Email of the Day: Everyone Lost When I Left My Family for Another Woman

I did everything wrong. I left my wife for another woman with whom I was madly in love. She was beautiful to me beyond my wildest dreams. We each had two young children of our own. Her daughter hated me from the get-go. She loved her dad and even liking me would be a betrayal. My relationship with my kids got tough because I only had them every other weekend. I had no say in values or everyday decisions, because I was only trying to be a good dad two days out of every fourteen. So, my kids resented me and her kids too.

Her daughter and my son still have big issues stemming from our leaving our spouses and getting together. My wife and I made it 26 years. In the end, her daughter wanted revenge so badly, she would degrade me on the phone and in person. She refused to come home for Christmas because now that she was an adult, she “didn’t have to put up with me any longer.” All this time she was “working” her mom, and finally gave her the ultimatum: her mom had to choose only one of us. Her mom decided to leave me. I was and am devastated. I wasted 26 years, and I’m now alone.

Listening to you made me understand how dumb I was. I want to tell others that step-parenting is the hardest, most impossible situation for spouses and children. Don’t do it at any cost. There are a few exceptions, but very few. I should have been smarter from the beginning.

Scott

Everyone Lost When I Left My Family for Another Woman