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05/07/2010
IconThree Umbrellas Every Parent Needs by Debi Stack Probably sometime in the last 24 hours, if you're a mommy (or daddy) to the max, your child shared a wild idea, and then BOOM! Down poured your list of all the logical reasons why it won't work. Here are two examples of how I've done it with my own kids. --While watching an old movie starring Gene Kelly with my then-preteen daughter, she commented on how handsome he was and how romantic it would be to dance with him. What I should've said is, "Yes, he is good-looking. And I'm sure if you could somehow hop into this movie, he'd think you were cute as a button." What I actually said was, "He's probably dead by now." --While driving with my then-preschooler son beside me, he noticed a stray dog and began talking about how when he is grown up he will take care of all the animals in the world that don't have homes. What I should've said is, "You have such a kind heart. That's one of the things I love about you." What I actually said was, "Most of them would probably have diseases and need to be put to sleep." AARRGGHH! I hate it when I do that! Of course, I could blame my poor responses on being sleep deprived with my daughter (she likes to start watching a movie when I'm ready for bed) or at being traffic-distracted with my son (he likes to jabber faster and louder during rush hour). But my response had nothing to do with them. It's just typical of perfectionists to automatically focus on what's wrong and ignore what's right. This is like an oversensitive fire alarm: at the slightest hint of heat, PWEEEEESSSHHH!!! The sprinkler system kicks in and everything is drenched, doused and water-damaged. The good news is that we can retrain ourselves to turn down the over-sensitivity to "wrong" and turn up the sensitivity to "right." Here are three tips that help keep me from raining on my kids' parades. Umbrella #1: Give them my full attention. When I'm tired or distracted, this takes extra effort, but maintaining eye contact with my optimistic children as they share their exciting ideas softens my heart and my response. Their sweetly expectant faces are irresistible! (Besides, don't I require their full attention when I speak to them?) Umbrella #2: Show real interest. The easiest way to enter into my kids' dreams is with play-along questions. When my then-preschooler daughter talked about what kind of princess dress she would wear to a ball, I asked, "What kind of shoes would go with that? What color dress could I have? Would you paint a picture of that for me?" (See? I do say the right thing sometimes!) Umbrella #3: Suppress evaluations. Instead of jumping in with an adult-level judgment ("That will never work"), offer affirming statements: "I like the way you think." "Your imagination inspires me!" "It's fun to share your dreams." Yes, most of our kids' parades will eventually be rained upon, but parents should be the last to drizzle and drip on them. Instead, let's offer each of our little dreamers the shelter of our attention, interest and affirmation. That will keep them singin' in the rain for years to come. Debi Stack is an author, speaker and media guest who addresses the topics of stress, overcommitment and perfectionism. Her humorous, self-help book for maxed-out women, Martha to the Max: Balanced Living for Perfectionists , is in multiple printings and translations. Visit www.maxedout.net . This "Mommy to the Max" column is used by DrLaura.com with permission. Copyright 2002. All forms of reproduction strictly prohibited. More >>

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05/07/2010
IconThe History of Father's Day -by Patti Chadwick www.parentsandteens.com patti@parentsandteens.com In today's world, Father's Day seems like a tradition that has been around forever. The truth of the matter is, however, that Father's Day is a relatively new institution, which became an official holiday only 29 years ago. There is a discrepancy over who was actually the originator of the holiday. While some feel that the first Father's Day observance was planned by Mrs. Charles Clayton of West Virginia in 1908, popular opinion credits Sonora Smart Dodd, of Spokane, Washington with the idea. Sonora Smart Dodd had lost her mother during the birth of her sixth child. For twenty-one years her father, William Jackson Smart, raised his six children on his own, making all the parental sacrifices that come with raising a family. To Sonora, her father was the perfect example of a selfless, loving, courageous man. In 1909, while listening intently to a Mother's Day sermon extolling the virtues of motherhood, Sonora longed for a way to honor her father for all he had done for her and her siblings. It is then that shecame up with the idea of holding a Father's Day celebration to honor fathers everywhere. Mrs. Dodd was able to gain support for a local Father's Day celebration from the town's ministers and members of the local Y.M.C.A. The