Although my mother-in-law and I had an amicable relationship when my husband and I first married, I always viewed her as invasive and annoying. When she would call or text my husband, I would roll my eyes and act pouty. Over the years, you have made some wonderful comments about daughter/mother-in-law relationships, and you have taught me to shift my view.
She raised my husband, cares deeply for him, and then I replaced her and took him away from her. That must be very hard on her. And now that I see it from her point of view, I have compassion and a newfound respect for her. I now encourage my husband to call her more often, try to visit more, and still let them carry on that mother-son relationship. It took time, but through listening to you, I have learned she is not trying to compete with me – she just wants to carry on a relationship with her son, and I would be a terrible wife to whine and nag about her constantly.
How I Changed My Mind About My Mother-in-Law