My husband and I have been married for 27 years, and his mom is one of my favorite people! The way I’ve viewed my mother-in-law is that she knows him honestly like I know him. We’ve been the only two people who have lived with him!
When I need to vent and unload, I call HER – not my own mom or a friend, but HER. Why? Because at the end of it all, she’s still going to love him no matter what, and that’s all that I want. I still love him, but sometimes I need to vent. And she knows it. And she knows him.
If it’s serious, I know his mom will tell it to me straight and say it’s me if it’s me. Mostly, however, she is an ear when I need one.
I chose my husband wisely, and he has the best mom. She’s been an asset to our marriage, and when we talk, I tell her I love her. Now I’m a mother-in-law myself, and I’ve had the best example of what a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship can be. I work hard at it. And I love my daughter-in-law like my own daughter.
I wish and would desire this for everyone. It truly cements the relationship instead of hindering it. I think gaining an awesome friend and resource for life vs. creating a competition over who is more loved is a “no brainer” choice. I know this because I have the best of in-laws
How I Have a Great Relationship With My Mother-in-Law
The Dr. Laura Call of the Day Podcast