date suggested for the first Father's Day was June 5, 1910, William Smart's birthday. However, because of the time needed to prepare for the celebration, the date of the first Father's Day celebration was moved to June 19, the third Sunday in June.The rose was selected as the flower to be worn in Father's Day celebrations; the red rose for those whose father was living and the white rose for those whose father had passed away. Newspapers across the country that were endorsing Mother's Day carried stories of the Father's Day observance in Spokane. Interest in Father's Day increased and local observances popped up across the nation. The state of Washington made Father's Day an official holiday that same year. Though the holiday was popular as a local celebration in many communities, it wasn't readily accepted nationally. In 1912, J.H. Berringer, of Washington conducted a Father's Day service, choosing to wear a white lilac as the Father's Day flower. In 1915, Henry Meek, president of the Lions Club of Chicago also began promoting Father's Day celebrations. He gave several speeches around the United States supporting Father's Day and in 1920 the Lions Clubs of America presented him with a gold watch with the inscription "Originator of Father's Day". Many famous people supported Father's Day and attempted to secure official recognition for the holiday including William Jennings Bryan, Woodrow Wilson, and Calvin Coolidge. In 1916 President Wilson observed the holiday with his own family and in 1924 President Coolidge gave his support to states wishing to hold their own Father's Day observances believing that widespread observance of the holiday would draw families closer together. In 1957 Senator Margaret Chase Smith lobbied Congress for a national Father's Day, but it wasn't until 1966 that President Lyndon Johnson signed a presidential proclamation declaring the 3rd Sunday of June as Father's Day. In 1972, President Richard Nixon established a permanent national observance of Father's Day to be held on the 3rd Sunday of June. Today, Father's Day is celebrated across the globe. While it is not as widely celebrated as Mother's Day, Father's Day is the fifth-largest card-sending occasion in America, with over 85 million greeting cards exchanged. Patricia Chadwick is a freelance writer and has been a stay-at-home mom for 15 years. She is currently a columnist in several online publications as well as editor of two newsletters. Parents Teens is a twice-monthly newsletter geared to help parents connect with their teens. Subscribe at www.parentsandteens.com . History's Women is weekly online magazine highlighting the extraordinary achievements of women. Subscribe at www.historyswomen.com/subscribe.html . Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. More >>

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05/07/2010
IconHomebodies Spotlight: One Husband's Transition Homebodies By Cheryl Gochnauer Cheryl@homebodies.org Copyright 2003 Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com Stephanie had been an at-home parent for about 10 months, and loved it.But like many wives, she ran into resistance from her husband when shefirst expressed her desire to stay home with their children. Here's alook at how they worked through their conflicting stances. Q: What was your husband's initial reaction when you brought upbecoming a SAH wife and mother? He was dead set against it; said we were in no financial position toeven consider it. He was somewhat correct about that, but it was not asgrave as he initially made it out to be. Q: How long did it take him to come around? I first brought it up around September, when our second child was aninfant and we had two in daycare, nine hours a day. I resigned my jobin June, so 9 months. Q: What kind of evidence/information did you use to sway him? I drew up a detailed budget of how much I made in take-home pay, and howover half of that went for daycare tuition payments. Add gas, lunchesout, work clothes, dry cleaning, etc. Another biggie was the dramaticchange for the worse in our older son's behavior. He picked up allsorts of bad habits due to being moved up into an inadequately staffedroom at the daycare center. His other rooms were great, but this onewas a disaster! Also, I showed my husband that I could not keep up witha full time job, two kids in daycare, keeping house, and attending toour marriage without having a nervous breakdown. He finally got thepicture. Q: Has your one-time hesitant husband ever expressed any resentment or regret that he agreed to bringing you home? No, never. We compromised; I waited to resign until after he took abetter paying position and was in that job for about 6 months. We paiddown some debt, drew up a budget and socked away as much of my salary aspossible. We barely feel the pinch financially, which leads me tobelieve that my salary was virtually non-existent after expenses. Ithink most husbands worry about the finances first and are resistant tothe SAHM idea