect the"business side" of what you do, you are taking the first baby steps tofailure and ruin.<br><br> I have had the pleasure of working with over 15,000business owners in my career, and they are a more diverse group eventhan you are. They come from all walks of life andbackgrounds, and their personalities are all over the map. Contrary to what you may believe now, there is no such thing as a"success type". The beauty of this wonderful country ofours is that anyone - I mean anyone - can succeed in business with theright training, the right outlook on life, and the determination to dowhat others are too squeamish or hesitant to accomplish.<br><br> So by all means reach for the stars and follow yourdreams, for without faith, hope and passion your business will neversucceed, even if you're as smart as Einstein. <br><br> Just whatever you do, don't run out of money.<br><br><b>Cliff Ennico</b> (<a href="mailto:cennico@legalcareer.com">cennico@legalcareer.com</a>)is a syndicated columnist, author and former host of the PBS televisionseries 'Money Hunt'. This column is no substitute for legal, tax orfinancial advice, which can be furnished only by a qualifiedprofessional licensed in your state. To find out more about CliffEnnico and other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit ourWeb page at <a href="http://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a>.COPYRIGHT 2009 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE,INC. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><br></font><br>
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Tip of the Week: July 16th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Simple Avocado MangoSalad</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Cheryl Tallman<br><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/" target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Ingredients:</span><br> <br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Salad:</span><br>1 avocado, cubed<br>1/2 mango, cubed<br>1 graham cracker, crushed<br> <br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Honey-Lime Dressing:</span><br>2 Tbsp lime juice<br>1 Tbsp rice vinegar<br>1Tbsp Honey<br>1/4 cup olive oil<br> <br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Directions: </span><br>Prepare dressing: In small bowl, whisk all ingredients together. <br>Salad: Arrange avocado and mango cubes on a plate or bowl. Drizzle withdressing. Sprinkle with graham cracker crumbs. Serve.<br>Cheryl Tallman is the co-founder of Fresh Baby, creators of theaward-winning So Easy Baby Food Kit, and author of the <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">So Easy Baby Food Basics: Homemade BabyFood in Less Than 30 Minutes Per Week</span> and <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">So Easy Toddler Food: Survival Tips andSimple Recipes for the Toddler Years</span>. Visit Cheryl online at </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.FreshBaby.com/"target="_blank">www.FreshBaby.com</a></font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> for more delicious tips. </font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font><br><br><br><br>
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Tip of the Week: June 27th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Protect Your Medical Information </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo <br><a href="http://www.sileo.com/" target="_blank">www.Sileo.com</a></center><br><br>Medical records are one-stop shopping for identity thieves. There is no need to slowly gather bits and pieces of someone's personal information - it's all packaged together: Social Security number, name, address, phone number, even payment accounts. <br><br>Crooks have received everything from medication to a liver transplant using a stolen identity. And that's only the tip of the iceberg! More than just medical treatment is at stake. Once a thief's medical information is entered into your records, it's extremely difficult to get rid of that information. It's conceivable, for example, that at a later date, you'll need a Type A blood transfusion but be given the thief's Type B with dire consequences.<br><br>Identity theft of medical records has more than doubled since 2008, as stated in Javelin's 2010 Identity Fraud Survey Report. It's not difficult to imagine the misery that a million Americans have suffered during the past two years when their identities were stolen. And the Poneman Institute, in their National Study on Medical Identity Theft, states that another half million people loaned their insurance cards to uninsured family members and friends. The unsavvy lenders have incurred huge medical bills in this "friendly fraud."<br><br>Larry Ponemon says that, on average, it costs $20,000 to resolve a medical identity theft case. Unlike credit card companies,where the banks incur the losses, the victims often have to pay for the fraudulent care and sometimes lose their health insurance or have to pay higher premiums to restore their accounts. Even though there are HIPAA laws to protect your privacy, not all health care organizations have strict safeguards in place.<br><br>The risk goes even further: if someone is treated using your identity, your medical records will more than likely be altered and could compromise your treatment and ability to get service. According to Larry Ponemon, "stolen medical records offer a complete dossier to get a passport in a victim's name that could be used for terrorism."<br><br><b>Ways to Protect Yourself:</b><ul><li>When you receive an Explanation of Benefits from insurers, read it carefully and save - don't throw it away even when it says "this is not a bill"! If a treatment date or doctor's name is not familiar to you, call the insurer and the billing physician to resolve.<li>If your wallet is stolen, contact your insurance company just as you would your credit card company. Don't carry your Medicare card in your wallet. Carry a photocopy and black out the last four digits of the SS#.<li>Urge your health care providers to ask patients for photo ID's.<li>Ask your doctors for copies of everything in your medical files, even if you have to pay for them.<li>Monitor your credit report. If you see medical billing errors, contact your insurer and the three credit bureaus, TransUnion, Experian, and Equifax.<li>Avoid Internet and storefront offers of free treatment and supplies.<li>Ask for a list of benefits paid in your name and an "accounting of disclosures" which shows who got your records.</ul><b>About the author:</b> To further bulletproof yourself and your business, visit John's blog at <a href="http://www.sileo.com/" target="_blank">www.Sileo.com</a>. To book John at your next event, visit <a href="http://www.thinklikeaspy.com/" target="_blank">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>. John Sileo became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 to identity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department of Defense, Pfizer and the FDIC. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font><br><br><br><br>
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Tip of the Week: August 30th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Four Secrets toSearching the National Archives </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Phil Stewart<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.pwstewart.com">www.pwstewart.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Do you remember the last scene in the 1981 movie Raiders of the LostArk, when the wooden crate containing the Ark of the Covenant was movedinto that huge limitless warehouse for storage? <br><br>After recently completing a short very informal survey, that scene fromthe movie is what a majority folks think of when they are asked todescribe the U.S. National Archives. Scary, isn't it. Properly called the National Archives and Records Administration(NARA), located in Washington, D.C., the National Archives is thenation's record keeper. The latest estimates, nobody is sure ofthe exact total, show that the NARA has in its custody approximately:<br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> billions (that's the official estimate) of machine-readable data sets.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> 9 billion pages of textualrecords. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> 20 million still photographs. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> 7.2 million maps, charts, andarchitectural drawings. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> 365,000 reels of motion picturefilm.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> 110,000 videotapes.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">All of these materials arepreserved because they are important to the workings of the Government,have long-term research worth, or provide information of value to you -the U.S. citizen. <br><br>In an effort to allow enhanced access to many of these holdings, NARAdeveloped the online Archival Research Catalog (ARC). This is thelatest Web-based research tool that provides a portal to the contentand physical descriptions of all its archival holdings. Thestated goal is to have 95 percent of NARA's records input into ARC by2016. At this time, about two-thirds of the holdings have beenloaded into this digital super-catalog, but not all of these entrieshave comprehensive descriptions. <br><br>Obviously then, ARC is far from complete. It's dynamic, withcontent updates all the time. A subject that you researchone week may have no hits and then have hundreds the next time you do asearch. In addition, ARC is not as easy to use as your favoriteWeb browser, and it has been known to be rather obstinate. Itdoes not have as much "fuzzy logic" as I would think it should have,but maybe that will be part of the next software upgrade. The ARCmain webpage, <a target="_blank"href="http://www.archives.gov/research/arc">www.archives.gov/research/arc</a>,has much more detailed information for your review.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">ARC Search Tips</span><br><br>Let's say you wanted to do some research on Charles Lindbergh, thefirst aviator to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in 1927. If youload that term in the ARC search box on the webpage noted above, you'llend of with a list of 126 items. Before you start the laborious processof scanning each one of the listings, I would suggest you try theselittle known search tips. <br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">1.After you get your first list of results, find and select the "RefineSearch" button near the top of the page. This will bring up the"Archival Descriptions Advanced Search" page. Set the "LimitResults" button to 2,000 to ensure that you get the greatest number ofhits during your refined search.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">2. Now select the "HighlightSearch Terms" box. This will highlighted in yellow the matchingwords in your search criteria. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">3. Scroll down the page until youfind a section called "Type of Archival Materials." You haveeight choices to pick from which will reduce the scope of thesubsequent search; and yes, you can check more than one. In thisexample, let's say you're interested in historical film footage ofLindy for that video production you're editing, so you'd deselect allthe types listed except for "Moving Images." This will narrow your nextset of search results to motion picture and video items. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">4. Then click on the "Searchbutton" and you should find a list of 77 film titles for your review.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>So, whatever you're looking for in the NARA, try using ARC to find it.If you use the four secrets mentioned above you'll have a better thanaverage chance of finding what you are looking for, if it exists in theracks and stacks of the National Archives.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Phil Stewart</span> is aretired Air Force officer, specializing in the videoproduction. He then opened a video production company, worked asa television director, and currently manages a multimediafacility. Mr. Stewart volunteers as a motion picture filmresearcher for the National Museum of the U.S. Air Force. He'sauthored four books and three articles on the motionpicture films held within the National Archives. Visit </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.pwstewart.com">www.pwstewart.com</a> </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">for more information. Permissiongranted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: December 27th, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Frugal Winter Fun with Kids </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Sara Noel</center><br> <br>Winter is upon us. The kids get cabin fever quickly when their outside free time is limited. You're looking for some fun things to do before you all start climbing the walls. You don't need a wallet full of cash to enjoy the cold, snowy days. There are all kinds of frugal ways to enjoy the winter season together both indoors and outdoors. Here are a few frugal boredom busters to have as your 911 "plan" for the winter blahs.<br><br><b>Outdoor Fun</b><ol><li><b> Homemade Snowman Kit</b><br>It's just not winter fun without building a snowman. Assemble a snowman kit to have handy. Your kit can contain the following:A hat, scarf, mittens, plastic carrot nose, charcoal briquettes, (place in plastic baggie) buttons, and can add two dowels or branches for arms.<br><br><li><b> Obstacle Courses or Winter Olympics</b><br>Jump over the mounds of snow or have relay races.<br><br><li><b> Snow Paint</b><br>Mix food coloring and water and add to spray water bottles and spray the snow to make colorful works of art outside.<br><br><li><b> Homemade Bird Feeder and Bird Identification</b><br> Need large pine cones, peanut butter, and birdseed. Add peanut butter to pine cones and roll in birdseed. Keep a journal of birds in your yard. Can borrow a field guide from your local library.<br><br><li><b> Snow Ice Cream</b><br>Mixing together a quart of milk, an egg, 1 cup sugar, frac14; teaspoon salt, and 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract in a pan. Cook on stove top until mixtures thicken and cool to room temperature. Pour this mixture over fresh snow.<br><br><b>Or</b><br><br>3 cups loose clean snow<br>2 Tablespoons milk<br>frac14; cup sugar<br>1 tsp. vanilla extract<br>Mix all the ingredients.<br><br><li><b> Snow Golf</b><br>Use a tin can buried in the snow for the holes or just carve out holes in the snow.<br><br><li><b> Winter Photography</b><br>Take pictures of nature. Icicles, birds, trees, etc.<br><br><li><b> Identify Tracks in the Snow</b><br>Check out a book from your local library on animal tracks.</ol><b>Indoor Fun</b><ol><li><b> Paper Snowflakes</b><br><a href="http://www3.ns.sympatico.ca/dstredulinsky/links.html" target="_blank">http://www3.ns.sympatico.ca/dstredulinsky/links.html</a><br><br><li><b> Paper Airplanes</b><br><a href="http://www.bestpaperairplanes.com/" target="_blank">http://www.bestpaperairplanes.com/</a><br><br><li><b> Make a Snow Gauge</b><br>Mark inch lines on a coffee can or plastic liter bottle with the top cut off and setting it outside to catch snow in.<br><br><li><b> Mister Grass Head</b><br>Materials Needed:<br>nylon knee stocking<br>Grass Seeds<br>Potting Soil<br>Baby Food Jar<br>Wiggle Eyes or glass paint/markers<br><br>Using hosiery, place some grass seeds in the toe which is where you want the grass to grow. The hosiery is the head and the excess will be placed in the baby food jar to soak up water. The toe of the hose is the head and the grass will look like hair as it grows. The baby food jar is the body. Add some potting soil in the end of the hosiery on top of the seeds. Make sure the hosiery of seeds and soil is bigger than the opening of the baby food jar.<br><br>Tie a knot in the hosiery to keep the seeds and soil in. Completely soak the soil/seed ball. Place the hosiery in a baby food jar filled with water making sure the head is above the mouth of the jar.Decorate the jar to look like Mister Grass Head's clothes and add a face onto the head.<br><br><li><b> Smores</b><br>Indoor Smores<br>1/3 Cup light corn syrup<br>1 Tablespoon. butter<br>1 (12 oz.) package chocolate chips<br>4 cups honey graham cereal<br>1 frac12; cups miniature marshmallows<br>Bring corn syrup and butter to boil. Lower heat and add chocolate.Stir until chocolate melts. Add cereal and marshmallows and stir. Put in square pan, covered with foil. Let set and cut into bars.<br><br><li><b> Shadow Drawing</b><br>Take brown grocery bags and tape together until you have enough paper to be the same size as your child. Have your child lie down on the paper bags and trace your child's outline. Your child can then color her "shadow" drawing to look anyway she wants.<br><br><li><b> Homemade Toys</b><br>Decorate a paper towel tube. Paper punch a hole about an inch from the end. Now tie a mason jar ring to a piece of string about one foot long. Attach and tie the loose end of the string through the hole in the cardboard tube. Hold the tube and flip the ring up and try to catch it onto the tube.<br><br>Or<br><br>Try taking a plastic, Styrofoam, or paper cup and poking a small hole in the bottom, running a piece of yarn through and tying it securely in place and adding a large button on the loose end. Catch the button in the cup.<br><br><li><b> Bubbles in the Bathtub</b><br>How fun to blow bubbles indoors. Here are some homemade recipes:<a href="http://www.bubbleblowers.com/homemade.html" target="_blank">http://www.bubbleblowers.com/homemade.html</a><br><br><li><b> Homemade Bowling</b><br>Use empty water bottles or coffee creamer containers as the pins and find a spare ball to roll.<br><br><li><b> Indoor Snowball Fight</b><br>Wad up newspaper balls and have a snowball war inside.<br><br><li><b> Homemade Hot Cocoa</b><br>Nothing beats the winter chills away after a day of snow fun outdoors than hot cocoa. Make your own with this recipe. <br>2 Cups nonfat dry milk<br>1 Cup white sugar<br>frac12; Cup cocoa<br>frac12; Cup non-dairy creamer<br>1 pinch of salt<br>Miniature marshmallows<br><br>Combine ingredients and mix well. Store in an airtight container. Add4 tablespoons of mix to a mug and add boiling water. Stir.<br><br><li><b> Window Fun</b><br>Crayola Window Writers are a product that writes and easily washes off of windows. Can also purchase spray snow for windows.</ol>Sara Noel is a freelance writer and the Editor/Publisher of <a href="http://www.FrugalVillage.com" target="_blank">http://www.FrugalVillage.com</a>, <a href="http://www.HomesteadGarden.com" target="_blank"> http://www.HomesteadGarden.com</a> and <a href="http://www.Homekeeping101.com" target="_blank">http://www.Homekeeping101.com</a> Visit these sites for information on getting back to basics through frugality, gardening, organizing, home keeping, lost arts, simplicity, homesteading, and natural family living. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 5th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Purchasing andPreparing Lamb:<br>The Basics You Need To Know<br></b></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Provided by theAmerican Lamb Board<br><a href="http://www.americanlamb.com/" target="_blank">americanlamb.com</a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> <br><br>The family is coming over for a festive spring dinner but you don'twant to serve yet another casserole#133;How about Lamb? It seems soelegant, but it really is easy, especially if you are armed with thebasics.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">What To Look For When Purchasing Lamb:</span><br><br>Lamb is widely available in grocery stores and gourmet food retailersacross the country. When shopping, look for American Lamb as ittypically yields more meat on the bone than imported lamb. Also, mostAmerican lamb is fed mixed grains and grasses giving the meat a milderflavor than its European counterparts. When shopping for a cut, lookfor meat that has a soft pink to red coloring with white marbling.