Dr. Laura:

As Mother's Day is fast approaching, I thought this would be the perfect time to share a valuable lesson I learned many years ago on another Mother's Day.  My three kids presented me with special gifts they had made in school, but my husband of ten years didn't do anything special - no flowers, no candy, nothing.  My feelings were hurt, and I decided on a bit of revenge.  When Father's Day arrived, I also did nothing, but he didn't even notice!

Since then, I lowered my expectations.  I expect nothing on holidays and that has made all the difference.  Why?  I have been showered with flowers, jewelry, lovely vacations, poems, love notes and so much more - not on Mother's Day, but on many days throughout the year that he feels like showing me how much he loves me.

We've now been married for 45 years, and every day, I get to wake up next to my lover and best friend, and that's the greatest gift of all.  

Patricia