until you convince them that you will be okay without thatextra salary. And now my husband comments on the improvement in ourhousehold and children all of the time. As Stephanie illustrated, money concerns can cause a knee-jerk "No way!"reaction from husbands when the stay-at-home subject is first laid onthe table. But keep those lines of communication open and look at allyour options, together. Then make family-focused decisions that bothspouses can support wholeheartedly. Cheryl's latest book, is "Stay-at-Home Handbook: Advice on Parenting, Finances, Career,Surviving Each Day More" (InterVarsity Press, 2002). Visit www.homebodies.org/bookstore/orderSAHH.htm or write Cheryl@homebodies.org . You can also read her column on the Web at www.gospelcom.net/homebodies/experts/cgochnauer/index.php . More >>

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05/07/2010
IconParent Your Teenager Into Adulthood Many people think that once their children become teenagers their parenting will become much easier. They figure that the days of physically caring for their children will be almost over and that somehow teens will want to take care of themselves from the day they hit 13. Those who hold these beliefs have never had a sick teenager in the house! This has been a bad winter for the Chadwick household. The flu has hit us pretty hard and the only one that has managed to stay healthy isMamma Bear. While my kids are all teenagers, when they are sick, they want the same doting as a two-year-old child! They want mom home at all time and preferably at their side. #147;I need Kleenex...#148; #147;I need water.#148; #147;I feel awful, can you rub my head.#148; When my 15-year-old daughter came down with the flu this winter, she reverted to her former child-like self. Normally, she is very independent and likes to take care of herself. She takes care of all areas of her life: finances, studies, care for her clothing, etc. When she got sick, however, all she wanted was for mom to be there, taking care of her. In fact, it was a busy week for this work-at-home mom and apparently I wasn't giving my girl enough attention. She was upstairs in her room and every time she needed something she would call me on my cell phone from the telephone in her room with her requests. As she began to feel a little better, but not totally well, she would call and say, #147;Mom where are you? I'm lonely!#148; So much for being independent! My point is that no matter how grown up your teens seem to be they always need their parents. They need your advice, they need your listening ear, they need your watchful eye, they need to have you to be available for them, and when they are sick they need you to pamper them! So many parents make the mistake of giving their teens too much freedom and become too busy with other areas of their lives during the teenage years. Just because they may seem grown up on the outside, it doesn't mean they are grown up on the inside! God has given us a responsibility to raise our children to love and worship Him and to choose to live a godly, moral life. He promises us in Proverbs 22:6 that if we teach our children to choose the right path, when they are older, they will remain upon it. Don't give up this opportunity to parent your teenager into adulthood. You have the good fortune to be the most important influence at this critical time in their lives. It is from you that they will learn to make daily choices to follow God's ways, which is really the biblical definition of wisdom! Rise up to the challenge and before you know it they will be grown and making decisions on their own. Your parenting days are numbered; use this time well! Patricia Chadwick is a freelance writer and columnist in several online publications. Visit her website and sign up for her FREE weekly newsletters at www.parentsandteens.com Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. More >>

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05/07/2010
IconATTACK OF THE BEANIE BABIES By Cheryl Gochnauer When I went garage saling last week, I was amazed to see all the marked-downBeanie Babies. I'm old enough to remember when Beanies sparked mania acrossour cities, and it's a little sad to see them tossed haphazardly incardboard crates on strangers' driveways. Those who know me well are grinning as they read that last line. Theyremember how hard I fought my Beanie addiction - right up until Pugsley wonme over. But I'm getting ahead of the story. . . . Let's flash back a few years, and re-live "Attack of the Beanie Babies", aHomebodies column I wrote in 1997:I refuse to give in to every whim that presents itself. I didn't adopt aCabbage Patch doll; refused to blow a fuse over Buzz Lightyear; managed toignore Tickle Me Elmo. Amused, I watched as fellow moms collected all 101 Dalmatians and overdosedon Happy Meals in order to get every Teeny Beanie. Those littlepebble-stuffed animals seemed harmless enough. But then Beanie Babies took on a life of their own. My friends -- grownwomen, mind you -- were going bonkers for Beanies. One lady waited in linefor three hours to purchase four (the limit). Another ran up long distancebills, calling out-of-town Hallmarks for leads on the elusive critters. Teachers passed out Beanie Baby rosters and kids logged onto the Beanie BabyWebsite, with full-color photos and stats on each innocent-looking entry. Everywhere, from grocery store to hardware shop, I noticed mountains ofbeanbag dolls, all (in my novice eyes) as cute as could be. "What's thedeal?" I asked my daughter, Karen. "There's all kinds of Beanie Babiesaround." "Those aren't the REAL Beanies, Mom. See, the real ones have a little redheart with a poem." "These have poems. And names, too," I persisted. "They're all right, I guess," Karen sidetracked, but I knew she wasn'tconvinced. It really didn't matter to me, anyhow. I thought the whole thing wasstupid, and so I shrugged it off and got on with my life. Karen's birthday was in two weeks, and I was feeling the pressure of findingsomething a nine-year-old would like. Too old for toys; too young to besatisfied with new clothes. The only thing she had shown an interest in was those Beanie Babies herfriends all had. All right. I'll get her a bunch of Beanies. Little did I know. I should have been shopping for Beanies eight monthsago. We were in the midst of a Beanie drought. Babies on the Beanie blackmarket were bringing 10 times their face value. A Hallmark clerk laughed in my face, saying yes, they did get a shipment ofBeanies in last week. All 120 were gone in 10 minutes. What is there, some kind of Beanie Underground? Rumor said a shop downtown had a stash, but the owner only sold to "private"customers. Maybe by dropping a name, I'd have some luck. Forget it! My head was splitting with the injustice of it all. Then I started getting calls from the Beanie hotline. Addicts phoned inleads. It was as surreal as Elvis sightings. "There's a handful at the Odessa Outlet Mall!" "A lady in Warsaw has one for $20. I'd take it." "My cousin had some doubles. Let me check with her." I resisted as long as I could, but then...I'm sorry...I get a littleemotional here. I gave in. I became a Beanie Weenie. Memory clicked and I remembered a source who could get me a couple ofBeanies in time for Karen's birthday. Ironically, this same lady hadoffered each of my girls a free Beanie Baby a few months earlier. I hadlaughed at her then; now, I was scrambling for her phone number. The Beanies were no longer free, but she had connections on the Internet.She could pull a few strings...and shamelessly, I let her. Karen's' reaction to Pugsley and Blizzard was worth it all. And that Pugsley...he's SO cute! I've got to get a grip.(Comments? Email cheryl@homebodies.org , or visit her website at www.homebodies.org . Her book, So You Want to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom, isavailable at your favorite bookstore. Copyright 2001 Homebodies.Org, LLC. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.) More >>

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05/07/2010
IconON-LINE RESOURCES FOR STAY-AT-HOME PARENTS 1) At-Home Mothers www.athomemothers.com The National Association of At-Home Mothers offers complete support for theat-home motherhood lifestyle, including a quarterly magazine called At-HomeMother, as well as numerous other member benefits. NAAHM is "committed tofinding solutions to all of your at-home mothering concerns". Membership is$18 per year. You can get more information by writing the NationalAssociation of At-Home Mothers, 406 E. Buchanan Ave., Fairfield, IA 52556,or by e-mail: information@AtHomeMothers.com . Also take a look at theircomprehensive website, which offers free information, sample articles andInfo Guides, a bookstore of publications chosen specifically for at-homemothers, and much more. 2) Caring at Home www.momsnetwork.com/suites/parentchild/caringathome/ Caring at Home is a non-profit organization operated by work at home momswho would like to make a difference in the lives of the nation's childrenand the people that care for them. They want to create a link among allpeople who share the same concern and help them reach the ears ofgovernmental decision-makers. Their motto: Together we can make adifference! 3) Cheapskate Monthly www.cheapskatemonthly.com Author Mary Hunt's Cheapskate Monthly is a 12-page newsletter published 12times a year and delivered either to your mailbox or via the Internet.Cheapskate Monthly's purpose is (1) to empower and educate those that areliving financially responsible lives to become even more effective moneymanagers, and (2) to help those who are struggling to live within theirmeans find practical and realistic solutions to their financial problems, toget out of debt and begin living joyfully beneath their means. Bothversions of Cheapskate Monthly are filled with tips, humor and greatinformation to help you stretch those dollars till they scream! Tosubscribe to Cheapskate Monthly, send a check or money order for $18.00 toCheapskate Monthly, P.O. Box 2135, Paramount, CA 90723-8135. For moreinformation, call (562) 630-6474. 