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">How to Store/Freeze Lamb:</span><br><br>Fresh lamb should be stored in the refrigerator or freezer immediatelyafter purchasing. Refrigerate fresh lamb at 40 degrees Fahrenheit orbelow. Ground lamb or stew meat should be used within 2 days. Lambchops and roasts should be used within 3 to 5 days. If you plan tofreeze lamb for long periods of time, be sure to wrap the originalpackaging with airtight freezer wrap or place in an airtight freezerbag to prevent freezer burn. To maintain optimum quality, frozen lambshould be used within 3 to 4 months.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">How to Thaw Frozen Lamb:</span><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">In the refrigerator - oncefrozen lamb has thawed in the refrigerator, lamb roasts and chopsshould be used within 3 to 5 days and ground lamb or stew meat shouldbe used within 1 to 2 days.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">In cold water - leave frozenlamb in its packaging, making sure it is air tight. If not, transfer itto a leak-proof bag. Keep the lamb submerged in cold water, changingthe water every 30 minutes to continue thawing. Cook lamb immediatelyafter thawing. It should not be re-frozen unless cooked first.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">In the microwave - As withthe cold water method, when frozen lamb is thawed in the microwave, itmust be cooked immediately. It should not be re-frozen unless cookedfirst.</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">CookingLamb:</span><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">For those that don't have alot of experience cooking with lamb, determining when it is done is thebiggest challenge. An overcooked rack of lamb is an expensive mistakeand carving into an undercooked roast can be an embarrassment at adinner party. Don't rely on guesswork - a good meat thermometer willprovide reliable results. DO NOT cut into a roast or chop to checkdoneness. Use an instant read thermometer to give you a quick, accuratereading.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Lamb, like any cut of meat,always benefits from rest before serving - the rest allows the meat'sjuices to settle. Give thin cuts like chops five minutes before servingand allow 20 minutes before carving roasts. Keep in mind, as the meatrests, its internal temperature typically rises 5 to 10 degrees. Removelamb from cooking heat when the thermometer reads 5 to 10 degrees lessthan your desired temperature.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">To ensure lamb remains safethroughout cooking, the USDA makes recommendations for safe cookingtemperatures. </font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">For recipes and approximatecooking times for use in meal planning, visit </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.americanlamb.com/"target="_blank">americanlamb.com</a>.</font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2"> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 13th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Five Ways to FeelEmpowered During Challenging Times</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Anne Mattos-Leedom<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.netconnectpublicity.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.netconnectpublicity.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Times are tough. Everyone isstruggling one way or another. Perhaps you are being beaten down by theeconomy. You may be watching everything you have built over the yearsslip away. Or you could be one of the millions today who live inconstant fear as you hang on by just a small thread every day. <br><br>There is a trickle affect this challenging economy brings to our lives.Relationships with our partners become more stressed as money becomestight and depression and stress fill the air. We can't provide the besteducation and other opportunities for our children and we may be facinga retirement in which we will still be working long after we had hopedto slow down.<br><br>All of these fears and stresses add up to an ongoing dread that peopleare facing every day, and in many cases it brings a loss of hope aboutthe future that many have never faced before. Coping with thisemotional trauma is the most important priority we all face. When weare depressed and frightened it is hard to be effective in any part ofour lives. Here are five strategies to help you cope and find strengthduring these challenging times.<br></font><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Surround yourself with positive people.</span>This is getting harder and harder to do, granted, However, there arepeople who, in spite of their circumstances, forge ahead and find waysto approach each day with optimism and excitement. You may have fewerfriends if you follow this strategy, but the ones you have will liftyou up and motivate you daily.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Do something you love everyday.</span> Forme, I couldn't cope without my music. Going for a drive each morningand listening to music fills my soul, reminds me what I care about andgives me the motivation I need to pursue my life every day with focusand enthusiasm.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Stay organized.</span> When things getdifficult it is very easy to lose track of everything. Time, paperwork,schedules, appointments and even people all seem to fall into a blackhole, simply adding to our frustration. Don't let chaos become your newbest friend. Stay clear and keep your life, professionally andpersonally organized. Nothing is more draining than spending hourstrying to find something essential that has been misplaced, orreestablish connections that have been damaged due to living our livesin havoc.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Get Up and Move.</span> While exercise isideal and essential at all times, during emotional stress it is moreimportant than ever to move our bodies. Research is clear that movingyour body releases chemicals that make it easier to cope with stress.Work with your circumstances, not against them. A simple walk or a gameof Wii can work wonders to keep your mood up.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Give Yourself a Break.</span> It really isok that things are not going as you had planned in life. Your financesand circumstances may have changed drastically, but if you can find theopportunities in the darkness, you may discover a new life you willlove even more. Relationships do change, but they can change for thebetter. Most challenges bring wonderful new choices. If you allowyourself to let go of what has happened and give yourself permission tolook for a new and different life, you may find that everything IShappening for a reason. You will see that it all really will be ok inthe long run. </font></li></ol><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">We can't control the journey butwe can always control how we experience the journey. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Anne Mattos-Leedom</span> is theFounder of </font><font><a target="_blank"href="http://www.netconnectpublicity.com/"><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">www.netconnectpublicity.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">, a premier online placement agency forexperts and authors. She is also the publisher of <a target="_blank"href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/">www.parentingbookmark.com</a>,a national parenting website for raising kids who care. She lives inNorthern California</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 24th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center> <font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b><strong>GrandparentsMake A Big Difference in<br>Today's Challenging World</strong></b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Nancy Carlsson-Paige<br><a href="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</a></font></center><p><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Our adult children don't alwayswant to hear parenting advice from us, their own parents. Theywant to do it their own way, which makes a lot of sense to me. Ithink where we grandparents make a difference is in the relationshipswe have with our grandchildren. How we interact with them, whatwe do together, and the activities we encourage them to do can make acritical difference in their lives, especially today.<br><br>Our grandkids are growing up in a world vastly different from the oneour own kids grew up in. These days, a host of social forces and trendsis putting tremendous pressure on children: Here are just a few.<br><br>1. Entertainment media are too often replacing active, child-centeredplay and social time with peers and family. Constant depictions ofviolence, aggression, and disrespect towards others are immersing kidsin a world where "might makes right." <br><br>2. Aggressive marketing campaigns aimed at kids are pushing a host ofproducts, toys and values on children, teaching them to value "having"over "being" from an early age and to grow up too fast. <br><br>3. Economic and time pressures on parents are leading them to quick-fixapproaches to discipline and to rely on "electronic babysitters" likeTV's, Game Boys, and X-Boxes. <br><br>4. An overemphasis on standardized tests in our schools is robbingchildren of genuine learning opportunities and resulting in the loss ofunstructured play, arts activities, and social time, all of which areessential to their well being. <br><br>Childhood is eroding out from under our grandkids, but we grandparentscan do a lot to get it back. When we have time with our grandchildren,we can offer them activities and relationships that will help restorethe healthy aspects of childhood they are losing out on. We canbring out things to do that will encourage their creativity and healthyplay: open-ended materials like building toys, paper and markers,playdough, collage materials and found objects. <br><br>We can scrap the toys linked to media, the Bratz dolls, the coloringbooks--all of the activities that encourage our grandkids to imitatethe scripts they've seen in the media that limit their imaginations andinhibit the telling of their own stories.<br><br>We can be mindful too, of the nature of our relationships with ourgrandchildren. We can be a presence in their lives, a person whoaccepts them deeply, without judgment or expectations, someone wholistens completely with an open mind and compassion. <br><br>We can take time to ask our grandkids questions that encourage them totalk and to show us more deeply who they are. When we need themto do certain things, we can approach these tasks like players on thesame team: "We have to get the playdough off the table now. How can we do that?" In this way, we can engage our grandkids insolving problems <span style="font-style: italic;">with</span> us,showing them an alternative to the coercive approaches they see allaround them, inviting them to experience with us a more mutual way ofbeing in relationships.<br></font></p><p><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">NancyCarlsson-Paige's</span> most recent book is <astyle="font-style: italic;" target="_blank"href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Dapsamp;field-keywords=Taking+Back+Childhood%3A++Helping+Your+Kids+Thrive+in+a+Fast-Paced%2C+Media-Saturated%2C+Violence-Filled+World.++amp;x=0amp;y=0">TakingBack Childhood: Helping Your Kids Thrive in a Fast-Paced,Media-Saturated, Violence-Filled World</a>. For more informationvisit </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><ahref="http://www.nancycarlssonpaige.org/" target="_blank">www.nancycarlssonpaige.org</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: September 20th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Fire Season is Here: <br>Is it Time to Evacuate?</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Larry Koman<br><a href="http://www.disasters911.com/" target="_blank">www.disasters911.com</a> </center><br><br>On August 30th, 2009, 5 people were stranded in the Station Fire area in Los Angeles after they refused to obey an evacuation order. The Sheriff Helicopter was unable to reach them to pull them out before fire roared through the cannon. This could happen to you. It's the California Fire Season, and if you think it's over, guess again. The Santa Anna winds normally start toward the end of September and can go on into November. With not much rain last year and a long hot summer, thousands of acres are potential infernos. These people were eventually rescued at after the fire passed and other resources were diverted for their recovery but others may not be so lucky. <br><br>So, what should you do if you're told to evacuate? The answer is simple. GET OUT! If you disobey an evacuation order and get stranded, you unnecessarily put a lot of Firefighters lives at risk and there is no guarantee that they will be able to rescue you. Your family can replace things. They can build a new home; get a new car, by new furniture. They can't replace you. <br><br>We all understand the desire to defend your property. But when an evacuation order is given for your neighborhood, you need to pack up and get out. Take only what you can reasonably and safely transport. Focus on pictures, important documents, i.e. birth certificates, social security cards, marriage licenses, deeds, etc. Take clothes for all family members for at least several days. Take medications for anyone in the family that needs them. Take personal care items such as toothbrushes, hair and shaving supplies etc. Take any mementos that cannot be replaced. Don't forget the family pets and their food. Dogs and cats may be hiding from the smoke, heat, and noise. Look for your pets where they might hide. If you can't find them and have to leave, leave them food and water where they would look for it. <br><br>The Fire Management people will do everything they can to protect your home but if they have to dedicate resources to finding people that violated the evacuation order; it takes away from other firefighting efforts that may help protect homes. Yes, you may lose your home. The weight of that is enormous but we have to think in terms of survival and recovery. Make sure your family is safe. Make sure your kids know what's going on and what is being done. Try to be strong for them. If you are upset and worried, they will be upset and worried. If you are strong and courageous, they will be too. <br><br>Here are some things you can be doing during the long hours of waiting and not knowing. <ul><li> Get to shelter. If you can, you should get to a hotel or family or friends house. Reduce the demand on emergency shelters. <li> Check in regularly with the Command Post for your area for updates and announcements<li> If you have a list of you're the contents in your home, review it and make sure it's up to date. If you don't have a list, sit down and start making one. This can be a good family project. <li> Contact your insurance company. If you have a local agent, let them know where you are and what the status of your home is. There should be some provision for helping you with the extra expenses associated with being barred from your home. <li> Care for your family. This is a horrific time for all of your family, especially kids and pets. Take time to comfort them and insure that they are dealing with the crisis </ul>Don't be a statistic. Be prepared. If a fire looks like it might impact you, get a head start. Be prepared to go and be safe until it's time to go home. <br><br>Larry Koman is a Certified Property and Casualty Underwriter and a Licensed California General Contractor with more than 20 years experience inspecting and rebuilding homes damaged by fire, earthquake, and other disasters. For more information visit <a href="http://www.disasters911.com/" target="_blank">www.disasters911.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 17th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Character First; Designer Jeans Last </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Anne Leedom</center><br><br>Kids today are very fortunate. They have so many activities to choose from compared to what was available thirty years ago. However, parents might be cautioned to take a moment and decide#133;.is it really in your child's best interest that she take on the next round of activities? Does your child need the expensive items? Do you really have your child's best interest at heart? Let's take a look at what the experts say. <br><br>Research is very clear on this one. Kids who are taught the virtues of empathy, compassion and self-control#133;those are the kids that succeed. They succeed in relationships, academically, and financially. So, next time you are thinking of what to nurture in your child, think character first. These guidelines can help your child get the most of their activities without compromising the most important goals parents have#133;.teaching their kids to do the right thing.<ul><li> <b>Set limitations in your household. </b> It's all too common to hear what other kids have or get to do. However, we each need to decide in our own homes what is appropriate and best and then stick to it. <br><br><li> <b>Have your children earn their own spending money. </b> They will scale down their wish list to affordable quantities and bargains. Children will reason: 'I can't afford this, but I can afford that#133; Life is about learning to make wise choices. <br><br><li> <b>Fill Kids Up From the Inside Out. </b> Your children may be telling you that they feel empty inside, that they need artificial stimulation because they are hungry#151;hungry for you, the strong family unit. Talk to them more. Do activities together (not shopping). Make sure to have a family dinner hour to listen to them- try to listen more and only speak unless asked to. The best gift is yourself and your time. <br><br><li> <b>Do volunteer work with your children. </b> Let them see the internal side of life, not merely the external, and how they can make a positive contribution<br><br><li> <b>Exercise with your children. </b> Exercising will help children get rid of stress, raise their endorphins and make them happier. <br><br><li> <b>Encourage creative expression. </b> This can be through writing, painting, music, sculpting, carving, cooking, etc. Original thinking will encourage children to become nonconformists, take the road less traveled by and therefore not need the validation of looking like everyone else. Fashion and materialism are expressions of personal style; encourage your children to develop their individual style. </ul>I will be the first to say that money is a nice thing to have. It's a wonderful thing to provide well for your kids and enjoy the perks of life if you can. Just remember to incorporate a steady and consistent dose of gratitude and self-control, or the benefits you many be trying to give your child can actually come back to haunt them#133;and you. <br><br>Anne Leedom is the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of <a href="http://www.parentingbookmark.com/" target="_blank">www.parentingbookmark.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 20th, 2007
