I finally tried being sweet to my husband and found sweetness (and the absence of sweetness) to be more potent in affecting his mood than anything else I do.
Recently, my husband and I had an appointment, and he was running late. I finally called out in an irritated tone, “What’s the holdup?” By the time we were in the car, he was grumpy, and I thought “what can I do to change his mood?” Then I heard you in my head saying “Be sweet!”
So, I switched to a sincere, soft-spoken tone and we talked about other things. The transformation was striking. After the appointment, we went out to dinner, and he said “We needed this.” I’m confident that his feelings were a direct result of my being sweet.
I’ve done a lot of other things you recommend in “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands,” but none has had the same effectiveness as being sweet. Even sex pales in comparison to the power of sweetness. I am amazed at how simple this has been. And it hasn’t yet worn off, so I know now being sweet is not just a Band-Aid!
Jamie
I Discovered the Power of Being Sweet