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Email of the Day: I Found a Silver Lining in Betrayal

Written by Dr. Laura | 1/26/23 9:15 AM

My husband and I were close friends with a group of people throughout our early twenties. Eight months after we married, I got pregnant. We had agreed that I’d be a stay-at-home mom, but we weren’t expecting it so early in our marriage. We were a little overwhelmed and went to our friends for support. We got the complete opposite.

 

These “friends” always talked about how accepting people needed to be of different lifestyle choices, but instead, I was told how I was throwing away my college degree, losing my identity and they just couldn’t be friends with that. After our son was born, I saw those “friends” through lenses of pity rather than anger. I realized how hypocritical they were, because I was actually more accepting of different cultures, lifestyles and people than they pretended to be!

 

Your book “Surviving A Shark Attack on Land” helped me realize several things:

 

1) I knew what kind of people these friends were, yet I stayed friends with them before our pregnancy. I take full responsibility for that.

2) After their betrayal, I found new wonderful friends and through them, I found a fulfilling hobby I wouldn’t ever have thought about.

 

Your book helped me find that silver lining in betrayal, and it also helped me take some responsibility for my part in everything.

 

Dani

I Found a Silver Lining in Betrayal