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Organize Your Communication </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></center><br><br> We all know that organizing your day will increase your productivity. It allows you to keep a record of things that you need to do and prioritize them to make better use of your time. It keeps you on track and helps you to organize your day. A planner is an essential tool for the busy woman whether she has a business, a career or an active household! <br><br> But, how many times have you had to return a phone call and forgot to mention an important point? Have you ever had a hard time formulating your thoughts in a letter? Did you ever email anyone and come to find out that they didn't quite understand what you were asking? And then, how much of your time was spent trying to clear up that communication? <br><br> We all know that effective communication is important, but what does that really mean in practical terms for busy women? Here are some tips that I use to help me make the most out of my communication. <ol><li> <b> Phone Calls</b><br> Before you dial that number, make some notes on a piece of paper to remind you of the points you wish to address. Don't write complete sentences, but rather write a bulletized list so that it is easy to refer to while you are talking. <br><br>Write the person's name at the top and, if this call is for business, some notes about that person that you remember. Have you ever called someone and, while it was ringing, forgot who you were calling? This technique helps with those 'senior moments . Good communicators are great listeners and your notes can help you communicate that you were listening to them when they mentioned that their Aunt Sally was in the hospital last week. How? Because you will remember to ask how Aunt Sally is doing! <br><br><li> <b> Use an Outline</b><br> Before you write anything (a letter, an email, a report or an article), you must organize your thoughts. The best way to do this is to use an outline. This ensures that your thoughts are complete, presented in a logical order and are easy to understand before you begin to write. You will notice that the writing goes much more smoothly when you do this too! An added bonus for those of you who don't like writing as much as I do! <br><br>I can always tell when someone didn't organize their thoughts before hitting the keyboard or picking up that pencil because their communication is a jumble of disjointed ideas that hit you from all angles and leave you wondering. <br><br> A confused mind will not act. If you have confused your Uncle Edward, he might not understand that you want him to watch the kids next Tuesday night. If you have confused your boss, she may not give you that project or that corner office you were trying to ask for. And if you confuse your customer, he will not buy from you! <br><br><li> <b> Email</b><br>Now that you have organized your thoughts, make your email posts easier to read by organizing their appearance! Remember that we live in a microwave society. People don't want to read a 6000 word essay on what you have done today#133;especially if it is all one big paragraph! <ul><li> Keep in mind to whom your email is going. If it is to an entire group of people, make sure that this is something you wish to release to the general population. As you type, keep in mind that the group may be diverse in their religious or political beliefs so tailor your message appropriately so you can say what you mean!<li> Remember that your words are the only things your audience will have to help them understand what you are trying to say. They cannot see your smiling face or hear your sweet voice to help them understand where you are coming from. Choose your words wisely. <li> Make each new thought a new paragraph.<li> Use bullets or numbers in list format to make it easier for people to scan- because they will scan!<li> Watch your spelling, grammar and punctuation to make sure that you are not asking your reader to strain a brain cell trying to figure out what that word is.<li> Read over your message before you hit the send button to make sure that you haven't missed something that might make your communication confusing or that doesn't represent the tone you wanted your message to have.</ul><br> <li> <b> Presentations</b><br>It is generally acceptable to carry notes or index cards up with you when you are making a presentation of almost any sort. What is not acceptable is to read it verbatim while holding the cards up in front of you obscuring your face. Organize yourself for your presentation.<ul><li> Know your audience. Consider what they value most and what they would like to know about you topic before you begin. Tailor your presentation to the average audience member, but leave room for the feelings and values of the others to whom you will be speaking. <li> Make sure that your notes are written like we talked about earlier for your phone conversations. Don't write complete sentences or you will be tempted to read them instead of refer to them. <li> If you use index cards, please number them. In case you accidentally drop them, you can quickly re-order them and go on with your presentation. <li> Prepare for your presentation by going over it several times until you become familiar with the flow without having to refer much to your notes. <li> Make sure you have any props or charts ready before hand and that you have worked with them during your preparation. Many is the time a presenter rushed out the door without the manuals they were going to hand out during the meeting or found that the had a hard time working with the 3 foot by 3 foot rice paper poster they planned on standing up on the table during their talk.<li> Walk the room. If you are unfamiliar with the room in which you will be speaking, arrive a few minutes early and walk through it to get a feel for how you will be presenting. Does it have a microphone? Does it need one? </ul></ol><br>A little organization and preparation goes a long way toward making your communication more clear! It will be less stressful for you, less frustrating for your audience and give you the best chance over-all to say what you mean. Happy communicating! <br><br>JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication and is the author of the <b>Say What You Mean</b> series of studies on effective communication skills. JoJo is a frequent speaker in the homeschool community, teaches seminars/classes based on her work, and has written various articles for publication. She has just released a new e-book written just for small business owners called <b>Say What You Mean When You're in Business</b>. JoJo lives in Southern California with her husband and two children. If you would like more information on JoJo or her studies, please visit <a href="http://www.artofeloquence.com" target="_blank">www.artofeloquence.com</a> Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: May 8th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Our Kids Love Being The Water. How Can We Make It Safe?</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Armin Brott</center><br><br><i>Dear Mr. Dad: My kids, who are 3 and 5, absolutely love being in the water#151;swimming, boating, floating, soaking. And with summer just around the corner, I know they're itching to get into their swimsuits. What can we do to make sure our house is as safe as possible? </i><br><br><b>A: </b>Any activity in or around the water, whether it's swimming, water skiing, or even wading, can be a huge amount of fun for little kids. But activities like these are potentially dangerous too, especially for kids. <br><br>The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission estimates that 350 children under five years of age drown each year in swimming pools, many at their own homes. Another 2,600 children under age five are treated in hospital emergency rooms each year following some kind of submersion incident. Sometimes the result is permanent brain damage. <br><br>There's no way to make the water 100% safe for small children, but there are some steps you can take to significantly reduce the risks. Let's start with a few general rules: <ul><li> Watch your kids (and everyone else's) closely when they're playing near any unfenced water-filled area.<li> Never allow them into the water or into a boat without a life preserver. Life preservers should have a floatation collar to keep the head upright and the face out of the water.<li> Learn CPR (Cardio Pulmonary Resuscitation) and know how to get emergency help. <li> Anytime you're around water, whether it's the bathroom, a swimming pool, a spa, a hot tub, or even a big puddle, always stay within an arm's length from the child. The water does NOT need to be deep for a child to be able to drown in it. </ul><b>Bathrooms</b><ul><li> Don't leave your bathroom door open if your child is old enough to stroll in by himself. If possible, lock the door from the outside so it can't be opened by a child.<li> If you have a baby who can't sit by herself, make sure you have a supporting ring device for your tub. But even with a ring, NEVER leave your baby alone#151;even for a second.</ul><b>Swimming Pools and spas</b><ul><li> Teach your kids to swim. A good time to start lessons is when the kids are about five. If you want to start earlier than that, do so only if you're absolutely sure the instructor is trained to handle toddlers. Don't make the mistake of thinking that once your child has learned to swim it's okay to leaver her alone. Constant supervision in and around the water is a must, no matter how old the child or how good a swimmer she is.<li> Never throw your child into the water (or let anyone else do so either). It may be fun, but it can also be disorienting#151;and dangerous#151;for small children.<li> If you have a pool at home, put up a fence at least around 4 feet high around it. Use gates that self-close and self-latch, with latches higher than your kids can reach. And keep stools or anything else a child could climb on away from the fence. <li> Anyone watching your child around a pool should know how to swim and know how to perform CPR. Keep a life preserver, hook, flotation devices, a telephone, and emergency numbers near the pool too. <li> Always make sure that children with long hair either wear a bathing cap or pin their hair up. Hair can get sucked into drains and drown a child faster than you might think. If a drain cover is missing or broken, don't use the pool or spa until you replace the cover.<li> In the off season, keep the pool well -covered, even if it's empty#151;falling into an empty pool can be as dangerous as falling into a full one. And check the cover for water build-up too. Spas should also be covered and locked. <li> Always empty your baby pool as soon as you're through it. Store it upside down to dry, but keep an eye on your infant to make sure he doesn't crawl underneath and get trapped.</ul>And finally, before you or anyone else gets into a pool or the open water, have an action plan ready in case of an emergency. Know how to get help and what to do until it arrives. Enjoy your summer!<br><br><b>Armin Brott</b>, hailed by <i>Time</i> as 'the superdad's superdad, has written or co-written six critically acclaimed books on fatherhood, including the newly released second edition of <i>Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years</i>. His articles have appeared in The <i>New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, American Baby, Parenting, Child, Men's Health, The Washington Post</i> among others. Armin is an experienced radio and TV guest, and has appeared on <i>Today, CBS Overnight, Fox News, and Politically Incorrect</i>. He's the host of 'Positive Parenting, a weekly radio program in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit Armin at <a href="http://www.mrdad.com/" target="_blank">www.mrdad.com</a>. Permission granted on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 8th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Pets On A Budget</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">by Jonni McCoy<br><a href="http://www.miserlymoms.com" target="_blank">www.miserlymoms.com</a></center><br><br>Getting a family pet can be one of the most rewarding things for a child. The pet provides companionship, entertainment and exercise. But sometimes the wrong pet for the family style and needs can be disastrous. <br><br>Many pets require a certain type of care. Some dogs, for example, require more money as well as physical interaction and attention. Without proper attention, they can start to act strangely, chewing up things and sometimes even biting or growling. Some other mammals, especially the small ones, don't demand as much and may be better suited for certain people. The smaller mammals, such as rats, rabbits, hamsters, and guinea pigs, are not only less demanding, but also less expensive to care for. Food can be homemade healthy items such as vegetables, grains and fruit. And vet bills are usually minimal. <br><br><b>How does one decide if they can afford a pet? </b><br>When deciding if you can launch into this addition to the family, don't forget to factor in the pet's love it will provide in return. This is something no one can put a price tag on. After deciding what the initial purchase fee will be, the prospective owner must look at food, vet bills, cage (if required), and any accessories that may be needed. <br><br>Another consideration is if your family is away from home much. Will pet sitting be a regular expense? A dog can cost $13,000 over it's lifetime. A third of that goes to food, and another third for the vet bills. The other third is spent on training, collars leashes, toys, etc. A cat will cost significantlyless, with small mammals, reptiles and fish trailing behind. <br><br>Vet bills can be an expense we forget to plan for. The average family spends between $100 and $350 per year on their pet. Those unexpected expenses like broken legs, etc. are just things we have to plan for. <br><br>There are ways to cut some of the routine vet expenses. Here are a few: <ul><li> Ask around at pet stores if they host a mobile vaccine clinic in the area. These are usually 75% cheaper than a vet office visit. <li> Ask around what vet prices are. They vary greatly. <li>Practice good health and hygiene. This preventative measure can save hundreds of dollars. <li> Healthy food is one of the most important items pets need. Cheap food may not have the right amount of protein or essential oils that theyneed. Do some research on your pet's needs.<li> Get videos from the library on dental cleaning grooming, and clipping at home. <li>Get books at the library on simple home remedies for common ailments.</ul> Food can be an overwhelming expense if you have a large and active animal, such as a dog. There are ways to get around this expense if you are creative. These have helped us in the past: <ul><li>Buy in bulk quantities at discount pet superstores.<li>Avoid buying food from the vet. Their brands are good, but the mark upis high. Excellent quality pet food is available for less at most large pet stores.<li> Don't over feed the animal.<li> Learn to make some of their food - this is easier than you think. Most recipe are simple and can be made in bulk. That last suggestion may surprise you. When we lived in Nigeria and Pakistan we didn't have the luxury of a supermarket, or canned pet food.<br><br>Instead, we made all of our pet's feed. It is simple, healthy and very inexpensive. It sometimes is better food than store-bought pet food. </ul> For dog food, we boiled some meat and a bone with some rice and herbs. We would add some healthy oils (olive oil, etc.) to the mix for the dog's coat and skin. <br><br>For a cat, we chopped a few teaspoons of fish, chicken, or egg yolk and mixed it with a tablespoon of cooked rice or oats, a teaspoon of milk or sour cream and a little oil for its coat. <br><br>There are several recipe books in the library with various meals to make for pets. You can even make your own dry pet food. Whichever pet you choose, taking care of them shouldn't break the bank. <br><br>Good basic feeding and loving care should help them go a long way. <br><br>Jonni McCoy and her family live in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She is the author of Miserly Moms, Frugal Families - Making the Most of Your Hard-Earned Money, and Miserly Meals. You can visit her website at <a href="http://www.miserlymoms.com" target="_blank">www.miserlymoms.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: October 25th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Finding Closure When aRelationship Suddenly Ends</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Dalma Heyn<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Charles left Miranda one day after a six-month love affair, with nosatisfactory explanation. He just announced, during a good solid startat long-term love, "Sorry, Miranda, I guess this isn't working" -- saidit not even kindly, at that. He wasn't interested in hearing whyMiranda thought that in fact it was working, quite wonderfullyactually; that it was a relationship and relationships needed a littleworking out now and again. No, he didn't want to hear it. For him, itwas over. So was all discussion on the topic. <br><br>It always seems unthinkable, this scenario in which a lover leavesabruptly; runs you over like a train, as if you were just something tobe left on the side of the curb like road kill. How do you everfind closure with a guy who heads for the hills and never tells youwhy? It's gut-wrenchingly hard, but you have to find closurewithin yourself. Here's how.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Cut your losses.</span> You pickyourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. You don'tdecide that because he didn't tell you anything, the cause of hisdeparture are your thighs, or a fight you had, or your bad mood lastmonth. A man who is too withholding and cowardly to explain himself hasto be excised as brutally as he excised you. You tell yourself,"I don't want to spend my precious time with someone who doesn't wantto spend it with me." When all is said and done, isn't that the truth? <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Do not call him.</span> Hedoesn't want to talk? Then believe him. No quick texts; no trying tolocate him; no flaming e-mails; no late-night calls begging for areason why you were so unceremoniously dumped. (Do you really want tohear, "Oh, it's you. Um, yeah, right, hi.") You remind yourself#151;athousand times, if you have to-- that while you still want him, you donot NEED him. You have a roof over your head. (I remember, eons ago,when women literally needed men to have a life!) All that you need isgood food, rest, exercise--and some calm downtime to get yourself upand ready to meet someone who wants you.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Do not idealize him now that he's gone.</span>We all tend to turn people into saints once they're gone, but thisperson didn't die; he bolted. Resist the urge to make him moredesirable simply because he's unavailable. And resist the correspondingurge toward self-blame. (The thigh thing again.)<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Take your power back.</span> Remember what it felt like--really felt like--to be with him. I don'tmean how you thought it could be if he loved you more; I mean most ofthe time. Were you exhausted? Walking on eggshells? Pushing to getcloser? If so, you were at your worst and will never be at your worstagain. If it was truly wonderful.....then the man isn't just cowardly,he's psychotic.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Don't think, "I should have knownbetter."</span> You couldn't have known. You can't spot one ofthese guys; he doesn't wear a sign saying, "I'm a disaster." The onlyway to avoid a man who can't love you is to remember what it felt likein the past. When you're with someone the next time, you'll have asense memory: a feeling of being exhausted, off-balance, nervous....and you'll run. <br><br>Meanwhile, lay low. Nurse your wounds--the way a hurt animal would.Don't date; you're not ready. But one day, you'll meet an earth guy wholoves being intimate; who wants to please you; who gets you, who makesyou feel comfortable in your own skin#133; a man who can express hisfeelings. And that man won't sap your energy--he'll make you feel aliveagain. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Dalma Heyn, M.S.W.</span>, Founder of <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">The Love Goddess</span>, is the author ofseveral bestselling books on marriage and relationships. Dalma is awidely read columnist and sought-after speaker. She hasappeared--without her wings--on national talk shows including <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">Oprah, The View, Charlie Rose, GoodMorning America, and Larry King Live</span>. For more information visit<a target="_blank" href="http://www.thelovegoddess.com/">www.thelovegoddess.com</a>or <a target="_blank" href="http://www.dalmaheyn.net/">www.dalmaheyn.net</a>.copy;2009 Robbin Montero Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: January 18th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> SOUND CHANGES#8482;<br>Six Sound Strategies to Stress Less </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Ellen Simon, M.S., M. Ed., LPC<br><a href="http://www.imadulation.com" target="_blank">www.imadulation.com</a></center><br><br>Stress happens in your body but starts in your mind. In addition to the perception of danger or life threatening events, there are two thinking habits that activate the stress response in the body.