When I was 28, I met a teacher and fell hard for him. He was fun, loving, affectionate, and everything I wanted. After three months of dating, I started learning things about him that made me think he wasn't someone I wanted to be with long term. His family was a mess, he had severe debt and drank more than I was comfortable with. The final straw was when he told me he cheated on me but was really sorry, and he only did it because he was drunk.
As I cried that night alone, thinking about what I was going to have to do, your voice popped into my head, and I knew I had to get rid of this guy. There was no way I would have a future with someone like this. As sad as I was, after this very short relationship, I broke up with him. In the months following the breakup, I was sad, but never once did I second guess my decision. I fell in love with the idea of this perfect guy, but it wasn't reality, and when I found that out, I left.
I'm now 33 and engaged to a wonderful man. I'm getting married a little later than most people, but waiting to find the right guy was worth the wait. My advice to other young women is, don't settle. When you know he isn't the one, don't stay, thinking something will change. I'd rather be alone and know that better things are possible, than stay with a loser and know that better things will NEVER be possible.
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