The most useful advice I think you offer married couples comes under the category of “treat kindly.” I am reminded daily (sometimes 50 times a day, depending on how crabby I am) to think before speaking.
Many years ago, a woman called you about her husband’s dirty socks on the floor. She wasn’t calling about an annoying husband, but about how much she missed the dirty socks, because her husband had passed away. That story stayed with me. It has kept me from a lot of complaining about little things that don’t matter. When I start thinking “why do I ALWAYS have to do [fill in an annoying chore],” I know my crabby rating is a tad high. I should just do the chore and not speak, because some day, my wonderful husband might not be here to leave dirty socks on the floor or gunk in the kitchen sink.
Choose Wisely, Then Think Before Speaking
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