<br><br>The first is negative attention, or focusing on what you don't want/like, rather than what is good, right or challenging in a growth producing way. The Law of Attraction will bring into your life that which you focus on and play on the movie screen of your mind.<br><br>The second common habit to induce stress is an insistence and needing that things be a certain way, rather than preferring the same. Insistence on things being a certain way implies an attachment to a particular outcome, and thus sets you up for disappointment. If instead you prefer an outcome, you still identify your wishes and desires, yet this attitude contains energy of letting go. Preferring carries an element of trust in the unfolding of life and the confidence that whatever happens, you have the resources and ability to handle life. <br><br><i>It's better to have what you need than to need what you want.</i><br><br> <b>The 6 strategies to stress less and enjoy life more follow:</b><ol><li> Thinking healthy - focus on what you do want rather than what you don't want, let go of insisting or clinging to a particular outcome. Where are your thoughts? Are you focusing on what is wrong? Or is your awareness on the solution or even on the blessing that if often revealed down the road? Are you turning your wants into needs? When you NEED what you WANT then you create unnecessary stress. Try shifting your needs into preferences, relaxing, breathing and looking at the big picture. <br><br><li> Breathing - breathe in fully and completely let go of your breath. Breathing is a metaphor for life. Take it in fully and let go of what you do not need.<br><br><li> Moving - stretch your body and keep it flexible and resilient like your mind.<br><br><li> Awareness - maintain a consciousness of your habitual patterns. If something is not working, cease the pattern and make another choice. <br><br><li>Communication - be assertive, state your truth with harmless intention and allow another to have a truth that may differ from yours. Respect your needs and celebrate diversity in your loved ones.<br><br><li>Sound Sleep - crucial to managing stress and feelings of well-being. If needed, create a routine for yourself that includes a soothing and calming ritual before bed. If there is something on your mind, talk to a friend or journal - get those feelings out of your body and onto some paper or into a friend's ear! Meditation prior to bedtime can create a nice transition to sleep. A spray of lavender or nutritional supplements may be considered to support a healthy sleep. </ol>Keep in mind these six strategies as you remember that you are the choice maker. One of the few things you can choose is what thoughts you entertain and how you respond to life!! <br><br>copy; 2009 by Ellen Simon www.imadulation.com. Permission to reprint if left intact.<br><br>Ellen Simon is a nationally recognized expert in the field of mind body health. Ellen's unique brand of audio programs is in use in hospitals and health care facilities across the country. Author of over 25 titles this article is adapted from Food for Thought(r) a 6 audio CD set. For more information visit <a href="http://www.imadulation.com" target="_blank">www.imadulation.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 19th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Are You Addicted toFear? Learn How Not To Be!<br>Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff's new book "Emotional Freedom: <br>Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life" <br>(Harmony Books, 2009) <br></b></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Judith Orloff MD<br><a href="http://www.drjudithorloff.com/" target="_blank">www.drjudithorloff.com<br></a></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>If you don't make it your business to overcome fear, you better believeit'll try to overcome you. Most people are subservient to this emotionthough they may not know it. I define fear as the emotional response todanger, perceived or real. What underscores fear in all itspermutations is the feeling that you won't be all right.<br><br>Emotional Action Step from "Emotional Freedom". Harness Your Biology toQuiet Fear.<br><br>To short-circuit fear and turn off your flight-or-flight response,you'll need to train your brain to send chemicals to counteract them.Otherwise, fear and its hormones will make you crazed. In contrast,with a calm biology it's easier to find courage by practicing thecombined techniques below to quiet your system.<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">To achieve immediate and longer termresults:<br></span></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Eliminate caffeine, sugar,and other stimulants--these fuel the fight-or-flight response. </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Avoid people who reinforceyour fear--they are biological irritants; stick close to emotionalnurturers. </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Stay away from violentnewscasts, traffic jams, arguments, or other stress inducers. </font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Whenyou're in the grip of a fear-driven adrenaline rush, try these quicksolutions.<br></span></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Use this ProgressiveRelaxation Technique: In a comfortable position, sitting or lying down,take a few deep breaths while letting your body go as limp as possible.When you're ready, begin by tightening the muscles in your toes...holdto a count of ten... then relax. Enjoy the relief of tension melting.Do the same with flexing your foot muscles, and move slowly throughyour entire body: calves, legs, stomach, back, neck, jaw, face,contracting and releasing each area. </font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Immerse yourself in hotwater to relax muscular tension as soon as possible. <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;"></span></font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">These practical changes, whichallow you to take control of your body, can be tremendously effectivein restoring calm. You don't have to be passive while battered byfear. The victim mentality takes many forms. It requires courage toassume control, to say, "I'm going to be responsible for my biologicalself-care." Educating your body how to respond makes you emotionallyfreer.<br><br></font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">About Judith Orloff MD<br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Judith Orloff MD</span> is author ofthe new New York Times bestseller <span style="font-weight: bold;">EmotionalFreedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform YourLife</span> (Harmony Books, 2009) upon which this article is based. Dr.Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edgeknowledge of intuition and energy medicine. An Assistant ClinicalProfessor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that thefuture of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieveemotional freedom and total wellness. </font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a href="http://www.drjudithorloff.com/"target="_blank">www.drjudithorloff.com</a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. Permission granted for use onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 17th, 2006
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Five Ways to Market Using Email </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></center> <br><br>There are many ways to market a home-based business. But one of the simplest ways is to use an every day business tool - email. By using these five easy tips you'll see how easily your business can grow without much effort on your part. <br><br><b>1.</b> Use a Professional Signature - This is an important tip to use on every email that you send. Even your friends may not always remember your website address or business phone number and will quickly look to an old e-mail to look it up. <br><br>When preparing an email signature it's important to include Your Name, Company Name, and your Physical Address or Website Address. You may also include your phone number. Below is a sample Email signature: <br><br>Jill Hart<br>888-241-0990<br>Christian Work at Home Moms<br><a href="http://www.cwahm.com" target="_blank">http://www.cwahm.com</a> <br><br>The signature is simple, easy to read and includes a link directly to my website. It is very important to include the http:// before the website address because many email programs will not link the text to your website without this (it will appear as text - not a link).<br><br>Also, make sure that you double check that you have your website correct. Often times I've found that people have their website wrong by inverting a letter or two and aren't aware of it. It cannot only lead to a loss of a sale, but it shows less professionalism on your part. <br><br>You can also use a virtual business card as your signature. You can design and purchase your own virtual business card at <a href="http://www.vistaprint.com" target="_blank">http://www.vistaprint.com</a>.There is a very small cost - less than $2.00 for this professional looking virtual signature file. <br><br><b>2.</b> Find a "Signature Buddy" - This is an easy and cost-free way to spread the word about your business. Ask a colleague or friend if they will "swap"a line their signature with you. You will add a line at the bottom of your signature with a link to their business and they will do the same. <br><br>Jill Hart<br>888-241-0990<br>Christian Work at Home Moms<br><a href="http://www.cwahm.com" target="_blank">http://www.cwahm.com</a> <br><br>Publishing and book marketing - <a href="http://www.virtualwordpublishing.com/" target="_blank">http://www.virtualwordpublishing.com/</a><br><br> The signature "swap" can be as simple as a line (as above) or as much as a 2- 3 line testimony of why you're recommending this link. You can find a permanent signature "buddy" or change it weekly or monthly. <br><br><b>3.</b> Send Email Coupons - This is a great way to network using email. Send a special coupon by email that is available only for those that receive your emails. You can also extend this to a newsletter if you have one. Offer a special coupon for anyone who signs up for your newsletter! <br><br>You can send other specials by email as well - special offers, free gifts, ebooks, etc. There are many ways that you can utilize your email to bless your customers and colleagues. <br><br><b>4.</b> Create a Custom Background for your Email - This is easier to do than it sounds. If you are using Microsoft Outlook or a similar program, you can find directions on creating your own custom signature online at places like <a href="http://www.mailmsg.com/outlookstationary.htm" target="_blank">http://www.mailmsg.com/outlookstationary.htm</a>.<br><br>Custom email stationary can take a plain email and make it look professional. I include my logo and my website name in my custom background.Be sure to make the picture "light," so that it does not compete with the text of the emails you'll be sending. <br><br><b>5.</b> Send Thank You Emails - In this day and age it is very acceptable to send a Thank You card via email. This is an easy way to thank customers, advertisers, and even newsletter subscribers. <br><br>You can create you own Thank You or use a program like Yahoo! Greetings.Many of these programs have free e-cards that you can send as well as a paidversion with additional designs. Another great place is Hallmark.com whereyou can get customized greeting e-cards for any occasion, free. It's a great way to remember your client's birthdays or perhaps a special day in their business. <br><br>You can even set up an auto-responder to send the Thank You automatically.There are many auto-responder programs for you to choose from and many website hosting companies will provide you with one, you'll just need to go in and set it up. <br><br>One great thing about an auto-responder is that you can set up when the email will be sent, what will "trigger" the auto-responder and what the email will say. This way, any time you receive an order, the customer receives an email immediately, even if you're not available.<br><br>One downfall to auto-responders is that they can seem impersonal. However, you can overcome this by taking the time to write a personal note to your customers and use this as the auto-responder email. <br><br>Can you see how beneficial e-mails can be for your business? When you use a professional looking signature, find a "buddy" to swap lines in your signature, personalize your email background, use auto-responders and any other items that you are able to customize, you'll never look at email the same way again. Marketing can be inexpensive and effective when you know the right ways to do it. <br><br>ABOUT THE AUTHOR:Jill Hart is the founder of Christian Work at Home Moms, CWAHM.com. This site is dedicated to providing work at home moms with opportunities to promote their businesses while at the same time providing them spiritualencouragement and articles. Visit <a href="http://www.cwahm.com" target="_blank">http://www.CWAHM.com</a> for additionalinformation. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: November 13th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Today's Family Man<br>'Values-Based Holiday Shopping </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Gregory Keer</center><br><br>Gimmee, gimmee, gimmee is a refrain parents here from (at least) November till the end of the holidays. It's hard to blame children for their insatiable requests for more and bigger gifts as marketers bombard them with 'must have options and their friends have parents who are dealing out the goods. It's difficult for a kid not to be motivated by other boys and girls shouting, 'I'm getting a Furby! or 'My parents bought me a Game Boy Micro! <br><br>One of the toughest tasks for a parent in this materialistic mayhem is to teach values. But the moms and dads who come out on top are the ones who stick to the program of educating their children about moderation, the needs of the less fortunate, and what's more important than the things we own. Here are some ideas for instilling principle in young consumers. <br><br><b>Gifts for Kids to Give to Others</b><ol> <li>Let's List Again<br><br>I've frequently recommended that a parent not even step foot in a retail outlet without first having made a list of things his or her child may want. Preparing in advance allows you to set a number of gifts and a budget in advance, thereby managing a child's expectations and teaching them the limits of money. The same thing applies when shopping for other family members and friends. <br><br>Have your kids make a list of things they want to give to each person, working with them on the budget and the appropriateness of each gift. While you do this, discuss with them why they are choosing the specific present and what they think the result of the giving the gift will be. Often, children are disappointed by the reactions their friends or family give when receiving an item. Before this happens, teach your child that it is indeed the thought that counts and that giving is its own reward. You can tell them that not everyone has the ability to understand this, so it's important to derive self-satisfaction from the act of giving. <br><br><li>Give Unto Others What You Would Give Your Kid<br><br>For friends, give what your kids would want for themselves. Have them tell you what to get or have them shop for it themselves. Of course, a young girl may not want a 'Bonecrusher 2005 for Christmas, so you should do a little guiding about the recipient. But buying something your child values puts the friend on an equal footing. <br><br>A couple of other tips: While shopping, buy two for the holidays or birthdays. Or keep the list of what you buy and return to the stores for sales on those same items. <br><br><li> Be Personal<br><br>For relatives, give something personal. Create-your-own pottery, handmade cards, photo albums with photos of special times spent together. What counts is how the gift connects with a friend or loved one.</ol><b>Beyond Disposable Fun and Worthwhile Gifts for Kids</b><ol><li>The Gift of Time<br><br>A museum pass or amusement park pass provides your kids with an opportunity to spend more time with you. Also consider "gift certificates" with dates for times you will take one child out with mom or dad for special dinners or other outings. <br><br><li>Year 'Round Gifts<br><br>In addition to the museum or park passes, try joining a book club in their name or make your own book club good for 5 to 10 books throughout the year and stamp a homemade card each time you buy one with your child. <br><br><li>Philanthropy<br><br>Teach your children about those who don't have the same privileges. Have them choose a toy to send to a charitable organization. Take them to the donation place so they can see the people who are getting these gifts. Making it personal will have a more lasting effect on a child who needs to understand that others don't have it as good as him. <br><br><li>Board Games<br><br>Board games, a deck of cards, puzzles for family times. Ages two on up will like this option, which increases family time.</ol>These ideas are some of many others that creative, values-minded parents can use. At the core of the suggestions are understanding the needs of others and realizing that the time we spend with each other trump any video game or fashionable clothing that money can buy. <br><br>copy; 2005 Gregory Keer. All rights reserved. <br><br>Gregory Keer is a syndicated columnist, educator, and on-air expert on fatherhood. His Family Man<SUP><FONT SIZE="-1">TM</FONT></SUP> column appears in publications across the country, including L.A. Parent, Boston Parents' Paper, Metro Augusta Parent, and Sydney's Child in Australia. Keer's parenting advice is found at his online magazine, <a href="http://www.familymanonline.com" target="_blank">www.familymanonline.com</a>, which is the #1 ranked site for fathers, according to Amazon's Alexa ratings. In addition to writing for <i>Parenting</i> magazine and the Parents' Choice Foundation, Keer contributes to <i>USA Today, Pregnancy</i> magazine, DrLaura.com, ParentingBookmark.com, Pregnancy.org, and CanadianParents.com. Keer is also a featured guest expert on television and radio and advisor to the Cartoon Network. He and his wife are the proud parents of three sons. Keer can be reached at his Web site, <a href="http://www.familymanonline.com" target="_blank">www.familymanonline.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: November 14th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> The Punch That Parents Don't See </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Vaughn Alaine-Marshall</center><br><br>The job of nurturing an impressionable mind has always been a challenge. The once gradual ascent into adulthood is now a sharp rise. Every single day parents in America are confronted with the task of monitoring their child's influences. New technologies, social crazes and information portals emerge on a monthly basis, making the job of policing what goes into a child's brain all the more difficult. <br><br>The attempt of previous generations to counter this quandary reflects our modern standard of censorship. School reading lists now have an emphasis on classical works. Films now warn of offensive content. Music controls its controversial artists with corporate strings. The Internet, the latest parental predicament, is vast but awareness of its power is leading to its restraint. Individual standards of decency dictate what is suitable for viewing in different households, however like any old boxer will warn you, 'it's the punch you don't see that knocks you out...' <br><br>More money is being spent on television production than any other time in the industry's history. Television's fiscal resurgence is on the back of reality programming. Reality-TV shows, especially those of the talent show format, are gaining legitimacy and fulfilling the need for more family-oriented programming. For a parent, this is the punch you don't see.