When I was five, I had a great piece of advice given to me about marriage.
I broke my leg learning to snow ski, so my parents carried me up to the Sunday school room about a half hour before church so I could settle in before all the other kids arrived. My pastor came in, sat down to pray for me, and then stared at me for about a minute. Then he said “Darrin, a man’s greatest asset or deficit is the woman he marries.” He then gave me a hug, and went to greet more families.
At the time, since I was only five, I was not interested in girls, truly not looking at marriage, and did not know the meaning of the words deficit and asset. I was afraid to ask my mom about “asset,” as it sounded like a bad word!
I dated nine girls from high school through college – some great, some just out of selfish desire, but I never got serious because the pastor’s words always rang in my ears. My senior year in college, I felt called to be a Children’s Ministries Pastor. Looking back, none of those women I dated would have been able to put up with the hours, moves and salaries (or lack thereof). But my wife has. She felt called to be a missionary in her teen years. So MY advice (like yours) is to choose wisely!
Darrin
I Got Great Marriage Advice When I Was Five Years Old