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Email of the Day: I Knew I Couldn’t Be “Father of the Year” at Age 16

By Dr. Laura on April, 11 2022
Email of the Day: I Knew I Couldn’t Be “Father of the Year” at Age 16

When I was 16, I got my girlfriend pregnant. Neither one of us was ready for kids. I was raised in a religious household, so topics like birth control and using condoms weren’t discussed in my family. I desperately wanted to have sex to rebel against my parents and their old-fashioned values.


My girlfriend and I gave the baby up for adoption. It was a very hard decision, but I knew I couldn’t provide the life that my daughter needed. My girlfriend broke up with me before she even had the baby, because her parents were furious at what had happened. Sometimes, even if we have the best intentions, we need to think of what is in the best interest of the child. As much as I wanted to be “Father of the Year,” I knew at 16, I couldn’t do that.


Years later, when she turned 30, my daughter found me, and we met. When I explained the original situation and apologized to her, she made it clear she was very happy that I gave her the blessing of having a stable home with a mom and a dad instead of choosing abortion.


I often hear callers to your show in a similar predicament. I hope, with your prodding, that they seriously consider adoption, because a child is absolutely going to need a mother AND a father as she grows up.



I Knew I Couldn’t Be “Father of the Year” at Age 16



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