<br><br><b>Recognize the Punch</b><ul><li>Every year the airways carry another slew of reality drama packaged for families. The highest-rating and most profitable show in the genre, American Idol, has built its franchise upon young adults chasing their dreams. <br><br><li>American Idol thrives because of its feel-good music moments and viewer participation. From the outside, American Idol is wholesome entertainment. The reality of this reality-TV show though is not so benign.<br><br><li>American Idol and it spin-offs intentionally project cruelty under the guise that it is part-and-parcel of the entertainment industry. American Idol reproduces the dynamics of bullying children deal with in schoolyards across the country every day. <br><br><li>By making it family entertainment only legitimizes this behaviour. <br><br><li>Children who have been victimized are much more likely to be depressed, anxious, withdrawn and distrustful, even in adulthood, and more likely to miss class and underperform in school. <br><br><li>The impact of America's most watched television show has been linked to the growing incidences of cyber-bullying. <br><br><li>In 2008, researchers at Yale School of Medicine found signs of an apparent connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide in children.</ul>Reality shows are not only shaping how impressionable minds interact in the schoolyard, but what is perceived as reality. Unlike scripted television shows, there is no suspension of disbelief. American Idol and its affiliates claim to make superstars out of ordinary people; however the reality is far from this. Confidentiality agreements suppress the hundreds of contestant horror stories resulting from reality-show experiences. <br><br>Mental-health workers have discovered that people who compete on these shows suffer severe and often long-lasting psychological trauma as a result. American Idol is no different to any other television show produced in America except that it works on a fundamentally different premise - that it is real. The winner is chosen before a single second of the show goes to air. Impressionable minds take American Idol on face value. <br><br>The punch that parents don't see is not drugs, sex or violence - it's the subtle impressions. Parents cannot control every stimulus - only give their children perspective to make balanced judgements. Dreams are an expression of the soul's desire and shows like American Idol stimulate our hearts to achieve extraordinary feats. It's when their promises and methods are rooted in fiction the greatest damage is done. <br><br>Every day, parents all over America are giving their children wings hoping they achieve whatever it is they want. The punch we don't see is giving children hope when there is a dead-end and legitimizing a show that encourages meanness. Dreams do not materialize overnight, but they do come true. And they are a direct result of courage, perseverance and talent that parents nurture in developing people every day. <br><br><b>Vaughn Alaine-Marshall</b> is the author of the ground-breaking reality-television novel Uuml;berstar. Born in Sydney, Australia, Vaughn is a chiropractor who put a career in private practice on hold after four-and-a-half days to co-found the international publishing firm Hendlin Books. Based in Hamburg, Germany, Vaughn is bringing the vision of his firm's two namesakes - Jimi Hendrix (HEND-) and Charlie Chaplin (-LIN) - into the publishing world. Vaughn's debut novel, Uuml;berstar, is a funny and explosive exploration of reality-television as told by insider sources from the world's biggest reality shows. For more information <a href="http://www.uberstarthebook.com/" target="_blank">www.uberstarthebook.com</a>.Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 26th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>A Little Spring Cleaning</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Cliff Ennico<br><a href="http://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a></center><br><br>Every three months or so, I clean out my e-mail files to make my computer run faster. Whenever I do, I always run across a few e-mails from readers with terrific questions that are too important to delete without at least a 'quick and dirty response. Here are a few: <br><br>'I want to start a cleaning business for residential homeowners. It will be a sole proprietorship initially. I want to make sure no one else uses my fictitious name. What do I need to do, and how much will it cost? <br><br>As a sole proprietorship, you are usually required to file a 'fictitious name certificate with your county or city clerk's office for a small filing fee (usually $5 or $10). This doesn't give you the legal right to use the name, but a good clerk's office will always check prior filings to make sure no one else is using the same name in your city or county. Likewise, they will make sure no one else files a certificate after you with the same name. Sadly, in some larger municipalities, the clerk's staff are too busy to do a thorough search, such that two local businesses end up using the same name and have to 'duke it out in court. <br><br>If you need greater protection, you can register your name as a federal trademark with the U.S. Patent Trademark Office (<a href="http://www.uspto.gov/" target="_blank">www.uspto.gov</a>) or a state trademark with your state Secretary of State's office (for a listing of Web addresses, go to www.iaca.org/members). This is the best protection for a company name, but it will cost you anywhere from $500 to $1,500, depending on where you live and how much research your attorney needs to do. DO NOT attempt to do it yourself online; most trademark sites are extremely tricky, and it's easy to make serious mistakes in the application process if you don't know what you're doing. <br><br>'I am starting a bridal accessories business that will be by appointment only. I am creating purses using public domain and out-of-copyright patterns, as well as my own designs. Since I will be selling only in local craft bazaars and boutiques, do I have to copyright my designs? I really don't want to do that. <br><br>There's no law that says you MUST copyright your original designs. It's just that if you don't copyright them (by registering your design with the U.S. Copyright Office, <a href="http://www.copyright.gov/" target="_blank">www.copyright.gov</a>), anyone else can rip off your design and there won't be much you can do about it. Here's an idea. Make sure the following notice appears somewhere visible on each of your bags: 'copy;2005 [name of your company]. All rights reserved. By doing this, you are claiming what lawyers call a 'common law copyright, meaning that if someone blatantly rips you off and you can prove they did, you may be able to take some legal action even though you didn't register your designs with the Copyright Office. <br><br>'I received an e-mail warning today from a Website threatening to share and sell private information about me that they received from another Website. At the bottom of the e-mail, there's a note saying 'if you wish to eliminate your information from our database, you must send an e-mail to the following address and type in 'opt-out' in the subject tab. In the body of your message provide your name, address, city, state, Zip Code, Social Security Number and birth date.' Should I do it? <br><br>I would avoid doing this. If this Website obtained information about you from another Website, why would they need you to repeat all the information in your 'opt-out message? That seems a little fishy to me. I especially don't like the idea that they want your Social Security Number and birth date. <br><br>My suspicion is that this is an attempt to get information from you that they can then either sell to someone else or use to 'spam you themselves. Worse, you may be opening the door to a possible identity theft. Don't wait three months to delete this message; do it now! <br><br><i>Cliff Ennico (<a href="mailto:cennico@legalcareer.com">cennico@legalcareer.com</a>) is a syndicated columnist, author and host of the PBS television series 'Money Hunt'. This column is no substitute for legal, tax or financial advice, which can be furnished only by a qualified professional licensed in your state. To find out more about Cliff Ennico and other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit our Web page at <a href="http://www.creators.com/" target="_blank">www.creators.com</a>. COPYRIGHT 2005 CLIFFORD R. ENNICO. DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com</i><br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: February 28th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Healthy Children forLife - Breakfast:<br>Setting Your Child Up for Success</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Linda Miner RNC, CHN, CMTA<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.MyHealthyBalance.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.MyHealthyBalance.com</font></a><br></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Imagine building a housewithout a foundation. It may stay standing for awhile, buteventually it will start to shift and crack and eventuallycollapse. Starting the day with a healthy breakfast should beconsidered as important to your body as a solid foundation is to ahouse. The word breakfast literally means "breaking thefast". After you stop eating in the evening, there is usuallyabout 12 hours until you rise and eat again. Although it isimportant for your body to rest during the night, it is extremelyimportant to begin nourishing your body once you awaken. As soonas you eat, your metabolism revs up. The internal organs,including the brain, can perform their respective functions and youhave energy to begin your day. On the contrary, if you don't eat,your metabolism is not activated and the body starts to go intostarvation mode. The human body has a natural instinct topreserve itself and basic functions begin to slow down as the bodyresponds to a lack of nutrients. By not consuming breakfast, youstress your internal organs, you have trouble concentrating becausethere is no energy for your brain, and you create a body that isdestined to be obese as it learns to hold onto fat due to thisperceived famine. Therefore, eating a healthy breakfast is anextremely important habit to teach your children. So what are thebest choices for breakfast? <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Start with Fruit:</span> A great habitto instill in your children is to have fresh, whole fruit to start theday. Fruit gives you tons of energy, it's full of nutrients andenzymes for digestion and most varieties have a good amount offibre. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">High Quality Carbohydrates:</span> Itis very important at every meal to have carbohydrates andprotein. Let's start with the carbs. When it comes tobread, insist on multigrain. White bread should be considered a"treat" just like candy. My youngest daughter likes when I make"Mamp;Ms". No, not the chocolate kind. I toast up somesprouted multigrain bread. Then after buttering it, I sprinkle alittle cinnamon and evaporated cane juice (i.e. real sugar) ontop. Cinnamon is a great blood sugar stabilizer and powerfulantioxidant. Then I cut the bread into the letter "M", the firstletter of her name. Somehow this makes it taste much moredelicious.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Be Cautious with Cereals:</span> Manypeople ask me about breakfast cereals and instant oatmeal. I amnot a fan because most are loaded with sugar, are low in protein andfibre and spike blood sugar levels. Check the glycemic index (GI)and you will see that many cereals have a higher GI and spike bloodsugar more than white sugar (<a target="_blank"href="http://www.glycemicindex.ca/glycemicindexfoods.pdf">http://www.glycemicindex.ca/glycemicindexfoods.pdf</a>). You generally want to eat foods with a glycemic index rating of lessthan 55. Do not be fooled by advertising that says "wholegrain". That still usually just means one grain NOTmultigrain. You want to purchase cereals that have more than onegrain. Nature's Path (<a target="_blank"href="http://www.naturespath.com">http://www.naturespath.com</a>),Kashi (<a target="_blank" href="http://www.kashi.com">http://www.kashi.com</a>)and Bob's Red Mill (<a target="_blank" href="http://www.bobsredmill.com">http://www.bobsredmill.com</a>)brands have some excellent cereals, but make sure you check thenutrition label. Look for at least 4g of protein and 3g offibre. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">High Quality Protein:</span> Next, Iwould recommend a good source of protein. Plain, low fat yogurtis great because it is loaded with protein, is an excellent source ofcalcium, has lots of good bacteria for the intestines and is easy toadd flavour to. Stir in the aforementioned fruit, some honey ormaple syrup, some chopped up nuts and a high quality granola and youhave a very satisfying breakfast. Or make a smoothie with thefruit and yogurt. In my experience, if you give them straws, kidsare more likely to drink it. It's all about making it fun. Stay away from presweetened yogurts that are loaded with sugar. One of my daughters' favorite breakfasts is what we call "string cheeseegg". I pour egg whites into a fry pan and the girls "string" thepart-skimmed mozzarella cheese over the top. I serve it rolled upand they love it. What a great blast of protein<br><br>By starting the day right, your kids will be ready to perform theirbest in school, in sports and in life.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Linda Miner</span> is a RegisteredNutritionist specializing in Metabolic Typing. Linda works with clientsonline to help them restore their health by re-establishing balance inthe body. Through one-on-one coaching and an individualized food planbased on your unique characteristics, Linda can help you achieveOptimal Health. Learn more at <a target="_blank"href="http://www.iChange.com/">www.iChange.com</a> and </font><font><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.MyHealthyBalance.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.MyHealthyBalance.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. </font><font face="arial, verdana"size="2">Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 19th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Five Ways to Use Children's Fiction Books to Encourage Good Behavior </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By R.J. Nimmo<br>Author of <a href="http://www.coolkidzread.com/excerpt.htm" target="_blank">Tales of the Mustard Twins: The Ancient Egyptian Ennead </a></center><br><br>'I suppose all the world's a stage, a proudly grinning mother consoled herself as we all searched for our seats to watch a play being put on by the children at our local elementary school. She nodded at her son who, despite not getting the lead role, was dressed up in his Peter Pan costume. 'My son's really very good. I don't know why he wasn't cast this year. After all, she confided in me, 'the boy they have in the part is such a troublesome kid. Why not pick a child more deserving of the chance? <br><br>I quickly found my place at the front of rows of collapsible chairs set up in the gymnasium, and the stage lights went up on Neverland. As I watched the play I couldn't stop thinking about the mother's comments; she was right. The boy (who was a playmate of my friend's youngest daughter) was repeatedly in trouble at school with very poor grades. However, on stage tonight as he fumbled and mumbled his way through his lines he was evidently enjoying himself, and, at the end of the performance I overheard his beaming parents encouraging him: 'We <i>told you</i> it would feel great, didn't we? Flying like Peter Pan and getting the best of that nasty Captain Hook! <br><br>I am convinced the boy was cast at least in part as the result of a secret pact between the drama teacher and his concerned parents who wanted to reinforce in their child the virtues of behaviour as espoused by the popular hero in J.M Barrie's story. <br><br>These same principles can be applied just as effectively every day with your own kids. All the world is indeed a stage, so it is a great idea to use favourite fiction book characters that kids instinctively cast themselves as on their own 'world stage #151;i.e. in the playground, with their friends etc. #151; to help build confidence and encourage good behaviour. <br><br>Start by identifying the positive messages and lessons in your children's favourite stories, then get ready to use the fun tools that we fiction writers have handed you!<ol><li> Firstly, as parents, recognizing that society's values are largely transmitted to children through fictional stories, so it is important that we be aware of the value and relevance of the lessons acquired from the kinds of books, stories and other entertainments that we are all exposed to as kids. <br><br><li> Avoiding scolding kids for acting out roles, playing dress-ups etc, at inappropriate times, such as meal times or bath times, with demeaning phrases such as: 'I am not playing games with you; stop messing about in that fantasy world of yours and do as I ask. This sends the wrong message; kids instinctively know the difference between reality and fantasy and their imaginations should always be encouraged regardless. <br><br><li> Positively reinforcing desirable character traits in story characters by discussing them and even acting them out. For example, where appropriate, have children examine their own behaviour by discussing, or role playing, how their favourite hero or villain might react. Kids respond to this because it lets them use elements of play to examine their behaviour in a non-threatening context. Try something like: 'Should you be talking to your sister like that? That sounds like something Count Olaf would say to the Baudelaire children in Lemony Snicket #151; do you think Olaf is a good character or a bad character? <br><br><li> Reinforce character traits, but also emphasize the positive action elements in a story #151; this one isn't just for boys, either! For example, make a game out of doing chores by actually encouraging children to dress-up and help out. Comments like: 'Now see if you can clear away your toys faster than Harry Potter waving his magic wand will inevitably have the desired effect! <br><br><li> Work story elements into the daily routine to encourage discipline etc. A good example of this is a tactic my friend, Sadie, uses. Her daughter #151; who is going through a familiar 'fairy princess phase #151; refuses to go to bed at the appropriate time. Sadie overcomes this simply by saying 'and now it's time to put on your princess pyjamas and pretend to be Sleeping Beauty. This method is far more effective than ranting about curfews and demanding teeth are brushed! </ol>Young adult and children's entertainment expert, R.J. Nimmo is the author of <i>The Ancient Egyptian Ennead</i>, the latest young adult fantasy novel to be published in the 6-book <i>Mustard Twins</i> series. He has been featured in national and daily newspapers articles, discussing the influences of popular entertainment on children and young adults. He is currently living in London, England. Visit him at <a href="http://www.coolkidzread.com/" target="_blank">www.coolkidzread.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: January 22nd, 2006
