My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. I did choose wisely, but I didn’t always treat kindly, and we almost didn’t make it. When our three children were teens, we started to have differences in parenting styles, and instead of being unified, we were divided. We fought in front of the kids, and I treated my husband with disrespect and hostility. He left and had an affair, and we were separated for almost a year. My friends told me to “leave the bastard,” but I saw what it was doing to my children. Not having their father in the house was worse than our arguing. So, I decided to save my marriage.
When I changed, he changed. I realized divorce was only going to create a lifetime of problems for all of us and it was going to be painful forever. That was ten years ago, and today, our love is deeper and stronger than it ever was.
All of this was hard on our children, but I know that what we modeled to them about the marriage commitment may help them in their own marriages someday. When they do marry, my husband and I will be there cheering them on to have a long and fulfilling life together like we have finally had. I am thankful I chose to keep my commitment.
Melissa
I Decided to Save My Marriage