The most useful advice I think you offer married couples comes under the category of βtreat kindly.β I am reminded daily (sometimes 50 times a day, depending on how crabby I am) to think before speaking.
Many years ago, a woman called you about her husbandβs dirty socks on the floor. She wasnβt calling about an annoying husband, but about how much she missed the dirty socks, because her husband had passed away. That story stayed with me. It has kept me from a lot of complaining about little things that donβt matter. When I start thinking βwhy do I ALWAYS have to do [fill in an annoying chore],β I know my crabby rating is a tad high. I should just do the chore and not speak, because some day, my wonderful husband might not be here to leave dirty socks on the floor or gunk in the kitchen sink.
Sheri
Choose Wisely, Then Think Before Speaking