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Potty Training 101</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> Jodie Lynn<br><a href="http://www.parenttoparent.com" target="_blank"> parenttoparent.com</a></center><br><br> I am not a fan of potty training children early. In the ten years I have been helping parents with potty training, I have never known even one who was completely toilet trained when starting before the age of three. This means never having to wear a diaper or pull ups when going to bed or taking a nap -- and the most crucial test of all, waking up dry after 8 to 10 hours of sleep. Those parents that say that their kids are trained usually regress sometimes before the age of five, especially if it has been a stressful and frustrated training. <br><br>Spanking, yelling and threatening always backfires. If a parent pulls a power play, the child will become absorbed in the unnecessary battle and become overwhelmed. Stress rises to a new, yet negative level. Unfortunately, for parents, the kids win on this one. They can use potty in the potty or potty in the underwear as a powerful tool resulting in negative retaliation creating major challenges in switching back and forth from potty training, poor eating habits and mood swings. <br><br>Using food as a reward is not a way to entice toddlers into becoming potty trained. <br><br>In fact, this can lead to harmful eating habits as well as using food for emotional satisfaction. <br><br>Here are a few tips that have seemed to work for others. <ol>1. Concentrate on potty training only. Don't make it hard on kids but you will have to watch them almost every minute. Do not go anywhere with them for two weeks unless you can take the potty with you.<br><br>2. Use stickers as a reward. Let them pick out the stickers at a store. <br><br>3. Wrap up small gifts found as rewards after each time they successfully go to the bathroom. Children love to open presents. Put them inside a big box and let them choose the one they want to open. Rewrap them. That's right. Use them repeatedly. After they begin to get potty trained, tell and show them there are only six presents left and then, "they'll be all gone." Each time you let them open one, say, "Look, there's only 5 more left, but we have stickers," -- or whatever else you'd like to use. <br><br>4. Do not use food as a reward. Sweets, candy, or any type of food is not good for a positive reward system at this age. It will only leave them anticipating food as rewards for other accomplishments and could lead to eating disorders later in life. <br><br>5. After each successful potty trip, clap and say, "Whoohoo. You are such a big boy/girl! Good job!" Go call someone and share the news. Let the child tell them what a good job that they did. This only reinforces positive experiences for potty training. <br><br>6. Make up a calendar with tons of pictures of your child on it. Make the days of the week large squares to have plenty of room for the stickers. Let your child put up a big star each time he/she goes to the potty on that specific day. <br><br>7. Put Cheerios in the toilet and let the boys aim at them. Since they are a little more difficult to potty train, there are other incentives on today's market to attract little boys to the potty. Check at your favorite store for such tools. <br><br>8. Buy many books during clearance sales. Keep a box of books by the potty. If possible, read a page or two or share a picture book. Read one or two books, if your little one needs to go number two. <br><br>9. Monitor food and liquid intake. Take your child to the potty on a schedule. You will have to watch the clock to monitor food and drink intake. Cut out liquids two hours before bedtime and no caffeine -- ever.<br><br>10. Ship your precious little one off to grandmas or an aunt's house, if things get too hairy. Sometimes, other folks can potty train our children better than we can. If you have a relative who is willing to help and your kiddo won't "walk the plank" for you, let someone else try. You might be surprised how quickly the job will be completed. </ol>Above all else, let the child show and tell you when he is ready. It may not be the calendar timing you'd like to follow, but the frustration is just not worth the repercussions. <br><br>Remember, accidents will occur at the least expected time. Stay cool and anticipate it as part of parenthood#133;this too shall pass. <br><br>copy; 2006 Jodie Lynn<br><br>Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/healthcolumnist and radio personality. Her syndicated column Parent to Parent (<a href="http://www.parenttoparent.com" target="_blank"> parenttoparent.com</a>) has been successful for over 10 years and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to several sites including eDiets.com, MommiesMagazine.com and is the Residential Mom Expert for BabyUniverse.com. Lynn has written two books and contributed to two others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest best-selling parenting/family book is <A HREF="http://service.bfast.com/bfast/click?bfmid=2181sourceid=41232669bfpid= 096591254X bfmtype=book" target="_blank"> Mommy-CEO, revised edition</a>. Permission granted to use on DrLaura.com.<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 29th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Easter Egg-stravaganza!</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> By Tawra Kellam<br><a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com/" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com/</a></center> <br><br> OK, so the kids noticed on the calendar that Easter is approaching and they want to make a huge production of dying eggs. In the past, the little stickers you bought at the store sufficed, but now they want the real thing. Here are some old standards with a few new ideas for you. <br><br><b>Before you decorate Easter eggs</b>, cover the entire table with newspaper. Keep a huge roll of paper towels or rags handy for messes. Have each kid wear one of dad's old (now disposable) tee shirts. <b>To make egg stands</b>, cut toilet paper roll cores into one inch cylinders and use for egg stands. Decorate with stickers or paint. <br><br><b>Decorating eggs the traditional method.</b><br><br>Hard boil eggs. Fill several mugs with boiling water and add 1-2 tsp. vinegar. Place a few drops of desired food coloring in each mug. Place eggs in mugs for several minutes until eggs reach desired shades. Remove with a spoon. Place on paper towel to dry. When dry, polish with a small amount of shortening on a paper towel. Buff until glossy. <br><br>You can draw or write on the eggs with a light colored or white crayon before dipping. The drawing will remain white after the egg is dipped. To clean out mugs, put a little bleach water in the cups and soak for a few minutes. <br><br> <b>Glitter Eggs</b> - Place 1 tablespoon each of glue and water in a cup. Stir the mixture and then paint the eggs with it. Sprinkle with glitter. This can also add sparkle to already dyed eggs! <br><br><b>Crepe Paper Eggs</b> - Wet a white or dyed egg. Dab torn pieces of colored tissue paper or pieces of pretty colored napkins on the eggs. When the paper dries, the paper falls off and leaves the color behind on the egg. <br><br>vvvv<b>Decoupaged eggs</b> - Tear small pieces of wrapping paper, napkins, stickers, or clip art. Mix equal amounts of glue and water. Paint egg with glue mixture. Place paper on top and then cover with more glue mixture. Let dry. <br><br><b>Spotted Eggs</b> - Place 1 tsp. of cooking oil in dye. Dip the egg. The oil will cause the dye to make an irregular pattern on the egg. <br><br><b>Waxed Eggs</b> - Dip a portion of the eggs in melted paraffin or candle wax. Then dip them in the dye. Remove from dye. Dry and peel off the wax. The egg will be white on one half and colored on the other half. You can also dip in dye before waxing to get two colors. <br><br>Tawra Kellam is the publisher of <a href="http://www.LivingOnADime.com/" target="_blank">http://www.LivingOnADime.com/</a>and is an expert in frugal living. Tawra and her husband paid off $20,000 debt in 5 years on $22,000 a year income. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: June 13th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Protect Your MedicalInformation</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Medical records are one-stop shopping for identity thieves. There is noneed to slowly gather bits and pieces of someone's personal information- it's all packaged together: Social Security number, name, address,phone number, even payment accounts. <br><br>Crooks have received everything from medication to a liver transplantusing a stolen identity. And that's only the tip of the iceberg! Morethan just medical treatment is at stake. Once a thief's medicalinformation is entered into your records, it's extremely difficult toget rid of that information. It's conceivable, for example, that at alater date, you'll need a Type A blood transfusion but be given thethief's Type B with dire consequences.<br><br>Identity theft of medical records has more than doubled since 2008, asstated in Javelin's 2010 Identity Fraud Survey Report. It's notdifficult to imagine the misery that a million Americans have sufferedduring the past two years when their identities were stolen. And the <spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Poneman Institute</span>, in their NationalStudy on Medical Identity Theft, states that another half millionpeople loaned their insurance cards to uninsured family members andfriends. The unsavvy lenders have incurred huge medical bills in this'friendly fraud. <br><br>Larry Ponemon says that, on average, it costs $20,000 to resolve amedical identity theft case. Unlike credit card companies, where thebanks incur the losses, the victims often have to pay for thefraudulent care and sometimes lose their health insurance or have topay higher premiums to restore their accounts. Even though there areHIPAA laws to protect your privacy, not all health care organizationshave strict safeguards in place.<br><br>The risk goes even further: if someone is treated using your identity,your medical records will more than likely be altered and couldcompromise your treatment and ability to get service. Accordingto Larry Ponemon, "stolen medical records offer a complete dossier toget a passport in a victim's name that could be used for terrorism."<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Ways to Protect Yourself:</span><br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">When you receive anExplanation of Benefits from insurers, read it carefully and save -don't throw it away even when it says "this is not a bill"! If atreatment date or doctor's name is not familiar to you, call theinsurer and the billing physician to resolve.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If your wallet is stolen,contact your insurance company just as you would your credit cardcompany. Don't carry your Medicare card in your wallet. Carry aphotocopy and black out the last four digits of the SS#.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Urge your health careproviders to ask patients for photo ID's.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Ask your doctors for copiesof everything in your medical files, even if you have to pay for them.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Monitor your credit report.If you see medical billing errors, contact your insurer and the threecredit bureaus, TransUnion, Experian, and Equifax.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Avoid Internet andstorefront offers of free treatment and supplies.</font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Ask for a list of benefitspaid in your name and an "accounting of disclosures" which shows whogot your records.<span style="font-style: italic;"></span></font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">About the author:</span> To furtherbulletproof yourself and your business, visit John's blog at </font><font><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. To book John at your next event,visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>.John Sileo became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 27th, 2008
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center> <font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b><strong>Blind Date 101:</strong> </b></font><br> <font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b><strong>Are You "Uncool" If You Don't Meet Over Booze?</strong> </b></font><br> <font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> By Connie Bennett, C.H.H.C.<br><a href="http://www.sugarshock.com/" target="_blank">www.SugarShock.com</a><p><br></center>There we were, my blind date and I, in a classy bar in one of Manhattan's chicest hotels. While the ambiance and locale were romantic, my feelings were far from that.<br><br>You see, as I sat innocently sipping my sparkling water and striving to maintain poise, grace and dignity, my date surprised me with a question that had a nasty, condescending implication.<br><br>"Don't you drink?" my companion quizzed me with a sneer.<br><br>Indeed, as my date was downing an alcoholic beverage-I think it was bourbon and water#151;his question and the tone in which he delivered it were most assuredly a "putdown."<br><br>Excuse me, I'm being condemned for opting for sparking H20?<br><br>"You've got to be kidding," I thought, as I was clearly taken aback.<br><br>The implication was by eschewing alcohol, I was being terribly "uncool."<br><br>My simple answer, "I better not, because I have a big day tomorrow," didn't seem to fly with him either.<br><br>As the evening progressed, the Drinker pressed further.<br><br>"Well, at least you have wine, right?"<br><br>Again, I replied by saying that it would be better for me to stay away from booze and keep coherent, because the next day I had a daylong life-coach training course beginning at 8:30 a.m.<br><br>On the way home, I searched through my memories. Darn, I realized, my initial instincts had been correct. Some seven years ago, when I first moved to New York, I'd met the same man! And guess what? Back then, the Drinker had the same you're-so-weird reaction when I chose sparkling water over alcohol. (How's that for embarrassing#151;but also amusing and entertaining?)<br><br>Look, I try to be open-minded when meeting new, potentially eligible men, but this booze incident really took the cake, if you'll pardon the oft-used, sugary expression.<br><br>My goal these days#151;10 years into living sugar-free (or close to it)#151;is to inspire others to vibrant health, good cheer and ultimately a juicy, sweeter life than they've had until now. (Thankfully, as attested by the thousands of e-mails I regularly receive, I am making a difference in people's lives.)<br><br>But then how do I reconcile my get-a-healthy-life mission with my need to go on blind dates#151;often for drinks or coffee#151;until Mr. Right comes along?<br><br>By being true to myself#151;no matter what the consequences or the reaction.<br><br>Yes, phooey on the booze-drinking, slightly pot-bellied, but super-successful blind date Drinker!<br><br>Frankly, I refuse to be intimidated, embarrassed or coerced into engaging in self-destructive behavior. I've spent enough years treating my body like a garbage can#151;no more! (Admittedly, though, I'm still working on my too-many late nights and my clutter woes. Hey, I'm not perfect.)<br><br>Now that my date with the Drinker is no more than a humorous memory (and fodder for a fun essay), let me share some tips to help you, too, in uncomfortable social situations.<ol><li>First off, be true to yourself, no matter what. In other words, wherever you are and whomever you meet, do only what feels right to you, even if it means that you'll occasionally encounter a put-down#151;either overtly stated or implied.<br><br><li>Secondly, don't let anyone's condescending attitude corner you into behaving in a bad-for-you manner that you'll deeply regret the morning after. (I'm not making sexual innuendoes here#151;rather, I mean the next day when you step on the scale after blowing your diet or when you have a horrible headache after drinking or doing something else your body didn't like.)<br><br><li>And finally, hang onto a vision of the types of people you'd like to meet and befriend. (Trust me#151;I will no longer meet a blind date who turns up his nose at me because I don't drink alcohol.)</ol><br>For the record, here's the answer I never delivered to my condescending date: No, I do not drink alcohol anymore#151;I haven't for ten years, since kicking sugar.<br><br>Sure, I'd like to indulge in wine from time to time, but booze in my body derails me. The alcohol reacts like sugar and does me in with what can only be described as a horrific, three-day hangover. Not to mention the strange post-booze behavior (edginess, irritability, brain fog, etc.) it engenders. (Oh, and for the record, I'm not a recovering alcoholic.)<br><br>Actually, it's rather ironic that as I've become healthier, some men#151;certainly not ones I'd like to date#151;find me flat out undesirable simply because I no longer share their "babits" (bad habits)#151;drinking wine, eating sweets, smoking cigarettes or drinking coffee.<br><br>But let's face it: many women and men are just like me. They, too, have the same sort of adverse reaction to alcohol, caffeine, sugar or cigarettes. Their bodies demand that they be treated with care.<br><br>Anyhow, I don't care if my future boyfriend or friends drink in front of me#151;just as long as they don't hold it against me that I don't and can't.<br><br>Ultimately, what this "Connie-why-don't-you-drink?" attack made me realize is that I need to hang around health-minded, empowerment-oriented men and women, who respect my decision not to drink.<br><br>In other words, we healthy folks need to stick together. Or, perhaps#151;without saying anything at all#151;I can serve as a good role model to drinkers, smokers, sugar-eaters, etc.<br><br>Anyhow, I'm still not ruling out blind-date drinks in bars#151;I'll just stick to my sparking water and let the man judge me as he wishes.<br><br>But that's why I'll probably meet more compatible men when I'm out and about on the tennis courts, bike paths or jogging trails rather than in bars.<br><br>Connie Bennett, C.H.H.C. is author of the book <i>SUGAR SHOCK!</i> (Berkley Books). She is a certified holistic health counselor, productivity coach, journalist and former sugar addict, who quit her horrible habit 10 years ago (in 2008). These days, despite occasional pressure from a blind date or friends, Connie now shuns the sweets and "quickie carbs" she once over-consumed and therefore has more energy, greater enthusiasm and better concentration than ever before. Learn if sugar has control over you, too, by taking the quiz at <a href="http://www.sugarshock.com" TARGET="_BLANK">www.SugarShock.com</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br> <br> </font>
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Tip of the Week: December 24th, 1969