4) Cyber Working Moms www.cyberworking.com Cyber Working Moms site was built to encourage working women who chose to stay at home with their children, by providing helpful information, encouragement, tips on how to make things easier and secondly for support and advice from other "work at home moms." 5) Daddy's Home www.Daddyshome.com An on-line resource for primary caregiver fathers. 6) The Dollar Stretcher www.stretcher.com The Dollar Stretcher is dedicated to "living better...for less" and featuresways to help you stretch your day and your budget. The website includes alibrary with over 3,000 free articles covering everything from babies tovacations. There are also three free electronic newsletters, as well as amonthly print newsletter that is available by paid subscription. The site'seditor, Gary Foreman, is a former Certified Financial Planner and purchasingmanager. If you want to save money, this is the place to start. 7) Hearts at Home www.hearts-at-home.org Founded by Jill Savage in 1993, Hearts at Home offers a variety of resourcesand events to assist women in their job as wife and mother. Resourcesinclude the Hearts at Home magazine, the Hearts at Home devotional, and theHearts at Home website. Additionally, Hearts at Home conferences make agreat getaway for individuals, moms' groups, or that special friend, sister,or sister-in-law. Regional conferences attended by over 10,000 women eachyear provide a unique, affordable and highly encouraging weekend for thewoman who takes the profession of motherhood seriously. Contact: Hearts atHome, 900 W. College Avenue, Normal, Illinois 61761. Phone: (309) 888-MOMS. 8) Home-Based Working Moms www.hbwm.com This is a professional association and an online community of parents whowork at home and those who would like to. HBWM members receive a monthly(print) newsletter, free advertising options, Hire-A-Mom directory listing,national publicity opportunities, e-mail discussion list, private messageboards, support, networking, information, more! Home-Based Working Moms,PO Box 500164, Austin, TX 78750. Phone: (512) 266-0900 9) Homebodies www.homebodies.org Author and speaker Cheryl Gochnauer's aim is to empower and encourageat-home parents and working mothers who are considering the at-homelifestyle by providing practical financial, emotional and career-planningadvice. Her website features columnists, resources and message boards whereyou can interact in a safe environment with likeminded parents around theworld. Read how she cut $1000 from her family's monthly budget: www.homebodies.org/dollars.html . 10) Main Street Moms www.mainstreetmom.com Main Street Moms is the online magazine for modern mothers with traditionalvalues. You will find articles on parenting, marriage, family budgeting,craft ideas, spiritual growth, family life, and more. You will also findlively discussion boards, free newsletters, and monthly contests. Foundedin 1998, MainStreetMom.com has developed into a community of at-home momswho network their ideas, joys, and frustrations. Money is tight for all ofus, but through sharing ideas, we help each other get through the toughtimes so that we can fully put our children first. 11) Miserly Moms www.miserlymoms.com Miserly Moms is a multi-faceted organization founded by Jonni McCoy in 1992.Jonni's goal is to help people (especially moms) get the tools that theirfamilies need to save money and spend more time together. Jonni writes booksand articles, teaches workshops, runs discussion groups, and does radio andtelevision appearances, all for the purpose of educating people on how toshop more wisely to stretch their dollar. 12) Mommies on the Web www.mommiesontheweb.com A site offering not only parenting information and articles, but alsosupport and friendship to all moms. Join the online community to meet andinteract with other mothers. Enjoy planned chats, special events, recipeexchanges, and many mailing lists. Or shop in the MomVentures mallfeaturing services and products offered by work at home moms. 13) Mommy Savers www.mommysavers.com This website is for thrifty moms who want the best for their families butdon't want to spend an arm and a leg to get it. The decision to be astay-at-home mom is one of the most difficult many new or prospectiveparents face. The main reason many parents feel it is not possible isfinancial. How can a couple with two wage-earners get by on one salary whileadding another member to the family? It certainly is not easy. While everyfamily is different, they all have one thing in common: nobody takes hometheir entire salary. That is where the cost of work comes in. To read therest of the article, go to www.mommysavers.com/moneywise/cost_of_work.htm 14) MOMS Clubs International www.momsclub.org MOMS Clubs are exclusively for at-home mothers, no matter how old theirchildren are. Founded in California in 1983, they now have over 2200 chapters and over 110,000 members across the United States. MOMS Clubsmeet during the day, and children are welcome. 