My husband decided to send our son, who is about to have his first child, some advice about being an expectant father:
I wish someone would have given me some advice about expecting a baby and having an expectant mother in the house. It’s needed! So, here goes…
First, this is a team effort. She is not pregnant alone and you need to remind her that you’re in this with her.
Second, your loving and caring wife may now become a deadly ticking estrogen time bomb, ready to blow at any time. The good news is you have control of the timer. While you can’t diffuse or stop it, you can move it back as often as you wish. Small daily efforts move it back. These efforts include: bringing her flowers often; hugging her when you get home and asking her how her day was (and then shutting up and listening!); sitting with her for no reason at all; telling her about your day, and generally giving her some daily attention. Larger efforts such as picnicking in the park or going for a drive through the countryside move the timer back further. Act as though you are dating her and trying to get her to like you!
Pregnant women NEED a lot more attention or very bad things happen! She may not kill you, but you sure will wish you were dead. She may be the one carrying the baby, but you have to carry the mommy for now. AND, we are all here to help.
Dad
Advice to an Expectant Father