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>200+ Ideas For Summertime -- Or Anytime -- Fun!</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> Copyright Deborah Taylor-Hough <br>Used with permission. All rights reserved. <br><a href="http://hometown.aol.com/dsimple/" target="_blank">hometown.aol.com/dsimple/</a></center><br><br>Since we don't use the phrase "I'm bored!" in our home,we never hear our kids complaining about being boredduring those long days at home during the summermonths. But ... I have to admit that we're still anincredibly normal family.<br><br>Even without the "b-word" in their vocabulary, there arestill those times when my three children (ages 16, 12and 8) just seem to be at a total loss for something constructive to do. <br><br>On one of those "I-can't-think-of-anything-to-do" days,I had my children sit down and make a list of everythingthey could do completely on their own without parentalhelp. After they brainstormed about it for over an hour(which was a good anti-boredom activity itself), thekids had a list of about fifty activities. Surprisingly,they even included a few household chores like dustingand weeding! I decided to ask for input from some othermoms, and now my children have a list of over twohundred ideas to beat summertime boredom, and thelist just seems to keep growing. <br><br>Thanks to the suggestion of one mom, we've put eachitem on this list onto individual pieces of paper, placedthe papers into a container, and when the children need inspiration for an activity, they draw two or three papers and then decide which idea they want to do, either as a group or individually. The mom who suggested pulling ideas out of a container told me she found this method more helpful than giving the kids a huge list of possibilities. By narrowing the choices down to just two or three, it was easier for the kids to pick out the one that sounded the best to them.<br><br><b>200+ IDEAS FOR SUMMERTIME ACTIVITIES</b><br>In no particular order, here's our current (but continuallygrowing!) list of activities:<ol><li> ride bikes<li> roller blade<li> basketball<li> play board games<li> make a tent out of blankets<li> squirt with hoses<li> run through the sprinkler<li> jump rope<li> read books<li> blow bubbles<li> make homemade play dough<li> play with play dough<li> press flowers<li> do crafts with pressed flowers<li> write a letter to a relative, friend or pen pal<li> clean bedroom<li> vacuum livingroom<li> clean bathroom<li> make a craft<li> draw<li> color<li> paint<li> pull weeds<li> watch a movie<li> write stories<li> use binoculars<li> use magnifying glass<li> use microscope<li> bird watching<li> write a play<li> act out a play<li> invent circus acts<li> perform a circus<li> play card games<li> make art on the front walkway with sidewalk chalk<li> play catch<li> play baseball<li> collect rocks<li> collect leaves<li> collect feathers<li> play Frisbee<li> make Frisbee's out of old plastic lids, decorate with markers<li> dust the house<li> brush the pet<li> write letters<li> read a magazine<li> play dress-up<li> play Cowboys<li> pick vegetables<li> play outside with the pet<li> build a fort in your rooms<li> build a fort in the backyard<li> do a jigsaw puzzle<li> play on the Geosafari<li> play on the computer<li> listen to a story or book on tape<li> do extra schoolwork to get ahead<li> do brain teasers (ie: crosswords, word searches,hidden pictures, mazes, etc.)<li> cook<li> prepare lunch<li> surprise a neighbor with a good deed<li> play store<li> prepare a "restaurant" lunch with menus<li> hold a tea party<li> have a Teddy bear picnic<li> play with toy cars<li> play dolls<li> play house<li> chase butterflies<li> collect caterpillars and bugs<li> plant a garden or a pot<li> collect seeds<li> hunt for four-leaf clovers<li> learn magic tricks<li> put on a magic show<li> plant a container garden<li> sprout seeds or beans<li> make sock puppets<li> put on a puppet show<li> make Christmas presents<li> make homemade wrapping paper<li> make homemade gift cards<li> make picture frames from twigs glued onto sturdycardboard<li> crochet or knit<li> make doll clothes<li> sew buttons in designs on old shirts<li> run relay races<li> make bookmarks<li> take a quiet rest time<li> take a shower or bath<li> bathe a pet<li> feed the birds or squirrels<li> watch the clouds<li> organize a dresser drawer<li> clean under the bed<li> empty dishwasher<li> vacuum under the couch cushions and keep anychange found<li> write these ideas on pieces of paper and pick outone or two to do<li> whittle<li> whittle bars of soap<li> practice musical instruments<li> perform a family concert<li> teach yourself to play musical instrument (recorder, harmonica, guitar)<li> fold laundry<li> sweep kitchen or bathroom floors<li> sweep front walkway<li> sweep or spray back patio<li> sweep or spray driveway<li> wash car<li> vacuum car<li> vacuum or dust window blinds<li> clean bathroom mirrors<li> clean sliding glass doors<li> clean inside of car windows<li> wash bicycles<li> clean garage<li> play in the sandbox<li> build a sandcastle<li> work with clay<li> copy your favorite book illustration<li> design your own game<li> build with blocks or Legos<li> create a design box (copper wire, string, odds-and-ends of things destined for the garbage, pom-poms, thread, yarn, etc.)<li> plan a neighborhood or family Olympics<li> have a marble tournament<li> paint a picture with lemon juice on white paper andhang it in a sunny window and see what happens in afew days<li> finger paint with pudding<li> make dessert <li> make dinner<li> give your pet a party<li> paint the sidewalk with water<li> start a journal of summer fun<li> start a nature diary<li> have a read-a-thon with a friend or sibling<li> have a neighborhood bike wash<li> play flashlight tag<li> play Kick the Can<li> check out a science book and try some experiments<li> make up a story<li> arrange photo albums<li> find bugs and start a collection<li> do some stargazing<li> decorate bikes or wagons and have a neighborhoodparade<li> catch butterflies and then let them go<li> play hide-and-seek<li> create a symphony with bottles and pans and rubberbands<li> listen to the birds sing<li> try to imitate bird calls<li> read a story to a younger child<li> find shapes in the clouds<li> string dry noodles or O-shaped cereals into a necklace<li> glue noodles into a design on paper<li> play hopscotch<li> play jacks<li> make up a song<li> make a teepee out of blankets<li> write in your journal<li> find an ant colony and spill some food and watchwhat happens<li> play charades<li> make up a story by drawing pictures<li> draw a cartoon strip<li> make a map of your bedroom, house or neighborhood<li> call a friend<li> cut pictures from old magazines and write a story<li> make a collage using pictures cut from old magazines<li> do a secret service for a neighbor<li> plan a treasure hunt<li> make a treasure map<li> make up a "Bored List" of things to do<li> plan a special activity for your family<li> search your house for items made in other countriesand then learn about those countries from the encyclopediaor online<li> plan an imaginary trip to the moon<li> plan an imaginary trip around the world, where wouldyou want to go<li> write a science-fiction story<li> find a new pen pal<li> make up a play using old clothes as costumes<li> make up a game for practicing math facts<li> have a Spelling Bee<li> make up a game for practicing spelling<li> surprise an elderly neighbor or relative by weeding his/her garden<li> fingerpaint with shaving cream<li> collect sticks and mud and build a bird's nest<li> write newspaper articles for a pretend newspaper<li> put together a family newsletter<li> write reviews of movies or plays or tv shows orconcerts you see during the summer<li> bake a cake<li> bake a batch of cookies<li> decorate a shoe box to hold your summer treasures<li> make a hideout or clubhouse<li> make paper airplanes<li> have paper airplane races <li> learn origami<li> make an obstacle course in your backyard<li> make friendship bracelets for your friends<li> make a wind chime out of things headed for thegarbage<li> paint your face<li> braid hair<li> play tag<li> make a sundial<li> make food sculptures (from pretzels, gumdrops,string licorice, raisins, cream cheese, peanuts, peanutbutter, etc.) and then eat it<li> make a terrarium<li> start a club<li> take a nap outside on your lawn<li> produce a talent show<li> memorize a poem<li> recite a memorized poem for your family</ol>Have a wonderful summer! (And for all you people inthe Southern Hemisphere, feel free to save this articlefor December reading!)<br><br>ABOUT THE AUTHOR:<br>--Deborah Taylor-Hough (wife and mother of three) is a free-lance writer, editor of the Simple Times ezine, author of the bestselling book "<a href="/reading/index.html?mode=viewid=99">Frozen Assets: How to Cook for a Day and Eat for a Month</a>" and the newly released "Frugal Living For Dummies(r)" (Wiley, 2003). Visit Debi online and subscribe to her free e-newsletter at: <a href="http://hometown.aol.com/dsimple/" target="_blank">hometown.aol.com/dsimple/</a>. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: July 26th, 2005
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Summertime Play </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Jodie Lynn<br><a href="http://www.ParentToParent.com" target="_blank">www.ParentToParent.com</a></center><br><br>Summer is full of activities for kids to do, right. Yet it's amazing when in no time flat parents everywhere will hear those two dreaded words, "I'm bored." <br><br>As with most of us, you will literally come to a point in time when you will simply shrug your shoulders and maybe even scratch your head and wonder, how in the heck they can already be bored. <br><br>Many kids do the same thing year after year. They can almost recite their summer schedule even before it is implemented. This year, why not offer them something that they will simply not be counting on. <br><br>Get their creative juices flowing by suggesting they either put on a play of a favorite book, TV show, a game or better yet -- just make one up? Let them write it and decide on who plays which part. In fact, they will be busy for days just writing and rehearsing it. <br><br>Turn over the kitchen table and let them make a plan, goals and run wild with their imaginations. As the parent, stay out of as much of the endeavor as possible by letting them handle things. Don't intervene unless they ask you to or if someone is doing something that is unsafe. <br><br>Go bananas on the wardrobe by making do with "stuff" you have around the house. For example, use old hats, shoes, dresses, pants, shirts, belts, etc., to make up awesome costumes. Get out the glue gun (or purchase one for $1.99), create, and design awesome custom-made dress up clothes. Cover the kitchen table with either an old vinyl tablecloth or a sheet of plastic painter sheet. Take a magic marker and draw large squares for each one of the kids on the cover of the kitchen table; i.e., old tablecloth or painter's plastic sheet. This square should have their name on it and will be their specific work area. <br><br>Let them add beads, ribbon, feathers or whatever you have handy to jazz up old clothes. Encourage them to save their money to buy miscellaneous items at neighborhood garage sales. <br><br>The kids can go around and sell tickets (made out of construction paper) for.25 and tell neighbors to bring their lawn chairs. Select music and have fun with a huge and successful neighborhood play. <br><br>Before you know it, the kids will make up many other plays and help themselves right into creative summer time learning without ever knowing it. <br><br>Following directions, learning patience, enhancing reading skills and gaining self-esteem are only but a few things that will come from allowing them to put on their own plays.<br><br>Once again, you will be amazed at what kids can do on their own or with very little supervision, if you will let them.<br><br>copy;2005 Jodie Lynn<br><br>Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Parent to Parent is now going into its tenth year and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to many sites including eDiets.com and is the Mom to Mom Expert for BabyCenter.com. She has written two books and contributed to two others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest best-selling parenting/family book is <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/096591254X/ref=ase_parenttopar0b-20/103-1701637-4895064?v=glances=books" target="_blank">Mommy CEO, revised edition</a>. Preorder Lynn's new book, "Mom CEO: Avoiding the Distressed Housewife Syndrome and Winning at Motherhood," online or from any bookstore. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:21:22Z
Tip of the Week: June 20th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Preventing IdentityTheft of a Loved One Who Has Passed</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By John Sileo<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Here are 5 steps to take after a loved-one has passed away to make surethat their identity rests in peace:<br></font><ol><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Short Obituaries. Make surethat you don't include too much identifying information when you writethe obituary. Identity thieves use this information (mother's maidenname, address, ancestry, occupation, birth date, death date) to set upnew accounts, licenses, etc. in the deceased person's name. It isimportant to honor the person, just don't give away all of theirpersonal information.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Protect Death Certificates.Guard the death certificate like you would a birth certificate or otherpiece of identity. You will need to fax this document to certainorganizations in order to prove that your family member is deceased,but only send it to trusted institutions who absolutely won't take thename off of the account without it. When you are done with the deathcertificate, store the original and all copies in your safewhere you keep other identity documents. Be forewarned that forsecurities sake, many organizations are requiring an original copy ofthe death certificate as proof, so ask for 10-12 originals copies whenyou request the death certificate.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Notify Credit Bureaus.Immediately notify the three credit reporting bureaus that your familymember has passed away. Request that the credit report is flagged withthe note: Deceased, Do Not Issue Credit. Request a copy of thedecedent's credit report so that you will have a list of all of theaccounts you need to modify/close (see Step 4). The procedure varies bycredit burea, so the numbers to contact them are asfollows: Experian - 888-397-3742; Equifax - 888-766-0008;TransUnion - 800-680-7289. Don't wait for the Social SecurityAdministration to notify the credit bureaus - it takes them too long!And make sure to log all correspondence and conversations and senddocuments via certified mail so that you have proof of delivery, shouldyou ever need to dispute a claim of non-receipt.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Notify FinancialInstitutions. Notify all banks, insurance companies, credit cardcompanies, stock brokers, mortgage companies, loan/lien holders,etc. about the death of your family member (if it was a jointaccount OR an account under their name). The executor or survivingspouse will need to resolve all outstanding debts and how they will bedealt with before the account can be closed or the deceased person'sname is removed from the account. Also notify the Social SecurityAdministration, Veteran's Administration, Department of Motor Vehicles,professional license associations (Bar Association), membershipprograms (Costco, Sam's, Blockbuster, etc.) and any creditors orcollection agencies with which the deceased had an account ormembership. This is a difficult time to put in all of the work toprotect an identity that should be left alone; but the current realityis that the identities of deceased individuals are easier to steal andabuse than those of the living.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Share Wiselywith Family Members. Unfortunately, many cases of deceasedidentity theft are committed by a member of the deceased's family. Itmight be a relative who is in financial trouble, a friend whohas a costly addiction or a child that they were wronged inthe will or estate planning. For that reason, the identifyinginformation of a deceased family member should be kept to as small acircle as possible. It seems to work best when one family member is thepoint-person for collection of documents, closing of accounts, checkingof credit, etc. Generally this is someone other than the personwho organizes all of the other events that surround the death of aloved one.</font></li></ol><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-style: italic;"></span></font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><span style="font-weight: bold;">About the author:</span> To furtherbulletproof yourself and your business, visit John's blog at </font><font><atarget="_blank" href="http://www.Sileo.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">www.Sileo.com</font></a></font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2">. To book John at your next event,visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com/">www.ThinkLikeaSpy.com</a>.John Sileo became America's leading Identity Theft Speaker amp;Expert after he lost his business and more than $300,000 toidentity theft and data breach. His clients include the Department ofDefense, Pfizer and the FDIC.</font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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2010-07-28T02:21:21Z
Halloween On A Dime, Frighteningly Frugal Fun!
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The average American family spends over $100 per year on Halloween goodies. As your kids drag you through aisles full of ghosts and goblins, the scariest thing about Halloween is threatening to leave bite marks in your pocketbook. No wonder so many moms flee screaming from the store... It can be much less expensive and a lot more fun to devise your own chilling creations. Here are a few tips that you can use to stave off the greenback gremlins and exercise your creative muscle. It won't hurt a bit!
Face Paint
1 tsp. corn starch
1/2 tsp. water
1/2 tsp. cold cream
food coloring
Mix all ingredients together in an old muffin pan and you are ready to paint. This amount makes one color.
Fake Wound
1 Tbsp Vaseline
tissue
cocoa powder
2-3 drops red food coloring
Place Vaseline in a bowl. Add food coloring. Blend with a toothpick. Stir in a pinch of cocoa to make a darker blood color. Separate tissue. Using 1 layer, tear a 2x3 inch piece and place at wound site. Cover with petroleum jelly and mold into the shape of a wound. The center should be lower than the sides. Fill the center with the red petroleum jelly mixture. Sprinkle center with some cocoa. Sprinkle a little around the edges of the wound to make darker.
Fake Blood
Mix 2/3 cup white corn syrup, 1 tsp. red food coloring, 2-3 drops blue food coloring to darken and 1 squirt dish soap (helps blood to run well).
Abrasions
Dab brown, red and black eye shadow on area. Apply blood over area with cotton balls. Use comb to gently scratch area in one direction. Apply cocoa or dirt over wound withcotton balls.
Black Eye
Apply red and blue eye shadow to depressions around eyes.
Bruises
Rub red and blue shadow over bony area to simulate recent bruises. Blue and yellow eye shadow to create older bruises.
Look Old
Cover face with baby powder. Draw dark lines on your skin for wrinkles. Smooth edges to blend. Cover again with baby powder. Add baby powder to your hair to create gray hair.
Deviled Eyeballs
Make deviled eggs. Add a green olive with pimento in the center for an "eyeball".
Radioactive Juice
Mix equal parts Mountain Dew and blue Kool-Aid
Toxic Juice
Add some green food coloring to lemonade for a spooky color!
Brains
Scramble eggs with some green, yellow and blue food coloring.
Bloody Eyeballs
Boil cherry tomatoes 30 seconds. Allow to cool; then peel skin.
Goblin Hand
Freeze green Kool-Aid in a rubber or latex glove, float in punch. Use the tape from old cassettes or black yarn to make spider webs. Use cotton balls stretched out for small spider webs.
Glass Jack-o-Lantern
Outline a pumpkin face on a spaghetti or pickle jar with black paint. The paint around the outside of it with orange paint. Place a candle inside for a jack-o-lantern.
Halloween Guess It Game
In this game, you challenge the participants to reach into mystery boxes filled with creepy things and try to guess what each item is. The person with the most correct answers wins the game. An example is if you want them to guess "grapes", you might try to confuse them by saying, "I think it's eyeballs..."
Cut a hole in the top of a shoe box or laundry box for each item to be used. Cover the box with black spray paint. Decorate each box with pumpkins or spiders for a more festive flavor.
Place the following items inside, one per box. Be sure to place enough of each item so the guests can adequately "feel" the guts.
Eyeballs - grapes or peeled cherry tomatoes
Intestines - Cooked Spaghetti
Skin - oil a piece of plastic bag
Brains - scrambled eggs
Hair - an old clown wig
Bones - thoroughly washed chicken bones placed in some sand
Vomit -chunky salsa
Fingers -hot dogs cut into finger sized pieces
Teeth - corn nuts, pine nuts or popcorn
Have a Pumpkin Hunt
Hide mini pumpkins like you would Easter Eggs. Let the kids find and decorate them. For small children use glue sticks with construction paper cut-outs for decorations.
Edible Slime
Pour lime gelatin into a glass bowl. After it is partially set, add gummy worms. Chill until lightly set. Then serve slopped all over the plate.
Bloody Popcorn
Add red food color to melted butter and pour over popcorn.
Freeze gummy worms in ice cubes and add them to drinks. Cut gummy worms in half if needed.