15) Moms Promoting Moms www.joemamaproductions.com Ann Diaz of Joe Mama Productions in Littleton, Colorado, has a great idea:She provides a business opportunity for parents who want to work from home -and the opportunity involves having that parent create opportunities forother parents who want to work from home. It's a real win-win. Says Ann, "Iam in the business of helping other work-at-home moms to be more successful,by presenting them to their local communities as a group, giving them aunique co-op type of marketing venue. I do this by publishing a bookletcalled Moms Inc.: Business Directory of Work-at-Home Moms T." For a modest upfront fee, Ann provides essential materials, businessguidebook and marketing support that a person needs in order to create adirectory in her own city. "One of the great features of this businessopportunity is that your out-of-pocket expenses are very low. "When I wasdoing my first directory, I started from scratch and with no workingcapital. I didn't go to the printer until I had generated enoughadvertising income to pay for it. That way, there was no risk. If Ifailed, I would have simply returned everyone's checks. Fortunately, ittook off!" Interested in creating a Moms Inc. directory for your city? For informationabout becoming a licensed publisher of Moms Inc.: Business Directory ofWork-at-Home Moms in your local area, or to find out if there's a Directorycoming soon to your area, contact Ann Diaz at (970) 593-0604; or e-mail: joemamapro@aol.com . You can also visit her web-site at www.joemamaproductions.com . 16) Mothers More www.mothersandmore.org Mothers More is an international not-for-profit organization supportingsequencing women - mothers who have altered their career paths in order tocare for their children at home. The organization addresses women'spersonal needs and interests during their active parenting years, promotesrecognition and respect for sequencing women, and respects the right ofevery mother to choose if and how she will combine parenting and paidemployment. Mothers More also acts as an advocate for public andemployment policies that accommodate sequencing. Visit their website orcall (800) 223-9399 to find a chapter close to you. 17) Mothers at Home www.mah.org Mothers At Home is the first and largest national non-profit organizationdedicated to the support and encouragement of at-home parenting. Founded in1984, Mothers At Home publishes an award-winning monthly journal, WelcomeHome, as well as books and information on at-home parenting issues. MothersAt Home serves as an advocate on behalf of at-home parents through mediainterviews, public policy analysis, and presentations to parenting groups.For more information visit our website, e-mail us at: mah@mah.org , call(800) 783-4666 for a free information packet, or write Mothers At Home,9493-C Silver King Ct., Fairfax, VA 22031. 18) Stay At-Home Dads www.Slowlane.com The Slowlane web site is a friendly online environment to help support,advocate and inform dads, with particular attention given to stay-at-homedads (SAHD). The site is a comprehensive collection of resources includingthose that handle the common issues like starting a playgroup with otherdads and running a home business as well as the tough issues (divorce,death, custody, etc.), so a dad who needs specific information will easily beable to find a resource to fit his personal search criteria. 19) Work-at-Home Moms www.wahm.com The Online Magazine for Work-at-Home Moms ( www.wahm.com ). This site ispacked with useful information about succeeding in the work-at-home mom(WAHM) arena. Excellent links and resources, plus a smattering of cartoonsand light commentary, make this an excellent resource for current WAHM's orWAHM wanna-be's. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. More >>

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05/07/2010
IconOne Habit At A Time Copyright 2003 Deborah Taylor-Hough Used with permission on DrLaura.com. All rights reserved. hometown.aol.com/dsimple/ I've been told it takes four to six weeks for any action tobecome a habit. So, keeping that in mind, one way I'mgoing to insure my success at keeping my New Year'sresolutions this year is by working on only one newhabit at a time each month. Then, every time I turn toa new calendar page, I'll work on developing a differentgood habit. At the end of the year, I could easily have twelve newpositive habits in my life. Once something's becomea habit, it's simply a part of my life and not somethingI'll even have to think about anymore. Here are some sample goals and habits I'm planning toimplement throughout the coming year (in no particularorder -- taken one at time, one per month): Use both an aerobic video and my exercise equipment 3-4 times per week Spend 20-30 minutes reading aloud to my children everyday Get up at 5am for personal prayer, and Bible study Work