My husband and I have been married for 27 years, and his mom is one of my favorite people! The way Iβve viewed my mother-in-law is that she knows him honestly like I know him. Weβve been the only two people who have lived with him!
When I need to vent and unload, I call HER β not my own mom or a friend, but HER. Why? Because at the end of it all, sheβs still going to love him no matter what, and thatβs all that I want. I still love him, but sometimes I need to vent. And she knows it. And she knows him.
If itβs serious, I know his mom will tell it to me straight and say itβs me if itβs me. Mostly, however, she is an ear when I need one.
I chose my husband wisely, and he has the best mom. Sheβs been an asset to our marriage, and when we talk, I tell her I love her. Now Iβm a mother-in-law myself, and Iβve had the best example of what a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship can be. I work hard at it. And I love my daughter-in-law like my own daughter.
I wish and would desire this for everyone. It truly cements the relationship instead of hindering it. I think gaining an awesome friend and resource for life vs. creating a competition over who is more loved is a βno brainerβ choice. I know this because I have the best of in-laws
Rachael
How I Have a Great Relationship With My Mother-in-Law