In 5 years, Tawra Kellam and her husband paid off $20,000 personal debt on an average income of $22,000 per year. Tawra is the author of the frugal cookbook
Dining On A Dime
. Dining On A Dime has over 1200 recipes and tips to help you eat better and spend less. For more free tips and recipes visit her web site at
LivingOnADime.com
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Tip of the Week: May 29th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Ten Twitter Tips ForWork-at-Home Moms</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Jill Hart<br></font><a target="_blank" href="http://www.NormanTaylor.com/"><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"><a target="_blank"href="http://www.CWAHM.com/">CWAHM.com</a></font></a></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Social Media is quickly growinginto one of the most-used marketing tools for work-at-home moms. One ofthe largest social media websites, Twitter.com, can be an effective wayto spread the word about your business and learn from other toprepresentatives in your business niche. However, it can take a lot oftime to determine the best ways to use Twitter effectively forbusiness. Below are ten tips to help shorten that learning curve.<br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font style="font-weight: bold;"face="arial, verdana" size="2">1. Choose a Meaningful User name </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">If possible, grab your businessname as well as your own name for use on Twitter. Having aneasy-to-find and easy-to-remember username is essential.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">2.Brand your Twitter page</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Don't leave your Twitter pageboring and plain - spice it up. Make sure you add your logo, contactinformation and any other information that will be helpful forcustomers and visitors to your page. You can use a website such asTwitBacks.com to create a free or very low-cost background to bringlife to your page.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">3.Learn the Lingo</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Twitter can be very useful, but itcan also be very frustrating ... especially if you have no idea whatall those little symbols mean that fly across the screen. Take the timeto research the meanings of the tags most often used on Twitter. Onegreat place to do so is right on Twitter itself: <a target="_blank"href="http://help.twitter.com/portal">http://help.twitter.com/portal</a></font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">4.Follow industry leaders</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Veteran entrepreneur Diana Ennenshares this tip: "I love to follow industry experts on Twitter and gainall their business insight. It's almost like being right there intheir office and getting in on their trade secrets. Not only dothey post tips and how to information, but often share their businesssuccesses and mistakes and that allows me to learn from them. It's so worth it!"</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">5.Interact</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Don't be shy! Take a few minuteseach day to comments on what others are discussing or to throw out aquestion or idea. You never know when a topic is going to spark aresponse and help you build relationships with customers and yourfellow Twitter users.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">6.Don't make it all business news - be YOU</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">It's great to share about thethings going on in your business and you certainly will want to sharespecials, discounts and other items of interest to your customers.However, as a small business owner you have the unique ability to put apersonal face on your business. Let your customers and readers get toknow a little about you as well as your business.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">7. RunContests</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Twitter is a great fast-paced wayto a run a contest. By having a great prize you can create a viralnetwork of "tweets" about your company and the giveaway you're holding.Sit down beforehand and plan out some great 140 character tweets thatyou can use throughout the giveaway time - whether that be minutes,hours or even days.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">8. Share</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Make your Twitter feed aworthwhile read for your customers. Share tips that apply to yourtarget market, links to articles and other informational tidbits.Create a #hashtag for your business or topic (see #3 above) so that youcan track re-tweets and mentions of your posts.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">9. BeThankful</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">A great way to make friends andbuild contacts is to thank others who re-tweet (RT) your posts. Send ashout-out saying thanks or feature them at special times likeFriendFriday (#FF). They'll know that you're grateful and you'll builda community that supports you - and each other.</font><br><br><font style="font-weight: bold;" face="arial, verdana" size="2">10.Promote Others</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Contrary to popular belief it ISin your best interest to work together with other entrepreneurs and tohelp spread the word about great things that they may be doing. Notonly will people be drawn to your Twitter feed for great information,but they will see that you're willing to share about more than your owninterests. Another great benefit is that those you help promote willone day be there to help promote you as well.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>Twitter is a great marketing tool for work-at-home moms. It can helpdrive traffic to your website as well as aid you in buildingrelationships with your target market. Use the tips above to help guideyou in how to best use social media to benefit your business and yourcustomers.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Jill Hart's</span> entrepreneurialcareer began in her teens when she spent a summer working with herfather who ran his own business. When he put her in charge of a Cokemachine and allowed her to keep the profits, she saw the benefits ofbeing her own boss. She is the founder of the popular Christianwork-at-home website <a target="_blank" href="http://www.CWAHM.com/">CWAHM.com</a>and mentors business owners at <a target="_blank"href="http://SuccessfulChristianWomen.com/">Successful Christian Women</a>.Jill is also the co-author of So You Want To Be a Work-at-Home Mom(Beacon Hill Press, 2009). </font><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">Permissiongranted for use onDrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 25th, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b> Rainy Day Activities for Kids and Dogs </b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"> By Colleen Pelar, CPDT, CDBC<br><a href="http://www.LivingwithKidsandDogs.com" target="_blank">www.LivingwithKidsandDogs.com</a></center><br><br><i>'It's raining, it's pouring, everything is boring! </i><br><br>Rainy days with stir-crazy kids and dogs can try your sanity. When your kids wail that there's nothing fun to do, have them try some of these simple games with the family dog. <br><br><b>Hansel Gretel Trails. </b> This is a really basic activity, but kids love it! Give your children a small bowl of treats and tell them to create a trail for the dog to follow. Keep the dog near you while the kids put a treat every 2 to 4 feet. When they have laid out the entire path, have them come back and tell the dog to sit before releasing the dog to follow the trail. They'll follow along behind the dog cheering for each successful find. <br><br><b>Commando Crawl (for mid-sized dogs). </b> Have the kids lay a trail of treats running under your coffee table from one end to the other. Teach the dog to belly-crawl across the floor to get the treats. <br><br><b>Dog Bowling. </b> Arrange empty plastic 2-liter bottles in a bowling triangle in the hallway and have the kids take turns calling the dog for a treat. Whoever gets the dog to topple the most pins as he races down the hall wins. <br><br><b>Tiny Teeter-Totter. </b> Lay a piece of plywood on the floor. Have the kids give the dog treats for stepping on the board. Once the dog is not at all concerned about walking on the board, lay the board across a broom to make a 2 high teeter-totter. Keep rewarding the dog for walking over the board. Remind the kids to keep their fingers away from the board while the dog is on it! <br><br><b>Rainy Day Come. </b> Give each child a small cup of dog treats. Tell one child to go 'hide in the kitchen. At first the child won't really hide, she'll just stand in the center of the kitchen and call the dog. While dog is trotting toward the kitchen, send another child to the dining room. <br><br>After the first child has had the dog sit to get a treat, the child in the dining room can call the dog . . . and while the dog is coming to the second child, the first child will head to the living room. When it's her turn to call again, she'll call and the dog will head for the kitchen only to find that she's not there! While the dog looks for the first child, the second chooses a new spot. <br><br> As your dog gets better at this game, the kids can make it more challenging by standing behind doors or sitting in unusual places. The game is over when the kids are out of treats; then everyone can head to the kitchen for a cookie break. <br><br>Remember to use lots of treats to make these games as much fun for the dog as for the kids. The idea is to offer the children simple training opportunities in fun, easy-to-implement ways. <br><br> Don't allow anyone to push or pull the dog to get him to do something. If the dog seems confused or resistant, look for ways to make the challenges easier. Watch for any signs of frustration#151;on either the kids' or dog's part#151;and step in right away to help. <br><br>Soon your kids will be hoping it rains more often. <br><br>Colleen Pelar, CPDT, CDBC, (<a href="http://www.LivingwithKidsandDogs.com" target="_blank">www.LivingwithKidsandDogs.com</a>) is the author of <b><i>Living with Kids and Dogs . . . Without Losing Your Mind</i></b> and is America's Kids and Canines Coach. Colleen has more than 15 years' experience as the go-to person for parents trying to navigate kid-and-dog issues. Because every interaction between a child and a dog can be improved by a knowledgeable adult, Colleen is committed to educating parents, children, and dog owners on kid-and-dog relationships. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: November 1st, 2009
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Stop Stress byExpanding Your "Circle of Nice"</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Winn Claybaugh<br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/">www.beniceorelse.com</a><br></font></center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br>Remember when you were a kid and you couldn't wait for summer vacationto start? Now that you're an adult, vacations often mean standing inline, sitting in traffic, and dealing with economic stress. Instead ofletting stress get you down, remember that it's not the situation thatcauses stress but how you <span style="font-style: italic;">interpret</span>the situation. <br><br>In <span style="font-style: italic;">The 7 Habits of Highly EffectivePeople</span>, Stephen Covey told aboutbeing on a crowded subway with a man whose children were out ofcontrol. Covey was getting irritated, until he learned that they werereturning from the hospital where the man's wife had just died. Covey'sattitude instantly shifted from stress to sympathy. <br><br>Avoiding stress can be as simple as changing your beliefs. Supposesomeone steals your cell phone while you're on a trip. You could rantabout the inconvenience, or you could choose to believe that your phonewas taken by a struggling waiter with five starving kids. When youdon't know the real story, why not choose one that makes you feel good?Wouldn't you rather think your phone helped to feed five hungrychildren?<br><br>In <span style="font-style: italic;">Be Nice (Or Else!)</span> I wroteabout circles of influence. You have aninfluence on everyone you come in contact with. You can be waiting inline with perfect strangers, and your attitude and behavior can make orruin their day. I also talked about your <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">circle of nice</span>, which is aslightly different concept. This circle includes everyone you've<span style="font-style: italic;">decided</span> to treat nicely. In a"be nice" world, the ultimate ambitionfor each of us is to include in our circle of nice the same exactindividuals as those in our circle of influence--both people we knowandmany we don't know. <br><br>To expand your circle of nice, take out four pieces of paper and createthe following lists:<br><br></font><div style="margin-left: 40px;"><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">1.<spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Your current circle of influence.</span>This will be a lengthy list ofanyone and everyone you come in contact with on a daily basis, even ifyou don't know their names or actually speak to them.</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">2.<span style="font-weight: bold;">Yourcurrent circle of nice.</span> These are the individuals to whom you'vealready made a conscious decision to be nice. Next to each of thesenames, list the specific <span style="font-style: italic;">actions</span>you take to care for that person. Howdo you let them know they're included in your circle of nice?</font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">3.<span style="font-weight: bold;">Yourimmediate goals.</span> These are the people you want to add to yourcircle of nice right now and they would be easy to add. Make aconscious decision to take actions toward including them in your circleof nice. </font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">4.<span style="font-weight: bold;">Yourlong-range goals:</span> These are the people who are <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">not</span> in yourcircle of nice and you aren't quite sure how or even if you want to addthem yet. Choose one person from this list to begin moving into yourcircle of nice.</font><br></div><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br>Can you imagine how different our society would be if everyone made thecommitment to expand their circle of nice? Instead of televisedshouting matches, town hall meetings would become courteous exchangesof opinions and ideas. Road rage would be a thing of the past. Travelwould be pleasant and enjoyable again. There's just no telling whatmight happen in our homes, our relationships, our workplaces, and ourhealth if we all agreed to expand our circle of nice! <br><br><b>Winn Claybaugh</b> is the author of <ahref="http://www.beniceorelse.com/pages/book.html" target="_blank"><i>BeNice (Or Else!)</i></a> and "one of the best motivational speakers inthe country," according to CNN's Larry King. A business owner for over25 years with over 8,000 people in his organization, Winn is theco-owner of hair care giant Paul Mitchell's school division. Winn hashelped thousands of businesses build their brands and create successfulworking cultures. His clients include Southwest Airlines, the IrvineCompany, Vidal Sassoon, Entertainment Tonight, Mattel, <i>For Rent</i>magazine, Structure/Limited/Express, and others. Winn is a frequentguest on national radio and a regular contributor to onlinepublications. Visit <a href="http://www.beniceorelse.com/"target="_blank">www.beniceorelse.com</a> to sign up for his freemonthly <i>Be Nice (Or Else!)</i> newsletter. Permission granted foruse on DrLaura.com. <br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: March 21st, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>Should You Give YourSpouse an Ultimatum?</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Mort Fertel<br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>Have you thought about givingyour spouse an ultimatum? Something like, "If you don't stop XYZ, thismarriage is over."<br><br>Is your spouse having an affair, hooked on porn, an alcoholic, aworkaholic, or obsessive about a hobby?<br><br>How do you get your spouse to stop behavior that's destroying yourmarriage?<br><br>An ultimatum is an interesting idea. I bet a friend or family membereven suggested it. I'm sure it's crossed your mind. Maybe it was evenadvised by your counselor. But will it work?<br><br>If you want to restore your marriage, do not give your spouse anultimatum. It will not work. Let me explain why. And let me explain howyou can get your spouse to end their affair or stop their addictive orobsessive behavior.<br><br>In a sense, it's empowering to think, and even say to your spouse,"Your behavior is unacceptable. And if it doesn't stop, I'm leavingyou." An ultimatum offers the ultimate role reversal. It puts you, thevictim, in control. <br><br>Understandably, that's appealing. And there's no doubt that in theshort run, you'll feel better. But it also feels good to eat dessertafter every meal. Just because something feels good does not mean it isgood. The question you have to ask yourself is: Will an ultimatum giveme the result I want?<br><br>The answer is no.<br><br>Now I know what you're thinking, "Mort, what about tough love?Shouldn't I set borders and boundaries?"<br><br>If you give your spouse an ultimatum, you'll establish clear rules foryour marriage. You'll set borders and boundaries. But where will themotivation come from for your spouse to live by the rules? In otherwords, the rules will be clear, but why would your spouse want toadhere to them?<br><br>You see, if your spouse is a workaholic, an alcoholic, having anaffair, into porn, or involved in obsessive or destructive behavior,the problem is not a lack of rules; it's a lack of motivation to liveby the rules.<br><br>Your spouse knows their behavior is wrong. Even if they won't admit it,even if they justify it, deep down they know that their behavior isimmoral and that it's destroying your marriage and soiling their soul.The problem is that they don't care. The problem is that they lack aninternal motivation to do the right thing.<br><br>Your spouse has to want to stop. The key is their inner motivation,their will. An ultimatum imposes rules from the outside; it doesnothing to address the lack of motivation on the inside.<br><br>Bottom line: although giving an ultimatum feels good, it misses yourtarget.<br><br>Your target is your spouse's inner motivation. And how do you affectsomeone's inner motivation? The secret is to connect with them.<br><br>Life begins as a connected experience in the womb of our mother. Whenwe're born and that physical connection is severed, we yearn to connectagain. How we go about creating that connection and how well we succeedbecomes the story of our life.<br><br>People who make healthy and meaningful connections with other peoplefeel fulfilled. People who lack an emotional connection with othersgrasp at anything in an attempt to fill that void. That's what leadspeople to sex, alcohol, hours of mindless TV, or an obsessivecommitment to money, success, work, or a hobby. These trappings offer amomentary filling. But the cause of the emptiness your spouse seeks tofill is a lack of a meaningful connection in their life.<br><br>When you create that connection with your spouse, you accomplish twoprofound things. First, you eliminate your spouse's desire for theirdestructive behavior. You take the wind right out of its sail. You cutit off at its source. There's no more hole to fill. You filled it!<br><br>Second, you offer your spouse a permanent filling for a hole that'sbeen insatiable probably since their childhood. And their desire foryour connection will trump any momentary interest in seductivepleasures.<br><br>So how do you get your spouse to stop their destructive behavior? Youcreate a connection with them.<br><br>Now don't misunderstand, I'm not saying that your spouse'sinappropriate behavior is your fault. It's not your fault you need <atarget="_blank" href="http://www.marriagemax.com/">marriage help</a>either. But it is your responsibility. Meaning, that you can choose todo something about it. You can impact your spouse's choices. But you'llneed to learn to forge a real connection with your spouse, and you'llneed to learn to do that without your spouse's cooperation.<br><br><br>Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships andhas an international reputation for saving marriages. He's been afeatured expert on NBC, the Fox News Network, and in Family Circle. <atarget="_blank" href="http://www.MortFertel.com/cmd.asp?af=1051482">Clickhere</a> for Mort's FREE report "7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage."</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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Tip of the Week: April 25th, 2010
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<img alt="Icon" class="blog-icon-large" src="/images/Site/Icons/150x150/tip_otw.jpg"/><br><br><br><br><center><font face="arial, verdana" size="3"><b>The "Golden Years" Needa Brass Ring:<br>Why a Sense of Purpose is Crucial for Retirement</b></font><br><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">By Mary Lloyd<br>Author of <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">SuperchargedRetirement: Ditch the Rocking Chair, </span><brstyle="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Trash the Remote,and Do What You Love</span><br><a target="_blank" href="http://www.mining-silver.com/">www.mining-silver.com</a><br></font> </center><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;"></span>When you're working full-time,"retirement" is the brass ring you strive for. But whatkeeps you going once you retire?<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Doing nothing.</span> The popularfantasy is that you won't <span style="font-style: italic;">want</span>to keep going--that doing whatever you want all day every day will beperfect. But satisfaction with doing nothing typically lastsabout a year. And then?<br><br>For many retirees, it's the start of a long, frustrating time oflife. You've reached the Promised Land, and you don't like theprogram. Now what?<br><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Doing anything.</span> Manyresort to filling up their calendars--joining clubs and volunteeringfor everything that comes along. Maybe it beats meeting the guysat McDonald's for coffee every day, but you still feel empty. Pretty soon you quit because it's not working. Then you volunteersomewhere else, and the cycle repeats. And the emptinesscontinues.<br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Doing something authentic.</span> Boththe "extended vacation" model of retirement and the "jam the calendar"model lack a sense of purpose. Knowing what's important and whatyou want to do about it is a huge piece of creating a satisfyingretired life. <br><br><span style="font-weight: bold;">Why PURPOSE?</span> To reallythrive, you need to act on more than your own needs. You <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">believe</span> in what you need to dorather than just "having to get it done." Purpose keeps youexcited about life and that has a lot of pluses.<br></font><ul><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Purpose helps you physically.</span> In one study, nuns who reached advanced age never exhibited symptoms ofAlzheimer's even though the physiological characteristics were evidentwhen their brains were studied after they died. The nuns were involvedin something more important than themselves even at age 100. Theyhad a reason to continue to function effectively. So they did.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Purpose helps you emotionally.</span> Doing work you believe in confirms you're competent andrelevant--reinforcement that's hard to find in a leisure-centeredretirement. <br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Purpose helps you mentally.</span> Doing purpose-defined work keeps your mind functioning moreeffectively. You learn new concepts and try new things to makethings happen. You seek and implement solutions. Acting onwhat's important to you keeps your world expanding and your learningcurve going <span style="font-style: italic;">up</span>.<br><br></font></li><li><font face="arial, verdana" size="2"><spanstyle="font-weight: bold;">Purpose helps you socially.</span> Being involved in something bigger than walking the dog connects you toa larger social sphere. You build relationships with people with thesame interest. You make contacts to learn more. That kindof involvement means you're less likely to be depressed. You'realso less likely to dwell on everyday aches and pains.</font></li></ul><font face="arial, verdana" size="2">A sense of purpose if the very <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">first</span> thing anyone planningretirement needs to come up with--even before the money part. (Itmakes your financial planning easier because what you want to dodetermines how much money you'll need.) Purpose helps youthrive. It saves you money by helping your stay healthy. It's crucial.<br><br>Only you can find your purpose in retirement. Starting <spanstyle="font-style: italic;">before</span> you retire can make that alot easier. <br><br><b>Mary Lloyd</b> is a consultant and speaker and author of SuperchargedRetirement: Ditch the Rocking Chair, Trash the Remote, and Do What YouLove. Her focus is on using on the potential of those over50. For more, please visit her website <a target="_blank"href="http://www.mining-silver.com">http://www.mining-silver.com</a>. She can be reached at <a href="mailto:mary@mining-silver.com">mary@mining-silver.com</a>.</font><fontface="arial, verdana" size="2"> Permissiongranted foruse onDrLaura.com<br><br></font>
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