Dr. Laura:

I married my second husband 17 years ago.  We had both been married and divorced and we each had children who were adults before we started dating.  Before we met, I had been divorced for six years and was happy with my life.  Since I was not needy to have a man in my life, I didn't lower my standards.  When we were introduced by a mutual friend, I was still full of distrust and suspicion which I'd carried over from my previous marriage.  But, as he would say to me, "I'm not your ex-husband" and he hung in there with me. 
 
After dating for 18 months, we went to three months of premarital classes and also saw a counselor because everything was going so well, we couldn't believe it could be this good!  Seventeen years later, we're more in love than ever, and I feel cherished.  I also let him know how much I love him.

Earlier this year, I was told I needed a kidney transplant, and my husband was a perfect match.  He told me he considers it an honor to be my donor.  

A good marriage is a piece of heaven on earth.  For your listeners, please be patient and don't lower your standards - there are good men out there and you will not be sorry if you take your time!

Priscilla