on my next book for half an hour everyday Spend ten minutes each day decluttering If I had started the New Year off by attempting to doall of these things at the same time, I know I would'vebecome overwhelmed, and then given up long before anyof these activities became habitual and second-nature. What's the area of life you're most concerned about?Exercise? Weight loss? Healthy eating? Gettingorganized? Saving money? Spending more time withyour kids? Break your goal down into simple steps thatyou can easily manage, and then start working your wayto your goal, one small step at a time. As the old cliche' says: How do you eat an elephant? ...One bite at a time. By making small and consistentchanges, it's possible to change your health, your body,and your life. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Deborah Taylor-Hough (free-lance writer and mother ofthree) is the author of several books including 'FrozenAssets: How to cook for a day and eat for a month ,' andthe brand new 'Frugal Living For Dummies(r)' (Wiley,mid-January '03). Debi also edits the free Simple Timese-newsletter: subscribe-simple-times@ds.xc.org Visit Debi online at: hometown.aol.com/dsimple/ More >>

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05/07/2010
IconShopping For Groceries Jodie Lynn www.ParentToParent.com "Mom, can I push the cart?" "Can I do it this week mom -- you PROMISED!" "It's my turn -- nooooooooooooo...MOM!!!!!!!!!" With everyone's eyes glaring at you, you know THOSE eyes from the other 92 grocery store customers, (yeah, those eyes) -- you feel like disappearing. Does this scenario sound and feel familiar? Well, if it does, it's only just the beginning -- really, right as you step inside the door this fiasco begins. Right? This is especially nerve wrecking on work-at-home moms because you never get a break from the kids. Here are a few doable tips that might work for your crew: Tell them what behavior you expect and the consequences if they don't. Follow through on the consequences. If they begin to cry or throw a fit, leave the store and come home with nothing. Help them make a wish list and they can bring it into the store. Make your own list. Tell them you are going to buy only what is on your list because they are the things you need to make meals. Tell them you will buy one thing off of their wish list if their behavior is acceptable but do not use the word "promise." Don't give into whining. Let them help to add things to the cart. Make it a fun time by asking them to find an item -- this also helps them to learn to read. If they are old enough, let them bring a hand held calculator and add up the items -- this teaches math skills as well as responsibilities. Go early in the morning or late in the evening when crowds are smaller and you can spend a little more time asking and answering questions. If you are in a rush, leave them at home with dad, baby-sitter or friend. Remember, all moms are working moms and are the real CEOs in life. Check out my new Mommy,CEO totes, cups and T-shirts on the ParentToParent.com website and order yours today. They are beautiful, practical and washable. Come on moms -- tell and show the world who you are! Jodie Lynn is an internationally syndicated parenting/family columnist. Her latest paperback book is Mommy-CEO, revised edition, Martin-Ola Press . (It's not just for moms!) -- check out her new e-book, "Syndication Secrets" at ParentToParent.com for more details. We now have new Mommy, CEO merchandise and logo! copy:2004 Jodie Lynn. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com. More >>

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05/07/2010
IconWelcome to Stay-At-Home on DrLaura.com The most frequently asked question on my radio show is "How can I become a stay at home mom?" So, in response to everyone who wants to know the steps to take to stay home or for parents who need moral support, tips or advice, we are debuting a new section on my website, devoted to YOU and your needs. yuml; You'll find success stories from parents who are committed to staying at home and making it work-- they'll tell you in their own words how they did it. You can also get ideas and information on how to make money at home to supplement the family income, as well as seminars, associations and more! I promise you, you'll want to keep visiting my website for new tips and to read about people like Lisa Barnes, who started Baby Bee, Inc. Lisa found a way to stay at home and to help less fortunate children at the same time. There are only two types of mothers. The ones who happily stay at home and the ones who wish they could. Will Rogers once said, "Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there." I hope my website will be the vehicle to help you take charge of your life. So if you stay at home or just dream about being home with your little bunchkins take a look at the entire Stay-At-Home section on my website. -- Dr. Laura More >>

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