I am a divorced mother of two young men. I divorced their dad because of his infidelity and drug use. During my early years of listening to you, I heard a caller who had remarried after her divorce (and she had kids too). She described the drama of her life with a new husband, old husband and all the other players. I knew I didn’t want that for my boys, and that’s the moment I decided I would totally commit myself to helping them grow into strong, independent men.
One of my sons enlisted in the Navy after high school. The other is in college and doing well. I’m very proud of the men they’re becoming. I’ve been pegged as an overly strict mom, but when I look at the results, I don’t think I would have changed anything. Yet, well-meaning friends have tried to set me up on dates over the years, saying I needed to take care of myself, or telling me it wasn’t good for me to put everything into my kids. My boys haven’t been subject to a parade of men auditioning to be their next “dad.” They have never gotten attached to someone only to have them leave with no further contact.
My advice to newly divorced moms: devote your time to your kids. The rewards will be greater than looking back over a trail of drama and broken relationships. Your kids will be strong, confident and secure in the fact that they are loved and worthy of being someone’s number one.
Toni
Advice to Newly Divorced Moms